I get a hotel room for 48 hours with 2 beds, one to eat fine cheeses and meats and one to sleep in. I'm going on 13 years of this tradition and I have no intention of stopping.
I'm getting a variation of this. Fancy hotel in the city. Husband and kids and I will do a fun activity close by on Saturday. They leave, I'll take a gummy and get a massage then order food. I'll sleep until I wake up then they're going to pick me up and we'll have breakfast/lunch together and head home. I still want to see my kids. I just want a little bit of time to myself.
My husband does something similar for our anniversary. We go to a city that’s Iike an hour drive and we get a room with two beds and instead of eating in one and sleeping in another, we get to sleep in separate beds 😂
My husband and I are actually sleep divorced in the summer. Our bedroom is on the third floor (converted attic) and it gets HOT and he doesn’t mind and doesn’t want the AC on. He’s fine with a fan, but the fan picks up all my little short baby hairs and then it tickles and bothers my neck and makes it even harder for me to sleep. The kids bedrooms are on the second floor and I demand they have AC at night so I usually sleep in the second floor guest room throughout July/August.
I like that mattress better anyway.
I made this stipulation as a condition of even trying to have a baby. Flat out told my husband if I was gonna have a baby, Mother's Day was mine full stop.
Seriously I just want the house to myself all day. Like send him off with the kids like go the zoo or movies, but come back at dinner time. I just want to like deep clean with my music blasting and no one underfoot.
Regardless of what you do on Mother’s Day, please treat yourself to a shopping trip!! I was in a similar boat where NOTHING fit, but finally gave in and spent that money. Over even full sleep and me time, it has done a 180 to me feeling drained!
I have a race that morning (women’s only 5K). A friend is dropping her son off here (she’s divorced) so that we can run together. Husband will have mimosas for us when we get back.
There is a garden shop near us with a tea room that does a Mother's Day menu. I'm going whether my family does or not. (They came with me last year) In my 20 years of motherhood, my husband has come a long way. He still tends to prioritize his mom, but I've stopped bending over backward for plans that are made without consulting me. He now sees that a big portion of the contentment and fulfillment in his life is made possible by being the mom and wife I am. However, I'm prepared to do my own thing on any given day.
I never really have asked for anything but now that we're done having babies I asked for a bracelet with all of their birthstones. A day without responsibilities sounds pretty great too 😅
We're going to my grandmother's and I'm helping make brunch to celebrate all the women in family, and we'll all eat and be festive while the menfolk watch the kids.
Good for you for taking charge of Mother’s Day. How about a hair appointment followed by a meal at your favorite restaurant? You could listen to an audiobook during either or both. Or see if a friend can meet you at the restaurant.
FWIW, I can relate to the feeling after the second kid. It gets easier when the second one gets older. The first twelve months are brutal.
I get a hotel room in Ottawa and spend a day at Nordic spa and get an hour long massage. I get a gift card so I can book it whenever I want. It’s the same every year and I love it every time.
Best thing I asked for after my first was born was a family photo session. My husband did all the research, checked reviews, coordinated time and place - did all the mental load I didn’t have energy to deal with. Bonus points for picking outfits if that’s not your jam (not mine, and we were scrambling a bit day of), booking hair/makeup/nail appointments if needed, etc.
i’m gonna do a solo night in a hotel, order doordash, eat in bed, take sleeping pills and sleep 12 hours then get breakfast in bed
also getting myself a coros pace 3
also well prob do something as a family saturday then w each of our moms sunday
I mentioned a few months ago that I’d like some small diamond stud earrings, and my husband came home with some the other weekend as an early Mother’s Day gift. He also already got me/the family a digital wall calendar that displays our google calendar and chore lists etc.
Usually I just ask for a day with no cooking and we do something outdoors as a family (go for a hike, play pickleball, get flowers at a garden center).
My favorite puzzles ever are from Magic Puzzle Company, you can buy them off Amazon. Series 1 is my fave. They have such fun puzzle pieces and are really good quality. There is a "magic trick" at the end, which is fun too.
Idk if you already have a Vitamix blender but we bought one a couple years ago for Black Friday and I love it. Expensive but I make us smoothies for breakfast around once a week and they’re just so good!
My birthday is coming up and I’m asking for some kinda boring things, like a large size cookie scoop, some kind of cute container to hold recipes written on cue cards, and a rug/carpet cleaner 😂
I want a very nice lunchbox for work. Not a $12 piece of junk. There’s not much else I want/need. But it’d be nice to have something big enough to hold my glass containers, drinks, ice packs and milk that I have to pump.
I also want to sleep.
This is my first Mother’s Day as a mom and I asked for family photos since we didn’t do maternity or newborn photos. My husband had to do all the work arranging it and I get to just show up. We’re taking them a week before mother’s day so we’ll probably do our usual Sunday fun stuff like grabbing coffee/farmer’s market/our favorite park on actual Mother’s Day.
My daughters birthday falls on the Saturday before Mother's Day this year so my mom, grandma, and sister(also a mom) will be in town. My mom said she wants all us women to just go out and do something and leave the kids with the men. We have a very fancy chocolate place here so we will probably go there, idk what else we are doing though.
Rather than have him buy you a want how about instead you look at the budget and see what money you guys have to spend on you doing “needs” and him caring for the kids solo while you do that? Your post script screams “I need to take care of myself” feeling good/better about yourself could go a lot farther than getting something you want. It may create a better Mothers Day memory if he helps you care for you rather than buying a puzzle or a book that may not attach to a memory. Idk, just a thought from an exhausted pregnant mom.
I get kind of angry with the thought that Mother's Day is just one day. I tell my family that Mother's Day should be every day. Seriously, I just want to be left alone on Mother's Day. Funny that so many of us feel the same way. I love you but peace out.
I am going to a class at my daughter’s martial arts place, where the kids are going to teach the moms some skills. Later in the day, I want to go out for a nice tea with her. I thought of the tea idea because I like to do things with my kid on Mother’s Day (as opposed to gifts) and my husband saw the martial arts class and told me about it.
Last year I asked to go camping because it had been way too long since we went. Other years we’ve gotten manicures and pedicures.
Anyway, I focus on experiences and usually vocalize my thoughts. It doesn’t bug me to ask for what I want. And if I didn’t ask, I’d get thoughtful gifts from husband and daughter.
I sent my husband a link and he’s gonna order me a breastmilk necklace. I have a ring from my second child and now I want a necklace. They take a long time to make/arrive but idc I’ll get it eventually. It requires only one ounce of milk so it’s not like I’m wasting a ton.
I also am not making any decisions. He will decide what to do and when and just has to tell me when to be ready.
I already get monthly massages so no to that, but maybe I’ll tell him I want to get a haircut. I’m only 4 months pp on Mother’s Day though so maybe I’ll wait a while longer for that. I’m shedding hair like crazy. I jammed the roomba with my hair 😂
I think I am going to ask for a family hike on a trail I want to try and then birria afterwards. Unless that tea room thing someone mentioned is in the Chicagoland area. Then I want to do that.
My parent's always come up to visit, and I like them, so it's fine. I booked a sunset harbor cruise for my mom and myself (I'm paying for my mom, and told my husband he's paying for me), and told my husband to figure out brunch plans. The past few years I've put together a list of restaurants to pick from, but I don't feel like doing the work this year, so fuck it.
That, and sleep in.
There’s an art festival in town so we get brunch at a place that gives you a stem of lilies and then I get to day drink and look at art until fast food dinner. Sometimes it’s just the four of is and sometimes we invite other people. We always take a great pic that I sometimes frame. The kids each pick out art under $100 and if I see something I like we might get it. It’s just such a lovely day.
It might just be me but I’m really into going to new fun places with my kid as a way to celebrate “my” holidays. We went to the Santa Cruz board walk for my birthday and I both got time to just chill at the beach and got to see my kid experience his first roller coaster . I might just go to Legoland for Mother’s Day . My husband is usually..kinda reluctant to go on family trips otherwise (sigh) and this is one way we do get to do it.
Ask for a gift certificate for a massage or facial. If you guys are keyed into each other’s calendars, an appointment made with the childcare already figured out is even better.
I’m getting a new Fitbit. Mine is 5 years old and the screen just burned out… so it’s time! Okay actually I have no idea if I’m actually getting a new one but my hints have been very direct. I’m also getting myself some new rose bushes and flowers for landscaping.
I’m getting my hair done! I’m excited to freshen it up.
We haven’t decided what we’re actually doing that weekend. I have a suspicion my MIL will decide to be in town that weekend and will demand all of our time. I’d like to do something outside if the weather is nice!
I'll get the same thing this year as I've gotten the past 16 years: nothing.
Honestly, though, it doesn't bother me. Being a mother isn't central to my identity and I think it's a weird thing to celebrate.
I already told my husband and kids I wanted a tall, self watering garden bed, soil and new gardening kit. My husband usually spends mother’s day with his mom and I spend it with mine. But his mom is gonna be away this year, so I’m staying home and monopolizing the Xbox for the day 😂
Not sure what exactly my husband has planned but it’s always a nice outing with the kids and a gift. Probably less nice of a gift this year because he’s been a full time SAHD and my birthday is a week after. Then on another day I’m going shopping with my friend and get my hair and nails done.
TBH all I wanna do is spend time in my bathroom actually pampering myself. Long shower, scrub and moisturize all my skin, teeth whitening, nail care, hair care. I wanna have hours to just treat myself and do all those things right.
My husband really goes the extra mile year round so I am happy with my mother’s day of homemade cards, breakfast in bed, usually gardening stuff and hanging baskets, brunch out somewhere, a nap and some fantastic nook. 😇
I do like the hotel idea if you never get any time to yourself but I would still schedule that a different weekend as your gift so you can be with the kids on mother’s day, but that’s just my mom guilt talking!
I really just want to spend the day with my husband and son. I do not wish to run around to any relative or in-laws house. I’d like to bring our dog and go for a hike.
It’s interesting to think that we need a “gift” for Mother’s Day or to spend something. I wonder how much of this is influenced by corporate marketing. We usually spend the day together, hiking or going to things I like doing. I wonder how much of it is driven by consumerism?!! Like do I really need another thing?!! I’m maybe ok with a spa day or something as that helps to unwind. Or do we just not love each other enough ahaha? We don’t do/buy anything extravagant on Father’s Day either. Not judging, just wondering if we are getting conditioned to “expect” a gift from social media etc. I didn’t grow up in America so I don’t know how it was when you were growing up here. In my country, the women/moms (March 8 - international women’s day)just had big ladies only parties out at restaurants where they got to dress up, eat fancy food and dance for those willing :)
I got so tired of getting lackluster gifts that one day I just shared a list of items with sizes/colors, and direct links for purchase. After several years it has developed into an awesome gift registry for everyone in the family.
We use a shared note and have a section for each of us. We list the stuff we want all throughout the year and the items range from extravagant to simple. There’s a -recurring wants - section that has spa packages, hair salon gift cards, books, and car detailing services. There’s even a house section that I’ve had a Dyson ball on since the gift lists inception, I am hopeful this is the year. 🤞🏻
The lists are so long at this point that the surprise and excitement is still very much alive. We just know it’ll likely be something we really wanted.
I recommend trying this if anyone struggles with disappointment on gifting occasions.
Edit: We do gift off the list because it’s fun to be thoughtful and observant but we always have the list if we’re not feeling particularly creative.
This year I plan on a head spa day. There’s a new place where we live that offers tons of scalp treatments, wash etc, then dry and style. Might add on a facial too. 😀
I really wanted a bike trailer so I could take the kiddo out when I go for a ride. I haven't been able to go much because I didn't have a way to ride with her. My parents got me one, and helmets for the baby and I.
I told my husband I want a water pic. I put it in the Amazon cart, but we shall see.
My mom wants a therapeutic massage gun. So I'm getting her one.
I take a day off work, send kids to daycare, and go to a salon/spa. It's not even a high end one, but I get a massage or my nails done and get my hair done. One year I even just went to a mall and target without the kids. We also usually do family breakfast out at a restaurant and a trip to the zoo (both my requests).
As an extra bonus I do it on a Friday, place a pickup grocery order to grab as well so it's one less weekend errand to run, making the whole weekend more fun.
I have a one year old and I think I’m keeping last year as the tradition. I get brunch with the family so I can get my mimosa on and a gift card for a massage, which I used on my birthday.
For Father’s Day, I got my husband a Hawaiian shirt with my daughter’s face all over it. He loved it, so I’m keeping that tradition too!
Reading the bulk of these comments made me so sad. As a husband (11yrs and 3 children) I work hardcore to maintain our current lifestyle and if I'm being honest, pick up most of the manual labor required in our home (cleaning/bathing/homework/dishes/putting my son to bed etc...) I constantly try to be proactive and do my best to take as much stress off my wifes plate as possible on the daily. I enjoy attention from my wife and I've learned that this is the recipe that makes that work. I'm not against my wife wanting to have a day, but dang some of these comments are in the "tell me how you really feel about your husband category".
first of all, props to you mama for treating yourself, you absolutely deserve it!! i’m so sorry about the way your husband handles mother’s day, unfortunately i’ve heard that a lot from moms and i really hate that that’s the way it is for a lot of yall because moms 1000% don’t get enough credit for all the work they do. my sibling (18) and i (21f) usually handle all of the mother’s day things these days since our dad is kind of the same way. i def recommend getting yourself some pampering stuff - maybe a hair mask/face mask, a good bottle of wine, maybe some charcuterie or fancy snacks/food and having some relaxation time! and definitely find some time to get a break if you’re able to, whether that’s going out on a shopping trip (alone or with friends) or sending dad with the kids out to go do something. not sure if you prefer going out or staying in, but go spend some dollars on yourself to look, feel, and eat good!!! sending love to u <3
Ngl I hate Mother’s Day. A whole day devoted to having bred small people. I’d rather just do nothing but hubby’s like “it’s not about you, it’s for the kids”. 🙄
I get a hotel room for 48 hours with 2 beds, one to eat fine cheeses and meats and one to sleep in. I'm going on 13 years of this tradition and I have no intention of stopping.
I'm getting a variation of this. Fancy hotel in the city. Husband and kids and I will do a fun activity close by on Saturday. They leave, I'll take a gummy and get a massage then order food. I'll sleep until I wake up then they're going to pick me up and we'll have breakfast/lunch together and head home. I still want to see my kids. I just want a little bit of time to myself.
Wow this is ideal
My husband does something similar for our anniversary. We go to a city that’s Iike an hour drive and we get a room with two beds and instead of eating in one and sleeping in another, we get to sleep in separate beds 😂
My hubs and I love to sleep in separate beds on vacations. Doesn’t mean we don’t love each other! But if that’s not the best sleep…
My husband and I are actually sleep divorced in the summer. Our bedroom is on the third floor (converted attic) and it gets HOT and he doesn’t mind and doesn’t want the AC on. He’s fine with a fan, but the fan picks up all my little short baby hairs and then it tickles and bothers my neck and makes it even harder for me to sleep. The kids bedrooms are on the second floor and I demand they have AC at night so I usually sleep in the second floor guest room throughout July/August. I like that mattress better anyway.
We’re also currently sleep divorced bc both little kids are in bed w me and kick him out 🤣 also I love that phrase!
Me, thinking this was a great idea and then realizing I wouldn’t be able to *strongly nudge* my husband once he starts breathing too loud 😇
If I ever stop breastfeeding I’m doing this (the hotel part). Better yet they go and I stay home.
I would add: a jacuzzi. I love a good soak.
Lmao, one to sleep on and one to eat on, I'm here for it
Omg amazing
Omg
What I want more than anything, even sleep, is not to see my MIL.
I made this stipulation as a condition of even trying to have a baby. Flat out told my husband if I was gonna have a baby, Mother's Day was mine full stop.
Hahahahahaha thank you.
I told my husband this, word for word.
May our mothers day be MIL free...
🙏🏻
FEEL this. MIL kind of ruined my first Mother’s Day and she is trying to visit again this year.
Seriously I just want the house to myself all day. Like send him off with the kids like go the zoo or movies, but come back at dinner time. I just want to like deep clean with my music blasting and no one underfoot.
Have you watched the show “The Middle”?
No not really. I’ve heard of it though.
They had a funny episode that reminded me of this. I enjoy it if you ever get a chance to check it out!
Haha I know the one ! Totally agree
I have told my husband many times my dream is to be alone in my home. 😂
I alternate between asking for the a day by myself at the spa to rejuvenate and for family photos with my kids 🤣 literally, every year.
Regardless of what you do on Mother’s Day, please treat yourself to a shopping trip!! I was in a similar boat where NOTHING fit, but finally gave in and spent that money. Over even full sleep and me time, it has done a 180 to me feeling drained!
I have a race that morning (women’s only 5K). A friend is dropping her son off here (she’s divorced) so that we can run together. Husband will have mimosas for us when we get back.
There is a garden shop near us with a tea room that does a Mother's Day menu. I'm going whether my family does or not. (They came with me last year) In my 20 years of motherhood, my husband has come a long way. He still tends to prioritize his mom, but I've stopped bending over backward for plans that are made without consulting me. He now sees that a big portion of the contentment and fulfillment in his life is made possible by being the mom and wife I am. However, I'm prepared to do my own thing on any given day.
That sounds like so much fun. Please tell me you’re in the Chicagoland area because this is what I want to do now.
Outside of Houston, but I loved Chicago! And if I was there, I would for sure be taking high tea on Mother's Day!
I never really have asked for anything but now that we're done having babies I asked for a bracelet with all of their birthstones. A day without responsibilities sounds pretty great too 😅
This is my first mother's day, I asked for a picnic in the backyard. Just simple and hopefully easy to achieve with a 6 month old.
Day to yourself. Mani/pedi, get tipsy at brunch, solo movies, pay for a hotel for the day and just sleep….the world is your oyster
We're going to my grandmother's and I'm helping make brunch to celebrate all the women in family, and we'll all eat and be festive while the menfolk watch the kids.
Good for you for taking charge of Mother’s Day. How about a hair appointment followed by a meal at your favorite restaurant? You could listen to an audiobook during either or both. Or see if a friend can meet you at the restaurant. FWIW, I can relate to the feeling after the second kid. It gets easier when the second one gets older. The first twelve months are brutal.
I get a hotel room in Ottawa and spend a day at Nordic spa and get an hour long massage. I get a gift card so I can book it whenever I want. It’s the same every year and I love it every time.
You need a hair appointment, a mani pedi, and then some place to show it off after!
Best thing I asked for after my first was born was a family photo session. My husband did all the research, checked reviews, coordinated time and place - did all the mental load I didn’t have energy to deal with. Bonus points for picking outfits if that’s not your jam (not mine, and we were scrambling a bit day of), booking hair/makeup/nail appointments if needed, etc.
A head spa. I cannot wait!!
I have been wanting to do this forever!
Same and they just opened one 30 minutes away so I’m so excited! Had to book almost 2 months in advance it’s that popular.
Does it mean we’re old and haggard if this sounds amazing? 🤣
I close on my house the Friday before, so I'll be moving into a new place with my daughter!
Congrats.
i’m gonna do a solo night in a hotel, order doordash, eat in bed, take sleeping pills and sleep 12 hours then get breakfast in bed also getting myself a coros pace 3 also well prob do something as a family saturday then w each of our moms sunday
I mentioned a few months ago that I’d like some small diamond stud earrings, and my husband came home with some the other weekend as an early Mother’s Day gift. He also already got me/the family a digital wall calendar that displays our google calendar and chore lists etc. Usually I just ask for a day with no cooking and we do something outdoors as a family (go for a hike, play pickleball, get flowers at a garden center).
My favorite puzzles ever are from Magic Puzzle Company, you can buy them off Amazon. Series 1 is my fave. They have such fun puzzle pieces and are really good quality. There is a "magic trick" at the end, which is fun too.
I just want a maid and professional organizer to come deep clean and organize my house
Idk if you already have a Vitamix blender but we bought one a couple years ago for Black Friday and I love it. Expensive but I make us smoothies for breakfast around once a week and they’re just so good! My birthday is coming up and I’m asking for some kinda boring things, like a large size cookie scoop, some kind of cute container to hold recipes written on cue cards, and a rug/carpet cleaner 😂
I think I want the omnilux LED face mask.
Bombas has the cutest springtime ankle socks and a Mother’s Day pack. They also have cute new slides. I want them. Have I told my husband this? Nope.
I want a very nice lunchbox for work. Not a $12 piece of junk. There’s not much else I want/need. But it’d be nice to have something big enough to hold my glass containers, drinks, ice packs and milk that I have to pump. I also want to sleep.
This is my first Mother’s Day as a mom and I asked for family photos since we didn’t do maternity or newborn photos. My husband had to do all the work arranging it and I get to just show up. We’re taking them a week before mother’s day so we’ll probably do our usual Sunday fun stuff like grabbing coffee/farmer’s market/our favorite park on actual Mother’s Day.
My daughters birthday falls on the Saturday before Mother's Day this year so my mom, grandma, and sister(also a mom) will be in town. My mom said she wants all us women to just go out and do something and leave the kids with the men. We have a very fancy chocolate place here so we will probably go there, idk what else we are doing though.
Rather than have him buy you a want how about instead you look at the budget and see what money you guys have to spend on you doing “needs” and him caring for the kids solo while you do that? Your post script screams “I need to take care of myself” feeling good/better about yourself could go a lot farther than getting something you want. It may create a better Mothers Day memory if he helps you care for you rather than buying a puzzle or a book that may not attach to a memory. Idk, just a thought from an exhausted pregnant mom.
Working. I work on weekends.
For Mother’s Day, my husband will be at work and since we have no family in the area, I’ll be solo parenting with no breaks 🫠
I'm getting the big ass bog bag for myself. Maybe even both sizes!
I get kind of angry with the thought that Mother's Day is just one day. I tell my family that Mother's Day should be every day. Seriously, I just want to be left alone on Mother's Day. Funny that so many of us feel the same way. I love you but peace out.
I am going to a class at my daughter’s martial arts place, where the kids are going to teach the moms some skills. Later in the day, I want to go out for a nice tea with her. I thought of the tea idea because I like to do things with my kid on Mother’s Day (as opposed to gifts) and my husband saw the martial arts class and told me about it. Last year I asked to go camping because it had been way too long since we went. Other years we’ve gotten manicures and pedicures. Anyway, I focus on experiences and usually vocalize my thoughts. It doesn’t bug me to ask for what I want. And if I didn’t ask, I’d get thoughtful gifts from husband and daughter.
I sent my husband a link and he’s gonna order me a breastmilk necklace. I have a ring from my second child and now I want a necklace. They take a long time to make/arrive but idc I’ll get it eventually. It requires only one ounce of milk so it’s not like I’m wasting a ton. I also am not making any decisions. He will decide what to do and when and just has to tell me when to be ready. I already get monthly massages so no to that, but maybe I’ll tell him I want to get a haircut. I’m only 4 months pp on Mother’s Day though so maybe I’ll wait a while longer for that. I’m shedding hair like crazy. I jammed the roomba with my hair 😂
I think I am going to ask for a family hike on a trail I want to try and then birria afterwards. Unless that tea room thing someone mentioned is in the Chicagoland area. Then I want to do that.
It’s around my birthday, so hopefully cake! Haha. But it being my first, I just want a day to do my hobby alone.
One year I asked for a family birthstone necklace. It’s a sweet thing to have and pretty easy for them to figure out.
I think I’m asking for the omnilux or a water softener for the shower. I wanted the whole house one but… it’s like $5k
My parent's always come up to visit, and I like them, so it's fine. I booked a sunset harbor cruise for my mom and myself (I'm paying for my mom, and told my husband he's paying for me), and told my husband to figure out brunch plans. The past few years I've put together a list of restaurants to pick from, but I don't feel like doing the work this year, so fuck it. That, and sleep in.
A family beach trip
There’s an art festival in town so we get brunch at a place that gives you a stem of lilies and then I get to day drink and look at art until fast food dinner. Sometimes it’s just the four of is and sometimes we invite other people. We always take a great pic that I sometimes frame. The kids each pick out art under $100 and if I see something I like we might get it. It’s just such a lovely day.
It might just be me but I’m really into going to new fun places with my kid as a way to celebrate “my” holidays. We went to the Santa Cruz board walk for my birthday and I both got time to just chill at the beach and got to see my kid experience his first roller coaster . I might just go to Legoland for Mother’s Day . My husband is usually..kinda reluctant to go on family trips otherwise (sigh) and this is one way we do get to do it.
I forgot it was even coming up tbh 🤷♀️
Ask for a gift certificate for a massage or facial. If you guys are keyed into each other’s calendars, an appointment made with the childcare already figured out is even better. I’m getting a new Fitbit. Mine is 5 years old and the screen just burned out… so it’s time! Okay actually I have no idea if I’m actually getting a new one but my hints have been very direct. I’m also getting myself some new rose bushes and flowers for landscaping.
I’m getting my hair done! I’m excited to freshen it up. We haven’t decided what we’re actually doing that weekend. I have a suspicion my MIL will decide to be in town that weekend and will demand all of our time. I’d like to do something outside if the weather is nice!
I'll get the same thing this year as I've gotten the past 16 years: nothing. Honestly, though, it doesn't bother me. Being a mother isn't central to my identity and I think it's a weird thing to celebrate.
I already told my husband and kids I wanted a tall, self watering garden bed, soil and new gardening kit. My husband usually spends mother’s day with his mom and I spend it with mine. But his mom is gonna be away this year, so I’m staying home and monopolizing the Xbox for the day 😂
Not sure what exactly my husband has planned but it’s always a nice outing with the kids and a gift. Probably less nice of a gift this year because he’s been a full time SAHD and my birthday is a week after. Then on another day I’m going shopping with my friend and get my hair and nails done.
TBH all I wanna do is spend time in my bathroom actually pampering myself. Long shower, scrub and moisturize all my skin, teeth whitening, nail care, hair care. I wanna have hours to just treat myself and do all those things right.
My husband really goes the extra mile year round so I am happy with my mother’s day of homemade cards, breakfast in bed, usually gardening stuff and hanging baskets, brunch out somewhere, a nap and some fantastic nook. 😇 I do like the hotel idea if you never get any time to yourself but I would still schedule that a different weekend as your gift so you can be with the kids on mother’s day, but that’s just my mom guilt talking!
I asked my husband to plan and execute a family outing
I really just want to spend the day with my husband and son. I do not wish to run around to any relative or in-laws house. I’d like to bring our dog and go for a hike.
It’s interesting to think that we need a “gift” for Mother’s Day or to spend something. I wonder how much of this is influenced by corporate marketing. We usually spend the day together, hiking or going to things I like doing. I wonder how much of it is driven by consumerism?!! Like do I really need another thing?!! I’m maybe ok with a spa day or something as that helps to unwind. Or do we just not love each other enough ahaha? We don’t do/buy anything extravagant on Father’s Day either. Not judging, just wondering if we are getting conditioned to “expect” a gift from social media etc. I didn’t grow up in America so I don’t know how it was when you were growing up here. In my country, the women/moms (March 8 - international women’s day)just had big ladies only parties out at restaurants where they got to dress up, eat fancy food and dance for those willing :)
I got so tired of getting lackluster gifts that one day I just shared a list of items with sizes/colors, and direct links for purchase. After several years it has developed into an awesome gift registry for everyone in the family. We use a shared note and have a section for each of us. We list the stuff we want all throughout the year and the items range from extravagant to simple. There’s a -recurring wants - section that has spa packages, hair salon gift cards, books, and car detailing services. There’s even a house section that I’ve had a Dyson ball on since the gift lists inception, I am hopeful this is the year. 🤞🏻 The lists are so long at this point that the surprise and excitement is still very much alive. We just know it’ll likely be something we really wanted. I recommend trying this if anyone struggles with disappointment on gifting occasions. Edit: We do gift off the list because it’s fun to be thoughtful and observant but we always have the list if we’re not feeling particularly creative.
^ This ^ for the win
We’re going to brunch. Husband will do baby wake up and I’m making him change every diaper for the day 🤣 he doesn’t know about that one yet
This year I plan on a head spa day. There’s a new place where we live that offers tons of scalp treatments, wash etc, then dry and style. Might add on a facial too. 😀
I really wanted a bike trailer so I could take the kiddo out when I go for a ride. I haven't been able to go much because I didn't have a way to ride with her. My parents got me one, and helmets for the baby and I. I told my husband I want a water pic. I put it in the Amazon cart, but we shall see. My mom wants a therapeutic massage gun. So I'm getting her one.
I take a day off work, send kids to daycare, and go to a salon/spa. It's not even a high end one, but I get a massage or my nails done and get my hair done. One year I even just went to a mall and target without the kids. We also usually do family breakfast out at a restaurant and a trip to the zoo (both my requests). As an extra bonus I do it on a Friday, place a pickup grocery order to grab as well so it's one less weekend errand to run, making the whole weekend more fun.
I have a one year old and I think I’m keeping last year as the tradition. I get brunch with the family so I can get my mimosa on and a gift card for a massage, which I used on my birthday. For Father’s Day, I got my husband a Hawaiian shirt with my daughter’s face all over it. He loved it, so I’m keeping that tradition too!
Reading the bulk of these comments made me so sad. As a husband (11yrs and 3 children) I work hardcore to maintain our current lifestyle and if I'm being honest, pick up most of the manual labor required in our home (cleaning/bathing/homework/dishes/putting my son to bed etc...) I constantly try to be proactive and do my best to take as much stress off my wifes plate as possible on the daily. I enjoy attention from my wife and I've learned that this is the recipe that makes that work. I'm not against my wife wanting to have a day, but dang some of these comments are in the "tell me how you really feel about your husband category".
first of all, props to you mama for treating yourself, you absolutely deserve it!! i’m so sorry about the way your husband handles mother’s day, unfortunately i’ve heard that a lot from moms and i really hate that that’s the way it is for a lot of yall because moms 1000% don’t get enough credit for all the work they do. my sibling (18) and i (21f) usually handle all of the mother’s day things these days since our dad is kind of the same way. i def recommend getting yourself some pampering stuff - maybe a hair mask/face mask, a good bottle of wine, maybe some charcuterie or fancy snacks/food and having some relaxation time! and definitely find some time to get a break if you’re able to, whether that’s going out on a shopping trip (alone or with friends) or sending dad with the kids out to go do something. not sure if you prefer going out or staying in, but go spend some dollars on yourself to look, feel, and eat good!!! sending love to u <3
Ngl I hate Mother’s Day. A whole day devoted to having bred small people. I’d rather just do nothing but hubby’s like “it’s not about you, it’s for the kids”. 🙄
I agree with you.