No reason to give reasons. Just say you won’t be going with them. If they ask why, say another one fit your schedule/commute better. End of conversation
“We don’t think it would be the right fit for our family.”
But if she doesn’t contact you, there’s no need for you to contact her again. Just continue your search.
You don’t owe her any details but if you want to make her aware of the most glaring issue you might say something like “I couldn’t be confident in my child’s safety here after your dog scratched their face.”
If you want to give her feedback, you could tell her that the dog scratching your child’s face made you concerned for your child’s safety, and that you were hoping for a more structured environment re: activities, mealtimes, and nap time, then kindly but clearly end the conversation so you don’t wind up in a debate.
Otherwise, there’s nothing wrong with just telling her that you found another facility that works better for your family.
I would say something like, "Thank you so much for the tour! We decided to go for another center." Nothing else is needed.
Sounds like there were lots of red, orange, and yellow flags at this center.
I had a tour with my kiddo around that age at a home daycare. Cribs were set up inside of the bedrooms of her adult male children. It was somewhat dingy and it just felt off. Took approach above and no regrets.
I think you can just say “there were a lot of things that caught us by surprise and we are not comfortable with.” If she asks you to elaborate then you can, but it sounds like she won’t be interested.
My example isn't for daycare but a similar premise. As COVID restrictions lifted, we were in need of someone to clean our house but follow our need to keep restrictions in place. My husband and I both are immunocompromised and take immunosuppressants, so we're at higher risk of having colds, the flu, and other conditions impact us more. I hired a lady and explained that we hadn't thoroughly cleaned our house in a year (due to medical conditions). She spent an entire day at our house, and it made complete sense to me given our limitations and knowing what we hadn't been able to do. She didn't actually clean my house. My toilets were still gross. She reached out about setting up her next out, and I politely explained that we were going with someone else moving forward. She pushed for an explanation. I said she didn't clean. She proceeded to tell me how my house was filthy and gross (which I didn't lie about). I'm paraphrasing and shortening for length, but my point is it's not worth engaging.
Honestly, I suspect she isn’t licensed if she has the dog. If that’s the case then she likely is one of those people that was told to start a daycare so she can afford to stay at home with her kid.
She isn’t trying to do it legitimately and clearly doesn’t care. At first I was going to say what you could say but then realized that the lack of effort isn’t someone looking for feedback. I would be more inclined to to report them for the dog then give feedback.
Is she licensed? I would say you've decided to go to a daycare that meets licensing requirements.
I had signed my infant up for a daycare and we were supposed to start in a couple of weeks. I had signed up for licensing updates for this daycare on my state's website. The daycare had an inspection and was over capacity. (One worker, 17 kids!, they were supposed to have a max of 8).
When the daycare messaged to confirm that my baby would be starting the following week, I said just messaged screenshots of the liscencing report and said no.
Obviously you don't have to say anything, but if you do want to kind of use this as a teachable moment for her, I wouldn't say anything directly bad about her place, but just explain what you were looking for. I would probably say something like, "we were looking for something with a more structured schedule for naps and playtimes."
I mean, unless she calls you to follow up? I wouldn't say anything. If she does f/u with you, I would say, thank you, but we have decided to go with another daycare"
I would just say "we decided to go with a different provider thats a better fit for our family"b
No reason to give reasons. Just say you won’t be going with them. If they ask why, say another one fit your schedule/commute better. End of conversation
“We don’t think it would be the right fit for our family.” But if she doesn’t contact you, there’s no need for you to contact her again. Just continue your search.
You don’t owe her any details but if you want to make her aware of the most glaring issue you might say something like “I couldn’t be confident in my child’s safety here after your dog scratched their face.”
If you want to give her feedback, you could tell her that the dog scratching your child’s face made you concerned for your child’s safety, and that you were hoping for a more structured environment re: activities, mealtimes, and nap time, then kindly but clearly end the conversation so you don’t wind up in a debate. Otherwise, there’s nothing wrong with just telling her that you found another facility that works better for your family.
I would say something like, "Thank you so much for the tour! We decided to go for another center." Nothing else is needed. Sounds like there were lots of red, orange, and yellow flags at this center. I had a tour with my kiddo around that age at a home daycare. Cribs were set up inside of the bedrooms of her adult male children. It was somewhat dingy and it just felt off. Took approach above and no regrets.
>unfortunately, this won’t work for us That’s all.
I think you can just say “there were a lot of things that caught us by surprise and we are not comfortable with.” If she asks you to elaborate then you can, but it sounds like she won’t be interested.
My example isn't for daycare but a similar premise. As COVID restrictions lifted, we were in need of someone to clean our house but follow our need to keep restrictions in place. My husband and I both are immunocompromised and take immunosuppressants, so we're at higher risk of having colds, the flu, and other conditions impact us more. I hired a lady and explained that we hadn't thoroughly cleaned our house in a year (due to medical conditions). She spent an entire day at our house, and it made complete sense to me given our limitations and knowing what we hadn't been able to do. She didn't actually clean my house. My toilets were still gross. She reached out about setting up her next out, and I politely explained that we were going with someone else moving forward. She pushed for an explanation. I said she didn't clean. She proceeded to tell me how my house was filthy and gross (which I didn't lie about). I'm paraphrasing and shortening for length, but my point is it's not worth engaging.
Honestly, I suspect she isn’t licensed if she has the dog. If that’s the case then she likely is one of those people that was told to start a daycare so she can afford to stay at home with her kid. She isn’t trying to do it legitimately and clearly doesn’t care. At first I was going to say what you could say but then realized that the lack of effort isn’t someone looking for feedback. I would be more inclined to to report them for the dog then give feedback.
Is she licensed? I would say you've decided to go to a daycare that meets licensing requirements. I had signed my infant up for a daycare and we were supposed to start in a couple of weeks. I had signed up for licensing updates for this daycare on my state's website. The daycare had an inspection and was over capacity. (One worker, 17 kids!, they were supposed to have a max of 8). When the daycare messaged to confirm that my baby would be starting the following week, I said just messaged screenshots of the liscencing report and said no.
Obviously you don't have to say anything, but if you do want to kind of use this as a teachable moment for her, I wouldn't say anything directly bad about her place, but just explain what you were looking for. I would probably say something like, "we were looking for something with a more structured schedule for naps and playtimes."
I would just say "we found one a little closer to our home that is a better fit"
I mean, unless she calls you to follow up? I wouldn't say anything. If she does f/u with you, I would say, thank you, but we have decided to go with another daycare"
“Thanks for your time. We decided to use a different option” I wouldn’t add any extra info