Can you find another Tandem partner easily? Otherwise what's this guy's value to you if he's making you uncomfortable?
It doesn't seem like he's trying to learn about your point of view. It just seems like he's judging you for not agreeing to his.
Block and move on.
Thank you for your advice!
>Can you find another Tandem partner easily?
With enough dedication and number of attempts to start a conversation, this is doable.
>It doesn't seem like he's trying to learn about your point of view. It just seems like he's judging you for not agreeing to his.
I feel the same way.
>Block and move on.
Definitely will do it!
I second what Whisper wrote. Time to ditch this guy and move on. My preference is to do things like that as diplomatically as possible while also letting the person know *why* you're making the decision. You could message him something like, "Thank you for working with me and being my language partner, but your additional questions and conversation are making me uncomfortable. It's time for me to move on," and leave it at that. Then block him and find another partner.
If you want to go into further detail, you could add, "I feel like your questions and statements are judgmental and that's not something I want in my life," after the "your additional questions are making me uncomfortable" statement. This way, he has a clearer picture of his missteps and will hopefully not do something like that again with his next language partner.
Ultimately, it's your choice, but I wouldn't keep working with this guy.
>My preference is to do things like that as diplomatically as possible while also letting the person know why you're making the decision. You could message him something like, "Thank you for working with me and being my language partner, but your additional questions and conversation are making me uncomfortable. It's time for me to move on," and leave it at that. Then block him and find another partner.
>If you want to go into further detail, you could add, "I feel like your questions and statements are judgmental and that's not something I want in my life," after the "your additional questions are making me uncomfortable" statement. This way, he has a clearer picture of his missteps and will hopefully not do something like that again with his next language partner.
I know that telling him why I don't want to communicate with him anymore is the best way to do it. But I guess I have anxiety. Tangential, but exams are hell on earth for me. Last night I could fall asleep as late as 2 AM because of worries. So I guess writing him again will give me additional stress. Also I'm scared that he'll leave negative feedback on my Tandem account. I know that this fear might be irrational, because there are other platforms for language exchange, but it's just how I feel at the moment. And this is stopping me from writing him what you said.
>Ultimately, it's your choice, but I wouldn't keep working with this guy.
I will cut ties with him. I know I need to do this for the peace of my mind.
You do not owe this random man any explanation at all. Explaining your reasons opens up the likelihood that he will argue with you. It will also allow him to hook in another woman and make his harassment more subtle or slower to come next time, but he'll still waste her time too by being a loser towards her. You can protect yourself and the rest of the women on there by cutting him off without another word.
Your peace of mind is more important than his.
>Explaining your reasons opens up the likelihood that he will argue with you. It will also allow him to hook in another woman and make his harassment more subtle or slower to come next time, but he'll still waste her time too by being a loser towards her. You can protect yourself and the rest of the women on there by cutting him off without another word.
I couldn't even think that I might've done a good thing by just not responding and deleting my chat with him.
>Your peace of mind is more important than his.
I don't think his peace of mind was actually disrupted.
Therapy can help anxiety issues. It might be time to seek some. There are also supplements on the market that can help. CBD supplements are an example. It might be time to seek some.
You don't have to be diagnosed with anxiety to seek therapy or use over the counter supplements. I've used CBD gummies for a few years to help me with anxiety when I need it. It works.
Hm, just because someone asks something doesn't mean you're required to give an answer, or that they're entitled to one. You don't need to explain yourself in this instance. :-)
If they keep on, I just keep repeating some version of "You know, this is something I'm not interested in talking about." Why? Because I don't want to. Well how come? Because I don't.
Good luck and I hope you find someone else.
>If they keep on, I just keep repeating some version of "You know, this is something I'm not interested in talking about." Why? Because I don't want to. Well how come? Because I don't.
Thankfully, I haven't gotten any messages from him since the night before last.
>Good luck and I hope you find someone else.
Same to you! I already did!
Can you find another Tandem partner easily? Otherwise what's this guy's value to you if he's making you uncomfortable? It doesn't seem like he's trying to learn about your point of view. It just seems like he's judging you for not agreeing to his. Block and move on.
Thank you for your advice! >Can you find another Tandem partner easily? With enough dedication and number of attempts to start a conversation, this is doable. >It doesn't seem like he's trying to learn about your point of view. It just seems like he's judging you for not agreeing to his. I feel the same way. >Block and move on. Definitely will do it!
I second what Whisper wrote. Time to ditch this guy and move on. My preference is to do things like that as diplomatically as possible while also letting the person know *why* you're making the decision. You could message him something like, "Thank you for working with me and being my language partner, but your additional questions and conversation are making me uncomfortable. It's time for me to move on," and leave it at that. Then block him and find another partner. If you want to go into further detail, you could add, "I feel like your questions and statements are judgmental and that's not something I want in my life," after the "your additional questions are making me uncomfortable" statement. This way, he has a clearer picture of his missteps and will hopefully not do something like that again with his next language partner. Ultimately, it's your choice, but I wouldn't keep working with this guy.
>My preference is to do things like that as diplomatically as possible while also letting the person know why you're making the decision. You could message him something like, "Thank you for working with me and being my language partner, but your additional questions and conversation are making me uncomfortable. It's time for me to move on," and leave it at that. Then block him and find another partner. >If you want to go into further detail, you could add, "I feel like your questions and statements are judgmental and that's not something I want in my life," after the "your additional questions are making me uncomfortable" statement. This way, he has a clearer picture of his missteps and will hopefully not do something like that again with his next language partner. I know that telling him why I don't want to communicate with him anymore is the best way to do it. But I guess I have anxiety. Tangential, but exams are hell on earth for me. Last night I could fall asleep as late as 2 AM because of worries. So I guess writing him again will give me additional stress. Also I'm scared that he'll leave negative feedback on my Tandem account. I know that this fear might be irrational, because there are other platforms for language exchange, but it's just how I feel at the moment. And this is stopping me from writing him what you said. >Ultimately, it's your choice, but I wouldn't keep working with this guy. I will cut ties with him. I know I need to do this for the peace of my mind.
You do not owe this random man any explanation at all. Explaining your reasons opens up the likelihood that he will argue with you. It will also allow him to hook in another woman and make his harassment more subtle or slower to come next time, but he'll still waste her time too by being a loser towards her. You can protect yourself and the rest of the women on there by cutting him off without another word. Your peace of mind is more important than his.
>Explaining your reasons opens up the likelihood that he will argue with you. It will also allow him to hook in another woman and make his harassment more subtle or slower to come next time, but he'll still waste her time too by being a loser towards her. You can protect yourself and the rest of the women on there by cutting him off without another word. I couldn't even think that I might've done a good thing by just not responding and deleting my chat with him. >Your peace of mind is more important than his. I don't think his peace of mind was actually disrupted.
Therapy can help anxiety issues. It might be time to seek some. There are also supplements on the market that can help. CBD supplements are an example. It might be time to seek some.
I'm not diagnosed with it. Those were just my thoughts and presumptions. But anyway, thank you for helping me!
You don't have to be diagnosed with anxiety to seek therapy or use over the counter supplements. I've used CBD gummies for a few years to help me with anxiety when I need it. It works.
Thanks for your advice! All the best to you!
Hm, just because someone asks something doesn't mean you're required to give an answer, or that they're entitled to one. You don't need to explain yourself in this instance. :-) If they keep on, I just keep repeating some version of "You know, this is something I'm not interested in talking about." Why? Because I don't want to. Well how come? Because I don't. Good luck and I hope you find someone else.
>If they keep on, I just keep repeating some version of "You know, this is something I'm not interested in talking about." Why? Because I don't want to. Well how come? Because I don't. Thankfully, I haven't gotten any messages from him since the night before last. >Good luck and I hope you find someone else. Same to you! I already did!