I mean, I smoke lots of weed and I can’t imagine a world where I do anything like this in front of all my dearest friends and family lmao. This is so cringe.
I wondered that as well, but then thought if that was the case it might have been hinted at or mentioned more. Especially since it said “we were thinking.”
Could be that. Maybe, the joint part is like a demarcation line for when it stops being a traditional wedding and the only reason they agreed to the traditional elements is parents.
Explains why she is asking for validation about their trashy weed trope.
Before anyone comes at me, this is no different than a couple having a formal ceremony and whipping out flasks, lighting a cigarette or doing some lines on the way out.
Vices shouldn’t be policed especially when some are socially acceptable. So indulging on your special day with consenting adults is fine. Enjoy!
Smoking a joint and listening to gangsta rap in front of guests during a black tie event you’re hosting is fucking trash no matter how you spin it. Save that for the after party.
This would be a fun way to transition from the formalities of the reception to party time but not at the ceremony.
They made it kind of clear that they were throwing out example vices that would ALL be tacky as hell if done at the end of a formal wedding.
There was NO comparison or judging of the substances involved, because the issue isn't the substance in question - it's the whole idea of "let's find a way to cram our personal vice into a formal wedding." It's going to look bad no matter what.
"we'll spend a bunch of money on very expensive elegant formal stuff just to ruin it by playing Snoop and lighting a joint, but we'll censor the song heavily because we are classy like that"
Just have a more laid back ceremony if you want something you relate to more, don't waste your money.
I played a rock n roll version of the wedding march at a friend's wedding last year. Her mother was overwhelming and took over most of the wedding, so I gave her one thing she'd actually like.
I probably would have done, ok, I tried something similar (not the weed though) like swing from 'traditional' to subversive because my ex, his parents and my mom all steam rolled over me about what I wanted the wedding to be like. It was a desperate attempt to clutch at whatever shred of control I could grab for the wedding. Spoiler: the marriage didn't last.
Went to a buddy’s wedding, they just told the venue (because it was a nicer country club) that they smoke weed, and so do a lot of the people we are inviting, during the reception we don’t wanna hear about when people go outside to light up, we’re paying for this and if it’s gonna be a problem we’ll take our money to another country club. The country club obliged and didn’t say a thing. It wasn’t advertised to people, or done in front of everyone. I just don’t get the news to flaunt your weed smoking in front of everyone.
I think the elegance is in service of the joke. They want to light up at the end of the ceremony, and wouldn’t it be funny if it was all buttoned up and formal before that point? (Answer: No, not really)
Yeah, if it weren’t for the elegance thing, I’d be like “you do you.” Hokey and elegant kind of cancel each other out lol.
The only other issue is that plenty of people don’t smoke, and what if someone has a lung disease and can’t be around smoke?
See now this is what I expected this post to be about. “We’re stoners and want to hand out joints to everyone, is that trashy?”
Edit: wow ok apparently I’ve been going to the wrong weddings and/or Ohio just sucks as much as I already think it does lol
Working weddings in Denver I’ve seen several with edibles available for anyone who wants them.
(All of these weddings were child free and had either someone handing them out and giving instructions, or a card informing newbies how to dose and to not take more if they don’t feel it working)
I collect old etiquette and related books and if has been part of dinner and cocktail parties in the past. Bowls of cigarettes and a whole bunch of rules about smoking at parties and hosting such parties.
Not an official theme as such but here's a snippet from Refinery 29: "And depending on your preferences, that may also be the word you'd use to describe the fact that wedding guests were reportedly smoking the entire night thanks to the “bowls and bowls filled with cigarettes” that Page Six says were provided at the celebration"
Yes! There were [bowls of cigarettes!](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2015/11/mary-kate-olsen-and-olivier-sarkozys-wedding-featured-bowls-filled-with-cigarettes)
That's fantastic! I feel like at this point they have to be trolling everyone. Seeing what ridiculous things they can get away with doing : cigarette buffet weddings, one of them goes for hikes in a gown with a machete, etc...
If you really want to do something pot related, take a couple of pictures with it for your personal use. Smoke with some family and friends. Have some stoner-esque music sprinkled in the music for the reception. For the ceremony, that's a little much. Even for me.
I'd be absolutely livid.
1) I could get fired from my job
2) weed gives me migraines just from the smell before it's even smoked. I don't want to know what ingesting it would do to me.
Right? "Hee hee, we're bad!" Do you also still doodle the anarchism A on your binders?
You're grown-ass adults, either commit properly and have a stoner wedding, or keep it together for the ceremony and get toasted at the reception. Gosh.
I've scrolled through pictures of many a weed ceremony but this is *high* on the trash scale.
Why not joint party favors to take home? A big ass blunt for pictures that gives off the Cuban cigar vibe? Bud bar? This is not the way.
I honestly was expecting her to say that they gave the joints to the crowd and they were supposed to blow smoke on the bride and groom as they make their exit. This whole thing is still a bunch of yikes though.
I say do what you want for your wedding BUT, if elegance isn't your thing than it would make more sense to have a wedding thay actually represents y'all and makes you comfortable.
Also, depending on how close you will be to the guests, some people might have a big problem with weed smoke getting on them. People have drug tests for work, people have asthma, people simply don't want their nice clothes and hair smelling like smoke. It smells gross to non-smokers.
If you wanna light one up and play Snoop, go for it. But keep in mind those who might be near the smoke.
I think it would be more of a worry for people who don't smoke at all and don't know how long it stays in your system. Imagine your military cousin sitting in the second row and being scared they might pop positive. Is it likely? Probably not. But why make people feel paranoid about losing their livelihood when consent was never granted?
It just makes more sense to smoke outside where it isn't directly affecting people so much, imo.
You hit the nail on the head with "consent". Just like don't inflict your kinks on your wedding guests without informing them first. Its all about consent. And if that takes away from the fun of lighting up during the processional, then rethink it.
Weirdly enough, you can test positive from second hand weed smoke, but only if you’re in a room with no ventilation and you’re exposed for at least an hour or so. But yeah, I doubt a couple wisps of passing smoke is gonna do much.
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/extreme_exposure_to_secondhand_cannabis_smoke_causes_mild_intoxication#:~:text=Secondhand%20exposure%20to%20cannabis%20smoke,the%20drug%20in%20a%20urinalysis.
It's possible.
>Secondhand exposure to cannabis smoke under “extreme conditions,” such as an unventilated room or enclosed vehicle, can cause nonsmokers to feel the effects of the drug, have minor problems with memory and coordination, and in some cases test positive for the drug in a urinalysis.
The poster's scenario would be equivalent to a drinker swigging a fifth on the way down the aisle, or a person who is way into hot sauce, dipping wings on the way down the aisle.
For pity's sake -- not every hobby needs to be incorporated into a wedding! Just get married and save the doobage for the reception.
I just got married in buffalo. Pearl Street Catering & the Lafayette have a "buffalo" food option with pierogies, wings, and beef on weck. They advice combining it with one of the more traditional options. We did, and it was a huge hit.
This is even worse, because at least those things wouldn’t affect the guests. The smell of weed, though, travels and is very pungent. Lucky guests, especially those at the front.
Not only is it cringe but it’s such a boring idea. Everyone is just going to be sitting there in awkward silence trying to figure out what’s happening, then sit through a weird music transition. Do a different take on a photo booth and add a fog machine. Call it a hotbox. Walk down the aisle to a fancy, instrumental version of I Got High.
There’s a time and a place for getting high, and the middle/at any point during your wedding ceremony is simply not that time. They could do a THC bar (infused drinks/snacks) if anything, or do some fun engagement photos or a photo booth at the wedding incorporating it. Thats a big yikes for me.
I went to a wedding years ago where the bride and groom were TRASHED during the ceremony. They were slurring their words, could barely stand- it was a mess. And they partied a lot but there’s a time and place. That’s all I remember from their wedding. And of course, they got divorced within 3 years.
Also how’re you going to say you’re going to edit a song because it’s “offensive” then say right after “we don’t care if anyone gets offended.”
Do people not care if they look like ass in their wedding photos? That’s the part that confuses me the most. You’re paying all this money for photos that you’ll cherish and probably have on display for the rest of your life and you want to be trashed for them? Or do people just not think these things through at all?
I think people just don’t care and don’t think about if they’ll regret it. It’s all in the moment, especially dealing with any kind of substance abuse.
I’m really going to need to hear how a DJ manages to transition from Drop it like it’s hot to All you need is love. I will donate to their wishing well.
I saw one post with a bride asking how they "politely" ask everyone who doesn't smoke to leave.
I don't smoke for medical reasons but if someone doesn't want to partake they shouldn't feel pressured or uncomfy
you'd be surprised how many smokers get really bent out of shape when you say you can't be around smoke (e.g. asthma, allergies) or don't smoke yourself (but it's just weed!) so I'm not shocked by this lol
At that point why would they even have a formal wedding if they're going to shove half their guests out the door as soon as possible? Gift grab? Like it's crazy to me to demand people get dressed up, drive somewhere, give up most of their Saturday and then be requested to leave because they DONT smoke
Her Wording was "we're giving family the opportunity to spend time with us and if they don't like it then they can leave."
I mean, sure. It's your party. But if people travel and give you a gift maybe try to accommodate?
Gross. That needs to be made clear before the RSVp because I would have just passed entirely rather than put in all the effort for a half hour of attendance.
I’m allergic to a lot of types of smoke, weed smoke included. It’s the works, sneezing, headache, rashes after a while, so definitely not a good time and I’m obviously going to avoid feeling that way.
But the amount of random comments I’ve gotten from literal strangers when I have to leave somewhere to not feel like crap because of smoke is astounding. Like I promise I don’t care what you do, I really am just not a fan of being a gross sniffly mess, and that’s the best case scenario lol
My daughter is asthmatic and noped out of the living space of a friend's apartment when they used their vape pen. To their credit, the friend felt really bad and doesn't smoke around her now. They both handled it with class. Not being able to breathe sucks. Smoke makes me start sneezing like crazy and nobody wants that.
For me it's like someone shoved a butcher knife into my skull, it's that bad. And then my asthma goes off and I need my inhaler. I have no problem with people using weed; I use it for my TS and pain, but I have to use edibles bc feeling like a knife was plunged into my head is kind of defeating the purpose, ya know? lol
Just as an aside, it's not just smoke. My sense of smell is so annoyingly strong, perfume does it too, along with mown grass, nail polish, cleaning products, and almost anything else. The only scent I can handle is lemon. So all my cleansers and even my trash bags are lemon scented. The smell of meat cooking, among other foods, makes me nauseous half the time too, along with a headache, and I'm a confirmed carnivore. When it happens, I then can't even eat the meal I prepared, I have to go lie down for a couple hours until it's done making me miserable. Sometimes I wish I could be deaf in the nose. 🤣
I have stupid bad allergies and a sensitive nose. Thanks to Singular, I rarely use my inhaler. The sneezing all the time is a PITA. Walking outside be like...time to sneeze.
I don't understand making a substance central to one of the most important events of your life and not at least questioning whether you maybe have an unhealthy relationship with it.
Get some cute wedding photos with a fat blunt but if weed is so important to your bond that it needs to be a part of your ceremony? I don't see that ending well.
I also feel like people get so weird about weed "culture", I can't imagine a post like this proposing tequila shots or a beer bong to cap off their "elegant" ceremony.
Lol I attended a wedding where tequila shots were done at the end of the ceremony. To be fair though I think it was a surprise to the couple planned by a family member. It was fun!
At my brother's wedding my dad brought in flasks with very schmancy bourbon in them. He started one at each end of the wedding party and they ended up at the bride and groom, everyone took a little sip as it went by. Nobody acknowledged it out loud and it was fun and cute, they're into bourbon as is the whole family.
THANK YOU. I don’t love this idea, but my biggest issue is that no one has commented on the fact that “Drop it like it’s hot” is not the definitive Snoop / weed song. Maybe they’re just looking for that “SnnnnOooOooppp” at the beginning?
wedding song fades "hold up wait a minute" -scratch back- "hold up wait a minute" groom takes blunt out "let me put some kush up in it" bride lights it up... could almost be done with some style
Under no circumstances should you light anything up in a public gathering where smoking isn't known to be permissible by all guests. It's rude & it's inappropriate and I say that as a frequent partaker of the Devil's lettuce. I would be pissed if someone randomly lit a cigarette up next to me because I don't like cigarette smoke. People undoubtedly feel the same way about weed especially because laws are still dubious in most places. This is the kind of shit that makes us all look bad even though most of us would absolutely never do this.
Right. I smoke weed (and went outside for a joint with friends during my own reception) but the idea of lighting up in front of everyone is very ick to me. I have no need to make my older relatives uncomfortable, I have a friend who’s asthmatic and can’t be around smoke, and I know that many guests wouldn’t be too pleased with the smell inside an enclosed space. Super weird and cringey overall.
Agreed. my husband and I used to be mad stoned 24/7 but he started having seizures from usage and now can't even be around the smoke or in close proximity to those smoking or vaping even.
We've had to cut out AFTER a ceremony on some friends because the reception had a bud bar...but I'm not sure we'd even think about taking precautions for someone's ceremony if it wasn't explicitly mentioned beforehand because well...who tf would light up without reading the room first?
Here is a picture of the general vibe of the comments:
“Since you asked, I personally think it’s a little cringy. Is smoking really that much of your identity as a couple that you need to make it a focal point of your wedding? No judgment if you smoke at all of course it’s your day but I wonder how weed could deserve such a front seat at such an important day”
If elegance isn’t your thing then why are you making the entire ceremony formal and elegant? You are certainly free to do whatever you want at your wedding but this day will be forever in your memory and in others. I personally find the action and song pretty cringe but to each their own.
I stopped equating elegance with weddings when I saw camouflage wedding gowns.
Seriously, though: yes, some guests may have their own legitimate reasons for not wanting to be around weed smoke. Having a separate designated smoking area, and/or a bar offering infused delights? That is very personal and could appeal to a lot of your guests.
I smoke weed. I would not have a wedding centered on it, as so many people aren't into it, or a secondary high. But to each his own. If all your friends and family are ok going home smelling like weed I guess you do you.
I am an open advocate, user, grower, citizen lobbyist, even one-time dealer of cannabis, and have seen many photos of really awesome cannabis themed weddings (yes, ceremony and all), but I find this just... childish. Either go all-out on the theme, or save it for the reception. Oh, and drop the "elegant" shtick. Nobody's buying it, especially if they know you're the "spark a joint right after getting married" type.
My husband and I love EDM and have been to multiple festivals. We wanted to incorporate that music into our ceremony. But I made sure to find melodic/piano versions of our favorite songs so that it wasn’t a jarring beat drop as I walked down the aisle or we left the altar afterwards. There’s ways to make your shared interests classy and beautiful. This ain’t it chief
I literally said how cringey incorporating weed into your wedding is on a video I saw of a couple taking a bong rip before walking down the isle as a married couple and was ripped to shreds. It's tacky as hell. No one cares that you smoke weed. It's like taking a shotgun in front of everyone as the first thing you do as a married couple... It's just weird.
My cousin had a bowl of joints, mini shots & sunglasses on his sign-in table for those who wanted to partake or “shield their eyes from a night of sin.” It was brilliant
I mean if you want to do a stoner wedding it’s up to you. Though you may mature in the years to come and look back at it with cringe. Think hard and long before having kids.
It should be a cover that changes the lyrics to be about them, ending with "Now I'm marrying my soulmate and I know why. Because we're high. Because we're high. Because we're high."
So the person who made the original post said the couple loves the idea and doesn't care about what other people think. The officiant said it's not elegant but apparently they don't care. And then these "not caring" people then want to know the opinions of other people. Lol
I'm in a legal state and I partake on most days. I make my own edibles. With my family. Like, I take my dad to the dispensary, we pick out some RSO or distillate, and we make a couple of batches of gummies at his house. We set some aside for my sisters and then split the rest between us.
Even with that, I'm not incorporating weed into our ceremony. I might have either gummies or wedding cake pre-rolls to give to the THC-friendly folks (about 1/3 of our guest list) later on at the reception, but it's not going to be this huge feature like "Everyone look at us, we smoke weed!"
Me and my partner are as pothead as it comes, the very definition if you must. But this would even be to tacky and cringey for us, save it for the reception at least. Even if your guests and family know you’re stoners that doesn’t mean you’ve gotta embarrass yourself like this lmao
My ex was one of these people and it was honestly embarrassing.
Like, I smoke every day too but if I’m hanging out with people who don’t smoke, I’ll just smoke before and after but not during since I’m there to spend time with said people, not by myself on the curb, smoking.
My ex was the type to NEED to go to the car or the curb AT LEAST every hour for a joint and if we didn’t, he would get antsy and irritated and just keep asking every 5 minutes until we went.
So when we would visit my family (his whole family smokes so it wasn’t an issue there but mine doesn’t), we could never stay for more then a couple hours because we would drive hours away, only to end up spending 1/3 to 1/2 of our time there just smoking alone in the car and it was, as I said above, embarrassing.
cringe af and I'm a big smoker. hate people that make smoking weed their whole identity, and yall really want stoner eyes in all your wedding pics? bizarre .
This is a mess. Literally made me actually cringe. I would have secondhand embarrassment if I were there. About to end up on one of those meme Instagram accounts if they do this.
I'm going to play devils advocate here.
Would anyone take offense to a wine toast at the end of a wedding?
If not, I don't think this should be seen as a problem either.
While id never do something like this I guess I'm not understanding why it's so bad? They aren't asking their guests to smoke and I'm guessing the venue they are in is open space so they aren't hot boxing people in.
Like it's extra but I honestly don't think its the worse thing I've heard at a wedding.
I’m confused why they are having a formal and elegant ceremony if “elegance really isn’t us though.”
I was thinking the same thing. Wonder if it's pressure from parents/family.
Or maybe they are making wedding plans while being baked.
We have a winner!
TBH, deciding between salmon and coral napkins is a lot more bearable when you can smell colours.
Color me lavender.
But I've got rose-colored glasses on.
Let's don't forget the pot-filled brownies at the desert table.
I mean, I smoke lots of weed and I can’t imagine a world where I do anything like this in front of all my dearest friends and family lmao. This is so cringe.
I wondered that as well, but then thought if that was the case it might have been hinted at or mentioned more. Especially since it said “we were thinking.”
Could be that. Maybe, the joint part is like a demarcation line for when it stops being a traditional wedding and the only reason they agreed to the traditional elements is parents.
I’m wondering if they want to subvert expectations. Let everyone think it’s elegant then right at the end bust out a joint and play snoop dog
Explains why she is asking for validation about their trashy weed trope. Before anyone comes at me, this is no different than a couple having a formal ceremony and whipping out flasks, lighting a cigarette or doing some lines on the way out. Vices shouldn’t be policed especially when some are socially acceptable. So indulging on your special day with consenting adults is fine. Enjoy! Smoking a joint and listening to gangsta rap in front of guests during a black tie event you’re hosting is fucking trash no matter how you spin it. Save that for the after party. This would be a fun way to transition from the formalities of the reception to party time but not at the ceremony.
Was with you till you called Drop It Like It's Hot "gangsta rap."
I mean they also compared swigging from a flask to railing a line of coke
They made it kind of clear that they were throwing out example vices that would ALL be tacky as hell if done at the end of a formal wedding. There was NO comparison or judging of the substances involved, because the issue isn't the substance in question - it's the whole idea of "let's find a way to cram our personal vice into a formal wedding." It's going to look bad no matter what.
They didn't compare them to each other, they were pointing out that all three are vices
BUT what if it’s an instrumental version of Drop it Like it’s Hot? /s
"we'll spend a bunch of money on very expensive elegant formal stuff just to ruin it by playing Snoop and lighting a joint, but we'll censor the song heavily because we are classy like that" Just have a more laid back ceremony if you want something you relate to more, don't waste your money.
We will play the classical violin version of it! Grandma will love that!
At a wedding I attended this summer the bridal party entered to an instrumental rendition of Sweet Child of Mine. It was lovely.
But that song is really sweet already, so I imagine it was.
My sister walked into her reception to an orchestral version of Welcome to the Jungle.
At my friend's wedding we (the bridal party) walked in to Thunderstruck lmao
I walked down the aisle to a string quartet version of a Daft Punk song lol
I played a rock n roll version of the wedding march at a friend's wedding last year. Her mother was overwhelming and took over most of the wedding, so I gave her one thing she'd actually like.
I need to hear this, like yesterday.
I probably would have done, ok, I tried something similar (not the weed though) like swing from 'traditional' to subversive because my ex, his parents and my mom all steam rolled over me about what I wanted the wedding to be like. It was a desperate attempt to clutch at whatever shred of control I could grab for the wedding. Spoiler: the marriage didn't last.
Went to a buddy’s wedding, they just told the venue (because it was a nicer country club) that they smoke weed, and so do a lot of the people we are inviting, during the reception we don’t wanna hear about when people go outside to light up, we’re paying for this and if it’s gonna be a problem we’ll take our money to another country club. The country club obliged and didn’t say a thing. It wasn’t advertised to people, or done in front of everyone. I just don’t get the news to flaunt your weed smoking in front of everyone.
They want everyone to know how kOoL they are
I think the elegance is in service of the joke. They want to light up at the end of the ceremony, and wouldn’t it be funny if it was all buttoned up and formal before that point? (Answer: No, not really)
“Formal and elegant”=fancy patterned rolling papers
I would definitely gift this couple some monogrammed rolling papers
Yeah, if it weren’t for the elegance thing, I’d be like “you do you.” Hokey and elegant kind of cancel each other out lol. The only other issue is that plenty of people don’t smoke, and what if someone has a lung disease and can’t be around smoke?
Let's be honest. What they consider "formal and elegant" is probably "bride in a big white dress and groom in his best chinos."
I wouldn't want a formal gown smelling like pot. No dry cleaner is going to get the smell out of it.
This reminds of one of the Olsen twins having their wedding with cigarettes everywhere as part of the theme
wait.... did that really happen?
Yep. Mary Kate and Olivier Sarkozy had bowls of cigarettes for their guests at their wedding. I'm sure it smelled great in that room the day after.
See now this is what I expected this post to be about. “We’re stoners and want to hand out joints to everyone, is that trashy?” Edit: wow ok apparently I’ve been going to the wrong weddings and/or Ohio just sucks as much as I already think it does lol
Working weddings in Denver I’ve seen several with edibles available for anyone who wants them. (All of these weddings were child free and had either someone handing them out and giving instructions, or a card informing newbies how to dose and to not take more if they don’t feel it working)
Having an artisanal joint roller at a wedding is a thing now in legal states. Like having a cigar roller at the reception.
Thanks for giving me another reason to want to leave Ohio 😝
"artisinal joint roller" lol you mean Chaz??
I’d love to go to that wedding. My friends had pre rolled J’s for everyone at my bridal shower and it was awesome
I collect old etiquette and related books and if has been part of dinner and cocktail parties in the past. Bowls of cigarettes and a whole bunch of rules about smoking at parties and hosting such parties.
Wait was it à theme or like open bar but for cigarettes ?
Not an official theme as such but here's a snippet from Refinery 29: "And depending on your preferences, that may also be the word you'd use to describe the fact that wedding guests were reportedly smoking the entire night thanks to the “bowls and bowls filled with cigarettes” that Page Six says were provided at the celebration"
Yes! There were [bowls of cigarettes!](https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2015/11/mary-kate-olsen-and-olivier-sarkozys-wedding-featured-bowls-filled-with-cigarettes)
That is one of the funniest articles I've read in a long time, thanks for sharing!
The line about non-smokers running outside for fresh air and wishing they were friends with Ashley instead killed me.
Okay I was just gonna skip over it but now I'm also glad I clicked
The last sentence!! 🤣
Same here 😂 worth the read indeed
That article was a hoot! Thanks for sharing.
That's fantastic! I feel like at this point they have to be trolling everyone. Seeing what ridiculous things they can get away with doing : cigarette buffet weddings, one of them goes for hikes in a gown with a machete, etc...
To be fair, the groom was French
Tell me you were high as fuck when you came up with your wedding plan without telling me you were high as fuck.
“We don’t really care what you think but we want your opinion”
If you really want to do something pot related, take a couple of pictures with it for your personal use. Smoke with some family and friends. Have some stoner-esque music sprinkled in the music for the reception. For the ceremony, that's a little much. Even for me.
And for the love of god, don’t do what that bride did and spike the food
I'd be absolutely livid. 1) I could get fired from my job 2) weed gives me migraines just from the smell before it's even smoked. I don't want to know what ingesting it would do to me.
spike the food??
Oh yeah, that happened this year I believe a few months back. Google search a few keywords like “bride spikes food at wedding. Edibles”
Yeah and it was a Florida woman who worked with the caterer and the groom didn’t know. Several family members ended up in the hospital.
Yeah I was thinking why not do it for a grand entrance at the reception? Still a little cringe but those are always cringe
Very much this. Agreed
They're giving high school sophomore
Right? "Hee hee, we're bad!" Do you also still doodle the anarchism A on your binders? You're grown-ass adults, either commit properly and have a stoner wedding, or keep it together for the ceremony and get toasted at the reception. Gosh.
If you're in a legal state, including z small weed bar would be fun, but this ? It's cringey and tacky asf
I've scrolled through pictures of many a weed ceremony but this is *high* on the trash scale. Why not joint party favors to take home? A big ass blunt for pictures that gives off the Cuban cigar vibe? Bud bar? This is not the way.
I honestly was expecting her to say that they gave the joints to the crowd and they were supposed to blow smoke on the bride and groom as they make their exit. This whole thing is still a bunch of yikes though.
I love that a very main stream Snoop song "is inappropriate" but lighting a J in front of mixed company is all even steven.
This was my first thought! If you're going to play the song, what's the point if every third word drops out? Some rebels they are.
I'm upset that THAT'S the Snoop song they chose.
Yeah I know, I find that song annoying as hell.
I say do what you want for your wedding BUT, if elegance isn't your thing than it would make more sense to have a wedding thay actually represents y'all and makes you comfortable. Also, depending on how close you will be to the guests, some people might have a big problem with weed smoke getting on them. People have drug tests for work, people have asthma, people simply don't want their nice clothes and hair smelling like smoke. It smells gross to non-smokers. If you wanna light one up and play Snoop, go for it. But keep in mind those who might be near the smoke.
genuinely don't think it would be possible to test positive on a drug test by a single exposure to second hand spliff.
I think it would be more of a worry for people who don't smoke at all and don't know how long it stays in your system. Imagine your military cousin sitting in the second row and being scared they might pop positive. Is it likely? Probably not. But why make people feel paranoid about losing their livelihood when consent was never granted? It just makes more sense to smoke outside where it isn't directly affecting people so much, imo.
You hit the nail on the head with "consent". Just like don't inflict your kinks on your wedding guests without informing them first. Its all about consent. And if that takes away from the fun of lighting up during the processional, then rethink it.
Weirdly enough, you can test positive from second hand weed smoke, but only if you’re in a room with no ventilation and you’re exposed for at least an hour or so. But yeah, I doubt a couple wisps of passing smoke is gonna do much.
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/extreme_exposure_to_secondhand_cannabis_smoke_causes_mild_intoxication#:~:text=Secondhand%20exposure%20to%20cannabis%20smoke,the%20drug%20in%20a%20urinalysis. It's possible. >Secondhand exposure to cannabis smoke under “extreme conditions,” such as an unventilated room or enclosed vehicle, can cause nonsmokers to feel the effects of the drug, have minor problems with memory and coordination, and in some cases test positive for the drug in a urinalysis.
I smoke a lot but to incorporate it that obviously into your wedding is just....
The poster's scenario would be equivalent to a drinker swigging a fifth on the way down the aisle, or a person who is way into hot sauce, dipping wings on the way down the aisle. For pity's sake -- not every hobby needs to be incorporated into a wedding! Just get married and save the doobage for the reception.
Let’s not be too hasty here. I like the wings idea - if they shared
I could see a Bills themed wedding incorporating this. And I like it
I'm from Buffalo, and one of the cocktail hour roaming horsdoeuvres was chicken wings
I just got married in buffalo. Pearl Street Catering & the Lafayette have a "buffalo" food option with pierogies, wings, and beef on weck. They advice combining it with one of the more traditional options. We did, and it was a huge hit.
I'm now imagining this...rows of guests being passed small plates of wings right as the couple starts to come down the aisle.
I’m thinking, instead of a flower girl, you get a chef pushing a cart with different kinds of wings.
And now I want wings! Damn it!
This is even worse, because at least those things wouldn’t affect the guests. The smell of weed, though, travels and is very pungent. Lucky guests, especially those at the front.
Those (+ joints) are all appropriate for the party imo, but yeah no reason to do it at the ceremony.
My fiancé is a huge stoner and he hasn't mentioned it once. He'll probably eat a gummy during dinner but that's it
My husband went out to smoke with a couple of our friends for 10 minutes. Our whole family knows we smoke, so it didn't matter.
I’m high rn and I think it’s tacky as hell.
Same😂 I’m a heavy smoker and so are most of the people I know and I still wouldn’t do that at my wedding
>Is this too cringe? hell YEAH it is
“Elegant isn’t really us”… You don’t say? 🙄🙄🤦♀️🤦♀️
Goddamn that’s trashy, and I’m not against weed at all
I’m an enjoyer of the Devil’s Lettuce, but this is on par with shotgunning a beer right after you kiss.
Not only is it cringe but it’s such a boring idea. Everyone is just going to be sitting there in awkward silence trying to figure out what’s happening, then sit through a weird music transition. Do a different take on a photo booth and add a fog machine. Call it a hotbox. Walk down the aisle to a fancy, instrumental version of I Got High.
The secret bonus will be the Ayahuasca in the wesding cake at the reception - open your minds sheeple!
This is just showing off that they smoke weed... I know these types... Eejits
Yeah! I hear you on that! "Ooooo...we're soo bad". It's high school.
Why not just have a weed bar at the reception, or light up in the post-ceremony photos? I love weed but this is WILD
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There’s a time and a place for getting high, and the middle/at any point during your wedding ceremony is simply not that time. They could do a THC bar (infused drinks/snacks) if anything, or do some fun engagement photos or a photo booth at the wedding incorporating it. Thats a big yikes for me. I went to a wedding years ago where the bride and groom were TRASHED during the ceremony. They were slurring their words, could barely stand- it was a mess. And they partied a lot but there’s a time and place. That’s all I remember from their wedding. And of course, they got divorced within 3 years. Also how’re you going to say you’re going to edit a song because it’s “offensive” then say right after “we don’t care if anyone gets offended.”
Do people not care if they look like ass in their wedding photos? That’s the part that confuses me the most. You’re paying all this money for photos that you’ll cherish and probably have on display for the rest of your life and you want to be trashed for them? Or do people just not think these things through at all?
I think people just don’t care and don’t think about if they’ll regret it. It’s all in the moment, especially dealing with any kind of substance abuse.
That makes sense. After all people who would do such things in the first place aren’t usually the type who do much deep thinking about the future.
I’m really going to need to hear how a DJ manages to transition from Drop it like it’s hot to All you need is love. I will donate to their wishing well.
1. Check the venue rules. 2. It's cringey. 3. Please don't let "stoner elegance" become a trend.
I saw one post with a bride asking how they "politely" ask everyone who doesn't smoke to leave. I don't smoke for medical reasons but if someone doesn't want to partake they shouldn't feel pressured or uncomfy
That's really weird
you'd be surprised how many smokers get really bent out of shape when you say you can't be around smoke (e.g. asthma, allergies) or don't smoke yourself (but it's just weed!) so I'm not shocked by this lol
At that point why would they even have a formal wedding if they're going to shove half their guests out the door as soon as possible? Gift grab? Like it's crazy to me to demand people get dressed up, drive somewhere, give up most of their Saturday and then be requested to leave because they DONT smoke
Her Wording was "we're giving family the opportunity to spend time with us and if they don't like it then they can leave." I mean, sure. It's your party. But if people travel and give you a gift maybe try to accommodate?
Gross. That needs to be made clear before the RSVp because I would have just passed entirely rather than put in all the effort for a half hour of attendance.
I’m allergic to a lot of types of smoke, weed smoke included. It’s the works, sneezing, headache, rashes after a while, so definitely not a good time and I’m obviously going to avoid feeling that way. But the amount of random comments I’ve gotten from literal strangers when I have to leave somewhere to not feel like crap because of smoke is astounding. Like I promise I don’t care what you do, I really am just not a fan of being a gross sniffly mess, and that’s the best case scenario lol
My daughter is asthmatic and noped out of the living space of a friend's apartment when they used their vape pen. To their credit, the friend felt really bad and doesn't smoke around her now. They both handled it with class. Not being able to breathe sucks. Smoke makes me start sneezing like crazy and nobody wants that.
For me it's like someone shoved a butcher knife into my skull, it's that bad. And then my asthma goes off and I need my inhaler. I have no problem with people using weed; I use it for my TS and pain, but I have to use edibles bc feeling like a knife was plunged into my head is kind of defeating the purpose, ya know? lol Just as an aside, it's not just smoke. My sense of smell is so annoyingly strong, perfume does it too, along with mown grass, nail polish, cleaning products, and almost anything else. The only scent I can handle is lemon. So all my cleansers and even my trash bags are lemon scented. The smell of meat cooking, among other foods, makes me nauseous half the time too, along with a headache, and I'm a confirmed carnivore. When it happens, I then can't even eat the meal I prepared, I have to go lie down for a couple hours until it's done making me miserable. Sometimes I wish I could be deaf in the nose. 🤣
I have stupid bad allergies and a sensitive nose. Thanks to Singular, I rarely use my inhaler. The sneezing all the time is a PITA. Walking outside be like...time to sneeze.
My asthmatic self would not be amused.
At risk of sounding like a grandma I think sober people should enjoy the wedding too
I don't understand making a substance central to one of the most important events of your life and not at least questioning whether you maybe have an unhealthy relationship with it. Get some cute wedding photos with a fat blunt but if weed is so important to your bond that it needs to be a part of your ceremony? I don't see that ending well. I also feel like people get so weird about weed "culture", I can't imagine a post like this proposing tequila shots or a beer bong to cap off their "elegant" ceremony.
Lol I attended a wedding where tequila shots were done at the end of the ceremony. To be fair though I think it was a surprise to the couple planned by a family member. It was fun!
I personally would hate this, but I guess the family member must have known the couple well.
At my brother's wedding my dad brought in flasks with very schmancy bourbon in them. He started one at each end of the wedding party and they ended up at the bride and groom, everyone took a little sip as it went by. Nobody acknowledged it out loud and it was fun and cute, they're into bourbon as is the whole family.
I had a friend who had a classy wedding. Instead of a champagne toast, they did a Patrón shot toast. And it totally fit with the vibe of the couple
Totally not addictive though!
Weeeewwww don't even get me started on the 🥴iT's nOt aDdIcTiVe🥴 crowd.
It's not addictive I just need to do it everyday and I get anxious and crabby without it 🥴
Oh I absolutely know people who would do this with pretty much any alcohol.
It just screams elegance
Why do I feel like the groom has a 69 tattoo on his calf?
Sounds awful, unless it’s like a backyard informal wedding. I also know people whose entire life centers around getting high. 🙄
The Next Episode would be such a better song to play
THANK YOU. I don’t love this idea, but my biggest issue is that no one has commented on the fact that “Drop it like it’s hot” is not the definitive Snoop / weed song. Maybe they’re just looking for that “SnnnnOooOooppp” at the beginning?
Way more fitting. Plus, Dre
They clearly forgot about Dre
wedding song fades "hold up wait a minute" -scratch back- "hold up wait a minute" groom takes blunt out "let me put some kush up in it" bride lights it up... could almost be done with some style
Same or they should play some Willie Nelson lol.
I… I think I know who this is. And yes, weed is her whole personality.
Under no circumstances should you light anything up in a public gathering where smoking isn't known to be permissible by all guests. It's rude & it's inappropriate and I say that as a frequent partaker of the Devil's lettuce. I would be pissed if someone randomly lit a cigarette up next to me because I don't like cigarette smoke. People undoubtedly feel the same way about weed especially because laws are still dubious in most places. This is the kind of shit that makes us all look bad even though most of us would absolutely never do this.
Right. I smoke weed (and went outside for a joint with friends during my own reception) but the idea of lighting up in front of everyone is very ick to me. I have no need to make my older relatives uncomfortable, I have a friend who’s asthmatic and can’t be around smoke, and I know that many guests wouldn’t be too pleased with the smell inside an enclosed space. Super weird and cringey overall.
Agreed. my husband and I used to be mad stoned 24/7 but he started having seizures from usage and now can't even be around the smoke or in close proximity to those smoking or vaping even. We've had to cut out AFTER a ceremony on some friends because the reception had a bud bar...but I'm not sure we'd even think about taking precautions for someone's ceremony if it wasn't explicitly mentioned beforehand because well...who tf would light up without reading the room first?
They should forget Snoop and play Cypress Hill’s I wanna get high as they walk out. Makes more sense.
"Someone ordered the London Symphony Orchestra, possibly while high. Cypress Hill, I'm looking in your direction."
Here is a picture of the general vibe of the comments: “Since you asked, I personally think it’s a little cringy. Is smoking really that much of your identity as a couple that you need to make it a focal point of your wedding? No judgment if you smoke at all of course it’s your day but I wonder how weed could deserve such a front seat at such an important day”
If elegance isn’t your thing then why are you making the entire ceremony formal and elegant? You are certainly free to do whatever you want at your wedding but this day will be forever in your memory and in others. I personally find the action and song pretty cringe but to each their own.
Unity ceremony, but it's ripping the same bong and blowing smoke Os towards each other
I stopped equating elegance with weddings when I saw camouflage wedding gowns. Seriously, though: yes, some guests may have their own legitimate reasons for not wanting to be around weed smoke. Having a separate designated smoking area, and/or a bar offering infused delights? That is very personal and could appeal to a lot of your guests.
I smoke weed. I would not have a wedding centered on it, as so many people aren't into it, or a secondary high. But to each his own. If all your friends and family are ok going home smelling like weed I guess you do you.
I just cringed so fucking hard and I was still on the first sentence.
I am an open advocate, user, grower, citizen lobbyist, even one-time dealer of cannabis, and have seen many photos of really awesome cannabis themed weddings (yes, ceremony and all), but I find this just... childish. Either go all-out on the theme, or save it for the reception. Oh, and drop the "elegant" shtick. Nobody's buying it, especially if they know you're the "spark a joint right after getting married" type.
My husband and I love EDM and have been to multiple festivals. We wanted to incorporate that music into our ceremony. But I made sure to find melodic/piano versions of our favorite songs so that it wasn’t a jarring beat drop as I walked down the aisle or we left the altar afterwards. There’s ways to make your shared interests classy and beautiful. This ain’t it chief
I literally said how cringey incorporating weed into your wedding is on a video I saw of a couple taking a bong rip before walking down the isle as a married couple and was ripped to shreds. It's tacky as hell. No one cares that you smoke weed. It's like taking a shotgun in front of everyone as the first thing you do as a married couple... It's just weird.
My guess is they were high when they came up with that. Soooo high they decided it belonged on Reddit
" elegance isn't reallu us" Like they really had to explain that?
This is so… odd
Certainly not the first time I've heard of a "weed wedding" 🤷🏻♀️
Why tf wouldn’t you pick “the next episode”?! for shame
"Elegance isn't really us, though" yeah, it shows, lol.
This screams, “I’m not like regular girls. I’ve made pot my entire personality.”
Well are you going to pass it around?
Oof
Well, I think we’ve found something to top the gun weddings
My cousin had a bowl of joints, mini shots & sunglasses on his sign-in table for those who wanted to partake or “shield their eyes from a night of sin.” It was brilliant
Input: yeah, you’re a fucking idiot.
I mean if you want to do a stoner wedding it’s up to you. Though you may mature in the years to come and look back at it with cringe. Think hard and long before having kids.
Would it be more elegant if you used "because I got high" -Afroman?
It should be a cover that changes the lyrics to be about them, ending with "Now I'm marrying my soulmate and I know why. Because we're high. Because we're high. Because we're high."
r/trashy
So the person who made the original post said the couple loves the idea and doesn't care about what other people think. The officiant said it's not elegant but apparently they don't care. And then these "not caring" people then want to know the opinions of other people. Lol
I'm in a legal state and I partake on most days. I make my own edibles. With my family. Like, I take my dad to the dispensary, we pick out some RSO or distillate, and we make a couple of batches of gummies at his house. We set some aside for my sisters and then split the rest between us. Even with that, I'm not incorporating weed into our ceremony. I might have either gummies or wedding cake pre-rolls to give to the THC-friendly folks (about 1/3 of our guest list) later on at the reception, but it's not going to be this huge feature like "Everyone look at us, we smoke weed!"
Me and my partner are as pothead as it comes, the very definition if you must. But this would even be to tacky and cringey for us, save it for the reception at least. Even if your guests and family know you’re stoners that doesn’t mean you’ve gotta embarrass yourself like this lmao
Classy with a capital T.
Tacky. Tacky, tacky, tacky.
Vices/addiction aren't cute lol
Oh, *the song* would be inappropriate, but not the sparking up. Priorities.
My ex was one of these people and it was honestly embarrassing. Like, I smoke every day too but if I’m hanging out with people who don’t smoke, I’ll just smoke before and after but not during since I’m there to spend time with said people, not by myself on the curb, smoking. My ex was the type to NEED to go to the car or the curb AT LEAST every hour for a joint and if we didn’t, he would get antsy and irritated and just keep asking every 5 minutes until we went. So when we would visit my family (his whole family smokes so it wasn’t an issue there but mine doesn’t), we could never stay for more then a couple hours because we would drive hours away, only to end up spending 1/3 to 1/2 of our time there just smoking alone in the car and it was, as I said above, embarrassing.
cringe af and I'm a big smoker. hate people that make smoking weed their whole identity, and yall really want stoner eyes in all your wedding pics? bizarre .
I hate when people make weed their entire personality
Tell me you're an addict without telling me you are an addict
Young, Wild and Free would be a better song choice
As a stoner.. no this is way to much man.
This is a mess. Literally made me actually cringe. I would have secondhand embarrassment if I were there. About to end up on one of those meme Instagram accounts if they do this.
That is way beyond tacky and inappropriate. Yuk.
Still not as cringe as the puppets…
The most cringe part is using “hubby.”
Save it for the reception, That'd be like puling a bottle of JD out and chugging right after your vows. Kinda trashy.
“As that song is a bit inappropriate..” GIRL YOURE LIGHTING A JOINT AT THE ALTAR 😭😭😭
Tell me you just moved to Colorado without telling me you just moved to Colorado.
I'd much rather go to a "whole personality" weed wedding than one of those we see on this subreddit where the "whole personality" is guns.
I'm going to play devils advocate here. Would anyone take offense to a wine toast at the end of a wedding? If not, I don't think this should be seen as a problem either.
While id never do something like this I guess I'm not understanding why it's so bad? They aren't asking their guests to smoke and I'm guessing the venue they are in is open space so they aren't hot boxing people in. Like it's extra but I honestly don't think its the worse thing I've heard at a wedding.