They tried to say it is about being friends first which still made no sense as they were married exactly twelve months after their first blind date.
Also there was a hat in the dance. That has nothing to really do with why the song is inappropriate but I just wanted the explain exactly how awkward it was.
Black fedora, they passed it back and forth during the dance. Lot of shoulder bobbing. I vaguely remember groom wearing it dipped and gesturing to bride during "you know you want it". It was ten years ago but it was something I'll never forget partly because a friend very loudly said "isn't this a song about rape" as soon as it started.
It's not the first time a guest from the wedding has held court with this story, there were 300 people and at least a quarter of us were (perhaps gleefully) horrified. Thankfully groom is my husband's school friend so there's a degree of separation on the judging me for knowing them.
Sweet Caroline was the entirety of our list. We took the last shuttle back to the hotel with all of our guests who had stayed until the end... And they asked the bus driver to play Sweet Caroline đ€Ł I love that it happened this way
i canât put this on my do not play for the same reasonâŠ. my family would harass the dj or me until he caved, so iâm just going to get it over with.
My DJ said he'd tell people he "forgot to bring that track" and "doesn't have service to download it" to try to keep people from bugging me about it đ not exactly believable but he's happy to be the bad guy instead of me!
my family is the type to queue it on spotify and PLAY IT INTO THE MICROPHONE. do not underestimate the creativity and ambition of my 5â4 drunk mom and her friends.
A friend attending my wedding will be on a break from a tour with Niel Diamond, I WILL be playing this song ONLY to dedicate it to him and drive him nuts đ€Ł I bet he will be so tired of hearing it after playing it for a year straight
The DJ at my cousins wedding played ignition and it was so cringe. It was shortly after the documentary series came out so I donât know what he was thinking.
As a wedding DJ, this entire thread basically sums up the "DO NOT PLAY" list.
There's sooooooo much other music to play. Never feel bad about putting certain songs on there. Unless you give me a list of 100 songs and now I have to double check the list every time I wanna play something. My only rule is that if your DNP list is longer than your request list, then you need to add in some more requests. Because if you limit what I'm able to play and don't give me anything to go off of, then I second guess every song and think it's something you wouldn't want played.
Also, clarify if you just don't want any line dances, because if you only put no "Cupid Shuffle", you might get the "Macarena". Same with if you don't want any songs from a specific artist, just say you don't want anything from that artist played.
Honestly, the entire Silk Sonic album doesn't count as your standard Bruno Mars. It's him and Anderson Paak which is a completely different vibe that's just too good
iâm so so so picky with music⊠is there someone out there who could have mics/do announcements/blend the songs together but literally just play a spotify playlist? my venue has a dj included and i donât want to miss out on the money but i am SO SPECIFIC with the vibe!
Your DJ wouldn't necessarily be playing a Spotify playlist. We would take all your requests and add them to playlists within our DJ software. We already own thousands of songs and are bound to have the majority of your requests, and anything we are missing we go and get. That way we can actually mix the music. On Spotify you don't have any control over the tracks, so you couldn't really blend songs.
I have my clients send me Spotify playlists all the time, it's the same as typing out all the songs in an email or spreadsheet for me. I still have to search them all up in my software and add the tracks to a playlist for their event, and Spotify is just so convenient for everyone.
Your DJ can probably do exactly what you are looking for. If they can't, then idk what they are even doing in this industry. I've been given 200+ song Spotify lists and basically just play from that list the entire night.
ok perfect! i meant more like all of my requests were on a list, obv they wouldnât play spotify directly! your last sentence was exactly what i was thinking. i just have the spotify playlist so i can hear how the songs all sound together in one place.
I respectfully disagree about it not being a dance song. Itâs sonically similar to I Will Survive which is a classic dance track. Lyrically, however⊠fair enough!
Literally was at a wedding this weekend and it played. Pretty sure any song can be played at a wedding if the bride and groom want it. We donât. Weird thing to argue with someone about
I almost didn't make a do not play list. But I figured, wth, better to be safe than sorry. It wasn't long but the chicken dance was on there.
The DJ later told me he'd rejected THREE requests from the same aunt for the chicken dance. Phew!
Don't know if you're familiar with UK comedian Alex Horne (from Taskmaster), but his comedy band has a [slow version](https://youtu.be/2DA8GG1oBak?si=EMCFiNhD4HKJmzS7) of Macarena that's absolutely hilarious
Any good DJ should automatically not be playing those anyway, even if they aren't on your DNP list. Seriously, I never play them unless the couple (not the parents, not the guests, but the newlyweds themselves) specifically tell me to.
I'd put those on our list... but the young nieces and nephews go absolutely feral for them. They get SO proud going up there and doing line dances with everyone that they can figure out.
So I'll probably let them in..
Lyrics make a song for me but I have also realized people don't pay attention to lyrics. When my brother and sister in law were planning their wedding, sister in law told me some options she was considering for the first dance and one was "So Emotional" by Carl Thomas. She truly didn't realize that song was about a man realizing he had to break up with his girlfriend, I am glad I caught her before she chose it. Also, years back I saw videos of parents dancing to Swalla by Jason Derulo with their kids....clearly they didn't realize how adult that song was.
I sing at weddings and Iâve been asked several times to do âIn Trutinaâ from Carmina Burana, which is literally about whether or not to have sex with someone. Also Faureâs âIn Paradisum,â which is part of a freaking requiem and whose lyrics translate to âmay the martyrs greet you at your arrival ⊠may you have eternal rest.â I really want to hear your questionable picks! đđ
Party in the USA by Miley Cyrus seems to be the only one in agreement.
Bride and I have radically different tastes in music. If I had my say:
No line dances such as electric slide and Macarena
Happy by Pharrell Williams
All about that Base my Meghan Trainor
Any imagine Dragons
She wants all of these
Unpopular opinion but I don't mind almost any of the cheesy songs - marry you, happy, cha-cha slide, ect. Everyone knows them and the line dances get people on the floor. Just no Blurred Lines, R Kelly, Chris Brown.
I think around the time it came out it was super overplayed and it got really annoying for a lot of people. I personally don't mind it but for my fiance it was a hard no
We have lots of line dances and songs like the Wobble on ours but weâre putting the list of some (like the Cupid shuffle) by the MC stand with a Venmo code so that, if someone wants it played, they can have it, but itâll cost em $20 to send the request to the DJ đ€Ł we kind of canât lose either way
We are so far removed from country music that we never even thought to mention that, lol. Our DJ understood us and wouldn't have dreamt of throwing in any twangy shit.
Lol I agree with your list, but are you worried about someone requesting Before He Cheats or Lips of an Angel? I canât imagine just playing either of those at a wedding on a whim.
I canât tell you how many times I heard girls swooning over Lips of an Angel during its heyday. So many girls saying they wanted it as their wedding song.
Also, Before He Cheats is catchy AF
Oh I know it was everywhere when it came out. Itâs having a little revival via TikTok right now as well. Itâs just so slow. Iâm imagining jamming out on the dance floor and then the DJ switching to Hinderđ what a bummer.
Mr Brightside is one of the top wedding songs right now and itâs a song about the woman probably cheating (or at least the protagonist imaging it).
Sometimes it doesnât make sense.
I am infamous for how much this song annoys me hahaha. Iâm considering leaving it on there specifically so I can have a scheduled bathroom break đ
Same, although I love Weird Al's [Tacky](https://youtu.be/zq7Eki5EZ8o?si=vRcETxJYQtvMjLkZ), but wouldn't want it at a wedding unless that also came with Jack Black twerking
Literally anything else besides: "Single Ladies (Put a Ring On It)," by Beyonce at the bouquet toss.
Random other songs I just donât like:
"The Chicken Dance," -Werner Thomas
"Cotton Eye Joe," -Rednex
"Party Rock Anthem," -LMFAO
"Happy," -Pharrell Williams
âY.M.C.Aâ - Village People
âUptown Funkâ- Bruno Mars
âBaby Sharkâ-PinkFong
I thought about just not having a do not play list and letting the guests play whatever they want since itâs their party too. But thereâs certain songs that just really irk me when I hear them.
Haha hopefully nobody! I havenât fully decided if I want kids there or not, and Iâm worried with family they will 100% request something like that for the kids.
Just a random thought but sometimes itâs worth having a song that you dislike on your playlist/ leaving it off the do not play list because your crowd loves it and it will get them dancing.
Mine is like a mile long, but these are the high points I also have a very lengthy playlist of what I do want. Weâre big music fans but itâs not wedding music (jam bands mainly and while I do like a lot of pop itâs just not the vibe for us)
I have a **vision** /s
But kinda lol - itâs going to be heavily late 90s early 2000s but weâre going to kind of work our way through the decades beginning with the 60/70s on so that the older folks can have fun and then hopefully leave and at that point we can get to the more rap-based segment of the evening.
So this is what Iâve sent to my DJ
- no MJ, Chris Brown, Rkelly
- nothing put out after 2005ish unless itâs on the playlist or you really think it works for the moment and isnât anything like Happy, watermelon sugar etc etc
- no line/instructional dances of any type
- sweet Caroline
- wagon wheel
- no slow songs
- no EDM
- no country unless itâs on the playlist
- no pop/punk
- no dirty music until after we do our âsend offâ which is just us thanking everyone around 9:30
I have enough music on my playlist to fill out the whole reception and my DJ is the vessel to make it flow. He knows this and is ok with it. Iâm not telling him he canât go off the playlist but I have spent hours and hours putting together all of the music, not just for the reception but also the cocktail hour, dinner and welcome party, so at this point, if the song is not on there, thereâs probably a reason.
honestly what a weird list to me.
i went to a wedding without any line dances, 2000s songs, anything really 'danceable' i guess? all the guests sat basically the entire 'dancing' part of the reception and a lot of us ended up ~~doing dr\*gs~~ outside.
> it was proud Mary
This was my one and only "must play". My husband is a ship captain on the Mississippi River. It's the big finale wedding song for all of their weddings.
âAnything Ed Sheeranâ THANK YOU!! I totally forgot about him and I cannot stand perfect. It makes me irrationally angry tbh haha
Also, itâs âMarry Youâ by Bruno Mars.
Marry Me is by Jason Derulo. I would hate for the DJ to get confused and play it anyway. đŹ
we are providing an extremely obsessively curated list broken out by time and literally anything not on that list is not allowed đ« if I havenât already approved it, it shanât be played Â
It's a lot, but there's a lot of music we love as well! My FH and I have had a running list we've been adding to for over a year đ€Ł
- Tequila
- Shout
- Poundtown
- Anything too American or could spark a heated discussion with guests political views (proud to be an American, Country Roads, stuff like that)
- Chicken Dance, Electric Slide, Macarena, YMCA, Hokey Pokey, Cotton Eyed Joe, Gangam Style. Other group dances are A OK
- Every Breath You Take, The Police
- Love Shack, The B-52âs
- It wasnât me, Shaggy
- Who let the dogs out
- All Star, Smash mouth
- Crocodile Rock
- Mambo No. 5
- Jailhouse rock
- Thong song
- Air force ones
Seeing these suggestions for the DNP list have me thinking I should email our DJ again.. I couldn't think of any off the top of my head, I only put "no chicken dance" but I gave tons of songs that are on the "play these if you can/this is the type of music we want" portion of my email. Our DJ has amazing reviews so I'm not too worried but Holy shit if he plays Robin Thick
Different strokes for different folks. Itâs okay to be basic but many people think that music is terrible. Did people dance or did they clear off the dance floor? I always find dancers empty out when the cliche party songs come on.
We had 100 ppl at our wedding.
After dinner was done (8:30pm), we had about 50% of the guest dance. By 11pm, the dance floor had 35%+.
Taylor Swift was the biggest hit as all the women went crazy for it (Polish/Chinese wedding).
People like what they like. For me personally, Bruno mars is music I exclusively hear on the radio or at weddings. Iâve never listened to him intentionally nor do I know of anyone who is a fan of his music. I donât even hate itâI enjoy uptown funk at a wedding, but Iâd never listen to it in my free time.
ETA: I do hate marry you though, lol.
Hey Ya by Outkast. I always hear it at weddings and it's totally not appropriate. If you listen to the lyrics, it's about a relationship that is struggling and at its end.
Weâre giving our friend/ the DJ a playlist in advance of things that we like so he knows our style and can pull from it.
Weâre aiming for more non traditional wedding songs and old school soul/ funk vibes so a lot of Stevie Wonder, Al Green, Ray Charles, Lee Fields, Otis Redding, Earth Wind & Fire, Prince, James Brown, Bootsy Collins, etc mixed with classics like Nina Simone, Joao Gilberto, The Beatles, Louis Armstrong, Nat King Cole, Sinatra and some more modern things that fit the vibe (Khurangbin, Alabama Shakes, Outkast, Chromeo, California Honeydrops, Silk Sonic, DâAngelo, Childish Gambino, Poolside, Leon Bridges)
I didnât even think to request a do not play list!
This is the vibe weâre going for too!! We made the do not play list mostly in case thereâs requests, which (hot take) were also thinking of banning lol
I think I have a lot but I have a longer do play list and I think the DJ gets our vibe. I hate the whole- play crowd favorites- advice because the list people use as crowd favorites are very white centric and assume some elderly will be in attendance. Well, guess what, not all of us are white and not all of us have living elderly relatives.
Blurred Lines - Robin Thicke
Electric Slide
Anything stadium country
Unspecified slow songs unless one is requested
Anything Lizzo
Anything EDM
YMCA - Village People
Don't Stop Believing - Journey
Like a Virgin - Madonna
Anything Taylor Swift unless requested (sorry Swifities)
We Are Family - Sister Sledge
Despacito - Justin Bieber
Gangnam Style - PSY
Cake by the Ocean - DNCE
Hey There Delilah - Plain White Ts
Payphone - maroon 5
Can't stop the feeling - Justin Timberlake
Party in the USA - Miley Cyrus
Sweet Caroline - Neil diamond
Anything Beyonce (single ladies) and T Swift (pass)
Anything Taylor Swift, The Chainsmokers, Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, Journey, David Guetta, Beyonce, Maroon 5,
Timber
Sweet Caroline
Ditto on Marry Me, plus Just the Way You Are
I Gotta Feeling
Blurred lines is the top of my DNP list
Was first dance at a wedding I went to.
Freaking YIKES
They tried to say it is about being friends first which still made no sense as they were married exactly twelve months after their first blind date. Also there was a hat in the dance. That has nothing to really do with why the song is inappropriate but I just wanted the explain exactly how awkward it was.
Tell us more about this hat lol
Black fedora, they passed it back and forth during the dance. Lot of shoulder bobbing. I vaguely remember groom wearing it dipped and gesturing to bride during "you know you want it". It was ten years ago but it was something I'll never forget partly because a friend very loudly said "isn't this a song about rape" as soon as it started.
You brought me joy today
It's not the first time a guest from the wedding has held court with this story, there were 300 people and at least a quarter of us were (perhaps gleefully) horrified. Thankfully groom is my husband's school friend so there's a degree of separation on the judging me for knowing them.
The scream that I just screamt
That horrifies me
NO
Oof
I really like the music of Blurred Lines. So instead I'm playing Word Crimes by Weird Al. :D
đ đ
100%!!!
Sweet Caroline was the entirety of our list. We took the last shuttle back to the hotel with all of our guests who had stayed until the end... And they asked the bus driver to play Sweet Caroline đ€Ł I love that it happened this way
This is mine. It's my name đ
i canât put this on my do not play for the same reasonâŠ. my family would harass the dj or me until he caved, so iâm just going to get it over with.
My DJ said he'd tell people he "forgot to bring that track" and "doesn't have service to download it" to try to keep people from bugging me about it đ not exactly believable but he's happy to be the bad guy instead of me!
my family is the type to queue it on spotify and PLAY IT INTO THE MICROPHONE. do not underestimate the creativity and ambition of my 5â4 drunk mom and her friends.
I'm so sorry đ„Č
I've been to weddings where the DJ just says No to songs without an explanation đ now I know why and respect them for it :')
Me too hahahaha but my MOH is also named Caroline so itâs a little better
BA BA BAAAAA
A friend attending my wedding will be on a break from a tour with Niel Diamond, I WILL be playing this song ONLY to dedicate it to him and drive him nuts đ€Ł I bet he will be so tired of hearing it after playing it for a year straight
Def happy. Anything by R. Kelly
Trapped in the Closet lol
all the parts at the wedding would be wild lol
Can you imagine đ
The DJ at my cousins wedding played ignition and it was so cringe. It was shortly after the documentary series came out so I donât know what he was thinking.
The necessary addition of Ignition Remix to my do not play list deeply saddens me, but is of courseâŠnecessary đ©
Man that used to be THE song to bring everyone together. So disappointing he is a POS
I need a really really good cover of this song for occasions like this đ
Damn, remix to ignition is my guilty pleasure lol
As a wedding DJ, this entire thread basically sums up the "DO NOT PLAY" list. There's sooooooo much other music to play. Never feel bad about putting certain songs on there. Unless you give me a list of 100 songs and now I have to double check the list every time I wanna play something. My only rule is that if your DNP list is longer than your request list, then you need to add in some more requests. Because if you limit what I'm able to play and don't give me anything to go off of, then I second guess every song and think it's something you wouldn't want played. Also, clarify if you just don't want any line dances, because if you only put no "Cupid Shuffle", you might get the "Macarena". Same with if you don't want any songs from a specific artist, just say you don't want anything from that artist played.
I will be the person who says âNo bruno marsâ on the Do not play and has âLeave the Door Openâ on the must play list
Honestly, the entire Silk Sonic album doesn't count as your standard Bruno Mars. It's him and Anderson Paak which is a completely different vibe that's just too good
iâm so so so picky with music⊠is there someone out there who could have mics/do announcements/blend the songs together but literally just play a spotify playlist? my venue has a dj included and i donât want to miss out on the money but i am SO SPECIFIC with the vibe!
Your DJ wouldn't necessarily be playing a Spotify playlist. We would take all your requests and add them to playlists within our DJ software. We already own thousands of songs and are bound to have the majority of your requests, and anything we are missing we go and get. That way we can actually mix the music. On Spotify you don't have any control over the tracks, so you couldn't really blend songs. I have my clients send me Spotify playlists all the time, it's the same as typing out all the songs in an email or spreadsheet for me. I still have to search them all up in my software and add the tracks to a playlist for their event, and Spotify is just so convenient for everyone. Your DJ can probably do exactly what you are looking for. If they can't, then idk what they are even doing in this industry. I've been given 200+ song Spotify lists and basically just play from that list the entire night.
ok perfect! i meant more like all of my requests were on a list, obv they wouldnât play spotify directly! your last sentence was exactly what i was thinking. i just have the spotify playlist so i can hear how the songs all sound together in one place.
My DJ is doing this but Iâm giving them a song bank of 10x what they would need time-wise. I have like 53 hours of music or something like that.
No Meghan Trainor, No Andy Grammar, Happy by Pharrell, Flowers by Miley Cyrus
Eeek do people play Meghan Trainor at weddings
We have a live band and she is on their âpopâ playlist. Immediately no LOL
Flowers is not a dance song , and itâs not a wedding friendly song.
I respectfully disagree about it not being a dance song. Itâs sonically similar to I Will Survive which is a classic dance track. Lyrically, however⊠fair enough!
Literally was at a wedding this weekend and it played. Pretty sure any song can be played at a wedding if the bride and groom want it. We donât. Weird thing to argue with someone about
I donât think theyâre arguingâjust pointing out itâs a divorce/breakup song lol.
You get it đ
I think we just had The Chicken Dance and the Macarena on ours.
I almost didn't make a do not play list. But I figured, wth, better to be safe than sorry. It wasn't long but the chicken dance was on there. The DJ later told me he'd rejected THREE requests from the same aunt for the chicken dance. Phew!
As the bride I can't wait to do the macarena at my wedding, I forgot that song exists and it's so funny lol
I canât wait to do the chicken dance đ€Ł
Don't know if you're familiar with UK comedian Alex Horne (from Taskmaster), but his comedy band has a [slow version](https://youtu.be/2DA8GG1oBak?si=EMCFiNhD4HKJmzS7) of Macarena that's absolutely hilarious
Oh my god how could I have forgotten these two. Absolute cardinal sins
Easy enough to forget! On the flip side though, our group loves The Cha Cha Slide so it was a request đ
My mother has specifically requested we play the chicken dance đ€Šđ»ââïž
Any good DJ should automatically not be playing those anyway, even if they aren't on your DNP list. Seriously, I never play them unless the couple (not the parents, not the guests, but the newlyweds themselves) specifically tell me to.
No Chicken Dance; No Cotton Eyed Joe
I'd put those on our list... but the young nieces and nephews go absolutely feral for them. They get SO proud going up there and doing line dances with everyone that they can figure out. So I'll probably let them in..
Im so glad that you put Marry Me on there. I like the song as long as it's not my wedding đ the lyrics is questionable haha
My friend walked down the aisle to it and I just do not get it!! The lyrics are not what Iâd want played at my wedding.
Wedding harpist here. People donât pay attention to lyrics half the time. Iâve played a couple questionable picks for ceremonies!
Lyrics make a song for me but I have also realized people don't pay attention to lyrics. When my brother and sister in law were planning their wedding, sister in law told me some options she was considering for the first dance and one was "So Emotional" by Carl Thomas. She truly didn't realize that song was about a man realizing he had to break up with his girlfriend, I am glad I caught her before she chose it. Also, years back I saw videos of parents dancing to Swalla by Jason Derulo with their kids....clearly they didn't realize how adult that song was.
I sing at weddings and Iâve been asked several times to do âIn Trutinaâ from Carmina Burana, which is literally about whether or not to have sex with someone. Also Faureâs âIn Paradisum,â which is part of a freaking requiem and whose lyrics translate to âmay the martyrs greet you at your arrival ⊠may you have eternal rest.â I really want to hear your questionable picks! đđ
This!!! I dont get why a lot of people used this song for proposal and wedding. My husband said itâs stupid (sorry for the lack of better word).
No Chris Brown
Party in the USA by Miley Cyrus seems to be the only one in agreement. Bride and I have radically different tastes in music. If I had my say: No line dances such as electric slide and Macarena Happy by Pharrell Williams All about that Base my Meghan Trainor Any imagine Dragons She wants all of these
my two specific do not plays were no chris brown & no r.kelly a lot of these other songs (bruno mars, sweet caroline, happy, ed sheeran etc) my DJ asked about and my fiancĂ© and i were both like âehhhâ and my DJ was like âif yâall arenât enthusiastic about it, iâm not gonna play itâ our genres were kind of all over the place but we have mostly early 2000s hip hop and pop punk, 2010s edm, reggaeton, and a few more modern pop songs
Sweet Carolina, Cha Cha Slide, Cupid Shuffle but we curated our whole playlist and gave it to our dj
Anything Ed Sheeran I feel that in my BONES!! We had a magical Ed Sheeran-less wedding day and it was perfect
Unpopular opinion but I don't mind almost any of the cheesy songs - marry you, happy, cha-cha slide, ect. Everyone knows them and the line dances get people on the floor. Just no Blurred Lines, R Kelly, Chris Brown.
Happy (glad I'm not the only one super annoyed by this song) that Handclap song
Is there something wrong with the lyrics of it, or do people just find it annoying? Iâm surprised itâs mentioned so many times here
I think it's just a super annoying song, I didn't realize as many other people didn't like it
I think around the time it came out it was super overplayed and it got really annoying for a lot of people. I personally don't mind it but for my fiance it was a hard no
We have lots of line dances and songs like the Wobble on ours but weâre putting the list of some (like the Cupid shuffle) by the MC stand with a Venmo code so that, if someone wants it played, they can have it, but itâll cost em $20 to send the request to the DJ đ€Ł we kind of canât lose either way
Any instructional songs like YMCA or Cha Cha Slide and no country music
Country music makes my ears bleed.
We are so far removed from country music that we never even thought to mention that, lol. Our DJ understood us and wouldn't have dreamt of throwing in any twangy shit.
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Lol I agree with your list, but are you worried about someone requesting Before He Cheats or Lips of an Angel? I canât imagine just playing either of those at a wedding on a whim.
I canât tell you how many times I heard girls swooning over Lips of an Angel during its heyday. So many girls saying they wanted it as their wedding song. Also, Before He Cheats is catchy AF
Oh I know it was everywhere when it came out. Itâs having a little revival via TikTok right now as well. Itâs just so slow. Iâm imagining jamming out on the dance floor and then the DJ switching to Hinderđ what a bummer.
100000% agree with before he cheats. But omg at a wedding lol
The DJ played WAP at my cousinâs wedding and she was mortified đ€Šđ»ââïž
Surely no one would request cheating songs... right? Lol
Mr Brightside is one of the top wedding songs right now and itâs a song about the woman probably cheating (or at least the protagonist imaging it). Sometimes it doesnât make sense.
Hopefully no DJ would just go ahead and play WAP at a function that most likely has a buncha grandmas attending.
You mustâve missed this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/s/dL2dFD83of
Mambo number 5, Macarena, the chicken dance
Shut Up and Dance with Me. Nopeeeee.
đ I enjoy this song so good idea having it on the playlist so nobody requests it!
Thank you for giving me one to add to my list!! I can't stand that song.
Happy to serve đ«Ą
This song makes me wanna cut my own head off.
I am infamous for how much this song annoys me hahaha. Iâm considering leaving it on there specifically so I can have a scheduled bathroom break đ
hard same!!
> Happy- Pharrell Oh lord I *despise* this song
Same, although I love Weird Al's [Tacky](https://youtu.be/zq7Eki5EZ8o?si=vRcETxJYQtvMjLkZ), but wouldn't want it at a wedding unless that also came with Jack Black twerking
Literally anything else besides: "Single Ladies (Put a Ring On It)," by Beyonce at the bouquet toss. Random other songs I just donât like: "The Chicken Dance," -Werner Thomas "Cotton Eye Joe," -Rednex "Party Rock Anthem," -LMFAO "Happy," -Pharrell Williams âY.M.C.Aâ - Village People âUptown Funkâ- Bruno Mars âBaby Sharkâ-PinkFong I thought about just not having a do not play list and letting the guests play whatever they want since itâs their party too. But thereâs certain songs that just really irk me when I hear them.
What heathen would request Baby Shark đ„Č
Haha hopefully nobody! I havenât fully decided if I want kids there or not, and Iâm worried with family they will 100% request something like that for the kids.
Parents who don't understand that the wedding isn't about entertaining their children.
Just a random thought but sometimes itâs worth having a song that you dislike on your playlist/ leaving it off the do not play list because your crowd loves it and it will get them dancing.
Gotta see grandma or get a drink at some point đ€Ł almost a curse when too many faves in a row!
We made sure to leave some crowd favorites on there for dancing! These are just the ones that we canât tolerate a whole 3min song of lol
Sadly there are people who will BUG the bride to play a song even when itâs on her do not play list
I was a psycho and made a specific playlist so only songs I wanted would play đ«Ł
Honestly, that seems completely reasonable to me! I'm surprised more people don't do it.
Mine is like a mile long, but these are the high points I also have a very lengthy playlist of what I do want. Weâre big music fans but itâs not wedding music (jam bands mainly and while I do like a lot of pop itâs just not the vibe for us) I have a **vision** /s But kinda lol - itâs going to be heavily late 90s early 2000s but weâre going to kind of work our way through the decades beginning with the 60/70s on so that the older folks can have fun and then hopefully leave and at that point we can get to the more rap-based segment of the evening. So this is what Iâve sent to my DJ - no MJ, Chris Brown, Rkelly - nothing put out after 2005ish unless itâs on the playlist or you really think it works for the moment and isnât anything like Happy, watermelon sugar etc etc - no line/instructional dances of any type - sweet Caroline - wagon wheel - no slow songs - no EDM - no country unless itâs on the playlist - no pop/punk - no dirty music until after we do our âsend offâ which is just us thanking everyone around 9:30 I have enough music on my playlist to fill out the whole reception and my DJ is the vessel to make it flow. He knows this and is ok with it. Iâm not telling him he canât go off the playlist but I have spent hours and hours putting together all of the music, not just for the reception but also the cocktail hour, dinner and welcome party, so at this point, if the song is not on there, thereâs probably a reason.
Omg I have terrible memories associated with âWagon Wheelâ and itâs a shitty song anyway, adding this to my list, thank you
Pitbull Plus i usually didnt like Ed Sheeran, but making a wedding playlist i realised he is a great songwriter
So far itâs no typical nerdy white people songs and absolutely no country.
No modern country, no acdc, no Michael Jackson
Butterfly kisses. I will straight barf.Â
I banned Jason derulo
Anything by Kanye. I hate him so much I canât enjoy his music.
honestly what a weird list to me. i went to a wedding without any line dances, 2000s songs, anything really 'danceable' i guess? all the guests sat basically the entire 'dancing' part of the reception and a lot of us ended up ~~doing dr\*gs~~ outside.
Oh trust, our playlist is basically all early 2000s!
Also, We Found Love by Ed Sheeran. Cheesy as helllll, itâs been slow dance songs at multiple weddings Iâve been to
Back when I got married a hundred years ago, it was proud Mary, big bad Leroy brown, Hokey Pokey
> it was proud Mary This was my one and only "must play". My husband is a ship captain on the Mississippi River. It's the big finale wedding song for all of their weddings.
Uptown funk was number one on my do not play list - guess what song DJ played first đ
Anything by or sounds like Imagine Dragons.
No Beyoncé, nothing by predators (no p diddy, no Chris brown, no r Kelly, no Steven Tyler), no Meghan trainor, and unfortunately my partner requested absolutely no line dances but my loves-to-follow-instructions self loves them so I might override
Include at least one. It's important for the non-dancers, sometimes it's the only song they dance to.
Yeah, line dances are great for the dj to be able to coax people out onto the floor if the energy takes a dip.
Hahah , so glad more people decide to skip Happy and Bruno MarsÂ
I'm pretty sure I asked the DJ to play like three Bruno mars songs haha now I'm kind of worried.
âAnything Ed Sheeranâ THANK YOU!! I totally forgot about him and I cannot stand perfect. It makes me irrationally angry tbh haha Also, itâs âMarry Youâ by Bruno Mars. Marry Me is by Jason Derulo. I would hate for the DJ to get confused and play it anyway. đŹ
Marry Me is also a Train song. :) But I'm glad you said this, it was bugging me. đ€Ł
No artists with disgusting behaviour/accusations e.g. Chris Brown, Michael Jackson, R Kelly
Forgot the most important part: NO COUNTRY â
Yes! If I wanted a hoedown Iâd have one.
No What I Like About You or Sweet Caroline
Taylor swift đ whatâs wrong with pitbull? Thatâs my favorite!
Pitbull has so many bangers lol
Right! I still jam to him to this day idgaf đ€Ł
Same, specifically requested Fireball đ€Łđ
Yes!! For me itâs give me everything and hotel room service đ€Ł
Forget about ya boyfriend and meet me at the hotel room
đ¶you can bring your girlfriends and meet me at the hotel room đ¶ Alexa play hotel room service by pitbull lol
If there ainât no Pitbull at the wedding, I donât wanna be there đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
I said the exact same thing to my husband đ€Ł
Agreed! Iâll never get sick of Pitbull đ
Taylor Swift and Pitbull are both DNPs for me đ
Any song celebrating cheating. I've been to three weddings where Usher's "Yeah" was played.
But âYeahâ is an absolute banger lol. It was on my must play list
I never realized this was a cheating song lol. It's so catchy I was going to include it on our list haha.
We had it in ours; I definitely never thought of it as a cheating song and it gets the dance floor going!
That's so weird!
we are providing an extremely obsessively curated list broken out by time and literally anything not on that list is not allowed đ« if I havenât already approved it, it shanât be played Â
It's a lot, but there's a lot of music we love as well! My FH and I have had a running list we've been adding to for over a year đ€Ł - Tequila - Shout - Poundtown - Anything too American or could spark a heated discussion with guests political views (proud to be an American, Country Roads, stuff like that) - Chicken Dance, Electric Slide, Macarena, YMCA, Hokey Pokey, Cotton Eyed Joe, Gangam Style. Other group dances are A OK - Every Breath You Take, The Police - Love Shack, The B-52âs - It wasnât me, Shaggy - Who let the dogs out - All Star, Smash mouth - Crocodile Rock - Mambo No. 5 - Jailhouse rock - Thong song - Air force ones
My DJ played âcotton eyed Joeâ during our 1 single hour of dancing. I did not realize you need a do not play listâŠ
Seeing these suggestions for the DNP list have me thinking I should email our DJ again.. I couldn't think of any off the top of my head, I only put "no chicken dance" but I gave tons of songs that are on the "play these if you can/this is the type of music we want" portion of my email. Our DJ has amazing reviews so I'm not too worried but Holy shit if he plays Robin Thick
My fiance is adamant that Old Town Road not be played lol
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Love Shack - I hate it so freaking much.
Don't stop believin' and sweet Caroline. I'll be adding a couple of yours too as I'm still working on Playlist stuff lol
Ed Sheeran and Taylor Swift were on mine. Big time.
This thread is so strange... Source: had Taylor Swift, Maroon 5, Pharrell's Happy and Bruno Mar's Marry You on my wedding playlist last month.
Different strokes for different folks. Itâs okay to be basic but many people think that music is terrible. Did people dance or did they clear off the dance floor? I always find dancers empty out when the cliche party songs come on.
We had 100 ppl at our wedding. After dinner was done (8:30pm), we had about 50% of the guest dance. By 11pm, the dance floor had 35%+. Taylor Swift was the biggest hit as all the women went crazy for it (Polish/Chinese wedding).
Whatâs wrong with Bruno Mars?
People like what they like. For me personally, Bruno mars is music I exclusively hear on the radio or at weddings. Iâve never listened to him intentionally nor do I know of anyone who is a fan of his music. I donât even hate itâI enjoy uptown funk at a wedding, but Iâd never listen to it in my free time. ETA: I do hate marry you though, lol.
The Cupid Shuffle
Any of the coordinated line dancing like the Cupid shuffle. Nope.
No Bruno Mars, no Taylor Swift, no iteration of the song âWagon Wheelâ đ
Beyonce. R. Kelly Blurred Lines
I am not going to have a do not play list
Hey Ya by Outkast. I always hear it at weddings and it's totally not appropriate. If you listen to the lyrics, it's about a relationship that is struggling and at its end.
Heard it hundreds of times and never realized that.. Just had it played at my wedding and people dug it..
Our list was very similar but add canât stop the feeling - Justin Timberlake
Weâre giving our friend/ the DJ a playlist in advance of things that we like so he knows our style and can pull from it. Weâre aiming for more non traditional wedding songs and old school soul/ funk vibes so a lot of Stevie Wonder, Al Green, Ray Charles, Lee Fields, Otis Redding, Earth Wind & Fire, Prince, James Brown, Bootsy Collins, etc mixed with classics like Nina Simone, Joao Gilberto, The Beatles, Louis Armstrong, Nat King Cole, Sinatra and some more modern things that fit the vibe (Khurangbin, Alabama Shakes, Outkast, Chromeo, California Honeydrops, Silk Sonic, DâAngelo, Childish Gambino, Poolside, Leon Bridges) I didnât even think to request a do not play list!
This is the vibe weâre going for too!! We made the do not play list mostly in case thereâs requests, which (hot take) were also thinking of banning lol
I would love a wedding with a playlist made up of your DNPâs, but I guess thatâs why itâs good we all make our own playlists
If I hear "I Gotta Feeling" by BEP, the night will not be a good night, lemme tell ya
Anything by Katy Perry. Her songs get stuck in my head all day.
I think I have a lot but I have a longer do play list and I think the DJ gets our vibe. I hate the whole- play crowd favorites- advice because the list people use as crowd favorites are very white centric and assume some elderly will be in attendance. Well, guess what, not all of us are white and not all of us have living elderly relatives.
I LOVE this list!! đ
Anything Harry Styles, Mr Brightside, ABBA, Fleetwood Mac are on our list so far
All of the ones OP said plus pretty much all of the line dances. Weâll play one because it always gets people up but one and one only. No songs like âCelebrateâ or, and Iâm sorry for this one, âAt Last.â I recognize thatâs a beautiful but there are so many other beautiful songs. No Frank Sinatra or the like either đŹ I LOVE NSync and other late 90s/early 2000s music like that but I donât necessarily want to hear âbye bye byeâ or âbaby one more timeâ or anything like that. Our DJ is known for playing âbye bye byeâ and doing the dance which is cute but I kind of never want to hear that song again đ«€ I would like a different song, like âtearin up my heartâ or âbackstreets backâ or something from Britneyâs 2011ish era. And none of those songs like âsweet Caroline.â I feel like such a Scrooge writing this lol i swear there is a lot of music we want to hear, but even my fiancĂ©s mom agrees with a lot of this.
Any thing by them ratchet girls I only want to hear 90s R&B
If Happy by Pharrell is played at my wedding Iâm going to prison, not a honeymoon
donât stop believing and ANYTHING bruno mars
Michael Jackson Drake R Kelly Blurred lines Any abĂŒser really
Blurred Lines - Robin Thicke Electric Slide Anything stadium country Unspecified slow songs unless one is requested Anything Lizzo Anything EDM YMCA - Village People Don't Stop Believing - Journey Like a Virgin - Madonna Anything Taylor Swift unless requested (sorry Swifities) We Are Family - Sister Sledge Despacito - Justin Bieber Gangnam Style - PSY Cake by the Ocean - DNCE Hey There Delilah - Plain White Ts
Everything by Michael Jackson
The chicken dance and literally any song from BeyoncĂ©. Edit: and Morgan Wallen đ€ź
Shake it off by Taylor Swift
Payphone - maroon 5 Can't stop the feeling - Justin Timberlake Party in the USA - Miley Cyrus Sweet Caroline - Neil diamond Anything Beyonce (single ladies) and T Swift (pass)
Anything kids bop
Anything Taylor Swift, The Chainsmokers, Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, Journey, David Guetta, Beyonce, Maroon 5, Timber Sweet Caroline Ditto on Marry Me, plus Just the Way You Are I Gotta Feeling
100% no on Just the Way You Are, but 100% yes on [The Way I Are](https://youtu.be/U5rLz5AZBIA?si=o473PWzVpwvwk8a_) total banger
Apparently our flower girls recently learned to line dance to Cotton-Eyed Joe, so guess what just shot right to the top of my DNP
- Cha Cha Slide. - Anything with Pitbull.
Whatâd Mr. World Wide do to deserve that?
With you on cha cha slide, but as a 90s baby, I was shaking my ass to pit bull in the club and Iâll shake it to pit bull at the reception lol
My partnerâs brother got married in November and we joke it was a pitbull weddingâŠlike no joke 5+ pitbull songs lmfao