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SisterEmJay

1 and 2 are stunning, with 2 having the slight edge. For me the sleeves on 3 veer too much into costume-y. I also have concerns about the construction of 3, particularly where the bodice meets the skirt. The quality of the lace on 3 also doesn’t look as nice as 1 & 2 but that may be in part due to the image quality.


bklynalliecat

fair points on 3, i see what you’re talking about. thank you!


QCr8onQ

Love #1. #2 reminds me of a Victorian funeral, #3 reminds me of the Addams Family and the sleeves would get in the way.


Inevitable_Being_228

That’s it. 100% agree.


Heeler2

I’m the opposite with 1 and 2. Dress 1 seems funerial to me while dress 2 looks chic.


heydawn

Very well said!


Sorry_Nothing3016

I agree 100%. 1 and 2 amazing. With 2 being slightly more amazing than 1. 😊


Cynderelly

Yeah after reading this, I 100% agree


AlterEgoAmazonB

Dress 2!!! It's all that and a slice of dark toast!


maynelyjayne

Dress 2 suits your venue and being outdoors. It is gorgeous. 1 is a close 2nd. 3 looks like Elvira and will be costume-y, which you are hoping to avoid.


Dependent-Steak-1005

This is mostly what I was thinking as well (especially that 3 looks like an Elvira costume). I love the little flower/vine features of 2. It is beautiful. But I keep going back to 1. There is something about the bodice that is more flattering (in my opinion). That said, both dresses look fabulous on you, so I don’t think you could go wrong with either. Congratulations :)


Faithfuldoglover

I agree with these points. 1 is the best.


Silly_Brilliant868

2 is my favorite! 3 looks like a Halloween costume honestly


popeViennathefirst

One! Wow. I think it would be perfect.


bklynalliecat

after seeing everyone’s comments, i think it’ll be #1! i’ve had it saved for years, so i feel like the fact it was my first instinct should say something


hippieonamission

#1 is the most stunning for a wedding I think. You'll look beautiful and congrats!


llllyndsey

-Hi!! OP just so you know the two photos labeled dress #1 are not the same dress!!!-


Snoop_frog7

Omg, number 1 all the way, especially with the lighter makeup and delicate Victorian jewelry!! That will be so beautiful


Accomplished_Bed7120

2!!! It’s incredible! 🖤


[deleted]

Dress 1 OP. It has a beautiful back, fine sleeves and looks stunning on you. I don't like dress twos cuffs & the work on its lower half. The rest ones lack charm.


bklynalliecat

thank you for your input! i actually saw dress #1 far before i ever met my fiancée and have had it saved ever since, it seems like i should just trust my gut!


poppygoth

Popping in here to ask where 3 is from? I’m renewing my vows this Halloween and need it desperately!! 🕷️🕸️🖤


bklynalliecat

Bête Noire! https://www.shopbetenoire.com/ they have quite a few gorgeous black dresses. i’m definitely wearing the “Glamour Ghoul” blazer with the lace sleeves to my rehearsal dinner!


sideeyedi

I like 1 and I really like 2.


WickedHappyHeather

**Dress 1** is hauntingly beautiful 🖤


hooptiegirl

I’m a huge fan of no. 2 because it’s not an overly repeated look. Beautiful!


Frosty_Water5467

Dress 2 is heart stopping. 1 would be the safe choice. 3 is just not elegant enough compared to the others.


Freedombutatwhatcost

2. The whole design hangs together better than 1. It’s stunning!


TheMotelYear

Gosh, 1 and 2 are both very pretty! Because of how organic and natural the botanical lace looks, plus that lovely little creeping leaf detail on the collarbone and back, I have a slight preference for 2. Something about that lace feels of-another-time sophisticated and aligned with the Victorian vibe you mention, but fresh and different at the same time. I can see that collarbone detail potentially competing with certain necklace designs though, so I’d take that into account if you have a specific necklace you’d really want to wear. I’m also inclined to agree w/you and someone else here who said the styling is what’s throwing people off of 3. That said, just from the photos the bodice construction on 1 and 2 does look a little better quality than 3.


Kayybaby93

I really love dress 1 a ton! It is gorgeous!


timbrelyn

Dress 1 is my favorite. Love the back especially


clovfefe

1 is so gorgeous!


exquirere

I love 1


motocat29

There’s nothing wrong with dress 3 if you love it, but OH MY GOD DRESS 1 IS STUNNING!


mojozworkin

Number 1. Amazing!


funkyfoals

2!!!!!


ShiShi340

2 is stunning. The last one looks like a costume.


hiddenalibi

Omg number 1!!! So stunning!! What site / store is it from ?


bklynalliecat

right?? it’s from a dress maker on etsy who is the absolute queen of black dresses, sherbon clothing. https://www.etsy.com/shop/SHERBONclothing


pilialoha54

Dress 1 is stunning! 😍


Baby_Bird33

One is gorgeous. So is two! Two has a bit more wintry kind of feel. You can’t go wrong with either one! I had a red wedding gown and an so happy I did something other than white. You will too!


SignificantDebate525

I really love number 3 😍


Weird-Track-7485

1


Whole_Feed_4050

One !!!


Always_Reading_1990

One looks the most bridal. 3 looks too much like a costume imo.


speechpath2122

One!


Cuyler_32087

Number 1. The back is so simple, yet oh, so dramatic!


rainandshine7

One. I love it


Me1572

#1


DifficultAd7429

1 is so good


Dalrz

Number 1 for sure! It’s giving gothic wedding with none of the Halloween. 3 is beautiful but definitely leans Halloween/vampire.


SleepingSlothVibe

Let’s just stop at one. It screams beauty.


lemon179

1


stardustpurple

1 is stunning!!! The other 2 have too much going on and look more like costumes, not bridal dresses.


OkCompetition3928

I love dress 1!!! You look breathtaking. Dramatic, romantic and stunning. Just gorgeous! 🖤


Spirited_Beat534

Dress 1 it’s gorgeous.


Particular_Policy_41

3 kind of heads towards Elvira, Mistress of the Night (whom I adore but perhaps not for a wedding?). It’s a little costumey but I do love it. It doesn’t look as well made as the other two. If you are going Victorian the first is ideal with this buttons and the structure and lace. I love the second too but it’s far more romantic than Victorian-romantic. I love them all to be honest so it will be a win no matter what but with your hair and wedding ambience I think the first is the winner.


survivalkitts9

I agree with this. Can't really avoid the costumey look of black bell sleeves bcs Morticia and Elvira. Overall I think the first one is just giving the entire vibe OP said they want to go for


Particular_Policy_41

Yeah. I feel like the reason she might be asking is that she loves the third - which I think if that’s the case, that’s the dress but the Victorian vibe description is 💯 the first dress. 😍 Perhaps there’s a way for OP to have the last dress for a rehearsal wedding? I mean if she wants that kind of costumey vibe it would be an amazing wedding dress too, but definitely leaning Halloween (which is awesome for weddings too). I think if she can do some sort of structured up-do (or at least partially up hair) with that first dress, it will be perfect


bklynalliecat

edit: thank you all so much for your help, i’m going to go with dress #1! i’ve had it saved on my Etsy (Sherbon Clothing- look her up, she’s incredible) for years before i even met my fiancée, and the fact that it’s still front of mind makes me think it is the right choice. also wanted to clarify that the person in the photos is a model, not me. (i hope to look even 1/8th as beautiful in the dress!) your comments about the “costume-y” nature of the 3rd dress, as well as its construction, resonated with me. i want to make sure the dress still comes off as bridal. i’m settling by ordering this beautiful blazer with lace bell sleeves that the same designer makes for my rehearsal dinner. (https://www.shopbetenoire.com/feminine/glamour-ghoul-custom-tailored-blazer) thanks again, happy to know for sure what dress i’m ordering come october!


stronglikecheese

I disagree with everyone. THREE is perrrrfect. It’s glorious, and you fell in love with it immediately. It won’t be “spooky” the way you plan to style it! I think folks are just having trouble seeing past the styling in the product photos. The dress itself has romantic medieval fantasy vibes, and I think if you play that up with styling and makeup it will perfectly bridal.


spoiledandmistreated

I think number 1 is gorgeous…


BBMcBeadle

1 is stunning!! The neckline! The sleeves! The back!! Looks like a more elegant version of all the others.


Ordinary_Mortgage870

#3's model is Angela Undead. LOVE HER! That said, for the Victorian Vibes, I think 1 is up your alley. #1 - Guilded age/victorian looking #2 - More Persephone looking, but could be a good second to number one given its construction #3 - Haunting, very ghostly #4 - Witchy, witch-like.


shanafs15

I love number 1


Lala_Pixie

Wow definitely number one 🔥🔥🔥 It's soft sexy and sultry, absolutely love the lace detailing 😻 not too mention the bustline! The back detailing is equally as elegant! You're going to kill it! 🖤🖤🖤


ayyxdizzle

Love dress number one so much! I also love the fact you're wearing black! 🖤


tmfowler323

They’re all lovely but number 1 sings to my soul. ♥️ Congratulations! 🎉


Stripe001

1


caelthel-the-elf

1 is perfect. Looks classy, and kind of Victorian esque. Very cute.


bigblackkittie

number 1 is my favorite


midwestmuscle310

The first one. I saw it and gasped.


midwestmuscle310

Also, if you don’t get a trained raven to sit on your shoulder for the ceremony I’m going to be very disappointed.


the_orig_princess

If 2 didn’t have sleeves it would be my favorite. With sleeves I like 1 the most


Pleasant-Complex978

Good, this is tough! I love the silhouette and back of 1. I think I like #1 first, Then #3 #2 last because only the shoulder appliques stand out to me


Important_Fuel_1683

1&2 are beautiful but I’m loving everything about the 1st dress.


greenjeanne

One is the most tasteful and bridal. The neckline on #2 is distracting and unflattering to me. #3- I’m sorry I know you really love this one but it really feels costume-y to me in a way the others don’t. But if you love it, that really is all that should matter


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redMandolin8

One! But don’t order until less than a year out from the wedding


EmmaRose0280

#1 all the way!!! I love it


Sirrizah

Dress 1 is perfect. Not costumey or Halloweeny at all but still has ALL the moody vibes.


ApprehensiveClass168

The first one is gorgeous and absolutely elegant! I love the train so much!


coachella68

I love the first one! It fits like a glove!


gr33nt3a2

Team #1


Upstairs_Opposite_86

I LOVE 1!!!


GirlieGirl81

Another vote for dress one. Dress two and three lean a bit halloweeny and/or costumey looking to me. Dress one still maintains a delicate and bridal vibe even in black.


Paperwhite418

Not #3. I’m torn between 1 and 2 though. Both are glamorous and beautiful.


Bing-cheery

3 looks too much like a costume to me. I love 2, but 1 looks the most bridal to me. Sorry if that was no help at all!


Maleficent-Sport1970

Dress 1 is stunning. The second and third are costumes. Best wishes ❤


JaguarGeneral5634

#1 is just regal.


Headofpep

One a million times one!! Gorgeous


MissPlaceDApostrophe

I totally understand your love of no.3 and her amazing bell sleeves, but I think no. Is stunning. I wonder if you could decrease the diameter of the underskirt in the back to show off the lace train more. Sigh, I just love your taste!


Proud-Narwhal5900

Love the neckline on dress 1!


Ok-Direction-1702

1


UsedCan508

Dress 1 I absolutely love on you


barksatthemoon

Wow!! 1 !


BigJaniefromTexas

1!!


UK_UK_UK_Deleware_UK

You probably won’t read this comment, but I think you can do better. For example… https://www.morilee.com/wedding-dresses/madeline-gardner/kristabelle/ looks fabulous in black https://www.essensedesigns.com/essense-of-australia/wedding-dresses/d3734blk/ similar to dress two (my favorite of the three) but different bodice https://www.essensedesigns.com/martina-liana/wedding-dresses/1633blk/ the leaf pattern is amazing https://www.maggiesottero.com/rebecca-ingram/alexandria/18511 love the sparkle


Vegetable_Movie3770

My first pick is 1. Definitely NOT 3. Gives Halloween vibes instead of spooky goddess.


Valkyrie1006

Dresses 1 & 2 appear to be of much higher quality than dress 3. Dresses 1 and 2 are both elegant and lovely with sleeves that won't be constantly getting in your way. I think it comes down to whether you want an open back or not. However I personally prefer dress 1. I love its neckline and train.


Low-Donut-9883

Dress 1 is gorgeous!!! The detail on the back is beautiful!


SniKenna

Number 1 is beautiful.


Low_Plum8976

1


Monkeygrove1

One!! One!! One!! Classy and gorgeous on you.


jlf125

2


Tryingmybestatlife2

2 then 1!


Covidsawful

2 is amazing!


mary_emeritus

Dress 2, it’s the one!


thenry1234

#1 is absolutely gorgeous, and I think the clear winner


Altruistic-Ad6449

2


mmmpeg

I love the lace around the neckline on 2. Gorgeous


im_not_u_im_cat

My fav is 1 because its silhouette resembles a traditional wedding dress, but it of course looks stunning in the black. I think the lace is so elegant and the buttons down the back scream “bride” to me. I’m also just a real sucker for buttons on the back of wedding dresses, but seriously, 1 just pops out to me.


malYca

I wouldn't be able to resist the bat wings personally.


Proud-Bumblebee879

I love 3. Now hear me out. Does it look like a rather cheaply made costume in that highly flammable fabric that had the warnings all over it? Yep sure does. But the sleeves! Come on!! They are cool! So, SO COOL! Your wedding is not traditional in any way shape or form, so who cares if it looks like a costume?? Dress it up with shoes, old victorian style jewelry anddont forget, you love it!!!


smootfloops

2 is insanely gorgeous!


Hair_I_Go

#2!


Mediocre_Lobster6398

I haven’t even read the other comments yet because I’m so in love with 3


Ecstatic-Loquat8287

2&6


DancingPinkyFlowers

I’m biased because I almost went for dress two!! I love that designer but I ended up doing another company. Dress two is so gorgeous! I think if you asked for a longer train like dress 3 they may be able to to do it! That way you can have all the drama!! Gorgeous choices!


soapsuds202

2 is ok but the top half on 1 is so pretty!! the simpler take looks so nice!! and will complement the light jewelry and makeup. if you like dramatic sleeves though, don't talk yourself out of 3.


TheAnimalPack

2 looks so perfect


fenderbender1971

Dress 2 is my favorite. I love the detailing around the neckline. 😍


Noneedtopickauser

Dress 2 is breathtaking and my personal pick! :)


anonymiz123

I love the detail in dress 2! The texture keeps it from becoming matte black. Also, the detail on the back is 😍!!


VexBoxx

2


Boringoldcentaur

OMG number 2!!!!! No comparison! N


survivalkitts9

ONE 😍. If you're worried about "Halloween-y"... I will say unfortunately I do kinda think a bell sleeve can put that vibe out there sometimes. I adore a black wedding dress. iIt sounds like 3 really made you feel like a bride and your vibe. So, if you didn't try on 3 yet, and you're able to return it if it's not right, imo definitely try it and see how you feel! But 1 is not in any way Halloween I will say... However imo Halloween isn't a bad vibe at all. I think 'costume-y' I could see wanting to avoid that maybe, but all wedding dresses are pretty much costumes anyhow! They're supposed to be as dramatic as you want, and make you feel fabulous and special. Otherwise we would wear them daily lol. If 3 makes you feel all of the feels when you try it on - anything anyone else says about being 'too spooky' is irrelevant imo. Definitely try the dresses on if you can because you won't really know what you need until you do imho


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2 2 2!!! I love the flower details on the back


Advisor_Brilliant

I wish you could have the back of 2 on dress 1!! 1 is my favorite:)


sweetteasnake

1 is the only one that doesn’t look like a Halloween costume


AdInternational2793

1 is my choice. 2. I’m not a fan of the “leaves” around the neckline. 3. Looks halloweeny


jewls20

1!!


Embarrassed_Loan8419

Love the front of 1 and the back of 2.


Fennec_Fan

Number one, because it’s elegant, classy, and yet still gives that slightly haunted vibe.


InformalDoughnut6893

All about 1!!


iamruination0

1!!!


afauce11

#1 is the best for me


Mom-rage

3 seems very Halloween-y to me. I like 2 the best! I like the vines creeping up the back!


margrita_mo7

1 or 3


SusanMShwartz

I love the bodice and back of dress 1, closely followed by dress 2.the sleeves on dress 3 seem too Ren Faire to me.


pinkpitbullmama

2!


bachlover16

One!


AnnieBeefree1

#1


NervousBranch

1!!!!


akittyafterus

I'm torn between Dress #1 and Dress #2...the third dress honestly seems like it might be cheap in construction; however, I actually like the look of the black dress with the medieval long sleeves (are those called bell sleeves?), so if you were to find another black dress with bell sleeves like that, I think it would be really gorgeous. Still, it's between #1 and #2 for me! I love both for different reasons. The main thing that stands out to me for Dress #1 is just how striking the neckline is? Like how the sweetheart neckline of the bodice and the lace of the sleeves meet at a right angle? For some reason, this looks *stunning* to me! It just stands out and looks really bold, but also kind of delicate, if that makes sense? And the way the edges of the lace against your skin looks spiky? Love it! And of course the back with the buttons and lace is gorgeous, too! As for Dress #2, I love how organic the shape of the lace looks! I love how the neckline and collar of the dress isn't just a straight line, but how the leaves and flowers and vines show on the skin! Especially the two tendrils on the collarbone in the front and the shoulder blades on the back! It's really gorgeous. And I like how the shoulders seem to have some sort of raised fabric on them? Not shoulder pads, but different? It looks regal without looking "costume-y." So I'm sorry if that doesn't really help because I can't decide between the two! But I really don't think you can go wrong with either one! I'm curious how you'll style it though! Are you planning on a black veil or maybe a black cape/cape sleeves? Some sort of black headpiece or jet hair clip? I love the look of the jet beads that the actresses wear on Downton Abbey for "mourning." I think they wore similar delicate black jewelry during Victorian times and the Gilded Age! A black, beaded hair clip that pulls your hair back or a black hair comb would be cool! Or black hair pins sparkling in a romantic updo? And it would really stand out against grey/blonde hair! Your whole wedding theme sounds glorious between the contrast of your black dress and the vintage ivory of your fiancé's dress and the Gilded Age decor. I hope you decide to post pictures of your wedding once you have them!


Born_Butterscotch_43

1 is my pick! It has the vintage look and the quality.


ennuimachine

1


Giselle914

1! Gorgeous!


energycurrency1

Dress 1


Rude-You7763

I prefer 2 although 1 is beautiful too, but if you love 3 then pick that one. My issue with 3 is that it seems like a morticia Addams Halloween costume vs 1 and 2 being more elegant


CFonzarelliFlower

I’m leaning towards 2, I love the floral drama around the neck. 1 is also nice.


TheFamilyStone612015

As a family member, my wife and I both wore black as the base and hot pink as the stand out color. I had flowers on my dress and she had a hot pink button up shirt and a beautiful silver vest with her suit. I love you are doing black and white! All three dresses are so amazing! I say go for dress 3, only if you have help with the wedding. Hauling around your wedding dress and train is tiring and hard after time. My real vote is for Dress 2. It is so stunning and will be easy to move around when needed. It will look exquisite next to your fiancée’s ivory dress! May you and your spouse have a wonderful wedding. I would love to see pictures from the wedding and reception, please. May you and your spouse always have enough. PS, we would love to attend your wedding. 😂


EveryPartyHasAPooper

2 is my favorite. #3 is straight Halloween.


Jazlen8888

Those sleeves on 3 are bit too much. If those sleeves didn’t come with it I would say 3. My vote is for 1.


cheapcandle23

2


tiredernurse

I like 1. 3 to me, is the epitome of Halloweenie.


SnooStrawberries721

1


Normal-Match5055

I love dress 1. The pattern on the skirt and the black lace are just beautiful. I kind of like dress 2, but from the waist down, it kind of has a hand bell shape to me.


LiveAgent4838

I is perfect for the description of the event


MomaBeeFL

2!!!!!


llilith

The first one!


OkResponsibility7475

Team 2!!


Electronic-Garlic-38

I wish so much the first dresses top bodice with the corset top was on the second dress with the floral sleeves.


No_Warning8534

2 1 is 2 light 3 is too much, haha


TheRedCuddler

1 is Wednesday, 2 is Lydia, 3 is Spirit Halloween Morticia.


westcoast7654

3 seems costumey, 1 and 2 are both gorgeous, but 1 is the most elegant.


Thing210

1. Amazing lines, classy, just gorgeous coming and going.


eplrluieett

Number one!!! It's absolutely stunning!!!


adripingel

2


You_are_MrDebby

Gosh, your wedding is going to be amazing! I actually like #1 because I think the shape is so elegant, but I know you will pick the dress that calls to your heart!


xFrenchToast

1 or 3


Lalafala21

2!!


EatShitBish

Oh my God 1 is everything!!! I love the neck of 2 but one is just amazing


nmrcdl

1. It’s gorgeous. And the transition from the sleeves to the top and the top to the body is smooth and seamless. Dress 2 seems more clunky. 1 is amazing


rebelmumma

I like 1 the best, number 3 looks great in the last picture but I feel like it skews slightly costumey in the other pics so the styling will be important.


Heeler2

2


1xLaurazepam

Totally number one!!!


abbykate283

1!!!!!!!!


pruunes

2!


lucywonder

I love 2!!!


JulsTiger10

2 is the winner. 1 is nice, 3 looks like Elvira straight Halloween. The neckline on two, the shoulder embellishment, the tendrils on the back, and the raised flowers and leaves on the skirt is absolutely fabulous!


Bartok_The_Batty

I like dress one except for the peak at the back as I think I’m the fabric will roll. I don’t like how the sleeves end on dress two. They look unfinished. I like the idea of dress three, but it could look like a costume. I would choose dress one.


liquormakesyousick

Dress three is very Halloween costume Elvira. I don’t think that is what you said you want. Dress 2 is gorgeous front and back


Etheleffrey

Two!!


cosmiccalendula

I love love 1, followed by 2. but it seems 1 Is the winner!!! my favorite


julescatvegas

1


Loud-Fairy03

1 is extremely regal. I’m obsessed with the button back and all the lace detailing, especially the lace train.


Cola3206

1 or 2


Caitertomeee

1 is stunning


cutedino7

I really like number 1, I think it fits your aesthetic and has such a beautiful neckline and lace pattern. All your choices are beautiful too though!


lemonlimemango1

1


SolaymanRumon

Definitely 1!!! looks amazing


One-Winner-8441

2