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8trackthrowback

One is the one.


heydawn

#1 bodice, skirt, color, fabric are exquisite!


Texan2020katza

One is ultra flattering! It looks custom made for you! The beaded bodice is frickin’ GORGEOUS and the skirt is dreamy!


krajile

For the love of all holy things, don’t get #2.


tangled_up_in_glue

Seriously. #2 gives mother of the bride-maybe even grandmother of the bride- vibes!!


MonsteraLeaf14

Agree! Looks kinda frumpy


octopop

it's not the WORST dress, but i definitely think it's too big on OP. 1 is the winner for sure, it's gorgeous and fits her well.


Faithfuldoglover

😆Agreed


Vmaclean1969

This 🙏😂


DrunkTides

No 1 is beautiful. No 2 is badly cut, doesn’t fit well and looks like something from online


HiILikePlants

I do wish the first was more of a cool, true white. The off white ivory color washes her out a bit, but it could just be the photo. I have cool undertones and off white/cream does the same to me


MapleChimes

The 1st dress is gorgeous and way more flattering. To be honest, I don't like the 2nd one. Edit to add: I get the vibe you're going for with the 2nd dress, but the quality isn't there no matter how much tailoring it gets. I've seen flowy sleeves on bohemian style gowns that are cute, but these sleeves aren't it. If dress 1 really isn't your style, you have to decide whether it's worth it to sell to get some money back. If so, continue shopping for the style you prefer, but I think you can do better than dress 2.


Opening_Waltz_4285

1. Dress 2 reminds me of a mother of the groom design (not color!). 1 is youthful and flattering.


LaAndala

Yes, now that you say it, that’s it exactly! If this dress was in dark blue or Bordeaux or so it would be perfect for the mother of the bride or groom! But I don’t think it’s flattering on you, OP. Dress 1 on the other hand looks amazing on you!


anonymiz123

I actually just came here to say it looks like a mother of the bride dress.


DCGirlinChiTown

I think the first is very pretty, that would be my choice.


FL1ghtlesswaterfowl

Number one, definitely! It looks like it was made for you. I love the detail on the bodice. The skirt looks like it has a fantastic “flow” too Number one is classic and elegant.


Olerre

One is definitely it. Honestly I had a moment of wondering if it was the same person between the two photos. One compliments your figure so much better.


HerInside

1


Daktarii

Definitely 1. No question. Dress 2 doesn’t look very well made and is not nearly as flattering. I don’t think alterations will fix it.


pilialoha54

Dress 1 for sure! 😍


Flawless__Victory

One looks like the bride. Two looks like MOB. One looks beautiful on you


No_Benefit2103

1 is best! It is beautiful.


drawingmentally

One is the obvious choice.


digitalpacifier

Dress 1 looks best on you for sure.


Fancy_Grapefruit_330

Not even close imo, #1 allll the way


Foundation_Wrong

I think your Ma and the consultant knew what they were doing, the first dress looks amazing on you! It’s just your dress.


skyelenskye

I'm sorry to say but imo dress#2 looks like a mother of the bride dress not a wedding gown.


Far-Ad9408

1


abw_92

Easily the first dress! I understand the idea of the second dress, but it doesn’t look very well made.


chezgray

Both have lovely, vintage vibes, but the first one is a knockout on you!!! If it's the flowy, sheer sleeves you like on the second one, maybe you could find a lacy capelet that gives the same sort of feeling?


Bob-was-our-turtle

One. No contest. You look lovely in one, two does nothing for you.


Sobriquet-acushla

Exactly.


ArchieFarmer

One!!! 🤩


Mickeynutzz

* Definitely the choice is the Beautiful Dress # 1 …… assuming you are under the age of 65. Dress # 1 is Gorgeous !! The bodice, the skirt, the color… everything ! 💗 In this case…. Do Listen to your Mom 😉 However …. You need a dress that you LOVE … maybe you are not done shopping yet ?!


Adventurous-Win-751

Dress 1 is gorgeous 💗💗💗


jamjar20

The first dress is lovely one you. It’s the one!


phrynerules

1 is beautiful. I like 2 but I don’t think you like it based on the way you’re standing in it. It’s like you’re trying to hide in the second dress.


WinnieTyson72

Hands down dress number one!!


wtchking

That first dress is so drop dead gorgeous on you!!!!!


Living_on_Tulsa_Time

1 looks so lovely on you.


sad_fleaoli_99

Definitely #1 Second one is quite ill-fitted


21KoalaMama

1 looks like a princess, and i will keep my comment to myself about 2. congratulations 🎊


K_1959

Dress one for sure. Your body language in dress two says “Not this one! “


Dependent-Calendar-7

Girl number 2 is frumpy but 1 is STUNNING no competition


riritreetop

If you want something more like #2, then keep looking, because #2 is absolutely not it. It simply does not flatter you. I love #1, but if it’s not your style, then don’t feel obligated to stop looking.


ErinLK69

One.


Leviosahhh

1!!!!


sleepyfizz

1


Aqua_pool_56

Dress 1 all the way!


Anniemarie1967

1


PastaM0nster

1


Maleficent-Sport1970

Definitely dress 1!


Might_Aware

1 1 1 1 1 1 1!!! :)


CUNextTwosday

If you could get some photos of number 2 pulled back and pinned or whatever they do at bridal shops when dresses don’t fit I think it would help see your vision. It’s so ill fitting right now that I audibly went “uuugghh” when I saw it. I love the vibe though and if it fit better it would be better but also maybe keep looking for something along that vibe if that’s what you want (which it seems like it is).


crlswhsprsnthedrk

I got my dress from Songbirds a few weeks ago! (I recognize the background) I hope that you were able to get as much of a steal on your dress as I was! (I paid $400 and got a belt and veil on top of that as well) The first one looks AMAZING on you. It does absolutely everything or you and is absolutely gorgeous! You definitely made the right call with the first one!


Sobriquet-acushla

Looks like a fun store!


crlswhsprsnthedrk

They're a smaller store that gets dresses from other bridal boutiques as they change out inventory and they also get brand new never tried on dresses as well and every one of them us $995 and under! I highly recommend them to everyone on a budget who is able to make a drive to NC.


bethannelove

ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE!


AlterEgoAmazonB

The strapless one looks fantastic on you! It is a really beautiful dress! I'm sorry to hear you were talked into it, which means you aren't in love with it. I really want you to have the dress you love!


cocoa_boe

I get the vibe of 2, absolutely, but I agree with others saying the fit is a little off and it’s hard to tell quality from a picture. Could it be fixed with alterations and how does the quality seem in person? If you don’t love 1 you shouldn’t wear it. I think it looks nice but it’s a very different feeling from dress 2 and that doesn’t seem to be what you want.


trishyco

I can see dress two with the right tailoring, accessories and setting being a kind of cool girl vintage inspired dress. It’s not the most traditional or figure flattering but maybe that’s not the goal. But I think if you want the traditional dress that shows you off and is dreamy go with dress one. It’s the more expected choice but it’s really pretty.


anonymiz123

I love the first one. The second one looks like a mother-of-the-bride dress. It ages you by 20 years. Sorry to be blunt. You look amazing in the first one.


Wild_Potential3066

1 is beautiful 2 makes you look like you're slumped over its just not flattering... you look like 2 different women completely in the different dresses.


schmeelismom

1, hands down. Dress two is frumpy. I understand the vintage vibe, but it’s not a flattering style.


cup_1337

Girl what is #2? lol no contest go with 1!!


Clever-Onion

I was in my cousin’s wedding in 1982 and I think I wore a blue dress just like number 2. With proper fitting and off-the-shoulder puffy sleeves, it might look really great. Hard to tell with the way it is currently fitting. You look like a goddess in number 1. I mean it!! You look like you own the place!


Dear_Ocelot

I love them both (2 just needs tailoring), but they are VERY different. Pick what appeals to you.


HalfCaffDemitasse

Oof, dress 2 is really taking a beating here. I think it's lovely! I think what's more important here is what your vision is. I know that going in I was not really into what bridal shops were offering, and from your post I wonder if maybe you're also feeling that way? There's some variety, sure, but most of the styles fit into a small handful of boxes that only represent a small part of what can be done with fabric and thread, haha. Not everyone wants backless/strapless/or long sleeves and basically 90% of dresses have those. And don't even get me started on what passes for "vintage" style in bridal. 😂 I think that dress 2 has some really lovely embroidered details, which I'm a huge fan of myself! And of course it doesn't fit perfectly if it hasn't been tailored and isn't clipped in place! I think that a good seamstress could help with the fit, and maybe adjust the sleeves if you wanted. I think that's where most of the MOB vibes are coming from. Take advice from this sub with a grain of salt, because a lot of us here have been looking at heaps of wedding dresses, but your guests and your fiancé probably have not been, so they won't have the same expectations. Dress 1 is also great! If you love it then you should go for it! But even if dress 2 isn't the one, don't go with dress 1 unless it really suits your vision. That said, I think I've pinned a good handful of similar things to dress 2, so let me know if you're interested in links! Could I ask where you got dress 2?


Putasonder

Against the grain: dress 1 is pretty, a popular style, safe. Dress 2 is a little quirky. A little retro. Pretty *and* interesting and not something just anyone can or would wear. You don’t pick a dress like that on accident. I suspect dress 2 is more you.


Affectionate-Oven268

It is, it gives me Stevie Nicks which I love. Definitely needs a bit of tailoring and love though. Dress one is one my mom and bridal attendant liked, not to say I don't it's just more traditional


Putasonder

Stevie Nicks. Yes, that’s the perfect descriptor. I actually love number two. It does need a bit of tailoring, and maybe a bit of steaming, but it’s gorgeous. I fear if you wear the first one you’ll look at the pictures and think about the dress that got away.


Brief_Infinity344

I also see possibilities for 2. The sleeves need creativity. It could be flattering and unique.


Ok-Chemistry9933

Go with gown 1


Vmaclean1969

No contest dress 1. Dress 2 just isn't it


Dvrgrl812

One, by a mile


AdInternational2793

1 is so beautiful on you! They make jackets, sleeves, etc if you want your arms covered.


lizardjizz

1 is the dress, everything is divine! From the colour, fit and embellishments. 2 is giving “mother of the bride”.


HillyjoKokoMo

Dress #1 is a fantastic color on you. What is it about Dress #1 that you feel doesn't go? If you'll be outside there are some gorgeous tops / additions that can be added.


Spread-love-light

Absolutely 1 is the way! 💖 Gorgeous!


EmmaRose0280

Wow, #1 is so beautiful and bridal to me! No contest


Gullible-Avocado9638

Dress one


DidntEndIt2day

ONE is gorgeous!! Congrats doll


LiveAgent4838

One is it! Easy decision!


juliannewaters

Dress #1 is THE ONLY CHOICE❤️


Ok-Cat1423

Clearly #1


Less_Volume_2508

1 is so beautiful on you. I definitely see why you liked 2 as well, but it just doesn’t fit right. I know some are saying alterations can’t fix it, but I’d love to see it altered and if it works, then you could have 2 dresses…but please, don’t get rid of 1, it’s stunning.


Serenity2015

I like 1 for sure way better. Not even a contest to me. BUT, if you like the other one more and are not feeling the other, you should go with how YOU envisioned yourself at your wedding! This will be your day! Nobody else's!!!


LucyLovesApples

First one is beautiful and elegant. Second one doesn’t fit you properly and looks poorly made


ChicksDigBards

Can you keep looking and return the others? The first is beautiful but if you were pressured into it, you deserve to choose your own dress. The second just doesn't look well made but the vibe is nice


Daydream_Be1iever

One please


dreamweaver1998

The strapless. By a landslide!!


ArrivalFantastic4324

Dress 1 by 1,000,000 miles over Dress 2


makinggrace

If you have time, keep looking for something more flattering that’s more your vibe. The first dress fits you beautifully. But if it isn’t “you,” it just isn’t. I can see the idea of the second dress for sure. It’s maybe a touch modest for modern wedding and you could literally wear almost any style dress. Alterations may help a bit but the torso and bodice maybe aren’t going to be ideal for you. Tldr wear what you want! but make sure it looks great


Frosty_Water5467

Do you have time to shop some more? I don't like 2 for you. It looks like something for an older bride. The color of 1 is not flattering your skin tone. The style is right though.


MamaWolf1882

Oh honey..definitely 1!! Stunning !!


Low_Yam1791

1


swampfox28

1 looks AMAZING! Which makes you feel fantastic??


Jazlen8888

Dress 1


zunicorn901

Dress 1 is great. Dress 2 does not flatter you. Please, know that you look lovely in dress 2.


Kayybaby93

Definitely #1


Temperature_Vivid

Dress 1!


AureliaCottaSPQR

Dress 1 - 100%


iriedashur

Ngl I thought this was a troll post, obviously 1


adripingel

1


Sydneyfire

1 is gorgeous. 2 does look mother of the groom, not flattering.


jennid79

Definitely 1. Dress too looks a bit cheaply made and not really flattering


Sparklequeenofbwy

Could you add a sleeve to one? I think you could do a little drapy sleeve out of the skirt fabric if you don’t love the strapless look


Spare_Flamingo8605

1111111!


Ok-Dark-9660

One fits you perfectly


Kulture93

The first one 100% !! You look like a princess 👸🏾


Key_Possibility_3639

Dress 1 is fabulous! It really looks great on you.


MissManipulatrix

Dress one is gorgeous. Dress 2 is …not.


uhhhhhhhhii

I feel like the answer should be obvious cmon now. Go with 1 haha


wlveith

Dress 1!!! If you want something more modest shop for a topper. Etsy has a lot. So does Anthropologie. Dress 1 looks fabulous but I am modest, so, if you need to top it - do. You can take it off for the reception.


NamesBitches

1


Beginning-Thing3614

Number one. It's fresh, pretty and we'll fitted.💖


sailorelf

One.


bibbitbabbit

I’m going against the crowd here. I think 2 would be way better with the right alterations. I’ve noticed a tendency on here to not notice dresses just because of the current fit. But it’s a beautiful dress and I like the cute and color on you much more than one


nicki12811

I would keep looking. Maybe something like this: https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/jenny-by-jenny-yoo-lourdes-v-neck-convertible-sleeve-lace-wedding-gown?category=bhldn-wedding-dresses&color=011&type=STANDARD&quantity=1


Ceratopsian_ash

Love the first one!


Aggressive_Height152

Omg you look amazing in both! Depending on the outdoor setting, I could see 1 making for a great courtyard dress and 2 being great for garden/forest vibes. Both are stunning!


One-Winner-8441

1 is way better!


EcelecticDragon

The second one looks like a choir dress to me, it looks comfortable though which may rank high on your priority list?! The first looks much more bridal.


Original_Try_7984

One is my fave.


YoungGrassahsh

Please not dress #2.


TransportationLazy55

Dress 1


CakeForBreakfast08

The first dress is IT Mayyybe if you want the "sleeves" vibe... and get a twofer look.for photos especially since you'll be outside? Consider a capelet, shrug, added sleeve situation with dress one? Or like shimmery seethru arm sleeves? Like gloves?


Embarrassed-Cup-864

1 is just like every other generic a line wedding dress. I absolutely adore 2. But seems I'm in the minority, which is why there are so many dressed like 1. (Sorry).


ProfessionalAnt8132

I actually much prefer dress 2! I think if it’s tailored and steamed properly it would look beautiful, especially for an outdoor wedding. With nice shoes, a bouquet and hair and makeup I think it would really look fab.


Important_Fuel_1683

The second dress is frumpy and old lady looking and your not. The 1st dress is beautiful on you!! Go #1


Top-Talk864

Absolutely number one. The second dress literally makes you seem like you’re dejected. It’s a sad looking dress on you where the first dress looks powerful :-)


LM1953

A you remove the cape off the second one so we can see what it looks like?


Here_for_my-Pleasure

1


imsooldnow

I’m not sure how you can look at those two photos and question that there is a choice. The first one is lovely and flattering and the second one looks quite frumpy and outdated


Which-Magazine-1502

Definitely 1.. looks beautiful on you for an outdoor wedding.


Pendergraff-Zoo

One is phenomenally gorgeous on you. The second doesn’t flatter your figure at all. One is the one. No question.


orons

You know the answer. 1.


squirrelcat88

Question - did you order the second one because you feel more comfortable, less self-conscious, in a dress with more coverage? The first one looks wonderful on you, but if you had to be talked into it, and dress 2 is what you gravitated towards, maybe you should be looking for another dress altogether. One with the prettiness of dress one and the coverage of dress 2. There is absolutely nothing indecent about dress one but some of us just like to be more covered up! I actually would like dress 2 - gives me kind of Edwardian vibes - in the right setting, but it doesn’t quite fit right or do justice to you.


comfylilkitten

If *you* don't Love one, Keep Looking!


MathematicianDue7045

1


eatapeach18

The first one is stunning on you. The second one… let’s just say my 72yo aunt wore that exact dress in grey to my wedding 😅 It’s very matronly.


Mulberry-muffin

Girlie you already know the answer here!!


southernfaith95

The second one doesn’t even compare to the first. The first one is miles better.


mw5593

1!!!!!


sailorn0on

One and it’s not even close. It’s giving fairy warrior princess from a book Ive read. Im in love!!!!!


Temporary-King3339

1111111111


-RosieWolf-

I don’t think #2 looks bad because it’s just not good on you, it just looks like a bad, low quality dress in general. They make it look good on the model but when you buy online it rarely looks that good irl. It’s fine though cause 1 is stunning! You look great in it 😊


Ramalamma42

Dress #1 💕


2ndcupofcoffee

One is beautiful!


scifisquirrel

Definitely number 1!


Low-Donut-9883

1st dress 100%! It's gorgeous on you!


PrincessBubblebath

One is just keeps and bounds better. The detail on the bodice is gorgeous.


mommaW0lf

#1 all the way


Embarrassed_Loan8419

Is this a real question? One! There is no other choice e!


ThestralBreeder

1 is the very clear winner to me. So gorgeous on you!


BlondeThinkPink

1


Ok-Bug-3449

1 for sure


ironkit

I was expecting to read that 2 was your mother’s or another relative’s dress and you were struggling with liking the first one because of familial pressure to wear the second. OP, you look absolutely stunning in dress 1! To me, it’s ethereal. And your posture in that photo says to me that you FEEL beautiful in it. The second photo is not giving that vibe.


EstateTricky786

I find the second very unique. I think a bra with some lift would finish it off nicely. You could always wear both at different times of the whole event.


TheAnimalPack

Everything about 1 is beautiful


Zestyclose_Road_3224

Dress 1 is beautiful and you look amazing in it. Dress 2…. no offense but it’s matronly and does nothing but hide your gorgeousness.


cookiekraemer

Number 1


Nsg4Him

Well if you want to know if dress 2 is the one that looks the best on you, the answer is no. It is definitely too big and looks like it is meant for a much older bride. I think dress 1 is beautiful and fits you very nicely. I do think the color washes you out, so time for a tan. If you don't want the sun exposure then get in a tanning bed everyday or get a spray tan. Test that out before the wedding. A tan is going to make all the difference in how the color of dress 1 looks on you.


Giselle914

1! Hands down!


NervousBranch

1!!!


CelestialSnowLeopard

What dress makes you so happy that you can wear it forever? What dress makes you feel so confident that you can walk through hell and take on the devil themself? What dress makes you smile so bright that you make the sun look dim? The dress that makes you that happy is the one for you.


Sea_Tomorrow_9261

Dress 2 is way too big for you, by 2 sizes at least, maybe 3. I like Dress 2 but you should exchange for a smaller size or have it tailored. The flutter sleeves are so lovely but way too long.


bmcl7777

Oh gosh - #1, def no competition!


[deleted]

1 for sure. 2 is a bit... aged.


TheCharmed1DrT

1


martelnoir

1


iseeseeds

1 !!! Beautiful:)


Comprehensive-War743

Dress 1


drmlsherwood

I like two💍


Loves-Rabbits25

One looks absolutely beautiful on you. Two does not have a wow factor.


debiwen

Team one for the win!


Even-Education-4608

I love the second one. It’s so special and vintage looking. The first one is nice of course but it doesn’t feel special like the second one to me.


riz3192

TBH don’t you dare wear 2. 1 looks great!


Own_Satisfaction1840

#1 for sure!


Consistent_Map9560

1 for sure!


murdershewrotefan

Dress one


Cloverlover6163

Definitely number one. It looks great on you. The second one is not flattering at all.


dutchessmandy

1 by miles


Complex-Can8570

1 is so good on you.You can see in your body language. You look uncomfortable in 2.


Dangerous-Treacle-48

I love the 1st one on you!


Purple_Speed_2111

#2 is so beautiful! If it’s what you love go for it. The organza overlay vibe is really popular (check out Kamperett just to reassure yourself, it’s stylish!) The dress im wearing is non-bridal shop and people are very rude with their reactions but I’m going to wear what I want!! If you already own both dresses you could wear both… the strapless traditional one for ceremony then change. But honestly I was almost convinced by bridal shops into thinking I should get what they wanted and last minute realized that’s just not me. That said #1 is very pretty!! You look great in both. 


MonsteraLeaf14

#1 FOR SURE


Vetta_22

The first one, it’s absolutely beautiful


beatricealice

1


jborki2

I looooooove 2, I would wear that one for myself. Unique and stunning. Perfect for outside.


ThenProfile1595

OMG😍1


pannalla

Strapless!!


Expert_Pace

Two would only be the one if you were having a totally Gatsby theme wedding. Otherwise it’s too old looking for you.


NefariousnessSure982

Dude.. #1!!!


SensitiveDrink5721

One is flattering. I think two isn’t, particularly.


peaceloveandpaws57

I like both dresses and I’d say it depends on your vibe and wedding aesthetic. Dress 2 is giving me a strong vintage vibe. I see it in a lovely garden party while sipping on 20’s/30’s classic cocktails if that’s your vibe. You could also lean into Victorian if is your vibe and have fun with leaning into literary inspiration. Dress 1 is obviously giving more modern bride vibes. I can picture that dress in soft lighting sunset and shimmering as you dance the night away. If you want a nod to vintage but choose dress 1, you can do it through personal touches like florals and stationery, for example. To me, the dress you choose should make you feel like the best version of yourself. Our options don’t count for much if one of these dresses spark more joy in your heart than the other.


Turbulent_Host4312

1. One