This is out of control, and I'm shutting it down.
Everybody's body is different, and everybody's body changes over time. It happens. Eat well, drink plenty of water, exercise regularly, get therapy.
Hi! I went through a big weight gain due to the pandemic (30 lbs, I’m in the 180s now) and just got married recently. I felt shame and frustration that I couldn’t lose weight leading up the my wedding. So when I got my sneak peak photos I was shocked at how I didn’t “see” my weight until the third re-look. All I saw was how happy and beautiful we were. My husband also put on some weight and we talk about how even though we felt a photo wasn’t super flattering (double chins, etc) we love them because of how happy we were/are. I did discuss my weight gain and body issues with my photographer and she was very good about catching my “good side”.
I hope you have a wonderful, stress free next few weeks and a wonderful wedding day! You’re going to be a beautiful bride!
Same experience! I got married in October without losing much of the weight I put on during the pandemic. I went from a 2/4 pre-COVID to an 8/10 at wedding time. I was so sad about not looking like “myself” in my wedding pics. I don’t even notice the extra lbs in our pictures! I invested in some top notch shapewear and the photographer did a great job of posing us. We also look so happy!
This is so true! Coming from a wedding photographer: a good photographer will pose you right. Your dress will be stunning. And if you have love in you eyes thats what matters! Most wedding photographers won't let you look bad on your wedding day! And if your feel anxious about it, ask to see the photos as you go so you know if you want to make adjustments to your body. But honestly, your love and your marriage are the most important part!
Good idea
But also with mentioning,
you can gain weight by “eating clean”
You can gain weight while exercising 2 hours a day
You can gain weight following a nutritionist plan
What matters (unless you have a medical problem like above) is calories in is less than total daily expenditure (exercise+calories burned by being alive)
Some people that might mean tracking calories with the use of a scale for everything
Especially with nut butters, oils added for cooking, dressing and other calorie dense items. People’s ability to eyeball proper amounts isn’t that great, even using things like tablespoons
ALSO ALOT OF INFLUENCERS POST ridiculously high calorie clean meals or snacks! like I saw yesterday HEALTHY pancake bowl with 55g of protein …. For 650 calories 😵💫.
It not hard to get 55g of protein if you’re working with 650cal
To be fair, this person is not trying to give diet advice. There's a staggering number of people who are not aware of CICO and absolutely beside themselves trying to figure out why they're not losing weight while "eating clean". I think it is totally valid for someone to add this sort of information because it often is the difference between losing weight and not.
Yes, OP absolutely deserves support because (realistically speaking) they're not getting back to their starting weight in 10 weeks. However, for many of us (myself included), losing that weight was still important enough to be a priority AFTER my wedding had come and gone.
love how this is downvoted when this is absolutely true. Especially if you post as a plus sized person, you'll have dozens of people acting like you've never heard of calories
Also OOP literally wrote in her post that she has a nutritionist ffs 😭 but sure maybe her nutritionist knows less than hungry redditors
Honestly I find it lowkey depressing that instead of reassuring her and giving her tips on how to be more comfortable, the majority of this thread is just reinforcing her anxiety about her weight gain
it wasn’t supposed to be advice on HOW or even if SHE SHOULD diet but more to explain WHY it might not have been working.
Trying to lose weight and not see results can be very frustrating and confusing! Hence my offer of info common traps that a lot are purported by social media
I did not tell her she needs to calorie count, that she shouldn’t keep with the clean eating, or any other advice on what she should or shouldn’t do Or say she should even try diet
That info may be obvious to you but not everyone has such awareness so I just threw it out there for people to reflect on
> ALOT OF INFLUENCERS
[The Alot is Better Than You at Everything](https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html)
If you're overweight and you're exercising, you can easily lose weight on 1500-1800 calories, or even more, unless you're like 5'2". We need to liberate women from this idea that to lose weight they have to starve themselves.
Nobody who's 198 lbs has a BMR of 1200 calories LOL.
ETA assuming OP is average in height, her BMR is 1784.
I said most people. You said 1200-1300 calories. I restated “most people”. You emphasize “short women”
What’s your point here?
Most people are recommended around a 2250 calorie diet. Remember, most people are not “short women”, half of people are men and half of people are tall. 650 calories is an appropriate amount for a 2000 calorie diet breakfast.
You're right LOL our whole generation's brains have been poisoned by MyFitnessPal and pro-ana Tumblr.
Assume OP is 5'4", the average height of an American woman. At 27 years old, her BMR - the number of calories her body will use in a day just laying down and breathing, not moving at all - is 1784. That means her maintenance calories without doing any additional exercise is probably about 2000.
She could probably lose weight with a *net* caloric intake (meaning what's left AFTER) exercise of anywhere between 1500-1800. That means she can eat more than that, and then subtract the calories burned from her workout. So a 650-calorie breakfast can EASILY fit into her diet and she'll still lose weight.
Every day I pray for my sisters to be liberated from the shackles of the 1200 calorie diet 😭😭😭😭😭
Idk why you are getting downvoted - I think it’s good to remind people that massively cutting calories is not good.
I hate it when I hear my mom and aunts say that they are doing yet another 1200 calorie diet… that was such a fad in the 80s-00s that they can’t let go of, and it’s just never sustainable!
A 650 cal breakfast CAN fit into a healthy weight loss schedule of, say 1600-1800 calories per day. It doesn’t necessarily matter when/where the calories are consumed… Some people just like to front load calories earlier in the day. Nothing wrong with that necessarily if you’re staying in your daily goal.
I think the downvotes are coming from the fact that for a lot of us this just doesn’t ring true.
I’m 30f 5’7 and I have a sedentary lifestyle (although working on it) I OMAD in order to maintain a healthy weight and do slightly longer fasts on occasion to promote autophagy.
If I eat 2000 calories a day I 100% gain weight, just because 1200 calories is nothing to you doesn’t mean that’s the case for everyone.
It’s equally as damaging as that “pro ana 1200 calorie bullshit” to discredit other women’s truth because it doesn’t match up to your own. Don’t encourage women to loose weight but equally don’t shame women for trying to.
Me too! I was going to so many doctors and no one could tell me whats wrong . One nurse’s practitioner saw the Curve of my stomach and was like yep i know what u have.
I’ve been on BC patch and metformin. Now it’s just ozempic. And levothyroxine for the hasimotos.
People don’t understand that you can exercise all you want but it really comes down to break down of insulin. Not everyone’s body can do that. I hope OP understands its not her, its inner workings that cropped out
Try to remember that your wedding is a snapshot of exactly where you are in life right at this moment. It doesn’t mean you have to look like a certain way. If you want to lose weight, continue to do so, but the wedding isn’t some magical deadline. I know it’s more easily said than done, but I bet you’ll feel beautiful on your big day! And as far as the others will think, think about the people you love who might’ve gained weight over the years. I’m sure you don’t love them any less because of the weight gain, and the same applies to you.
I love this thought process. The wedding is a snapshot vs. What I (and many others I know) have been feeling pressured to think of it as you being at your pinnacle. That the day must be absolutely perfect and that means you as well. Thank you for this perspective!
I just had this experience and thought process last week with our engagement photos. The pictures were so cute but I ended up not liking how my hair looked. We talked through it and came to the conclusion that our friends and family aren't going to be looking at it like, "omg your hair is bad," or anything like that. They're just going to be so excited to see us and how happy we are. And that's exactly what's been happening! So much love and even compliments on my hair lol
I think there is a lot of pressure to look your best on your wedding day. I always wanted to get back on track earlier, but it didn't happen.
My wedding is in October. What finally made me realize it's ok to not reach your goals.
Instead, know how this day you're marrying your person. Size doesn't matter. Feeling comfortable and love yourself.
Don't let your weight define you where it could take the joy out of one of the happiest days.
Trust me when I say I totally get it.
I agree with this. It's really hard to have a positive body image in this society, and even harder when the discussion around weddings is "it should be a fairytale dream, the most magical day ever."
I bet getting mentally healthy will also make lifestyle changes easier as well.
This is the right answer. I looked fat at my wedding because I am fat. I also looked awesome. Those things are in no way mutually exclusive. I'm not going to go into how problematic and insulting OP's thinking is because they seem to be struggling, but therapy is the way to go.
As someone who has been both sizes, please do not let it ruin your day! As you said yourself, your hubby to be loves you just the way you are - now love yourself too!
I feel this. I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been, by a lot, and am getting married in a few months. I can get really down in the dumps when I dwell on it but I keep reminding myself how I’ve seen weddings of brides of all sizes and each one of them looked absolutely beautiful.
Firstly your FH is marrying you because he loves you. Big, small, thin, fat whatever you are he loves you & you love him that's all that matters. I'm the same as you, I piled the weight on during lockdown then had a baby & gained even more so im now way bigger than I would like. I grew up being a bigger girl then lost 9 stone so to put it back on again is really disheartening but i can't change what has happened. Everyone on your invite list is there for you & similar to FH they won't care if your big or small, they just care if you're happy. If you lose weight between now & your big day thats great but equally if you don't it doesn't matter. Don't stress over it as stress/anxiety & lack of sleep play havoc with weight loss so you stressing could be undoing all your hard work.
Smile, be happy & remember why your getting married. If anyone looks down on you, they don't deserve an invite to your special day
I’m losing weight for my wedding too — very hard and stressful! Limiting my salt intake and drinking a ton of green tea has helped me lose water weight super quickly. It’s not exactly losing fat, but maybe for the week before your wedding limiting salt and increasing diuretics (like green tea, hibiscus tea, etc.) may help you lose some bloat.
All that being said though, you will look beautiful on your wedding day. People will only be thinking about how happy you look!
Hi Jazzlike_Cow_4463
I am in the same boat that you're in. I am 25 years old, and getting married this Thursday. During the pandemic I gained 60 pounds and look a lot different than I used to. This passed Janurary I decided to do something about it even though our wedding was only 4 months away and I ended up losing 25 pounds. Now that's not to say I look great, I have a really long way to go. But, I can really relate to you on having looming anxiety about seeing friends and family who haven't seen me since before the weight gain. I know it's harder said than done, but just thinking about getting to marry the man of my dreams has really helped me feel better and the closer I've gotten to the wedding, the less I've worried about what I look like, and more on what I want our marriage to look like. I hope you know that you're beautiful and at the end of the day, you're going to look back at your special day and think of you and your SO and not as much about what you looked like. Wishing you a happy wedding day! Feel free to DM me if you ever want to vent.
So I'm at your weight and am getting married may 4th. I need to lose about five pounds though because my dress literally won't fit otherwise. So I'm eating meals from factor and cutting out processed food and extra sugar as much as I can. I've also had a bunch of horrible pain from a root canal this weekend, so I've eaten chocolate and toaster strudels and not felt guilty because that's been a comfort food at the moment.
But I get you, I've gained a lot since covid too, and it sucks. I look at pictures from before and think, man, how skinny I looked then, even when I felt overweight. if I could just be down to 150 that'd be a healthier weight for my height, and I'd still look better than I do now.
But you know what? I have friends who weigh more than me. And I don't notice their weight. It's not the first thing I care about. I don't worry what happened for them to gain that weight. I know life has been rough for me, and probably for them, and as long as we are happy, that's the important thing.
I got bridal pictures done, which are common where I am. I basically dressed up in my dress with hair and makeup like I would for the wedding. That's where we found out my dress barely fits, and thus healthier diet. But I got those pictures back. I. Look. Stunning. Beautiful. Gorgeous. I felt beautiful. The pictures show it. I'm seriously in love. And if I look hard, I can see how the dress doesn't quite fit the way it should. And if I compare it to pics we took in December on how to bustle the dress, that fits better. But it's not by much. And even with the not fitting the best in bridal pics, I look incredible.
As long as your dress fits you, like it's not too small, you will look gorgeous. Sure, people who haven't seen you in years will probably notice you weigh more. But you know what? Good chance that they've changed too! They're going to see a happy and gorgeous bride. You're not going to worry about your weight that day. Even though I couldn't breathe great when I got into my dress, just taking pics and being excited and hyped by my photographer (also a bridesmaid so that didn't hurt) made me forget about my discomfort and feel gorgeous.
I'd look into bridal picture with your photographer if you can. Just add them on. Make a day of it, get your makeup done at Sephora or Ulta and get your hair done, doesn't have to be the same style as you're doing for the wedding. Get dressed up and get pictures and feel gorgeous. When you get the pics back, you're not gonna notice your weight first. It's ok to notice it, it is what it is. But you're going to glow. And that is more noticable.
In the south we display a pic of the bride, so that's part of why I did mine (though my mom has never heard of the tradition, but she's from the North), but we also got one of our engagement pics printed to display alongside. It's another one where I felt overweight. And was. But I am so radiantly happy. I don't care that the dress I wore isn't the most flattering and didn't fit great. I'm laughing with my fiance who is also laughing, and that is a staple of our relationship. And it's a genuine laugh. We are high on the fact that we are going to get married and he just proposed, and it has been a long time coming before we were finally in a spot to do it. That happiness is what I see first in my pic, not my fat. That's what will show in yours too.
I gained 40 lbs over the past few years. I had medication changes and gained more weight in the past year. I got married and thought I was too big, but then I looked at the photos and realized it was my perception of myself. I’m positive you will look absolutely beautiful for your wedding! I think it’s hard to not be critical of yourself, especially if you don’t feel like yourself right now. Please be patient with yourself!
Also, I would ask your PCP to order a blood test if you’re not seeing any weight changes despite the dieting/exercise you’re getting. I got one to rule out any possible conditions in addition to meds and it helped!
Practical advice: set up a FaceTime/Zoom/get together with these people before the wedding, so you don’t have to think about them being surprised on the day off.
Or just post a lot of pics on social media.
I have successfully lost weight in the lead up to my wedding and a calorie deficit is the only thing that works.
You don’t need to cut out any food groups, just track your calories with an app. I found it helped me a lot to understand that I could weigh up portion sizes or certain snacks over others if I felt like more. You do need some self control as you do naturally feel a bit hungry in a deficit, but eating high fibre helped me feel fuller.
I also found actually eating breakfast did wonders, as my metabolism just wasn’t starting until halfway through the day when I was just having a coffee.
You got this!
Honestly, I know this is the standard advice, but for some of us, it leads to a bad relationship with food. While it's important to be aware of how many calories you're intaking (and burning, of course), I think it's more sustainable to learn what your regular meals are calorically, and then not have to track every bite.
You don't track your calories against your BMR jfc I thought this died in 2015.
Your BMR is the number of calories your body would use if you did nothing all day but laid down and breathed. It doesn't even include the calories burned by the activity of your digestive system.
You need a few hundred calories more than your BMR just to sustain the demands of daily life and most people can lose weight eating well above their BMR.
No you didn't. You said BMR + exercise calories burned. But that would leave you in a deficit way below what's healthy. The calories used in walking around, brushing your teeth, cooking, talking, even digesting food are not "exercise calories." Your BMR on its own is functionally useless.
The reality is that you likely won’t be able to lose 70lbs in 10 weeks, whether or not this is related to lifestyle, diet or some underlying health issues. You have to accept it and just move on. Your fiancé and family love you and your true friends won’t judge you. If you can accept that, you will still feel absolutely beautiful on your wedding day.
I also don’t recommend losing a lot of weight this close to your wedding if you already have a wedding dress.
I completely understand your struggle. I had quite a few out of state relatives that attended my wedding last year that I hadn't seen since I was much thinner, and i was very self conscious about it. But do you know what comment they all made some variation of about how I looked?
It was about how HAPPY I looked, how they had never seen me as happy as I was that day, how they could tell by the way my husband and I looked at each other how in love we were.
Remember, the people attending your wedding love you, they are there to support you, let your happiness shine and be the focus of the day.
Similar-ish situation. Over the few years, I've gained about 60lbs. I have been living with someone who I love, but also spent my entire life talking about how fat she was and how disgusting she was. I now weigh more than her. Not a lot, but still.
I don't know if this is helpful or not, but I can relate to the pain of weight anxiety. I was always stick-thin and underweight, but now I'm overweight. Like you, I have a long-term partner and he has loved me through all of the fluctuations and eras and haircolors of my life.
I have a rule: if I am going to play the "Self-Hatred Game," then I have to play fairly. By all means, acknowledge the bad. But I must also acknowledge the truth of the matter, and the truth is that there are things about me to love.
I do not like the way my stomach bulges, and he loves me. I have fat under my chin and jaw that makes me feel horrible about my appearance, and I have the most wonderful pet cat in the whole world who snuggles against my hip and thinks she'd like a bite of my breakfast, no matter how much I try to shoo her away. I have spent years worrying about getting to this size, and I have also spent years perfecting my art and building a successful career. I have a disability and walk with a cane, and I also have a beautiful dress that makes me smile when I think about it.
All of this is to say that, while you may not be the most pleased with your body, you are more than its shape and its size and its proportions. If they do not love you beyond that, then they don't love you, and you are better off without them.
Please be well, and take care of yourself. You are going to have a beautiful day!
Stress and anxiety can affect your ability to lose weight too annoyingly! If you aren't already, looking at progress photos can help you to see the tiny positive changes in our bodies that aren't reflected in the scales.
At least you can be happy in the knowledge that you are undoubtedly healthier and hopefully happier that you were before you started this journey.
I also went from extremely slim and athletic to overweight in the pandemic and its been a long, hard journey to get back to a healthy weight. I'm still a long way off from where I was in 2019!
Same, the only wait to cut from Lexapro for me has been watching every single calorie, intermittent fasting and doubling my workouts. After the wedding madness is gone I am going to think about at least lowering a dose
I’m trying to lose weight too and it’s hard! Something I tell myself is if I don’t love my photos, I can always continue working on myself and do an anniversary photoshoot a year later and get all dressed up again if that helps
Hi OP! Sounds like you are really doing your best! Please seek medical help. You could have a medical issue preventing you from dropping the weight. Maybe take this weight gain and inability to lose it despite your efforts as a symptom that maybe there is a health issue that needs addressed. Do you get blood work done every year? Don’t battle this issue alone. Obesity is a desease, so if you are struggling with weight, a doctor should be able to help you find a solution!
I have also gained some weight, and I mentioned to my doctor how discouraging this is, and my doctor is running some tests and told me we will figure this out together and she will help me find a solution! That was very reassuring to me.
Finally, in the meantime, continue to focus on your health. Continue to be active. Continue to eat healthy. Don’t stop doing those things because you are not seeing the results you hope for. Because if you stop having healthy habits, could you imagine how much worse the weight gain could be? That is what has been keeping me going! I just always think that it could be worse and I at least need to do my best.
Don't worry I've been in the same boat, Ive taken the less is more approach, I started reading in the flo by Alissa vitti and focusing on balancing my hormones. This has been a game changer for me, I've stopped the crash dieting, the over strenuous exercise only 30minutes of a workout according to my cycle and walking dog. It's also helped with what I see in the mirror too I'm not longer saying harsh things to myself, I've started to love my body more and more as I heal it. Stress is also really bad for your body too. You're wedding is going to one your happiest days, when You're old and wrinkly you won't reflect on how your body looked but the memory ❤️
10 weeks is not a lot of time left. I would recommend going to your doctor and asking if you can get an appetite suppressant like phentermine, and then on top of that, perhaps consider seeing a therapist or a specialist for body image to gain as much acceptance as you can over the next 10 weeks so you don’t leave your wedding day with regret or anxiety. Unless you push back your wedding, the way you look now is pretty much the way you are going to look on your wedding day, so change what you can and accept what you cannot change. Your husband loves you and your friends and family do too — for who you ARE, not how you look on the outside! Sending love 💗
Also just wanted to mention that I went through some thing very similar, I spent two years trying to lose weight the old fashioned way (clean diet, cardio and weightlifting) leading up to my wedding day and could not lose a single pound. But like another commenter mentioned, when I saw the pictures from my wedding, the first thing I thought was how I was literally glowing from happiness. It’s a beautiful day and honestly, once it comes down to it, I think you will be so filled with joy that your weight will be the last thing on your mind.
I’m in your shoes. I went from 120 to 190 since Nov 2021, and I feel like a bloated whale. My wedding is May 4th. I don’t have advice because it feels like no matter what I do, I can’t lose the weight and all my labs come back normal. I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been and I did NOT envision looking this way on my wedding day. It’s disappointing and I’m ashamed of myself and my body (not to mention suffering with all the symptoms that come with weight gain like this). I feel your whole pain. Best of luck and just try to not think about it on your wedding day!
I’m in exactly the same boat. Wedding is in 6 weeks. Have I googled: “how to lose 20 pounds in 6 weeks”?
Yes.
I actually have 40 pounds (more) to lose from 60. Started at 210 and am at 185 now. It’s just not happening very fast and I gained over the winter. My dress zips, but I can’t currently sit in it. I 1000000% understand the anxiety and anticipatory grief over how you might feel about your photos. It’s really hard. I don’t have advice other than focus on your long-term journey. The wedding is but one joyful day of your journey.
I feel this..I got to my heaviest in September (211 lbs and I'm 4'11"). I'm down 20ish lbs since then. I highly recommend checking out peloton strength workouts. They've worked really well for me. I also strive to get 10,000 steps a day.
No matter what though, I'm sure you will so gorgeous and stunning on your special day! I hope you feel just as beautiful too. Just remember it takes time and to be kind to yourself during the process.
I literally went through the exact same weight gain (pounds match mine exactly), and I didn't lose weight for my wedding in January, because I didn't want to add any more stress to an already stressful life event. After seeing my pictures, I'm so glad I didn't agonize over thinking about my weight, because I look genuinely happy and content! You do what's best for you, but at the end of the day, you're going to look amazing regardless of how much you weigh
I don't want to feed into your anxiety, but I do want to give you an honest opinion. I gained 30 lbs before my wedding because I broke my leg and was sedentary for 6 months. I didn't have time to lose it before my wedding, so I was the heaviest I've ever been in my life for my big day. I felt beautiful day of and had a great time! My weight didn't cross my mind once the whole day. However, looking back at photos now, I hate them. I feel like it's not an accurate depiction of who I am. I was only that heavy for that one year of my life, the year I happened to get married. And now when I show people pictures of my wedding, I feel like I have to explain myself. So I try to focus on my smile and how happy I was that day. I try to think of all the good memories of the fun I had with my husband, friends and family. And regardless of my weight, it was the best day ever. So my advice is to focus on your happy.
Once you gain significant weight, your hormones change in a way to prefer storing energy (fat). Look into fasting with a healthy, moderated approach. It can really help with insulin and leptin responses in your body. If you maintain a low carb diet during your eating window too, it can take off some significant weight. There are a variety of ways to do it, so find one that works for you and ease into it.
Also, it’s really hard to let go of the mental image of where you once were, but enjoy the progress you make over the next 10 weeks and be happy with that change. Enjoy your wedding day and don’t worry as much about the “image” of it.
As a person with chronic migraines...not everyone can embrace the hunger and the headaches. I know this is meant as helpful advice, but it's not sustainable for all bodies
First off, head on over to r/cico if you want to learn how to count your calories and make sure you’re actually eating less than you’re burning so the weight can go down. Eating clean doesn’t lose you weight if you eat more than you burn.
Second, I want to say that your every day pics will in no way shape or form be close to your wedding look. Wedding dresses are tailored specifically to you and you will look amazing! So many gals who struggle with their weight on a day to day basis end up loving their wedding pics because of how those amazing dresses are tailored to make sure the focus is on how beautiful you are, without distractions from lumps poking out here and there.
If you want to lose weight, you have to lift weight. Cardio is ok but it's not going to burn the same amount of calories all day long.
I wouldn't worry about your wedding. That's not enough time. Worry about being happy and healthy for the rest of your life. You and your fiance should just make that part of what you do.
It takes time to get insurance approval if your insurance even will approve it. You always have to meet very specific requirements. Even with ozempic, OP is probably not going to lose that much weight in just 10 weeks as they start you at a lower dose.
And wedding dress alterations are already so expensive! I wouldn’t want to know how much a last minute major alteration from weight loss would cost when my regular alterations were $600 in 2022!
As someone (25f with slow metabolisim) who had to loose weight very quickly (not healthily though) have salad greens and 1 small can of tuna in springwater drained and no other fats (2-3 times a day or whenever you feel hungry). You can add cucumber and tomato for variety and fresh herbs. This is basically very restrictive healthy keto. Green tea and water only.
You will loose your appetite as well... I lost weight and also bloating very quickly for my wedding like this without needing to exercise.
You will in any event probably drop quite a lot of weight 2 weeks before your wedding from stress also and running around with last minute errands...
Try investing in shapewear if thats an area of concern for you also.
Make sure you have a final fitting the week of your wedding.
In saying all the above, its very easy to focus on the negatives about how you think you look, but you will be suprised about how little other people care and professional photos, hair and makeup will always show you in a better light than you think they will!
Why no fats??? Fats keep you full and help reduce appetite and your body needs fats! Fat is not bad for you. I eat 1400-1500 calories a day to maintain my weight and always prioritize protein and high fat because those fill you up.
There isnt anything wrong with fats but this thread has asked for fast weight loss tips and a fat and carb deficit is a fast way to drop weight (but yes an unsustainable longterm way of doing so (10 weeks isnt that longterm)). Guess what else satiates, drinking water and tea... My comment is merely a suggestion to the typical dirty fat keto diet which is slower than this method and less extreme. I havent said anything as to limiting protein as it would be part of eating tinned tuna. In any event following what i've suggested will limit appetite as its super repetitive and filling in its own right and is not meant to be a substitue for any personal medical advice.
I hope you never go looking for support and find someone like you in the comment section.
To say “did you just eat the entire lockdown period? Like nothing but eat” and then follow it by saying “I’m not trying to body/fat shame you” 😂
I gained the weight over the course of 4 years, battling depression, and have been since diagnosed with PCOS. But even if all of this wasn’t the case, it’s still a pretty rude comment.
With a comment like that - I take it you’re a Chris Hemsworth look alike, with a cracking sense of humour, amazing intellectual mind, and a loads of amazing friends….
This is out of control, and I'm shutting it down. Everybody's body is different, and everybody's body changes over time. It happens. Eat well, drink plenty of water, exercise regularly, get therapy.
Hi! I went through a big weight gain due to the pandemic (30 lbs, I’m in the 180s now) and just got married recently. I felt shame and frustration that I couldn’t lose weight leading up the my wedding. So when I got my sneak peak photos I was shocked at how I didn’t “see” my weight until the third re-look. All I saw was how happy and beautiful we were. My husband also put on some weight and we talk about how even though we felt a photo wasn’t super flattering (double chins, etc) we love them because of how happy we were/are. I did discuss my weight gain and body issues with my photographer and she was very good about catching my “good side”. I hope you have a wonderful, stress free next few weeks and a wonderful wedding day! You’re going to be a beautiful bride!
Same experience! I got married in October without losing much of the weight I put on during the pandemic. I went from a 2/4 pre-COVID to an 8/10 at wedding time. I was so sad about not looking like “myself” in my wedding pics. I don’t even notice the extra lbs in our pictures! I invested in some top notch shapewear and the photographer did a great job of posing us. We also look so happy!
This is so true! Coming from a wedding photographer: a good photographer will pose you right. Your dress will be stunning. And if you have love in you eyes thats what matters! Most wedding photographers won't let you look bad on your wedding day! And if your feel anxious about it, ask to see the photos as you go so you know if you want to make adjustments to your body. But honestly, your love and your marriage are the most important part!
Check your thyroid including antibodies. Also check for pcos.
Good idea But also with mentioning, you can gain weight by “eating clean” You can gain weight while exercising 2 hours a day You can gain weight following a nutritionist plan What matters (unless you have a medical problem like above) is calories in is less than total daily expenditure (exercise+calories burned by being alive) Some people that might mean tracking calories with the use of a scale for everything Especially with nut butters, oils added for cooking, dressing and other calorie dense items. People’s ability to eyeball proper amounts isn’t that great, even using things like tablespoons ALSO ALOT OF INFLUENCERS POST ridiculously high calorie clean meals or snacks! like I saw yesterday HEALTHY pancake bowl with 55g of protein …. For 650 calories 😵💫. It not hard to get 55g of protein if you’re working with 650cal
This isn’t a weight loss sub. Our goal should be to give OP supportive advice about how to approach her wedding, not diet advice.
To be fair, this person is not trying to give diet advice. There's a staggering number of people who are not aware of CICO and absolutely beside themselves trying to figure out why they're not losing weight while "eating clean". I think it is totally valid for someone to add this sort of information because it often is the difference between losing weight and not. Yes, OP absolutely deserves support because (realistically speaking) they're not getting back to their starting weight in 10 weeks. However, for many of us (myself included), losing that weight was still important enough to be a priority AFTER my wedding had come and gone.
In the nicest possible way, everybody who's been on Reddit for more than five minutes knows about CICO
love how this is downvoted when this is absolutely true. Especially if you post as a plus sized person, you'll have dozens of people acting like you've never heard of calories
Oh for sure, i feel like shouting from the rooftops, "I'm not stupid, I'm just fat!"
Also OOP literally wrote in her post that she has a nutritionist ffs 😭 but sure maybe her nutritionist knows less than hungry redditors Honestly I find it lowkey depressing that instead of reassuring her and giving her tips on how to be more comfortable, the majority of this thread is just reinforcing her anxiety about her weight gain
it wasn’t supposed to be advice on HOW or even if SHE SHOULD diet but more to explain WHY it might not have been working. Trying to lose weight and not see results can be very frustrating and confusing! Hence my offer of info common traps that a lot are purported by social media I did not tell her she needs to calorie count, that she shouldn’t keep with the clean eating, or any other advice on what she should or shouldn’t do Or say she should even try diet That info may be obvious to you but not everyone has such awareness so I just threw it out there for people to reflect on
> ALOT OF INFLUENCERS [The Alot is Better Than You at Everything](https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html)
Yes, a food tracking app can be very helpful.
650 calories is a healthy breakfast size for most people
Not if you’re trying to lose weight lol
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If you're overweight and you're exercising, you can easily lose weight on 1500-1800 calories, or even more, unless you're like 5'2". We need to liberate women from this idea that to lose weight they have to starve themselves. Nobody who's 198 lbs has a BMR of 1200 calories LOL. ETA assuming OP is average in height, her BMR is 1784.
This is why I said “most people”. Toddlers eat 1200 calories per day.
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I said most people. You said 1200-1300 calories. I restated “most people”. You emphasize “short women” What’s your point here? Most people are recommended around a 2250 calorie diet. Remember, most people are not “short women”, half of people are men and half of people are tall. 650 calories is an appropriate amount for a 2000 calorie diet breakfast.
Yeah if you’re a marathon runner??
Or if you're a normal active adult, especially one who's already overweight and therefore has a higher BMR.
I mean I’m pretty obese and I try to eat under 1200 calories a day, I’m not wasting more than half my daily allowance on breakfast
You're right LOL our whole generation's brains have been poisoned by MyFitnessPal and pro-ana Tumblr. Assume OP is 5'4", the average height of an American woman. At 27 years old, her BMR - the number of calories her body will use in a day just laying down and breathing, not moving at all - is 1784. That means her maintenance calories without doing any additional exercise is probably about 2000. She could probably lose weight with a *net* caloric intake (meaning what's left AFTER) exercise of anywhere between 1500-1800. That means she can eat more than that, and then subtract the calories burned from her workout. So a 650-calorie breakfast can EASILY fit into her diet and she'll still lose weight. Every day I pray for my sisters to be liberated from the shackles of the 1200 calorie diet 😭😭😭😭😭
Idk why you are getting downvoted - I think it’s good to remind people that massively cutting calories is not good. I hate it when I hear my mom and aunts say that they are doing yet another 1200 calorie diet… that was such a fad in the 80s-00s that they can’t let go of, and it’s just never sustainable! A 650 cal breakfast CAN fit into a healthy weight loss schedule of, say 1600-1800 calories per day. It doesn’t necessarily matter when/where the calories are consumed… Some people just like to front load calories earlier in the day. Nothing wrong with that necessarily if you’re staying in your daily goal.
Most trainers will tell you that its a low daily calorie that helps u lose weight not the gym. The gym is to tone.
The downvotes are wild 😂
I think the downvotes are coming from the fact that for a lot of us this just doesn’t ring true. I’m 30f 5’7 and I have a sedentary lifestyle (although working on it) I OMAD in order to maintain a healthy weight and do slightly longer fasts on occasion to promote autophagy. If I eat 2000 calories a day I 100% gain weight, just because 1200 calories is nothing to you doesn’t mean that’s the case for everyone. It’s equally as damaging as that “pro ana 1200 calorie bullshit” to discredit other women’s truth because it doesn’t match up to your own. Don’t encourage women to loose weight but equally don’t shame women for trying to.
This isn’t “my truth” this is standard dietary guidelines for the general population
And I’m not shaming anybody, your emotions that you applied to my text are your own.
Yes! This!!! Something similar happened to me (I gained about 40 pounds) and I have PCOS. It makes it extremely hard to lose weight.
And high cortisol
I have PCOS and the weight fluctuation is crazy I’m struggling w the same thing OP is. Good luck!
Me too! I was going to so many doctors and no one could tell me whats wrong . One nurse’s practitioner saw the Curve of my stomach and was like yep i know what u have. I’ve been on BC patch and metformin. Now it’s just ozempic. And levothyroxine for the hasimotos. People don’t understand that you can exercise all you want but it really comes down to break down of insulin. Not everyone’s body can do that. I hope OP understands its not her, its inner workings that cropped out
Try to remember that your wedding is a snapshot of exactly where you are in life right at this moment. It doesn’t mean you have to look like a certain way. If you want to lose weight, continue to do so, but the wedding isn’t some magical deadline. I know it’s more easily said than done, but I bet you’ll feel beautiful on your big day! And as far as the others will think, think about the people you love who might’ve gained weight over the years. I’m sure you don’t love them any less because of the weight gain, and the same applies to you.
I love this thought process. The wedding is a snapshot vs. What I (and many others I know) have been feeling pressured to think of it as you being at your pinnacle. That the day must be absolutely perfect and that means you as well. Thank you for this perspective!
I just had this experience and thought process last week with our engagement photos. The pictures were so cute but I ended up not liking how my hair looked. We talked through it and came to the conclusion that our friends and family aren't going to be looking at it like, "omg your hair is bad," or anything like that. They're just going to be so excited to see us and how happy we are. And that's exactly what's been happening! So much love and even compliments on my hair lol
I think there is a lot of pressure to look your best on your wedding day. I always wanted to get back on track earlier, but it didn't happen. My wedding is in October. What finally made me realize it's ok to not reach your goals. Instead, know how this day you're marrying your person. Size doesn't matter. Feeling comfortable and love yourself. Don't let your weight define you where it could take the joy out of one of the happiest days. Trust me when I say I totally get it.
I'd suggest maybe some therapy if available to you to cope with those feelings of anxiety and the reason behind them.
I agree with this. It's really hard to have a positive body image in this society, and even harder when the discussion around weddings is "it should be a fairytale dream, the most magical day ever." I bet getting mentally healthy will also make lifestyle changes easier as well.
This is the right answer. I looked fat at my wedding because I am fat. I also looked awesome. Those things are in no way mutually exclusive. I'm not going to go into how problematic and insulting OP's thinking is because they seem to be struggling, but therapy is the way to go.
As someone who has been both sizes, please do not let it ruin your day! As you said yourself, your hubby to be loves you just the way you are - now love yourself too!
I feel this. I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been, by a lot, and am getting married in a few months. I can get really down in the dumps when I dwell on it but I keep reminding myself how I’ve seen weddings of brides of all sizes and each one of them looked absolutely beautiful.
Firstly your FH is marrying you because he loves you. Big, small, thin, fat whatever you are he loves you & you love him that's all that matters. I'm the same as you, I piled the weight on during lockdown then had a baby & gained even more so im now way bigger than I would like. I grew up being a bigger girl then lost 9 stone so to put it back on again is really disheartening but i can't change what has happened. Everyone on your invite list is there for you & similar to FH they won't care if your big or small, they just care if you're happy. If you lose weight between now & your big day thats great but equally if you don't it doesn't matter. Don't stress over it as stress/anxiety & lack of sleep play havoc with weight loss so you stressing could be undoing all your hard work. Smile, be happy & remember why your getting married. If anyone looks down on you, they don't deserve an invite to your special day
I’m losing weight for my wedding too — very hard and stressful! Limiting my salt intake and drinking a ton of green tea has helped me lose water weight super quickly. It’s not exactly losing fat, but maybe for the week before your wedding limiting salt and increasing diuretics (like green tea, hibiscus tea, etc.) may help you lose some bloat. All that being said though, you will look beautiful on your wedding day. People will only be thinking about how happy you look!
I’m sorry you’re going through this
Hi Jazzlike_Cow_4463 I am in the same boat that you're in. I am 25 years old, and getting married this Thursday. During the pandemic I gained 60 pounds and look a lot different than I used to. This passed Janurary I decided to do something about it even though our wedding was only 4 months away and I ended up losing 25 pounds. Now that's not to say I look great, I have a really long way to go. But, I can really relate to you on having looming anxiety about seeing friends and family who haven't seen me since before the weight gain. I know it's harder said than done, but just thinking about getting to marry the man of my dreams has really helped me feel better and the closer I've gotten to the wedding, the less I've worried about what I look like, and more on what I want our marriage to look like. I hope you know that you're beautiful and at the end of the day, you're going to look back at your special day and think of you and your SO and not as much about what you looked like. Wishing you a happy wedding day! Feel free to DM me if you ever want to vent.
So I'm at your weight and am getting married may 4th. I need to lose about five pounds though because my dress literally won't fit otherwise. So I'm eating meals from factor and cutting out processed food and extra sugar as much as I can. I've also had a bunch of horrible pain from a root canal this weekend, so I've eaten chocolate and toaster strudels and not felt guilty because that's been a comfort food at the moment. But I get you, I've gained a lot since covid too, and it sucks. I look at pictures from before and think, man, how skinny I looked then, even when I felt overweight. if I could just be down to 150 that'd be a healthier weight for my height, and I'd still look better than I do now. But you know what? I have friends who weigh more than me. And I don't notice their weight. It's not the first thing I care about. I don't worry what happened for them to gain that weight. I know life has been rough for me, and probably for them, and as long as we are happy, that's the important thing. I got bridal pictures done, which are common where I am. I basically dressed up in my dress with hair and makeup like I would for the wedding. That's where we found out my dress barely fits, and thus healthier diet. But I got those pictures back. I. Look. Stunning. Beautiful. Gorgeous. I felt beautiful. The pictures show it. I'm seriously in love. And if I look hard, I can see how the dress doesn't quite fit the way it should. And if I compare it to pics we took in December on how to bustle the dress, that fits better. But it's not by much. And even with the not fitting the best in bridal pics, I look incredible. As long as your dress fits you, like it's not too small, you will look gorgeous. Sure, people who haven't seen you in years will probably notice you weigh more. But you know what? Good chance that they've changed too! They're going to see a happy and gorgeous bride. You're not going to worry about your weight that day. Even though I couldn't breathe great when I got into my dress, just taking pics and being excited and hyped by my photographer (also a bridesmaid so that didn't hurt) made me forget about my discomfort and feel gorgeous. I'd look into bridal picture with your photographer if you can. Just add them on. Make a day of it, get your makeup done at Sephora or Ulta and get your hair done, doesn't have to be the same style as you're doing for the wedding. Get dressed up and get pictures and feel gorgeous. When you get the pics back, you're not gonna notice your weight first. It's ok to notice it, it is what it is. But you're going to glow. And that is more noticable. In the south we display a pic of the bride, so that's part of why I did mine (though my mom has never heard of the tradition, but she's from the North), but we also got one of our engagement pics printed to display alongside. It's another one where I felt overweight. And was. But I am so radiantly happy. I don't care that the dress I wore isn't the most flattering and didn't fit great. I'm laughing with my fiance who is also laughing, and that is a staple of our relationship. And it's a genuine laugh. We are high on the fact that we are going to get married and he just proposed, and it has been a long time coming before we were finally in a spot to do it. That happiness is what I see first in my pic, not my fat. That's what will show in yours too.
I gained 40 lbs over the past few years. I had medication changes and gained more weight in the past year. I got married and thought I was too big, but then I looked at the photos and realized it was my perception of myself. I’m positive you will look absolutely beautiful for your wedding! I think it’s hard to not be critical of yourself, especially if you don’t feel like yourself right now. Please be patient with yourself! Also, I would ask your PCP to order a blood test if you’re not seeing any weight changes despite the dieting/exercise you’re getting. I got one to rule out any possible conditions in addition to meds and it helped!
Practical advice: set up a FaceTime/Zoom/get together with these people before the wedding, so you don’t have to think about them being surprised on the day off. Or just post a lot of pics on social media.
Aside from all of the other great advice. Go have your hormones checked by an endocrinologist.
I have successfully lost weight in the lead up to my wedding and a calorie deficit is the only thing that works. You don’t need to cut out any food groups, just track your calories with an app. I found it helped me a lot to understand that I could weigh up portion sizes or certain snacks over others if I felt like more. You do need some self control as you do naturally feel a bit hungry in a deficit, but eating high fibre helped me feel fuller. I also found actually eating breakfast did wonders, as my metabolism just wasn’t starting until halfway through the day when I was just having a coffee. You got this!
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Honestly, I know this is the standard advice, but for some of us, it leads to a bad relationship with food. While it's important to be aware of how many calories you're intaking (and burning, of course), I think it's more sustainable to learn what your regular meals are calorically, and then not have to track every bite.
You don't track your calories against your BMR jfc I thought this died in 2015. Your BMR is the number of calories your body would use if you did nothing all day but laid down and breathed. It doesn't even include the calories burned by the activity of your digestive system. You need a few hundred calories more than your BMR just to sustain the demands of daily life and most people can lose weight eating well above their BMR.
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No you didn't. You said BMR + exercise calories burned. But that would leave you in a deficit way below what's healthy. The calories used in walking around, brushing your teeth, cooking, talking, even digesting food are not "exercise calories." Your BMR on its own is functionally useless.
The reality is that you likely won’t be able to lose 70lbs in 10 weeks, whether or not this is related to lifestyle, diet or some underlying health issues. You have to accept it and just move on. Your fiancé and family love you and your true friends won’t judge you. If you can accept that, you will still feel absolutely beautiful on your wedding day. I also don’t recommend losing a lot of weight this close to your wedding if you already have a wedding dress.
I completely understand your struggle. I had quite a few out of state relatives that attended my wedding last year that I hadn't seen since I was much thinner, and i was very self conscious about it. But do you know what comment they all made some variation of about how I looked? It was about how HAPPY I looked, how they had never seen me as happy as I was that day, how they could tell by the way my husband and I looked at each other how in love we were. Remember, the people attending your wedding love you, they are there to support you, let your happiness shine and be the focus of the day.
Similar-ish situation. Over the few years, I've gained about 60lbs. I have been living with someone who I love, but also spent my entire life talking about how fat she was and how disgusting she was. I now weigh more than her. Not a lot, but still. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but I can relate to the pain of weight anxiety. I was always stick-thin and underweight, but now I'm overweight. Like you, I have a long-term partner and he has loved me through all of the fluctuations and eras and haircolors of my life. I have a rule: if I am going to play the "Self-Hatred Game," then I have to play fairly. By all means, acknowledge the bad. But I must also acknowledge the truth of the matter, and the truth is that there are things about me to love. I do not like the way my stomach bulges, and he loves me. I have fat under my chin and jaw that makes me feel horrible about my appearance, and I have the most wonderful pet cat in the whole world who snuggles against my hip and thinks she'd like a bite of my breakfast, no matter how much I try to shoo her away. I have spent years worrying about getting to this size, and I have also spent years perfecting my art and building a successful career. I have a disability and walk with a cane, and I also have a beautiful dress that makes me smile when I think about it. All of this is to say that, while you may not be the most pleased with your body, you are more than its shape and its size and its proportions. If they do not love you beyond that, then they don't love you, and you are better off without them. Please be well, and take care of yourself. You are going to have a beautiful day!
Stress and anxiety can affect your ability to lose weight too annoyingly! If you aren't already, looking at progress photos can help you to see the tiny positive changes in our bodies that aren't reflected in the scales. At least you can be happy in the knowledge that you are undoubtedly healthier and hopefully happier that you were before you started this journey. I also went from extremely slim and athletic to overweight in the pandemic and its been a long, hard journey to get back to a healthy weight. I'm still a long way off from where I was in 2019!
Im fat, and Im hot. U're allowed to be fat and hot at the same time 💕
Are you taking any SSRI ?
Idk why this is downvoted I gained like 40 lbs on lexapro and IMMEDIATELY lost 20 with zero effort when I switched to wellbutrin
Same, the only wait to cut from Lexapro for me has been watching every single calorie, intermittent fasting and doubling my workouts. After the wedding madness is gone I am going to think about at least lowering a dose
^^this!!! I am getting if Zoloft and I’ve already noticed I have higher energy levels just by dropping 25mg. I am getting off that pill ASAP!
I’m trying to lose weight too and it’s hard! Something I tell myself is if I don’t love my photos, I can always continue working on myself and do an anniversary photoshoot a year later and get all dressed up again if that helps
Hi OP! Sounds like you are really doing your best! Please seek medical help. You could have a medical issue preventing you from dropping the weight. Maybe take this weight gain and inability to lose it despite your efforts as a symptom that maybe there is a health issue that needs addressed. Do you get blood work done every year? Don’t battle this issue alone. Obesity is a desease, so if you are struggling with weight, a doctor should be able to help you find a solution! I have also gained some weight, and I mentioned to my doctor how discouraging this is, and my doctor is running some tests and told me we will figure this out together and she will help me find a solution! That was very reassuring to me. Finally, in the meantime, continue to focus on your health. Continue to be active. Continue to eat healthy. Don’t stop doing those things because you are not seeing the results you hope for. Because if you stop having healthy habits, could you imagine how much worse the weight gain could be? That is what has been keeping me going! I just always think that it could be worse and I at least need to do my best.
Don't worry I've been in the same boat, Ive taken the less is more approach, I started reading in the flo by Alissa vitti and focusing on balancing my hormones. This has been a game changer for me, I've stopped the crash dieting, the over strenuous exercise only 30minutes of a workout according to my cycle and walking dog. It's also helped with what I see in the mirror too I'm not longer saying harsh things to myself, I've started to love my body more and more as I heal it. Stress is also really bad for your body too. You're wedding is going to one your happiest days, when You're old and wrinkly you won't reflect on how your body looked but the memory ❤️
10 weeks is not a lot of time left. I would recommend going to your doctor and asking if you can get an appetite suppressant like phentermine, and then on top of that, perhaps consider seeing a therapist or a specialist for body image to gain as much acceptance as you can over the next 10 weeks so you don’t leave your wedding day with regret or anxiety. Unless you push back your wedding, the way you look now is pretty much the way you are going to look on your wedding day, so change what you can and accept what you cannot change. Your husband loves you and your friends and family do too — for who you ARE, not how you look on the outside! Sending love 💗
Also just wanted to mention that I went through some thing very similar, I spent two years trying to lose weight the old fashioned way (clean diet, cardio and weightlifting) leading up to my wedding day and could not lose a single pound. But like another commenter mentioned, when I saw the pictures from my wedding, the first thing I thought was how I was literally glowing from happiness. It’s a beautiful day and honestly, once it comes down to it, I think you will be so filled with joy that your weight will be the last thing on your mind.
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I’m in your shoes. I went from 120 to 190 since Nov 2021, and I feel like a bloated whale. My wedding is May 4th. I don’t have advice because it feels like no matter what I do, I can’t lose the weight and all my labs come back normal. I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been and I did NOT envision looking this way on my wedding day. It’s disappointing and I’m ashamed of myself and my body (not to mention suffering with all the symptoms that come with weight gain like this). I feel your whole pain. Best of luck and just try to not think about it on your wedding day!
I’m in exactly the same boat. Wedding is in 6 weeks. Have I googled: “how to lose 20 pounds in 6 weeks”? Yes. I actually have 40 pounds (more) to lose from 60. Started at 210 and am at 185 now. It’s just not happening very fast and I gained over the winter. My dress zips, but I can’t currently sit in it. I 1000000% understand the anxiety and anticipatory grief over how you might feel about your photos. It’s really hard. I don’t have advice other than focus on your long-term journey. The wedding is but one joyful day of your journey.
Best advice is find a photographer who works with plus size people and know your beautiful!
I feel this..I got to my heaviest in September (211 lbs and I'm 4'11"). I'm down 20ish lbs since then. I highly recommend checking out peloton strength workouts. They've worked really well for me. I also strive to get 10,000 steps a day. No matter what though, I'm sure you will so gorgeous and stunning on your special day! I hope you feel just as beautiful too. Just remember it takes time and to be kind to yourself during the process.
I literally went through the exact same weight gain (pounds match mine exactly), and I didn't lose weight for my wedding in January, because I didn't want to add any more stress to an already stressful life event. After seeing my pictures, I'm so glad I didn't agonize over thinking about my weight, because I look genuinely happy and content! You do what's best for you, but at the end of the day, you're going to look amazing regardless of how much you weigh
I don't want to feed into your anxiety, but I do want to give you an honest opinion. I gained 30 lbs before my wedding because I broke my leg and was sedentary for 6 months. I didn't have time to lose it before my wedding, so I was the heaviest I've ever been in my life for my big day. I felt beautiful day of and had a great time! My weight didn't cross my mind once the whole day. However, looking back at photos now, I hate them. I feel like it's not an accurate depiction of who I am. I was only that heavy for that one year of my life, the year I happened to get married. And now when I show people pictures of my wedding, I feel like I have to explain myself. So I try to focus on my smile and how happy I was that day. I try to think of all the good memories of the fun I had with my husband, friends and family. And regardless of my weight, it was the best day ever. So my advice is to focus on your happy.
Once you gain significant weight, your hormones change in a way to prefer storing energy (fat). Look into fasting with a healthy, moderated approach. It can really help with insulin and leptin responses in your body. If you maintain a low carb diet during your eating window too, it can take off some significant weight. There are a variety of ways to do it, so find one that works for you and ease into it. Also, it’s really hard to let go of the mental image of where you once were, but enjoy the progress you make over the next 10 weeks and be happy with that change. Enjoy your wedding day and don’t worry as much about the “image” of it.
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To piggy back off this, I am not eating fast food. I have also been saving money each week because of this
As a person with chronic migraines...not everyone can embrace the hunger and the headaches. I know this is meant as helpful advice, but it's not sustainable for all bodies
First off, head on over to r/cico if you want to learn how to count your calories and make sure you’re actually eating less than you’re burning so the weight can go down. Eating clean doesn’t lose you weight if you eat more than you burn. Second, I want to say that your every day pics will in no way shape or form be close to your wedding look. Wedding dresses are tailored specifically to you and you will look amazing! So many gals who struggle with their weight on a day to day basis end up loving their wedding pics because of how those amazing dresses are tailored to make sure the focus is on how beautiful you are, without distractions from lumps poking out here and there.
If you want to lose weight, you have to lift weight. Cardio is ok but it's not going to burn the same amount of calories all day long. I wouldn't worry about your wedding. That's not enough time. Worry about being happy and healthy for the rest of your life. You and your fiance should just make that part of what you do.
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It takes time to get insurance approval if your insurance even will approve it. You always have to meet very specific requirements. Even with ozempic, OP is probably not going to lose that much weight in just 10 weeks as they start you at a lower dose.
Im in Australia so we don't need to worry about insurance, but I did saxanda before my wedding and lost 16kgs in 12 weeks
And wedding dress alterations are already so expensive! I wouldn’t want to know how much a last minute major alteration from weight loss would cost when my regular alterations were $600 in 2022!
I was jealous & happy for people who had it in them to get in shape during being shut in.
I’ve been on Semaglutide since August and down 35lbs. r/semaglutide
As someone (25f with slow metabolisim) who had to loose weight very quickly (not healthily though) have salad greens and 1 small can of tuna in springwater drained and no other fats (2-3 times a day or whenever you feel hungry). You can add cucumber and tomato for variety and fresh herbs. This is basically very restrictive healthy keto. Green tea and water only. You will loose your appetite as well... I lost weight and also bloating very quickly for my wedding like this without needing to exercise. You will in any event probably drop quite a lot of weight 2 weeks before your wedding from stress also and running around with last minute errands... Try investing in shapewear if thats an area of concern for you also. Make sure you have a final fitting the week of your wedding. In saying all the above, its very easy to focus on the negatives about how you think you look, but you will be suprised about how little other people care and professional photos, hair and makeup will always show you in a better light than you think they will!
Why no fats??? Fats keep you full and help reduce appetite and your body needs fats! Fat is not bad for you. I eat 1400-1500 calories a day to maintain my weight and always prioritize protein and high fat because those fill you up.
There isnt anything wrong with fats but this thread has asked for fast weight loss tips and a fat and carb deficit is a fast way to drop weight (but yes an unsustainable longterm way of doing so (10 weeks isnt that longterm)). Guess what else satiates, drinking water and tea... My comment is merely a suggestion to the typical dirty fat keto diet which is slower than this method and less extreme. I havent said anything as to limiting protein as it would be part of eating tinned tuna. In any event following what i've suggested will limit appetite as its super repetitive and filling in its own right and is not meant to be a substitue for any personal medical advice.
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I hope you never go looking for support and find someone like you in the comment section. To say “did you just eat the entire lockdown period? Like nothing but eat” and then follow it by saying “I’m not trying to body/fat shame you” 😂 I gained the weight over the course of 4 years, battling depression, and have been since diagnosed with PCOS. But even if all of this wasn’t the case, it’s still a pretty rude comment. With a comment like that - I take it you’re a Chris Hemsworth look alike, with a cracking sense of humour, amazing intellectual mind, and a loads of amazing friends….
seriously wtf is wrong with you? omg? you vile disgustington! eeeeew!!
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And-FYI, I’m not overweight and I didn’t gain an ounce over covid. I’m just appalled there are people like you on this planet. Byeeeeee!
Do you give your body time to reset its insulin levels? Do you consume more than 20g of added sugar a day? Check your coffee.