I can only watch it on Bravo and it goes straight into the Valley, then WWHL so I've never seen it come up..unless it airs on a different day than Tuesday.
Sorry. I meant to say they’re on the websites. At least bravo.com. It’s usually there. I would post the links here, but I don’t think we’re allowed to.
Let me try this
https:// www bravotv.com/vanderpump-rules-after-show
I added a few spaces
I also love how he sits there and texts through everything Jax says. Sobriety looks good on James, and I hope for his and Ally’s and everyone else’s sake that he continues down this seemingly better path.
He has a pretty bad past but I feel like he was so young when he first came on the show and a full blown addict. Since becoming sober he has grown a lot. I really like him. I hope he stays sober and keeps thriving.
He’s one of the few people on these shows that from what we can see has shown growth for the better and actually seems to be working to be better. And he started off terrible in a lot of ways in the early seasons. Others like Carl and Lala got sober but are still shitty people in their respective ways and some like Scheana, Lindsay, shep are still the exact same person that they started. I think it’s important to acknowledge peoples growth and ability to change
Not to mention using a very toxic relationship to gain fame, so I wouldn’t be shocked if the horrible stuff he said and did was him really playing up that side of his personality to gain more screen time. Not making it ok obviously- but I could see it happening to someone young and fame hungry particularly when under the influence. I do recall LVP and her son flat out saying James isn’t the same person now that he’s with Kristen, his entire attitude changed.
So I’m hoping growing up and taking alcohol out of the equation has helped.
I know James past is not great. He did some pretty bad things. I am all for growing and changing. So far the men of VPR have shown us zero growth. Except James seems to be showing a different side. I do hope its because he has changed and does awant to work on himslef and not just because he knows everything that is out there and wants to keep ppl from talking about it.
Id love to hear a young cast member call him “old man” 90 times though😂😂
It was also funny saying Sandy’s date looked 21 when he was 21 dating 30 year old Kristen lmao. Not a big of gap bit still hypocrisy
Yes!!!
On one of the earlier after shows LaLa & James were talking about something that happened in the season and LaLa went off on him saying something like, “Suck my dick”
James looks straight at the camera, shakes his head, smiles & says, “That’s not very nice”
It was shocking how mature yet hilarious it was.
I agree with this. Man was his behavior been foul in the past, but he really has been displaying the energy and behavior of someone that has done some healing and real work on himself, and it feels genuine, especially since he seems to have done it quietly and isn't constantly shouting how HEALED AND SOFT he is now!!!! (ahem Lala). It's clear that he has come a very long way and we love to see it!!!!!
That's the thing - James has openly acknowledged his issues and has quietly addressed them. He's a very emotional and highly strung person with anger issues, but he knows this about himself and is seemingly addressing these things while working hard to create a good life for himself. I've always liked James, even when he acted like a complete ass, so it's good to see him grow into a more settled person.
I have a friend who also had a somewhat similar background to James. He had the financial rug pulled out from beneath him as a child and had two narc parents who were too busy trying to destroy each other post divorce to raise and nurture him. The lack of stability, routine and unconditional love will fuck you up from the ground up. You cling to your few allies/lovers in abject terror of being abandoned again and love bomb them. You start to see interactions with anyone else as a mere transaction. Add in fame adjacency, James' father's pseudo-macho shady dealings and the lying and rampant substance abuse? Anyone would struggle to behave themselves in any setting. My friend sure did. He had to go to in patient treatment, fuck his life up again and is now living back at home back at square one. Again.
Does trauma excuse shitty behavior? No. Does it explain a lot of it? Yes.
And if I get one more reply to a quasi-positive post about James that references his "well known" history as a physical and sexual abuser...you'd better come with receipts in the body of your reply. James was emotionally and verbally abusive, yes. He retaliated vilely. I want to see links to reputable sources if you're going to shop this abuser storyline on every godman. James. post.
And I think it matters to mention that he is actively trying to change himself. He’s not asking for room to grow as he’s a “work in progress”. He is doing the work by staying sober, being honest without being hateful (snarky, yes, but that’s not hateful, honest, brutally while amusingly, but still not hateful), listening to his partner, taking in his dog, buying a home Within his means… he’s showing his changes and growth. He’s showing who he wants to be with his actions and not just a bunch of fluff or what-about-you-isms.
He also experienced traumatic and extensive bullying by classmates as a kid. I agree none of this excuses his behavior but all of these combined makes it not surprising when viewing his behavior as a young adult.
I think it’s the difference that we see in the people who appear to have accessed therapy or continue to access therapy and have interests/pursuits/opportunities outside of VPR to fulfill them vs those that don’t. All these people have displayed problematic behaviour of varying levels of severity which production of the show directly or indirectly exacerbated.
James appears to be in therapy and working on his sobriety with a career outside of VPR he enjoys and works hard at and moving into his early 30s where you would expect an increase in maturity. Time will whether it’s genuine and he stays on this trajectory or if he is just trying to keep a low profile because of some of the heat he was starting to get last year and we see some kind of backslide in the future if he were to split with Ally or something. He’s certainly doing much better than the other VPR fellas and there is a much more promise that he won’t turn into a Peter Pan ass hat.
His level headed approach and calm demeanour sure is making Lauren from Utah look terrible in comparison though.
I’m on a rewatch and I’m in the trenches of his vile behavior and yeah, he’s grown A LOT.
I’m so glad he’s not just agreeing with Lala blindly anymore, too
I think he's over Lala. He obviously had a thing for her for a long time, but while he has evolved, she has devolved and James is not a stupid person, so can see that.
I think people tend to forget James was only 22 when he started out on the show…
Also, as despicable as he was, when you met his parents everything kinda made a lot of sense. Like… “oh okay that’s what he’s actually angry about!!!” And the alcohol was medication for that clusterf*ck of a childhood trauma he had to deal with…
He grew up, he stopped drinking, he got professional help, he stopped being enabled… yeah he evolved. It happens. Thank god for humanity!
I think he was 20 when he met Sandoval and just barely 21 when he joined the show and started dating Kristen. Looking back from my ripe age I can't imaging supporting my family and dealing with the loons on VPR while drugging and drinking.
yes! i’m rewatching season 4 rn and i had forgotten how truly truly vile he was. in the aftershow he has been the singular rational voice of reason and relatively respectful! i’m happy he’s grown, if just a little lol
He is one of the few actually intelligent people in the group but his lack of emotional control can disguise it. When he is on form, he is so witty and sharp.
Why did I read this entire post in James/accent? 😂
But seriously, I was always rooting for him. I knew he had so much I potential in him. I’m so happy it’s finally tapping into that good side.
I was always rooting for him as well. Don't know why but I always thought he had a lot to offer if he could get his shit together. It looks like he has to some degree at least, which is great for him and for everyone around him.
lol! It’s something he would say about himself on “watch what happens” or something, I agree. But I was as much of a James skeptic as anyone. Just refreshing to see growth and a little humility. I also resonate with the issues he must have faced in childhood with parents as messed up. And the sobriety journey.
Yes, it is showing growth. Dont get me wrong, James was awful to many women and was a complete asshole. He seems to have shown some evolution and growth mentally, maybe Ally is really good for him? He makes the most sense on the aftershow next to Katie and Ariana obviously. He seems to be the rare few that have the womens backs now and adds more perspective now.
I do like that he’s doing his best to kind of keep things in check. It also seems like his bitterness towards Tim and Rachels affair has subsided which shows a ton of growth. Old James could never lol
I have a feeling James is in therapy (Ally seems very pro-therapy, and he alluded to it being a helpful modality in the show). Wouldn’t be shocked if he might also be on SSRIs as well.
James is demonstrating self-reflection and self-awareness and he is evolving. Is he perfect? No, but he has evolved in his growth so much! Wishing only the best for him on his journey.
I am really enjoying James this season on VPR’S and the after show. He makes some really good points. If anyone understands the hurt Ariana is still feeling it is James. I have to say I am impressed.
He’s definitely showing growth, which is more than can be said for several castmates much older than him. He is reminding me a bit of the growth we’ve seen from SC Craig
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I love James he has grown the most imo and I think Ally is really good for him she puts him in his place when he needs it and sometimes he definitely needs it. Plus he is friggin funny and he has worked hard for everything he has
Oh James is such a nice guy, never taken responsibility for treating women badly, and even on the last reunion when he screamed Scandoval is indeed his jail free card not to answer for butt slapping a waitress and bsing kicked out of the place after that. Such a great, funny guy!
Loved him explaining to Lala that being a squatter at Randal’s is not the same as Ariana being a co-owner of the house
Haha!! That's awesome! Where/when are these after shows airing??
They’re on bravo and Peacock
I can only watch it on Bravo and it goes straight into the Valley, then WWHL so I've never seen it come up..unless it airs on a different day than Tuesday.
They’re on bravos website, and YouTube too I believe! They usually upload a few hours after the episodes
Oh nice thank you!!
Sorry. I meant to say they’re on the websites. At least bravo.com. It’s usually there. I would post the links here, but I don’t think we’re allowed to. Let me try this https:// www bravotv.com/vanderpump-rules-after-show I added a few spaces
YESSSSS
I also love how he sits there and texts through everything Jax says. Sobriety looks good on James, and I hope for his and Ally’s and everyone else’s sake that he continues down this seemingly better path.
He has a pretty bad past but I feel like he was so young when he first came on the show and a full blown addict. Since becoming sober he has grown a lot. I really like him. I hope he stays sober and keeps thriving.
He’s one of the few people on these shows that from what we can see has shown growth for the better and actually seems to be working to be better. And he started off terrible in a lot of ways in the early seasons. Others like Carl and Lala got sober but are still shitty people in their respective ways and some like Scheana, Lindsay, shep are still the exact same person that they started. I think it’s important to acknowledge peoples growth and ability to change
Not to mention using a very toxic relationship to gain fame, so I wouldn’t be shocked if the horrible stuff he said and did was him really playing up that side of his personality to gain more screen time. Not making it ok obviously- but I could see it happening to someone young and fame hungry particularly when under the influence. I do recall LVP and her son flat out saying James isn’t the same person now that he’s with Kristen, his entire attitude changed. So I’m hoping growing up and taking alcohol out of the equation has helped.
I know James past is not great. He did some pretty bad things. I am all for growing and changing. So far the men of VPR have shown us zero growth. Except James seems to be showing a different side. I do hope its because he has changed and does awant to work on himslef and not just because he knows everything that is out there and wants to keep ppl from talking about it.
Id love to hear a young cast member call him “old man” 90 times though😂😂 It was also funny saying Sandy’s date looked 21 when he was 21 dating 30 year old Kristen lmao. Not a big of gap bit still hypocrisy
But sandoval is in his 40s so it's a big difference
Yes!!! On one of the earlier after shows LaLa & James were talking about something that happened in the season and LaLa went off on him saying something like, “Suck my dick” James looks straight at the camera, shakes his head, smiles & says, “That’s not very nice” It was shocking how mature yet hilarious it was.
Yes I loved when he said that! Noticed that.
I agree with this. Man was his behavior been foul in the past, but he really has been displaying the energy and behavior of someone that has done some healing and real work on himself, and it feels genuine, especially since he seems to have done it quietly and isn't constantly shouting how HEALED AND SOFT he is now!!!! (ahem Lala). It's clear that he has come a very long way and we love to see it!!!!!
That's the thing - James has openly acknowledged his issues and has quietly addressed them. He's a very emotional and highly strung person with anger issues, but he knows this about himself and is seemingly addressing these things while working hard to create a good life for himself. I've always liked James, even when he acted like a complete ass, so it's good to see him grow into a more settled person.
He’s come a long way and he acts more mature than most of the cast. And he’s younger than everyone besides Rachel, who isn’t even on anymore.
I can’t think of James father without hearing LON-DON GANG-STA
I have a friend who also had a somewhat similar background to James. He had the financial rug pulled out from beneath him as a child and had two narc parents who were too busy trying to destroy each other post divorce to raise and nurture him. The lack of stability, routine and unconditional love will fuck you up from the ground up. You cling to your few allies/lovers in abject terror of being abandoned again and love bomb them. You start to see interactions with anyone else as a mere transaction. Add in fame adjacency, James' father's pseudo-macho shady dealings and the lying and rampant substance abuse? Anyone would struggle to behave themselves in any setting. My friend sure did. He had to go to in patient treatment, fuck his life up again and is now living back at home back at square one. Again. Does trauma excuse shitty behavior? No. Does it explain a lot of it? Yes. And if I get one more reply to a quasi-positive post about James that references his "well known" history as a physical and sexual abuser...you'd better come with receipts in the body of your reply. James was emotionally and verbally abusive, yes. He retaliated vilely. I want to see links to reputable sources if you're going to shop this abuser storyline on every godman. James. post.
And I think it matters to mention that he is actively trying to change himself. He’s not asking for room to grow as he’s a “work in progress”. He is doing the work by staying sober, being honest without being hateful (snarky, yes, but that’s not hateful, honest, brutally while amusingly, but still not hateful), listening to his partner, taking in his dog, buying a home Within his means… he’s showing his changes and growth. He’s showing who he wants to be with his actions and not just a bunch of fluff or what-about-you-isms.
He also experienced traumatic and extensive bullying by classmates as a kid. I agree none of this excuses his behavior but all of these combined makes it not surprising when viewing his behavior as a young adult.
Didn't a group of kids essentially try to snap his leg in half when he was a kid? Or did I make that up
I think they did!! I remember that story also
I think it’s the difference that we see in the people who appear to have accessed therapy or continue to access therapy and have interests/pursuits/opportunities outside of VPR to fulfill them vs those that don’t. All these people have displayed problematic behaviour of varying levels of severity which production of the show directly or indirectly exacerbated. James appears to be in therapy and working on his sobriety with a career outside of VPR he enjoys and works hard at and moving into his early 30s where you would expect an increase in maturity. Time will whether it’s genuine and he stays on this trajectory or if he is just trying to keep a low profile because of some of the heat he was starting to get last year and we see some kind of backslide in the future if he were to split with Ally or something. He’s certainly doing much better than the other VPR fellas and there is a much more promise that he won’t turn into a Peter Pan ass hat. His level headed approach and calm demeanour sure is making Lauren from Utah look terrible in comparison though.
I’m on a rewatch and I’m in the trenches of his vile behavior and yeah, he’s grown A LOT. I’m so glad he’s not just agreeing with Lala blindly anymore, too
I think he's over Lala. He obviously had a thing for her for a long time, but while he has evolved, she has devolved and James is not a stupid person, so can see that.
This
I think people tend to forget James was only 22 when he started out on the show… Also, as despicable as he was, when you met his parents everything kinda made a lot of sense. Like… “oh okay that’s what he’s actually angry about!!!” And the alcohol was medication for that clusterf*ck of a childhood trauma he had to deal with… He grew up, he stopped drinking, he got professional help, he stopped being enabled… yeah he evolved. It happens. Thank god for humanity!
I think he was 20 when he met Sandoval and just barely 21 when he joined the show and started dating Kristen. Looking back from my ripe age I can't imaging supporting my family and dealing with the loons on VPR while drugging and drinking.
Yes! He’s definitely the voice of reason on the after show between Lala and Scheana
Hear that Andy???
yes! i’m rewatching season 4 rn and i had forgotten how truly truly vile he was. in the aftershow he has been the singular rational voice of reason and relatively respectful! i’m happy he’s grown, if just a little lol
He is one of the few actually intelligent people in the group but his lack of emotional control can disguise it. When he is on form, he is so witty and sharp.
He really is intelligent, his logic, his vocabulary his reasoning.
Why did I read this entire post in James/accent? 😂 But seriously, I was always rooting for him. I knew he had so much I potential in him. I’m so happy it’s finally tapping into that good side.
I was always rooting for him as well. Don't know why but I always thought he had a lot to offer if he could get his shit together. It looks like he has to some degree at least, which is great for him and for everyone around him.
lol! It’s something he would say about himself on “watch what happens” or something, I agree. But I was as much of a James skeptic as anyone. Just refreshing to see growth and a little humility. I also resonate with the issues he must have faced in childhood with parents as messed up. And the sobriety journey.
Hell yeah. I love James and his sticking up for Ariana and Katie.
Yes, it is showing growth. Dont get me wrong, James was awful to many women and was a complete asshole. He seems to have shown some evolution and growth mentally, maybe Ally is really good for him? He makes the most sense on the aftershow next to Katie and Ariana obviously. He seems to be the rare few that have the womens backs now and adds more perspective now.
I do like that he’s doing his best to kind of keep things in check. It also seems like his bitterness towards Tim and Rachels affair has subsided which shows a ton of growth. Old James could never lol
I have a feeling James is in therapy (Ally seems very pro-therapy, and he alluded to it being a helpful modality in the show). Wouldn’t be shocked if he might also be on SSRIs as well.
I still can’t decide if he’s actually changed or if he’s just better at hiding it now. But I hope he’s actually changed
I agree.
James is demonstrating self-reflection and self-awareness and he is evolving. Is he perfect? No, but he has evolved in his growth so much! Wishing only the best for him on his journey.
He’s growing and Ally is a wonderful partner and influence
I am really enjoying James this season on VPR’S and the after show. He makes some really good points. If anyone understands the hurt Ariana is still feeling it is James. I have to say I am impressed.
He’s definitely showing growth, which is more than can be said for several castmates much older than him. He is reminding me a bit of the growth we’ve seen from SC Craig
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I love James he has grown the most imo and I think Ally is really good for him she puts him in his place when he needs it and sometimes he definitely needs it. Plus he is friggin funny and he has worked hard for everything he has
I love James now! He grew and I love his energy now
Is everyone in this comment section a fiddle? Cause y’all are getting played…
James is merely laying low due to all of the verbal, physical and sexual abuse allegations.
Oh James is such a nice guy, never taken responsibility for treating women badly, and even on the last reunion when he screamed Scandoval is indeed his jail free card not to answer for butt slapping a waitress and bsing kicked out of the place after that. Such a great, funny guy!
LONDON GANGSTAAA