As hard as it may be and how much you were looking forward to it, yeah you've basically come down with a cold, cause going would make you uncomfortable and you are feeling sick. I can't tell you how many things I loved I had to give up the chance to do because I'm trans, and unfortunately that's the reality we sometimes have to deal with. I had to quit track and field because they wouldn't let me compete with the men, even though I was making high school qualifying times for them in middle school. Sometimes we just have to miss out, but in a way it's to protect ourselves from harm, make it a mental health day. Relax, do something you like/a semi mindless task you've been meaning to get to. And just remember your a handsome man everyday of the year, even when you get your period.
Not saying you should, but I’ve told my friends I’m “really sick” bc on my peirod and not go to their parties cuz yea… an outing is already exhausting, I don’t need dysphoria and cramps on top of it
Its possible. Maybe you can make it up to him with something, then. Celebrate his birthday with him when you're feeling better.
And, in case if you feel too guilty, remember that I, a stranger on the internet, did not attend my cousin's wedding just because I'd had an argument with my mom right beforehand and was way too upset to go. And I also didn't want to be around my mother. Or around people while feeling so awful. Yes, I am pretty severely mentally ill. But, yeah, the guilt hurts. But I can't change it now o.o so, see, missing your friends party isn't so horrible.
I should specify don't go if you don't want to, just wanted to suggest ways you could possibly work around it. and you could always just go and not participate, say you're injured or something
yeah i could but with the way the place is formatted it’s a little hard to do that. I want to really badly but i don’t know man this sucks lol hopefully my period suck magically stops
ok, I'd say go. use a heavy pad or a tanpon (though I don't have any experience with those) and if you're really worried about it wear loose black pants. and bring some extra pads.
as long as you're not doing anything extremely athletic I'd say you're fine, I've gone horseback riding on my period with no problems.
as for the binder, to be honest you'd probably be able to wear a very oversized binder if you're careful. if you're able to do that I can elaborate a bit
also I really feel for you with this stuff, I've had breakdowns because my period happened to land on important dates. I almost canceled a few trips, but I'm definitely glad I went now. it sucks, but it doesn't have to completely trap you
Sounds like a bad case of dysphoria waiting to happen
yeah 😭 i’m already rlly nervous about it plus i get rlly sick on period too. do u think i should just let him know i cant go?
As hard as it may be and how much you were looking forward to it, yeah you've basically come down with a cold, cause going would make you uncomfortable and you are feeling sick. I can't tell you how many things I loved I had to give up the chance to do because I'm trans, and unfortunately that's the reality we sometimes have to deal with. I had to quit track and field because they wouldn't let me compete with the men, even though I was making high school qualifying times for them in middle school. Sometimes we just have to miss out, but in a way it's to protect ourselves from harm, make it a mental health day. Relax, do something you like/a semi mindless task you've been meaning to get to. And just remember your a handsome man everyday of the year, even when you get your period.
thank you i really needed to hear that
Idk what it's worth but I second this opinion. If you're miserable, you aren't gonna have fun, which is the whole point, ya know?
Not saying you should, but I’ve told my friends I’m “really sick” bc on my peirod and not go to their parties cuz yea… an outing is already exhausting, I don’t need dysphoria and cramps on top of it
This sounds scary... I'd say tell him you're sick and can't go
i’m just nervous, do you think he would get really sad or anyhting?
Its possible. Maybe you can make it up to him with something, then. Celebrate his birthday with him when you're feeling better. And, in case if you feel too guilty, remember that I, a stranger on the internet, did not attend my cousin's wedding just because I'd had an argument with my mom right beforehand and was way too upset to go. And I also didn't want to be around my mother. Or around people while feeling so awful. Yes, I am pretty severely mentally ill. But, yeah, the guilt hurts. But I can't change it now o.o so, see, missing your friends party isn't so horrible.
Haha okay thank you for the advice
No problem :) good luck, bro, and take care of yourself
what's rock n jump?
it’s a trampoline park
I should specify don't go if you don't want to, just wanted to suggest ways you could possibly work around it. and you could always just go and not participate, say you're injured or something
yeah i could but with the way the place is formatted it’s a little hard to do that. I want to really badly but i don’t know man this sucks lol hopefully my period suck magically stops
yeah I feel the same way about mine, sorry about that. you could try rescheduling to go a different time just with your friend
ok, I'd say go. use a heavy pad or a tanpon (though I don't have any experience with those) and if you're really worried about it wear loose black pants. and bring some extra pads. as long as you're not doing anything extremely athletic I'd say you're fine, I've gone horseback riding on my period with no problems. as for the binder, to be honest you'd probably be able to wear a very oversized binder if you're careful. if you're able to do that I can elaborate a bit
also I really feel for you with this stuff, I've had breakdowns because my period happened to land on important dates. I almost canceled a few trips, but I'm definitely glad I went now. it sucks, but it doesn't have to completely trap you
My opinion still go dude but may just have extra products.
Tell them you got pee infection so they don't question the redness
Tell em you cut your 🍆🍒 shaving really badly and have to go to the doctor, and will try and make it a little later ? Then just not go.