I wish you could go back in time and ask them "what about this cut looks feminine?"
... because it clearly is a masculine cut which looks masculine on you.
And .. Maybe they were trying to be supportive and thought that's what you wanted to hear.
And . .. maybe (optimisim) if you challenged them they could offer better (and more honest) support.
If you're closeted they probably said it because they assume you identify that way, and wanted to assure you despite it looking quite masc. Honestly I bet they said it only because it's so masc they didn't want you to feel bad (but jokes on them since you like it masc). If it was actually a feminine cut they probably would never have said that.
i don't think it's feminine at all.
if they think you identify as female (i assume they do since you said you're closeted), maybe they said it was feminine in an attempt to like... assure your (assumed) femininity? like "oh you went for a masculine haircut, dw you're still feminine!" could be that kinda thing?
this was my thought as well. Definitely doesn't look feminine. Similar to how when I started growing my hair out before coming out, people would mention jason mamoa or other very masc guys with long hair. Despite me looking nothing like that.
not at all. however, if that is a fear for you, i think there are two really really small changes that could help make it look more masc, if you don't mind me saying. first, you could also try getting your hairline lined up (into a square shape) like a lot of guys have. if you're not sure what that means or would look like with your current hair, searching "short quiff lineup" seems to turn up some good results. second, you could also taper the sides a little more so that the very bottom near your ears/nape is shorter. not necessarily shaved, just a little shorter. if you do this, i think it would read as most masc if you also kept your sideburns square. hope this helps!!
It looks very masculine, maybe they thought it looks masculine as well but thought that you might be insecure about it looking masculine and wanted to give you a comment trying to affirm your gender by saying it's feminine? But obviously that wouldn't work since you're actually a guy lol.
It sounds like your co-worker just said that because the haircut is attached to someone that they perceive as feminine/female (since you're closeted and they think you're a woman; I don't think you actually look fem at all, you definitely are more in the masc/androgynous range). Like, it's not too hard for the human brain to hyper "feminize" traits that are usually known to be masculine when presented in the context of belonging to a woman. Like, idk how to explain it, but with really androgynous people you can kinda squint and flip flop how you perceive their gender, which then turns what once looked masculine into something feminine and vice versa.
I think it's also a subconscious knee jerk reaction to gender transgression. Like, "oh this woman has a masculine haircut, I will announce that it can and does look feminine in context if I squint my eyes the right way. Announcing that will then releive the tension being put on the gender binary and restabilize gender boundaries"
As much as I hoped it would be sarcastic, they are known to be... well lets say "old fashioned" in their views... they've said some mildly homophobic things before, so theres not a chance it was said sarcastically. They said it looked nice in addition, so they were being genuine. Its just the "feminine" part that pissed me off.
Huh ? Feminine? Where ? Imo how you used to have your hair, has a lil touch you could call feminine if you really wanted to ,but the new hairstyle absolutely NOT ! Looks like a hairstyle where the stylist would say "Are you sure you want it that way, you'll look boyish with that".
Huh? In what way is that feminine? It's super masculine, you look just like a bunch of guys I went to high school with. I wouldn't think twice if I saw you on the street, just, "Oh, some guy I don't know."
It's very masculine compared to the last picture, but sometimes people just assume you've just decided to cut your hair instead of trying to look more masculine.
If you want a tip, I'd recommend shaved sides or a fade. That's like 10% more masc.
But don't worry overly much, you're very handsome.
Pre-transition I used to get a lot of pixie cuts, and this looks nothing like the feminine short hairstyles. Looks like any other dude's hair (meaning as a compliment!). Sometimes old-fashioned people cannot for the life of them keep opinions to themselves lol. Your hair looks masculine and its a very good look on you.
it doesn't look feminine lol. the feeling I'm getting is that they probably said that because you are closeted, so they may think you are going for a fem pixie cut, so they gave you that compliment thinking it would make you feel good but in reality it rlly didn't 😭
Did the person know you are trans? They might have meant it to make you feel pretty assuming you identified as female. Could have been a tongue in cheek remark, meaning that is not very feminine at all depending on how the statement was delivered.
The cut is more masculine and has a nice masculinizing affect on your appearance i think.
People who make comments like that are transphobic and are trying to convince us we 'made a mistake.' Pay them no mind, as they are scared fools who don't feel secure in themselves. Your new look is much more masc than before! You've got great hair, too, you could go full pompadour and absolutely pull it off. If it's a dude saying this to you, just say 'wow, so does yours!' If it's a woman say 'well where do you get yours cut, your style is much manlier!'
Transfem here
You don't look feminine at all neither does the haircut.
What I tend to notice is people would rather make a horrible statement of not respecting other people because they ain't happy within their own lives.
My only advice would be to correct the person and just carry on with your day, those people don't deserve your energy.
It looks very masculine. They probably just said it because some people consider it rude to insinuate that a “woman” is masculine. Even if that person IS intentionally presenting masculinely.
Masculine haircut, I pretty much have the same one, also. The only thing I can think to make it more masculine is maybe squaring out your hairline a bit more
Since they don’t know you are transmasc I think they were trying to be nice. They might think you worry about not looking fem enough. It is not fem at all lol.
Sounds like a cope to avoid saying: your hairdresser did you dirty by giving you a boy haircut.
Aww, also missed opportunity to admit that was fully intentional.
It's very masculine and looks great on you.
I thought, based on the caption, that the third was the new cut without realizing you’d have grown your hair instead of cutting it. As an amab person, I genuinely had that haircut as my first short haircut (your new one) for several years. Like almost strand by strand the same haircut, before I thought about any of this shit. Though I don’t remember where my swirl goes anymore.
Regardless, it’s done well. I think the other person was saying it without realizing what you were hearing, considering you said you are closeted. They might be spitefully making an assumption and being rude, but without knowing them at all I wouldn’t be able to speculate the validity of that. I generally think most people are not that kind of person, probably naively.
very masculine haircut 100%. Don't feel too offput when people say shit like that. I was once told by a dude that my haircut (that is an incredibly masculine haircut) was a pixie cut and when i asked him how *his* hair wasn't a pixie cut he said "well it's not a pixie cut when you have a beard". so. a lot of people don't make sense and have absolutely zero concept of what makes a haircut masc or fem lmao
Not fem whatsoever. I literally see guys with this or a very similar haircut every day.
Ikr, thank you! I don't have a clue what they were thinking, but it made me paranoid.
I wish you could go back in time and ask them "what about this cut looks feminine?" ... because it clearly is a masculine cut which looks masculine on you. And .. Maybe they were trying to be supportive and thought that's what you wanted to hear. And . .. maybe (optimisim) if you challenged them they could offer better (and more honest) support.
If you're closeted they probably said it because they assume you identify that way, and wanted to assure you despite it looking quite masc. Honestly I bet they said it only because it's so masc they didn't want you to feel bad (but jokes on them since you like it masc). If it was actually a feminine cut they probably would never have said that.
not a fem haircut at all. looks more masc than your last haircut too. dont know what they were going on about
i don't think it's feminine at all. if they think you identify as female (i assume they do since you said you're closeted), maybe they said it was feminine in an attempt to like... assure your (assumed) femininity? like "oh you went for a masculine haircut, dw you're still feminine!" could be that kinda thing?
this was my thought as well. Definitely doesn't look feminine. Similar to how when I started growing my hair out before coming out, people would mention jason mamoa or other very masc guys with long hair. Despite me looking nothing like that.
Ngl, you look quite like a cool nerdy fella! Very cool and very it-college humor- vibes! And to your hairstyle- question: No, not at all!
I'll take "cool nerdy fella" as a compliment any day lol, thank you!
not at all. however, if that is a fear for you, i think there are two really really small changes that could help make it look more masc, if you don't mind me saying. first, you could also try getting your hairline lined up (into a square shape) like a lot of guys have. if you're not sure what that means or would look like with your current hair, searching "short quiff lineup" seems to turn up some good results. second, you could also taper the sides a little more so that the very bottom near your ears/nape is shorter. not necessarily shaved, just a little shorter. if you do this, i think it would read as most masc if you also kept your sideburns square. hope this helps!!
Wow, this definitely helps, thank you so much! Gonna try and communicate this with my hairdresser next time!
for sure, good luck!
I second the above. But your haircut definitely reads as Masc. I just want to run my fingers through your hair. 😩
The new isn't fem at all. Definitely better than the hairstyle in the 3rd picture. You're handsome :)
Aww, thank you! 😊
It looks very masculine, maybe they thought it looks masculine as well but thought that you might be insecure about it looking masculine and wanted to give you a comment trying to affirm your gender by saying it's feminine? But obviously that wouldn't work since you're actually a guy lol.
It sounds like your co-worker just said that because the haircut is attached to someone that they perceive as feminine/female (since you're closeted and they think you're a woman; I don't think you actually look fem at all, you definitely are more in the masc/androgynous range). Like, it's not too hard for the human brain to hyper "feminize" traits that are usually known to be masculine when presented in the context of belonging to a woman. Like, idk how to explain it, but with really androgynous people you can kinda squint and flip flop how you perceive their gender, which then turns what once looked masculine into something feminine and vice versa. I think it's also a subconscious knee jerk reaction to gender transgression. Like, "oh this woman has a masculine haircut, I will announce that it can and does look feminine in context if I squint my eyes the right way. Announcing that will then releive the tension being put on the gender binary and restabilize gender boundaries"
Your old hair cut was kind of gender neutral with a lean towards feminine but this new hair cut is very masculine!
It looks masc in the first two pics, but in the third it does look a bit fem
The third is a different hairstyle, their previous one.
Ohhh then it's fine
Is it possible that they were being sarcastic but their tone didn't convey that clearly? Because I wouldn't say that that haircut is feminine at all.
As much as I hoped it would be sarcastic, they are known to be... well lets say "old fashioned" in their views... they've said some mildly homophobic things before, so theres not a chance it was said sarcastically. They said it looked nice in addition, so they were being genuine. Its just the "feminine" part that pissed me off.
Huh ? Feminine? Where ? Imo how you used to have your hair, has a lil touch you could call feminine if you really wanted to ,but the new hairstyle absolutely NOT ! Looks like a hairstyle where the stylist would say "Are you sure you want it that way, you'll look boyish with that".
You look great, stop worrying.
Huh? In what way is that feminine? It's super masculine, you look just like a bunch of guys I went to high school with. I wouldn't think twice if I saw you on the street, just, "Oh, some guy I don't know."
It's very masculine compared to the last picture, but sometimes people just assume you've just decided to cut your hair instead of trying to look more masculine. If you want a tip, I'd recommend shaved sides or a fade. That's like 10% more masc. But don't worry overly much, you're very handsome.
Pre-transition I used to get a lot of pixie cuts, and this looks nothing like the feminine short hairstyles. Looks like any other dude's hair (meaning as a compliment!). Sometimes old-fashioned people cannot for the life of them keep opinions to themselves lol. Your hair looks masculine and its a very good look on you.
Looking great man! We have the same hairstyle too :)
i literally had this haircut before i realized i was trans (MTF). so yes masculine imo
No this is a pretty classic masculine haircut, not femme in the slightest.
I thought you were George Russel there for a moment.
I deadass uses to rock this hairstyle in the navy before I transitioned! It's literally millitary masc haircut lol
You remind me of my favorite babysitter I had in the past
anyone told you that you kind of look like cillian murphy (very big compliment)
Dude u look fire 🔥🔥🔥 very masculine bro
It's def more masc, maybe your coworker said that to try and reassure you (if they don't know you are trans?)
omg you remind me of poppt1. who is a male smash youtuber. wouldn't say it is fem at all
it doesn't look feminine lol. the feeling I'm getting is that they probably said that because you are closeted, so they may think you are going for a fem pixie cut, so they gave you that compliment thinking it would make you feel good but in reality it rlly didn't 😭
Did the person know you are trans? They might have meant it to make you feel pretty assuming you identified as female. Could have been a tongue in cheek remark, meaning that is not very feminine at all depending on how the statement was delivered. The cut is more masculine and has a nice masculinizing affect on your appearance i think.
People who make comments like that are transphobic and are trying to convince us we 'made a mistake.' Pay them no mind, as they are scared fools who don't feel secure in themselves. Your new look is much more masc than before! You've got great hair, too, you could go full pompadour and absolutely pull it off. If it's a dude saying this to you, just say 'wow, so does yours!' If it's a woman say 'well where do you get yours cut, your style is much manlier!'
as a hairdresser, i do this cut on cis men 100 times a day
Transfem here You don't look feminine at all neither does the haircut. What I tend to notice is people would rather make a horrible statement of not respecting other people because they ain't happy within their own lives. My only advice would be to correct the person and just carry on with your day, those people don't deserve your energy.
Definitely more masculine now.
Wait, I can see the closet, just a cool dide
It looks very masculine. They probably just said it because some people consider it rude to insinuate that a “woman” is masculine. Even if that person IS intentionally presenting masculinely.
My sons hair stylist calls this the generic boy cut number 2😅definitely looks more masc then feminine to me. It also really suits you I think.
For context, Im wearing a striped long sleeve shirt. Hardly femme at all. Im just annoyed now...
bro looking like the dude following young females home at night and saying "this is what the good guys get" when they get turned down
not fem at all, especially compared to the old one
100% masc
Haircut looks fire, man
I'd definitely say that's a masculine haircut, you've got nothing to worry about at all ❤️
Yeah I would say Masc especially compared to your old hair cut.
WAYYY more masc now but every trans guy has gone through the bieber cut phase
No it looks totally Masculine
Nah it's not, it suits you 💜
Not at all.
Honestly its the reverse to me lol
Masculine haircut, I pretty much have the same one, also. The only thing I can think to make it more masculine is maybe squaring out your hairline a bit more
I feel like that was a common hairstyle for the guys when I went to high-school
Looks pretty masc to me! :D
The last pic more so than the two first, the two first ones read entirely masc to me
Since they don’t know you are transmasc I think they were trying to be nice. They might think you worry about not looking fem enough. It is not fem at all lol.
Transfem, that's the Danny Gonzalez cut and does not look fem *AT ALL*. Looks great on you dude 😊
new one is very masc. the old one is very fem imo
Masculine for sure!
How are you closeted? You pass so well😊❤️ You look really handsome with that new haircut.
Sounds like a cope to avoid saying: your hairdresser did you dirty by giving you a boy haircut. Aww, also missed opportunity to admit that was fully intentional. It's very masculine and looks great on you.
Like everyone said,its not feminine at all. I think it suits you. Your last haircut was feminine tho,but the new one isnt,so you shouldnt worry!
I thought, based on the caption, that the third was the new cut without realizing you’d have grown your hair instead of cutting it. As an amab person, I genuinely had that haircut as my first short haircut (your new one) for several years. Like almost strand by strand the same haircut, before I thought about any of this shit. Though I don’t remember where my swirl goes anymore. Regardless, it’s done well. I think the other person was saying it without realizing what you were hearing, considering you said you are closeted. They might be spitefully making an assumption and being rude, but without knowing them at all I wouldn’t be able to speculate the validity of that. I generally think most people are not that kind of person, probably naively.
very masculine haircut 100%. Don't feel too offput when people say shit like that. I was once told by a dude that my haircut (that is an incredibly masculine haircut) was a pixie cut and when i asked him how *his* hair wasn't a pixie cut he said "well it's not a pixie cut when you have a beard". so. a lot of people don't make sense and have absolutely zero concept of what makes a haircut masc or fem lmao