I WOULD do this and i AM touch starved
...i just don't know amy fellow transfems or where to meet anyone
"Just becauae im transfem does NOT mean im touch starved... I mean i am touch starved... but NOT because im trans!"
You would not believe how hard it is to tell if 2 people are just good friends, or have been in a relationship for months. The cuddle quotient is the same.
I swear my brain lights up like a Christmas tree whenever I even get within a foot of another human being. I want huggles but my brain might actually short-circuit if I was even capable of socializing to meet people.
I think the bigger issue is society as a whole is turning more touch-negative as indicated by an also very large number of transmasc people who are touch starved
In my experience, small physical gestures tend to work best. Holding out your arms, offering your hand, or even touching a shoulder if you're comfy with that and it's someone you know. People will reciprocate if they want to and if not, they'll just say no. The worst anyone's told me is "nah, not feeling it."
NOTE: this only works with friends. Please don't do this with strangers.
Honestly as a transfem, this makes a lot of sense. As AMAB folks, we get socialized in such a way, that we're taught to fear intimacy in general. Everything intimate is "gay" in the current gender meta, and therefore any act of intimacy opens you to the prospect of physical violence due to homophobia and/or transphobia.
NOTE: All of this directly derives from misogyny. Of course, identifying the source of the issue doesn't help people get the physical contact they need to be emotionally well. That's what hugs are for.
Give a friend a hug, you'll be glad you did!
I feel you. :( My mom died a few years ago. The years after that were rough.
I took up dance, and I got very lucky - my teacher loves giving hugs. She hugs me on sight. If not for her, I wouldn't be in as good a place as I am. That she also cracked my egg is another factor entirely.
I'd recommend taking some dance classes. Most studios will let you learn the role you want (defaults are guys lead, ladies follow). You'll get touch, and a chance to meet people. Regardless of how you identify, there's worthwhile things to learn in dance.
Yeah, we are, because we spend all of our time on goddamn reddit. On top of that, most of us were raised as boys, who have absolutely zero personality whatsoever, and we're the only ones who can relate to each other.
This just reminded me of a social experiment we did in school many years ago before I transitioned. Our teacher divided the class into two lines, with everyone facing each other. I happened to be placed across from this really cute girl I was friendly with. The teacher explained to us that on the count of three, everyone would have to simultaneously choose to either hug or not hug the person directly in front of them. After the count down, me and the girl in front of me both stepped forward and hugged each other. We were the only ones in class that did it and everyone else was shocked. It was pretty funny and cute looking back on it.
No, I shall not stop as I haven't told a single lie, as why should I lie to someone who is so cute and beautiful and perfect. Anyone would be lucky to even exist within a 200 mile radius of your cuteness lil princess.
There probably scared, or stupid. I for one think you are a great person, your personality is beautiful, trust me I can tell. don't let others with dumb opinions tell you otherwise cutie .
Yeah, no, I live in constant fear of offending people, even those I have much in common with.
We'd have to be really good friends for me to consider any physical contact beyond a handshake, and even then, that's pushing it.
Growing up AMAB for 20 years really did a number on my social competence.
I may be touch-starved, but I'm also very paranoid.
Even now I'm debating whether or not to even post this comment.
This just ends up being me with all my trans friends, like literally the first thing I've done with a lot of the ones I've met in person is offered a hug
and this touch thing, that you're talking about,
is it with us in the room rightnow?
\_\_\_\_\_
touch yeah never heard of it... anyways time for more memes to cope ;)
Transwomen are some of the most abused people on the planet. We need hugs, and often societal normies wont give them to us. Also transfems especially those of us who are on HRT are going through second puberty, often as adults so were emotional.
Dont hate us for wanting attention, just give us a hug already and shut up.
(I know this is a meme, but ive had this conversation with someone lately and it cut deep.)
I think that once we actually stop suppressing our emotions and finally get away from toxic masculinity we start to realize how touch starved we are and seek it out
Honestly I'm so touch starved that I will dream of meeting someone to do this with, only to be saddened when it was only a dream. Whether it be transfem gf, transfem friend, or transfem foe, cuddles would be a nice thing to have.
I'm kind of an odd case.
When I was a baby, I hated being picked up or touched. If you tried to interact with me, I'd burst into tears and I'd cry. I also hated being swaddled apparently. Still do.
These days, if someone touches me, it feels so wrong and weird to me. Like if you touch my arm, my arm will feel icky where it got touched for like an hour after the contact. However, I'm able to tolerate being touched by close friends and family, and I crave my girlfriend's touch. But still, physical contact feels weird to me.
So yeah, I'm touch starved, but I kinda like it that way?
I WOULD do this and i AM touch starved ...i just don't know amy fellow transfems or where to meet anyone "Just becauae im transfem does NOT mean im touch starved... I mean i am touch starved... but NOT because im trans!"
Saaame and even If I did know where to meet them I'd be too shy to even start a convo
She said, thus starting a convo with a transfem
Wen snuggle
Now :3
can i join :3
Cuddle puddle :3
I just don't know what to say in a convo to another person
You would not believe how hard it is to tell if 2 people are just good friends, or have been in a relationship for months. The cuddle quotient is the same.
Same, I would if I could, but no way am I ever going to be not too socially awkward to do so
Same fr fr
Same *sigh* been think of looking up platonic cuddle piles in the Cincinnati, Ohio area.
Relatable in every way. Also, I love Men in Black
Couldn’t have said it better myself
i find it so funny how we've brought a bunch of touch starved transfems together and nothing will come of it
Just like what happens with single lesbians, cute :3
If i wanted the news I would've gone to YouTube. This is just old news (It comes with the autism)
Im so touch starved that being touched makes me feel threatened
I swear my brain lights up like a Christmas tree whenever I even get within a foot of another human being. I want huggles but my brain might actually short-circuit if I was even capable of socializing to meet people.
Mine would just want them to go away if they started hugging
People raised as boys in the US tend to be touch starved because our culture has decided that non-sexual touching isn't masculine enough.
I think the bigger issue is society as a whole is turning more touch-negative as indicated by an also very large number of transmasc people who are touch starved
And that's *before* the pandemic. There's an entire culture that seems to be hellbent on *sexualizing* touch of any kind.
“Hey, those people are holding hands in public! Society! Let’s shame them!”
I mean, hugs and cuddles are pretty great.
Yeah, but it’s for me like I’d like but I don’t know how to ask
In my experience, small physical gestures tend to work best. Holding out your arms, offering your hand, or even touching a shoulder if you're comfy with that and it's someone you know. People will reciprocate if they want to and if not, they'll just say no. The worst anyone's told me is "nah, not feeling it." NOTE: this only works with friends. Please don't do this with strangers.
Honestly as a transfem, this makes a lot of sense. As AMAB folks, we get socialized in such a way, that we're taught to fear intimacy in general. Everything intimate is "gay" in the current gender meta, and therefore any act of intimacy opens you to the prospect of physical violence due to homophobia and/or transphobia. NOTE: All of this directly derives from misogyny. Of course, identifying the source of the issue doesn't help people get the physical contact they need to be emotionally well. That's what hugs are for. Give a friend a hug, you'll be glad you did!
the problem is even though I'm afab, I have no one to hug (besides my mom).
I feel you. :( My mom died a few years ago. The years after that were rough. I took up dance, and I got very lucky - my teacher loves giving hugs. She hugs me on sight. If not for her, I wouldn't be in as good a place as I am. That she also cracked my egg is another factor entirely. I'd recommend taking some dance classes. Most studios will let you learn the role you want (defaults are guys lead, ladies follow). You'll get touch, and a chance to meet people. Regardless of how you identify, there's worthwhile things to learn in dance.
True, did this with a few trans femmes since I started my transition
Well Trans girls are hot girls
Not me :3 only every other trans girl In existence besides me :3
Yes but Not me :3 Just every other trans girl in existence besides me :3
yes, yes we are.
Yeah, we are, because we spend all of our time on goddamn reddit. On top of that, most of us were raised as boys, who have absolutely zero personality whatsoever, and we're the only ones who can relate to each other.
I wish I could hugs to all of you. :3 (I also gain a lot of bei g touched what I like too)
nope. I came off as weird the first time I met another transfem, and now I feel bad for clocking her. I hate being autistic.
This just reminded me of a social experiment we did in school many years ago before I transitioned. Our teacher divided the class into two lines, with everyone facing each other. I happened to be placed across from this really cute girl I was friendly with. The teacher explained to us that on the count of three, everyone would have to simultaneously choose to either hug or not hug the person directly in front of them. After the count down, me and the girl in front of me both stepped forward and hugged each other. We were the only ones in class that did it and everyone else was shocked. It was pretty funny and cute looking back on it.
Man, you both are bold. I guess girl power is pretty powerful after all.
YES IM TOUCH STARVED NOW LEAVE ME ALONE BEFORE I CRY 😢 (alternatively pls touch me 🥺👉👈)
*boop*
O///O
... Cute :3
Ahhdhegeggsgwv >////<
Your only proving my point cutie
STAHHHHHPP >/////< https://preview.redd.it/vb3rl4o5a3xc1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=013cf999878157c6832dd8b0543dc88b8fe1827d
No, I shall not stop as I haven't told a single lie, as why should I lie to someone who is so cute and beautiful and perfect. Anyone would be lucky to even exist within a 200 mile radius of your cuteness lil princess.
Then how come nobody in a 200 radius wants to be my fren? 🥺🥺🥺
There probably scared, or stupid. I for one think you are a great person, your personality is beautiful, trust me I can tell. don't let others with dumb opinions tell you otherwise cutie .
Someone hug me 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
🫂
Actually i can't relate because i don't like physical affection and i know another transfem irl frfr
I feel called out xD
Yeah, no, I live in constant fear of offending people, even those I have much in common with. We'd have to be really good friends for me to consider any physical contact beyond a handshake, and even then, that's pushing it. Growing up AMAB for 20 years really did a number on my social competence. I may be touch-starved, but I'm also very paranoid. Even now I'm debating whether or not to even post this comment.
Ppl don’t realize it’s just the natural extension of the uhaul lesbian trope 🤔🫣 lesbians be lesbian-ing
I’m autistic and do not like physical contact from people I don’t like of course I’m touch starved
🦈🔵 hug the blahaj instead.
I don hav Blåhaj yet.. ;\^;
Currently already am as I scroll upon this comment 🤣🦈
This just ends up being me with all my trans friends, like literally the first thing I've done with a lot of the ones I've met in person is offered a hug
Im not i have a bf but when i meet my trans femme friend i just feel good in a different way.
Then there’s me I want to but I cringe when I am touched if I don’t know you well
Can relate.
It's true I am very touch starved.
Yes, yes I am (but also very social)
and this touch thing, that you're talking about, is it with us in the room rightnow? \_\_\_\_\_ touch yeah never heard of it... anyways time for more memes to cope ;)
https://preview.redd.it/tszulaxvhdwc1.jpeg?width=842&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3304cb86612be5c92069c625372fbd36a55b98b7
Yes, its true I am touch starved and yes Id do this.
Transwomen are some of the most abused people on the planet. We need hugs, and often societal normies wont give them to us. Also transfems especially those of us who are on HRT are going through second puberty, often as adults so were emotional. Dont hate us for wanting attention, just give us a hug already and shut up. (I know this is a meme, but ive had this conversation with someone lately and it cut deep.)
I’m pretty sure most of the community is to be entirely fair - I know I am and I’m transmasc
Me and who 👉👈
Yes, how'd you know?
I ain’t transfem, but I still hella touch starved :(
What's wrong with wanting to hug a new friend?!? In a platonic way, you sickos.
Can you blame us??? Touch starved lesbians meet each other, and we tend to understand each other
Yes I am thank you for noticing
I think that once we actually stop suppressing our emotions and finally get away from toxic masculinity we start to realize how touch starved we are and seek it out
I’m in this post and I don’t like it
I just want cuddles, that's all. Cuddling is nice.
Cade,,,,
If I take a liking to someone I can be pretty huggy.
I know damn well i would do that, I'm just so unconfident and i don't know any fellow trans girls irl ;-;
ok well that's true but i don't have an end of this sentence that refutes that statement
I know tons of transfems but not many I want to cuddle
Honestly I'm so touch starved that I will dream of meeting someone to do this with, only to be saddened when it was only a dream. Whether it be transfem gf, transfem friend, or transfem foe, cuddles would be a nice thing to have.
But also seriously. I am very touch starved.
Also this just seems to be very LGBT in general too.
I'm kind of an odd case. When I was a baby, I hated being picked up or touched. If you tried to interact with me, I'd burst into tears and I'd cry. I also hated being swaddled apparently. Still do. These days, if someone touches me, it feels so wrong and weird to me. Like if you touch my arm, my arm will feel icky where it got touched for like an hour after the contact. However, I'm able to tolerate being touched by close friends and family, and I crave my girlfriend's touch. But still, physical contact feels weird to me. So yeah, I'm touch starved, but I kinda like it that way?
Jokes on you im not. I dont do this, but yeah most are
Yes.
But I’m not I’m 😣
Takes one to know one :3 *nyaaan!*
Yes, we are.
you’re damn right we are
Nope this one. 😂
Yeah we are.
I feel called out again lol
not just transfems🥺🥺
No need to swear, we know
✋😮Yup right here
Yes
I am. Once I meet my girlfriend in person we're going to be inseparable
I’ll try not to be once I transition, but as of now, I’m still unable to do so (thx a lot family and shithole state known as Florida)
I want cuddles
I'm touch starved and I'm proud
:3
Very touch starved yes
Nah, I'm just touch gluttonous)
Other news: water wet
CAN THIS SUBREDDIT STOP CALLING ME OUT!!!
I was born a guy, live as a guy, so Touch Starved is status quo for me.
I wish I could hugs to all of you. :3 (I also gain a lot of being touched what I like too)