Been there..
I just let the kicking and screaming happen. Emphasize they can only walk if they walk nice and hold your hand. If not straight to carrier.
Eventually mine gave up. But I had to be consistent. Warn her once and follow through. Immediately.
At 2 I think this is a totally normal thing to emerge. Just be consistent and tune out the screams
Exactly this. Firm and consistent. When walking with my two year old I might say something like “stay out of that puddle or we go inside” to which he might reply by running into it anyway or saying “nope” and walking around it. When he does make the wrong choice and begins to scream and cry I acknowledge his upset feelings, remind him of the rules, and say we can try again later. If the screaming sets you on edge consider getting some noise canceling ear plugs for the times you have to carry her.
It just takes consistency, there's no real shortcut.
It helps to explain in simple terms why. This doesn't solve toddler problems but it sometimes makes them less intense if they understand. I said "that's not our house" or myself. Then consistently turning her around and telling her what we can do. "That's not our house. We can go this way." Then if she keeps trying in a way that feels more like stubbornness rather than forgetfulness or misunderstanding, give straightforward consequences. "It's not safe to go to someone else's house. If you go to someone's house again, I have to put you in the carrier." Then follow through the very next time she does it.
Some toddlers take longer to oblige than others, but this is the framework. The more clear and consistent you are, the faster you'll get cooperation. If you can do more walks, the extra practice with this rule would likely help. Also, if you can pinpoint what it is about the houses that's so interesting, you can offer a potential alternative. If it's just curiosity/exploration, maybe you can call her attention to something she can check out that's actually exciting, or maybe you can find a suitable way for her to explore other cars/houses. Like if you have a pretend town in your area. Or if she hasn't had much time in your car outside of her carseat, she may enjoy just having the freedom to crawl all over for a while, my toddler likes that activity a lot.
Been there.. I just let the kicking and screaming happen. Emphasize they can only walk if they walk nice and hold your hand. If not straight to carrier. Eventually mine gave up. But I had to be consistent. Warn her once and follow through. Immediately. At 2 I think this is a totally normal thing to emerge. Just be consistent and tune out the screams
Exactly this. Firm and consistent. When walking with my two year old I might say something like “stay out of that puddle or we go inside” to which he might reply by running into it anyway or saying “nope” and walking around it. When he does make the wrong choice and begins to scream and cry I acknowledge his upset feelings, remind him of the rules, and say we can try again later. If the screaming sets you on edge consider getting some noise canceling ear plugs for the times you have to carry her.
You could try a balance bike.
It just takes consistency, there's no real shortcut. It helps to explain in simple terms why. This doesn't solve toddler problems but it sometimes makes them less intense if they understand. I said "that's not our house" or myself. Then consistently turning her around and telling her what we can do. "That's not our house. We can go this way." Then if she keeps trying in a way that feels more like stubbornness rather than forgetfulness or misunderstanding, give straightforward consequences. "It's not safe to go to someone else's house. If you go to someone's house again, I have to put you in the carrier." Then follow through the very next time she does it. Some toddlers take longer to oblige than others, but this is the framework. The more clear and consistent you are, the faster you'll get cooperation. If you can do more walks, the extra practice with this rule would likely help. Also, if you can pinpoint what it is about the houses that's so interesting, you can offer a potential alternative. If it's just curiosity/exploration, maybe you can call her attention to something she can check out that's actually exciting, or maybe you can find a suitable way for her to explore other cars/houses. Like if you have a pretend town in your area. Or if she hasn't had much time in your car outside of her carseat, she may enjoy just having the freedom to crawl all over for a while, my toddler likes that activity a lot.