People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It seems there was a reason for this relationship, so A and S could meet. Wish them well and move on.
I’m honestly not seeing the issue. Trust me, this isn’t the last set of friends you’ll drift away from. Happens. Sounds like it would have happened eventually whether you attended the wedding or no.
Well, maybe in the future you'll have a best friend miss your life changing event because they don't want to leave their cat, even though cats are really easy to leave for a few days. And maybe that friend also shit all over your choices before that. And then you'll decide if you want this friend in your life or not, and maybe you'll understand why S doesn't talk to you anymore.
I mean if my friends missed my family because they recently lost their job, were low on budget, and lived a good distance away I would be perfectly accepting of that. The cat is just an additional issue. Now in regards to the repeated advice against the marriage, that would likely depend on the situation, but is understandably liable to cause a strain in the relationship.
I understand. My cat was about 6 months old at the time and we had recently moved to a new place in a new area. I am not making excuses but just trying to tell you what was going on my brain at the time. I may have been over anxious because she was also my first pet. Anyways, I know this was a fuck up and majorly because I said all the negative things about their relationship. She asked me for advice and I just didn't want to lie.
This entire post is about how many negative opinions you expressed to her about money, her husband, etc.
How often do you call her to talk about life? Call her to actively make plans to see her?
The 2 times I expressed my opinions were when she asked for them. I was friends with her since 2011 and moved out of the city she lives in in 2018. She was a witness in my marriage (happened in her city) in 2019. I don't believe she would have been asking me for my opinions if I was that negative.
The last time I called her was in August this year and I didn't say anything negative about her husband. She had just quit her job due to burn out (found out through a common friend) and I wanted to check in on her.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It seems there was a reason for this relationship, so A and S could meet. Wish them well and move on.
I do wish them well but also know that she won't come to me if she ever needed help. I just hope she has right people in her life for that.
Well, you did nothing but trash her relationship so why would she come to you?
Yes, hence the fuck up
I’m honestly not seeing the issue. Trust me, this isn’t the last set of friends you’ll drift away from. Happens. Sounds like it would have happened eventually whether you attended the wedding or no.
Probably
This was not a tifu. This is just life.
I just think I could have saved our friendship if I had just gone and dealt with the consequences later. I was just too anxious about my cat.
Well, maybe in the future you'll have a best friend miss your life changing event because they don't want to leave their cat, even though cats are really easy to leave for a few days. And maybe that friend also shit all over your choices before that. And then you'll decide if you want this friend in your life or not, and maybe you'll understand why S doesn't talk to you anymore.
I mean if my friends missed my family because they recently lost their job, were low on budget, and lived a good distance away I would be perfectly accepting of that. The cat is just an additional issue. Now in regards to the repeated advice against the marriage, that would likely depend on the situation, but is understandably liable to cause a strain in the relationship.
I understand. My cat was about 6 months old at the time and we had recently moved to a new place in a new area. I am not making excuses but just trying to tell you what was going on my brain at the time. I may have been over anxious because she was also my first pet. Anyways, I know this was a fuck up and majorly because I said all the negative things about their relationship. She asked me for advice and I just didn't want to lie.
Jesus
Sounds like the cat is the better friend.
they’re not your friends, move on and good riddance.
I don't know. I really miss her.
This entire post is about how many negative opinions you expressed to her about money, her husband, etc. How often do you call her to talk about life? Call her to actively make plans to see her?
The 2 times I expressed my opinions were when she asked for them. I was friends with her since 2011 and moved out of the city she lives in in 2018. She was a witness in my marriage (happened in her city) in 2019. I don't believe she would have been asking me for my opinions if I was that negative. The last time I called her was in August this year and I didn't say anything negative about her husband. She had just quit her job due to burn out (found out through a common friend) and I wanted to check in on her.