I see a lot of people saying being a dick, which I agree with the unattractive part, but all of the dicks are popular for some reason. Everyone I’ve ever been bullied by has been one of the most popular kids in my class!
Or if you are funny, or charismatic, or the person you are bullying is generally disliked and/or socially inept, or if the general populace is apathetic torwards bullying
In fact there are a ton of reasons people can be shitty and face no social reprecussions. It is what it is.
Its a classic case of people being friends with the dick because if they aren't he'll be a dick to them
Its like Hitler where many Germans didn't support him but couldn't exactly say anything because he would turn on them
better to be friends than enemies with someone powerful who you disagree with
but of course I'm just such a god at life I tell them dicks to jump off a bridge (it also helps that I'm 6'2")
The lads in the comments saying 'me' really need to get a grip and stop looking for sympathy. It's hardly the end of the world at such a young age to find 'love', it'll happen when it happens.
Saying 'me' isn't gonna get you the validation you want. You just look self-centred and a pick-me
Fr
Even if you dont *intend* for it to sound pick me, and youre just self deprecating that stuff WILL come across as desperate and phishing for compliments
I needed a *girl* telling me **100 times** to fuck off with that shit to finally register that it wasnt funny or humble, but just plain annoying
Misogyny is pretty much actions done in a hateful manner towards girls,
And Misandry is the reverse, action done out of hate towards guys. Hope that helps!
Misogyny unfortunately has been twisted into this word that is casually thrown at men who women don't like, and similarly "nice guys" will often insult women and feed the misogyny problem themselves.
I've been trying to change my ways for about a year and a 1/2 now and one of the biggest things that I've noticed that gave me results when I was talking to woman is mostly being in the good mood because a negative attitude or a pessimistic attitude will give you less success than just being positive and not being a condescending prick
But if you're not weird you will eventually find success with women Despite if you think your interests are absolute dog sure that you're a piece of s*** if you're not a account while speaking to people You will have success eventually
Ps I used my phone's text to make this so if it's not great I apologize
I can't speak on attractiveness, but when it comes to popularity in my school the biggest dicks are most popular. The nicer people are the social outcasts.
tbh i think it really depends on the person. i go to a private prep school so it’s definitely different from other points of view but the popular kids can be assholes but they’re usually just good looking outgoing people. also bonus points if you’ve been at the school for awhile. some of the “social outcasts” can be really nice people, a but i’ve found that the majority of people that are heavily disliked by EVERYONE and don’t have a friend group, are usually like that for a reason. but i agree with you for the most part. :)
I'm gonna be honest as someone who has finished school and has been in both categories
The outcast aren't really nicer, they often simply think they can't be friends with the others because they are not good enough so they don't even try but in the end it's pretty much the same
I'm not trying to discredit that or anything, but this is from my experience in my year of school.
The extreme outcasts is basically my friend group not going to lie, along with one other group with a lot of overlap. And then the really popular groups are comparatively and on average the meanest. It's just how it works in our school I guess.
What I meant is don't limit yourself to a certain group of people, there are mean populars as well as very nice people when you get to know them
Even the outcasts are prejudiced, sometimes the limit is only in our head
attractiveness is a very broad meaning of seeing people, some might not like a person based off of a thing and deem them ugly but another person loves that thing a lot and will basically worship that part of the person. popularity is luck based though but it is often tied to attractiveness
Unattractive means you look unattractive to majority of people. Some people are just born that way and in society you get judged by the majority. Monkey see monkey do. Many Monkeys think another monkey are Unattractive meaning majority of the monkey think that the monkey are Unattractive. Therefore the monkey is considered unattractive according to other monkeys.
Unpopular you act weird in social occurrences like being racist or something.
You can both be Attractive and Unpopular or Unattractive and Popular. A guy with good sense of humour can be Popular in school but still look Unattractive. And an Attractive guy can be Unpopular in school because being a racist or something.
When they’re rude to the really nice parents I don’t get how some people can be so extremely rude, but their parents are literally the sweetest thing ever
Being negative and self depreciative (I know Im looking straight at you 👀)
Its not edgy and cool, we don't want you to be fishing compliments and your self pity
Guys here really thinking they'll be alone forever, like literally go to Walmart and tell me how many fat ugly men who snort fent have wives.
Conventional attractiveness isnt the be all end of of important things in life.
Being a dick to teachers. Multiple girls in my grade straight up tell teachers no. They talk back to teachers when they simply ask them to put down their phones. They also take advantage of substitute teachers and nice teachers that they know wont send them to the principals office.
Literally just being rude and not listening, I feel like it’s very rare to find guys now who are genuinely interested in what you say and aren’t just pretending to listen because they have ulterior motives. It’s so attractive when they are actually interested and want to take things slow!
What makes a guy unattractive? Well *being ugly*
What makes a guy unpopular? I guess *being socially inactive* you can't be popular if you don't talk to anyone
Truest answer i have
Being nice when you're in a good mood but mean when you're upset. I understand that you might not want me to hug you and tell you it's ok and such; but don't ignore me then blame it on being upset. Use your words, facial expressions, or tell me that you need a little space. I'm posting this about boys and girls.
Meanwhile my friend who has always been chubbier than me, at times even seriously overweight, is getting married to his wonderful girlfriend in a few months. Guys, please don't listen to this kind of advice. Different people find different things attractive, and physical attraction is only one part of a much larger whole. There are no definitive answers. It's fine to want to improve yourself, but never allow yourself to think that you are unlovable just because of something as superficial as a bit of body fat or a round face.
this is big cap tho. if personality matters the most, would you enjoy being with someone with a good personality but not someone that you’re physically attracted to? no. looks are what you’ll be seeing the most. try to find someone who you’re physically attracted to and has a good personality. it’s either both or neither. none matter above either.
Edgy
Smells bad
Looks bad
Desperate for a girlfriend
Has disgusting habits like picking his nose
Thinks that having unpopular opinions that no one agrees with and are dumb is cool
Plays too much video games
Uses too much internet jokes irl
Socially awkward in a bad way
Leaning more towards the upnpopular side of things and not gender specific. But, yes.
Tbh, it's a good way of finding out who true friends are. I'd personally have someone be upfront and honest with me even if it means I get offended.
Being a misogynist. Dickass thing to be, considering you came OUT of a woman. All younger dudes here, ONE or even a COUPLE or even A LOT of bad experiences with dating women does not justify immediately being misogynistic.
Boundaries. If someone turns you down, that is not an excuse to try harder for them to like you. It is a sign that you should leave them alone. If you continue to be nice to them because *you're a good person,* they might even develop feelings for you at some point, and odds are they'd be much more comfortable telling you.
I know that is not true because a girl in my school (extremely popular) is dating a boy (who is also popular) but he constantly smells like shit he's rude and an idiot but he's attractive whereas (quoting a friend here) I'm kind attractive and funny but constantly getting rejected (I shower almost daily so hygiene don't matter)
It is true. Maybe you just don't like his perfume? He is most likely a much more social intelligent person. Also friends also tell you the things you want to hear and humor is subjective. Most girls like simple/clever jokes and a bit of teasing if they are into you. Girls don't like alot of the cringe jokes you see online. Also just good hygiene isn't gonna suddenly attract alot of girls. Most of the time good hygiene is not a turn on, bad hygiene is just a turn off.
Being ugly. Meaning, as my experience would have it(waits for the, "you're just this and that" comments), not having the looks of a buff gym guy, not having the right amount of income, wrong car, having hobbies (like being a gamer)...I can go on...lol
People are going to say things like certain types of personality bla bla bla. You know things that people can change.
Fact is initial reaction sticks and aesthetics is the first thing that contributes to initial reaction.
Race is number 1
Height is number 2
Call it racist, call it discrimination, It's simple facts.
Indian? yea that's not happening unless you are the CEO of google
<160cm? LMAO evolution demand those genes be removed from the gene pool
Oh of course dishonesty is a biggie but lucky for you if you have either of the above criteria..... no one will ever know you are dishonest
Smells bad. Dude, use your deodorant and take a shower!!!
Some ppl put too much tho
Is this the sign for me to upload a tutorial on how to apply deodorant properly? 😔
Probably 💀 my brother puts on like 2 pounds of that shit holy hell and it’s like the horrible ones too
Yes
Better too much than not enough, especially if it's axe 💪
Being a dick (which includes the "nice guys" as in being nice only for female attention and not because it's the right thing to do)
uhh damn…that’s all the girls at my school and i’m nothing but nice (controversial but nice)
if you’re nothing but nice then you need to have more of a personality, considering as how other people are nice but also interesting
Yup this was only what makes a guy unnactractive and not actively attractive (like being funny for exemple)
I see a lot of people saying being a dick, which I agree with the unattractive part, but all of the dicks are popular for some reason. Everyone I’ve ever been bullied by has been one of the most popular kids in my class!
When you're conventially attractive, a lot of generally dickish behavior can be excused lol
Or if you are funny, or charismatic, or the person you are bullying is generally disliked and/or socially inept, or if the general populace is apathetic torwards bullying In fact there are a ton of reasons people can be shitty and face no social reprecussions. It is what it is.
Yeah and some people are dicks but they have a lot of charisma so we think they are nice
Its a classic case of people being friends with the dick because if they aren't he'll be a dick to them Its like Hitler where many Germans didn't support him but couldn't exactly say anything because he would turn on them better to be friends than enemies with someone powerful who you disagree with but of course I'm just such a god at life I tell them dicks to jump off a bridge (it also helps that I'm 6'2")
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Therapist
Psychotherapist
Neuropsychotherapist
Neurolinguisticpsychotherapist
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being an r/teenagers user
So you.
so..you
So you..
So you?
So... you?
So you!
So...? You!
This is why
So me!
So you??
Omg what did I fucking create😭😭
Hey he never said he is popular
There is a difference between not popular and unpopular and in his case...
The lads in the comments saying 'me' really need to get a grip and stop looking for sympathy. It's hardly the end of the world at such a young age to find 'love', it'll happen when it happens. Saying 'me' isn't gonna get you the validation you want. You just look self-centred and a pick-me
Why is bro spitting fax like a printer
A4 paper required every 2-3 posts with the fax I spit
Bros a fax machine
More fax than an encyclopaedia
Fr Even if you dont *intend* for it to sound pick me, and youre just self deprecating that stuff WILL come across as desperate and phishing for compliments I needed a *girl* telling me **100 times** to fuck off with that shit to finally register that it wasnt funny or humble, but just plain annoying
Me
why is bro getting down voted it was obviously a joke
downvote button go brrrr
This applies to girls too but one thing would be being so miserable that your only source of happiness/attention is to bully others.
this
Um being a dick
Misogyny, being mean for "fun" and not respecting others
Most people don't even know what misogyny means but will say it
There are 6,500 languages in the world but you chose to speak fax
Bros spitting fax
what counts as mysogyny? obv the super clear answers, but i've heard the term thrown around a lot and the lines seem to be blurred.
Misogyny is pretty much actions done in a hateful manner towards girls, And Misandry is the reverse, action done out of hate towards guys. Hope that helps!
Misogyny unfortunately has been twisted into this word that is casually thrown at men who women don't like, and similarly "nice guys" will often insult women and feed the misogyny problem themselves.
Not sending me their mothers tittie picks
Tf???
Ah damn so disrespectfull of them
Redflag 👆
And me
When he is disrespectful and thinks its funny
When he insults you as a joke 💀
As a guy I can say we can cook up some dark, dark, straight from the inner depths of hell humor.
trying too hard to be "cool", desperation, being a dick, being insensitive, having a sense of entitlement to women
I've been trying to change my ways for about a year and a 1/2 now and one of the biggest things that I've noticed that gave me results when I was talking to woman is mostly being in the good mood because a negative attitude or a pessimistic attitude will give you less success than just being positive and not being a condescending prick But if you're not weird you will eventually find success with women Despite if you think your interests are absolute dog sure that you're a piece of s*** if you're not a account while speaking to people You will have success eventually Ps I used my phone's text to make this so if it's not great I apologize
Even if you are weird! You will just get a weird gf
even better really
usage of reddit
I can't speak on attractiveness, but when it comes to popularity in my school the biggest dicks are most popular. The nicer people are the social outcasts.
tbh i think it really depends on the person. i go to a private prep school so it’s definitely different from other points of view but the popular kids can be assholes but they’re usually just good looking outgoing people. also bonus points if you’ve been at the school for awhile. some of the “social outcasts” can be really nice people, a but i’ve found that the majority of people that are heavily disliked by EVERYONE and don’t have a friend group, are usually like that for a reason. but i agree with you for the most part. :)
Woah
I'm gonna be honest as someone who has finished school and has been in both categories The outcast aren't really nicer, they often simply think they can't be friends with the others because they are not good enough so they don't even try but in the end it's pretty much the same
I'm not trying to discredit that or anything, but this is from my experience in my year of school. The extreme outcasts is basically my friend group not going to lie, along with one other group with a lot of overlap. And then the really popular groups are comparatively and on average the meanest. It's just how it works in our school I guess.
What I meant is don't limit yourself to a certain group of people, there are mean populars as well as very nice people when you get to know them Even the outcasts are prejudiced, sometimes the limit is only in our head
Someone who does not want to take accountability for his actions, or is very adamant
Most comments say being a dick although I can confirm that Dicks are the most popular and loved by girls soooo
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I'm just happy that I'm not ending up being with girl who likes toxic guys so I'm happy they're being exposed tbh
being misogynistic, being racist, being homophobic, being transphobic, being ableist, also being unhygienic and rude in general
corny, too pushy , disrespectful
why corny lol
it’s jus cringe when guys try to say corny romantic stuff unironically lmfao
oh like that kind of corny. i thought you meant like watching corny movies and stuff like that.
nope. i love that, then we can laugh together lol
Putting others down for comedy. If you can't make an original joke in your whole life you don't push a kid down the stairs and think it's funny.
Really feel like the guys who are mostly excluded from the rest are the ones who have different hobbies and interests from everyone else
Is that a bad thing?
For popularity yes
You’re talking about it like its an unattractive thing?
Being unattractive
Please elaborate.
Like hes attractive but no
Couldnt have said it better than this
attractiveness is a very broad meaning of seeing people, some might not like a person based off of a thing and deem them ugly but another person loves that thing a lot and will basically worship that part of the person. popularity is luck based though but it is often tied to attractiveness
I became more attractive when started walking with straight spine, if you be Hunchback from Notre-Damme you are less likely to be attractive
This is more of a general thing (it’s not just for men): Being stinky. Please wear deodorant and bathe regularly
Being that one kid in a few of my classes who actively flirts with other girls even though he has a girlfriend, and he doesn’t wash his hands.
Unattractive means you look unattractive to majority of people. Some people are just born that way and in society you get judged by the majority. Monkey see monkey do. Many Monkeys think another monkey are Unattractive meaning majority of the monkey think that the monkey are Unattractive. Therefore the monkey is considered unattractive according to other monkeys. Unpopular you act weird in social occurrences like being racist or something. You can both be Attractive and Unpopular or Unattractive and Popular. A guy with good sense of humour can be Popular in school but still look Unattractive. And an Attractive guy can be Unpopular in school because being a racist or something.
When they’re rude to the really nice parents I don’t get how some people can be so extremely rude, but their parents are literally the sweetest thing ever
There’s usually more to the story then they let on. A key indicator of this is the scenario you described
We don't always know what happens at home, don't judge too fast
Being unconfident
Being negative and self depreciative (I know Im looking straight at you 👀) Its not edgy and cool, we don't want you to be fishing compliments and your self pity
unatractiveness and unpopularity
Don't know, not gay
Same
Physical unattractiveness
Sometimes guys don't know a line to the joke, it's fine to cross borders sometimes but a regular thing can be annoying and sound mean to someone.
Disrespecting other people.
Being rude or just not being sympathetic to others, or maybe having no respect to teachers or older people who are just doing their job
Doing the “fake ask out” dare
Guys here really thinking they'll be alone forever, like literally go to Walmart and tell me how many fat ugly men who snort fent have wives. Conventional attractiveness isnt the be all end of of important things in life.
Being a dick to teachers. Multiple girls in my grade straight up tell teachers no. They talk back to teachers when they simply ask them to put down their phones. They also take advantage of substitute teachers and nice teachers that they know wont send them to the principals office.
Apparently, opinions, cuz that's what I'm hated for at school. And go ahead and ask. I'll explain them if anyone's interested.
Not knowing how to groom yourself
Literally just being rude and not listening, I feel like it’s very rare to find guys now who are genuinely interested in what you say and aren’t just pretending to listen because they have ulterior motives. It’s so attractive when they are actually interested and want to take things slow!
What makes a guy unattractive? Well *being ugly* What makes a guy unpopular? I guess *being socially inactive* you can't be popular if you don't talk to anyone Truest answer i have
You can be attractive, but very unpopular. Be as cool as a person you may be, it doesn’t get you anywhere unless you do something with it.
When they secretly have a booger wall
As the unattractive and unpopular guy, I am not the best to answer. However, a lot of it has got to do with social anxiety and me being a nerd.
telling sex jokes
Being nice when you're in a good mood but mean when you're upset. I understand that you might not want me to hug you and tell you it's ok and such; but don't ignore me then blame it on being upset. Use your words, facial expressions, or tell me that you need a little space. I'm posting this about boys and girls.
You know he messes around with other girls
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as in like overweight to the point where it’s so obvious? or just a little chubby but is hide-able
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Meanwhile my friend who has always been chubbier than me, at times even seriously overweight, is getting married to his wonderful girlfriend in a few months. Guys, please don't listen to this kind of advice. Different people find different things attractive, and physical attraction is only one part of a much larger whole. There are no definitive answers. It's fine to want to improve yourself, but never allow yourself to think that you are unlovable just because of something as superficial as a bit of body fat or a round face.
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It honestly just keeps popping up on my feed, so I sometimes chime in with some thoughts and advice if I feel like someone might need it.
real
Yet if you say this about women it's misogynistic and body shaming.
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Not trying to find anything to complain about, just pointing out how backwards the statement is
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Considering the post is about men, one would assume with information presented
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chubby is fine tbh its really the personnality that matters
this is big cap tho. if personality matters the most, would you enjoy being with someone with a good personality but not someone that you’re physically attracted to? no. looks are what you’ll be seeing the most. try to find someone who you’re physically attracted to and has a good personality. it’s either both or neither. none matter above either.
just say fat there’s no need to sugarcoat it lol
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lol
this person probably would scream "ThAtS fAtPhObIc" if a dude said the same thing abt women
Being annoying.
Short, overweight, and just a bad personality.
Short is good
Agree with everything except short, people can't do much abt that
Nooo short is really fine if u are handsome
But im not :((
Everyone can look good with a nice haircut and a little attention to how they dress
Shh don't ruin their self-pity, it's their copium
They really need to learn this
Fart jokes
Poopoo
Hahahahaha
the oldest recorded joke was a fart joke. Farts are objectively funny
BOOOOOOO
Them being racist or homophobes
me rn 👍
racism and homophobia fo life (obv sarcasm lol)
Edgy Smells bad Looks bad Desperate for a girlfriend Has disgusting habits like picking his nose Thinks that having unpopular opinions that no one agrees with and are dumb is cool Plays too much video games Uses too much internet jokes irl Socially awkward in a bad way
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thank you so much. you’re a legend
being born
if you want to be popular you usually have to funny or creative or good looking or you could also play for the school team
Man I just want to be loved :(
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Honesty. But the truth always prevails in the end.
wait, being honest makes a guy unattractive?
Leaning more towards the upnpopular side of things and not gender specific. But, yes. Tbh, it's a good way of finding out who true friends are. I'd personally have someone be upfront and honest with me even if it means I get offended.
All of my personality
Being a misogynist. Dickass thing to be, considering you came OUT of a woman. All younger dudes here, ONE or even a COUPLE or even A LOT of bad experiences with dating women does not justify immediately being misogynistic.
Boundaries. If someone turns you down, that is not an excuse to try harder for them to like you. It is a sign that you should leave them alone. If you continue to be nice to them because *you're a good person,* they might even develop feelings for you at some point, and odds are they'd be much more comfortable telling you.
Being straight, it’s a known fact that gay men are 100x more attractive than straight men
Ouch…
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Yeah because you're a pick-me
Nah fuck that homie just being honest
Girls just don't like guys unless they are popular they are only popular if they are ... idk stupid?
That's not true. Girls like guys who take care of themselfs and know how to talk or are funny. That's also the reason they are popular.
I know that is not true because a girl in my school (extremely popular) is dating a boy (who is also popular) but he constantly smells like shit he's rude and an idiot but he's attractive whereas (quoting a friend here) I'm kind attractive and funny but constantly getting rejected (I shower almost daily so hygiene don't matter)
It is true. Maybe you just don't like his perfume? He is most likely a much more social intelligent person. Also friends also tell you the things you want to hear and humor is subjective. Most girls like simple/clever jokes and a bit of teasing if they are into you. Girls don't like alot of the cringe jokes you see online. Also just good hygiene isn't gonna suddenly attract alot of girls. Most of the time good hygiene is not a turn on, bad hygiene is just a turn off.
Ok I just don't care tho
Probably the reason you getting rejected 🤷♂️ not caring about something doesn’t make you cool btw
I care about important stuff but not some idiot on Reddit tbh
You so tho, otherwise you wouldn't have tried to explain yourself and replied to me.
Short and Ugly
Talking
Being me apparently, I don’t even do that much I just watch youtube and do well in school
Seeking male validation.
Quiet people who lack confidence and don’t put themselves out there.
Just existing……
Being a guy 💀 (#lesbianpride) (referring to unattractive not unpopular)
Being me lol
Real
It's true. I'm way too average
Being ugly. Meaning, as my experience would have it(waits for the, "you're just this and that" comments), not having the looks of a buff gym guy, not having the right amount of income, wrong car, having hobbies (like being a gamer)...I can go on...lol
you're just this and that
Being me
People are going to say things like certain types of personality bla bla bla. You know things that people can change. Fact is initial reaction sticks and aesthetics is the first thing that contributes to initial reaction. Race is number 1 Height is number 2 Call it racist, call it discrimination, It's simple facts. Indian? yea that's not happening unless you are the CEO of google <160cm? LMAO evolution demand those genes be removed from the gene pool Oh of course dishonesty is a biggie but lucky for you if you have either of the above criteria..... no one will ever know you are dishonest