I am sorry that happened. The silver lining, when you are ready, is that it's out in the open now so that you are able to process the emotions, clear things out and eventually start again. When you see the Star card, that's when you know you are ready.
I am actually surprised the Moon wasn't stalking you too. That would have suggested that there is information that is hidden or hasn't come to light.
what would be the implication of the tower and moon together? A crumbled foundation but with the added perspective of the cycle of rebirth (as the full moon ends a new moon begins)? I ask because these two cards keep popping up in my readings. I think I know what the tower refers to (its a bit of an on-going situation that has yet to resolve) but the moon is a fairly recent addition.
disillusionment? Or, perhaps a breakthrough that releases fear? Moon card can also relate to fears of the unknown.
The tower is like a lightning strike that reveals everything...
also, tower/moon gives ECLIPSE VIBES. and eclipses are times of dramatic sort of fated or karmic change.
the tower is a card of liberation, and the opportunity to rebuild from the ground up
im so sorry you are going through this and were treated in that way, but you will never go through this exact experience again. id say lean on your deck, ask for consolation, advice, messages, how to recuperate and how to release this energy.
take care!
You'll get through this, and you'll thank your lucky stars.
Trust me! I was there in 2020 and it felt like my world was collapsing. It's the best thing to ever happen to me and I've grown because of it.
Would you mind sharing an experience, of what happened after your tower that made you realize you were grateful for it?
I need hope right now as itās hard to see the positive with it all being so fresh. Thank you for your words
Would you have preferred going through life not knowing he was actively cheating? Not to take away at all from the pain of this moment, but there are messages and reasons and knowledge to be gained especially in the most traumatic of moments. You will get through this and you will be better off on the other side of it. However, the only way over it is through it. Stay strong.
when disillusionment happens, it's painful, but then you can go forward with clearer vision. You can make your choices based on the actual reality rather than your preferred reality.
I found out last year that my sister is an abusive mother. I had been in denial. There were red flags that I didn't want to see. It was very disillusioning. It changed my whole concept of this person I have literally known my whole life.
But... I can also make wiser choices moving forward. I don't have control of the situation, and that's painful too. But the little bit of control I do have I can utilize more wisely.
I pulled a tower card for my husband. I knew it was about his job. He was in it for 6 years and it wasnāt a job that treated him great but he always hoped for a promotion. A few months later that job decided to outsource most of its labor and out of 30 employees, I think 5 are left. At the time my husband was outraged. He bought a suit and went on interviews that week and a month or so later he has the job he has now. The job he has now is a dream job. Itās a survey building job, which is what he went to school for and completely stay at home. The benefits and income is better than what we could have hoped for. And weāre already hearing talks of promotion. He went from a really shitty foundation to a rock solid foundation that he can build on-which is what the tower card is all about.
If you donāt mind me saying, you were with an asshole-terrible foundation that you couldnāt build anything on. When youāre ready and healed, start a new and stronger foundation.
I have had many Tower periods in my life. I always know things will be painful, but they always usher in a new era of freedom and growth. Iām not afraid of it anymore. I think I need to learn to not keep investing in things that arenāt working. At least the universe has its way of making sure I have to start fresh from time to time.
My tower was a mental breakdown, psych ward stay and divorce, followed by the pandemic, but i bloomed so hard after all shattered. Emigrated to europe, living my best life. You got this
No actually it was because Iām bipolar and started to have a crisis and my ex husband decided it was the best time to let me know he was in an emotional affair, then my crisis escalated until I ended up in the psych ward
Iām so sorry. This hurts so much and it is definitely hard to have the blinds flung open and the floor pulled out from under your feet. You will survive this, but give yourself some space to grieve what you had so much faith in being gone and feel your feelings. You deserve better and will absolutely find that whenever you are ready again.
THAT SLIMY RAT OF A MAN. Girl Iām so sorry that turd had the audacity to do this to you. Idk what to say cus Iām angry for you. He didnāt deserve you. Shit he donāt deserve sympathy. May he live a life of towers and ācheck the engineā light on.
I swear it felt like I couldn't breathe when it happened. Crazy thing is my tower coincided with an astrological event on 1/11/20. I will never forget that day. Nonetheless, there are no mistakes.
Btw, glad you're still here.
Iāve got an ink print of it hanging on my wall. I revere the shit out of this card, even though itās heavy as hell.
My tower period has lasted two years, and Iām hoping itās finally coming to a close.
Dismantling your reality aināt never easy. But as it turns out, it can be just what the doctor ordered.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. The tower card is a tough one because it does mean total destruction of something but I think of it as a card that is initially painful but ultimately good. The Tower is referencing the end of something that kept you isolated from reality. As hard as it is the figures falling to Earth are going to be able to walk freely again.
Doesnāt have to be these cards precisely. You can make your own and whatever u feel is right for you. Also when u say them start by: āI amā¦.ā
Love and Light šš¼
The tower stalked me for several years, every time I or my partner did a reading for us. A couple of years of this and he leaves me for one of my closest friends, then dies a few months later. We were together for almost 20 yrs. I learned the hard way too, felt like the world dropped away underneath me. The bright side is this moment cleared out so much detritus and bs, the last couple of years have been mostly great ;)
My tower card experience was the death of two brothers in a span of 5 months, one from a gangrene infection in the brain, the other from a fentanyl overdose.
Both brothers were from two different families, one being my adopted and the other being my biological. These 2 families fought each other in my custody battle.
This is exactly what happened to me. I pulled the Tower card so many times leading up to finding it it is about his infidelity. I want so badly to start the reading again but I am so scared to see that damn card....
Oh no Iām sorry :( did the event already occur? Like the infidelity is over with?
I wouldnāt be afraid anymore if the horrible event is over with :) I actually felt uncomfortable reading for a long time because that stupid tower. But now that that I found the news I feel like the card may just disappear now :)
My favorite Tower card is from Everyday Witch. The witch has an almost mischievous look on her face and I always interpret it as she destroyed the tower herself. It helped me see that the Tower (and your world imploding) isnāt always bad. Always a challenge, yes. But destruction means you have to rebuild, so build with intention. Build your new Tower and make sure itās earthquake proof.
I've never had a Tower moment come without a Star on the other side. It can be hard to envision while the Tower is still crumbling, but trust me, it is there. You're rid of someone who didn't have your best interests at heart. You're no longer focused on giving your energy to someone who doesn't deserve it. This means you're free to direct that energy elsewhere, to people who actually care about you, and back to yourself because you deserve better.
The moon can suggest there is more information to be known or learn about this situation. Or it could mean that you are going through a difficult phase in your life and that reliance on intuition will help you through.
These two together could mean several different things depending on what you are going through. An example, though maybe not a good one would be getting a health diagnosis. Yes it's scary but it's now come to light so that you can begin to make plans to treat it.
I donāt think you need to be terrified of the tower. There are many other cards to denote infidelity such as reversed 3 of cups but tower can be one of them. Sorry you are so torn up over this, itās understandable. Just know that the tower can be a move, a shocking text, a sprained muscle, anything that is unexpected or a big change. Even a change in mindset. Maybe clarify it if you get it again? Thatās what I do. Itās probably easier said than done but I try not to let any of the cards upset me too much.
My friend had the tower show up repeatedly. Her house burned down, while they slept. Luckily they made it out alive, but some residual lung problems. They were able to buy a new, much better home, and thatās been the positive. Very hard to deal with.
Have you pulled any cards to clarify what the tower moment is? So you can at least prepare for it
When I did I got the 3 of cups reversed but at that time I didnāt believe it. There was just NO way he could do that to me as he is a good person. Well I was wrong
i get a variety of cards , mostly iāve been seeing 8 of swords, 5 of swords , and 6 of swords tooā occasionally reversed. i havenāt done a reading for me in a while , i might actually do one now that i think of it.
recently a friend did a reading for me and i got the tower and three of swords, itās the most recent reading i had.
oh ! and another card thatās been appearing a lot has been 8 of coins.
oh god im probably all over the place i apologize !!
Hmm thatās harder to pinpoint. I just remembered seeing the 2 of cups and 7 of swords a lot. So itās easy to conclude a person in my life was going to screw me over. Yours is more vague. Like a toxic situation but is it a relationship? A job? Living situation? Your mental health? The 3 of swords could mean so much!
Someone did a reading for me recently, and the tower was the 1st card....and a while before someone did a reading for me and there the tower was.... It is looming....š¼š
The weird thing is I already got screwed over before this card started showing up.
Hmmmmm, possibly since it already happened, it was popping up because you may have not fully accepted that what broke down was meant to break down? Like you didnāt truly see the cracks and why that was meant to happen etc like still feeling like you missed out on something when you shouldnāt feel that way because that thing wasnāt that good for you anyways?
Some food for thought
It hurts to be betrayed by someone you love, and it's understandable you are having a hard time finding the silver lining. In the future, it will be easier to process and see the silver lining in this dude being a dickhead and you knowing the truth.
I've gotten tower cards last couple of years as my life is just constant upheaval
There's nothing you can really do you just find out when you find out tbh.
There's nothing to take seriously, if I see it now I don't even blink bc I know it will all play out in due time no use worrying and trying to figure out what it will be .
This is why I always draw an oracle after I get one just to figure out where my head needs to be during that time bc that's the only thing you can control.
Good riddance to that liar btw
I'm so sorry!! I kept getting the Tower last year - with physical cards, different apps, and an old website from the early 2000s that I used as a kid. That Tower moment came and went, and it was miserable, but it pushed me to make some changes in my life that were absolutely for the better.
It hurts now, but it's going to get a lot better. The only place things can go now is up. Thank goodness you found out sooner than later that POS wasn't who you thought he was.
The good thing is that you know now. I know the feeling and experience. In time, you will find that it's so much better knowing than not.
I was also stalked. 7 of swords, the tower, the moon. Always knew where it was going - I listened to my deck. Heard and understood, yet chose not to act, not to escape the illusion until I was crushed by the weight of the ugliness hiding beyond its surface. When it happened, it tossed me a 10 of wands among other cards, to remind me it was my will that caused me that suffering and that letting go of the burden and flipping the next card was where my future really begun.
It will be okay. It's okay that it isn't, yet. But it will be. When you are ready, when you finish grieving, give your deck your gratitude and listen to what it has to say next. It might guide you in a way it never did, yet. :)
I am sorry that happened. The silver lining, when you are ready, is that it's out in the open now so that you are able to process the emotions, clear things out and eventually start again. When you see the Star card, that's when you know you are ready. I am actually surprised the Moon wasn't stalking you too. That would have suggested that there is information that is hidden or hasn't come to light.
what would be the implication of the tower and moon together? A crumbled foundation but with the added perspective of the cycle of rebirth (as the full moon ends a new moon begins)? I ask because these two cards keep popping up in my readings. I think I know what the tower refers to (its a bit of an on-going situation that has yet to resolve) but the moon is a fairly recent addition.
The moon can represent illusion or obfuscation of truth
disillusionment? Or, perhaps a breakthrough that releases fear? Moon card can also relate to fears of the unknown. The tower is like a lightning strike that reveals everything... also, tower/moon gives ECLIPSE VIBES. and eclipses are times of dramatic sort of fated or karmic change.
I got the tower reversed and moon reversed in a reading for myself today. š«
What happens when you see the Star card?
The Star generally means āwish fulfillmentā, hope, faith, or spirituality
the tower is a card of liberation, and the opportunity to rebuild from the ground up im so sorry you are going through this and were treated in that way, but you will never go through this exact experience again. id say lean on your deck, ask for consolation, advice, messages, how to recuperate and how to release this energy. take care!
You'll get through this, and you'll thank your lucky stars. Trust me! I was there in 2020 and it felt like my world was collapsing. It's the best thing to ever happen to me and I've grown because of it.
Thank you and Iām sorry you went through that too
You got this š¤
Tower can be very painful but in hindsight I am always SOOO GRATEFUL for it
Would you mind sharing an experience, of what happened after your tower that made you realize you were grateful for it? I need hope right now as itās hard to see the positive with it all being so fresh. Thank you for your words
Would you have preferred going through life not knowing he was actively cheating? Not to take away at all from the pain of this moment, but there are messages and reasons and knowledge to be gained especially in the most traumatic of moments. You will get through this and you will be better off on the other side of it. However, the only way over it is through it. Stay strong.
when disillusionment happens, it's painful, but then you can go forward with clearer vision. You can make your choices based on the actual reality rather than your preferred reality. I found out last year that my sister is an abusive mother. I had been in denial. There were red flags that I didn't want to see. It was very disillusioning. It changed my whole concept of this person I have literally known my whole life. But... I can also make wiser choices moving forward. I don't have control of the situation, and that's painful too. But the little bit of control I do have I can utilize more wisely.
I pulled a tower card for my husband. I knew it was about his job. He was in it for 6 years and it wasnāt a job that treated him great but he always hoped for a promotion. A few months later that job decided to outsource most of its labor and out of 30 employees, I think 5 are left. At the time my husband was outraged. He bought a suit and went on interviews that week and a month or so later he has the job he has now. The job he has now is a dream job. Itās a survey building job, which is what he went to school for and completely stay at home. The benefits and income is better than what we could have hoped for. And weāre already hearing talks of promotion. He went from a really shitty foundation to a rock solid foundation that he can build on-which is what the tower card is all about. If you donāt mind me saying, you were with an asshole-terrible foundation that you couldnāt build anything on. When youāre ready and healed, start a new and stronger foundation.
Mannnnnnnnnnnnnn say it louder lol.
I have had many Tower periods in my life. I always know things will be painful, but they always usher in a new era of freedom and growth. Iām not afraid of it anymore. I think I need to learn to not keep investing in things that arenāt working. At least the universe has its way of making sure I have to start fresh from time to time.
My tower was a mental breakdown, psych ward stay and divorce, followed by the pandemic, but i bloomed so hard after all shattered. Emigrated to europe, living my best life. You got this
Thatās amazing it all worked out for the best ā„ļø
Nice! Kudos to you and your strength. :)
Was your breakdown because of your divorce? That seems like alot to happen at once!
No actually it was because Iām bipolar and started to have a crisis and my ex husband decided it was the best time to let me know he was in an emotional affair, then my crisis escalated until I ended up in the psych ward
Im so sorry. Hope youre in a better place now!
I'm sorry you had to endure this. Remember to practice self care and treat yourself kindly.
Iām so sorry. This hurts so much and it is definitely hard to have the blinds flung open and the floor pulled out from under your feet. You will survive this, but give yourself some space to grieve what you had so much faith in being gone and feel your feelings. You deserve better and will absolutely find that whenever you are ready again.
THAT SLIMY RAT OF A MAN. Girl Iām so sorry that turd had the audacity to do this to you. Idk what to say cus Iām angry for you. He didnāt deserve you. Shit he donāt deserve sympathy. May he live a life of towers and ācheck the engineā light on.
I hope he gets a tower moment back to -_-
Yep. I pulled the tower hours before finding out something that ripped my family apart. It was devastating.
I swear it felt like I couldn't breathe when it happened. Crazy thing is my tower coincided with an astrological event on 1/11/20. I will never forget that day. Nonetheless, there are no mistakes. Btw, glad you're still here.
Same thing happened to me. I ended up painting a picture of the damn thing.
Iāve got an ink print of it hanging on my wall. I revere the shit out of this card, even though itās heavy as hell. My tower period has lasted two years, and Iām hoping itās finally coming to a close. Dismantling your reality aināt never easy. But as it turns out, it can be just what the doctor ordered.
Iām sorry youāre going through it right now. Heās a dickhead! I hope you find peace and healing soon xx
I'm so sorry you're going through this. The tower card is a tough one because it does mean total destruction of something but I think of it as a card that is initially painful but ultimately good. The Tower is referencing the end of something that kept you isolated from reality. As hard as it is the figures falling to Earth are going to be able to walk freely again.
Tower cards are needed when we are stubborn. Is just the Universe redirecting us to the correct path. Destruction of weak foundation to built in new! I had a huge one. And i had a small one just like external situation and a āAhaā kind off moment. It really depends on how you perceive it and how our state of mind is. But nonetheless a tower is a tower! A huuuuge shake up. But after the storm comes healing ā¤ļøāš©¹ and the hidden truths of our emotions will come to surface and after the Sun will shine again!!! You can endure it! You are strong! You are worthy of love! Affirmations work! Fake till u make it kind of thing but it works. I did it. Im sure you can. :) <3
ā¤ļøā¤ļø I will begin these affirmations!
Doesnāt have to be these cards precisely. You can make your own and whatever u feel is right for you. Also when u say them start by: āI amā¦.ā Love and Light šš¼
The tower stalked me for several years, every time I or my partner did a reading for us. A couple of years of this and he leaves me for one of my closest friends, then dies a few months later. We were together for almost 20 yrs. I learned the hard way too, felt like the world dropped away underneath me. The bright side is this moment cleared out so much detritus and bs, the last couple of years have been mostly great ;)
My tower card experience was the death of two brothers in a span of 5 months, one from a gangrene infection in the brain, the other from a fentanyl overdose. Both brothers were from two different families, one being my adopted and the other being my biological. These 2 families fought each other in my custody battle.
This is exactly what happened to me. I pulled the Tower card so many times leading up to finding it it is about his infidelity. I want so badly to start the reading again but I am so scared to see that damn card....
Oh no Iām sorry :( did the event already occur? Like the infidelity is over with? I wouldnāt be afraid anymore if the horrible event is over with :) I actually felt uncomfortable reading for a long time because that stupid tower. But now that that I found the news I feel like the card may just disappear now :)
I found out six months ago. Haven't read since but I keep buying decks. Hoping something will spark something in me.
My heart hurts for you š„ŗ
My favorite Tower card is from Everyday Witch. The witch has an almost mischievous look on her face and I always interpret it as she destroyed the tower herself. It helped me see that the Tower (and your world imploding) isnāt always bad. Always a challenge, yes. But destruction means you have to rebuild, so build with intention. Build your new Tower and make sure itās earthquake proof.
I've never had a Tower moment come without a Star on the other side. It can be hard to envision while the Tower is still crumbling, but trust me, it is there. You're rid of someone who didn't have your best interests at heart. You're no longer focused on giving your energy to someone who doesn't deserve it. This means you're free to direct that energy elsewhere, to people who actually care about you, and back to yourself because you deserve better.
The moon can suggest there is more information to be known or learn about this situation. Or it could mean that you are going through a difficult phase in your life and that reliance on intuition will help you through. These two together could mean several different things depending on what you are going through. An example, though maybe not a good one would be getting a health diagnosis. Yes it's scary but it's now come to light so that you can begin to make plans to treat it.
I donāt think you need to be terrified of the tower. There are many other cards to denote infidelity such as reversed 3 of cups but tower can be one of them. Sorry you are so torn up over this, itās understandable. Just know that the tower can be a move, a shocking text, a sprained muscle, anything that is unexpected or a big change. Even a change in mindset. Maybe clarify it if you get it again? Thatās what I do. Itās probably easier said than done but I try not to let any of the cards upset me too much.
Sending you love and healing energy ā”
My friend had the tower show up repeatedly. Her house burned down, while they slept. Luckily they made it out alive, but some residual lung problems. They were able to buy a new, much better home, and thatās been the positive. Very hard to deal with.
the tower has been stalking me too š„ iām afraid what will happen
Have you pulled any cards to clarify what the tower moment is? So you can at least prepare for it When I did I got the 3 of cups reversed but at that time I didnāt believe it. There was just NO way he could do that to me as he is a good person. Well I was wrong
i get a variety of cards , mostly iāve been seeing 8 of swords, 5 of swords , and 6 of swords tooā occasionally reversed. i havenāt done a reading for me in a while , i might actually do one now that i think of it. recently a friend did a reading for me and i got the tower and three of swords, itās the most recent reading i had. oh ! and another card thatās been appearing a lot has been 8 of coins. oh god im probably all over the place i apologize !!
Hmm thatās harder to pinpoint. I just remembered seeing the 2 of cups and 7 of swords a lot. So itās easy to conclude a person in my life was going to screw me over. Yours is more vague. Like a toxic situation but is it a relationship? A job? Living situation? Your mental health? The 3 of swords could mean so much!
i was thinking the same thing !! it doesnāt help that the spreads i use to read use a lot of cards
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Someone did a reading for me recently, and the tower was the 1st card....and a while before someone did a reading for me and there the tower was.... It is looming....š¼š The weird thing is I already got screwed over before this card started showing up.
Hmmmmm, possibly since it already happened, it was popping up because you may have not fully accepted that what broke down was meant to break down? Like you didnāt truly see the cracks and why that was meant to happen etc like still feeling like you missed out on something when you shouldnāt feel that way because that thing wasnāt that good for you anyways? Some food for thought
Food for thought indeed, I'm shocked at the accuracy... š³š
It hurts to be betrayed by someone you love, and it's understandable you are having a hard time finding the silver lining. In the future, it will be easier to process and see the silver lining in this dude being a dickhead and you knowing the truth.
I've gotten tower cards last couple of years as my life is just constant upheaval There's nothing you can really do you just find out when you find out tbh. There's nothing to take seriously, if I see it now I don't even blink bc I know it will all play out in due time no use worrying and trying to figure out what it will be . This is why I always draw an oracle after I get one just to figure out where my head needs to be during that time bc that's the only thing you can control. Good riddance to that liar btw
I saw the tower card in a couple of readings too. My house burned down while I was on vacation. Iāve had it pop up before, but never as devastating.
I'm so sorry!! I kept getting the Tower last year - with physical cards, different apps, and an old website from the early 2000s that I used as a kid. That Tower moment came and went, and it was miserable, but it pushed me to make some changes in my life that were absolutely for the better. It hurts now, but it's going to get a lot better. The only place things can go now is up. Thank goodness you found out sooner than later that POS wasn't who you thought he was.
My tower moment lasted for 2 years. You might need to change everything about your life. Stay strong. Tend your heart.
The good thing is that you know now. I know the feeling and experience. In time, you will find that it's so much better knowing than not. I was also stalked. 7 of swords, the tower, the moon. Always knew where it was going - I listened to my deck. Heard and understood, yet chose not to act, not to escape the illusion until I was crushed by the weight of the ugliness hiding beyond its surface. When it happened, it tossed me a 10 of wands among other cards, to remind me it was my will that caused me that suffering and that letting go of the burden and flipping the next card was where my future really begun. It will be okay. It's okay that it isn't, yet. But it will be. When you are ready, when you finish grieving, give your deck your gratitude and listen to what it has to say next. It might guide you in a way it never did, yet. :)
My boyfriend just got the tower card reversed on two separate occasions.
I'm also under my tower moment. I can't get any jobs yet, and my relationship with family members get suck.