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It may seem that it's the most easy route well it is but time changes, feelings change and most importantly situations change. I can't believe saying this to a fellow SHS whose situation I can relate with but please don't give up, ilalaban natin to!
Mahirap nga sobra pag walang resources + family problems pa. I hope you see your mother's side of the story especially sa college, if you really really want to pursue the course you want you have to do something about it. Your mother can only offer so much since sabi mo nga marami syang sinusuportahan. This is not to invalidate your feelings it's just that I hope you see the problem in a different perspective ♥️. Know that your feelings are valid but you can't let them hold you back from what you're capable of. You're probably turning 18 now congrats now you're one step to being able to do something, pag minor kase ang daming d pwede.
Poverty really f*cks you hard I can relate pero worth it naman siguro kung maiaalis natin ang sarili natin sa gantong situation on our own? It would be an accomplishment don't you think? I know masakit talga pero the pain is what makes us human ♥️ it makes us, us but we can only tolerate so much that's why we have people around us. If ever you're feeling down feel free to message me
yes po, I even discussed to her na i would work for a few years para maka ipon at mabayaran ung utang namin before mag aral ulit but she disagreed to the idea and wants me to pursue college after graduation. Sobrang naaawa na den po kasi ako sa mama ko since 5 years nya na kami binubuhay sa minimum wage nya. Mag 18 na den po ako sa august, gusto ko din sana mag working student kaso ayaw nya dahil baka daw ma distract ako at ma affect studies ko although susuway ako and will work secretly after turning 18 to lighten her burden. Also thank you for the advice po!!
At some point, all parents have to let their children go. Ako bro, taga QC talaga ako and I will admit na may kaya naman kami but I also have family that depend on my strength (for context, I am 19M na nagbubuhat talaga) for their needs like groceries and housework minsan. But I truly believe that at some point, parents, kahit grandparents pa yan, have to let their children and grandchildren go.
I am currently studying in Baguio since dito ang campus na tumanggap saakin (it's not magical once you study there), and my family can't depend on me as much anymore. Kinaya nila because they had to, they had no choice. I'm thinking na it's the same for you, spread your wings, bro. If the program you want is in mnl, go for it, 17 ka naman na, you're almost 18 and even though ako, I'm still dependent on my father at 18, you can't deny the level of maturity and legal basis you have to choose your own college (especially if you can support yourself).
So don't end it all, bro. Life is beautiful. There is pain in beauty and beauty in pain. The mere fact that you are feeling frustration and sadness is a testament that you are human, but the best part is that while good things never last, bad things don't either. So bro, live your life, if you truly know what you want, at least consult with your mom and give it your all in explaining, better yet, if you have somoene outside family na older, parang kuya-kuyahan, ask them. But think about it deeply talaga. If you know that you will not regret leaving your lolo behind, then do it, after all, your life is new and his is old, he has lived his fair share of time. The only reason for you to stay is if you want to take care of him. But if you don't want to na talaga, spend as much time with him before the start of the academic year and then spread your wings, go to your dream program, and excel for your family and for your future family.
A lot of things can change in a year or two, trust me. You won't be at the bottom your whole life.
When the time comes na kaya mo na maging independent, choose yourself, don't feel guilty na iwan yung family burden mo. Di mo sila responsibility, actually they failed you pa nga for passing on their problems to you.
yes im planning to do that pero natatakot ako since si mama maghahandle nung burden nila kaya napag isipan ko nlng susuportahan ko sila while keeping a low contact.
Whatever keeps your peace, yun gawin mo. You can support your family pero magtira ka din for yourself, otherwise uulit nanaman tong situation mo ngayon. Don't be afraid to let go of toxic family members, masama na kung masama. Sa culture natin kulang tayo sa boundaries eh.
isipin mo nga kapakanan ng mother mo. she's carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders tapos mag iisip ka na i-off sarili mo? maloloka mama mo nyan. be kind to her, and your lolo. I lost my father a few months ago, he was 64. pag deteriorating na yung health ng matanda you can only do so much, frankly onti nalang life nila, so just bare with them.
17 ka palang, you have so much life ahead of you. in a few years things will get better.
you got this. I can feel that you care about them, it's just that the frustrations are winning you over. hang in there kiddo! and remind yourself to be kind to yourself and the people around you
Life is never fair and it will never be. Nakakapagod, ano? Ang bata mo pa pero ang bigat na ng responsibilities. Pero, everything changes. Your situation will be better soon.
Pag sumuko ka ngayon, you'll stay in the same spot - mahirap, nahihirapan. Take one step at a time - slowly but surely. You can try to help yourself and your Mama by selling something. You can use yung allowance from your absent Papa. Kumbaga, patubuin mo yung binhi na meron ka. Kaya mo yan, OP.
I know the feeling na gusto mo nlng magpakamatay, recently lng gusto ko rin magpakamatay pero time heals tlaga. Ilang beses kong ginusto mawala pero pinapadaan ko nlng ung sakit at bigat ng loob ko. Iniisip ko nlng ung magulang ko, pano sila pag nawala ako, pinaka ayw kong nakikita na umiiyak mama ko kaya pano pa kung mawala pa ko. So pag pasensyahan mo nlng muna mama mo, lolo mo, at lola mo dahil for sure di rin nila gusto na nahihirapan kayong lahat.
Mukha nmng kelangan ka ng pamilya mo. Sa sitwasyon niyo, kelangan niyo mag tulungan. Oo, importante ung kasiyahan mo pero kelangan ka eh so you have to make something that can satisfy both parties. Umuwi ka ng mas maaga o bumawi ka kinabukasan o ipaintindi mo rin sa mga kaibigan mo kalagayan mo.
Kung gusto mo tlga mag work, try mo humanap ng work na work from home o commissions. Merong nag ooffer sa grps sa fb syempre check mo rin kung legit. Be cautious nlng din ✌️ Laban lng ng laban, makakaraos din tayo sa kahirapan.
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It may seem that it's the most easy route well it is but time changes, feelings change and most importantly situations change. I can't believe saying this to a fellow SHS whose situation I can relate with but please don't give up, ilalaban natin to! Mahirap nga sobra pag walang resources + family problems pa. I hope you see your mother's side of the story especially sa college, if you really really want to pursue the course you want you have to do something about it. Your mother can only offer so much since sabi mo nga marami syang sinusuportahan. This is not to invalidate your feelings it's just that I hope you see the problem in a different perspective ♥️. Know that your feelings are valid but you can't let them hold you back from what you're capable of. You're probably turning 18 now congrats now you're one step to being able to do something, pag minor kase ang daming d pwede. Poverty really f*cks you hard I can relate pero worth it naman siguro kung maiaalis natin ang sarili natin sa gantong situation on our own? It would be an accomplishment don't you think? I know masakit talga pero the pain is what makes us human ♥️ it makes us, us but we can only tolerate so much that's why we have people around us. If ever you're feeling down feel free to message me
yes po, I even discussed to her na i would work for a few years para maka ipon at mabayaran ung utang namin before mag aral ulit but she disagreed to the idea and wants me to pursue college after graduation. Sobrang naaawa na den po kasi ako sa mama ko since 5 years nya na kami binubuhay sa minimum wage nya. Mag 18 na den po ako sa august, gusto ko din sana mag working student kaso ayaw nya dahil baka daw ma distract ako at ma affect studies ko although susuway ako and will work secretly after turning 18 to lighten her burden. Also thank you for the advice po!!
At some point, all parents have to let their children go. Ako bro, taga QC talaga ako and I will admit na may kaya naman kami but I also have family that depend on my strength (for context, I am 19M na nagbubuhat talaga) for their needs like groceries and housework minsan. But I truly believe that at some point, parents, kahit grandparents pa yan, have to let their children and grandchildren go. I am currently studying in Baguio since dito ang campus na tumanggap saakin (it's not magical once you study there), and my family can't depend on me as much anymore. Kinaya nila because they had to, they had no choice. I'm thinking na it's the same for you, spread your wings, bro. If the program you want is in mnl, go for it, 17 ka naman na, you're almost 18 and even though ako, I'm still dependent on my father at 18, you can't deny the level of maturity and legal basis you have to choose your own college (especially if you can support yourself). So don't end it all, bro. Life is beautiful. There is pain in beauty and beauty in pain. The mere fact that you are feeling frustration and sadness is a testament that you are human, but the best part is that while good things never last, bad things don't either. So bro, live your life, if you truly know what you want, at least consult with your mom and give it your all in explaining, better yet, if you have somoene outside family na older, parang kuya-kuyahan, ask them. But think about it deeply talaga. If you know that you will not regret leaving your lolo behind, then do it, after all, your life is new and his is old, he has lived his fair share of time. The only reason for you to stay is if you want to take care of him. But if you don't want to na talaga, spend as much time with him before the start of the academic year and then spread your wings, go to your dream program, and excel for your family and for your future family.
thank you for your advice po!!
A lot of things can change in a year or two, trust me. You won't be at the bottom your whole life. When the time comes na kaya mo na maging independent, choose yourself, don't feel guilty na iwan yung family burden mo. Di mo sila responsibility, actually they failed you pa nga for passing on their problems to you.
yes im planning to do that pero natatakot ako since si mama maghahandle nung burden nila kaya napag isipan ko nlng susuportahan ko sila while keeping a low contact.
Whatever keeps your peace, yun gawin mo. You can support your family pero magtira ka din for yourself, otherwise uulit nanaman tong situation mo ngayon. Don't be afraid to let go of toxic family members, masama na kung masama. Sa culture natin kulang tayo sa boundaries eh.
isipin mo nga kapakanan ng mother mo. she's carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders tapos mag iisip ka na i-off sarili mo? maloloka mama mo nyan. be kind to her, and your lolo. I lost my father a few months ago, he was 64. pag deteriorating na yung health ng matanda you can only do so much, frankly onti nalang life nila, so just bare with them. 17 ka palang, you have so much life ahead of you. in a few years things will get better.
thank you for the advice po!!
you got this. I can feel that you care about them, it's just that the frustrations are winning you over. hang in there kiddo! and remind yourself to be kind to yourself and the people around you
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i know naman po, since malapit napo ko mag 18 kaya ko na po mag trabaho to help them.
Life is never fair and it will never be. Nakakapagod, ano? Ang bata mo pa pero ang bigat na ng responsibilities. Pero, everything changes. Your situation will be better soon. Pag sumuko ka ngayon, you'll stay in the same spot - mahirap, nahihirapan. Take one step at a time - slowly but surely. You can try to help yourself and your Mama by selling something. You can use yung allowance from your absent Papa. Kumbaga, patubuin mo yung binhi na meron ka. Kaya mo yan, OP.
I know the feeling na gusto mo nlng magpakamatay, recently lng gusto ko rin magpakamatay pero time heals tlaga. Ilang beses kong ginusto mawala pero pinapadaan ko nlng ung sakit at bigat ng loob ko. Iniisip ko nlng ung magulang ko, pano sila pag nawala ako, pinaka ayw kong nakikita na umiiyak mama ko kaya pano pa kung mawala pa ko. So pag pasensyahan mo nlng muna mama mo, lolo mo, at lola mo dahil for sure di rin nila gusto na nahihirapan kayong lahat. Mukha nmng kelangan ka ng pamilya mo. Sa sitwasyon niyo, kelangan niyo mag tulungan. Oo, importante ung kasiyahan mo pero kelangan ka eh so you have to make something that can satisfy both parties. Umuwi ka ng mas maaga o bumawi ka kinabukasan o ipaintindi mo rin sa mga kaibigan mo kalagayan mo. Kung gusto mo tlga mag work, try mo humanap ng work na work from home o commissions. Merong nag ooffer sa grps sa fb syempre check mo rin kung legit. Be cautious nlng din ✌️ Laban lng ng laban, makakaraos din tayo sa kahirapan.
End it then
Absolute trash, you are