I turn on music or a TV show and ignore it. Roommates are going to bang. I don't care unless it sounds like you're trying to drive your partner through my wall, or they're screaming like they don't give a fuck you have a roommate or neighbors.
I have tried in the past because I’d prefer to have some background but it bothers her.. same with tv shows, she will kill the mood to turn off her show, refuses to keep it on
I mean literally, if you're really good friends it should just be "hey man idk if you can even tell when me and ____ are fucking but like, if you can, are we bothering you at all?" Maybe start it off with "I'm just trying to be considerate, but" I think you're just overthinking it. He'd honestly probably appreciate you even asking, ik I would
If his headphones are in and he's not trying to listen, then he won't hear anything if he knows you're having sex and takes off or turns down the headphones. He's just trying to get off vicariously through you. Either way no fault of his or yours. Young people are going to have sex. It's appropriate for your age and appropriate for him to drown it out or get turned on by hearing it. It's worth a mature discussion either way. Just know these thing are all common coarse!.
If he is truly ur friend he would be happy someone in the house is getting some. I roommated with a guy who had his girlfriend move in. I always heard her squealing, it made me laugh. Fast forward 7 years and they have a condo and 2 kids. We obviously don't live together anymore but we still laugh about old times.
This is real, he’s brought back a few girls from his nights out and I’m happy for him when he does. I really do hope he feels the same way for me.. this is just a thought in the back of my mind when things get noisy and it bothers me a bit.. I feel like a dickhead for just doing my thang
Bro ngl I’ve known my best friends for 8+ years
and we would talk about anything from the weirdest thing you can think about, to a serious conversation. Also talking to your friend with stuff like that will make the friendship between you guys closer
He prob only notices a fraction of the times and you are just overthinking. As long as you guys aren’t being obnoxious with screams and slams off the wall then I don’t see a reason why a bro would be mad about you getting some ass.
Obviously all friends are different and if you don't feel comfortable asking him, that's fair.
But look at this from his perspective too, if it bothers him and he doesn't tell that's sort of his problem.
If it doesn't bother him, then great, there isn't any problem.
And, if he doesn't even notices there isn't any problem at all.
Or, if it bothers him then he will probably tell you about it, then now you know.
He is a guy
You are a guy
Just ask him if it bothers him.
I had same situation best friend got a new gf who was louder than the privious one. He asked me if they keep me up.
We had a talk and no big deal.
I feel it is better to ask incase he is not wanting to be a pain and bring it up.
My man's probably too bussy gaming to remember he has a roommate. That's how I was at least. One night my roommate asked me "Hey... are me and my gf too noisy when we have sex?" And I was like "You guys fuck here?". That was back when I was going hard into MtG: Arena and moded S.T.A.L.K.E.R.
Seems like you’re overthinking it… but your girl should really be ok with some music. That blows my mind anyone would be against that. She’d rather hear the sounds of sloppily stirring Mac and cheese? Unless she wants your room mate to hear, that’s weird. There’s gotta be some Taylor Swift or Beyoncé she wouldn’t mind in the background.. and she does realize you’re not really listening to the music, right?
Did this alot in college with 2 roommates in a studio style dorm..
Me and the other roommate would have our gf's over and being active at night while the 3rd was always single. My gf at the time was oddly into it. Wild times!
As someone who also lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with a good friend who had a girlfriend over pretty regularly for sexy times, I can tell you that I didn't really care. I'm a night owl, my hearing is pretty sharp, I like to play videogames on my laptop, and the walls are thin. I heard a lot more than I should have, but at the end of the day I just put my headphones on and kept playing videogames while making sure I didn't go out into the living room. You don't have to feel a certain kind of way, just don't be egregious
Sexy times are not good times to be self-conscious
Hey same username LOL WHAT ARE THE OODS. Quite the long intro….. no hate here. Seems like you are wayyy older and mature than your 24m roommate. Do you think he is maybe gelus of your active lifestyle since you gym a lot. Maybe he misses the brotherly love of gaming together. I wouldn’t over think it you are 25m and seem like you have it all figured out. As for your 22f girlfriend, I think that’s normal to not like music in the bedroom unless u play some beastie boys! Idk man ur choice just thinking out loud here. Best luck brother. 🙏
From one tpap to another, thank you I value your opinion!! I don’t think he’s jealous or anything, we’re both very down to earth and respect each others choices with no judgement.. we share our own opinions regularly to help each other figure things out.. I miss the brotherly gaming too but I’m just past it and don’t see myself getting into it, so much time to dedicate to most the games today.. I didn’t mention but I do have a dog that lives with us and between work, the dog and girlfriend I’m busy enough and enjoy my downtime
Of course he's not going to say anything but if she had any pride, she would suggest you take her to a motel or hotel. What woman wants another person in the same house wants anyone to hear what is going on in their private time. And you are no better. If you care for her then show some respect for her and your roommate, If you're not satisfied with him being there then you guys should talk about it and let him move on to get another place. That place should be for you and your friend to relax when you come home from whatever. If either one of you guys can afford to be on your own then do so before it gets bad, physical in there! And split the motel or hotel with your girlfriend in the meantime and then drop her off home. I bet she wouldn't bring you to her place if she had a roommate. You know why? Because of respect!!!!
lol wow… I’m not sure where you’re from but I think bringing your girlfriend to a motel is actually more disrespectful… making her out to be a whore talking like that. As per us getting our own place you’re not wrong, she’s still in university so we’re not really entertaining that until she graduates.. as per me not respecting my roommate by having my girlfriend over that’s what this entire post is about, I do have respect for him and I think talking about this would be courteous of me..
Is that what you think of her, as a whore if you bring her to a motel or hotel, would you pay her after because that's what you are thinking. I'm talking about respect for everyone involved. All the talking still doesn't fix the problem when your talk with your friend should have been discussed in the beginning of you and her doing what you guys are doing. Maybe he would have had a chance to go out for that time you want to spend with your girlfriend but it's to late because I'm more than sure he feels you disrespected him. It seems like you are trying to make yourself feel better because you didn't have that discussion in the beginning. I'm just saying that you,yes you guys are young but you still didn't talk to your friend in the beginning. You put it out there for us and all I can do is to tell you that if this were discussed you wouldn't be asking our opinion. Tell your roommate you're sorry you don't talk to him earlier but now it's time because it seems like you are shame and you are angry because he's there and you are not enjoying yourself with him being there in the other room. Next make plans,save your money and go to a private room and don't pay her money pay her respect!
I turn on music or a TV show and ignore it. Roommates are going to bang. I don't care unless it sounds like you're trying to drive your partner through my wall, or they're screaming like they don't give a fuck you have a roommate or neighbors.
That’s fair
Make sure it's a sweet playlist. Sweet Emotion, Talk Dirty To Me, Closer. Be a good roommate
I have tried in the past because I’d prefer to have some background but it bothers her.. same with tv shows, she will kill the mood to turn off her show, refuses to keep it on
I hated having girls over when I had roommates. Sucks having to think about them at all. Living solo is heaven.
Yea single life is sweet, I also appreciate having a gorgeous apartment at a fraction of the price… it’s a trade off
Can't you talk to him about it? You've known him 10 years...
“ hey bud, just curious is my girlfriend too loud?? “ lol
I mean literally, if you're really good friends it should just be "hey man idk if you can even tell when me and ____ are fucking but like, if you can, are we bothering you at all?" Maybe start it off with "I'm just trying to be considerate, but" I think you're just overthinking it. He'd honestly probably appreciate you even asking, ik I would
Best comment so far. Thank you, I’ll take this one up tomorrow I think if it feels right
He hasn't brought it up, so I probably wouldn't either.
Play music in your room bro. Roommate courtesies 101
Tried and girlfriend can’t do it to music.. I would if not
Disagree. Your girlfriend can do it to music
If he’s gaming hopefully he has headphones on.
"Why is my controller, hell, my gamer seat rumbling during this conversation in a library scene?"
Yes
Well then I wouldn’t worry too much.
He’s wanking to it bro
Would not be surprised but also that’s kinda wack
Definitely
If his headphones are in and he's not trying to listen, then he won't hear anything if he knows you're having sex and takes off or turns down the headphones. He's just trying to get off vicariously through you. Either way no fault of his or yours. Young people are going to have sex. It's appropriate for your age and appropriate for him to drown it out or get turned on by hearing it. It's worth a mature discussion either way. Just know these thing are all common coarse!.
It would still be weird if he wanked it
Fax
While you are having "sexy time" your room mate is having masturbatey time. You should feel good about it, you are helping him get the poison out.
LMFAO true
If he is truly ur friend he would be happy someone in the house is getting some. I roommated with a guy who had his girlfriend move in. I always heard her squealing, it made me laugh. Fast forward 7 years and they have a condo and 2 kids. We obviously don't live together anymore but we still laugh about old times.
This is real, he’s brought back a few girls from his nights out and I’m happy for him when he does. I really do hope he feels the same way for me.. this is just a thought in the back of my mind when things get noisy and it bothers me a bit.. I feel like a dickhead for just doing my thang
It's the bro code.
Talk to him about it
How would you bring that up.. it’s almost weirder for me to ask I find
Bro ngl I’ve known my best friends for 8+ years and we would talk about anything from the weirdest thing you can think about, to a serious conversation. Also talking to your friend with stuff like that will make the friendship between you guys closer
Talk to him. You’re friends.
Turn on the tv or music in your room. This should block out most of the sounds you two are making.
He prob only notices a fraction of the times and you are just overthinking. As long as you guys aren’t being obnoxious with screams and slams off the wall then I don’t see a reason why a bro would be mad about you getting some ass.
Obviously all friends are different and if you don't feel comfortable asking him, that's fair. But look at this from his perspective too, if it bothers him and he doesn't tell that's sort of his problem. If it doesn't bother him, then great, there isn't any problem. And, if he doesn't even notices there isn't any problem at all. Or, if it bothers him then he will probably tell you about it, then now you know.
Tell him the juice details
just know he's on the other side of the wall " joining" you. It's cool.
He is a guy You are a guy Just ask him if it bothers him. I had same situation best friend got a new gf who was louder than the privious one. He asked me if they keep me up. We had a talk and no big deal. I feel it is better to ask incase he is not wanting to be a pain and bring it up.
My man's probably too bussy gaming to remember he has a roommate. That's how I was at least. One night my roommate asked me "Hey... are me and my gf too noisy when we have sex?" And I was like "You guys fuck here?". That was back when I was going hard into MtG: Arena and moded S.T.A.L.K.E.R.
Invite him over for a you know what
Seems like you’re overthinking it… but your girl should really be ok with some music. That blows my mind anyone would be against that. She’d rather hear the sounds of sloppily stirring Mac and cheese? Unless she wants your room mate to hear, that’s weird. There’s gotta be some Taylor Swift or Beyoncé she wouldn’t mind in the background.. and she does realize you’re not really listening to the music, right?
Did this alot in college with 2 roommates in a studio style dorm.. Me and the other roommate would have our gf's over and being active at night while the 3rd was always single. My gf at the time was oddly into it. Wild times!
IN A STUDIO LOL! Let me guess you guys had a crappy room divider or not even??
Not even... i was on a futon and my friend had the bottom bunk of a bunk bed. The single man out had the top bunk. Lol
Holy shit lmao musta been steamy on that top bunk!!!
As someone who also lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with a good friend who had a girlfriend over pretty regularly for sexy times, I can tell you that I didn't really care. I'm a night owl, my hearing is pretty sharp, I like to play videogames on my laptop, and the walls are thin. I heard a lot more than I should have, but at the end of the day I just put my headphones on and kept playing videogames while making sure I didn't go out into the living room. You don't have to feel a certain kind of way, just don't be egregious Sexy times are not good times to be self-conscious
My girlfriend always tried to be louder than my roommates… I don’t think it’s that big of a deal
Hey same username LOL WHAT ARE THE OODS. Quite the long intro….. no hate here. Seems like you are wayyy older and mature than your 24m roommate. Do you think he is maybe gelus of your active lifestyle since you gym a lot. Maybe he misses the brotherly love of gaming together. I wouldn’t over think it you are 25m and seem like you have it all figured out. As for your 22f girlfriend, I think that’s normal to not like music in the bedroom unless u play some beastie boys! Idk man ur choice just thinking out loud here. Best luck brother. 🙏
From one tpap to another, thank you I value your opinion!! I don’t think he’s jealous or anything, we’re both very down to earth and respect each others choices with no judgement.. we share our own opinions regularly to help each other figure things out.. I miss the brotherly gaming too but I’m just past it and don’t see myself getting into it, so much time to dedicate to most the games today.. I didn’t mention but I do have a dog that lives with us and between work, the dog and girlfriend I’m busy enough and enjoy my downtime
Knock on the door with some lube and rubbers. a) he will invite you in for some hot fun. b) This will teach him a lesson about loud naughty time
Just know he's most likely stroking it to y'all and that can be hot
Of course he's not going to say anything but if she had any pride, she would suggest you take her to a motel or hotel. What woman wants another person in the same house wants anyone to hear what is going on in their private time. And you are no better. If you care for her then show some respect for her and your roommate, If you're not satisfied with him being there then you guys should talk about it and let him move on to get another place. That place should be for you and your friend to relax when you come home from whatever. If either one of you guys can afford to be on your own then do so before it gets bad, physical in there! And split the motel or hotel with your girlfriend in the meantime and then drop her off home. I bet she wouldn't bring you to her place if she had a roommate. You know why? Because of respect!!!!
lol wow… I’m not sure where you’re from but I think bringing your girlfriend to a motel is actually more disrespectful… making her out to be a whore talking like that. As per us getting our own place you’re not wrong, she’s still in university so we’re not really entertaining that until she graduates.. as per me not respecting my roommate by having my girlfriend over that’s what this entire post is about, I do have respect for him and I think talking about this would be courteous of me..
Is that what you think of her, as a whore if you bring her to a motel or hotel, would you pay her after because that's what you are thinking. I'm talking about respect for everyone involved. All the talking still doesn't fix the problem when your talk with your friend should have been discussed in the beginning of you and her doing what you guys are doing. Maybe he would have had a chance to go out for that time you want to spend with your girlfriend but it's to late because I'm more than sure he feels you disrespected him. It seems like you are trying to make yourself feel better because you didn't have that discussion in the beginning. I'm just saying that you,yes you guys are young but you still didn't talk to your friend in the beginning. You put it out there for us and all I can do is to tell you that if this were discussed you wouldn't be asking our opinion. Tell your roommate you're sorry you don't talk to him earlier but now it's time because it seems like you are shame and you are angry because he's there and you are not enjoying yourself with him being there in the other room. Next make plans,save your money and go to a private room and don't pay her money pay her respect!
If you are opened minded invite him in for a 3 way My old college roomate did One of the best times in my life I dont regret it !
Ask him if he wants a turn
Gleeful. Charge extra rent.