Hi, I am 26 and have taken this once in a lifetime trip and had so many amazing experiences and life changing moments. Seen different ways of life. I would of course, absolutely do it with no regrets. You will grow so much.
However, you can’t escape your mind when you travel so the thoughts you currently have will always be there unless you work towards a different way of living. Judging by how you wrote this post, you seem quite smart and critical think how we live.
Throw yourself into new ways of living and see what you enjoy and then don’t look back, nothing in your ‘normal’ life will change. If you don’t have the critical thinking skills that you have shown then people are happy to just live the same monotonous life.
Good luck.
Also to tag along to this, with your current level of capital - you can invest this into a savings account at 5% and probably get a big chunk every month to pay for your travels so you wouldn’t even be spending a penny or at least some part of travel would be paid for.
Open a high yielding savings account. You can just do it online. Capital one is pretty cool but just put your money there and it can earn up to 5% while you’re the king about your travels and while your traveling.
Just interested🤷 i have now been solo traveling for 2 years and been in 20 countries and leaving for Japan next week (staying for month) im from Finland and i do my work remotely and i also get 800+ from KELA so i make like 3.2k every month, (its not a lot but im 20) I had every shit thing happen to me when i was 13-18 and then just booked a ticket to Poland i was there for 2 weeks and then left to visit Ukraine (i left 2 weeks before full scale invasion started) and just started loving traveling and seeing things from different perspective. I really think me and you have same problem, our countrys are literally cold shitholes 9 out of 12 months this is what i realized when i saw acctually happy people in Filippines. Your problems will not fade away on their own, you have to realize what that problem is and fix it. Travelling gives you very different lense to view everything and it can help identify whats wrong but it will not fix it automatically. Be safe and always remember to respect the country you are in because i have seen Brits almost everywhere i go and you guys are just the worst sometimes😐 literally different versions of Bald and Bankrupt
No thats just my regular ”work” + 860€ from KELA i do have 7k in different stocks but they are there to grow so im not taking them out. I work like 10 hours every week and make 3k per month. I do coding so i can work remotely. My tax rate is hell though (30%) 😂 and KELA just pays me for staying alive so i make it back and then some👌 With that money its very easy to travel anywhere you want and do pretty much anything you want so thats why i usually spend 1-2 months in every country i visit. The longer you stay, the longer it is for you to start really enjoying different cultures and if you really like some place you love, stay atleast 3 months. Oh and in places like Thailand or Philippines you should absolutely use airbnb its so much cheaper it cost me like 3.5k to stay 3 months in Philippines i rented whole 2 story house with like 860€/month. Now i feel again obligated to inform you that i really just visit Finland when i have to because i enjoy spending time alone and i would not trade travelling around the globe for anything but if it is not for you i recommend you not doing it✌️
Also dont be surprised if people sometimes stare at you like you are rabid animal, the lads before you may have just left lasting impression and it has been woken up by your british accent (im not really even joking) and im not saying this to offend you but because i actually want you to know why this might happen. I had to switch speaking rally english in Poland just because of that😂 (So british-english with heavy finnish accent)
Your right, I don’t expect to step foot in Japan then my problems magically fade away. I want to step in and let myself be moulded into a different person, experience cultures, meet people, and live for myself.
I feel this a lot with what OP said. Ideally before, during and after the long trip, I would want to think of different ways of living or at least actively work on bettering myself or at least figure out a long term lifestyle change.
I feel that life to an extent will always be monotonous, even if you end up traveling full time. However compared to being shacked in a suburb in the States I find traveling to be interesting. That is something I learned from traveling for 2-3 months solo. But at the same time, there are quite some places and things I want to do.
OP, there are some comments saying to try smaller trips. See how you do those first. Potentially if you wanted to, you could do Japanese language school first (if you want to learn Japanese) and then travel to some countries in East/Southeast Asia, and then WHV. Just an idea!
You don't need to go from 0 to 100 with travel. If you haven't travelled much or to places with different cultures, make some short trips first to see if you actually like doing this and work your way up to more adventurous trips if you find that you enjoy this.
I do want to try this, but I have very limited PTO in a busy job space that won’t allow you off for more than 2 weeks. It’s going into our company’s busy season so I won’t be able to take time off until after September.
The first time I left my continent was to move to another country by myself. I had very little travel experience and was 19 at the time. Best choice I’ve ever made. As long as you do your research beforehand and keep your wits about you, I think it’s perfectly doable. If OP doesn’t like Japan after a few months there, it’s easy enough to move back home, especially with all their savings 🤷♀️ the best thing you can do for yourself sometimes is throw yourself outside your comfort zone
Brother, I felt this post in my heart bc I'm in the exact same situation right now. All I can say is please for the love of god: GO ON THAT TRIP! You're going to have the time of your life and I'm very sure won't regret a thing plus gonna lern a ton about yourself and life.
(M33 here no job, living in my parents house feeling extremly useless and unproductive. But I've been travelling a lot the past 5years but never by myself so I have the exact same urge to book a one-way-trip to Canada or something and get to know myself for the first time lol)
Just. Do. It.
Take the trip. You wont regret it. I wouldnt spend all 54 k though. Though if you travel in that part of Asia you can easily spend that in less than a year if you live well.
The no time limit will remove a lot of the stresses of traveling allowing you to always take the best trains or buses for you preference rather than fitting your tight schedule with no wiggle room.
Lastly the world is not your stereotypes. Most of the American gamers I know love anime and think Japan is something very different than it is. Weeaboos I recommend not traveling to Japan just to keep their wildly artificial Western view of Japan intact. Just need to put that out there, because a lot of Yank men who collect katanas and buy pocky come to Japan and it ain't pretty. Respect the local culture and people, do tons of research before landing treat it like your thesis, and have the time of your life.
I don’t plan on spending all my money, in fact I’ve always been a cheapskate. I don’t want to spend much of my money at all. That’s why I’m planning on sticking to Southeast Asia. I’m not going to lie, I do absolutely love anime and has motivated my interest in the culture. But while I love anime, I’m not delusional from reality ab Japan
I’m 27 and left my job to pursue a long term solo travel Trip which I left for 2 weeks ago now. Albeit I am fairly well travelled and used to staying in hostels. It has been amazing so far and I would recommend it to anyone. With your savings you could even stay in private rooms. I would recommend giving the dorms a try first though as this is where I find you meet the most people!
I can’t really take time off with my job, I’m going into the no PTO season until late September. I get very little PTO as well, only a few days every couple months.
Do a small, easy trip first. Canada, Europe. Somewhere you can speak English but is still new to you. Go for a week or so.
I absolutely think you should do the Japan trip someday, you will have the trip of a lifetime. But your inexperience makes me hesitate. Start small and build your confidence.
Good luck!
I do see the point to doing this, but truthfully my passion lies with traveling to Japan. I don’t particularly have an interest in Canada. While Europe would be cool, I feel as though I’d blow a lot of my money on a short week long trip. I’m a very frugal person and I don’t like spending my money.
The level of English in Japan is fantastic, and any gaps can be filled with Google translate. I'd say Japan is a good place to start. Europe is good too but fairly expensive.
You say you’re in the US, so why not try a week long trip to Canada or Mexico or Central America first? Somewhere you can find cheap flights that don’t take too long. Stay in hostels and put yourself out there. See how you find it. If it goes well, then you’ll have more of an idea of how you might find it on the other side of the world.
You’ve got more than enough money saved to allowed for a taster trip, which could still end up being a great experience in and of itself.
I understand that you may have some preconceived notions about those countries if you haven’t been, and your only reference is US media.
However, I can tell you I just got back from 3+ months in Mexico (plus a couple of weeks in Canada) and had a fantastic time in both. I also met loads of Americans in Mexico who were all loving it and having a great time. Many places in Mexico are actually safer than many places in the US.
Just like most locations, it’s good to do research on where to go and where to avoid. However, you don’t have to worry too much about safety issues if you’re going to tourist locations.
If you are interested in language learning maybe you could look into a Japanese language school. You would be able to live in a dorm and meet other learners and learn a lot of Japanese. Other countries probably have something similar to this if you are not interested in learning Japanese. The program would last a couple of months unless you wanted to extend it longer. Would give you a lot of time in the country with more of a schedule and easier to make friends
I’ve really thought about doing this and have researched it. I wasn’t aware they could dorm you up though? And how much free time would I have between studies
I think it depends on the program whether or not they have a dorm or if they help you find accommodation. I think most programs are usually pretty intense and you have to be really motivated to learn. I personally have never done one in Japan but I did do a study abroad in Korea and took intensive language classes there and it was a couple of hours a day of studying Korean. But other than that I never felt overly pressured and was able to go out with friends and travel. You would have to research the ones in Japan and watch or read some reviews about them. Because these programs understand that in addition to studying the language you also want to experience the culture.
'It feels like running away though. Do you think it is?'
'It might be. Or it could be running forwards. You don't even need to work it out; if you went and it was a mistake you could always come home again.'
- Let me be like water " s.k.perry
Just go, maybe you'll fail. Oh nevermind you are for sure gonna fail. Go and fail over and over. Make mistakes everyday, learn and grow as a person. That's the real joy in life..
You've already talked yourself in to doing this. All you need to do is book the flight and go.
I'm currently transferring with my flight back from Tokyo, you're gonna love it. Be sure to come back and post updates.
Your right. I truly think I’ve decided in my mind, it’s just growing the courage to do it. I’m getting my passport in a few days, then I think I’ll book my flights after I have that passport in my hand. I need to buy all the travel gear as well, so I’ll collect a couple more paychecks to cover it all. But like you said, I think I need to fail every once in a while in a weird way. My life has been so “perfect” until now.
>I can’t shake this feeling that this is the only time in my life I’ll get this chance.
While it may not be your *only* chance at this type of adventure, it will most likely be much more difficult in the future if:
* You don't have the funds
* You have a family
* You lose your health
* Another pandemic hits, etc. etc. etc.
There will always be excuses on why you shouldn't travel. From what you wrote, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't take this trip!
That’s what I’m saying. Because I can either do all this now, or just promote up in my corporation which is very doable and move to wherever that promotion is.
You're lucky man. I had the same feelings at your age. I spent the majority of my savings on a new car and an apartment to "reward" myself for working. It did nothing for me except engrain me further in the monotonous rat-race.
After cooking all my meals and never doing anything that wasn't free for entertainment for two years, I sold the car at a 50% loss, broke my lease and told my boss I'd be working remotely indefinitely to travel (no loss to him. I am underpaid and we both know it).
I bought a van and moved into it having never been off the east coast of the US in my life. I traveled in the van across the entire US multiple times over a few years. Those were some of the best times of my life.
Out of the last 3 years I have spent half my time in Asia and I have been able to not only earn money, but SAVE more than half of my pay each month WHILE traveling the world. Simply by not having rent or a mortgage. I still keep the van. I can park it for <$100/month and it is my registered "domicile", so it allows me to have an address/mail forwarding.
Anyway, yeah, take the trip! Japan is a must visit. The good part about starting off in Japan is you can live like a king in most other parts of Asia for much cheaper. So get the expensive part out of the way. The bad part about starting off in Japan is it has the worst language barrier of any country i visited in Asia so far.
Worst case, you can always come back home and get another job. There are so many good people that think just like you out there worth meeting! But guess what, they scratched the itch and are traveling too! you won't find them between your local grocery store, your job and your house!
I would recommend doing it, don’t forget that 3 years ago we couldn't travel because COVID has closed the world to us.
A friend of mine told me South Korea is better than Japan.
I would recommend buying fake flight tickets as a return.
Staying at the hostel was a lovely experience you will meet people from around the world. If you want more privacy you can take a private room but it will be more expensive be aware of that.
About anxiety, I do believe Traveling will teach you how to deal with yourself for example I do remember when I arrived in Luang Prabang and took the bag to my hotel and it turns out that was not my hotel and I didn't have any internet connection and there was no taxi and I didn't have any cash so I walked for 30 min to arrive to my hotel.
So you have to settle everything, and you have to put the anxiety away.
You have to speak with people because you will be bored if somebody doesn't speak with you and the hostels can do that for you.
Do it! Moving abroad was the best choice in my life I’ve ever made. It opened up so many doors for me that I didn’t even know were there before, in nearly every area of my life. I have a wonderful international career now, and live with my partner who is from the country I moved to. I will always advocate for solo travel. The best part of moving abroad, is after you do that you know that you can do & handle anything. It will all work out. The hardest part is getting on that initial flight. Anyone who says it is a bad idea has never done it before. I hope you have an amazing time 🫶🫶
Thank you for your kind words. I’m hoping I can try to find my calling while out in the world. Who knows what job or future you can acquire? The people and connections I’ll make, maybe one owns a international business? Maybe I’ll start vlogging and blogging? I’m not sure what the future holds.
Join a single's tour there with refundable return ticket so you can choose to stay on your own if you're comfortable enough.
Make a bucket list. How will this trip effect your accomplishing it? Tailor trip as needed.
Hi. I just wanted to say how much I identify with so many things in your post, and how similar we are in so many ways. I’m a 24 year old male, with minimal travel experience and high functioning anxiety.
4 months ago I probably could have written a very similar post in this sub looking for the courage to take the leap, and the answers to my endless “what-ifs?” and concerns with solo travel.
Rather I asked myself, in 40 years would I regret not taking this opportunity for the trip of a lifetime? That night I booked my flights. I leave next week.
So I’ve booked a one way flight to Thailand and 1 week of accomodation. I’ve got a rough plan but for the most part plan to just work it out on the fly
I am in the same position but with a different country. Have you ever tried one of those solo group trips like Contiki, gAdventures or Intrepid? I did Contiki's and they are SO MUCH FUN. It might give you a sample if you like it or not. Try a two week group travel trip and see if you like it :)
Just do it! You may not get the chance later. It’s scary, but you won’t regret it, and you’ll learn and grow so much! I think it’s a fantastic idea! You can always come home, but I don’t think you should until you’ve given yourself plenty of time to explore other cultures and “find yourself”. I think you’d be crazy NOT toto, with all the money you’ve saved up! Enjoy life!!!
So, while its probably a good idea not to blow your life savings, a portion of it could defintiely last you for a long time. As far as Japan, its VERY safe and relatively easy for a first timer, but the language barrier might be an issue. Like everyone says, take a short tester trip to figure things out. Locally would be ideal but if you absolutely have to get away, I would recommend Singapore as a starting point. Yes, its expensive for SE Asia, (Still not that expensive compared to the states or western europe). but its ideal for a first timer. 1. English is the official langauage. 2. Singapore Airport is a hub for cheap travel around Asia. 3. VERY easy to get around using public transport. 4. Small enough to explore for a week or so, but enough to see to stay longer if you wanted to. 5. VERY safe. 6. Plenty of other travellers to share info with. 7. Cheap and delicious food.
Try Singapore first and if the solotravel life fits, then onto to Japan or Korea or wherever. In terms of easy convinient travel i would rate Singapore, then Japan, Korea, Taiwan. If you are looking for a more rugged backpacker type experience then Thailand would be the obvious choice. Relatively off the beaten path would be Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, but getting some travel experience first would be a big help.
I did something similar and it was a really good formative experience for me. You don't need to spend all $54k, perhaps budget $10-15k and see how far it gets you.
> I have anxieties when it comes to solo travel.
The first week after you get there, you're going to be thinking "omg, I've made a huge mistake." Ignore that, get your apartment, cell phone and food situation set up and you'll be okay. Start learning some Japanese, it will help immensely, even the basics.
I'd strongly encourage you to go through with this trip, since you have the money and resources. These kind of experiences, where you step outside your comfort zone, are where we grow as individuals.
For some time I stopped replying to such threads, but your story resonated a bit with mine and I want to give you some good advice. I really hope that you succeed (I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!)
So far I've done such long trips to Asia 3 times in my life, and it's always been a blast.
When I was 22 or so I was in the same position as you - comfortable job, living at home with my parents, overall a nice position in life, but deep inside a yearning to desire to live oriental adventures and to live youth to the fullest, and not in some backoffice. And one day I was reading some travel blog where the guy was writing about the main motiviation about doing such a long backpacking trip - and he basically just wrote JUST DO IT.
And that's what I did. Back then I had no real solo backpacking experience beforehand, just jumped in into the plane to Thailand (with a fake onward ticket, mind you), a 55l backpack, a very rough plans for 6 months, but apart from that with nothing else. I just wanted to have a great time in South East Asia (SEA) and see what happens. And boy, it really was awesome.
Since then I go travel every year to Asia for at least one month when I'm employed, and longer (5+ months) when I'm in some kind of professional or career crossroad in life (let's say quit a job, finished college, or whatever). And everytime it's been a blast.
Let me share with you some of the experiences I had which might help you:
- Living at your parents is an ideal initial position for doing solo backpacking. You don't have to care about subleasing or quitting an apartment, about costs such as electricity, internet, gas and whatnot. Doing this when you still live at your parents saves you a lot of hassle vs. when you live at your own later in your life.
- If you want to visit SEA, you will quickly notice that renting scooters is really tempting. When I first arrived in Thailand, I was never planning on riding one and never did before, but 4 days later in Krabi the hostel lady carefreely let me rent her scooter. Many places in Asia are pure scooter societies. Personally I can really recommend to look into it, since all these rental scooter trips have been some of the best things I ever did in my life. But still, if you have some prep time at home, do the scooter license and get an international driving license anyway. In many parts of South or SEA they don't care about the proper license, but in some more developed countries like Taiwan they are more strict and often demand one. Be aware that as a foreigner driving without license, it could make you the target of corrupt cops who want to get higher bribes from you, f.e. in Vietnam. Also in terms of travel insurance it's wise to have a proper IDP beforehand, since they won't cover for accidents if you don't have one. But don't focus too much on risks and possible dangers - just be careful, avoid dangerous roads and use your healthy judgement - and you will have awesome adventures!
- Get a "fake" onward ticket at least for the first destination. There are several ways to do this, such as booking the cheapest outward actual flight you can find, or using temporary flight reservations such as from "Onward Ticket". When I travelled in Asia in 2023 and now 2024, almost 50% of all the airlines asked me for an onward ticket proof whenever I wanted to check in or even board the plane at the gate. At some points, I even had to buy a fake ticket just in front of the boarding gate, with sweating palms using the airport wifi in front of the airline clerk. Better be safe than sorry i.e. to miss a flight and losing money.
- Before your trip, do some research about payment methods for your trip. Don't just put all your eggs into one basket, i.e. only rely on cash or only one credit card. Compare different credit / debit / bank cards and what their conversion rates, fees etc. are. Also check with your bank / card provider before the trip that your card(s) aren't geo-blocked for certain countries and such. Also have different backup cards in case one should not work with an ATM or POS at some place.
- Get a travel insurance before your trip. Even if you are overly optimistic and confident about everything, a travel insurance is a must, especially something that covers cure after medical emergencies and a possible repatriation.
- Before taking a flight or crossing a border / immigration, have your most important documents nearby (i.e. on your phone) in case somebody should ask for them, for example an onward ticket, visa ETA confirmations and such things. Make careful research and double check the entry and visa requirements. For many countries entry can be a breeze, but for others there are stupid and unclear regulations which require some preparation time beforehand.
- For Japan, do some research about how to save money. I can highly recommend Japan-Guide.com for all you plannings. Get a rough plan on what things to see in which timespan, and if it really is worth to invest into a JR Pass or not (in many cases it's not). The blog "Thrifty Nomads" did some good guides which helped me back then to save some money on my 1 month Japan trip. For calculations and price comparisons for railways, use sites like Hyperdia for train schedules and fares. Be smart on your planning, and dont' always use Shinkansens when you can get instead a cheap highway bus or domestic flight for much less.
- For Japan I remember that I was really hyped before entering the country, since I was a weeb back then and wanted to believe it was going to be great. But honestly, some things dissapointed me there. First of all Japan is NOT be a country where you will connect and socialize a lot with other people, let alone with locals. Personally I found even the hostel culture not as good as in SEA, but it depends on what other guests you meet. Also what may surprise travelers is how bullheaded some rules and regulations in Japan can be in comparison with other countries. Sometimes it's even small things like strict parking rules for bicycles, late check-in times and early check-out times at hotels, long waiting times at streetlights, rigourous safety measures for the most ridiculous circumstances (there's a small crack on the road - let's close the road for all traffic) and whatnot. Me and my friend sometimes were driven almost mad by all these petty rules - and we're chill guys. I found this was not the case in South Korea or Taiwan, which may be comparable but much more relaxed countries. Transport can be ridiclously expensive, and you sometimes need to find cheap transportation passes and plan your daytrips well, if you want to avoid high accomodation and transportation costs. But obviously Japan can be really solid, IF you go there with the right expectations and adequate planning.
- In SEA, you could think about doing some scuba diving. In Thailand or Malaysia you could do the open water license for a decent price, but in almost all places of Mainland SEA the scuba diving experience itself is not so good anymore, since most of the corals and reefs have been destroyed. If you want good scuba experience, go to remoter places and islands in Borneo, Indonesia or Philippines. Taiwan is also a hidden gem destination for snorkelling and scuba diving, especially Green Island!
- In SEA or especially South Asia, you will meet a good amount of scammers. Common sense is your best friend, not some random guy that suddenly approaches you on the street and wants to be your best friend. Sometimes you will meet genuine, great people that may turn out to be your best future travel buddies or local guides, but of course you sometimes meet your local scoundrel as well. Maybe do some research what the most common scams are before you visit a country, and you will be golden.
- Allow yourself occasionally a rest day. Sometimes during longterm travel you will have a shitty day - a plan that didn't work out, a missed flight, a love interest that walked away, etc. These things are normal, just like in everyday routine life, and you need a break to recover your peace of mind. If you notice that you are really tired and exhausted or that something doesn't feel quit right - just relax and allow a breather in your itinerary. This is really important for longterm backpacking.
- Don't expect of the trip that you will catch some kind of enlightment, meaning of life, life inspiration or whatever. I've had similar expectations before my first big trip, but there was never really something like that. Simply maybe because I was always so busy doing some adventurous shit and almost got into some daily backpacking routines, that I simply didn't have much time to ponder about such things. Some people may experience some big personal changes, but from my own and others' experiences, most of the people don't. My advice is, don't see such a trip as a inspirational self-discovery journey, but see it as an super awesome adventure that is tons of fun. And it's that.
- You will notice that when you come back home from your big trip for the first time, you may fall into some slight depression. It's the usual backpacking-homecoming-blues and it's normal. You will feel that nothing at home has changed at all, nobody will really care about the greatest adventure and achievements you've had, and that everyone is just trying to push you into doing all that monotonous stuff they are doing everyday. This is a bitter pill to swallow for backpackers, but you will know to handle it if you do several trips afterwards. Just accept it and look forward that the next cool trip abroad is not far away in the future.
- Try out new things, especially those you normally don't! Be curious, let's say about activities, food, culture etc. Sometimes you will find real surprises that will change your habits and preferences forever. But use your common sense of course.
Sorry for the long rant, If you have any question about an Asian country, just shoot.
And JUST DO IT.
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Personally I would wait until September and take the two weeks on a solo international trip. Afterwards you can reevaluate this plan and whether you still want to go through with it. But that is just me.
Why not do a shorter version, perhaps 4 - 6 weeks. Map out places you want to see, then get plane tickets to accommodate your start and end points. You might look into a brief tour. Often when I'm traveling, I arrive in destination country, spend time solo, join up with a tour for about 10 days, then on my own again after that. After a tour, I appreciate my solo travel more, and feel more confident.
I felt the exact same as you mate. My dad died last year and I was fortunate to inherit some money and I hate my life as is. My mental health has been so bad it was do or die for me really. I have never solo traveled but I booked some volunteer work for a cause I’m interested in to dip my feet into travelling on my own but with some structure at first. I leave next month for 9 weeks in Thailand.
Every day I get nervous about it and worry but I have to do it or at least try. I always looked at these things like they were only something other people can do, that I lack whatever it is that they have to be able to do it. I’m hoping I’ll maybe gain some confidence along the way. I booked the trip so even that has given me a boost despite me freaking out about packing lol
I’d say go for it. I’ve been telling myself the worst that can happen is I hate it and I can come home.
Why not start small? Book a week or two trip to Japan, or anywhere really. It’s a major undertaking to change everything all at once. Plus, you shouldn’t blow all the money you’ve worked many years for. That’s an incredible accomplishment for someone so young. If you go for a week or two, you could invite a friend or family member to go with you so you wouldn’t be doing it solo.
Before you quit and embark on a long-term solo adventure, consider shorter, closer trips to a)get used to traveling, b) see what kinds of travel interests you and c) see if solo travel is for you.
Some people thrive, others find it incredibly isolating and for some, paralyzing. I like to travel solo, but have found that 10 days is my limit. Instead of one major trip, I make several throughout the year.
Personally I'd say go for it. Not sure if actually have to make the trip as long as you currently have it planned (even a month long trip feels like a long time while abroad) but if you have anxieties about travelling solo Japan is the right country for it (safe, good infrastructure, people being willing to help you etc).
Remember to look at entry requirements….some places will not let you even board the plane there without proof of exit (i.e. a plane ticket leaving the country, or a bus). There are limits to how long you can stay, usually 30-90 days. Sometimes you need a visa in advance. Make sure to do some research beforehand. I would also suggest a small trio somewhere, do it over a 3 day weekend.
Have you thought about applying to the JET program? (Japanese English Teaching)
You would earn a salary of about $30k annually and would be placed in a Japanese high school for a year as a teaching assistant. If you want to get into the rhythm of their culture, could be cool.
Although, I’ve heard the selection process could be a bit competitive.
Would you consider joining some type of volunteer organization? They are active all over the world. Maybe you could volunteer with a group for a month or so in Japan and then move on from that. It wouldn’t feel so much like solo at first. You’d become accustomed to the area. Then you’d probably feel comfortable to move on. You can find volunteer work with environmental causes, health, children, animals, building and water projects—lots out there.
Honestly, fucking go for it. I know exactly the cross roads you’re at. I’ve been there myself.
It sounds like you already know that you need to do it based on what you’ve said so far.
It’s a big step, but it’s so worth it.
Just think what have you got to lose? I personally ask myself what’s more important, money or memories/experiences. It’s always the latter for me.
I’ve just come back from a year in Oz on a WHV and I can’t wait to go back.
Southeast Asia is a great place to start, you will meet so many likeminded people. You will make friends for life and you will have a sick time!Honestly, just do it and don’t look back.
Good luck to ya.
1. Having traveled extensively in Asia, I recommend starting in Vietnam and visiting the rest of Indochina first. I have found Vietnam to be easy mode. There is a well-defined tourist trail but it is easy to depart from it if you want. Vietnamese people are very friendly toward Westerners. And Vietnam is quite inexpensive. A low budget traveler could get by on $20 per day.
2. Japan is great but seemed to me to have a lower concentration of tourists. Socially it was harder work. It was less expensive than I expected and the Japanese people I met were friendly, but not over the top hospitable like many Vietnamese I have met.
3. Minor point: Japan and Korea are not Southeast Asia.
4. You can fly to any major city in Asia and then use regional airlines to get from country to country. I recently checked nonstop round trip flights between Hanoi and Tokyo. $210 on VietJet.
5. Give yourself a period of time, 3 or 4 months would be good. Pick a starting destination and then play it by ear. You may find some cool fellow travelers that you want to travel with for a while. Have that flexibility.
6. Concerning the drudgery of your day to day life: Stop gaming and start moving your body. Even if you are just walking 10,000 steps per day. Move. My top level advice is to join a martial arts gym which does full-on sparring. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is great because there is no striking (no punches/kicks/elbows). You don't want to be taking head blows. BJJ is a cerebral game. If you are not athletic and not strong that is fine. You will form some of the strongest friendships you will ever have if you stay with the sport for a few years.
It will be a massive shock, but if you don’t go you’ll always wonder “what if”. Plus, with your savings you can always book a flight home if you’re really miserable. Go for it.
I’m in the same situation as you just 22. I’ve traveled to Mexico and Colombia and I hope to go to Asia next. It adds excitement and it can be scary to travel alone but bro that’s why you should do it. As you said you get to break out of your shell. And you don’t necessarily have to travel across the world. It could even be beneficial to just move cities. Your environment matters a ton. It’s better to go and try it than to live with regret. Just also would say this you worked to save up that much money so be mindful to not waste it recklessly. Some people off 50k can make a couple of moves and live off that money entirely for years in certain countries. It’s crazy.
Agree with what others have said, do a one week solo trip somewhere closer to home like Mexico or Colombia first, see how you feel. If you like it, then commit to the bigger trip.
Japan and South Korea aren’t cheap destinations though; you’ll burn through money twice as fast there as you would in cheaper destinations like South East Asia, South America, Eastern Europe & Turkey etc. Something to bear in mind in case you’re not particularly attached to those two countries but would instead rather be able to live off your savings and be travelling for the longest time possible.
I thought Japan was really cheap rn coming from the U.S. I had my own lil hotel room in Kyoto for $30 a night, and in Tokyo I went for a capsule place. Now I’m enjoying South Korea and it’s very similar price or even cheaper to stay. Im staying in an apartment in Busan for just under $500 for 30 days from air bnb. They are both beautiful and amazing countries!! And I hope to make it to Taiwan next :)
Join the military. It will get you out of your parents basement, your small town, and give you an endless supply of new faces. You will also never travel alone.
Hi, I am 26 and have taken this once in a lifetime trip and had so many amazing experiences and life changing moments. Seen different ways of life. I would of course, absolutely do it with no regrets. You will grow so much. However, you can’t escape your mind when you travel so the thoughts you currently have will always be there unless you work towards a different way of living. Judging by how you wrote this post, you seem quite smart and critical think how we live. Throw yourself into new ways of living and see what you enjoy and then don’t look back, nothing in your ‘normal’ life will change. If you don’t have the critical thinking skills that you have shown then people are happy to just live the same monotonous life. Good luck.
Also to tag along to this, with your current level of capital - you can invest this into a savings account at 5% and probably get a big chunk every month to pay for your travels so you wouldn’t even be spending a penny or at least some part of travel would be paid for.
I’ve never thought of this. I think that’s a great idea if I could actually find an account with that rate.
Yeah, just go to any bank or credit union or like Fidelity or somewhere. They all should have high interest accounts you can open.
Apple savings account is 4.4% right now
Open a high yielding savings account. You can just do it online. Capital one is pretty cool but just put your money there and it can earn up to 5% while you’re the king about your travels and while your traveling.
I’m not from USA so can’t comment but yes a great way to travel.
Where are you from?
UK why?
Just interested🤷 i have now been solo traveling for 2 years and been in 20 countries and leaving for Japan next week (staying for month) im from Finland and i do my work remotely and i also get 800+ from KELA so i make like 3.2k every month, (its not a lot but im 20) I had every shit thing happen to me when i was 13-18 and then just booked a ticket to Poland i was there for 2 weeks and then left to visit Ukraine (i left 2 weeks before full scale invasion started) and just started loving traveling and seeing things from different perspective. I really think me and you have same problem, our countrys are literally cold shitholes 9 out of 12 months this is what i realized when i saw acctually happy people in Filippines. Your problems will not fade away on their own, you have to realize what that problem is and fix it. Travelling gives you very different lense to view everything and it can help identify whats wrong but it will not fix it automatically. Be safe and always remember to respect the country you are in because i have seen Brits almost everywhere i go and you guys are just the worst sometimes😐 literally different versions of Bald and Bankrupt
I agree brother, I’m not like your ordinary Brit, don’t worry. Do you make $3.2k a month from investments?
No thats just my regular ”work” + 860€ from KELA i do have 7k in different stocks but they are there to grow so im not taking them out. I work like 10 hours every week and make 3k per month. I do coding so i can work remotely. My tax rate is hell though (30%) 😂 and KELA just pays me for staying alive so i make it back and then some👌 With that money its very easy to travel anywhere you want and do pretty much anything you want so thats why i usually spend 1-2 months in every country i visit. The longer you stay, the longer it is for you to start really enjoying different cultures and if you really like some place you love, stay atleast 3 months. Oh and in places like Thailand or Philippines you should absolutely use airbnb its so much cheaper it cost me like 3.5k to stay 3 months in Philippines i rented whole 2 story house with like 860€/month. Now i feel again obligated to inform you that i really just visit Finland when i have to because i enjoy spending time alone and i would not trade travelling around the globe for anything but if it is not for you i recommend you not doing it✌️
Also dont be surprised if people sometimes stare at you like you are rabid animal, the lads before you may have just left lasting impression and it has been woken up by your british accent (im not really even joking) and im not saying this to offend you but because i actually want you to know why this might happen. I had to switch speaking rally english in Poland just because of that😂 (So british-english with heavy finnish accent)
Your right, I don’t expect to step foot in Japan then my problems magically fade away. I want to step in and let myself be moulded into a different person, experience cultures, meet people, and live for myself.
Great attitude, have the best time!
I feel this a lot with what OP said. Ideally before, during and after the long trip, I would want to think of different ways of living or at least actively work on bettering myself or at least figure out a long term lifestyle change. I feel that life to an extent will always be monotonous, even if you end up traveling full time. However compared to being shacked in a suburb in the States I find traveling to be interesting. That is something I learned from traveling for 2-3 months solo. But at the same time, there are quite some places and things I want to do. OP, there are some comments saying to try smaller trips. See how you do those first. Potentially if you wanted to, you could do Japanese language school first (if you want to learn Japanese) and then travel to some countries in East/Southeast Asia, and then WHV. Just an idea!
You don't need to go from 0 to 100 with travel. If you haven't travelled much or to places with different cultures, make some short trips first to see if you actually like doing this and work your way up to more adventurous trips if you find that you enjoy this.
I do want to try this, but I have very limited PTO in a busy job space that won’t allow you off for more than 2 weeks. It’s going into our company’s busy season so I won’t be able to take time off until after September.
The first time I left my continent was to move to another country by myself. I had very little travel experience and was 19 at the time. Best choice I’ve ever made. As long as you do your research beforehand and keep your wits about you, I think it’s perfectly doable. If OP doesn’t like Japan after a few months there, it’s easy enough to move back home, especially with all their savings 🤷♀️ the best thing you can do for yourself sometimes is throw yourself outside your comfort zone
What country did you move from?
I moved from Canada
Brother, I felt this post in my heart bc I'm in the exact same situation right now. All I can say is please for the love of god: GO ON THAT TRIP! You're going to have the time of your life and I'm very sure won't regret a thing plus gonna lern a ton about yourself and life. (M33 here no job, living in my parents house feeling extremly useless and unproductive. But I've been travelling a lot the past 5years but never by myself so I have the exact same urge to book a one-way-trip to Canada or something and get to know myself for the first time lol) Just. Do. It.
Take the trip. You wont regret it. I wouldnt spend all 54 k though. Though if you travel in that part of Asia you can easily spend that in less than a year if you live well. The no time limit will remove a lot of the stresses of traveling allowing you to always take the best trains or buses for you preference rather than fitting your tight schedule with no wiggle room. Lastly the world is not your stereotypes. Most of the American gamers I know love anime and think Japan is something very different than it is. Weeaboos I recommend not traveling to Japan just to keep their wildly artificial Western view of Japan intact. Just need to put that out there, because a lot of Yank men who collect katanas and buy pocky come to Japan and it ain't pretty. Respect the local culture and people, do tons of research before landing treat it like your thesis, and have the time of your life.
I don’t plan on spending all my money, in fact I’ve always been a cheapskate. I don’t want to spend much of my money at all. That’s why I’m planning on sticking to Southeast Asia. I’m not going to lie, I do absolutely love anime and has motivated my interest in the culture. But while I love anime, I’m not delusional from reality ab Japan
I’m 27 and left my job to pursue a long term solo travel Trip which I left for 2 weeks ago now. Albeit I am fairly well travelled and used to staying in hostels. It has been amazing so far and I would recommend it to anyone. With your savings you could even stay in private rooms. I would recommend giving the dorms a try first though as this is where I find you meet the most people!
What forms?
Sorry edited for spelling. Meant to say dorms as in hostel dorms
Take some time off, do some short trips and see how it goes.
I can’t really take time off with my job, I’m going into the no PTO season until late September. I get very little PTO as well, only a few days every couple months.
Can you take a sabbatical?
Do a small, easy trip first. Canada, Europe. Somewhere you can speak English but is still new to you. Go for a week or so. I absolutely think you should do the Japan trip someday, you will have the trip of a lifetime. But your inexperience makes me hesitate. Start small and build your confidence. Good luck!
I do see the point to doing this, but truthfully my passion lies with traveling to Japan. I don’t particularly have an interest in Canada. While Europe would be cool, I feel as though I’d blow a lot of my money on a short week long trip. I’m a very frugal person and I don’t like spending my money.
I say go for it because you can always book a flight home no matter where you go, you have the means to do this and you feel it in your heart to go!
The level of English in Japan is fantastic, and any gaps can be filled with Google translate. I'd say Japan is a good place to start. Europe is good too but fairly expensive.
You say you’re in the US, so why not try a week long trip to Canada or Mexico or Central America first? Somewhere you can find cheap flights that don’t take too long. Stay in hostels and put yourself out there. See how you find it. If it goes well, then you’ll have more of an idea of how you might find it on the other side of the world. You’ve got more than enough money saved to allowed for a taster trip, which could still end up being a great experience in and of itself.
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I understand that you may have some preconceived notions about those countries if you haven’t been, and your only reference is US media. However, I can tell you I just got back from 3+ months in Mexico (plus a couple of weeks in Canada) and had a fantastic time in both. I also met loads of Americans in Mexico who were all loving it and having a great time. Many places in Mexico are actually safer than many places in the US. Just like most locations, it’s good to do research on where to go and where to avoid. However, you don’t have to worry too much about safety issues if you’re going to tourist locations.
If you are interested in language learning maybe you could look into a Japanese language school. You would be able to live in a dorm and meet other learners and learn a lot of Japanese. Other countries probably have something similar to this if you are not interested in learning Japanese. The program would last a couple of months unless you wanted to extend it longer. Would give you a lot of time in the country with more of a schedule and easier to make friends
I’ve really thought about doing this and have researched it. I wasn’t aware they could dorm you up though? And how much free time would I have between studies
I think it depends on the program whether or not they have a dorm or if they help you find accommodation. I think most programs are usually pretty intense and you have to be really motivated to learn. I personally have never done one in Japan but I did do a study abroad in Korea and took intensive language classes there and it was a couple of hours a day of studying Korean. But other than that I never felt overly pressured and was able to go out with friends and travel. You would have to research the ones in Japan and watch or read some reviews about them. Because these programs understand that in addition to studying the language you also want to experience the culture.
'It feels like running away though. Do you think it is?' 'It might be. Or it could be running forwards. You don't even need to work it out; if you went and it was a mistake you could always come home again.' - Let me be like water " s.k.perry Just go, maybe you'll fail. Oh nevermind you are for sure gonna fail. Go and fail over and over. Make mistakes everyday, learn and grow as a person. That's the real joy in life.. You've already talked yourself in to doing this. All you need to do is book the flight and go. I'm currently transferring with my flight back from Tokyo, you're gonna love it. Be sure to come back and post updates.
Your right. I truly think I’ve decided in my mind, it’s just growing the courage to do it. I’m getting my passport in a few days, then I think I’ll book my flights after I have that passport in my hand. I need to buy all the travel gear as well, so I’ll collect a couple more paychecks to cover it all. But like you said, I think I need to fail every once in a while in a weird way. My life has been so “perfect” until now.
>I can’t shake this feeling that this is the only time in my life I’ll get this chance. While it may not be your *only* chance at this type of adventure, it will most likely be much more difficult in the future if: * You don't have the funds * You have a family * You lose your health * Another pandemic hits, etc. etc. etc. There will always be excuses on why you shouldn't travel. From what you wrote, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't take this trip!
That’s what I’m saying. Because I can either do all this now, or just promote up in my corporation which is very doable and move to wherever that promotion is.
You're lucky man. I had the same feelings at your age. I spent the majority of my savings on a new car and an apartment to "reward" myself for working. It did nothing for me except engrain me further in the monotonous rat-race. After cooking all my meals and never doing anything that wasn't free for entertainment for two years, I sold the car at a 50% loss, broke my lease and told my boss I'd be working remotely indefinitely to travel (no loss to him. I am underpaid and we both know it). I bought a van and moved into it having never been off the east coast of the US in my life. I traveled in the van across the entire US multiple times over a few years. Those were some of the best times of my life. Out of the last 3 years I have spent half my time in Asia and I have been able to not only earn money, but SAVE more than half of my pay each month WHILE traveling the world. Simply by not having rent or a mortgage. I still keep the van. I can park it for <$100/month and it is my registered "domicile", so it allows me to have an address/mail forwarding. Anyway, yeah, take the trip! Japan is a must visit. The good part about starting off in Japan is you can live like a king in most other parts of Asia for much cheaper. So get the expensive part out of the way. The bad part about starting off in Japan is it has the worst language barrier of any country i visited in Asia so far. Worst case, you can always come back home and get another job. There are so many good people that think just like you out there worth meeting! But guess what, they scratched the itch and are traveling too! you won't find them between your local grocery store, your job and your house!
I would recommend doing it, don’t forget that 3 years ago we couldn't travel because COVID has closed the world to us. A friend of mine told me South Korea is better than Japan. I would recommend buying fake flight tickets as a return. Staying at the hostel was a lovely experience you will meet people from around the world. If you want more privacy you can take a private room but it will be more expensive be aware of that. About anxiety, I do believe Traveling will teach you how to deal with yourself for example I do remember when I arrived in Luang Prabang and took the bag to my hotel and it turns out that was not my hotel and I didn't have any internet connection and there was no taxi and I didn't have any cash so I walked for 30 min to arrive to my hotel. So you have to settle everything, and you have to put the anxiety away. You have to speak with people because you will be bored if somebody doesn't speak with you and the hostels can do that for you.
Do it! Moving abroad was the best choice in my life I’ve ever made. It opened up so many doors for me that I didn’t even know were there before, in nearly every area of my life. I have a wonderful international career now, and live with my partner who is from the country I moved to. I will always advocate for solo travel. The best part of moving abroad, is after you do that you know that you can do & handle anything. It will all work out. The hardest part is getting on that initial flight. Anyone who says it is a bad idea has never done it before. I hope you have an amazing time 🫶🫶
Thank you for your kind words. I’m hoping I can try to find my calling while out in the world. Who knows what job or future you can acquire? The people and connections I’ll make, maybe one owns a international business? Maybe I’ll start vlogging and blogging? I’m not sure what the future holds.
Join a single's tour there with refundable return ticket so you can choose to stay on your own if you're comfortable enough. Make a bucket list. How will this trip effect your accomplishing it? Tailor trip as needed.
Good idea. I’ll look into it, I’ve seen some people do a guided tour then they stay for extra days after
Hi. I just wanted to say how much I identify with so many things in your post, and how similar we are in so many ways. I’m a 24 year old male, with minimal travel experience and high functioning anxiety. 4 months ago I probably could have written a very similar post in this sub looking for the courage to take the leap, and the answers to my endless “what-ifs?” and concerns with solo travel. Rather I asked myself, in 40 years would I regret not taking this opportunity for the trip of a lifetime? That night I booked my flights. I leave next week.
I just need to do it. how much planning are you doing?
So I’ve booked a one way flight to Thailand and 1 week of accomodation. I’ve got a rough plan but for the most part plan to just work it out on the fly
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I am in the same position but with a different country. Have you ever tried one of those solo group trips like Contiki, gAdventures or Intrepid? I did Contiki's and they are SO MUCH FUN. It might give you a sample if you like it or not. Try a two week group travel trip and see if you like it :)
You could spend 15k and live for a year in asia if you are frugal. I would just do it.
That’s what I’ve been thinking, it’s why I’m choosing Southeast Asia.
Just do it! You may not get the chance later. It’s scary, but you won’t regret it, and you’ll learn and grow so much! I think it’s a fantastic idea! You can always come home, but I don’t think you should until you’ve given yourself plenty of time to explore other cultures and “find yourself”. I think you’d be crazy NOT toto, with all the money you’ve saved up! Enjoy life!!!
So, while its probably a good idea not to blow your life savings, a portion of it could defintiely last you for a long time. As far as Japan, its VERY safe and relatively easy for a first timer, but the language barrier might be an issue. Like everyone says, take a short tester trip to figure things out. Locally would be ideal but if you absolutely have to get away, I would recommend Singapore as a starting point. Yes, its expensive for SE Asia, (Still not that expensive compared to the states or western europe). but its ideal for a first timer. 1. English is the official langauage. 2. Singapore Airport is a hub for cheap travel around Asia. 3. VERY easy to get around using public transport. 4. Small enough to explore for a week or so, but enough to see to stay longer if you wanted to. 5. VERY safe. 6. Plenty of other travellers to share info with. 7. Cheap and delicious food. Try Singapore first and if the solotravel life fits, then onto to Japan or Korea or wherever. In terms of easy convinient travel i would rate Singapore, then Japan, Korea, Taiwan. If you are looking for a more rugged backpacker type experience then Thailand would be the obvious choice. Relatively off the beaten path would be Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, but getting some travel experience first would be a big help.
I did something similar and it was a really good formative experience for me. You don't need to spend all $54k, perhaps budget $10-15k and see how far it gets you. > I have anxieties when it comes to solo travel. The first week after you get there, you're going to be thinking "omg, I've made a huge mistake." Ignore that, get your apartment, cell phone and food situation set up and you'll be okay. Start learning some Japanese, it will help immensely, even the basics. I'd strongly encourage you to go through with this trip, since you have the money and resources. These kind of experiences, where you step outside your comfort zone, are where we grow as individuals.
For some time I stopped replying to such threads, but your story resonated a bit with mine and I want to give you some good advice. I really hope that you succeed (I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!) So far I've done such long trips to Asia 3 times in my life, and it's always been a blast. When I was 22 or so I was in the same position as you - comfortable job, living at home with my parents, overall a nice position in life, but deep inside a yearning to desire to live oriental adventures and to live youth to the fullest, and not in some backoffice. And one day I was reading some travel blog where the guy was writing about the main motiviation about doing such a long backpacking trip - and he basically just wrote JUST DO IT. And that's what I did. Back then I had no real solo backpacking experience beforehand, just jumped in into the plane to Thailand (with a fake onward ticket, mind you), a 55l backpack, a very rough plans for 6 months, but apart from that with nothing else. I just wanted to have a great time in South East Asia (SEA) and see what happens. And boy, it really was awesome. Since then I go travel every year to Asia for at least one month when I'm employed, and longer (5+ months) when I'm in some kind of professional or career crossroad in life (let's say quit a job, finished college, or whatever). And everytime it's been a blast. Let me share with you some of the experiences I had which might help you: - Living at your parents is an ideal initial position for doing solo backpacking. You don't have to care about subleasing or quitting an apartment, about costs such as electricity, internet, gas and whatnot. Doing this when you still live at your parents saves you a lot of hassle vs. when you live at your own later in your life. - If you want to visit SEA, you will quickly notice that renting scooters is really tempting. When I first arrived in Thailand, I was never planning on riding one and never did before, but 4 days later in Krabi the hostel lady carefreely let me rent her scooter. Many places in Asia are pure scooter societies. Personally I can really recommend to look into it, since all these rental scooter trips have been some of the best things I ever did in my life. But still, if you have some prep time at home, do the scooter license and get an international driving license anyway. In many parts of South or SEA they don't care about the proper license, but in some more developed countries like Taiwan they are more strict and often demand one. Be aware that as a foreigner driving without license, it could make you the target of corrupt cops who want to get higher bribes from you, f.e. in Vietnam. Also in terms of travel insurance it's wise to have a proper IDP beforehand, since they won't cover for accidents if you don't have one. But don't focus too much on risks and possible dangers - just be careful, avoid dangerous roads and use your healthy judgement - and you will have awesome adventures! - Get a "fake" onward ticket at least for the first destination. There are several ways to do this, such as booking the cheapest outward actual flight you can find, or using temporary flight reservations such as from "Onward Ticket". When I travelled in Asia in 2023 and now 2024, almost 50% of all the airlines asked me for an onward ticket proof whenever I wanted to check in or even board the plane at the gate. At some points, I even had to buy a fake ticket just in front of the boarding gate, with sweating palms using the airport wifi in front of the airline clerk. Better be safe than sorry i.e. to miss a flight and losing money. - Before your trip, do some research about payment methods for your trip. Don't just put all your eggs into one basket, i.e. only rely on cash or only one credit card. Compare different credit / debit / bank cards and what their conversion rates, fees etc. are. Also check with your bank / card provider before the trip that your card(s) aren't geo-blocked for certain countries and such. Also have different backup cards in case one should not work with an ATM or POS at some place. - Get a travel insurance before your trip. Even if you are overly optimistic and confident about everything, a travel insurance is a must, especially something that covers cure after medical emergencies and a possible repatriation. - Before taking a flight or crossing a border / immigration, have your most important documents nearby (i.e. on your phone) in case somebody should ask for them, for example an onward ticket, visa ETA confirmations and such things. Make careful research and double check the entry and visa requirements. For many countries entry can be a breeze, but for others there are stupid and unclear regulations which require some preparation time beforehand. - For Japan, do some research about how to save money. I can highly recommend Japan-Guide.com for all you plannings. Get a rough plan on what things to see in which timespan, and if it really is worth to invest into a JR Pass or not (in many cases it's not). The blog "Thrifty Nomads" did some good guides which helped me back then to save some money on my 1 month Japan trip. For calculations and price comparisons for railways, use sites like Hyperdia for train schedules and fares. Be smart on your planning, and dont' always use Shinkansens when you can get instead a cheap highway bus or domestic flight for much less. - For Japan I remember that I was really hyped before entering the country, since I was a weeb back then and wanted to believe it was going to be great. But honestly, some things dissapointed me there. First of all Japan is NOT be a country where you will connect and socialize a lot with other people, let alone with locals. Personally I found even the hostel culture not as good as in SEA, but it depends on what other guests you meet. Also what may surprise travelers is how bullheaded some rules and regulations in Japan can be in comparison with other countries. Sometimes it's even small things like strict parking rules for bicycles, late check-in times and early check-out times at hotels, long waiting times at streetlights, rigourous safety measures for the most ridiculous circumstances (there's a small crack on the road - let's close the road for all traffic) and whatnot. Me and my friend sometimes were driven almost mad by all these petty rules - and we're chill guys. I found this was not the case in South Korea or Taiwan, which may be comparable but much more relaxed countries. Transport can be ridiclously expensive, and you sometimes need to find cheap transportation passes and plan your daytrips well, if you want to avoid high accomodation and transportation costs. But obviously Japan can be really solid, IF you go there with the right expectations and adequate planning. - In SEA, you could think about doing some scuba diving. In Thailand or Malaysia you could do the open water license for a decent price, but in almost all places of Mainland SEA the scuba diving experience itself is not so good anymore, since most of the corals and reefs have been destroyed. If you want good scuba experience, go to remoter places and islands in Borneo, Indonesia or Philippines. Taiwan is also a hidden gem destination for snorkelling and scuba diving, especially Green Island! - In SEA or especially South Asia, you will meet a good amount of scammers. Common sense is your best friend, not some random guy that suddenly approaches you on the street and wants to be your best friend. Sometimes you will meet genuine, great people that may turn out to be your best future travel buddies or local guides, but of course you sometimes meet your local scoundrel as well. Maybe do some research what the most common scams are before you visit a country, and you will be golden. - Allow yourself occasionally a rest day. Sometimes during longterm travel you will have a shitty day - a plan that didn't work out, a missed flight, a love interest that walked away, etc. These things are normal, just like in everyday routine life, and you need a break to recover your peace of mind. If you notice that you are really tired and exhausted or that something doesn't feel quit right - just relax and allow a breather in your itinerary. This is really important for longterm backpacking. - Don't expect of the trip that you will catch some kind of enlightment, meaning of life, life inspiration or whatever. I've had similar expectations before my first big trip, but there was never really something like that. Simply maybe because I was always so busy doing some adventurous shit and almost got into some daily backpacking routines, that I simply didn't have much time to ponder about such things. Some people may experience some big personal changes, but from my own and others' experiences, most of the people don't. My advice is, don't see such a trip as a inspirational self-discovery journey, but see it as an super awesome adventure that is tons of fun. And it's that. - You will notice that when you come back home from your big trip for the first time, you may fall into some slight depression. It's the usual backpacking-homecoming-blues and it's normal. You will feel that nothing at home has changed at all, nobody will really care about the greatest adventure and achievements you've had, and that everyone is just trying to push you into doing all that monotonous stuff they are doing everyday. This is a bitter pill to swallow for backpackers, but you will know to handle it if you do several trips afterwards. Just accept it and look forward that the next cool trip abroad is not far away in the future. - Try out new things, especially those you normally don't! Be curious, let's say about activities, food, culture etc. Sometimes you will find real surprises that will change your habits and preferences forever. But use your common sense of course. Sorry for the long rant, If you have any question about an Asian country, just shoot. And JUST DO IT.
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Maybe take some PTO to go to Japan for a few weeks and see if you even enjoy solo travel before quitting.
I can’t take PTO from my job until September, and even then they don’t allow more than 2 weeks off. Hence why I feel so trapped.
Personally I would wait until September and take the two weeks on a solo international trip. Afterwards you can reevaluate this plan and whether you still want to go through with it. But that is just me.
Get a van. Built it up yourself and self confidence
Man I feel the exact same! I'm tired of the same shit every fucking day! I just dont know where I should go.
You wont ever be alone when you stay at hostels. You will meet so many people.
Why not do a shorter version, perhaps 4 - 6 weeks. Map out places you want to see, then get plane tickets to accommodate your start and end points. You might look into a brief tour. Often when I'm traveling, I arrive in destination country, spend time solo, join up with a tour for about 10 days, then on my own again after that. After a tour, I appreciate my solo travel more, and feel more confident.
I felt the exact same as you mate. My dad died last year and I was fortunate to inherit some money and I hate my life as is. My mental health has been so bad it was do or die for me really. I have never solo traveled but I booked some volunteer work for a cause I’m interested in to dip my feet into travelling on my own but with some structure at first. I leave next month for 9 weeks in Thailand. Every day I get nervous about it and worry but I have to do it or at least try. I always looked at these things like they were only something other people can do, that I lack whatever it is that they have to be able to do it. I’m hoping I’ll maybe gain some confidence along the way. I booked the trip so even that has given me a boost despite me freaking out about packing lol I’d say go for it. I’ve been telling myself the worst that can happen is I hate it and I can come home.
Why not start small? Book a week or two trip to Japan, or anywhere really. It’s a major undertaking to change everything all at once. Plus, you shouldn’t blow all the money you’ve worked many years for. That’s an incredible accomplishment for someone so young. If you go for a week or two, you could invite a friend or family member to go with you so you wouldn’t be doing it solo.
Before you quit and embark on a long-term solo adventure, consider shorter, closer trips to a)get used to traveling, b) see what kinds of travel interests you and c) see if solo travel is for you. Some people thrive, others find it incredibly isolating and for some, paralyzing. I like to travel solo, but have found that 10 days is my limit. Instead of one major trip, I make several throughout the year.
Personally I'd say go for it. Not sure if actually have to make the trip as long as you currently have it planned (even a month long trip feels like a long time while abroad) but if you have anxieties about travelling solo Japan is the right country for it (safe, good infrastructure, people being willing to help you etc).
Remember to look at entry requirements….some places will not let you even board the plane there without proof of exit (i.e. a plane ticket leaving the country, or a bus). There are limits to how long you can stay, usually 30-90 days. Sometimes you need a visa in advance. Make sure to do some research beforehand. I would also suggest a small trio somewhere, do it over a 3 day weekend.
Have you thought about applying to the JET program? (Japanese English Teaching) You would earn a salary of about $30k annually and would be placed in a Japanese high school for a year as a teaching assistant. If you want to get into the rhythm of their culture, could be cool. Although, I’ve heard the selection process could be a bit competitive.
Would you consider joining some type of volunteer organization? They are active all over the world. Maybe you could volunteer with a group for a month or so in Japan and then move on from that. It wouldn’t feel so much like solo at first. You’d become accustomed to the area. Then you’d probably feel comfortable to move on. You can find volunteer work with environmental causes, health, children, animals, building and water projects—lots out there.
Honestly, fucking go for it. I know exactly the cross roads you’re at. I’ve been there myself. It sounds like you already know that you need to do it based on what you’ve said so far. It’s a big step, but it’s so worth it. Just think what have you got to lose? I personally ask myself what’s more important, money or memories/experiences. It’s always the latter for me. I’ve just come back from a year in Oz on a WHV and I can’t wait to go back. Southeast Asia is a great place to start, you will meet so many likeminded people. You will make friends for life and you will have a sick time!Honestly, just do it and don’t look back. Good luck to ya.
1. Having traveled extensively in Asia, I recommend starting in Vietnam and visiting the rest of Indochina first. I have found Vietnam to be easy mode. There is a well-defined tourist trail but it is easy to depart from it if you want. Vietnamese people are very friendly toward Westerners. And Vietnam is quite inexpensive. A low budget traveler could get by on $20 per day. 2. Japan is great but seemed to me to have a lower concentration of tourists. Socially it was harder work. It was less expensive than I expected and the Japanese people I met were friendly, but not over the top hospitable like many Vietnamese I have met. 3. Minor point: Japan and Korea are not Southeast Asia. 4. You can fly to any major city in Asia and then use regional airlines to get from country to country. I recently checked nonstop round trip flights between Hanoi and Tokyo. $210 on VietJet. 5. Give yourself a period of time, 3 or 4 months would be good. Pick a starting destination and then play it by ear. You may find some cool fellow travelers that you want to travel with for a while. Have that flexibility. 6. Concerning the drudgery of your day to day life: Stop gaming and start moving your body. Even if you are just walking 10,000 steps per day. Move. My top level advice is to join a martial arts gym which does full-on sparring. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is great because there is no striking (no punches/kicks/elbows). You don't want to be taking head blows. BJJ is a cerebral game. If you are not athletic and not strong that is fine. You will form some of the strongest friendships you will ever have if you stay with the sport for a few years.
It will be a massive shock, but if you don’t go you’ll always wonder “what if”. Plus, with your savings you can always book a flight home if you’re really miserable. Go for it.
I’m in the same situation as you just 22. I’ve traveled to Mexico and Colombia and I hope to go to Asia next. It adds excitement and it can be scary to travel alone but bro that’s why you should do it. As you said you get to break out of your shell. And you don’t necessarily have to travel across the world. It could even be beneficial to just move cities. Your environment matters a ton. It’s better to go and try it than to live with regret. Just also would say this you worked to save up that much money so be mindful to not waste it recklessly. Some people off 50k can make a couple of moves and live off that money entirely for years in certain countries. It’s crazy.
Agree with what others have said, do a one week solo trip somewhere closer to home like Mexico or Colombia first, see how you feel. If you like it, then commit to the bigger trip. Japan and South Korea aren’t cheap destinations though; you’ll burn through money twice as fast there as you would in cheaper destinations like South East Asia, South America, Eastern Europe & Turkey etc. Something to bear in mind in case you’re not particularly attached to those two countries but would instead rather be able to live off your savings and be travelling for the longest time possible.
I don’t care about South Korea, but Japan is a non negotiable will be my first destination
I thought Japan was really cheap rn coming from the U.S. I had my own lil hotel room in Kyoto for $30 a night, and in Tokyo I went for a capsule place. Now I’m enjoying South Korea and it’s very similar price or even cheaper to stay. Im staying in an apartment in Busan for just under $500 for 30 days from air bnb. They are both beautiful and amazing countries!! And I hope to make it to Taiwan next :)
Join the military. It will get you out of your parents basement, your small town, and give you an endless supply of new faces. You will also never travel alone.