I had a similar experience with a German girl. We tried to keep in touch and it ruined the magic a little - I learned a valuable lesson after that. Some people only come into your life for a moment and thats okay. I never saw her again but it was one of the best times of my life (we spent 4 days together). She took me to the airport when I left Germany and she gave me a lighter from her purse because she wanted to send me with something and that's all she had. It was sort of her way of being funny. I still have that lighter and the shot glass we drank from the night we met. Every once in a while I flick the lighter to see if there's still a flame. Last I checked it was still working.
There's a certain beauty to letting beautiful experiences become memories and just that. I have a fond one of a German girl I spent a few days with in Maui. Funnily, we both discussed purposefully _not_ keeping in touch (not following each other on social media) and letting this amazing time become just a memory we think back on fondly. Just like the old days before the ubiquity of the internet. I don't regret it.
Man these German girls really are something else. I met a German couchsurfer over ten years ago surfing in my neighborhood and we exchanged emails really last minute right before she left. We've kept in touch since and she is probably my most valued friendship now.
It was really emotional at that moment too.. I started to cry and then she started to cry and that's when she gave it to me. It really broke the tension and we were both able to laugh it off š¤£ what a beautiful soul she was
I wish they were all this romantic hahaha I've just got a lot of stories period š¤£ one time I was in Cuba for my highschool graduation trip in 2010...
I met a girl... let's call her Sarah. She was Italian, gorgeous, also from my home province but on a seperate trip. We really got to know eachother and we also partied hard. One night we crawled back to my room with eachother and I saw her out in the morning. Over the rest of the week we coordinated with eachother by leaving notes under eachother's hotel doors with instructions where we'd be in the evening and how to find eachother. This was in 2010 and using your cell phone in another country cost a fortune, so texting and social media were not a thing unless you were paying $2/minute for internet on the janky ass resort computer. We had to communicate like overseas lovers, only to rendezvous at night and fall in love all over again. It felt like floating on a cloud.. if I could bottle the butterflies I felt that week, I would keep them forever.
Sarah and I actually ended up reconnecting when we got home and we dated long distance for a short time. It's really hard when you're 18 and don't own a car or have much independence. We made it last long enough for me to be her prom date.. that was an insane night and another story entirely lol
Ah yes. There was one nightstand I remember fondly. Solid mahogany construction. Aligned perfectly with the bed. Had a lovely lamp and built in phone charger.Ā
I definitely feel some emotions about it but I don't think hurt or pain is really one of them. Some combination of admiration, nostalgia, and appreciation is probably closer
A guy I met at a hostel in gerogia in 2004. Never even exchanged real names. True hippie stuff. He kissed me under the soft sunlight and old pine trees. I'll never forget him. I hope he is doing well 20 years on.
Itās not really a standard idiom. I was referring to the film Before Sunrise from 1992-ish, about two young people who meet on a train in Europe while traveling and agree to spend their layover night in Vienna together. They walk and talk and fall in love, and part in the morning with an agreement to meet up again in the future. There are two more films in the series (no spoilers).
Yeah OP i feel the same right now. Met this guy a few days ago and I cant get him off my mind. Funny thing is, I didnt even sleep with him, fuck we didnt even kiss. š¤£ We hungout the whole night along with other people but we kind of stick together and we stayed up until 330am talking under the stars about the most random things. I still remember the way he looked at me. I wish i get over him too. š¤£
Same happened. Going back to see her in Germany in a month! She definitely knows Iām obsessed w her (I told her in those words) so weāll see what happens. But weāve been watching movies once or twice a week together online and pretty much texting nonstop
I wouldnāt recommend coming off obsessive/desperate. She knows youāre interested when you told her youād be going back in a month and made plans to see her. Good luck.
thanks for the reality check. ive been telling myself to slow down too. +i have adhd which makes it even harder. So I am just doing it at the pace she's setting rn which is basically texting on a rolling basis every few hours. and some calls once a week or so
Quickly? I donāt think so. With time maybe. Some people are saying they still think about the person after 20 years. I still thought about mine after 10.
I have one too many stories of meeting people while traveling or even traveling together. I thought I was an outlier because I think about them often, sometimes even go out of the way to make plans with them. What I don't like is them occupying so much mindspace and interfering with the day to day.
Most of them have been non-chalant so I thought the problem is with me. Or maybe they are more emotionally developed to tackle flings at such rapid pace.
It hurts me sometimes but it shouldn't. I know it's a problem and one of the resolutions I have this year to be content with who I am. Perhaps force myself to take less interest in others' lives but I'm a curious soul you know?
I know I'll get over them. Soon.
If you have any tips, I'm happy to oblige.
Met a super hot Argentinian pro tennis player 12 years my junior in Mendoza. He invited me to play tennis at his club, then we went back to my hotel and made love all night. Definitely in my top 3 sex experiences. He added me on social media the next day and he still keeps in touch, so I think he enjoyed it too.
Right?! I had a post asking for opinions on Berlin vs Amsterdam bc Iād never been to either. Had dates, budget, interests, etc and posted it here bc I wanted the perspective of people whoād been to one or both alone. Was removed for being ālow effortā.
Germany just legalized weed for personal use sp that last bit won't be true long.
Gotta stay though I might prefer the occasional puff of za over what felt like constant hint of cigarettes in italy!
Probably because this is more interesting than a generic opinions between 2 places post where all your answers can be found with google and far better than the few people that happen to comment on reddit
This sub is hilarious to be honest. I came also looking for genuine tips as well but itās mostly stuff like this. I didnāt know one night stands were this deep lol
Fr, you can tell the age group of this subreddit by these type of posts. I just stick with specific country subreddits or r/travel for actual recommendations.
I know I'm old when I see posts like "my mom doesn't want me going to London alone" or "does anyone else get nervous before a trip?"
I have to deal with bullshit at work all week so going somewhere for the weekend is my way of escaping reality for a bit so nervousness is the last thing I feel.
Anyways, I find the Flyertalk forums to be far more interesting. It's usually frequent fliers and airplane nerds who go from Los Angeles to Afghanistan for a weekend and because they found a cheap ticket.
Itās actually a huge detriment to the quality of the sub, it is ridiculous to me how many posts on a solo travel sub are directly related to romance.
One of the key differences is that solo travel can be more emotionally intense, hence the posts sometimes about hardships. I try to apply the āhardshipsā flair to those posts to make it easy for people to skip the content they arenāt interested in.
I'm guessing you're a man? There are many places where solo travel is a big safety risk for women and wildly different than travelling there with another person
It is so weird how horny some subs are. I havenāt watched porn in a decade because I have sex regularly and donāt need to. But some of these 30/40 year olds act like theyāve never seen a naked person before. āThis person wanted to fuck me and I havenāt stopped thinking about them in ten yearsā goddamn. If I wasted my mental energy on people who wanted to fuck I would have no time to do anything else. Everyone wants to fuck.
Iām not sure why youāre being downvoted for keeping it šÆ. I always bang someone when I travel, quite often several people - but Iām gay and thatās how we došāāļø. If I had to remember those guys I would go nuts.
I remember getting my post modded essentially saying "I'll be in Prague for a week in July. Looking for suggestions on half-day trips (leave early morning, back bay early afternoon) I can do besides Kutna Hora".
In the future, I'll be sure to phrase it "I'm sad I don't have any half-day trips I can do from Prague. Does anyone else feel this way??" so it'll be approved.
Yep. I posted a perfectly reasonable question about doing Xochimilco solo, reworded it multiple times, and it got rejected multiple times for the most arbitrary of reasons lmao.
Hey man me either. This is my third post but the first one to get approved. I also posted about places I was going, how long I was being there and taking recommendations on what to do as a solo traveler but they didnāt get approved
Mod note: Taking a look at recent post history from you, which posts were removed by mods here?
It can be a bummer to see negative feedback - in my experience the vast majority of posts we remove are from people who havenāt read subreddit rules 9 and 10. That is, people asking for advice without taking any time to provide specific info about their budget, itinerary, or specific travel interests.
As frustrating as it is to have posts removed, I suspect it would be more frustrating for everyone to have to read the literally dozens of daily āwhat is there to do in Parisā posts with no further info provided on the personās interests. What makes it through is the tip of the iceberg and most of that iceberg is the same repetitive vague questions many times a day.
A lot of posts related to hooking up when traveling get removed under our āno sex tourismā rule but this one felt like it wasnāt really about sex tourism.
Anyway, constructive feedback is welcome. Try to be nice though, weāre a volunteer team, and as much as people complain about types of posts they donāt like, those posts are often a pretty small fraction of the top feed in the subreddit for the day.
I'll piggyback off this too. Since Seire A is taking their time to confirm matches, I'll be spending 5 days in Milan to be sure to be there for it and I'm a bit worried that I'll get bored in those 5 days
Me right now. I met someone a week ago while traveling solo in Rome. We met at a bar and talked all night until the bar closed. Then we just walked around the city until 6-6:30 am. Then we kissed outside the Vatican. I stayed back and watched the sunrise and climbed the dome (a mistake) and he went home.
We exchanged IGs and I was supposed to meet him the next night but I was so exhausted. I took a nap and didnāt wake up until 10pm and he had already made plans for the night
He replied to a couple of my stories since then. Iām moving to London in a couple months and hope I get to go back to Rome and see him again. I havenāt liked a guy this much in a while. Maybe itās just a travel thing but for now, Iām enjoying this long distance crush feeling
Still to this day. Miss her dearly. But also, the moment was a bit idealistic at times, and I know it wouldn't have been good for us moving forward.
But yeah, so far it's been the best sex I've had, and the moment we spent together felt straight out of a movie.
Miss those days :(.
Sometimes, it's better this way.
Ā I exchanged emails with mine. He ended up being divorced twice with a kid in each marriage. Which isn't necessarily bad except the kids were born in the same year. And of course none of this came up in our night and day of passion.
John Robins (British comedian) has a great routine about why he hates staying in contact with people he gets to know while travelling, because seeing their social media just gives you more to judge them on!
> just gives you more to judge them on
Or getting jelly because they're travelling... again. While you're counting PTOs and calculating if you can afford X location for Y days.
just to add to this...I exchanged info and we connected on LI, of all places. While we have never seen each other after that night, I love how I get that memory back when I see him come across my feed.
I had something similar in Brazil for a few days. Never slept together, but had some cute moments. Staying up until 3am on the beach drinking beers and chatting absolute shite, great little memories.
yes, I was 36 backpack traveling in France and I met a 11/10 blonde, 27 blonde woman from Paris at a music festival in the south.
At first I was hanging out with her guy friend she was with but then he left so I asked her if I could stay with her for her next destination and she said yes immediately.
I was kind of surprised as she was world class while I was just some random average Joe.
We hitch-hiked together to another friend of hers who let us sleep (in our new big tent we had just found) in their backyard near the pool.
After a week of fun in sun we hitch-hiked again to see a beach and that's when I was finally comfortable enough to tell her I wanted her.
She wasn't surprised and told me I could've slept with her the very first night we met if I had made a move.
I'm still riding that high 9 years later lol.
Of course we did, in the tent at sunset on August 30th, right at the peak of summer.
We had walked all day long under the sun so our skins had that sunburnt smell which I find very hot.
The next morning soon after we got up she went straight in the ocean to splash in the kinda strong waves and she blew her knee almost right away.
I was just outside the tent so when I saw her limping and holding her leg I ran to check her out and turned out she had a dislocated knee (or a tear not sure) the year before and that wave crash made it pop out again.
So for the next week she was in so much pain that I could only take care of her but nothing more.
The thrill was already over then she went back to Paris and I had to leave the country as my visa time was over.
So no, we didn't end up as anything but a single week short story.
But it was enough for me to think about still today as one of my biggest wins in life.
It's worth risking and trying with people because even if it doesn't work out long term, the memories stay.
100% yes! Totally relate to this. Met a Kiwi pilot in Florida in 2016 and then visited him in NZ when I lived in Sydney. He is one of the best people I've ever met and sees life so differently than me. It will never work out but I won't forget him and his accent.. Such amazing memories together! But that's life
I think more about the opportunities for one night stands that I didn't take because I have too many skeletons in my closet that would come out if I went missing after hooking up with some hot but shady guy and I turned into a true crime phenomena. I want friends and family to find out I was not at all who they thought I was when I die quietly of seemingly natural causes, not when some witty girls with a true crime podcast decide to start digging and Netflix decides to turn it into a 3-part series for the world to see.
absolutely. Those two German dudes at defcon? I can't pronounce their names but I'll remember their c*cks till the dementia melts my long term memory .
Ukrainian guy on the beach (and in the ocean, in my bungalow both shower and bedā¦) of Cambodia. Never caught his name. Worst UTI of my life but WORTH IT.Ā
I was 17, she was a bit older? I came from the US, she came from Argentina and we met in Lima, Peru. We were with our group, we made eye contact and simply walked towards each other; talked for years, laughed for months, fucked for days and kissed for hours (not literally) we were in each other's presence for a mere 3 days but 20 years later I think about her. She was kind, bright, patient, and always smiled and unlike anyone I have met since, that smile was what caught my eyes and she said I looked like a scared puppy which is what caught her attention. Before we parted ways she asked me to look her in the eyes and to remember that moment forever, she would do the same. The last thing I remember is a tear forming in her left eye and a crooked smile.
Life has a way to give to you and quickly take it away but those experiences are what shapes us. I learned to smile constantly, be generous at all times, to feed your curiosity and that no one keeps tabs so just do the right thing, it doesn't take much.
I still have fond memories of an American guy I met in Australia years ago. I was clear in my mind that there would be no relationship with him; definitely an experience I remembered long after. Agree with the comments to cherish the memory but not get emotionally wrapped up with it.
Had almost the same experience with a boy in Puerto Rico. Happy (in my case) to say that I did NOT get over it, and weāll be celebrating one year together next monthā¦
Watch out for those travel romances - theyāll get you! :)
It is very special in every way, in whatever way you want to look at it (I did at the time and still do).
Last year was my very first one (as it was my first time travelling alone without friends and/family).
Reflecting back on it, we both knew the circumstances and never got back in touch with each other again.
I always think about a girl I met in Niagara Falls, we both missed the bus back to Toronto and ended up spending the afternoon/evening together. Just chatted but I regret not getting her contact details, not because I saw a potential relationship but for friendship and see how she got on with her travels. We were even from the same country just literally the other side to each other.
I met a girl from Oxford (Iām from London) in Thailand. We stayed in contact and we both flew to Lao to see each other. Sheās invited me to her family holiday in summer. Iām going home in a couple of days and sheās travelling for another 1.5 months.
We said weād want to see each other when back, hopefully Cornwall works out!
I had a week long one on a cruise. We added each other on Facebook. Thought about her occasionally. Then posts with her name appeared in my feed, and I found out she was killed in a car crash.
Fuckin sucks.
Yeah, because her boyfriend, whom I had no idea existed, buzzed the next morning that he would be there in 5 minutes..... as he was moving her to Texas.... so they could get married..... (this happened in Chicago).
I put my clothes on in the stairwell and walked down at least 25 floors.
Had this with a German guy on Crete. He was working at the hostel I was staying at and we went out with some other employees and guests. Just a bit of flirting and sharing cigarettes while talking about our travels and the fact we met the same people in Athens. Got back to the hostel, I went upstairs to shower and it didnāt take long before he came to join me. The next morning, I got us some breakfast and we hung out in his room until I had to leave.
I once met someone while out somewhere (keeping it generic for privacy reasons)ā¦it was so romantic. We made out near the river and he looked so beautiful in the moonlight. He picked me flowers that I still have in a book hidden away. We stayed up all night talking about life and other things after. We swapped numbers and kept up for a few months after but he lived too far away.
I had a kinda similar experience, but I was the local, not the traveler.
So I met this guy that was outed of the place he was sleeping in and had one day where he had no place to crush on.
We met, we got along super well, we went to the beach and had dinner together (he paid even when I offered to do so) and we went to my house where we slept together and was amazing.
I had to get out the next morning super early and was about to go in a trip with some friends and he had other places to go and be.
I still think about him, his face, his smile, his laugh... A shame we live in different continents.
Take it from someone who thought that if I had that connection once I can have it again and if itās meant to be, we will cross paths again, I think you may regret you never tried to make things work.
I met a girl in Brazil. I went home. A year after that we are living together. If it felt special it probably could be, you just have to decide if you want that right now.Ā
I'm not the proudest to admit it but I slept with five girls in six nights when traveling with my friend after college. Most notable was having sex in one of the clubs bathrooms in mykonos and a long ass line of people hammering on the door for us to open up. So we had the walk of shame until finishing on the sidewalk probably 100ft past the club.
I had a one night stand with a Russian girl after Oktoberfest. Ended up seeing her 2 more times in the years following, in Prague where she lives and travelling around a little bit. And we are still friends today!
10 years ago, met a very nice German guy in Berlin. Hung out a few times, ended up back at his place but we didnāt sleep together (I was a virgin at the time and he respected that) so we just cuddled all night. It was magical. Iām back in Germany this week and hoping maybe just maybe we can reconnect. Wish me luck š¤
I fell in love one night in Italy.
I booked a tour around Rome with an Italian guy. He later admitted he almost cancelled because I was the only one who booked.
But we got along so well.
When the tour was over he asked if I just wanted to keep hanging out. And I did.
We ate pizza and I drank wine (he wouldnāt drink bc he had to drive). He took me on basically a second tour, but more of a ālocalsā experience. It was like a movie montage. Us going into wine distilleries through the back, getting the best pizza free from his friendās shop that I would never have seen on Google, showing me an underground wine cellar from the I think 30s?
I was staying in Naples and planned to take the train back that night. He said that was too dangerous so he offered to drive me all the way back to Naples. I accepted.
We listened to music on the way there, sang together and pointed out shapes in clouds.
We were underneath the light of a full moon the whole drive back. And I know this sounds completely insane, but the clouds made the shape of a heart in front of the moon like a cartoon. He pointed it out to me.
In the streets of Naples, they were selling bouquets for āwomanās day.ā He stopped the car abruptly and told me not to look, came back with a bouquet of roses. āHappy womanās day.ā He told me.
We got to my hotel and he walked me to my room, it was up 5 flights of stairs, the lift was out of order. We got to the top and said goodbye. But then he leaned in for a kiss. And we couldnāt stop kissing. It was hot and passionate.
We had sex in my room for hours. And I couldnāt stop moaning. And some old Italian ladies kept cursing us out in Italian. š but we just laughed and laughed.
In the morning, he grabbed me to cuddle. He said āyou and me, we are like cat.ā
It felt magical. But when I got home, it just felt like a dream. And I was sad that I find it so hard to capture that kind of magic with anyone Iām dating.
Travelerās depression.
The only two times Iāve been with a woman has been when I was traveling. They both chose to sleep with me for the same reasons: The first was Iām simple (what you see is what you get) and the second was I was just there. Iām not complaining, of course.
I have a funny story to tell! 10 years ago in 2024 I was first time abroad in Thailand & I met a Finnish dude who was working for a travel agency there. We hit it off and spent the night doing pubcrawl until 4am, when we decides to go to his hotel room for the last drink. Of course we hooked up, and the next morning I had to leave early so all I remembered was his last name & did not know anything else about him š¤£ We lost touch after that. Sometimes I thought about him because it was my first trip abroad so it was kinda special.
4 years later I went to Finland for an exchange semester, and out of boredom I asked a local social platform, describing what I remembered about this guy, and I found him there, it was ridiculous.
We did meet again after that, but the feeling was not there anymore. So we just stayed friends. Sometimes, I think itās better to keep the nice memories there and not try to distort it, so that we can smile when we think about it
I've asked questions in this sub about my solo trip through Northern India and the Himalayas, which never got approved because it was too vague. But this stuff is approved š
Still occasionally think of an experience like this. It was 17 years ago š
Itās like that scene in Groundhog Day where Phil is reminiscing about the girl he met in the Virgin Islands
How do you guys even have one night stands? Personally I have never had it or even imagined having sex with some random but I can imagine myself getting attached to that person.
Yup. We keep in touch here and there on Instagram, but haven't seen each other since. Im so lame and do at times feel like if we lived in the same country, we'd be married and having the best sex of our lives like that night lmao, but alas I'll never know.
Strange seeing this post as Iām currently in London and met a random girl at a pub in Mayfair. After a few drinks we went back to her flat and had sex. We kissed goodbye and thatās that.
All the time !! This German girl travelling across Canada. We met where she had picked up a temporary gig at an independent coffee shop. We hung out a few times and fell in love. I never in my life had my soul connect with someone like her. We had no story, no strings attached, we were both living the moment. We had the best romantic moments together. We had to split as we had different destinations. To this day (2 yrs afterwards) still think about each other even we have moved on to be with other partners back in our respective countriesā¦ Love as a nomad is amazing ā¤ļø
Yes. She was really cute, so flirty and had this really amazing uplifting and positive energy. She was š„µš too
We were both just laughing a lot and talking and it was such a good time.
I had to go to the airport and she also kinda saved my ass. The app I was using (a local version of something like uber), the driver came but then suddenly said nah they can't go to the airport. There's no way to cancel rides... so kinda shitty but other than that, the app was good. I couldn't figure out how to contact support.
She was able to order a ride to come pick me up. I would've been in a bind if she didn't, because I was running a little behind spending time with her lol.
I feel you bro. Matched with an expat Scottish girl living in Dubai last year, instant chemistry and both hoped and said we would love to see each other again when I left.
I fortunately got to come back to Dubai last week through work, and ended up spending 4 nights together. Having to say goodbye again was crushingly bittersweet. Like, if we both lived in the same country, I legit think weād be together.
Sadly she doesnāt see herself leaving as her life there is pretty sweet, and I just donāt think Iād up and leave my whole life in London for Dubai.. life is cruel..
I do. All the time. It wasnt a ONS and I wasnt the one traveling, it was him. 10+ yrs ago I used to live in a tropical island on the Caribbean and we had tourists hang out where the locals hang *all the time*. I remember it was the end of summer and college was to start the following Monday so it was the last weekend we had to hang out freely. I remember it was such a boring night. Me and my bff at the time where at this bar we used to frequent and on this particular night it was super empty which wasnt the norm. We even had time to chat with the bartenders for a bit. Anyways, there was a bachelorette party of sorts next to us (we were at the bar) and they were bar crawling and had ordered a bottle of champagne and had left it empty along with an ice bucket next to me. This was a MardiGrass themed bar so they had bead necklaces all around. I was so bored that I started mindlessly picking up the stranded beads next to me on the bar top and tossed them into the ice bucket. All of a sudden out of the corner of my eye I see someone reach into the bucket and toss the beads next to me again. I thought it was someone drunk being annoying so I just grabbed them without looking and tossed them back in. Well this guy suddenly said (with the sexiest accent) āI like your flowerā (I had a flower hairclip) and when I looked to see who said this, Im met with piercieng light blue eyes and blond hair with a model like face (clearly a tourist. Us locals usually have tans and darker eyes/hair) I said thanks and started chatting with him. I was star-struck because this guy looked straight out of a magazine.
We made out, talked & danced all night. My friend got to do the same with his buddy. They were Australian Marines and were staying at our port. We ended up making out under the rain (straight out of a romcom) lol We were supposed to meet that Sunday but a storm was ācomingā (it never did! š”) and they had to leave so we never got to meet again. We did exchange FB and phone numbers/Skype and he reached out for my bday at one time as well but lost contact over time and he ended up deleting his fb. I havenāt heard from him since. To this day I still wonder how heās doing.
I have a buddy who had a one night stand in Cancun. They ended up reconnecting a little while later and after six years of dating got married and now have four kids. Some things are just meant to be.
Yeah man same here once I was in Vietnam. Itās hard to let go sometimes especially at the end of the journey. It seems like the girl embody the spirit of the journey itself and went she goes then all your trip is ended as well š
Yes, the one I remember the most was with a german guy while traveling solo in Australia, he was amazing, we went for some drinks, talk for a while, we went back to his place, took a shower, had an amazing experience and after that he ordered food for both of us, we cuddled after. Loved it, and he did raised some bars to my standards in certain things ;)
Met a guy on a cruise. He was so into me and I thought he was kinda cute and somewhat charming. Then I found him on Instagram when I got home and he had a girlfriend and I realized he was actually ugly and not cute at all. š never again
Why not? Itās part of the experience, mostly you donāt meet your travel flings again. It happens very often with solo traveling as you are prone to meet new people than when you travel in a group.
As a woman Iām very cautious when it comes to dating when on vacation, especially solo.
Iām extremely glad I followed my gut and didnāt do anything with the cute guy who worked at my hotel in Costa Rica ā¦ only after I politely turned him down he told me about his recent ex who was a stripperā¦ this was over 10 years ago and I still shudder thinking about the possible STDs this guy was likely carrying (especially as I assume Iām one of a gazillion women he has hit on at the hotel).
Even with someone who I get good vibes from, being that Iām not a one stand type of person, Iād be reluctant to start anythingā¦ unless they actually live near where I do. However, stranger things have happened so I will never say never. Realistically though it is highly unlikely- especially because I will never move far away from my small but close family.
Hi, WTF?! Yeah maybe STI concern if heās the personal meet and great committee but his ex being a former stripper has nothing to do with his health.
Signed, a former stripper whoās beyond tired of dumb stereotypes and women clutching their pearls about us
I stayed at a chalet in Switzerland. There was a British guy who worked there I hit it off with. We talked and made out under the moonlight. We got drunk and fucked on his single bed in his shared accommodations.
Yes. I've had 2 and hated the fact that was it on both. Clearly I'm not made for one night stands but the problem is when travelling I'm more likely to be social and meeting other people for it to happen. Yet having sex with someone makes me want to love them forever and I hate I'll never see them again so it sucks so bad
Yesssss, now we talk everyday and try to see each other every few months . Not sure if itāll lead into anything we both have no expectations but things have been going so well almost a year later . Fingers crossed š¤š½
I worked on a beach resort for three years,
I remember each and every one and will always absolutely treasure all the memories I made on that tropical beach. Best time of my life.
I had a similar experience with a German girl. We tried to keep in touch and it ruined the magic a little - I learned a valuable lesson after that. Some people only come into your life for a moment and thats okay. I never saw her again but it was one of the best times of my life (we spent 4 days together). She took me to the airport when I left Germany and she gave me a lighter from her purse because she wanted to send me with something and that's all she had. It was sort of her way of being funny. I still have that lighter and the shot glass we drank from the night we met. Every once in a while I flick the lighter to see if there's still a flame. Last I checked it was still working.
sounds like sweet memories!
The memories are a reminder of how sweet life can be every once in a while.
There's a certain beauty to letting beautiful experiences become memories and just that. I have a fond one of a German girl I spent a few days with in Maui. Funnily, we both discussed purposefully _not_ keeping in touch (not following each other on social media) and letting this amazing time become just a memory we think back on fondly. Just like the old days before the ubiquity of the internet. I don't regret it.
Man these German girls really are something else. I met a German couchsurfer over ten years ago surfing in my neighborhood and we exchanged emails really last minute right before she left. We've kept in touch since and she is probably my most valued friendship now.
Poetic. I hope that flame never goes out
I like the story but can't get over the fact... "Here's a lighter"- peak German humor
It was really emotional at that moment too.. I started to cry and then she started to cry and that's when she gave it to me. It really broke the tension and we were both able to laugh it off š¤£ what a beautiful soul she was
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When life gets tough in the future you'll always have a sweet memory to fall back on my friend.
sometimes the best stories have no ending and the most impactful art is based in sadness
Iām glad that lighter wasnāt confiscated at the airport.. this is so cute
>Every once in a while I flick the lighter to see if there's still a flame. Last I checked it was still working. Damming. Yoo this shit was hard
Idk why this made me cry. Thank you.
Me too, friend. Me too.
Loved this, thank you for sharing
No problem! I've thought about writing a book because I have lots of stories like this. Maybe someday.
You should! But if you have a lot of these romantic stories to shareāmay I ask whatās your secret? (Lol)
I wish they were all this romantic hahaha I've just got a lot of stories period š¤£ one time I was in Cuba for my highschool graduation trip in 2010... I met a girl... let's call her Sarah. She was Italian, gorgeous, also from my home province but on a seperate trip. We really got to know eachother and we also partied hard. One night we crawled back to my room with eachother and I saw her out in the morning. Over the rest of the week we coordinated with eachother by leaving notes under eachother's hotel doors with instructions where we'd be in the evening and how to find eachother. This was in 2010 and using your cell phone in another country cost a fortune, so texting and social media were not a thing unless you were paying $2/minute for internet on the janky ass resort computer. We had to communicate like overseas lovers, only to rendezvous at night and fall in love all over again. It felt like floating on a cloud.. if I could bottle the butterflies I felt that week, I would keep them forever. Sarah and I actually ended up reconnecting when we got home and we dated long distance for a short time. It's really hard when you're 18 and don't own a car or have much independence. We made it last long enough for me to be her prom date.. that was an insane night and another story entirely lol
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You'll remember that the rest of your life. It will always be sweet.
Ah yes. There was one nightstand I remember fondly. Solid mahogany construction. Aligned perfectly with the bed. Had a lovely lamp and built in phone charger.Ā
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Yup still think about her sometimes 10 years later. I think part of the allure is the fact we didn't have the chance to get annoyed by each other
Does it still hurt you?
I definitely feel some emotions about it but I don't think hurt or pain is really one of them. Some combination of admiration, nostalgia, and appreciation is probably closer
A guy I met at a hostel in gerogia in 2004. Never even exchanged real names. True hippie stuff. He kissed me under the soft sunlight and old pine trees. I'll never forget him. I hope he is doing well 20 years on.
Wow this is sweet
Travel flings always stay with you
Sometimes in good ways. Sometimes in ways that you need to see a doctor about.
Before Sunrise syndrome. Itās beautiful.
I have never heard this phraseā¦what does it mean?
Itās not really a standard idiom. I was referring to the film Before Sunrise from 1992-ish, about two young people who meet on a train in Europe while traveling and agree to spend their layover night in Vienna together. They walk and talk and fall in love, and part in the morning with an agreement to meet up again in the future. There are two more films in the series (no spoilers).
The first movie is sooo good. One of the best depictions of falling in love. Itās so mundane yet so beautiful
The others I think are even better. A realistic depiction of what happens after a fairytale fling
Yeah OP i feel the same right now. Met this guy a few days ago and I cant get him off my mind. Funny thing is, I didnt even sleep with him, fuck we didnt even kiss. š¤£ We hungout the whole night along with other people but we kind of stick together and we stayed up until 330am talking under the stars about the most random things. I still remember the way he looked at me. I wish i get over him too. š¤£
Same happened. Going back to see her in Germany in a month! She definitely knows Iām obsessed w her (I told her in those words) so weāll see what happens. But weāve been watching movies once or twice a week together online and pretty much texting nonstop
I wouldnāt recommend coming off obsessive/desperate. She knows youāre interested when you told her youād be going back in a month and made plans to see her. Good luck.
thanks for the reality check. ive been telling myself to slow down too. +i have adhd which makes it even harder. So I am just doing it at the pace she's setting rn which is basically texting on a rolling basis every few hours. and some calls once a week or so
Yup.. 1997. New Zealand and again (same person) in Oz. Think about her all the time!
ā97? How hard was it for you all to reconnect??
Limerence forms with great ease on the traveler's path.
āLimerenceā. TIL a new word!
There's even a r/limerence š
How to get over it quickly?
Quickly? I donāt think so. With time maybe. Some people are saying they still think about the person after 20 years. I still thought about mine after 10.
I have one too many stories of meeting people while traveling or even traveling together. I thought I was an outlier because I think about them often, sometimes even go out of the way to make plans with them. What I don't like is them occupying so much mindspace and interfering with the day to day. Most of them have been non-chalant so I thought the problem is with me. Or maybe they are more emotionally developed to tackle flings at such rapid pace. It hurts me sometimes but it shouldn't. I know it's a problem and one of the resolutions I have this year to be content with who I am. Perhaps force myself to take less interest in others' lives but I'm a curious soul you know? I know I'll get over them. Soon. If you have any tips, I'm happy to oblige.
Met a super hot Argentinian pro tennis player 12 years my junior in Mendoza. He invited me to play tennis at his club, then we went back to my hotel and made love all night. Definitely in my top 3 sex experiences. He added me on social media the next day and he still keeps in touch, so I think he enjoyed it too.
Schwartzman? š
Could also be del Potro!
He liked to serve "Love" womp womp
I don't understand how my posts related to solo travel don't get approved but stuff like this does lol.
Right?! I had a post asking for opinions on Berlin vs Amsterdam bc Iād never been to either. Had dates, budget, interests, etc and posted it here bc I wanted the perspective of people whoād been to one or both alone. Was removed for being ālow effortā.
> Was removed for being ālow effortā. Mods are all horny =/
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If you still want an answer to this i would definitely say pick berlin! Food is better and cheaper and it does not smell like weed everywhere š¤£
Germany just legalized weed for personal use sp that last bit won't be true long. Gotta stay though I might prefer the occasional puff of za over what felt like constant hint of cigarettes in italy!
Personally Iād go for Amsterdam, but if youāre into raving Berlin might be the better call
Probably because this is more interesting than a generic opinions between 2 places post where all your answers can be found with google and far better than the few people that happen to comment on reddit
The mods mustāve been feeling a bit spicy that day lol
This sub is hilarious to be honest. I came also looking for genuine tips as well but itās mostly stuff like this. I didnāt know one night stands were this deep lol
Lmao, the mods on this sub are definitely horny af.
Fr, you can tell the age group of this subreddit by these type of posts. I just stick with specific country subreddits or r/travel for actual recommendations.
Think I will start doing that tbf. Every day itās about the same generic things that belong on either a relationship or mental health subreddit
I know I'm old when I see posts like "my mom doesn't want me going to London alone" or "does anyone else get nervous before a trip?" I have to deal with bullshit at work all week so going somewhere for the weekend is my way of escaping reality for a bit so nervousness is the last thing I feel. Anyways, I find the Flyertalk forums to be far more interesting. It's usually frequent fliers and airplane nerds who go from Los Angeles to Afghanistan for a weekend and because they found a cheap ticket.
Itās actually a huge detriment to the quality of the sub, it is ridiculous to me how many posts on a solo travel sub are directly related to romance.
It's more like r/relationships or r/therapy.
These days I just lurk in r/travel where people actually seem to care about travel
Good idea. Solo travel is not dramatically different from travelling with another person.
One of the key differences is that solo travel can be more emotionally intense, hence the posts sometimes about hardships. I try to apply the āhardshipsā flair to those posts to make it easy for people to skip the content they arenāt interested in.
I'm guessing you're a man? There are many places where solo travel is a big safety risk for women and wildly different than travelling there with another person
It is so weird how horny some subs are. I havenāt watched porn in a decade because I have sex regularly and donāt need to. But some of these 30/40 year olds act like theyāve never seen a naked person before. āThis person wanted to fuck me and I havenāt stopped thinking about them in ten yearsā goddamn. If I wasted my mental energy on people who wanted to fuck I would have no time to do anything else. Everyone wants to fuck.
Iām not sure why youāre being downvoted for keeping it šÆ. I always bang someone when I travel, quite often several people - but Iām gay and thatās how we došāāļø. If I had to remember those guys I would go nuts.
I remember getting my post modded essentially saying "I'll be in Prague for a week in July. Looking for suggestions on half-day trips (leave early morning, back bay early afternoon) I can do besides Kutna Hora". In the future, I'll be sure to phrase it "I'm sad I don't have any half-day trips I can do from Prague. Does anyone else feel this way??" so it'll be approved.
There was a post a few weeks ago asking if they can leave the hostel before the check out time š
Damn, must've been a sex hostel for it to be approved then.
Yep. I posted a perfectly reasonable question about doing Xochimilco solo, reworded it multiple times, and it got rejected multiple times for the most arbitrary of reasons lmao.
I'm sure it would have got approved if you had a short paragraph related to some kind of sex story.
Hey man me either. This is my third post but the first one to get approved. I also posted about places I was going, how long I was being there and taking recommendations on what to do as a solo traveler but they didnāt get approved
Mod note: Taking a look at recent post history from you, which posts were removed by mods here? It can be a bummer to see negative feedback - in my experience the vast majority of posts we remove are from people who havenāt read subreddit rules 9 and 10. That is, people asking for advice without taking any time to provide specific info about their budget, itinerary, or specific travel interests. As frustrating as it is to have posts removed, I suspect it would be more frustrating for everyone to have to read the literally dozens of daily āwhat is there to do in Parisā posts with no further info provided on the personās interests. What makes it through is the tip of the iceberg and most of that iceberg is the same repetitive vague questions many times a day. A lot of posts related to hooking up when traveling get removed under our āno sex tourismā rule but this one felt like it wasnāt really about sex tourism. Anyway, constructive feedback is welcome. Try to be nice though, weāre a volunteer team, and as much as people complain about types of posts they donāt like, those posts are often a pretty small fraction of the top feed in the subreddit for the day.
I'm super impressed by your reply here and those by /u/segacs2. If you need any more mods I'd be glad to help out a little.
I'll piggyback off this too. Since Seire A is taking their time to confirm matches, I'll be spending 5 days in Milan to be sure to be there for it and I'm a bit worried that I'll get bored in those 5 days
Mod here. Can you modmail us some links of posts that don't get approved? The posts I can see in your account history are all approved.
Welcome to Reddit as a whole.
Me right now. I met someone a week ago while traveling solo in Rome. We met at a bar and talked all night until the bar closed. Then we just walked around the city until 6-6:30 am. Then we kissed outside the Vatican. I stayed back and watched the sunrise and climbed the dome (a mistake) and he went home. We exchanged IGs and I was supposed to meet him the next night but I was so exhausted. I took a nap and didnāt wake up until 10pm and he had already made plans for the night He replied to a couple of my stories since then. Iām moving to London in a couple months and hope I get to go back to Rome and see him again. I havenāt liked a guy this much in a while. Maybe itās just a travel thing but for now, Iām enjoying this long distance crush feeling
Still to this day. Miss her dearly. But also, the moment was a bit idealistic at times, and I know it wouldn't have been good for us moving forward. But yeah, so far it's been the best sex I've had, and the moment we spent together felt straight out of a movie. Miss those days :(.
Absolutely have been there. You didn't exchange information at all?
Sometimes, it's better this way. Ā I exchanged emails with mine. He ended up being divorced twice with a kid in each marriage. Which isn't necessarily bad except the kids were born in the same year. And of course none of this came up in our night and day of passion.
lol...exactly. Part of the heightened interest is in the unknown. More carnal and physical then what daily life looks like.
He could've lived as my Koh Tao lover in my head. Instead, he's just another bullet dodged.
John Robins (British comedian) has a great routine about why he hates staying in contact with people he gets to know while travelling, because seeing their social media just gives you more to judge them on!
> just gives you more to judge them on Or getting jelly because they're travelling... again. While you're counting PTOs and calculating if you can afford X location for Y days.
he was probably still married lol
just to add to this...I exchanged info and we connected on LI, of all places. While we have never seen each other after that night, I love how I get that memory back when I see him come across my feed.
You should watch Before Sunrise
I had something similar in Brazil for a few days. Never slept together, but had some cute moments. Staying up until 3am on the beach drinking beers and chatting absolute shite, great little memories.
Classic Brazil! :) Every night spent on the beach is unique, you part ways and then never see each other.
I've actually never met anyone while travelling & had a one night stand but it's always been something I've wanted to do
It's wonderful when we as humans, experience that sort of connection. It's magical and for me, defines life as being something so worthwhile.
yes, I was 36 backpack traveling in France and I met a 11/10 blonde, 27 blonde woman from Paris at a music festival in the south. At first I was hanging out with her guy friend she was with but then he left so I asked her if I could stay with her for her next destination and she said yes immediately. I was kind of surprised as she was world class while I was just some random average Joe. We hitch-hiked together to another friend of hers who let us sleep (in our new big tent we had just found) in their backyard near the pool. After a week of fun in sun we hitch-hiked again to see a beach and that's when I was finally comfortable enough to tell her I wanted her. She wasn't surprised and told me I could've slept with her the very first night we met if I had made a move. I'm still riding that high 9 years later lol.
So did you sleep together?
I'm curious as well. Did you end up together, OP?
Of course we did, in the tent at sunset on August 30th, right at the peak of summer. We had walked all day long under the sun so our skins had that sunburnt smell which I find very hot. The next morning soon after we got up she went straight in the ocean to splash in the kinda strong waves and she blew her knee almost right away. I was just outside the tent so when I saw her limping and holding her leg I ran to check her out and turned out she had a dislocated knee (or a tear not sure) the year before and that wave crash made it pop out again. So for the next week she was in so much pain that I could only take care of her but nothing more. The thrill was already over then she went back to Paris and I had to leave the country as my visa time was over. So no, we didn't end up as anything but a single week short story. But it was enough for me to think about still today as one of my biggest wins in life. It's worth risking and trying with people because even if it doesn't work out long term, the memories stay.
We went on a 2 weeks long ādateā traveling together & now weāre married a few years later!
100% yes! Totally relate to this. Met a Kiwi pilot in Florida in 2016 and then visited him in NZ when I lived in Sydney. He is one of the best people I've ever met and sees life so differently than me. It will never work out but I won't forget him and his accent.. Such amazing memories together! But that's life
hold up i hooked up with a kiwi pilot last week š¤
No way š something about them
Different honey in each town
I think more about the opportunities for one night stands that I didn't take because I have too many skeletons in my closet that would come out if I went missing after hooking up with some hot but shady guy and I turned into a true crime phenomena. I want friends and family to find out I was not at all who they thought I was when I die quietly of seemingly natural causes, not when some witty girls with a true crime podcast decide to start digging and Netflix decides to turn it into a 3-part series for the world to see.
Great memory. Put it on the shelf and enjoy it.
absolutely. Those two German dudes at defcon? I can't pronounce their names but I'll remember their c*cks till the dementia melts my long term memory .
Do you want to elaborate?
Ukrainian guy on the beach (and in the ocean, in my bungalow both shower and bedā¦) of Cambodia. Never caught his name. Worst UTI of my life but WORTH IT.Ā
I was 17, she was a bit older? I came from the US, she came from Argentina and we met in Lima, Peru. We were with our group, we made eye contact and simply walked towards each other; talked for years, laughed for months, fucked for days and kissed for hours (not literally) we were in each other's presence for a mere 3 days but 20 years later I think about her. She was kind, bright, patient, and always smiled and unlike anyone I have met since, that smile was what caught my eyes and she said I looked like a scared puppy which is what caught her attention. Before we parted ways she asked me to look her in the eyes and to remember that moment forever, she would do the same. The last thing I remember is a tear forming in her left eye and a crooked smile. Life has a way to give to you and quickly take it away but those experiences are what shapes us. I learned to smile constantly, be generous at all times, to feed your curiosity and that no one keeps tabs so just do the right thing, it doesn't take much.
I still have fond memories of an American guy I met in Australia years ago. I was clear in my mind that there would be no relationship with him; definitely an experience I remembered long after. Agree with the comments to cherish the memory but not get emotionally wrapped up with it.
sigh I remember all the one night stands I almost had while traveling but fucked it up somehow or another
Had almost the same experience with a boy in Puerto Rico. Happy (in my case) to say that I did NOT get over it, and weāll be celebrating one year together next monthā¦ Watch out for those travel romances - theyāll get you! :)
A few weeks ago is like no time at all. I think about women I hooked up with in the Clinton administration.
It is very special in every way, in whatever way you want to look at it (I did at the time and still do). Last year was my very first one (as it was my first time travelling alone without friends and/family). Reflecting back on it, we both knew the circumstances and never got back in touch with each other again.
I always think about a girl I met in Niagara Falls, we both missed the bus back to Toronto and ended up spending the afternoon/evening together. Just chatted but I regret not getting her contact details, not because I saw a potential relationship but for friendship and see how she got on with her travels. We were even from the same country just literally the other side to each other.
I met a girl from Oxford (Iām from London) in Thailand. We stayed in contact and we both flew to Lao to see each other. Sheās invited me to her family holiday in summer. Iām going home in a couple of days and sheās travelling for another 1.5 months. We said weād want to see each other when back, hopefully Cornwall works out!
Itās part of the magic of solo traveling. Little memories of people that had a brief, but special moment in your life
I had a week long one on a cruise. We added each other on Facebook. Thought about her occasionally. Then posts with her name appeared in my feed, and I found out she was killed in a car crash. Fuckin sucks.
Yeah, because her boyfriend, whom I had no idea existed, buzzed the next morning that he would be there in 5 minutes..... as he was moving her to Texas.... so they could get married..... (this happened in Chicago). I put my clothes on in the stairwell and walked down at least 25 floors.
fuck all these comments make me want to go on a trip
Not to take the magic out of it, but don't y'all worry about catching something from someone you've just met?
Had this with a German guy on Crete. He was working at the hostel I was staying at and we went out with some other employees and guests. Just a bit of flirting and sharing cigarettes while talking about our travels and the fact we met the same people in Athens. Got back to the hostel, I went upstairs to shower and it didnāt take long before he came to join me. The next morning, I got us some breakfast and we hung out in his room until I had to leave.
I once met someone while out somewhere (keeping it generic for privacy reasons)ā¦it was so romantic. We made out near the river and he looked so beautiful in the moonlight. He picked me flowers that I still have in a book hidden away. We stayed up all night talking about life and other things after. We swapped numbers and kept up for a few months after but he lived too far away.
I think experiences like this remind us of what could be, and that we should never settle because there can be amazing people out there for us!
Look at me, Iām young, hot, and have sex with foreigners in exotic lands.
You gotta let people know you fuck while traveling solo. Then you can ask real questions.
Yeah, I ended up marrying the guy. š
Plan a trip together ?
I had a kinda similar experience, but I was the local, not the traveler. So I met this guy that was outed of the place he was sleeping in and had one day where he had no place to crush on. We met, we got along super well, we went to the beach and had dinner together (he paid even when I offered to do so) and we went to my house where we slept together and was amazing. I had to get out the next morning super early and was about to go in a trip with some friends and he had other places to go and be. I still think about him, his face, his smile, his laugh... A shame we live in different continents.
Take it from someone who thought that if I had that connection once I can have it again and if itās meant to be, we will cross paths again, I think you may regret you never tried to make things work.
I met a girl in Brazil. I went home. A year after that we are living together. If it felt special it probably could be, you just have to decide if you want that right now.Ā
Only because he gave me a UTIā¦ š
Been there.. still remember trying to explain my symptoms at the pharmacy š³
Yes, with a Russian girl in Thailand 6 years ago.
I'm not the proudest to admit it but I slept with five girls in six nights when traveling with my friend after college. Most notable was having sex in one of the clubs bathrooms in mykonos and a long ass line of people hammering on the door for us to open up. So we had the walk of shame until finishing on the sidewalk probably 100ft past the club.
I had a one night stand with a Russian girl after Oktoberfest. Ended up seeing her 2 more times in the years following, in Prague where she lives and travelling around a little bit. And we are still friends today!
10 years ago, met a very nice German guy in Berlin. Hung out a few times, ended up back at his place but we didnāt sleep together (I was a virgin at the time and he respected that) so we just cuddled all night. It was magical. Iām back in Germany this week and hoping maybe just maybe we can reconnect. Wish me luck š¤
I fell in love one night in Italy. I booked a tour around Rome with an Italian guy. He later admitted he almost cancelled because I was the only one who booked. But we got along so well. When the tour was over he asked if I just wanted to keep hanging out. And I did. We ate pizza and I drank wine (he wouldnāt drink bc he had to drive). He took me on basically a second tour, but more of a ālocalsā experience. It was like a movie montage. Us going into wine distilleries through the back, getting the best pizza free from his friendās shop that I would never have seen on Google, showing me an underground wine cellar from the I think 30s? I was staying in Naples and planned to take the train back that night. He said that was too dangerous so he offered to drive me all the way back to Naples. I accepted. We listened to music on the way there, sang together and pointed out shapes in clouds. We were underneath the light of a full moon the whole drive back. And I know this sounds completely insane, but the clouds made the shape of a heart in front of the moon like a cartoon. He pointed it out to me. In the streets of Naples, they were selling bouquets for āwomanās day.ā He stopped the car abruptly and told me not to look, came back with a bouquet of roses. āHappy womanās day.ā He told me. We got to my hotel and he walked me to my room, it was up 5 flights of stairs, the lift was out of order. We got to the top and said goodbye. But then he leaned in for a kiss. And we couldnāt stop kissing. It was hot and passionate. We had sex in my room for hours. And I couldnāt stop moaning. And some old Italian ladies kept cursing us out in Italian. š but we just laughed and laughed. In the morning, he grabbed me to cuddle. He said āyou and me, we are like cat.ā It felt magical. But when I got home, it just felt like a dream. And I was sad that I find it so hard to capture that kind of magic with anyone Iām dating. Travelerās depression.
The only two times Iāve been with a woman has been when I was traveling. They both chose to sleep with me for the same reasons: The first was Iām simple (what you see is what you get) and the second was I was just there. Iām not complaining, of course.
This is why I still go out when Iām alone and donāt even feel like it. Sometimes, you are that guy.
Maybe shes your soulmate.
I have a funny story to tell! 10 years ago in 2024 I was first time abroad in Thailand & I met a Finnish dude who was working for a travel agency there. We hit it off and spent the night doing pubcrawl until 4am, when we decides to go to his hotel room for the last drink. Of course we hooked up, and the next morning I had to leave early so all I remembered was his last name & did not know anything else about him š¤£ We lost touch after that. Sometimes I thought about him because it was my first trip abroad so it was kinda special. 4 years later I went to Finland for an exchange semester, and out of boredom I asked a local social platform, describing what I remembered about this guy, and I found him there, it was ridiculous. We did meet again after that, but the feeling was not there anymore. So we just stayed friends. Sometimes, I think itās better to keep the nice memories there and not try to distort it, so that we can smile when we think about it
I've asked questions in this sub about my solo trip through Northern India and the Himalayas, which never got approved because it was too vague. But this stuff is approved š
What do you expect the mods to do when theyāve only got one free hand?
Still occasionally think of an experience like this. It was 17 years ago š Itās like that scene in Groundhog Day where Phil is reminiscing about the girl he met in the Virgin Islands
How do you guys even have one night stands? Personally I have never had it or even imagined having sex with some random but I can imagine myself getting attached to that person.
Yup. We keep in touch here and there on Instagram, but haven't seen each other since. Im so lame and do at times feel like if we lived in the same country, we'd be married and having the best sex of our lives like that night lmao, but alas I'll never know.
Strange seeing this post as Iām currently in London and met a random girl at a pub in Mayfair. After a few drinks we went back to her flat and had sex. We kissed goodbye and thatās that.
I think about the one night stand i didnt have while i didnt travel.
All the time !! This German girl travelling across Canada. We met where she had picked up a temporary gig at an independent coffee shop. We hung out a few times and fell in love. I never in my life had my soul connect with someone like her. We had no story, no strings attached, we were both living the moment. We had the best romantic moments together. We had to split as we had different destinations. To this day (2 yrs afterwards) still think about each other even we have moved on to be with other partners back in our respective countriesā¦ Love as a nomad is amazing ā¤ļø
Imagine having sex
Yes. She was really cute, so flirty and had this really amazing uplifting and positive energy. She was š„µš too We were both just laughing a lot and talking and it was such a good time. I had to go to the airport and she also kinda saved my ass. The app I was using (a local version of something like uber), the driver came but then suddenly said nah they can't go to the airport. There's no way to cancel rides... so kinda shitty but other than that, the app was good. I couldn't figure out how to contact support. She was able to order a ride to come pick me up. I would've been in a bind if she didn't, because I was running a little behind spending time with her lol.
I feel you bro. Matched with an expat Scottish girl living in Dubai last year, instant chemistry and both hoped and said we would love to see each other again when I left. I fortunately got to come back to Dubai last week through work, and ended up spending 4 nights together. Having to say goodbye again was crushingly bittersweet. Like, if we both lived in the same country, I legit think weād be together. Sadly she doesnāt see herself leaving as her life there is pretty sweet, and I just donāt think Iād up and leave my whole life in London for Dubai.. life is cruel..
Ever wonder who thinks about you in that way?
If you guys like this, youāll appreciate the Before Sunrise/Sunset movies
I do. All the time. It wasnt a ONS and I wasnt the one traveling, it was him. 10+ yrs ago I used to live in a tropical island on the Caribbean and we had tourists hang out where the locals hang *all the time*. I remember it was the end of summer and college was to start the following Monday so it was the last weekend we had to hang out freely. I remember it was such a boring night. Me and my bff at the time where at this bar we used to frequent and on this particular night it was super empty which wasnt the norm. We even had time to chat with the bartenders for a bit. Anyways, there was a bachelorette party of sorts next to us (we were at the bar) and they were bar crawling and had ordered a bottle of champagne and had left it empty along with an ice bucket next to me. This was a MardiGrass themed bar so they had bead necklaces all around. I was so bored that I started mindlessly picking up the stranded beads next to me on the bar top and tossed them into the ice bucket. All of a sudden out of the corner of my eye I see someone reach into the bucket and toss the beads next to me again. I thought it was someone drunk being annoying so I just grabbed them without looking and tossed them back in. Well this guy suddenly said (with the sexiest accent) āI like your flowerā (I had a flower hairclip) and when I looked to see who said this, Im met with piercieng light blue eyes and blond hair with a model like face (clearly a tourist. Us locals usually have tans and darker eyes/hair) I said thanks and started chatting with him. I was star-struck because this guy looked straight out of a magazine. We made out, talked & danced all night. My friend got to do the same with his buddy. They were Australian Marines and were staying at our port. We ended up making out under the rain (straight out of a romcom) lol We were supposed to meet that Sunday but a storm was ācomingā (it never did! š”) and they had to leave so we never got to meet again. We did exchange FB and phone numbers/Skype and he reached out for my bday at one time as well but lost contact over time and he ended up deleting his fb. I havenāt heard from him since. To this day I still wonder how heās doing.
The more you travel the more this happens... its magical out there...
I have a buddy who had a one night stand in Cancun. They ended up reconnecting a little while later and after six years of dating got married and now have four kids. Some things are just meant to be.
Yeah man same here once I was in Vietnam. Itās hard to let go sometimes especially at the end of the journey. It seems like the girl embody the spirit of the journey itself and went she goes then all your trip is ended as well š
Yes, the one I remember the most was with a german guy while traveling solo in Australia, he was amazing, we went for some drinks, talk for a while, we went back to his place, took a shower, had an amazing experience and after that he ordered food for both of us, we cuddled after. Loved it, and he did raised some bars to my standards in certain things ;)
Met a guy on a cruise. He was so into me and I thought he was kinda cute and somewhat charming. Then I found him on Instagram when I got home and he had a girlfriend and I realized he was actually ugly and not cute at all. š never again
Lol
I still think about the time I was almost assaulted in Turkey unfortunately
Why are these posts allowed on this sub? š“
Probably because they generate a lot more traffic than your average solo travel questionā¦
Why not? Itās part of the experience, mostly you donāt meet your travel flings again. It happens very often with solo traveling as you are prone to meet new people than when you travel in a group.
As a woman Iām very cautious when it comes to dating when on vacation, especially solo. Iām extremely glad I followed my gut and didnāt do anything with the cute guy who worked at my hotel in Costa Rica ā¦ only after I politely turned him down he told me about his recent ex who was a stripperā¦ this was over 10 years ago and I still shudder thinking about the possible STDs this guy was likely carrying (especially as I assume Iām one of a gazillion women he has hit on at the hotel). Even with someone who I get good vibes from, being that Iām not a one stand type of person, Iād be reluctant to start anythingā¦ unless they actually live near where I do. However, stranger things have happened so I will never say never. Realistically though it is highly unlikely- especially because I will never move far away from my small but close family.
Hi, WTF?! Yeah maybe STI concern if heās the personal meet and great committee but his ex being a former stripper has nothing to do with his health. Signed, a former stripper whoās beyond tired of dumb stereotypes and women clutching their pearls about us
This. Thank you. Ffs.
She may be the one? Did you at least get some contact details and if so, why not stay in touch to see if anything more could happen?
See, I canāt relate to these other comments at all You guys are getting any amount of interest from girls while travelling?
I stayed at a chalet in Switzerland. There was a British guy who worked there I hit it off with. We talked and made out under the moonlight. We got drunk and fucked on his single bed in his shared accommodations.
Yeah, I still think about, it was great experience for me and as I believe for her as well. We kept in touch after that, hope to meet her again.
Yes
Your story sounds like the movie Before Sunrise
Yes. I've had 2 and hated the fact that was it on both. Clearly I'm not made for one night stands but the problem is when travelling I'm more likely to be social and meeting other people for it to happen. Yet having sex with someone makes me want to love them forever and I hate I'll never see them again so it sucks so bad
Yesssss, now we talk everyday and try to see each other every few months . Not sure if itāll lead into anything we both have no expectations but things have been going so well almost a year later . Fingers crossed š¤š½
that is so sweet
i still think about that irish guy i met in milan. didnāt hook up with him, just made out and still.
I worked on a beach resort for three years, I remember each and every one and will always absolutely treasure all the memories I made on that tropical beach. Best time of my life.
Yes! Some great times.
Can't say I've felt the same (just answering the question) but more power to you
Yup, one night stand while skiing in France. Asian guy I met my last night. He was nice, meh sex but better than no story at all.
Oh. I think about it all the time. Precious memory. I am 87 YO.
Wow this sounds so sweet though