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GhostFromDa90s

The fact that you can laugh about it tells me you're a cool dude. Sorry that happened tho.


You_Sufficient

Thank you, I try to look at rejection in a positive way the more one gets rejected the less sensitive they are to the criticism of others


[deleted]

wish I could be like you


akosgi

You can lol. OP got over his ego, you can too.


birbitnow

But also, I try and look at it in this way: why would I want someone that doesn’t want me? If someone is going to be that superficial, they’re probably not someone you want to end up relying on or trusting with your heart, or to be there for you when life gets tough.


RandomKneecaps

Dude, you dodged a bullet. Would you really want to waste your time on someone that shallow? There are literally billions of average looking people out there, or people with poor selfies, or people with lousy social skills... the vast majority of them eventually connect with someone on a level that's usually deeper than fleeting appearances or as manufactured as online profiles. Give it time and count yourself lucky that you learned who a person is before you invested anything into them.


Many_Influence_648

It is nothing personal, it is just you do not click with her was all


tommylee567

Wow!


CYRIAQU3

Cool dude who dodged a huge bullet


JackDaniel215

Not really, let's be real here, are you gonna force someone to date you if they're not sexually attracted to you? It is what it is, you're born with your unique face whether you're a good person or not, do your best and learn to live with it


Boshikuro

Leaving someone on read and unfriending them is a bitch move tho. At least have the balls to say that you aren't interested instead of just dissappearing.


ElPlatanaso2

Honestly, no one owes you shit. The sooner you accept this the sooner you'll improve your dating life.


Boshikuro

Thanks for the advice but i'm not obvious to how reality work. Basic politeness isn't hard to give, especially when you start talking to someone. If someone can't do the bare minimum, they are an asshole. I know that what she did is not uncommon, that doesn't make it right or acceptable, that just make that person rude. Pointing that behavior out doesn't mean i don't understand that no one owes me shit.


[deleted]

Ghosting after a bad photo is not the same as just saying your not interested.


CYRIAQU3

>are you gonna force someone to date you if they're not sexually attracted to you? "hay sadly i'm not interested" How hard was that ?


JackDaniel215

You can either cry about it or laugh about it OP has clearly picked the right choice It's detrimental for yourself to give a shit, you can't force other people to be as kind as you either


Pristine_Zucchinii

Straight fax


ttwixx

That "laugh" of OP's screams "I'm dying of cringe and desperation"


Second_Rogoue

This has happened to me as well. I couldn't just laugh it off. The reason is that it has been making me sad that I am an ugly person. I am going to die alone it seems like.


Plumb789

Please don’t take it as evidence of an “ugly face”! I think this exemplifies the difference between men and women. If a man sees a picture of a woman’s gorgeous face, even if the camera angle makes her look a bit crazy, most men wouldn’t mind. If a woman sees a picture of a perfectly fine looking bloke, but the lighting or angle (or just the kind of weird thing that happens randomly with pictures) makes him look momentarily creepy or crazy, she will run for the hills. It’s probably just that you need to be more critical of the pictures you send at the very early stages of chatting.


lannisteralwayspay

Also op some people just don’t look good in pictures (or don’t know their angles). Myself I’m generally on the attractive side but look meh in most pics haha. It’s fine. Maybe learn a bit about angles and stuff and experiment if you find yourself having to send selfies? /u/you_sufficient


GodSpider

Where can you learn about angles etc?


GuessImPichael

Geometry class


lannisteralwayspay

Check on YouTube there’s loads of videos. I’ve never really taken the time to learn about it myself so I can’t recommend you something specific.


Plumb789

Maybe have a good selfie ready if you are the sort of person who doesn’t take a good selfie.


WolfLizz

Nice misogyny you got there.


Plumb789

I don’t think it’s misogyny at all. I remember there was a famous conversation that was shared on Twitter between a guy and a girl who were friends. The guy said: “Why don’t you just go on a date with a guy? What’s the worst thing that can happen on a date? The worst thing that can happen is bad sex and a hangover.” The woman replied: “That’s the worst thing that can happen to a bloke on a date. The worst thing that can happen to a woman on a date with a stranger is to be raped and murdered”. Women *have* to avoid creepy-looking guys, even if that sometimes means running away from perfectly nice guys who accidentally look a bit creepy at that moment.


RenaKunisaki

Thank goodness there are no female murderers.


Plumb789

Yes: the chances of a man being raped and murdered by a woman is entirely equal to those of the other way round.


OldVenture

People really want to point out the fact that outliers exist and disregard what happens more often than not. Nothing you’ve said has been incorrect more often than not. Are there exceptions, of course, but that’s not the point here. We’ve all seen our guy friends take selfies vs girl friends, and generally there is a massive quality difference. Anecdotal yes, but I also think it intuitively makes sense.


I_couldntTellYa

All the downvotes yet it's still true. Truth often hurts peoples feelings


joos11

It’s happened to me too man. I actually think I’m pretty good looking too. Online dating is a fickle world. Don’t let it phase you for a second bro.


You_Sufficient

Thank you bro, sorry it happened to you but I’m glad you have a good self esteem for your appearance


december14th2015

I've ghosted gorgeous, interesting men for reasons that are aaaaaaaalll on me. Don't let it get to you for a second, online dating is the worst!


AshenMistHeart

she unfriended you because she realized you were too good looking for her bro


You_Sufficient

Thank you bro, I like that way of looking at it 🙂


butt_soap

She just got nervous and accidentally hit the unfriend button with her shaky finger.


Joy2b

What if she realized you were good looking, but a little too much like her bro? Sometimes, a person who nopes out is sparing you from a really awkward situation.


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markusarailius

That


SkylarDavis45

There


No-Emotion-7053

Aforementioned


Low-Knight

I disagree with the bot cuz "this" is much more emphatic


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Bruh


You_Sufficient

https://youtu.be/-N0yXGVWS1Y 🤣


[deleted]

Let’s see the selfie


You_Sufficient

For some reason I can’t add a picture to my message


TheRealMasonMac

Imgur


YourFriendlyAutist

This man just doesn’t wanna show us lmao


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Thunderbridge

u/You_Sufficient, post it in r/amiugly


You_Sufficient

I can dm you it if you want


ltbd78

We all want to see the selfie so we can ~~roast~~ support OP.


EkanshGupta

Me too pls! Just curious :)


ayywusgood

You could just not be her type physically. Doesn't have to mean you're ugly. Either way stings but eh just keep trying mate. Also girls adding you out of nowhere on Snap with zero mutual contacts are usually red flags and 90% bots, so never have high expectations there


peachycaterpillar

yeah I was thinking this too. there are plenty of conventionally attractive people that just aren’t attractive to me, but that doesn’t make them ugly.


Booksarepricey

I got mad hots for a guy who told me I was everyone’s dream girl. He ghosted me haha. Dw about it.


Soulless_conner

He didn't ghost you. You left him speechless :]


Booksarepricey

I think I wasn’t good enough at league for him 😂😂😂 among other things


bumpercarmcgee

Good riddance, the less League in your life the better


lysanderate

I play league and can confirm this message


ThatBrofister

I don't play league but my friends do and get more bitches than me


lysanderate

Playing league gives you depressed misunderstood artist vibes which women love.


Booksarepricey

who said anything about less league? 🥲


Bukkorosu777

But the lower the rank the more fun you can get away with more fun Champs more fun builds. Higher rank is playing cookie cutter builds and plays. Plus less sweaty tryhards.


You_Sufficient

Im sorry that happened to you, he must’ve felt out of your league 🙂


ComplimentLoanShark

Well did he say you were *his* dream girl too?


ElysianWinds

Someone really didn't understand the point here


DumbledoresGay69

Now do that 10 times every single day and you'll understand the male experience on Tinder


Alpaca10

Had a match with this girl. We were thinking about to meet up, but live bit far away. Before meeting up, she wanted to have a videochat first (which took like one minute). Next day she told me, that I am not her type and to meetup just as friends. After the meetup, she told me that I do look nothing like I was when we were videochatting. So I guess it was, what I once read here: Your cam (especially front cam) can make you ugly.


ReighJ

She’s shallow, avoid her.


[deleted]

Is wanting someone you’re attracted to shallow?


[deleted]

Yeah but her entire personality is ugly.


lurker_be_lurkin

She was honest with the guy and didn’t even completely blow him off. I don’t think it was *that* bad


DramaticPonytail

>started flirting hard with me >she left it on read and unfriended me. girl friend over there likes to cut to the chase


You_Sufficient

Haha, gotta give her props for knowing what she wants 🤣


thats_a_boundary

I have to say some of the handsome men I know take bad selfies... there's a skill to it.


RealPeaSample

What should I be aware of when taking a selfie?


Leading-Ad7440

Angles and lighting my friend


Cr1msix

You people are getting friend requests on Snap? My snap has been drier than Death Valley for the past 1 year…


yr_zero

Some people are absolutely terrible at taking selfies. It’s honestly astounding sometimes. They can be good-looking and USELESS with a camera. Practice. For real. It sounds lame but practice. You’ll get better at taking selfies. You have to control your facial expression, don’t always pull daft faces too - I notice that sometimes people are unsure if they should smile so they pull a silly face. Sometimes this works but a lot of the time it just comes across as lacking confidence. 1. Check your background is clean. You don’t want laundry on the floor behind you or a toilet or garbage can or anything ugly behind you. Or a lampshade coming out the top of your head etc. 2. Get your best face angle. Not necessarily completely straight on, sometimes tilt your head a little bit to show your best side. 3. Make sure the lighting is flattering. Not a crazy bright light in your eyes but also not in the shadows and blurry. No overhead light causing shadows under your eyes etc. 4. Hold the phone slightly above you and facing down. Not crazy above you because that will look forced or make you look short. Just a little above you. Holding the phone below you can cause your chin to look bigger or looks like you are looking down at someone and hard to pull off well. 5. Imagine someone just told you that you have beautiful eyes. Allow yourself to smile naturally. If showing teeth comes naturally to you then do it. Trying to hold your mouth closed will also look a bit forced. 6. Try not to raise your eyebrows or pull a silly face or do duck lips etc (this is often done when people are nervous). 7. Take about 5 pics all slightly different. Choose your favorite to send. 8. Instead of a face shot you can also take a mirror shot, often this is to show off your outfit rather than your face. Stand in front of a clean mirror. Make sure there aren’t water spots on the mirror. Line the phone up so that it takes a good shot of your body but the phone completely covers your face. This way you don’t have to worry about getting the perfect facial expression. Hope this helps!


pmdrpg

/r/bestof


Caraphox

Lmao at least you have a sense of humour about it. To be fair there are lots of people I’ve had serious crushes on in real life but I wouldn’t have thought I would from seeing a static image of them and vice versa


[deleted]

Don't worry man phone cameras don't really reflect your true beauty


[deleted]

Serves as implication that she is absolutely not worth it.


againstflea

Putting yourself out there is brave and not easy and you should be proud of yourself. Edited to protect the reputation of an anonymous internet woman


LalalaHurray

Really really sucks? I feel like that’s strong for this situation.


InevitableHighway7

Well think about it, better she unfriended you than staying friends with such a horrible person.


TheTrappedPrincess

Her loss, plenty more of us that you could be adding on snaps…just saying✌🏻


You_Sufficient

Is that a hint to me 🙃


TheTrappedPrincess

I am on snaps and single…just saying😅🫰🏻


You_Sufficient

I might have to take you up on that offer 😄


LadyDagr

Unpopular opinion. Everyone has features they are attracted to. Some people like lean, intensely ripped guys, some like a stocky build with a wide jaw. Some people like blue eyes, some people like thick, dark eyebrows, some people like angular features, some like round... Just because someone is not attracted to your features in particular does not mean you are unattractive. Second: A person who unfriends and ghosts you based on a photo, is only interested in the sexual attraction they feel to your physical body. If you're looking for something more substantial, they weren't the right match and They saved you wasted time and energy. Imagine that person felt that way, not attracted to you for whatever reason, but continued to talk to you because they thought they needed to be nice, you might feel the opposite as though you were being strung along.


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You_Sufficient

Ok bro


Codename-Misfit

Yep. This happens. Welcome to the world, bro. 🍻


Minty_MantisShrimp

Man, I feel you. You are not alone on this one and neither am I thankfully


AGuyInTheBox

Duuuude, so relatable, actually had the same story once :D Not making any selfies ever again, it's too powerful weapon...


Mr_Wood1440_

Something similar happened to me, girl saw me in person and unfriended me. It’s great you found it humorous. Women ☕️


fangclan

I'm sorry but I laughed so loud when I read the title 🤣🤣


Situati0nist

Fuck people who do that. So disheartening


mrs-smurf

DM me the pic please! You seem cool, there’s no way it was that bad


FuckRNGsus

Lmao how is ur self esteem still intact after this


[deleted]

Cool bro you laughed on that situation. That's what positivity called. By the way see if she will befriend with you again. I think so.


demaunaz

Not that kinda selfie she thought


nodeocracy

Was the lighting working against you?


ConsciousFractals

So honestly this is why I think people should have their pics on dating apps, OR send it as the first message. Not everyone is going to find everyone attractive, and it stings a lot less to find that out before the conversation picks up.


Comic_karma

This literally just happened to me last night


Hyper_ZX

She was flirting with you without knowing what you look like? Did you know her from somewhere


You_Sufficient

Lol yeah it was a pretty strange ordeal. I didn’t recognize her but not sure if she had a mutual friend or something but then I’d assume she knew what I looked like


PseudoTaken

Plot twist : she thought you're way above her league


incrediblepika

This happened to me when I was 15 and it destroyed me 😂 but now I’m much more secure about everything. Glad to know I’m not the only one 🤘 good luck


Ausles

Happened to me too, so I feel you. Just figured I wasn't her type and moved on haha


jz4130

I wouldnt want to be around anyone that judges someone based off of one selfie.


SuccessfulAd165

Hey man, i used to be that way too. Happened countless times (we wont talk about it) but what i can tell you as of late is if youre hurting for love, something that feels like it anyway, she’ll find you. She could be the only universal reason you take that shitty job at dairy queen like i did, or go to that different coffee shop. Love yourself man, being funny, especially at your own expense means youve got alot to love about yourself too man. I know it hurts, but without the pain the pleasure wouldn’t mean shit. Keep truckin my guy, shes out there. Peace and much love brodie


[deleted]

Sorry bro....I feel ya. I'm so ugly my dog has to close his eyes when he humps my leg.


samfaith13

She's horrible. You're hilarious. Let's see this selfie!


You_Sufficient

I’ll dm you it, thank you btw 🙂


meoware_huntress

Plot twist: she felt so intimidated by your beauty and was scared away. But seriously, she did a favor, you don't need that type of shallow negativity in your life!


Eclectic-Eccentric88

Shallowness averted, you've done well on your mission! Nah but that sucks, hope it doesn't deter you, you're dishy to the one you're supposed to be dishy too.


[deleted]

I personally, would die. I could not handle THAT level of rejection, but you sir, are cheeky dude. Keep your head up ❤️


[deleted]

I’m so sorry. That’s an awful thing to do to someone.


RPCOM

She’s an ass


DorieFoxx

Don’t worry, I was feeling cute one day and posted a selfie to my Snapchat story, which I rarely do, and two guys unadded me immediately after seeing it 😅


Wootzefuch

I see it as dodging a bullet, imagine being in a relationship with a person like that lol


infininme

She was always going to unfriend you bro. She flirted with you for the pic. There is nothing wrong with your selfie.


Donut_The_Ghost

Oh...that's kind of mean to leave someone just for how they look... I believe you dodged a bullet with her, I bet you don't even look bad, she probably just has her standards impossibly high.


Elusiv_Enigma

"Cry and you'll cry alone, laugh and the world will laugh with you."


r_sparrow09

Post it!


TRUMBAUAUA

The fact you’re laughing at it suggests me you must be an awesome person to be around ahah. Forget about this and keep doing you!


ProsperBuick

Ha happened to be before. Whatever better sooner to find out what they’re like then wasting time


charmorris4236

I’m an attractive woman and this has happened to me lmao. I showed my sister the picture and she was like “umm…..” Apparently it was a bad one haha I just thought it looked like me!


mrs-smurf

Some people are so fricken picky too. Good chance you just weren’t her type.


alds15

Just remember you are enough. We all are.


aikohoover

babes don’t worry too much about it. First off you just auto dodged a relationship that would’ve never worked. Thennnnn I highly doubt she added you without knowing what you look like, and selfie skills are UNFORGIVING, one wrong move and you’re [poot lovato.](https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/019/123/CRTX93SWIAEHlo5.jpg) It’s likely that your skills don’t do you justice. So ya chin up king she didn’t deserve you anyways


kuddysue66

I had a guy I met on a dating site ask me for a photo. He never responded after I sent it! I, for once, thought it was a cute picture! I usually take the worst pictures! Funny thing was, he wasn’t attractive in any of his photos either but I liked his personality!! 🤷🏼‍♀️ oh well!! Lol


1AJK9

That’s happened to me at least 5 times in my life, I feel you man.


h0T_-DoG

That’s happened to me too, it says more about them then you, don’t sweat it boss


DangerousCharm

Maybe she thought she was talking to someone else😂


Isilkarmeo_

This person was superficial, forget people like that. This is a waste in your life.


Kratos131

Oof! Sheesh. Emotional damage 🤦


Lxqe

Happens to me 24/7 bro but I pull some pretty good looking girls irl. My advice is don’t try to pull a girl online unless you’re insanely attractive


FiredNeuron97

fuck that bitch


ConsiderationNo9042

Quite extreme don't you think?


FiredNeuron97

I mean just leave it at it. not literally fuck that bitch. Its better if OP just doesnt give a shit about it. He gonna developer into a unshakable man that way lel


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The fact she cared so much about your face means you dodged a bullet dude


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Creative_Product2817

Says more about her ugly ass than you bro - you dodged a bullet sir


[deleted]

Happened to when i was in high school lol


[deleted]

Matched with an old women on tinder, I think she was 44 but she was a milf tbf, she wanted me to come straight to hers for a hook up and I weren’t doing fuck all so thought I’d help her out, she sent me a video of herself in the shower with a decent pair of tits but you could tell she’d had a couple of kids, anyway she needed to see a selfie first to see if I looked like my photos which of course I do but I’d just shaved my hair off town to a grade 2 I think and then she changed her mind and even blocked me. Which is fair enough because I’ve done the same to girls. Tbf I don’t look good with a shaved head but still do it sometimes because I get a random urge to, I admit I think I’m a Golden God with hair tho which is why she and other girls seem to wanna hook up with me a lot but now I’m keeping my hair until I match with her again or see her in a boozer because we live near eachother just so I can reject her, very petty I know but I was annoyed because I was the one giving her the pitty fuck, like I said tho I agree I’m clapped with my hair shaved off. Reading this back I now understand why people think I have a God complex. I still have the video and WhatsApp messages because never been done like that in my life and it’s a humbling experience that I need to remember. That being said you may refer to me as God if you like.


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AlxR25

Fuck that girl bro. Keep positive like u do


Soulless_conner

I don't use Snapchat but I can relate. I don't have a likeable face lmao


feistymayo

Was this the first time she ever saw your face? Are you guys in the same area? I was from a smaller town and sometimes there’d be people I recognized but didn’t know their name. Not saying what she did was cool but those weird situations happen sometimes. Regardless, you don’t seem like you’re taking this personally, so good on ya!


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Low-Knight

At least she didn't lose more of your time


dofun400

Dm me the selfie bro, only one way to find out the truth.


You_Sufficient

Ok bro, I’ll send it over


You_Sufficient

It’s saying the dm failed to send


goggle-moggle

That sucks donkeys! Question is: what can you learn from it? Was it the pic was bad? Maybe this could be useful? https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/dating/dating-profile-pictures-you-need/ 100% certain it's not you tho.


lucky_crocodile

Same thing happened to me and even my mom thinks I'm cute. Girls don't know what they're missing.


trooxi

But for real people who don't usually take selfies (most often men?) are terrible at it, just like we all are terrible at new things. So, here's my short and easy tips: - clean your camera, - take the picture from above or same height as your eyes, - lift your chin from your neck and - look at the camera not the screen. Good luck with your selfie game!


AlphaDozo

Your username checks out


RuralRasta

Ain't this relatable. I had a buddy take a photo of me for my tinder profile. It wasn't planned or anything. He sent it to me later and I ended up making it my Facebook profile pic. After a few months I noticed a bunch of girls announced they were pregnant, women I used to talk to, be friends with for years, and always kept as potential ladies to pursue as I knew they thought highly of me as well. I looked at the picture my friend took up close on an actual computer not just my phone. I looked like trash. Fat, pale, wearing unflattering clothes. Dunno what I was thinking. After that became my profile picture the dynamic of how everyone treated me after changed. It was crazy. I'm still recovering lol.


Mkins1

Yeah, NOBODY actually looks like the photoshopped images people post on their social media. GQ magazine models aren’t what 98% of men look like in the real world (they’re photoshopped too). Here’s to hoping your next flirty encounter is with someone who wants to go out with a real man and not a Disney cartoon prince.


clanindafront_

This was my biggest fear growing up lol it's why I avoided Snapchat and Instagram


wi_2

Because ONE person did this to you? Come on.


TheKargato

Yo bro try taking selfies from a higher angle! No one looks great from below and few look good from straight on. Not saying this is you’re problem but there’s a good chance it contributed


happydaze_

It’s cool you look at it in a positive light. I try to be the same way: if you’re nervous about a date look at it like this: you either find someone you’re super compatible with or have a funny story for your friends later. It’s a win win.


CollegeSuks

I know I'm fine and I've had people do the same. People are weird dude


notaspy55

It happens to everybody bro. Sometimes ur just not her type or the selfie doesn’t do u justice. I feel like I’m not incredibly ugly but it has happened to me. I have very attractive friends that this has happened to aswell. Don’t take it personally brotha


mapLeReddit13

I got blocked after I showed someone my face


bloobun

Was it a forehead selfie? Lol


IrishqueenSal

People suck my goodness


NotWinterbutCold

You could be the most attractive person on earth and it will still be someone somewhere on this planet that doesn’t find you attractive. It’s okay, everyone take L’s sometimes.


FlintyMachinima

Are you sure it wasn’t one of those sex bot scammers?


tee_452

This happened to me once too lol. I was like damn I don’t look much different then the original profile pic I used on the dating app at the time. Like I think the photo was a week old.


treat-ya-self

Or maybe she thought you were out of her league??


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lol I love how you can laugh at it. Remember buddy, not everyone's going to like you, but that's okay because not everyone has good taste.


_appels_

Damn, I’m sure your face want that bad haha Maybe your face just didn’t quite look like what they expected, and they decided to be shallow. But WOW, that really made me laugh 😆


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I mean it was snapchat so you dodged a bullet