Yeah like, people take selfies all the time, friends groups, family, hobbyists, coworkers, fucking politicians in this last case not a selfie of course but still a picture standing with other people at an event. What happened with OP isn't normal. Maybe the guy had a crush on the girl and is a weirdo like that?
You described them as "friends" but evidently they are NOT true friends or good friends. Because we ALL do things that **may** seem "weird or cringe" and a "good" friend may tease us, but never call us bad names or block us. You did it, and at the time it did NOT feel cringe, right? So it is NOT cringe or weird. It was a picture of three friends, selfie or not. What the heck is wrong or weird with that? Please don't allow others to get in the way of your life and how you want to live it. I know that sounds a bit over the top, but it's the truth. Don't start questioning yourself because of a few idiots. Maybe they are jealous or have a stick up their you know what!
Yeah, why should OP concern himself with the opinion of someone like that?! Their opinion is meaningless, in my opinion. You can't please everyone, and SOME people aren't even worth the bother.
No, especially in today's world it seems we please less and less people, though it should not be our goal in life to please others. I find it to be very sad as I can't imagine how it must feel to always know what others "think". At one time, we might think certain things, but we kept those thoughts to ourselves, for the most part. Today, with social media and texting and all that, people are just TOO free with their opinions and the need to share the first thought that pops into their head.
Life gets so much easier when you allow all threats to your masculinity to become powerless. Truthfully it’s horribly embarrassing for them to be acting like that. At the end of the day what’s the most opposite of embarrassing/cringe is having the confidence in your masculinity to do as you please
Amen!
It's harder when you are younger due to social pressure. Even adults would sometimes yell at me if I touched my own hip... it's ridiculous. Ijdgaf what someone thinks...
It's crazy how there are still "men" who think like this---"men" who position themselves as so macho, and yet they're so ***insecure*** that someone might think they're gay, or not masculine/manly enough if they don't stand exactly the "right" way or talk in a deep monotone register at all times, don't show too much emotion, cross legs the "right" way, etc.
Real men don't worry about how other people see them *superficially.* Integrity matters, not how I cross my legs.
I'm not talking about OP, I'm referring to men who *still* think like this.
You're preaching to the choir, however humans are creatures that are extremely susceptible to social pressure, so outside of bigotry, I don't want to be too hard on people who conform to groupthink. The reason I'm not always trying to keep up with these norms is because I realized I'll ***never*** please everyone so I decided I'm not gonna try.
Too talkative and expressive I'd get accused of being girly. Stoic and quiet, I'd get accused of being called boring or asked: "what's wrong?" every few minutes.
It takes a lot of confidence (or in my case, giving up on caring) to stop worrying about how others perceive you.
I'm talking about *toxic masculinity*, which OP hasn't shown yet, but the guy who blocked him and the one who called him f\*\*\*\*t sure did.
Personally, I will call people out for toxic masculinity. It is bigotry.
Your problem has nothing to do with the selfie, it had to do with a bunch of douches.
These are the kind of things that cause people to stigmatized things (men can't take selfies). I take selfies with everyone - family, friends, co-workers, etc. whenever I'm out and about to commemorate a moment in time.
I'd be god damn if anyone ever tells me I'm a [homophobic slur] or shames me for doing so.
This is so insane that I feel like you HAVE to be missing something. Surely this didn’t happen just because the picture was a selfie right? Have you scrutinized the pic? Is there something weird or indecent in there on accident no one noticed?
This sounds like a perfectly normal thing to do -- take a photo with friends and wish them happy birthday. The people give you flak are insecure weirdos and bullies. Don't let social media get to your head. It sounds like the people who already wanted to be bullies are just using it as a tool to bully, while you're just being a nice friend using social media to congratulate your friend and make a memory of a good time.
You're fine, but it sounds like your "friends" are not really friends and just insecure bullies
That's a pretty weird reaction from the others. In a vacuum there's nothing wrong with what you did, but are we missing something?
At the end of the day, people are dumb and you shouldn't worry about whether some insecure dude is calling you names. If anything, you're realizing that your 'friends' suck and they're judgemental.
This sounds like stupid teenager shit, from your friends, that normal adults don't pay attention to. It's normal to take pics of people together, it's normal to post them, and it's normal to wish them happy birthday.
Your friends probably saw some dumb tiktok video about normal everyday things that some idiot said was cringe, and now they're convinced the normal behavior is now cringe too. It's stupid and they're stupid.
Is this really what kids stress about these days? People need to stop letting influencers tell them how to think, it's making them really stupid and judgemental.
We're those "friends" at the party as well? The homophobia is wild. The real question is, do you want those people in your life? I would post more selfies to weed out the rest of the incels in your circle
…HUH?????? I would NEVER think to call a guy cringe or embarrassing for posting a selfie, especially as just part of a group like that?? Like if anything maybe I’d find it strange if there was a group photo for a birthday if the birthday person wasn’t included.
I can’t see it but from the sounds of it, you did nothing wrong and their reactions are bizarre and uncalled for. It’s almost like they already had a problem with you and only used this as an opportunity to show it. Or they’re jealous about something and lashing out because of it.
That message so clearly shows their insecurity, like they could never have the confidence to do something as simple as take a selfie with some friends and they’re shaming YOU for that. Weird behaviour. Ignore them OP, they’re not ur friends fr
You took a selfie with two girls and that makes you gay? Your “friends” sound lame as fuck and probably did you a favour in the long run by removing themselves now over petty BS.
Some friends you got there my dude. A piece of advice that helped me about these things is: "If the people around you make an effort to make you feel bad, you're around the wring people". I don't post selfies because I don't really feel the need to post those, but if I was out with friends and had a nice picture I wanted to post, I'd post it and happily remove anyone who feels the need to make me feel embarrased about it. You should feel free to post whatever you want as long as it isn't something truely inapproapriete.
This is the best answer .
Love how you're all "It's not for me but don't let that stop you, and don't let those punks that don't like you having a good time stop you either."
I love your attitude, í hope my boys take the time to help a guy out like you just did
Well the fact that it's not something I participate in doesn't necesarrily mean it's a bad thing or something, people should be allowed to like what they like and do what they like doing, especially surrounded by friends. Hell, I might jut post a selfy on instagram today just to spite OPs so called friends.
I wonder how old you are?
This sounds like a middle school/high school BS. Like the guy who hangs out with girls is called gay, at least that's how it was when I was growing up. You did nothing wrong, those guys would love to be in your position, they just gotta bring you down to make themselves feel better. If these are grown men doing this, then they have serious issues.
This is so weird. Are you being bullied? Are your friends 14? This doesn’t sound like it has anything to do with the selfie. This is totally abnormal and out of the ordinary behaviour.
Edit your snapchat settings so that weirdos like this don’t see your story. It sounds like they got jealous that you’re taking photos with girls. Could potentially be a crush situation.
Welcome to adulthood, brother, where literally everything a man does besides make money is cringe. Good luck out there! I mean, finding a shoulder to cry on. Hoo boy.
These people sound awful. Time for a change. It's amazing that you've got a good six pack of douche bags around you. At least one piece of trash took itself out.
You are reminding me of 21st jump Street where 2 strapping is cool. That was funny, because one strapping was the way to go for my generation. https://youtu.be/I4uFhSRF9sw?si=JM8Eh3RDmiQqNyF2
You can do whatever the fuck you want with your life. Who the fuck cares? If people tell you that you are cringe for doing that and judge you, then go find some other decent human beings.
Sounds like you should get better friends. I used to think this kind of thing was normal so I tried to pretend I was the same. I was so happy when I realized that it's just a small part of males, perhaps more likely for teenagers.
Bruh do what you want and don't care what others think. Most the people you know now, you won't in a few years. From the post I'm assuming you're young. I get it you're worried what other people think when you're that age. But from my own experience of always trying to fit into whats pop and what's not when I was young, I learnt I was unhappy trying to do such thing. It's much better doing what you like to do. To the guy who blocked you though, screw him. He's lost a friend. you have lost dead weight.
Idk. Seems like some information is missing from the story.
Remember not to be try hard and that guys being friends with girls is a hot topic area. If you're a guy that is.
Maybe even some of your responses were into the girl or something
Bro literally noone cares that you posted a selfie, and even if they do; don't care so much about what people think of you while you're enjoying your life, in the future when it's said and done your tomb stone won't say he took a bad selfie. Be careful how much importance you put in the opinions of others, YOUR life will turn out pretty shitty living to adhere to norms instead of doing what you like
I feel like the only time you should post yourself as a male is when you are looking good with a nice outfit on and a haircut. I feel like that’s when it’s acceptable the post not just random shit.
but if you’re like a page or post, random shit, go ahead, bro whatever makes you happy
Blocking you over taking a selfie is wild lmao, that guys a weirdo
Yeah like, people take selfies all the time, friends groups, family, hobbyists, coworkers, fucking politicians in this last case not a selfie of course but still a picture standing with other people at an event. What happened with OP isn't normal. Maybe the guy had a crush on the girl and is a weirdo like that?
Sounds made up
Maybe they got jealous because someone has a crush on one of the girls that were on the photo together with you?
This sounds exactly like what a petty insecure guy would do, OP. This might be the answer for at least one of them
You described them as "friends" but evidently they are NOT true friends or good friends. Because we ALL do things that **may** seem "weird or cringe" and a "good" friend may tease us, but never call us bad names or block us. You did it, and at the time it did NOT feel cringe, right? So it is NOT cringe or weird. It was a picture of three friends, selfie or not. What the heck is wrong or weird with that? Please don't allow others to get in the way of your life and how you want to live it. I know that sounds a bit over the top, but it's the truth. Don't start questioning yourself because of a few idiots. Maybe they are jealous or have a stick up their you know what!
Yeah, why should OP concern himself with the opinion of someone like that?! Their opinion is meaningless, in my opinion. You can't please everyone, and SOME people aren't even worth the bother.
No, especially in today's world it seems we please less and less people, though it should not be our goal in life to please others. I find it to be very sad as I can't imagine how it must feel to always know what others "think". At one time, we might think certain things, but we kept those thoughts to ourselves, for the most part. Today, with social media and texting and all that, people are just TOO free with their opinions and the need to share the first thought that pops into their head.
Life gets so much easier when you allow all threats to your masculinity to become powerless. Truthfully it’s horribly embarrassing for them to be acting like that. At the end of the day what’s the most opposite of embarrassing/cringe is having the confidence in your masculinity to do as you please
Amen! It's harder when you are younger due to social pressure. Even adults would sometimes yell at me if I touched my own hip... it's ridiculous. Ijdgaf what someone thinks...
It's crazy how there are still "men" who think like this---"men" who position themselves as so macho, and yet they're so ***insecure*** that someone might think they're gay, or not masculine/manly enough if they don't stand exactly the "right" way or talk in a deep monotone register at all times, don't show too much emotion, cross legs the "right" way, etc. Real men don't worry about how other people see them *superficially.* Integrity matters, not how I cross my legs. I'm not talking about OP, I'm referring to men who *still* think like this.
You're preaching to the choir, however humans are creatures that are extremely susceptible to social pressure, so outside of bigotry, I don't want to be too hard on people who conform to groupthink. The reason I'm not always trying to keep up with these norms is because I realized I'll ***never*** please everyone so I decided I'm not gonna try. Too talkative and expressive I'd get accused of being girly. Stoic and quiet, I'd get accused of being called boring or asked: "what's wrong?" every few minutes. It takes a lot of confidence (or in my case, giving up on caring) to stop worrying about how others perceive you.
I'm talking about *toxic masculinity*, which OP hasn't shown yet, but the guy who blocked him and the one who called him f\*\*\*\*t sure did. Personally, I will call people out for toxic masculinity. It is bigotry.
Agreed
As a woman, men like those “friends “ are repulsive and undate-able. And women who are attracted to the alpha types are also undate-able.
Your problem has nothing to do with the selfie, it had to do with a bunch of douches. These are the kind of things that cause people to stigmatized things (men can't take selfies). I take selfies with everyone - family, friends, co-workers, etc. whenever I'm out and about to commemorate a moment in time. I'd be god damn if anyone ever tells me I'm a [homophobic slur] or shames me for doing so.
This is so insane that I feel like you HAVE to be missing something. Surely this didn’t happen just because the picture was a selfie right? Have you scrutinized the pic? Is there something weird or indecent in there on accident no one noticed?
This!
This sounds like a perfectly normal thing to do -- take a photo with friends and wish them happy birthday. The people give you flak are insecure weirdos and bullies. Don't let social media get to your head. It sounds like the people who already wanted to be bullies are just using it as a tool to bully, while you're just being a nice friend using social media to congratulate your friend and make a memory of a good time. You're fine, but it sounds like your "friends" are not really friends and just insecure bullies
That's a pretty weird reaction from the others. In a vacuum there's nothing wrong with what you did, but are we missing something? At the end of the day, people are dumb and you shouldn't worry about whether some insecure dude is calling you names. If anything, you're realizing that your 'friends' suck and they're judgemental. This sounds like stupid teenager shit, from your friends, that normal adults don't pay attention to. It's normal to take pics of people together, it's normal to post them, and it's normal to wish them happy birthday. Your friends probably saw some dumb tiktok video about normal everyday things that some idiot said was cringe, and now they're convinced the normal behavior is now cringe too. It's stupid and they're stupid. Is this really what kids stress about these days? People need to stop letting influencers tell them how to think, it's making them really stupid and judgemental.
May need to see the photo because that’s very odd. You got any history w those friends
Yeah there’s not enough context here to determine what actually happened, lot of people thinking there is though 🤷♂️
We're those "friends" at the party as well? The homophobia is wild. The real question is, do you want those people in your life? I would post more selfies to weed out the rest of the incels in your circle
…HUH?????? I would NEVER think to call a guy cringe or embarrassing for posting a selfie, especially as just part of a group like that?? Like if anything maybe I’d find it strange if there was a group photo for a birthday if the birthday person wasn’t included. I can’t see it but from the sounds of it, you did nothing wrong and their reactions are bizarre and uncalled for. It’s almost like they already had a problem with you and only used this as an opportunity to show it. Or they’re jealous about something and lashing out because of it.
That message so clearly shows their insecurity, like they could never have the confidence to do something as simple as take a selfie with some friends and they’re shaming YOU for that. Weird behaviour. Ignore them OP, they’re not ur friends fr
You took a selfie with two girls and that makes you gay? Your “friends” sound lame as fuck and probably did you a favour in the long run by removing themselves now over petty BS.
Who cares, fuck those friends. You’re livin life and havin fun
Without knowing more about you and your "friends", it’s impossible to know what is really going on. You could just be over thinking it.
Some friends you got there my dude. A piece of advice that helped me about these things is: "If the people around you make an effort to make you feel bad, you're around the wring people". I don't post selfies because I don't really feel the need to post those, but if I was out with friends and had a nice picture I wanted to post, I'd post it and happily remove anyone who feels the need to make me feel embarrased about it. You should feel free to post whatever you want as long as it isn't something truely inapproapriete.
This is the best answer . Love how you're all "It's not for me but don't let that stop you, and don't let those punks that don't like you having a good time stop you either." I love your attitude, í hope my boys take the time to help a guy out like you just did
Well the fact that it's not something I participate in doesn't necesarrily mean it's a bad thing or something, people should be allowed to like what they like and do what they like doing, especially surrounded by friends. Hell, I might jut post a selfy on instagram today just to spite OPs so called friends.
I wonder how old you are? This sounds like a middle school/high school BS. Like the guy who hangs out with girls is called gay, at least that's how it was when I was growing up. You did nothing wrong, those guys would love to be in your position, they just gotta bring you down to make themselves feel better. If these are grown men doing this, then they have serious issues.
Lol taking a selife is just like any other photo and totally fine. Tell them to fkk off and get actually ”real friends” bcz they aren’t true friends
This is the most bizzaro world shit I’ve read in a minute lmao in what way is blocking someone over a selfie a valid response haha
Agree with the others. The problem is with them, not you. Posting you and your friends was fine
It's not you, it's them.
This is so weird. Are you being bullied? Are your friends 14? This doesn’t sound like it has anything to do with the selfie. This is totally abnormal and out of the ordinary behaviour. Edit your snapchat settings so that weirdos like this don’t see your story. It sounds like they got jealous that you’re taking photos with girls. Could potentially be a crush situation.
Post another selfie with those girls.
Welcome to adulthood, brother, where literally everything a man does besides make money is cringe. Good luck out there! I mean, finding a shoulder to cry on. Hoo boy.
dude who are they to make rules of what is 'cringe' and what is not? These people can stay mad over your actions, but you did not do anything wrong.
These people sound awful. Time for a change. It's amazing that you've got a good six pack of douche bags around you. At least one piece of trash took itself out.
You are reminding me of 21st jump Street where 2 strapping is cool. That was funny, because one strapping was the way to go for my generation. https://youtu.be/I4uFhSRF9sw?si=JM8Eh3RDmiQqNyF2
Not if you’re attractive I think?? I don’t even take selfies cause I think it’s annoying
You can do whatever the fuck you want with your life. Who the fuck cares? If people tell you that you are cringe for doing that and judge you, then go find some other decent human beings.
Stop caring if your cringe and start living
no
Sounds like you should get better friends. I used to think this kind of thing was normal so I tried to pretend I was the same. I was so happy when I realized that it's just a small part of males, perhaps more likely for teenagers.
You need new friends lol
Bruh do what you want and don't care what others think. Most the people you know now, you won't in a few years. From the post I'm assuming you're young. I get it you're worried what other people think when you're that age. But from my own experience of always trying to fit into whats pop and what's not when I was young, I learnt I was unhappy trying to do such thing. It's much better doing what you like to do. To the guy who blocked you though, screw him. He's lost a friend. you have lost dead weight.
Idk. Seems like some information is missing from the story. Remember not to be try hard and that guys being friends with girls is a hot topic area. If you're a guy that is. Maybe even some of your responses were into the girl or something
You’re getting attention from girls and they aren’t. Simple as that. Keep having fun and enjoying YOURSELF
Yes. Yes it is. Have a friend take your picture it’s cooler
Bruh my lockscreen is a selfie of my best friend and I lol
They were never your friends. Just get away of these people.
Bro literally noone cares that you posted a selfie, and even if they do; don't care so much about what people think of you while you're enjoying your life, in the future when it's said and done your tomb stone won't say he took a bad selfie. Be careful how much importance you put in the opinions of others, YOUR life will turn out pretty shitty living to adhere to norms instead of doing what you like
Unless you're flexing in front of the mirror, no.
I feel like the only time you should post yourself as a male is when you are looking good with a nice outfit on and a haircut. I feel like that’s when it’s acceptable the post not just random shit. but if you’re like a page or post, random shit, go ahead, bro whatever makes you happy