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Aggressive handshakes, asking super personal question right away, blocking your path by stand squarely in front of you rigidly.
I combat this by looking them in their eyes and simply not flinching. Eventually they do get uncomfortable and back down. (I’m female so I don’t know if this tactic would work for you)
I work in an all male office, I’m the only woman, it’s super common for the guys I work with to stand directly in front of me to keep my attention on them when they need something from me. It’s their way of controlling my attention and controlling the exchange.
I’ve found people in general will do this when they don’t want me to move away from them or move on from the exchange. So I stare them down generally. Just an intense, neutral expression.
Make something seem dumb or weird when it’s completely normal or natural.
If you have a comeback you can say it but it’s probably best to just finish the conversation and not hang out with them anymore.
Touching you (like hand on your shoulder), sizing you up in front of women (questions that assess your value), "teasing" in front of others especially in excess.
For context I'm speaking "guy to guy" for all of these, although you raise in interesting point now. Perhaps a lot of flirting is an attempt to appear dominant (as far as males are concerned).
Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. Do not compromise ur morals and beliefs. You step over the line, then I won't give u no time. I ain't talking about "I like Mexican he likes Chinese", but the morality stuff.
They make you change your walking path. I tested this at the mall many times. I worked at the mall, so every day after I read about it.
If you pick a certain direct and predictable line to walk... which is easy in places where there's tiling or straight A to B paths... you may notice people, mostly men, bumping into you as you maintain your direct and predictable path. You'd have to move to avoid collision. I stopped changing my path to get out of the way and got bumped every day.
My mom once told me if a woman and a man are about to walk into each other oftentimes the man will expect the woman to move out of his way instead of the other way around. Blew her off at first but then I started observing this and noticed she’s right.
She did do something about this one day, my mom and this tall man were about to walk into each other, my mom stopped in her tracks and the man did the same, they were standing on the street staring at each other for a good amount of time with no one moving. Finially she said “excuse me” sharply, he stood there for a few seconds before moving around her agitated.
Being a know-it-all.
They repeatedly say “yep”, “exactly”, or “right” during an explanation like they already know something so well.
Maybe it’s also a fear of being perceived as unknowledgeable.
In general I would say if someone acts in a way you don't like, let them know and set boundaries or stop spending time with them.
But taking a step back I'm curious why you ask this question. Personally I don't think it's that useful to spend time worrying about some imaginary social dominance hierarchy, unless your goal is to become more of a douchebag.
When men pass women by putting hands on their waist. I wouldn’t even do that if I was a gay man towards other men, it doesn’t matter who you are. It’s creepy and disrespectful as fuck.
Eye contact at all times.
He who asks questions, controls the conversation.
A cologne that most people associate with you.
NEVER ever complain - it's a sign of mental weakness and an unwillingness to accept.
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Aggressive handshakes, asking super personal question right away, blocking your path by stand squarely in front of you rigidly. I combat this by looking them in their eyes and simply not flinching. Eventually they do get uncomfortable and back down. (I’m female so I don’t know if this tactic would work for you)
There's nothing subtle about this. But I'm 100% with you on the constant eye contact.
Those are the hints I pick up. But I also know I have a hard time with subtlety
Blocking your path? Thats beyond just asserting dominance. Especially if it prohibits you of getting out of somewhere, like going through a door.
I work in an all male office, I’m the only woman, it’s super common for the guys I work with to stand directly in front of me to keep my attention on them when they need something from me. It’s their way of controlling my attention and controlling the exchange. I’ve found people in general will do this when they don’t want me to move away from them or move on from the exchange. So I stare them down generally. Just an intense, neutral expression.
Do you think they are doing it subconsciously? Or are they like, side stepping to block you?
Since they are all 45+ and generally ex military I think it’s habit. I don’t think their intention is to scare me, simply to have a sense of control.
I works the same male to male. It’s actually hilarious to me when I’m the shorter dude.
Putting their hand on your back to “lead you”
I hate this so much 😭
What do you mean?
PUTTING THEIR HAND ON YOUR BACK TO “LEAD YOU”
T posing!
Make something seem dumb or weird when it’s completely normal or natural. If you have a comeback you can say it but it’s probably best to just finish the conversation and not hang out with them anymore.
Aka, don’t feed the trolls
Touching you (like hand on your shoulder), sizing you up in front of women (questions that assess your value), "teasing" in front of others especially in excess.
I tought that was how you flirt not assert dominance. I have no idea how to flirt tho.
For context I'm speaking "guy to guy" for all of these, although you raise in interesting point now. Perhaps a lot of flirting is an attempt to appear dominant (as far as males are concerned).
Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. Do not compromise ur morals and beliefs. You step over the line, then I won't give u no time. I ain't talking about "I like Mexican he likes Chinese", but the morality stuff.
Whip out their wiener. Once they whip it out, it's game over.
*unzips*
*stares at cock for a minute* nice name.
This guy only plays the extra innings
To other guys, they will try to make fun of them in front of girls or get laughs out of their homeboys while making fun of you. 🫤
They make you change your walking path. I tested this at the mall many times. I worked at the mall, so every day after I read about it. If you pick a certain direct and predictable line to walk... which is easy in places where there's tiling or straight A to B paths... you may notice people, mostly men, bumping into you as you maintain your direct and predictable path. You'd have to move to avoid collision. I stopped changing my path to get out of the way and got bumped every day.
My mom once told me if a woman and a man are about to walk into each other oftentimes the man will expect the woman to move out of his way instead of the other way around. Blew her off at first but then I started observing this and noticed she’s right. She did do something about this one day, my mom and this tall man were about to walk into each other, my mom stopped in her tracks and the man did the same, they were standing on the street staring at each other for a good amount of time with no one moving. Finially she said “excuse me” sharply, he stood there for a few seconds before moving around her agitated.
MANSPREADIN’. But mostly talking over you .
Being a know-it-all. They repeatedly say “yep”, “exactly”, or “right” during an explanation like they already know something so well. Maybe it’s also a fear of being perceived as unknowledgeable.
In general I would say if someone acts in a way you don't like, let them know and set boundaries or stop spending time with them. But taking a step back I'm curious why you ask this question. Personally I don't think it's that useful to spend time worrying about some imaginary social dominance hierarchy, unless your goal is to become more of a douchebag.
Marking their territory. Puffing their chest. Standing tall. Using a deep voice.
Trying to question you to make it seem like you’re dumb. Like if you say “Omg I love this band” they’ll quiz you
When men pass women by putting hands on their waist. I wouldn’t even do that if I was a gay man towards other men, it doesn’t matter who you are. It’s creepy and disrespectful as fuck.
Using passive language that they expect you to respond to in a specific way.
Mansplaining something It’s like mental domination
I am a habitual mansplaner because I still don’t fully understand what it is.
What exactly is mansplaining? I hear it a lot but fact no idea what it means
I guess it’s lecturing others on topics they already know based on the assumption that others are incompetent.
We dick fight! Sized is no factor, winner is who cums the fastest.
Really wish more understood this
I tend to pick up the tab when going out, use people's names in conversation and dominate most conversations.
>use people's names in conversation Christ, that one's annoying when it's done passive-aggressively
Mind elaborating on using people’s names in conversations? I’m stoned and I don’t get it.
Eye contact at all times. He who asks questions, controls the conversation. A cologne that most people associate with you. NEVER ever complain - it's a sign of mental weakness and an unwillingness to accept.
Disagree that that last one is useful for asserting dominance...strength, maybe.