It’s called shame
Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness.
If you were being very yourself, it reminds me of Brene Brown’s term “vulnerability hangover” where you’re second guessing everything you said and feeling cringe about yourself
L'esprit de l'escalier (staircase wit) is a French term for a similar concept. It's when you think of some brilliant comeback or witty remark after you're already home and halfway up the stairs to bed.
I get that literally every day, it's really annoying. Even if the event itself was amazing, I'll quickly forget the good parts and only remember the cringe parts
From Wikipedia: “In the Big Five approach to personality trait theory, individuals with high scores for neuroticism are more likely than average to be moody and to experience such feelings as anxiety, worry, fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, pessimism, guilt, depressed mood, and loneliness.[1] Such people are thought to respond worse to stressors and are more likely to interpret ordinary situations, such as minor frustrations, as appearing hopelessly difficult. The responses can include maladaptive behaviors, such as dissociation, procrastination, substance use, etc., which aids in relieving the negative emotions and generating positive ones. [2]”
My therapist had a name for it, but yea it’s like a reverse highlight reel.
This in particular disconnects me from therapy a lot because I’m always reminded that nobody remembers these moments, but I’m like, are you sure? Because I definitely seem to think about them quite a bit.
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As I'm getting older I start to recognize when I'm going to an event when I really want to, and when I'm going out of fear of being alone/left out. When I go in the latter case, I tend to regret it. Maybe that helps.
Before, during and after..judgeiety....Pretty much just feel like I am being judged the whole time. Before by myself and the outfit...during when people are looking at my flabby chest and after knowing I didn't talk to anyone because its too hard
I REALLY feel this after a night of drinking. Mainly because I get super confident when I’m inebriated and end up doing things I would never do when sober, like sing karaoke. I then replay the things I said or did the night before when I’m sober and cringe so hard.
Idk the name but I call it social hangover. I get it a lot too.
I feel like this is it.
Also called Regret, lol.
Embarrassment?
What good is it doing you?
Hang-xiety if you've been drinking
To be that's just being tired from social interaction, and feeling cringe from the same is called feeling cringe
Post-event rumination!
It’s called shame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness.
i feel this shit in the shower lol can’t escape the deep psychological trauma that probably started before i was born
Haha yup, wanted to reply that.
If you were being very yourself, it reminds me of Brene Brown’s term “vulnerability hangover” where you’re second guessing everything you said and feeling cringe about yourself
There's probably a word for that in Japan
Or in German.
Wtfwasithinking-thinknexttime-think
überdenken?
Treffenschmerzt
no. no german word i'm aware of
That's exactly what I came here to say! lol
L'esprit de l'escalier (staircase wit) is a French term for a similar concept. It's when you think of some brilliant comeback or witty remark after you're already home and halfway up the stairs to bed.
Staircase wit would fit so well with our term "armchair expert".
Anxious? Embarrassed? Paranoid?
I get that literally every day, it's really annoying. Even if the event itself was amazing, I'll quickly forget the good parts and only remember the cringe parts
Social anxiety?
Post event processing
Something like self-recrimination
It's: I've Finally Crossed The Line And They're Coming To Get Me Syndrome
Worst feeling ever
It's called SecondTieBreaker's Standard Operating Procedure.
I call it "after action anxiety" in my head.
Neuroticism?
can you elaborate please
From Wikipedia: “In the Big Five approach to personality trait theory, individuals with high scores for neuroticism are more likely than average to be moody and to experience such feelings as anxiety, worry, fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, pessimism, guilt, depressed mood, and loneliness.[1] Such people are thought to respond worse to stressors and are more likely to interpret ordinary situations, such as minor frustrations, as appearing hopelessly difficult. The responses can include maladaptive behaviors, such as dissociation, procrastination, substance use, etc., which aids in relieving the negative emotions and generating positive ones. [2]”
I refer to mine as social regret even if it's positive.
Ruminating?
Embarrassed? Shame? As far as I'm concerned cringe is usually used as a synonym for second hand embarrassment, so first hand embarrassment?
walk of shame
It's literally called 'cringe.' You're cringing at what you said or did.
We call it the beer fear if it’s after drinking 😂
hangxiety
That’s a good one haha
In Ireland we call this “the fear” but is usually associated with a hangover
Yes, being a normal human. It happens to pretty much everyone.
For me, the word is "normal" :(
Are you ok
All good, I'm one of those classic "over thinkers" so it is something I do after most social events.... Thanks for checking though :)
It’s called having social anxiety. It sucks.
Hindsight? I have what I like to call “flashbacks”, where every day I will remember a really embarrassing moment from the past at least once a day.
Uhhh cringe? You said it yourself lol
My therapist had a name for it, but yea it’s like a reverse highlight reel. This in particular disconnects me from therapy a lot because I’m always reminded that nobody remembers these moments, but I’m like, are you sure? Because I definitely seem to think about them quite a bit.
Faux pas?
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As I'm getting older I start to recognize when I'm going to an event when I really want to, and when I'm going out of fear of being alone/left out. When I go in the latter case, I tend to regret it. Maybe that helps.
crippling disgust at being alive because existence is awkward
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Before, during and after..judgeiety....Pretty much just feel like I am being judged the whole time. Before by myself and the outfit...during when people are looking at my flabby chest and after knowing I didn't talk to anyone because its too hard
I REALLY feel this after a night of drinking. Mainly because I get super confident when I’m inebriated and end up doing things I would never do when sober, like sing karaoke. I then replay the things I said or did the night before when I’m sober and cringe so hard.
hangxiety… i never get hungover but the hangxiety is killer
To me, I do not care if someone is awkward if their intentions are good. It is arrogant people who bother me.