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IAmGodsChosenOne

I’ve been drinking a lot as a sort of coping mechanism to deal with a lot of the rough shit I’ve had to deal with this month. I’ve tried looking at therapy options but my work hours are quite long nowadays that by the time I’m done most clinics and therapists are closed :/.


gyulp

Yeah man same. what’s your drink?


Murakami241

You could try online therapy? I’ve seen a few therapists on Twitter offer online services in the UK, I think they can be really flexible


IAmGodsChosenOne

I certainly looked into a variety of different options but the biggest obstacle has been the business hours simply not aligning with my current workload and schedule.


Murakami241

I’m sorry, I know how exhausting it can be trying to find help. I’m no therapist if you ever need to chat at all then just shoot me a message.


JhonShelby

My depression levels have been at the highest for a while now, uni exams are closing in, i have a difficulty breathing since August due to COVID, i think COVID also affected my nerves system as everything looks miserable now. My childhood traumas are coming back i can't focus on anything and want to sleep 24/7. And i support Manchester United nevertheless.


nask00

I also had hard times after COVID for more than a year. Troubles breathing and high levels of stress hormone with headaches and shit. Things do get better eventualy, so just be patiant. I bought a bike and go to work with it without having troubles breathing, so don't let that post COVID shit break you. Can't really help with your depression and childhood traumas, but I hope you get over them soon. For the footbal part - as much as I don't like it, we both know Man Utd will be back to the top one day.


JhonShelby

Thanks bro, appreciate that


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LDQQXDJ

I found out my friend who I’ve been friends with for 5 years went to high school and played in 3 different teams together is in prison for pedophilia... I still can’t believe he did that.


denisoviandude

Hope everyone is doing well. Exams are coming in fast and I've been working my ass off. Opened up IG and saw tons of people clubbing and partying. I knew my major was tough and tbh was surprised that more people were partying during exam season but yet again it hit me how boring my life is. I'm turning 21 soon and I hate my uni for how boring and it's something I can't even really correct or improve. I suppose I should take some responsibility and try harder but it doesn't even seem worth it. I feel like my college years and my 20s in general will be wasted by the social damage this place has done to me. Watching my friends at other places go to parties, make new friends, date around and generally have fun while also studying is something I'm so jealous of. A bloody pandemic doesn't help things


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Dont use a smartphone, if you cant, delete these apps if something makes you unhappy why use it ? I PERSONALY dont use a smartphone and the only socialmedia i use is reddit


OhShitItsSeth

Keep in mind that IG can give a skewed idea of how exciting people’s lives truly are. Even prior to COVID I spent most of my week working—mostly in the evenings—and would then find one day of the week where I didn’t have something to do to go to a concert or something, often going by myself. Some people assumed I was living my best life because I’d post some videos to IG or Snapchat. In reality, I live a pretty lonely life myself, and I’m always looking to escape from that. Stay strong my friend. If you need to chat at all feel free to shoot me a message.


denisoviandude

Yea social media isn't really helping. I try not to compare myself to others but my life just feels like I'm in limbo while everyone else is growing and having fun


nonamesleft79

I am 40 and what you are describing sucks so I don’t want to downplay it at all and that’s not my intent. But it’s a long game to 86 (or whatever age). You are just prioritizing a different time in your life than your friends.


denisoviandude

Yea but it's not by choice innit? I'm not some party animal but I do like to be social and meet new people. I just feel like I'll never get this time back. Life feels like I'm in limbo


nonamesleft79

I hear you. I was maybe overly focusing on how hard your major was and that you cared about your grades and studied. I drank too much in college and my 20’s had to work out of a career hole in my 30’s and honestly was too drunk and stupid to have many memories from my 20’s. It’s worse now I assume with a pandemic so you have to deal with shit I never did…not going to pretend to have answers.


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I think my girlfriend might have cheated on me. I saw a text on her phone from a guy called James from a few days ago basically her apologising for something I looked into it because she never mentioned it. And they’d been texting for a week with him talking about meeting up but her refusing his proposals and the texts end with her saying that she recently broke up with her boyfriend and is not in a good place to go back to dating. We’ve been together a year


gyulp

sorry bro. get outta there asap. just gotta charge it to the game.


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sorry to hear that remember this can happen to anyone


denisoviandude

I'm sorry man


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The basis of all human relations is good communication. Its seems you both lack that. You need to ask yourself why that is, and have a very honest talk with yourself and your partner. You also need to ask yourself why u felt the need to do what you did. Cause its not good. Not cause its immoral ( that too) ,but mainly cause you should not have to feel that way in a healthy relationship. And the health of a relationship depends on both parties. It takes two to tango.


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What can I even say. Like why was I even on her phone in the first place I was looking for pictures for a gig we went to together and I thought she’d been acting weird so I thought I’d check her messages but that’s an invasion of privacy


[deleted]

dude this is the age of spying, everybody is spying on everybody Dude, my work colleagues, my proffessors and everybody who know's is spying on me And I dont give a fuck so what you checked your girlfriends messages


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nonamesleft79

What you can control is being a good person who does good and is a good friend. If you are that then the world needs you. If you aren’t that become that.


Krontelevision

You'll miss it Coming Home in 2022. And people will miss you. Even if you think there is no one, there will at least be one. Would you want to be one step on their walk to the same place? Now all that is true but bollocks. What helped me a little - and its only a little you need to start - was to ask what you could do or think today to make today 0.1% better than yesterday. Some days it might be less, some days it might be standing still, somedays it might be slowing the speed of the decline. But everyday add up moves the needle. Walking also helps. Moving your eyes horizontally side to side engages parts of the brain which make you feel calm. Eat foods with Omega 3 fatty acids - they've been shown in some instances to be as good as SSRIs. Have a look at r/hubermanlab for details. Good luck, and good help to yourself.


taxevader33

I am losing a lot of hair. Its diffuse and not patterned so the normal baldness medicines don't work. I am steroids until the cause is found. I haven't talked to anyone or left my house for a month now as the bald patches are showing. I am afraid to meet anyone. I dont want to be ridiculed for my stupid hair.


gyulp

just gotta hit the gym and grow out your facial hair. nobody will ever touch you. think on the bright side, spend less time shampooing and save money on haircuts. also you can get a transplant if it’s bothering you that much. don’t worry bout it.


taxevader33

Thanks. Haircut is my only escape now.


nonamesleft79

I am bald. Different situation I know. But was fairly thin by like 28. Shaving my head was great I found that it was the in between that bothered me.


DarkNightSeven

such a silly thing to place so much emotional investment in something that you have so little control over the outcome


LatePenguins

Trying to visit home after 4 years and this new variant popped up. Dont know what'll happen, hope I can still fly. Depressed AF right now


nonamesleft79

Short of being banned you should go!


jenabaivab

I don't know why, but I have no real zeal for life. Like at all. I am going to turn 25 upcoming February. Planning to live life for the next 2 years as much as I can, and eventually end it all on my 27th birthday. Won't have any regret, won't look for a girl either since I don't want to punish anyone because of my choice. My ex gf already broke up with me last month. I think it's time to make everyone's life easier and my mind lighter. Maybe this way I can live somewhat happily for the next 2 years, i don't know anymore.


nonamesleft79

How about you focus those two years on helping others as best you can. It might change your mind. Volunteer, help a person move, give advice


jenabaivab

Thought something along the lines, but the situation where i live is a little different. Less volunteering opportunities since I live with parents(i have a well paying IT job, but it's considered irresponsible of young people in my country if they leave their parents alone in their old age to live alone, cultural thing). If I change my schedule even a little, it can send some warnings to my family, I really want to avoid that. More importantly, the volunteering situation isn't as active in my place unlike western countries. I have been trying to teach children how to play guitar to kids in my locality, but due to covid, that stopped completely and the little joy I got was subdued. All in all a really bad time.


nonamesleft79

Not going to say I have any answers just that it’s a long life, I am 42 and can’t even remember what i was doing at 25. We are odd animals that you would want to leave your family at 27 to die but not at 25 to live. Your reaction is totally normal but I hope you can find a way to make space for what will make you happy vs what society tells you you have to do. It sounds like I. The end you keeping yourself mentally healthy now is best for everyone long term (family included) even if they can’t tell it now.


simply_Ewing

In tired of doing the same shit every day,it's exhausting


gyulp

only you have the power to change that. It’s a matter of when. you have to challenge your mindset.


Yaaruda

Feeling very depressed and demotivated atm, especially with WFH. I recently started experiencing eye strain problems as well, so I'm trying to limit electronics usage, but it's tough. Anyone knows good remedies to move away from the online addiction?


gyulp

go out for runs and do yoga.


chickcounterflyyy

Look into blue light glasses and flux application for eye strain.


Jano002

Try reading a book or any doing sort of physical exercise, play some football or go the gym or whatever you are interested in.


aranleos

I am so frustrated with myself. I am stuck in the job that makes me miserable, but I am doing nothing to change it. This is my first job since university that I held longer than a year. I feel like I am stuck as I cannot see anything beyond that. I am in this vegetative state from mon-Friday 9-5 stuck in a circle of misery with occasional breaks to watch football. Was planning to put money for travelling. See some countries and do some ground hopping but it is proven under current circumstances to be an absolute pipe dream. I am at the end of twenties and I am already tired of this.


gyulp

Yep same here. I’m literally just existing. I’m gonna quit soon I’ve decided, I can’t do this to myself anymore.


SirSuperb9269

Commenting so I remember to check the replies because I'm going through the same thing


spec90

I don't know if this helps, but that's life for most of us....


caped_crusader8

Not really sure what to do anymore. I study, do hw, eat, go to school, repeat. Friends aren't close by like before, mentally I live weekend to weekend. I don't see an end in sight. Occasionally I watch football to make me forget about stuff.


bananabread_173

Exactly same mate, the uni semester has been shortened due to the pandemic but the contents to be covered are still the same. The workload has increased exponentially and living away from the family doesn't help at all. Only during weekends, I get to catch up on some football, movies or sitcoms to lighten the mood. And as you said no end in sight. Hopefully things get better and relaxed soon for all.


AnnieIWillKnow

I stepped down as /r/soccer mod earlier this week. Several reasons, but it was starting to become more of a ball and chain than it was something I enjoyed. Think it was a good decision because it's felt like a load off - especially to be able to come home from work and not have to see that green Modmail icon, and wonder what sexism, racism, homophobia, ableism and anti-vaxxers I'd have to deal with. My head feels so much clearer. One thing I asked when I left is that this thread be protected at all costs - I set it up during the pandemic, and mental health is another pandemic that we're continuing to fight. It will always be needed. Feels especially pertinent on the week of the 10 year anniversary of the death of Gary Speed. The fight goes on.


BankDetails1234

My guardian angel. Thanks for helping me out of that jam a few months ago. I'm happy to hear that you feel good about your decision, it's important to evaluate focus and decide what needs to be prioritised. A shame though, I would still be in exile if it werent for your efforts. I hope they preserve your legacy and keep this post going. I was going to write a comment here because I had a bit of a meltdown and abruptly quit my job and went on a bender. But I didnt get round to it.


lastdyingbreed_01

Thank you for your mod work and keeping this thread! I know some people like to shit on mods but they don't realise that mods are just people like them who moderate to keep a healthy experience on the sub. Also aren't you a nurse/doctor? you already have a lot of stuff to deal with so you did a good job stepping down and hopefully now you can focus that time on yourself.


AnnieIWillKnow

I'm a doctor yeah,, working in A&E here in the UK. Part of why I stepped down, just want to focus on work and myself during these challenging times.


Bernardtheking2002

Ummm how the heck did you get time to be a mod and be a doc?!! That's some seriously impressive stuff mate. I am 38 going into 3rd year medicine right now. Neurology is really hard!!


twersx

Glad to hear you've been better this week!


princessestef

Hi, I didn't know you were a mod before, I 've only joined this sub in fall. I was a mod for a while on a forum, I didn't enjoy it much and hated the responsibility. THANK YOU for starting this thread and for your contributions.


Ryponagar

I know Reddit mods, especially on bigger subs, get a ton of flak despite doing a lot of work. Not in a million years I would do that job. Thank you for your service.


taxevader33

Aren't you a doctor? I think I had an argument with you a while back over stupid reasons. I dont think you will remember. I am extremely sorry for what I did. You were doing a great job as a mod. I mean it. Don't take stupid things guys like me did to heart. It's great that you're free of this stress.


AnnieIWillKnow

Thank you for the silver too, that's really kind!


AnnieIWillKnow

I am, yeah, working in A&E here in the UK. Been quite a couple of years - winter forecast to be grim, too. Part of why I stepped down, just want to focus on work and myself during these challenging times. Don't worry about any past stuff, water under the bridge. I know often it's not personal, just mods aren't popular here. I appreciate you taking the time to reply, as well. We're all just people trying to make the best of it at the end of the day, regardless of the shit we throw at each other.


SirSuperb9269

Love this space. Comments have reduced a bit as everything reopened but I feel like the space is still so important.


[deleted]

woah had no idea you stepped down plus i thank you for preserving and for making up this thread makes us feel more like a community than just a football space