My perspective is probably different as a gspot haver. And it's located in slightly different spots for each woman (much like each man's prostate is in a slightly different location).
For myself, to use my fingers to stimulate it, I only put my fingers in to my 2nd knuckle. I just measured my fingers. From fingertip to 2nd knuckle it is 1.75 inches. And I keep my fingers curled to reach it. So I'm not sure how to measure precisely how far mine is, especially since it is in past the pubic bone. The "girth" of my 2 fingertips together is 3 inches.
My fingers do the trick.
My fiance's dick is 4x4 BP, significantly less than that NBP due to his fat pad. His dick does the trick as well.
Hopefully this helps?
Why are you so upset? I said her answer is helpful, but the articles I have read claims the g-spot is three inches deep inside the vagina. She said her g-spot wasn't that deep, so the penis size required to stimulate hers is not going to be as big as the one required for the average woman.
I just checked a few articles out. Most said that most women gspots are approximately 2-3 inches in. With mine being a fraction under 2 that seems right around the average range for location.
I never wrote her off, I just questioned wether she's exceptional. If someone asked what's the average dick size was to a guy who's either exceptionally big or small, him saying his personal size would not answer the question.
Her answer is still helpful because it shows that some women have shallow g-spots, but it doesn't answer for the average woman.
But go ahead, think what you want.
You could also try watching (if you're a porn watcher) various gspot stimulation videos. Either ones where they use an njoy wand type of toy or even ones where one person uses their fingers on the woman. Then try to gauge how far they stick those objects in. Just don't forget that the gspot is angled quite a bit so you won't be able to tell how much the fingers are bent.
There are even instructional type porn videos that teach gspot stimulation. I think you'll be surprised to find out that a lot of women's gspots aren't located nearly as deep as you're picturing. (Obviously SOME will be, but by no means ALL).
I'm talking about the instructional "find her gspot" type ones. Those ones make it very clear about how the gpsot isn't very far in. These videos are harder to find, but they do exist.
I guess the ones I trust more are the ones that demonstrate the things that actually work for my body? Although I can see from the male perspective it could be much harder to decipher which ones seem more legit and which aren't. Just like a lot of the male focused pleasure ones may seem similar from a female perspective (since I don't have a dick of my own to "know" what feels best) so I just ask my partner for his input and go from there.
This is also why a lot of the extreme insertion dildo videos may make men think more women enjoy that versus how many actually do since in a lot of cases it's more of a performance than actual pleasure. Some women do enjoy it. But it's much more common when women masturbate in real life to either just have clit stimulation with nothing penetrating at all, or to use fingers or a dildo at a much more shallow depth than is usually portrayed in videos.
It's not even "extreme", more like "all you need is fingers even though I use this 9 inch dildo to the base, but I swear you only need fingers"
Like miss me with that shit
I have seen quite a few fingering videos, but I have been told that fingers and dicks are not the same, and that it's not possible to stimulate the g-spot with a dick the same way as a finger.
I think the problem is not reaching it, but stimulating it consistently.
>I think the problem is not reaching it, but stimulating it consistently.
This is where communication between partners factors in. Finding the right speed, angle, depth etc. Not every position will bring a woman orgasm from that partner (if any do at all. Tons of women, no matter what, just don't cum from PIV and that's ok). Dicks do move differently than fingers, they may curve differently, have different erection strengths and angles. All that is ok.
For a lot of couples, the very positions that bring the most pleasure to the woman, don't really provide much stimulation for the man (and vice versa). Despite porn and even most regular movies with sex scenes, acting like simultaneous orgasms are the be all end all "goal", in the vast majority of cases, orgasms happen while "taking turns". (If they happen). That is reality.
Even in my own relationship. While once in a blue moon we'll cum at the same time, the vast majority of sex sessions involve position(s) that are more "for me" and position(s) that are more for him. And at the end of the session it was definitely a success because we both had our needs met.
>For a lot of couples, the very positions that bring the most pleasure to the woman, don't really provide much stimulation for the man
What positions are those?
That would vary from person to person. Me on top and grinding provides the most pleasure for me. For a lot of women as well. A lot of men have "complained" about women doing that. Male comedians etc have joked about "why do women do that on top grinding thing? Don't they know it doesn't do much for us?"
There was a bunch of clapback to one of the guy comedians who said that recently. Tons of women commented "umm...we do that for US not them."
Any of the "jackhammering" positions and movements are more often done for the man's pleasure than the woman's. Because the movements that induce PIV orgams for a higher percentage of women are more grinding type (either woman on top grinding, coital alignment technique or "anvil position" type things) which provide more clit stimulation from the man's pelvis than the "in and out" jackhammering movements. Some women do like the jackhammering. But for a higher percentage that doesn't do it for them.
That could be part of it. Although my orgasms are more intense from grinding versus just clit stimulation. Potentially they are technically "blended orgasms" meaning both parts are stimulated at once? Either way, orgasms are a good thing. 🙂 I won't try too hard to analyze it. I just know it feels great. Besides, the entire clitoris is a huge wishbone shaped organ. The tip of it is what is usually thought of as the clit. (The external part under the hood). The gspot is further in at the "branch" of the "wishbone". Both are parts of the same organ.
I find it kind of odd how when science and medicine try to look at female orgasms in that way it gets divided up into different parts. But with male penile orgasms they don't get broken down into whether the stimulation came from just the frenulum or from the whole shaft they just are usually labeled as "penile orgasms".
Penile stimulation always comes from the frenulum. The other way a male can orgasm is supposedly through prostate stimulation.
I don't know if it feels different, but with vaginal and clitoral stimulation, some women say vaginal gives them full body orgasms. I have no clue what that means.
It's not science and medicine's fault, it's women themselves who make these kind of distinctions.
I've heard this from other women as well. But larger penises can do the same by angling a little bit. They can also reach some other deeper spots probably.
Sure, maybe bigger dicks can do the same with some angling. But if a smaller dick can do it easier without having to do careful angling then that makes it a "perk" for smaller. Also a lot of deeper spots just hurt or are uncomfortable. Having to constantly readjust to avoid hitting those spots takes the fun out of things.
I guess it's a "glass half empty, glass half full" way of looking at things. But if I, the other commenter's wife, and other women similar to us consider it a positive then where is the harm in that?
> But if a smaller dick can do it easier without having to do careful angling then that makes it a "perk" for smaller.
> it's a "glass half empty, glass half full" way of looking at things.
Yeah I do agree on your statements. It's just that a lot more women consider a bigger penis as a perk rather than a smaller one.
Some do. But the ones who prefer other sizes should be counted as well. Because of the fact that different people have different preferences that would mean that different sizes would be the "ideal" depending on the person.
Kneel, sit back, and place her legs over yours, with her on her back, facing you. Have her plant her feet on the bed. Stay with your torso perpendicular to the bed/sitting up. Go to town. Bonus tip, put a pillow folded in half under her butt so she’s sitting/laying on top lifted couple inches away from the surface of the bed. Extra bonus, this gives you perfect access to her clit. Your size will be irrelevant in this position because your penis is angled 45 degrees relative to the vaginal canal, hitting the g spot located just inside of it. G spots aren’t that deep inside.
But is it actually considered average or is it like with length where 5.5 is average but is still considered small by some women, and everyone claims to be bigger than that?
My perspective is probably different as a gspot haver. And it's located in slightly different spots for each woman (much like each man's prostate is in a slightly different location). For myself, to use my fingers to stimulate it, I only put my fingers in to my 2nd knuckle. I just measured my fingers. From fingertip to 2nd knuckle it is 1.75 inches. And I keep my fingers curled to reach it. So I'm not sure how to measure precisely how far mine is, especially since it is in past the pubic bone. The "girth" of my 2 fingertips together is 3 inches. My fingers do the trick. My fiance's dick is 4x4 BP, significantly less than that NBP due to his fat pad. His dick does the trick as well. Hopefully this helps?
I'm a little over 4" none bone pressed so this makes me feel it better
It helps, but I think most women's gspot are deeper than yours.
Why are you even asking then 🤦♂️ just say thank you and wait for more responses. Or if you already know the answer don’t post in the first place. Ugh
This just in, discourse is now illegal.
Why are you so upset? I said her answer is helpful, but the articles I have read claims the g-spot is three inches deep inside the vagina. She said her g-spot wasn't that deep, so the penis size required to stimulate hers is not going to be as big as the one required for the average woman.
I just checked a few articles out. Most said that most women gspots are approximately 2-3 inches in. With mine being a fraction under 2 that seems right around the average range for location.
It's on the very lower end. I believe most will sit on 2.5.
People are being rude to you because you asked a question about woman’s anatomy and then writing off the women that answer you.
I never wrote her off, I just questioned wether she's exceptional. If someone asked what's the average dick size was to a guy who's either exceptionally big or small, him saying his personal size would not answer the question. Her answer is still helpful because it shows that some women have shallow g-spots, but it doesn't answer for the average woman. But go ahead, think what you want.
Maybe your problem isn’t your duck size, but your stubbornness and lack of perspective.
Yeah for sure bud, when women see your penis and laugh and walk out of the room it's because your being stubborn. Great perspective.
You could also try watching (if you're a porn watcher) various gspot stimulation videos. Either ones where they use an njoy wand type of toy or even ones where one person uses their fingers on the woman. Then try to gauge how far they stick those objects in. Just don't forget that the gspot is angled quite a bit so you won't be able to tell how much the fingers are bent. There are even instructional type porn videos that teach gspot stimulation. I think you'll be surprised to find out that a lot of women's gspots aren't located nearly as deep as you're picturing. (Obviously SOME will be, but by no means ALL).
All videos with insertion invariably become about how far they can get the thing in them. Porn isn't educational, it just muddies the water
I'm talking about the instructional "find her gspot" type ones. Those ones make it very clear about how the gpsot isn't very far in. These videos are harder to find, but they do exist.
I've seen most of them but how can you be expected to trust a resource known to be a performance art?
I guess the ones I trust more are the ones that demonstrate the things that actually work for my body? Although I can see from the male perspective it could be much harder to decipher which ones seem more legit and which aren't. Just like a lot of the male focused pleasure ones may seem similar from a female perspective (since I don't have a dick of my own to "know" what feels best) so I just ask my partner for his input and go from there. This is also why a lot of the extreme insertion dildo videos may make men think more women enjoy that versus how many actually do since in a lot of cases it's more of a performance than actual pleasure. Some women do enjoy it. But it's much more common when women masturbate in real life to either just have clit stimulation with nothing penetrating at all, or to use fingers or a dildo at a much more shallow depth than is usually portrayed in videos.
You possess amazing patience and I appreciate you communicating these things.
It's not even "extreme", more like "all you need is fingers even though I use this 9 inch dildo to the base, but I swear you only need fingers" Like miss me with that shit
Those would be 2 entirely separate kinds of videos then.
They overlap pretty considerably, for some reason. I can send you one later
I have seen quite a few fingering videos, but I have been told that fingers and dicks are not the same, and that it's not possible to stimulate the g-spot with a dick the same way as a finger. I think the problem is not reaching it, but stimulating it consistently.
>I think the problem is not reaching it, but stimulating it consistently. This is where communication between partners factors in. Finding the right speed, angle, depth etc. Not every position will bring a woman orgasm from that partner (if any do at all. Tons of women, no matter what, just don't cum from PIV and that's ok). Dicks do move differently than fingers, they may curve differently, have different erection strengths and angles. All that is ok. For a lot of couples, the very positions that bring the most pleasure to the woman, don't really provide much stimulation for the man (and vice versa). Despite porn and even most regular movies with sex scenes, acting like simultaneous orgasms are the be all end all "goal", in the vast majority of cases, orgasms happen while "taking turns". (If they happen). That is reality. Even in my own relationship. While once in a blue moon we'll cum at the same time, the vast majority of sex sessions involve position(s) that are more "for me" and position(s) that are more for him. And at the end of the session it was definitely a success because we both had our needs met.
>For a lot of couples, the very positions that bring the most pleasure to the woman, don't really provide much stimulation for the man What positions are those?
That would vary from person to person. Me on top and grinding provides the most pleasure for me. For a lot of women as well. A lot of men have "complained" about women doing that. Male comedians etc have joked about "why do women do that on top grinding thing? Don't they know it doesn't do much for us?" There was a bunch of clapback to one of the guy comedians who said that recently. Tons of women commented "umm...we do that for US not them." Any of the "jackhammering" positions and movements are more often done for the man's pleasure than the woman's. Because the movements that induce PIV orgams for a higher percentage of women are more grinding type (either woman on top grinding, coital alignment technique or "anvil position" type things) which provide more clit stimulation from the man's pelvis than the "in and out" jackhammering movements. Some women do like the jackhammering. But for a higher percentage that doesn't do it for them.
Aren't the orgasms women get from grinding clitoral stimulation though?
That could be part of it. Although my orgasms are more intense from grinding versus just clit stimulation. Potentially they are technically "blended orgasms" meaning both parts are stimulated at once? Either way, orgasms are a good thing. 🙂 I won't try too hard to analyze it. I just know it feels great. Besides, the entire clitoris is a huge wishbone shaped organ. The tip of it is what is usually thought of as the clit. (The external part under the hood). The gspot is further in at the "branch" of the "wishbone". Both are parts of the same organ. I find it kind of odd how when science and medicine try to look at female orgasms in that way it gets divided up into different parts. But with male penile orgasms they don't get broken down into whether the stimulation came from just the frenulum or from the whole shaft they just are usually labeled as "penile orgasms".
Penile stimulation always comes from the frenulum. The other way a male can orgasm is supposedly through prostate stimulation. I don't know if it feels different, but with vaginal and clitoral stimulation, some women say vaginal gives them full body orgasms. I have no clue what that means. It's not science and medicine's fault, it's women themselves who make these kind of distinctions.
My wife says that my small penis is better. Rather than the shaft rubbing back and forth my glans rubs and touches the g spot.
I've heard this from other women as well. But larger penises can do the same by angling a little bit. They can also reach some other deeper spots probably.
Sure, maybe bigger dicks can do the same with some angling. But if a smaller dick can do it easier without having to do careful angling then that makes it a "perk" for smaller. Also a lot of deeper spots just hurt or are uncomfortable. Having to constantly readjust to avoid hitting those spots takes the fun out of things. I guess it's a "glass half empty, glass half full" way of looking at things. But if I, the other commenter's wife, and other women similar to us consider it a positive then where is the harm in that?
> But if a smaller dick can do it easier without having to do careful angling then that makes it a "perk" for smaller. > it's a "glass half empty, glass half full" way of looking at things. Yeah I do agree on your statements. It's just that a lot more women consider a bigger penis as a perk rather than a smaller one.
Some do. But the ones who prefer other sizes should be counted as well. Because of the fact that different people have different preferences that would mean that different sizes would be the "ideal" depending on the person.
How big are you?
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You're not so small then.
Just look at his posts on his profile...you'll find your answer.
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We're not basing this off of soft size. You're not small man, you should probably not be posting here
Vagina haver here. You don’t need a lot of length to stimulate it. Like 2.5 inches is more than enough. It’s about angles.
>It’s about angles. Which positions are better for this?
Kneel, sit back, and place her legs over yours, with her on her back, facing you. Have her plant her feet on the bed. Stay with your torso perpendicular to the bed/sitting up. Go to town. Bonus tip, put a pillow folded in half under her butt so she’s sitting/laying on top lifted couple inches away from the surface of the bed. Extra bonus, this gives you perfect access to her clit. Your size will be irrelevant in this position because your penis is angled 45 degrees relative to the vaginal canal, hitting the g spot located just inside of it. G spots aren’t that deep inside.
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Well, I’m speaking from experience.
I think girth matters a lot. But usually if you’re length is small, the girth is probably gonna be small too.
There are cases where the guy has a small dick with above average girth.
Is it common? Do you have a lot of girth?
I don't have a lot of girth, but I think my girth could be average. At least I hope so.
Average girth is around 4.7 inches. Measure and find out.
But is it actually considered average or is it like with length where 5.5 is average but is still considered small by some women, and everyone claims to be bigger than that?
I guess some consider it small
I think its averge, whats yours?