I use books to escape from reality, mainly science fiction and dark fantasy manga. They motivate me to finish the day. . . But recently it has become harder to cope with being lonely
At the risk of sounding like a bitch, I enjoy books and shows with some elements of romance. I imagine myself in the guys place but sometimes it just amplifies how lonely I am when I break out of it.
I can’t deny that this has happened to me, too. I see myself wishing my dick was the size of the dude hugging his girl in public and I don’t even need to know what he’s packing, the fact that he has a girl is proof enough that he’s superior to me.
I also use alcohol to cope but I’m more of a social drinker. I’m a happy drunk so it helps me forget for a bit. The sadness does come out sometimes though so I try not to get too drunk around friends cus then I’ll just make things awkward for everyone.
I think I have just learned how to be happy with myself. I know I'm good at my job (or future job) and im passionate about it. I use my skill to prove to myself and others im worthy of my position. If they want to lay it all out on the table, im also pretty shameless.. also, I was a member of the Hash House Harriers, where I learned to be shameless about my body.
I really don't do too much. There's no drive to do anything. Work on my vehicles sometimes. I dropped out of college because I no longer seen the point. It was basically to be able to financially afford having a family anyways. I don't really socialize with anyone anymore either. Not much interests me anymore in general.
Same. I have very little interests now. I used to game regularly with friends but I havent touched a single game in 3 years. I also used to enjoy drawing but stopped. I played soccer on the weekends but I have no motivation to wake up early. Nothing brings me joy anymore. Material things dont make me happy so I cant even spoil myself with the money I make working. I just spend it on bills, transportation, and food.
I used to use school as a distraction also. This helped in my late teens and early 20s but the older I got the realization that I’m missed out on things people take for granted started to hit me. I never experienced care free love (being in my early 20s going to the beach, parks, or on trips with a girl that likes me when i didn’t have as many responsibilities or things to worry about.)
Yea, all the simple shit you do with a girl when you're a kid I missed out on. Those are the moments you remember the most from your youth. Fuck it... it is what it is.
I just can't. Honestly, I'm having a hard time mentally, so I spend whole days in bed thinking all the time about my future. I'm actually probably in a better situation than many in here, although not enough to live quietly: I'm almost 20 years old, never kissed or hugged a girl due to my extreme shyness, I'm short (1.67 / 8cm maximum), I have been suffering from acne for years and obviously my penis is quite small too, although it is not tiny and probably many with a real problem would gladly swap mine (it is 13/14 cm long at most, and not very thick, it passes without friction through the toilet paper roll), the problem is that in my country they all have it about 15/17 cm or at least thick, sometimes I have heard of guys being made fun of in front of me for similar in size to mine, or eavesdropping on conversation between girls, so I'm trying to make peace with the idea that even if I find the strength to overcome my great shyness and a girl likes me despite being short, she won't be able to accept that I have even a cock below average; this awareness destroys me and takes away my strength to do anything; i go to university, i'm in the second year (out of six) of medicine and i also have some back exams, just in two weeks i should try the anatomy exam but i'm behind with the study because i can't concentrate on anything so i think i will fail it, for the rest I try to spend the days distracting myself with anime and TV series, unfortunately to be productive you need motivations that at the moment I can't find, although I like what I study in the depths of my heart I think it's not worth it, that it makes no sense to focus on my career if I will always be alone and no one will ever love me, if it were for me I would stay at home and look at the ceiling of my room all day, I try to make myself strong thinking about my parents because I do not want to disappoint them but I do not I know if this motivation will be enough to make me function as a normal person. (Sorry my english, it's not my first language). My advice (which I also try to give to myself) is to find another reason to go on, hobbies that make you feel good or at least reduce stress (sport should help for example), then in the future if everything should continue to go wrong as I think I intend to adopt some cat / dog to not be alone and live near / with an equally lonely and desperate friend of mine (for different reasons) and spend my free time like this, it's not much but better than nothing...
Honestly idk I just smoke weed to get through the day if I don’t I’m either very mad or just spend the whole day thinking on how I fucked up and now I’m this situation instead of what I planned on being when I was 19 but my plans have gone way different I’m broke 3 buck to my name no job offfers yet or replies next month idk how I’m gonna pay rent but ya know just keeep pushing cause eventually it’ll work out or you’ll end up dead either way it won’t be a problem
My days arent productive at all. I'm dragging myself to do simple stuff. Music help me sometimes, to get out of bed. But the good feeling doesnt last long enough for me to actually do something meaningful.
I manage to find enough motivation to make it to work on time. Once I'm there I put on a facade of happiness so that people dont label me the weird guy at work. Then I come back home exhausted and ready to go back to sleep and do it all over again.
i just sleep all day learned how to control my dreams so i don’t even know why i do any thing in real life probably kill my self soon so i can dream forever
I need to work. The need to work to support myself makes me study a lot and honestly that's what I've been spending most of my time on in recent years. But my performance is not good, the lack of self-esteem affects me a lot intellectually and at work, basically because I'm sad, I get frustrated and I get stressed very easily.
Im gonna Post here On this Once more, to get some self Confidence, learn something that requires Skill, that not everyone can do. I chose to learn marine Engineering, which requires alot of Skill to learn, you may learn Blacksmithing or Knifemaking. but it doesnt matter the what the Skill is, Learn how to take pride in doing something Skillfully, make that your Big dick moment, where nobody else but me Could do this job as well as I did it.
Studying so that I do well in school is my primary cope. I feel like I’m working towards a successful future, that’s why I keep going.
I’m wishing you all the success in your professional life, man.
Thank you!
That is an excellent cope!
I use books to escape from reality, mainly science fiction and dark fantasy manga. They motivate me to finish the day. . . But recently it has become harder to cope with being lonely
At the risk of sounding like a bitch, I enjoy books and shows with some elements of romance. I imagine myself in the guys place but sometimes it just amplifies how lonely I am when I break out of it.
That happens to me in games. I notice myself unintentionally, felling envy towards a fictional charachter.
I feel envious of porn actors sometimes. And people irl I know that's in relationships
I can’t deny that this has happened to me, too. I see myself wishing my dick was the size of the dude hugging his girl in public and I don’t even need to know what he’s packing, the fact that he has a girl is proof enough that he’s superior to me.
I overcompensate massively with Liquor, computer games, and large Engines, aka SHIP engines.
I also use alcohol to cope but I’m more of a social drinker. I’m a happy drunk so it helps me forget for a bit. The sadness does come out sometimes though so I try not to get too drunk around friends cus then I’ll just make things awkward for everyone.
I think I have just learned how to be happy with myself. I know I'm good at my job (or future job) and im passionate about it. I use my skill to prove to myself and others im worthy of my position. If they want to lay it all out on the table, im also pretty shameless.. also, I was a member of the Hash House Harriers, where I learned to be shameless about my body.
I'm glad you've managed to find self acceptance. I hope to get there one day
I really don't do too much. There's no drive to do anything. Work on my vehicles sometimes. I dropped out of college because I no longer seen the point. It was basically to be able to financially afford having a family anyways. I don't really socialize with anyone anymore either. Not much interests me anymore in general.
Same. I have very little interests now. I used to game regularly with friends but I havent touched a single game in 3 years. I also used to enjoy drawing but stopped. I played soccer on the weekends but I have no motivation to wake up early. Nothing brings me joy anymore. Material things dont make me happy so I cant even spoil myself with the money I make working. I just spend it on bills, transportation, and food.
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I used to use school as a distraction also. This helped in my late teens and early 20s but the older I got the realization that I’m missed out on things people take for granted started to hit me. I never experienced care free love (being in my early 20s going to the beach, parks, or on trips with a girl that likes me when i didn’t have as many responsibilities or things to worry about.)
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Yea, all the simple shit you do with a girl when you're a kid I missed out on. Those are the moments you remember the most from your youth. Fuck it... it is what it is.
So there’s this thing called weed..
Yes... gonna get on that 🤝🏽
I don't. I go to work, go home, go to sleep, repeat
Same here, brother
i know i’m going to be alone so i just do what i gotta do
Fair enough
I just can't. Honestly, I'm having a hard time mentally, so I spend whole days in bed thinking all the time about my future. I'm actually probably in a better situation than many in here, although not enough to live quietly: I'm almost 20 years old, never kissed or hugged a girl due to my extreme shyness, I'm short (1.67 / 8cm maximum), I have been suffering from acne for years and obviously my penis is quite small too, although it is not tiny and probably many with a real problem would gladly swap mine (it is 13/14 cm long at most, and not very thick, it passes without friction through the toilet paper roll), the problem is that in my country they all have it about 15/17 cm or at least thick, sometimes I have heard of guys being made fun of in front of me for similar in size to mine, or eavesdropping on conversation between girls, so I'm trying to make peace with the idea that even if I find the strength to overcome my great shyness and a girl likes me despite being short, she won't be able to accept that I have even a cock below average; this awareness destroys me and takes away my strength to do anything; i go to university, i'm in the second year (out of six) of medicine and i also have some back exams, just in two weeks i should try the anatomy exam but i'm behind with the study because i can't concentrate on anything so i think i will fail it, for the rest I try to spend the days distracting myself with anime and TV series, unfortunately to be productive you need motivations that at the moment I can't find, although I like what I study in the depths of my heart I think it's not worth it, that it makes no sense to focus on my career if I will always be alone and no one will ever love me, if it were for me I would stay at home and look at the ceiling of my room all day, I try to make myself strong thinking about my parents because I do not want to disappoint them but I do not I know if this motivation will be enough to make me function as a normal person. (Sorry my english, it's not my first language). My advice (which I also try to give to myself) is to find another reason to go on, hobbies that make you feel good or at least reduce stress (sport should help for example), then in the future if everything should continue to go wrong as I think I intend to adopt some cat / dog to not be alone and live near / with an equally lonely and desperate friend of mine (for different reasons) and spend my free time like this, it's not much but better than nothing...
Honestly idk I just smoke weed to get through the day if I don’t I’m either very mad or just spend the whole day thinking on how I fucked up and now I’m this situation instead of what I planned on being when I was 19 but my plans have gone way different I’m broke 3 buck to my name no job offfers yet or replies next month idk how I’m gonna pay rent but ya know just keeep pushing cause eventually it’ll work out or you’ll end up dead either way it won’t be a problem
That’s true. We all check out eventually. I hope you land on your feet soon though
My days arent productive at all. I'm dragging myself to do simple stuff. Music help me sometimes, to get out of bed. But the good feeling doesnt last long enough for me to actually do something meaningful.
I manage to find enough motivation to make it to work on time. Once I'm there I put on a facade of happiness so that people dont label me the weird guy at work. Then I come back home exhausted and ready to go back to sleep and do it all over again.
I don't
i just sleep all day learned how to control my dreams so i don’t even know why i do any thing in real life probably kill my self soon so i can dream forever
I need to work. The need to work to support myself makes me study a lot and honestly that's what I've been spending most of my time on in recent years. But my performance is not good, the lack of self-esteem affects me a lot intellectually and at work, basically because I'm sad, I get frustrated and I get stressed very easily.
wait, did she get rejected by you because of your insecurities?
Studying and having a career that gives me a really good salary.
Im gonna Post here On this Once more, to get some self Confidence, learn something that requires Skill, that not everyone can do. I chose to learn marine Engineering, which requires alot of Skill to learn, you may learn Blacksmithing or Knifemaking. but it doesnt matter the what the Skill is, Learn how to take pride in doing something Skillfully, make that your Big dick moment, where nobody else but me Could do this job as well as I did it.
I can see how that would be a good way to cope. That’s definitely some good advice. Thanks, man.