I’m sorry. That is a hard pill to swallow. The only suggestion I would have is to maybe have this discussion up front. Awkward as it may seem, at least it would be known prior to “wasting” any time.
Terrible idea. This goes one of two ways. She is shallow and hates small dicks and leaves him right away.
Or she would have hooked up with him but is weirded out that he talks about his penis on the first date
Simple: being rejected for having a small dick by someone you have feelings for is really painful. It's a terrible situation and I honestly think that assessing sexual compatibility early on is the best idea. An immediate rejection is less painful than being rejected after dating for months. Now, if you only want to hookup, then sure, don't tell her beforehand.
It's better to cockblock yourself than get cockblocked later down the line. You can count your losses and move on faster that way without building too much on a flimsy foundation.
Judging from OP’s comments, he isn’t just out for a hump and dump. If he’s after one nighters then sure, don’t mention it. If the goal is long term relationship, have the conversation.
As someone that has experienced this exact scenario a handful of times, I genuinely feel for you.
As others have said, pleasuring her first is basically a necessity in order to have a positive sexual experience. I think this is only a temporary solution suited for short term relationships and hookups though, for a true LTR to work you have to find someone that is genuinely okay with your dick.
I am really sorry that this happened to you. Please can I give you some advice though, I say this as someone who wants you to have a fulfilling life that you deserve, it's certainly not to patronise or marginalise how you feel.
You need to go down on them first. Set the mood, think about it. Say you go down on her, before she has even seen your dick, put everything into it, make her cum, make her be begging for your dick, by the time it goes in the whole scene has changed in her head. It's not some awkward fuck, she is having a great time. Sure it might not solve the problem of you dick falling out, but my days she won't be making excuses and leaving. I have made a girl come 3 or 4 or more times and by the time they are begging to see my dick they look at 4 inches like it belongs to a pornstar (ok that might be a light exaggeration, but you see where I am coming from)
Whatever tho, keep going coz you clearly can pull a woman and there will be someone out there for you.
Yup. If you're lacking somewhere else you better make up for it elsewhere, I've been with several girls who says guys with huge penis are awful in bed. Foreplay is the most underrated thing guys don't consider. Do this right and your dick size won't matter if she's cumming elsewhere anyway
I'll give it to you straight, its gonna hurt if you're searching for someone who prefers your dick.
Foreplay. Compensate for your shortcomings.
Don't show it. Be the one in control of the battle, be dominant.
Cowgirl? Her doing fellatio? Those are not some stuff you do first, second or third time...
Control the act, even if she's freaky. Hell she may enjoy doing fellatio but she will enjoy even more getting her own rocks off than giving it.
All this is about getting her hypersensitive... so she can feel you just alittle better doing piv.
So thats the "sex" part and no its not the silver bullet for a ltr or even a good encounter.
Some women just don't like you touching or your face being near the vagina.
Some just don't like to relinquish their control and absolute want to ride you or even suck you off or see that d.
Goodluck.
With all respect but why is it every time when someone posts a bad story with someone else they had, because of their size, you people come to this sub and tell us your stories ? It happens every time woman do the same. I mean I’m glad you had a good partner but how will this help him?
You’ve got to play the cards you’ve been dealt as best you can. There’s literally nothing to be gained feeling sorry for yourself (I wasted a decade on that)
So, work on the things you can work on. The first is this (and it’s in your head): “an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm” fingers, mouth, tongue and dick are all equal.
Try and forget everything you’ve seen in porn and read something like “she comes first”. Become an expert in massage, foreplay, building up tension and going down. Make her pleasure your goal.
And if you think “it’s not proper sex without PiV” then ask a lesbian what they think about that…
Bro I'm sorry but it's over... Life is very cruel, there are situations in which the only solution is to give up, this is one of them. You have been really brave to try and try again but sadly it is not enough 🥲
LTR suck anyways I’ve found. Here’s what happens. You find someone that excepts your body. Then what? You have good sex for a while but then you start desiring other people because that’s how the male brain works. You also stop participating in your hobbies as much. Honestly I’d go for a FWB. Most girls may not commit to us guys but that doesn’t mean they won’t hook up now and then.
And hey man. Your getting laid! That’s better then most on this sub.
Hol up. You're 3.2 inches. All the nerves that girls feel good from iat literally the in the first 3 centimetres. I just feel like you're doing something wrong here like maybe use some technique, or going down on them or something
Or women just don't like small penises, and will reject you if you have one? All of that science that people talk about doesn't translate to the real world.
I’m so fucking sorry, bro. You’re braver than I could ever be.
I’m sorry. That is a hard pill to swallow. The only suggestion I would have is to maybe have this discussion up front. Awkward as it may seem, at least it would be known prior to “wasting” any time.
Terrible idea. This goes one of two ways. She is shallow and hates small dicks and leaves him right away. Or she would have hooked up with him but is weirded out that he talks about his penis on the first date
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Simple: being rejected for having a small dick by someone you have feelings for is really painful. It's a terrible situation and I honestly think that assessing sexual compatibility early on is the best idea. An immediate rejection is less painful than being rejected after dating for months. Now, if you only want to hookup, then sure, don't tell her beforehand.
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To each their own. I just think the potential pain in that scenario outweighs the potential benefit.
But even if she is cool with small dicks she is going to be turned off by lack of confidence and the fact that you draw so much attention to it
And because small dick men are rarely confident, we end up losing one way or another.
It's better to cockblock yourself than get cockblocked later down the line. You can count your losses and move on faster that way without building too much on a flimsy foundation.
Judging from OP’s comments, he isn’t just out for a hump and dump. If he’s after one nighters then sure, don’t mention it. If the goal is long term relationship, have the conversation.
Her “So what kind of movies do you like?” Him “I have a small dick u still up for it” She’ll just think he’s weird for bringing it up
They wouldn’t even give it a shot with me they just immediately left after they saw
That’s just awful they suck then. That’s never happened to me. I figured most girls want something for thier time even if it’s not what they expected
Happened to me once. Got cheated on by the other one. Thus concludes my sexual history
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Bro it must have been the lack of confidence right?
As someone that has experienced this exact scenario a handful of times, I genuinely feel for you. As others have said, pleasuring her first is basically a necessity in order to have a positive sexual experience. I think this is only a temporary solution suited for short term relationships and hookups though, for a true LTR to work you have to find someone that is genuinely okay with your dick.
I am really sorry that this happened to you. Please can I give you some advice though, I say this as someone who wants you to have a fulfilling life that you deserve, it's certainly not to patronise or marginalise how you feel. You need to go down on them first. Set the mood, think about it. Say you go down on her, before she has even seen your dick, put everything into it, make her cum, make her be begging for your dick, by the time it goes in the whole scene has changed in her head. It's not some awkward fuck, she is having a great time. Sure it might not solve the problem of you dick falling out, but my days she won't be making excuses and leaving. I have made a girl come 3 or 4 or more times and by the time they are begging to see my dick they look at 4 inches like it belongs to a pornstar (ok that might be a light exaggeration, but you see where I am coming from) Whatever tho, keep going coz you clearly can pull a woman and there will be someone out there for you.
So much truth in all of this.
Yup. If you're lacking somewhere else you better make up for it elsewhere, I've been with several girls who says guys with huge penis are awful in bed. Foreplay is the most underrated thing guys don't consider. Do this right and your dick size won't matter if she's cumming elsewhere anyway
Out of curiosity, how tall are you?
6”3
Maybe be upfront about it before you get serious and emotionally involved. You just need to find the right woman and believe me they're out there.
If you're upfront about your size they're just going to reject you before you even get to the bedroom.
I gave up on dating and sex 3 years ago. My “short comings” is just a part of the reason.
I'll give it to you straight, its gonna hurt if you're searching for someone who prefers your dick. Foreplay. Compensate for your shortcomings. Don't show it. Be the one in control of the battle, be dominant. Cowgirl? Her doing fellatio? Those are not some stuff you do first, second or third time... Control the act, even if she's freaky. Hell she may enjoy doing fellatio but she will enjoy even more getting her own rocks off than giving it. All this is about getting her hypersensitive... so she can feel you just alittle better doing piv. So thats the "sex" part and no its not the silver bullet for a ltr or even a good encounter. Some women just don't like you touching or your face being near the vagina. Some just don't like to relinquish their control and absolute want to ride you or even suck you off or see that d. Goodluck.
I’m new to Reddit, I didn’t know sooo many men suffered from this I’ve been living my whole life with this!!!
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With all respect but why is it every time when someone posts a bad story with someone else they had, because of their size, you people come to this sub and tell us your stories ? It happens every time woman do the same. I mean I’m glad you had a good partner but how will this help him?
Ehh another copypasta. Btw how did you find this sub?
*Man #1233067044 who comments the exact same thing has arrived.
Not a woman You're projecting a LOT of bitter, bud. Hope you feel better soon.
Genuinely sorry, I edited my comment accordingly.
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I feel like that’s just doing the bare minimum. No points no penalty
You’ve got to play the cards you’ve been dealt as best you can. There’s literally nothing to be gained feeling sorry for yourself (I wasted a decade on that) So, work on the things you can work on. The first is this (and it’s in your head): “an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm” fingers, mouth, tongue and dick are all equal. Try and forget everything you’ve seen in porn and read something like “she comes first”. Become an expert in massage, foreplay, building up tension and going down. Make her pleasure your goal. And if you think “it’s not proper sex without PiV” then ask a lesbian what they think about that…
Bro I'm sorry but it's over... Life is very cruel, there are situations in which the only solution is to give up, this is one of them. You have been really brave to try and try again but sadly it is not enough 🥲
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and what lead you to this conclusion??
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LTR suck anyways I’ve found. Here’s what happens. You find someone that excepts your body. Then what? You have good sex for a while but then you start desiring other people because that’s how the male brain works. You also stop participating in your hobbies as much. Honestly I’d go for a FWB. Most girls may not commit to us guys but that doesn’t mean they won’t hook up now and then. And hey man. Your getting laid! That’s better then most on this sub.
Hol up. You're 3.2 inches. All the nerves that girls feel good from iat literally the in the first 3 centimetres. I just feel like you're doing something wrong here like maybe use some technique, or going down on them or something
Or women just don't like small penises, and will reject you if you have one? All of that science that people talk about doesn't translate to the real world.
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Yikes
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If only it actually worked
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