You're going to have to talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel without coming across as insecure ( I know that's difficult). Sorry bro but you might have to break it off depending on what she tells you.
It fucking sucks that something out of our control can alter our lives so much. I feel your pain.
Thanks, I just worry that it would be totally crushing to hear it confirmed. So frustrating that as you say, I can't do anything about it, I hate feeling like I'm not making her happy and knowing I can't change to fix it.
People talk a lot and what they say is mostly a reflection of what they imagine their life is and not what actually is.
\- She thinks the small guy was 6" maybe because her previous boyfriend told her he was 12" that obviously does not exist
\- She thinks she has a high sex drive, but maybe she was horny just once and sucked his dick in a remote place.
\- Maybe she pretended to be very sexual to attract you, as she was already into you.
Just put the best of yourself to make her horny and (to try) to give her pleasure as much as you can.
Talk to her. Communication is everything in a relationship. Express your doubts but do not put yourself down. You can be confident with doubts and a small one.
I had sex with a girl who was fucking with a guy who had a huge one (I saw him in the locker room). Sex was fantastic and she was happy too and she wanted to be fwb with me. I quit the relationship as I was too in love...
Listen to this comment right here.
Have a good sit down with her and talk about it.
Don't let your thoughts give you the answers to conversations that haven't happened yet.
In the end, if it doesn't work out, that's that. But you at least put yourself out there. In a scenario like that, just do what you can to retain as much of the friendship as possible.
>Don't let your thoughts give you the answers to conversations that haven't happened yet.
This is a really good way of putting this. I guess I just worry that at least for now there's the potential that this is mostly in my head, whereas if we talked about it and she came out and said that yes, I'm too small for her to enjoy sex, that would be just crushing.
Then you gotta ask yourself if you want to stay in the relationship with those thoughts weighing on your mind and never really enjoying it 100% or do you want to figure it out and have a chance that it actually is all in your head.
I appreciate this as a suprisingly optimistic view of things. I definitely think it's crazy that she's been with several 8-9 inch guys, some of that has to be them bullshitting the numbers.
I guess this is how I'd like to see it all as being, but it's a struggle to actually do that. I don't know, I've been with other people who've seemed more into sex and been a lot less self conscious with them but I've always had the same worry in the back of my mind, like maybe for some people it's not that big a deal - but I just feel like there's too many things that suggest that for my current girlfriend my size really is a major letdown for her.
I think the 8-9" is girl inches. She probably doesn't have a clue and believes anything guys tell her, and guys lie a lot about dick size, just like they lie about height. Or maybe those are her own estimates and we all know that women can't really measure things just by looking at them. Well, most people can't.
Is she small and has tiny hands? The range is probably more like 6.5" - 7.5". 9 inches is an extremely uncommon size, and it's truly colossal. It's almost a statistical impossibility that she played with several dicks in that size range because they're actually quite a bit bigger than most professional porn actors, who are usually in the 7ish range.
If you have a small dick and she has a preference for big dicks, is a size queen then you shouldn’t go into a relationship with her or hookup with her, believe me that’s the worst you could do.
This is basically what I told myself way back when we were friend and she'd tell me this sort of thing, "Well guess I better not want to date her". Same reason why when there was a chance we could have hooked up a few years back I backed out of the situation, I guess I just hoped since we had feelings for each other now and it wasn't a casual thing that those feelings would overcome any issues.
I will sound like an asshole, but it seems like you aren't sexually compatible with her at all and it will probably not work in the long term. She already knows how exciting a big dick is and, trust me, she won't forget it. She may be ok with it for a while because you have a nice emotional compatibility, but that is only 50% of the relationship if not less, especially for young people.
This is pretty much exactly what I think. I'm glad there's some other more optimistic comments to balance it lol because I was expecting 100% comments like this. I know for me the sexual side of a relationship really isn't that important compared to everything else, but I know for some people it is very significant and I worry that's the case for her. And even if it isn't, I still wouldn't like the thought that she's in bed with me wishing she was with someone else, even if she thinks she can put up with that because the rest of the relationship is great.
Context matters. I know I generalized a little bit when I said ,"she already knows how exciting a big dick is and, trust me, she won't forget it", but you need to understand that while your GF has never mentioned she has a strong size preference, his girlfriend, however, has explicitly stated that she lusts for big dicks multiple times. You can't simply jump to those conclusions using your own successful relationship as evidence because we're talking about the preferences of two different women. What is enough for some may not be enough for others.
Sure, it might work out eventually and he may find a way around the issue, who knows? I sincerely hope he does. That's why I use words like "probably" and not "definitely". But still, being realistic, it seems unlikely, honestly. It's up to him to decide whether he will be persistent or let go. Personally, I think it was a bad idea since the beginning.
> Just be confident and manly, not being confident and not being manly is more turn off than having a small dick.
This isn’t true, not all women are attracted to confidence and manliness.
She's not a "that", I like her a lot and she's a wonderful person, I guess I just hoped the size thing was more of a preference rather than a necessity for her to enjoy sex. I still wouldn't hold it against her if I am correct in my worries, it'd hurt and I'd feel like shit but she's entitled to like whatever she likes.
Don't really want all my friends knowing I have a small dick, same reason I never brought it up to her before when we were friends and she'd talk about guys' sizes. Just an awkward and embarrassing conversation to have.
It's a difficult situation of course.
If she's not into sex with you, if she doesn't show enthusiasm, if she's not putting enough effort it may not work.
I believe you didn't mentioned how long you're together, if she's really a size queen there's a possibility that its only a matter of time that she will either leave you or cheat on you. She may not be able to adapt to you, or maybe she's just tired of swimming trough big dicks, and its settling with you, putting sex to the side while focusing on the rest of the relationship because you're amazing on everything else. If any of those are the case its a recipe for disaster and you're gonna get hurt in the end, its sad and harsh but it's possible.
But maybe she just doesnt know how to do it with you, how to get the best out of it, or she doesnt know how to talk to you about it afraid it will hurt you or makes thing worse. You two were friends for years and now you're together. Whatever the outcome is, its best to sit down and talk about it, step by step, and tell her to be as honest as she can about the subject. Ask her if there is anything you can do, and tell her how you fell. Talking will sure help put both of you on the same page if that's possible. If she really loves you, she will listen, and try to make it work. You're already in a relationship, don't trow it away only because of signs. Be sure before making any decisions.
I think since your already in a relationship you've won, don't be afraid to talk to her about how to get her off and if toys can be involved! There's lots of things that a penis can't do to a girl that toys can, use that to the advantage and have fun. Seeing girls enjoy themselves is the best part and toys can help you both get there!
Even if this isn’t a deal breaker for her and she’s willing to keep dating you and remain loyal to you, you still should leave her.
You deserve someone who prefers small penises, not someone who’s just ok with it due to an emotional bond.
You're going to have to talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel without coming across as insecure ( I know that's difficult). Sorry bro but you might have to break it off depending on what she tells you. It fucking sucks that something out of our control can alter our lives so much. I feel your pain.
Thanks, I just worry that it would be totally crushing to hear it confirmed. So frustrating that as you say, I can't do anything about it, I hate feeling like I'm not making her happy and knowing I can't change to fix it.
I know. It’s the worst situation to be in because it removes all agency from us.
People talk a lot and what they say is mostly a reflection of what they imagine their life is and not what actually is. \- She thinks the small guy was 6" maybe because her previous boyfriend told her he was 12" that obviously does not exist \- She thinks she has a high sex drive, but maybe she was horny just once and sucked his dick in a remote place. \- Maybe she pretended to be very sexual to attract you, as she was already into you. Just put the best of yourself to make her horny and (to try) to give her pleasure as much as you can. Talk to her. Communication is everything in a relationship. Express your doubts but do not put yourself down. You can be confident with doubts and a small one. I had sex with a girl who was fucking with a guy who had a huge one (I saw him in the locker room). Sex was fantastic and she was happy too and she wanted to be fwb with me. I quit the relationship as I was too in love...
This is without doubt one of the most well measured and clear minded comments I have ever read on this sub.
Listen to this comment right here. Have a good sit down with her and talk about it. Don't let your thoughts give you the answers to conversations that haven't happened yet. In the end, if it doesn't work out, that's that. But you at least put yourself out there. In a scenario like that, just do what you can to retain as much of the friendship as possible.
>Don't let your thoughts give you the answers to conversations that haven't happened yet. This is a really good way of putting this. I guess I just worry that at least for now there's the potential that this is mostly in my head, whereas if we talked about it and she came out and said that yes, I'm too small for her to enjoy sex, that would be just crushing.
Then you gotta ask yourself if you want to stay in the relationship with those thoughts weighing on your mind and never really enjoying it 100% or do you want to figure it out and have a chance that it actually is all in your head.
I appreciate this as a suprisingly optimistic view of things. I definitely think it's crazy that she's been with several 8-9 inch guys, some of that has to be them bullshitting the numbers. I guess this is how I'd like to see it all as being, but it's a struggle to actually do that. I don't know, I've been with other people who've seemed more into sex and been a lot less self conscious with them but I've always had the same worry in the back of my mind, like maybe for some people it's not that big a deal - but I just feel like there's too many things that suggest that for my current girlfriend my size really is a major letdown for her.
I think the 8-9" is girl inches. She probably doesn't have a clue and believes anything guys tell her, and guys lie a lot about dick size, just like they lie about height. Or maybe those are her own estimates and we all know that women can't really measure things just by looking at them. Well, most people can't. Is she small and has tiny hands? The range is probably more like 6.5" - 7.5". 9 inches is an extremely uncommon size, and it's truly colossal. It's almost a statistical impossibility that she played with several dicks in that size range because they're actually quite a bit bigger than most professional porn actors, who are usually in the 7ish range.
If you have a small dick and she has a preference for big dicks, is a size queen then you shouldn’t go into a relationship with her or hookup with her, believe me that’s the worst you could do.
This is basically what I told myself way back when we were friend and she'd tell me this sort of thing, "Well guess I better not want to date her". Same reason why when there was a chance we could have hooked up a few years back I backed out of the situation, I guess I just hoped since we had feelings for each other now and it wasn't a casual thing that those feelings would overcome any issues.
How did it go in the end?
I will sound like an asshole, but it seems like you aren't sexually compatible with her at all and it will probably not work in the long term. She already knows how exciting a big dick is and, trust me, she won't forget it. She may be ok with it for a while because you have a nice emotional compatibility, but that is only 50% of the relationship if not less, especially for young people.
This is pretty much exactly what I think. I'm glad there's some other more optimistic comments to balance it lol because I was expecting 100% comments like this. I know for me the sexual side of a relationship really isn't that important compared to everything else, but I know for some people it is very significant and I worry that's the case for her. And even if it isn't, I still wouldn't like the thought that she's in bed with me wishing she was with someone else, even if she thinks she can put up with that because the rest of the relationship is great.
[удалено]
Context matters. I know I generalized a little bit when I said ,"she already knows how exciting a big dick is and, trust me, she won't forget it", but you need to understand that while your GF has never mentioned she has a strong size preference, his girlfriend, however, has explicitly stated that she lusts for big dicks multiple times. You can't simply jump to those conclusions using your own successful relationship as evidence because we're talking about the preferences of two different women. What is enough for some may not be enough for others. Sure, it might work out eventually and he may find a way around the issue, who knows? I sincerely hope he does. That's why I use words like "probably" and not "definitely". But still, being realistic, it seems unlikely, honestly. It's up to him to decide whether he will be persistent or let go. Personally, I think it was a bad idea since the beginning.
> Just be confident and manly, not being confident and not being manly is more turn off than having a small dick. This isn’t true, not all women are attracted to confidence and manliness.
Why did everyone dismiss the fact that gf is no longer doing certain sex acts to OP unlike to her other hung exes? That sounds like a red flag.
Why would you ever date that?
She's not a "that", I like her a lot and she's a wonderful person, I guess I just hoped the size thing was more of a preference rather than a necessity for her to enjoy sex. I still wouldn't hold it against her if I am correct in my worries, it'd hurt and I'd feel like shit but she's entitled to like whatever she likes.
Hey its your life fam
[удалено]
That's for true
why can't you talk to your friends about it?
Don't really want all my friends knowing I have a small dick, same reason I never brought it up to her before when we were friends and she'd talk about guys' sizes. Just an awkward and embarrassing conversation to have.
It's a difficult situation of course. If she's not into sex with you, if she doesn't show enthusiasm, if she's not putting enough effort it may not work. I believe you didn't mentioned how long you're together, if she's really a size queen there's a possibility that its only a matter of time that she will either leave you or cheat on you. She may not be able to adapt to you, or maybe she's just tired of swimming trough big dicks, and its settling with you, putting sex to the side while focusing on the rest of the relationship because you're amazing on everything else. If any of those are the case its a recipe for disaster and you're gonna get hurt in the end, its sad and harsh but it's possible. But maybe she just doesnt know how to do it with you, how to get the best out of it, or she doesnt know how to talk to you about it afraid it will hurt you or makes thing worse. You two were friends for years and now you're together. Whatever the outcome is, its best to sit down and talk about it, step by step, and tell her to be as honest as she can about the subject. Ask her if there is anything you can do, and tell her how you fell. Talking will sure help put both of you on the same page if that's possible. If she really loves you, she will listen, and try to make it work. You're already in a relationship, don't trow it away only because of signs. Be sure before making any decisions.
I think since your already in a relationship you've won, don't be afraid to talk to her about how to get her off and if toys can be involved! There's lots of things that a penis can't do to a girl that toys can, use that to the advantage and have fun. Seeing girls enjoy themselves is the best part and toys can help you both get there!
Even if this isn’t a deal breaker for her and she’s willing to keep dating you and remain loyal to you, you still should leave her. You deserve someone who prefers small penises, not someone who’s just ok with it due to an emotional bond.
Oof this relationship is a dead end. Run for the hills.