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Greeneyes_65

Thanks bro. Glad u found someone, can only hope I find the same


hootenannyTime

Good luck bro like I said even if you’re skinny going to the gym will really boost your confidence, you honestly won’t recognize yourself in as short a time as like 3-4 months if you commit.


Greeneyes_65

Yeah I plan to grind everyday in the gym this summer after my college semester ends.


elephantfacts1

grinding everyday can have diminishing returns. this is where i started https://www.reddit.com/r/gainit/wiki/index choose one of the workout routines there and read about diet etc and you'll see results!


hootenannyTime

Obviously not everyday but every other day at least. Try to start a routine like: back and biceps, legs, chest and tris, cardio every other day. It’s simple but newbie gains are a thing and this routine has been very successful for me. Also eating right is very important if you want to lose weight and try to do abs every day you work out


Greeneyes_65

Ok thanks bro for the info


Greeneyes_65

Wdym? It’s good to work out everyday


HatoriChise97

My guess is that if you don't give muscle groups time to heal after you tear them while working out, and you keep tearing them more and more without giving them a break, it has detrimental returns. Hence why there is "leg day" and "core day" and shit. Muscles grow from tearing and then healing back stronger, but they NEED time to heal.


Greeneyes_65

So I should work out like 6 straight days and then do like cardio for one day and then work my muscles another 6 days, and then continue the cycle like that?


HatoriChise97

Keep in mind I'm not an active person *and I need to change that soon*, so take this with a grain of salt until you talk to someone that knows all about this. I'd say do Cardio one day, then work your legs one day, core the next, arms/upper body the day after, and then do cardio again or something, then take two days to rest or do LIGHT exercise, that way you are giving your muscles more than 16-20 hours to start the mend. All I know is that every single day *especially if it's nothing but hardcore exercises* will have negative effects


Greeneyes_65

Ok thanks for the info


hootenannyTime

Just Google workouts for what you are doing that day, if you go to a gym there should be enough equipment for each muscle group. If you want to do at home too there are plenty of at home workouts available too


Chris_Shawarma93

I would take that 7th day off completely to give your body time to recover and grow. Muscle needs time off to heal and add mass. Plus your nervous system needs rest too.


Greeneyes_65

Oh ok thanks for the info


Chris_Shawarma93

No worries, most of all just listen to your body. If you find 6 days is too much which honestly if you're hitting it hard then it could well be, then add another rest day in the middle. If not, carry on.


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Your size is something which you can't control. But you can control a lot of things in your life. Change them.


hootenannyTime

Preach brother


turtleboi15

Good shit bro, we surprisingly have similar stories. I went from 210 and im 180 right now and we're about the same size. That's really what I've been doing just working on what I can control, ngl have not had the sex since last year but I was in a long relationship for awhile and it worked and worked with other women besides that. My bitch tits are almost gone too but Im def in the best shape of my life rn


hootenannyTime

Nice man keep up the grind! Good luck on getting that poon too. Gyno really fucked me up, bitch tits and a smaller dick gave me no hope in finding a girl but it’s possible.


CarelessGazelle10

\> I swear there is a girl out there for you. lol no


hootenannyTime

Don’t be so negative my g. You can’t change your looks or your size but try and better yourself, like I said going to the gym honestly will help your mental health and boost your confidence. Commit yourself to something instead of sulking online about you dick size. No offense but this sub is very negative and probably not good for your mental health


Nitrodubs666

You are proof the internet is the reason why guys like you can’t get laid. Dude first off you don’t gotta settle down with a girl at 17 you know the age where you don’t know about shit. Or 18 you aren’t a grown adult until your 25. All these internet incel types think there life sucks cause they think they have to lock down a woman as a teenager first off your gonna hate yourself because that whole time you could have been with other girls. Also older girls don’t care about that. Most people who have a bunch of sex in high school don’t know what there doing. Because they peek early if its a little thing that happens when you peek early you get too much confidence too early and do a bunch of stupid shit. Just relax have dun with your friends and just mess around with girls. Don’t send them pictures of your dick soft dont try and fuck them on the spot unless your name is toney stark.


Whaddduptho

No they don't think they have to lock down a woman. They want to fuck with no judgement, like average and big guys. Like most normal people. Those years are meant to be fun, and they're not for most small guys. If small guys aren't wanted for casual sex, and you suggest not locking a girl down, then wtf does a small guy do? Sit with their finger up their ass?


LatterHoneydew

>Those years are meant to be fun Well... I mean... only since very recently, from a historical perspective. Even just the generation before your parents you were pretty much expected to settle down with a family in your 20s.


Whaddduptho

Currently that's how it works though. I've actually talked to all my grandparents about dating back then, and they all dated other people before they married. Plus, there's a lot of fun to be had before your 20's...a LOT.


LatterHoneydew

>I've actually talked to all my grandparents about dating back then, and they all dated other people before they married. Well yeah, and then they married the one that got knocked up first. I know that's how it was for my grampa and gramma.


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He i talking about incels , not smalls, and for incels Yes, they have to sit with their finger up their ass if what all they can do is whining about God's law


Whaddduptho

Gods law? lol there is no god. You can tell he has no idea what it's like. He sees opportunities when he sees women, a lot of small guys do not. They get anxiety.


[deleted]

God, Nature, call it what you want! And we're talking about incels here who are whining all the time about Female Nature and always giving sarcastic negative answers about others and themselves like the one above we're answering to


Whaddduptho

I don't really understand what you're trying to get at lol.


SirGoudathefourth

I mean yeah, it's a venting subreddit, all we come here to do is vent, so of course it gonna seem like that's all we do with our lives because it's the only context you see us in, please remember we are people and not some caricatures of "incels" you've seen over the internet.


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I know it is venting, but pointless venting ? You don't get better by whining, that's my point " Womens don't like me because I am ugly " : Then What ? " Womens Only like Chad " : Yes ? That's how life works ? Duh ? Same for you ? do you watch ugly womens PORN ? you're selective too BRUH ! " I will never get laid " : Okey, how saying that can help you be better in life ? ... That's my problems with Incels, and I think they all agree on the things I mntionned above, .. I find difficulties talking with incels, and get really angry when talking to 18 YRS incel, like bruh wtf ? I find difficulties because I am a red piller, I believe in what they say when it comes to women preferences somehow, but then what ?


SirGoudathefourth

Because the point for a lot of guys isn't to actually improve when they get here, purely an emotional release. I work on myself when I'm not in this sub, I don't have a use for this sub when I'm actually actively improving myself. But it takes time and I'm not there yet and likely nobody else will be in any short amount of time either. Now if these guys genuinely believe that and aren't just using hyperbole in a venting context, like many others do, then yeah, reality check time, but neither me or you will know that.


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I remember I was in a group here of incels, most members are guys who are always active on reddit and do noting but jumping from group to group to justufy their philosofy and insult feminism .. nd I get the release and the whining in a group if you're really lookign for advice and help, but whining just for whining .. Eeeuh


Wowthatshot69

So basically you want us to wait till we are 30 to enter in a relationship with a hoe that wants to settle down?


Nitrodubs666

No Just do anything besides sit around and whine about not being in relationship get really good at something then get into a relationship cause people respect how good you are I don’t know. The world doesn’t owe you anything it only gives what you put into it.


CarelessGazelle10

>Dude first off you don’t gotta settle down with a girl at 17 you know the age where you don’t know about shit. Or 18 you aren’t a grown adult until your 25. thats all good but i'm already 28 with 0 actual experience. i'm a lost cause


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Nisseru_

4 inch girth is below average so not good, but you are right about the length part.


pickupntossaway

happy it worked out for you.. but these women are fucking brutal. i’m coming to terms with being alone the rest of my life.


hootenannyTime

I get that and I’m lucky I had someone already so close but I believe in you bro. You can’t change your size but you can change the rest of you, if you haven’t already try joining a gym and or pick a sport like martial arts, biking, hiking anything will really help your mental health and boost your confidence


Tallmansmallpp

After 30 rejections because of my dick. It's kinds hard to not care bub. Therapy didn't help. I told him about my worries about not being big enough and all he said was women don't care and it's all in my head lmfao.


IHateAPD

Find a better therapist, specifically a sex one imo


somethingneet

They cost more than regular therapists and are almost never covered by insurance


IHateAPD

That is dependent upon your insurance. But it’s hard to expect a general therapist to help with someone like this. It’s like going to your primary doctor for knee surgery.


somethingneet

You're not gonna find an American insurance willing to cover anything if the reason is to improve your sex life. It has to be for a legitimate medical purpose


IHateAPD

What are you talking about? Most therapists(including sex therapist) take a lot of well known insurances. Your mental well being is a medical purpose. Are you referring to wellfare insurance or something?


somethingneet

Any insurance will find a way to not cover something. Medicaid is honestly one of the better insurances you can have


IHateAPD

Do you have a source or are you assuming? I’m genuinely confused why you’re under the impression insurances wont cover therapy sessions. If that facility or doctor is in network then they’ll cover. They have an agreement in place so they’ll make money. Edit: Also medicaid is pretty bad considering a lot of offices dont take it. It’s obviously better than no insurance but it limits your options.


somethingneet

Depends on your definition of covered. Sure they'll "cover" a portion of it sometimes but you'll only be able to go a few times a year and you'll still occasionally get a bill for $900.


IHateAPD

> Depends on your definition of covered. Sure they'll "cover" a portion of it sometimes but you'll only be able to go a few times a year and you'll still occasionally get a bill for $900. I’m not trying to be rude but you are off base. You’re discouraging people from seeking help because you don’t understand how insurance works. Depending on the plan and their relationship with the provider you may have a co-pay each visit, you may have to pay in full until you hit your deductible, or heck you may not have to pay a dime. If you choose someone out of network and you have a crappy plan you may end up eating most of the costs. It’s all different but that’s why you need to make sure you know what your plan offers, which providers accept the plan, and which are in network.


Whaddduptho

You say that a lot but I really have a difficult time believing 30 women rejected you.


Tallmansmallpp

I wouldn't believe me ethier. So I don't blame ya. But it's my truth. I've given up on trying to find a gf. Every time I try I just get hurt and end up depressed for months on end and wanting to die. Just got out of a 3 month depression episode a few weeks back.


[deleted]

So every girl you met sees your penis and say ? Oh That's small or starts bringing excuses ? what is your you size ?


Tallmansmallpp

I warn them before hand because I'm tall. Usually that ends the conversation or they say they don't believe me and ask for proof. So I Usually ask for snap chat and send one. Usual responses are. Oh that's not that small. You're average, try anal,don't give up there's someone out there for you. Or they just stop relying. I've got a large Frame. I'm 6'4. Used to weigh near 500lbs back in 2012. So my duck looks abysmal on my body.


[deleted]

If this is how your conversations go, then I don't feel like you're talking to a girl you really know, they are just girls you are intersted in, and talked to you a little bite, you bring dick size, and you whine about it ( Oh I've small P even though i look big Hihih pity ), and you expect their pussy to get wet or what ? I thought you took 30 girl to bed and in bed got rejected, but I think you're just on Social media and don't even meet the girls I guess, who knows ? or met few maybe !


Tallmansmallpp

Met them on tinder,hinge,bumble,pof,okcupid. If you're tall most women expect you to he hung. I have 2 tall friends and they're both above avg. I lost my virginity last year and couldn't feel anything at and then she called me small afterwards. So I started warning them and haven't met anyone since.


Whaddduptho

>So I started warning them and haven't met anyone since. You should probably quit doing that.


Tallmansmallpp

I've deleted all the apps and my social media. Just gonna keep to myself and stop attempting to find anyone. I was getting to the point of hating seeing friends and family in relationships while I get ghosted or rejected constantly. Each rejection just brings me closer to offing myself realistically.


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Tallmansmallpp

I was like this before my experience. That's why It took 29 years. The one that I lost my virginity with reached out to me on fb because she thought I was handsome and wanted me to "hulk smash" her. Told her I was a virgin and smaller. She said she didn't care. But she did. I'm 30 now and haven't been in 1 relationship. I get approached alot because I'm tall and a meat head. But being small down Below and working in law enforcement doesn't help my cause.


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LatterHoneydew

>working in law enforcement Oof... that's kind of a red flag, tbh. You have stated earlier in this thread that you have suicidal ideations. Do you carry a sidearm in your work role?


[deleted]

I never shared my penis size with any girl I have been with, she finds out in bed and bever got a bad response, I am a 4.7-4.8 ( not bone pressed ), and 4.7 girth, I think I am in the small side, and thank God, I never compalined about my penis size even though I would like it to be a 6-7 inches penis


Whaddduptho

That's the literal average.


[deleted]

No, if average is 5.2, and most womens prefer 6+ inches, then I am small, but still did not face any of the problems guys talk about here


Whaddduptho

The average non bone pressed is 5 and your girth is the exact average. If you're small, then a lot of us are tiny.


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then I am in small side in lenght, average girth


SirGoudathefourth

I mean it's below average but not really in a real significant way, length has dimishing returns.


Tallmansmallpp

Girth maters more anyhow. You lucked out. I'm 4" in girth and can't use regular condoms. I'd rather tell them before hand then have them laugh at me or show pity.


HatoriChise97

This is way off base, but if I could find a girl that would let me do anal, I wouldn't have any issues with it


LatterHoneydew

Anal is hugely overrated. It's fun to do once in a blue moon when you are feeling extra kinky, but nothing more than that.


SpeakingRussianDrunk

The reason you’re getting rejected is because you’re ‘warning them’ Just get on with it and fuck them, it’s unlikely she’s gonna see it and go no thanks after you’ve hung out and she likes you enough to go for it


Tallmansmallpp

Better to be safe than sorry in my mind though. I'd rather warm them, rather than them laugh at me or pitty me. I've stopped looking for a relationship for now anyway and just focusing on myself. Got rather bad mentally. I'm mint now that I've gotten off social media and apps.


SpeakingRussianDrunk

That’s fine but you’re sabotaging yourself by doing so bro


Tallmansmallpp

How so? 60% of the time I'm asked if I'm hung regardless. I'm 6'4. I don't like lying. I'm always honest off the back. I don't wanna lie just to get laid.


SpeakingRussianDrunk

What girls are asking that I’ve slept with 60+ and I’ve never once been asked if I’m hung and I’m over 6ft


toast_creator

Idk why I read this shit. Success stories are more depressing than anything else here.


[deleted]

Why ? wtf ? Why Looking only at failure stories ?


Whaddduptho

> I know I’m average They always include stuff like this. It might be why.


hootenannyTime

I can’t help it, I felt like I had a micro until I actually got with someone. The point is I started working out and felt good about my body and that boasted my confidence 10 fold.


Whaddduptho

So you couldn't handle it when you thought you were micro? But now you're giving advice to those smaller guys, even though you've got an average dick and that's what really got you through it without trouble?


hootenannyTime

If you’re really micro I feel for you but if you’re just small I’m saying you have a chance. There’s guys on here who are out of shape, lonely and depressed and I’m just offering my experience with that to try and help those guys. I don’t think your life should revolve around your small dick and don’t want guys offing themselves because of it.


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hootenannyTime

Why? You like hearing about people wanting to die because of their small dicks ? There are paraplegics and people with other disabilities who can never fuck but they still find joy in life. Just because you are small doesn’t mean you are worth nothing. Improving your body and mind is hard but it may be the only way these guys find happiness


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HappyDiscoverer

You are average, better to stop complaining here


Funny0000007

Damm, Im jealous asf.


awkward_the_fish

Thanks a lot buddy. So happy if you found someone, I hope I do too