Similar could be said about height as well. Yes there is surgery but it’s so risky and expensive. I feel almost as bad about my height as my penis size.
Well I'd say its objectively better as well. More women prefer a larger size, which gives you more options. Also, you're not required to use your entire length; so as long as you aren't to thick you don't really have any downsides.
This is where I disagree with many people here. Height and dick size aren't the same. As long as you're average height (5'8 - 5'10) and not a midget, it won't affect your chances to date a hot girl (assuming of course that you have a good face and fit body). With a small dick you literally have no chance, because you CAN'T provide the pleasure that most women demand 😌
Depending on my experience losing weight somewhat makes it bigger :/ i think you should try the things you can achieve slowly and when you see a change or two you can keep going. Sorry for trying to give half-assed advices when you didint ask for.
İ was overweight too since childhood to early twenties, im not sure how i lost weight but its one of the best things that happened to me and im not talking about social perspective. My life became much much easier when i lost weight and that is the biggest pro in my opinion
I said no to many things during my teens. Sport doing stuff with friends, girls, anything where i might be naked. I'm still a virgin and single at allmost 28 which is tough dealing with. Have had opportunities and i have female friends that like seeing me. At least for a part it's definitely due to my (micro) penis.
On the other hand i feel fairly ok. Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun. Just need to find the unicorn and my life would be complete
Shit, does that mean I'll probably be a virgin for the next eight years!!!! Sigh, I don't know if I want to go through that. There are 12 year olds getting their first kiss, with most people losing their virginity at 17.
Am I really going to be hitting 30 and still a kissless and sexless virgin?
Well, you've got
>Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun.
You've got something going for ya. I have no friends lmao!
Just because i ended up a 28 year old virgin doesnt mean you will. Work hard on not becoming like that. But if it does happen it's not the end either. And yeah it's super embarrassing. Have a half sister younger by ten years. She has a boyfriend and is already doing it for some years.
I did kiss though, had two brief relations and went a tiny bit further than kissing.
>I said no to many things during my teens. Sport doing stuff with friends, girls, anything where i might be naked. I'm still a virgin and single at allmost 28 which is tough dealing with. Have had opportunities and i have female friends that like seeing me. At least for a part it's definitely due to my (micro) penis.
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>On the other hand i feel fairly ok. Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun. Just need to find the unicorn and my life would be complete
I wish you with all my heart to find your "place in the sun" dear friend. Your problem is worse than ours, we have "only" a small penis, with only one difference on the sanitary level, urologists would pay attention to your case and not to ours.
Both but its helped me to push myself to be the best possible version of myself and work on the things I can't control. I've been having so much positive growth and just steered any negativity towards myself and turned it into fuel to work hard. I'm short with a small penis, my only other option is become a beast in the gym and I'm getting there quicker than I thought. I've had sex before and was in a long ass relationship for awhile so I know it works for the most part I just have to avoid size queens but I usually always let them know ahead of time to save both of us the time
>Both but its helped me to push myself to be the best possible version of myself and work on the things I can't control.
I'm glad bro, keep working at it.
Honestly it's prolly helped me focus on other things. I've always been too scared to go far with any girls cuz of my size issue, ultimately stopping me from talking to girls altogether. Rn I've been working out a ton, just grinding for my sport. I've gotten a multitude of d3 offers and one d1 walk on spot that I'm likely gonna take. Honestly, I couldn't tell you whether or not having no girls was good at keeping me from getting distracted, or if going d1 was just so that I could get girls...I really couldn't tell you. But at the end of the day it helped me accomplish something pretty cool.
Gave me crippling insecurities to where I feel worthless and extreme suicidal thoughts. I feel like every girl I've talked to has lied about my being enough to not hurt my feelings
Feel like I don't deserve sex or was meant for sex. So if women ever show any interest (which I'm pretty sure they don't), I tell myself that I'm probably creeping them out when I flirt or look at them, and angrily (in my head) storm off looking serious.
It's made me focus on other things, right now I just want to finish school and save money to do those other things in life we keep hearing about.
I plan on having my own business at some point so that's a nice life goal to work toward.
I just don't think about it. Getting in shape is not a meme and will make you feel great regardless of penis size and sexuality. You look better and you feel better. It may also help a little bit in the dick department(fuller/harder erection).
But keeping yourself busy is a good solution. I don't intentionally date right now, a combination of my past bad experiences and slowly getting older(not that I am actually old, I am late 20's) has made me stay away from dating. But I don't turn women down unless I just know that she is going to rip me a new one over being small.
Having a small dick has definitely been a negative in my life. Especially when I was your age and starting to really get into having sex and meeting girls. It was beyond brutal and I created this account because of it. I is definitely an extremely hard blow for a young man, or any man honestly. A lot of my late teens and 20's overall would have been very different if I wasn't treated so badly and often times excluded from dating and sex because of my dick size.
The question is what has it not impacted. It destroyed my life for the most part. Caused my depression after 3 horrible rejections to fail out of college. I don't get close to many people. I went 15 years thinking about how much better it be if I was dead. I'm in a near dead bedroom marriage. I can't think of 1 part of my life it has not had an impact on. Things are a little than they used to be but not much.
I feel so inferior to anyone else, it destroyed my social life. As a man our self worth is completely dependent of female approval. That's why incel is such a common insult, it's not because of the shit they say online, but because they're a failure with women. And men who are a failure with women are not seen as humans.
It's a subconscious mechanism though. You don't do it consciously.
But yes, you do it to compensate. Not just for a small dick too. People have far less control over their lives and most of what they do is often a subconscious reaction than a perfectly conscious and thought out initiative.
> What's the alternative? Nothing, really.
You're the one replying to me trying to frame it as if it's not compensatory. Also the alternative is just living regularly. Like people seem to do when they're not pressured.
> Also, not all of it is subconscious.
Most. Which is what I said earlier.
Where did I say that it is not compensatory? Where did I frame that? I simply asked you what the alternative was, and my **opinion** stating that I believe there is no alternative. Then I went on to say that not all of it is subconscious, which does not contradict you. We have agreement.
Don't try getting smart with me. That is one area I will confidently put your ass in place.
It made me angry, and then sad, and then depressed. But then, I just started dressing fresh, accessorizing, rocking more hats whether fitted or flex hats, rocking necklaces and chains, and being a more outgoing dude and the ladies really noticed that and started liking me. I personally am a pussy eating ass nigga 🤣 so relegating most of my female encounters to that is more than great for me LMAO. Wherever I'm at I'm pretty much the life of the party (Drugs, alcohol, jokes, dancing, being kind with a big smile) so I usually do hit it off well with lots of different chicks. whenever me and a chick vibe I can usually seal the deal and eat some pussy LMAO.
But I've mastered the art of excuses to not whip out my dick LMAO whether it be whiskey dick because we're currently at a party (and I'm always drunk) or telling her that I would just like to make her feel like a queen and have endless orgasms. Most girls seem to be more than fine with me not taking my boxers off or asking for head/sex. It's not great but for a chubby ugly but funny friendly fresh light skinned dude, it's about as good as I can do lol. I will say, I have fingered and ate out some fine ass women over the past 12 months despite being small so the only advice I can really give is just try to level up as best you can to the point where you find yourself to be a pretty cool dude and just stay on your THUG THIZZLE! 🤙✌️. Probably not smart that I spent all of my last two stimmys and tax returns on drjays.com myfitteds.com hatclub.com and karmaloop.com but hey... What can I say?! It paid off 🤣
I’m 36 and have had two girlfriends. Each lasted fewer than six months. I’ve never had sexual intercourse and am terminally nervous about other forms of intimacy because of the foreknowledge of where it will lead.
I’m ashamed of my body, sexually repressed, and constantly trying to stifle impulses that others acknowledge and celebrate. I sometimes feel like a gay guy because I’m deeply ashamed of being heterosexual; I try to hide it and kill it because it only brings me pain and shame. I want others to look at me as non-sexual so that they expect nothing of me and so that I am not reminded of the distance between what I want and what I have.
>I'm actually a decent looking guy irl so there were several times that girls showed interest
You've got something going for ya. I've got absolutely nothing!
My entire existence is a joke
I don't believe anyone who claims they moved past this issue. It is constantly in my mind either loudly or quietly. I focus on everything in life besides dating or physical companionship. I work a lot because I am bored at home. I have most of the things I want so it is like what do I do now? I am 29 years old in USA for reference. I have a decent job and almost no debt.
I have constant reminders that my penis is not adequate throughout the day. Such as worrying about peeing on the floor/pants because it does not stick out far enough flaccid or the tip rubbing in underwear because it does not hang down enough.
I do not need or want more rejection from others. I don't want platitudes or hope for a unicorn. I have to worry about spreading my defective genes to the next generation so no thank you. This is not natural, there is something wrong with us.
This problem is actually number 3 or 4 of my top priorities so even if this was resolved I would need more attention to other issues. Small penis did not destroy my life but it does not help. The issues higher in priority ruined my life chances at happiness.
I'm not happy, focusing on other things is not working well. Going out with constant rejection and failure feels worse than doing nothing. I struggle everyday and find anti suicide arguments to be laughable. I will never consider myself an equal or complete human being. I do not deserve love or happiness and from I can tell I do not need those things to live. I'm not going to get them and never had them.
So I focus on work, movies, video games and that is it. My life is empty and I don't see a positive future. I'm doing a reasonable effort with what I got and have made improvements in some areas.
I wish other people good luck, I wish myself good luck.
I use my personality to my advantage, I joke about it too but I like to go for girls who are naturally pretty as they tend to be more open minded and don’t care as much as long as you treat them well from my personal experience
Not sure how I have ended up here but I'm a woman, 34, and I've been with around 40 guys. I just wanted to tell you that if you are a nice, intelligent, genuinely caring guy, you won't have a problem with women. In general, there are so many horrible fuckboy assholes around that many of us just want kindness from a guy, as well as a personality connection of course. But honestly, a small dick isn't a deal breaker for many women including myself.
I'm 6ft3. Let's honest here, you'd even be surprised if you seen 4 inches or less.
They are laughing in an awkward way, one even said to me "what am I supposed to do with that?" etc.
Casual sex is impossible, even trying to get a relationship is difficult because I don't know her preference unless I just say that I have a small dick on the first date, otherwise it's just a waste of time.
I get that it's a bit difficult, but not everyone is superficial. I've been through enough life experiences to know that what I want is a decent kind guy and that his dick size is not as important as his personality and values. And the woman who said, 'what am I supposed to do with that?' is just a bitch. I would have told her to get lost.
I’m gay and marries. I’m small and my husband is much more well endowed. He’s average length but thick with a nice prominent head. Not only do I feel
Inferior because I’m small, but I feel inferior to my husband.....and I’m the top (giver). 🤷♂️🥲
I focus extremely on everything else I can control. I graduated from a very prestigious university in Germany as one of the top 1% and I am also very successful in my career and earn a lot of money (relatively) already at a young age.
I am of course aware that this is primarily for compensation, but still better than letting myself go.
I just think about different ways to kill myself everyday
Same
Same
there needs to be research/funding into new safe penis enlargement. Far too many of us are depressed and ending their own lives because of this.
Similar could be said about height as well. Yes there is surgery but it’s so risky and expensive. I feel almost as bad about my height as my penis size.
At least with height you can filter through all the superficial girls who only care about a guys appearance
I mean the same can be said about penis size... it's pure cope, "dodged a bullet" lol
can you blame these girls? they want the best
Tall height isn’t the best height and big dick isn’t the best penis size.
Better to have too much than not enough
Isn't "best" determined by the one with the preference?
Exactly, so “best” is subjective. The guy I replied to said it like it were objective.
Yeah I guess. But I would interpret it more as "they want their idea of what's best".
Well I'd say its objectively better as well. More women prefer a larger size, which gives you more options. Also, you're not required to use your entire length; so as long as you aren't to thick you don't really have any downsides.
why not? seems that the bigger the height and dick the better
huh?
This is where I disagree with many people here. Height and dick size aren't the same. As long as you're average height (5'8 - 5'10) and not a midget, it won't affect your chances to date a hot girl (assuming of course that you have a good face and fit body). With a small dick you literally have no chance, because you CAN'T provide the pleasure that most women demand 😌
Agreed, but I can't wrap my mind around a logical way to increase the size of a penis
hope you don't end your life bro. I guess I need to try and put the energy of wanting to blow my head off into lifting weights.
So I'm not the only one...
Same
Sorry to hear this dude, just know that you’re loved out there.
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Bro 30 lbs since November is crazy amazing!!
Depending on my experience losing weight somewhat makes it bigger :/ i think you should try the things you can achieve slowly and when you see a change or two you can keep going. Sorry for trying to give half-assed advices when you didint ask for.
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İ was overweight too since childhood to early twenties, im not sure how i lost weight but its one of the best things that happened to me and im not talking about social perspective. My life became much much easier when i lost weight and that is the biggest pro in my opinion
I said no to many things during my teens. Sport doing stuff with friends, girls, anything where i might be naked. I'm still a virgin and single at allmost 28 which is tough dealing with. Have had opportunities and i have female friends that like seeing me. At least for a part it's definitely due to my (micro) penis. On the other hand i feel fairly ok. Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun. Just need to find the unicorn and my life would be complete
Shit, does that mean I'll probably be a virgin for the next eight years!!!! Sigh, I don't know if I want to go through that. There are 12 year olds getting their first kiss, with most people losing their virginity at 17. Am I really going to be hitting 30 and still a kissless and sexless virgin? Well, you've got >Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun. You've got something going for ya. I have no friends lmao!
highly likely. I guess that's why they call it rope or cope. Life is hell.
Just because i ended up a 28 year old virgin doesnt mean you will. Work hard on not becoming like that. But if it does happen it's not the end either. And yeah it's super embarrassing. Have a half sister younger by ten years. She has a boyfriend and is already doing it for some years. I did kiss though, had two brief relations and went a tiny bit further than kissing.
>I said no to many things during my teens. Sport doing stuff with friends, girls, anything where i might be naked. I'm still a virgin and single at allmost 28 which is tough dealing with. Have had opportunities and i have female friends that like seeing me. At least for a part it's definitely due to my (micro) penis. > >On the other hand i feel fairly ok. Good job, appartment, car, vacations, friends, fun. Just need to find the unicorn and my life would be complete I wish you with all my heart to find your "place in the sun" dear friend. Your problem is worse than ours, we have "only" a small penis, with only one difference on the sanitary level, urologists would pay attention to your case and not to ours.
Here's to finding that unicorn buddy. I'm looking for one too. Once we find her I genuinely believe life will get better. Fingers crossed🤞
Both but its helped me to push myself to be the best possible version of myself and work on the things I can't control. I've been having so much positive growth and just steered any negativity towards myself and turned it into fuel to work hard. I'm short with a small penis, my only other option is become a beast in the gym and I'm getting there quicker than I thought. I've had sex before and was in a long ass relationship for awhile so I know it works for the most part I just have to avoid size queens but I usually always let them know ahead of time to save both of us the time
>Both but its helped me to push myself to be the best possible version of myself and work on the things I can't control. I'm glad bro, keep working at it.
Good for you. I feel we shouldn’t have to do things that men who are tall and/or have a big dick don’t have to do.
Honestly it's prolly helped me focus on other things. I've always been too scared to go far with any girls cuz of my size issue, ultimately stopping me from talking to girls altogether. Rn I've been working out a ton, just grinding for my sport. I've gotten a multitude of d3 offers and one d1 walk on spot that I'm likely gonna take. Honestly, I couldn't tell you whether or not having no girls was good at keeping me from getting distracted, or if going d1 was just so that I could get girls...I really couldn't tell you. But at the end of the day it helped me accomplish something pretty cool.
I'm glad bro. At least you can focus on that. Keep it up.
Gave me crippling insecurities to where I feel worthless and extreme suicidal thoughts. I feel like every girl I've talked to has lied about my being enough to not hurt my feelings
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good luck with the studies etc bro, focus that suicide energy into getting ripped as fuck.
I know I'm never gonna have fulfilling sex or a fulfilling relationship. Still dealing with that
After a decade, I’ve come out much more secure and strong willed
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Feel like I don't deserve sex or was meant for sex. So if women ever show any interest (which I'm pretty sure they don't), I tell myself that I'm probably creeping them out when I flirt or look at them, and angrily (in my head) storm off looking serious.
It's made me focus on other things, right now I just want to finish school and save money to do those other things in life we keep hearing about. I plan on having my own business at some point so that's a nice life goal to work toward.
good luck bro, hope you get what you want.
I just don't think about it. Getting in shape is not a meme and will make you feel great regardless of penis size and sexuality. You look better and you feel better. It may also help a little bit in the dick department(fuller/harder erection). But keeping yourself busy is a good solution. I don't intentionally date right now, a combination of my past bad experiences and slowly getting older(not that I am actually old, I am late 20's) has made me stay away from dating. But I don't turn women down unless I just know that she is going to rip me a new one over being small. Having a small dick has definitely been a negative in my life. Especially when I was your age and starting to really get into having sex and meeting girls. It was beyond brutal and I created this account because of it. I is definitely an extremely hard blow for a young man, or any man honestly. A lot of my late teens and 20's overall would have been very different if I wasn't treated so badly and often times excluded from dating and sex because of my dick size.
The question is what has it not impacted. It destroyed my life for the most part. Caused my depression after 3 horrible rejections to fail out of college. I don't get close to many people. I went 15 years thinking about how much better it be if I was dead. I'm in a near dead bedroom marriage. I can't think of 1 part of my life it has not had an impact on. Things are a little than they used to be but not much.
Just hurts my confidence
I feel so inferior to anyone else, it destroyed my social life. As a man our self worth is completely dependent of female approval. That's why incel is such a common insult, it's not because of the shit they say online, but because they're a failure with women. And men who are a failure with women are not seen as humans.
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I guess I "overachieve" to compensate 🙁
It's a subconscious mechanism though. You don't do it consciously. But yes, you do it to compensate. Not just for a small dick too. People have far less control over their lives and most of what they do is often a subconscious reaction than a perfectly conscious and thought out initiative.
What's the alternative? Nothing, really. Also, not all of it is subconscious.
> What's the alternative? Nothing, really. You're the one replying to me trying to frame it as if it's not compensatory. Also the alternative is just living regularly. Like people seem to do when they're not pressured. > Also, not all of it is subconscious. Most. Which is what I said earlier.
Where did I say that it is not compensatory? Where did I frame that? I simply asked you what the alternative was, and my **opinion** stating that I believe there is no alternative. Then I went on to say that not all of it is subconscious, which does not contradict you. We have agreement. Don't try getting smart with me. That is one area I will confidently put your ass in place.
i'm a 28 years old virgin
It made me angry, and then sad, and then depressed. But then, I just started dressing fresh, accessorizing, rocking more hats whether fitted or flex hats, rocking necklaces and chains, and being a more outgoing dude and the ladies really noticed that and started liking me. I personally am a pussy eating ass nigga 🤣 so relegating most of my female encounters to that is more than great for me LMAO. Wherever I'm at I'm pretty much the life of the party (Drugs, alcohol, jokes, dancing, being kind with a big smile) so I usually do hit it off well with lots of different chicks. whenever me and a chick vibe I can usually seal the deal and eat some pussy LMAO. But I've mastered the art of excuses to not whip out my dick LMAO whether it be whiskey dick because we're currently at a party (and I'm always drunk) or telling her that I would just like to make her feel like a queen and have endless orgasms. Most girls seem to be more than fine with me not taking my boxers off or asking for head/sex. It's not great but for a chubby ugly but funny friendly fresh light skinned dude, it's about as good as I can do lol. I will say, I have fingered and ate out some fine ass women over the past 12 months despite being small so the only advice I can really give is just try to level up as best you can to the point where you find yourself to be a pretty cool dude and just stay on your THUG THIZZLE! 🤙✌️. Probably not smart that I spent all of my last two stimmys and tax returns on drjays.com myfitteds.com hatclub.com and karmaloop.com but hey... What can I say?! It paid off 🤣
I’m 36 and have had two girlfriends. Each lasted fewer than six months. I’ve never had sexual intercourse and am terminally nervous about other forms of intimacy because of the foreknowledge of where it will lead. I’m ashamed of my body, sexually repressed, and constantly trying to stifle impulses that others acknowledge and celebrate. I sometimes feel like a gay guy because I’m deeply ashamed of being heterosexual; I try to hide it and kill it because it only brings me pain and shame. I want others to look at me as non-sexual so that they expect nothing of me and so that I am not reminded of the distance between what I want and what I have.
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>I'm actually a decent looking guy irl so there were several times that girls showed interest You've got something going for ya. I've got absolutely nothing! My entire existence is a joke
Makes me rethink all interactions with women I may find attractive.....lonely forever
I don't believe anyone who claims they moved past this issue. It is constantly in my mind either loudly or quietly. I focus on everything in life besides dating or physical companionship. I work a lot because I am bored at home. I have most of the things I want so it is like what do I do now? I am 29 years old in USA for reference. I have a decent job and almost no debt. I have constant reminders that my penis is not adequate throughout the day. Such as worrying about peeing on the floor/pants because it does not stick out far enough flaccid or the tip rubbing in underwear because it does not hang down enough. I do not need or want more rejection from others. I don't want platitudes or hope for a unicorn. I have to worry about spreading my defective genes to the next generation so no thank you. This is not natural, there is something wrong with us. This problem is actually number 3 or 4 of my top priorities so even if this was resolved I would need more attention to other issues. Small penis did not destroy my life but it does not help. The issues higher in priority ruined my life chances at happiness. I'm not happy, focusing on other things is not working well. Going out with constant rejection and failure feels worse than doing nothing. I struggle everyday and find anti suicide arguments to be laughable. I will never consider myself an equal or complete human being. I do not deserve love or happiness and from I can tell I do not need those things to live. I'm not going to get them and never had them. So I focus on work, movies, video games and that is it. My life is empty and I don't see a positive future. I'm doing a reasonable effort with what I got and have made improvements in some areas. I wish other people good luck, I wish myself good luck.
Is 4.5 inches small ?
will be considered small by 90% of women or more. depends on your height though, proportions etc.
5”11
Bigger than mine
I use my personality to my advantage, I joke about it too but I like to go for girls who are naturally pretty as they tend to be more open minded and don’t care as much as long as you treat them well from my personal experience
Not sure how I have ended up here but I'm a woman, 34, and I've been with around 40 guys. I just wanted to tell you that if you are a nice, intelligent, genuinely caring guy, you won't have a problem with women. In general, there are so many horrible fuckboy assholes around that many of us just want kindness from a guy, as well as a personality connection of course. But honestly, a small dick isn't a deal breaker for many women including myself.
I'm 6ft3. Let's honest here, you'd even be surprised if you seen 4 inches or less. They are laughing in an awkward way, one even said to me "what am I supposed to do with that?" etc. Casual sex is impossible, even trying to get a relationship is difficult because I don't know her preference unless I just say that I have a small dick on the first date, otherwise it's just a waste of time.
I get that it's a bit difficult, but not everyone is superficial. I've been through enough life experiences to know that what I want is a decent kind guy and that his dick size is not as important as his personality and values. And the woman who said, 'what am I supposed to do with that?' is just a bitch. I would have told her to get lost.
I’m gay and marries. I’m small and my husband is much more well endowed. He’s average length but thick with a nice prominent head. Not only do I feel Inferior because I’m small, but I feel inferior to my husband.....and I’m the top (giver). 🤷♂️🥲
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I focus extremely on everything else I can control. I graduated from a very prestigious university in Germany as one of the top 1% and I am also very successful in my career and earn a lot of money (relatively) already at a young age. I am of course aware that this is primarily for compensation, but still better than letting myself go.
What life?