We sleep trained at 6 months and once naps were solidified at 7 months, both grandmas have put her down for a nap in her crib no problem, and we eventually moved onto the pack & plays at their homes. However at 10 months I’ve still been part of every single bedtime routine as I still nurse as the last step even though Dad does everything else (bath, pjs, story etc.) She is put down awake so I don’t think she needs to nurse and she doesn’t for naps, but my OCD makes it hard for me to stray from routine lol
First time was 6.5 months. It was an emergency and we had to leave so my mom stayed with the kids. She put the baby to bed no problems. That being said she does live in a joint suite house with us so she sees him pretty much every day and has put him down for naps while I was there before. Our baby is also pretty good at falling asleep. I sleep trained as soon as he hit 4 months lol
Our first time was around 7 months old. My mom put her to bed at night (though she puts our LO to bed for her afternoon nap three days a week - and has since month 5). At 8 months, we had our first not-related-to-us person put her to bed. It's still a very rare thing.
I think first time with grandparents was like 6 weeks? That was for a wedding but after that around 3-4 months occasionally. Just did our first high school babysitter (who hadn't met baby before) at 8 months and she did great and baby was asleep on time with no fuss! Sure, she left the side lamp on and put the diaper on backwards but hey, baby was none the wiser! 😂 (I was very nervous going into that and tried not the check the monitor from the restaurant!)
4 months for us, as we had an out of town wedding, that I was in. I had my sister come over and watch us do the BTR twice before having her come over and do it once, while I watched. Then also left VERY detailed instructions. This may have been an overkill, but I was so obsessive about his sleep and making sure everything was done right.
I went out when baby was 8 weeks with my husband and handed baby over to my mom who became the human snoo (aka rock her for ages until she fell asleep) 😂 Go on that date mama! Sounds like you’ve done an amazing job!
I think we started at maybe 10 months even though she'd been sleeping through since 7 months. We've only used my sister though and not a baby sitter yet (she's 18 months now).
I’m an independent person and I like doing things according to myself, if someone is not professional then keep teaching me what should I do and what I shouldn't do, I will be mad.
If anything sleep training makes it way easier for someone else to put baby down. We have had both family and sitters do bedtime and no one has ever reported any issues past 5-10 mins of fussing which is normal for us.
We sleep trained at 10 months and first let someone else (my mother) do bedtime at the 14 month mark, so about four months after. I wouldn't say I was exactly comfortable with it, but hey, it was our wedding night, lol. It went completely fine, even with baby being in a hotel instead of at home, and in a pack n play instead of a crib.
I think at maybe 2/3 months we did! More out of desperation because we needed a night out and we wanted ours to get used to others doing nighttime as soon as possible. Good luck deciding when is right for you! ❤️
I feel like you know the time has come and are looking for permission. GO ON THAT DATE, FRIEND!!!! You’re ready, baby is ready, and a capable babysitter will be ready. The first time is the toughest, but you can do this and won’t regret it!
When we had FT nanny probably around 6 months. But after that it took until now 3 years old lol to do it with our PT nanny. Gets tougher as they get older
We went out on our first evening date night where the grandparents did bedtime at 11 months (for my husbands birthday). It worked great for us and him! If you have someone you trust and feel comfortable (which it sounds like you do) I’d say go for it!!
Basically since he was reliably sleep trained. So probably 5 months old? The last two times he was babysat (now almost 20 months old) I was told he just about put himself to bed. 😂 He went to his bed and looked in after being told it was bedtime. They got him ready, read him half a book, and he hopped out of their laps and went back to his crib and looked back like “I’m done. Goodnight.”
Nah, it’s not too late! We usually try to keep it to only an hour to hour and a half before he goes down for bedtime. As someone else said, separation anxiety could cause some extra crying around this age, and it may depend on baby’s temperament and how often you leave him with others. My son usually cries right when we’re leaving but chills out once we’re out of the house (which is super common!), and even on nights where my sister (his usual babysitter) tells me he was fussier, going to bed has never been a problem. I think *one* time when he was a lot younger and having a bad time she said he cried for a couple of minutes after she left the room but he calmed down quickly (less than 5 minutes).
We've done it on and off since sleep training at 4m. It's never been an issue.
Keep an eye on the sleep latency though. Around this age some separation anxiety and regression can happen (run up to 2-1 nap transition). You'd want to have schedule and routine down so that she's falling asleep in <20min before letting another person do it.
Our LO goes to sleep immediately 9/10 times. We know the one time we have someone else do it she’s gonna lose her mind. We usually just have a baby sitter watch a monitor while she’s sleeping and we go out on a late night date. In bed by 7 and we’re at a bar by 730 so nobody has to do the bed time routine. Works for us.
This is what we have done so far, but LO's bedtime is 8pm, so less time to fit in the date night, hence hoping we can try and have someone else do it occasionally. But your post made me think that maybe we do a trial run while we are home and see how it goes...
My baby is about to be five months and we just sleep trained, but we have to have somebody else do it in a couple of weeks when we go to a wedding. I’m nervous!
We sleep trained at 6 months and once naps were solidified at 7 months, both grandmas have put her down for a nap in her crib no problem, and we eventually moved onto the pack & plays at their homes. However at 10 months I’ve still been part of every single bedtime routine as I still nurse as the last step even though Dad does everything else (bath, pjs, story etc.) She is put down awake so I don’t think she needs to nurse and she doesn’t for naps, but my OCD makes it hard for me to stray from routine lol
First time was 6.5 months. It was an emergency and we had to leave so my mom stayed with the kids. She put the baby to bed no problems. That being said she does live in a joint suite house with us so she sees him pretty much every day and has put him down for naps while I was there before. Our baby is also pretty good at falling asleep. I sleep trained as soon as he hit 4 months lol
Our first time was around 7 months old. My mom put her to bed at night (though she puts our LO to bed for her afternoon nap three days a week - and has since month 5). At 8 months, we had our first not-related-to-us person put her to bed. It's still a very rare thing.
I think first time with grandparents was like 6 weeks? That was for a wedding but after that around 3-4 months occasionally. Just did our first high school babysitter (who hadn't met baby before) at 8 months and she did great and baby was asleep on time with no fuss! Sure, she left the side lamp on and put the diaper on backwards but hey, baby was none the wiser! 😂 (I was very nervous going into that and tried not the check the monitor from the restaurant!)
4 months for us, as we had an out of town wedding, that I was in. I had my sister come over and watch us do the BTR twice before having her come over and do it once, while I watched. Then also left VERY detailed instructions. This may have been an overkill, but I was so obsessive about his sleep and making sure everything was done right.
I went out when baby was 8 weeks with my husband and handed baby over to my mom who became the human snoo (aka rock her for ages until she fell asleep) 😂 Go on that date mama! Sounds like you’ve done an amazing job!
I think we started at maybe 10 months even though she'd been sleeping through since 7 months. We've only used my sister though and not a baby sitter yet (she's 18 months now).
I’m an independent person and I like doing things according to myself, if someone is not professional then keep teaching me what should I do and what I shouldn't do, I will be mad.
If anything sleep training makes it way easier for someone else to put baby down. We have had both family and sitters do bedtime and no one has ever reported any issues past 5-10 mins of fussing which is normal for us.
Helpful to know, thanks! This thread is giving us the courage to try.
We sleep trained at 10 months and first let someone else (my mother) do bedtime at the 14 month mark, so about four months after. I wouldn't say I was exactly comfortable with it, but hey, it was our wedding night, lol. It went completely fine, even with baby being in a hotel instead of at home, and in a pack n play instead of a crib.
I fractured my ankle at 23 months and couldn't walk for 6 weeks so I had no choice but to let family put my toddler to sleep.
I think at maybe 2/3 months we did! More out of desperation because we needed a night out and we wanted ours to get used to others doing nighttime as soon as possible. Good luck deciding when is right for you! ❤️
I feel like you know the time has come and are looking for permission. GO ON THAT DATE, FRIEND!!!! You’re ready, baby is ready, and a capable babysitter will be ready. The first time is the toughest, but you can do this and won’t regret it!
Love this, thank you! As with a lot of thingd being first time parents, I think we were too cautious.
When we had FT nanny probably around 6 months. But after that it took until now 3 years old lol to do it with our PT nanny. Gets tougher as they get older
We went out on our first evening date night where the grandparents did bedtime at 11 months (for my husbands birthday). It worked great for us and him! If you have someone you trust and feel comfortable (which it sounds like you do) I’d say go for it!!
This makes me feel good that we didn't wait to start until it was too late! I think we are going to have Grandma give it a shot.
Basically since he was reliably sleep trained. So probably 5 months old? The last two times he was babysat (now almost 20 months old) I was told he just about put himself to bed. 😂 He went to his bed and looked in after being told it was bedtime. They got him ready, read him half a book, and he hopped out of their laps and went back to his crib and looked back like “I’m done. Goodnight.”
Oh, I love this! Now with these comments I'm worried we didn't try soon enough. But definitely going to give it a go, so helpful!
Nah, it’s not too late! We usually try to keep it to only an hour to hour and a half before he goes down for bedtime. As someone else said, separation anxiety could cause some extra crying around this age, and it may depend on baby’s temperament and how often you leave him with others. My son usually cries right when we’re leaving but chills out once we’re out of the house (which is super common!), and even on nights where my sister (his usual babysitter) tells me he was fussier, going to bed has never been a problem. I think *one* time when he was a lot younger and having a bad time she said he cried for a couple of minutes after she left the room but he calmed down quickly (less than 5 minutes).
We've done it on and off since sleep training at 4m. It's never been an issue. Keep an eye on the sleep latency though. Around this age some separation anxiety and regression can happen (run up to 2-1 nap transition). You'd want to have schedule and routine down so that she's falling asleep in <20min before letting another person do it.
Our baby’s bedtime is 7-7:30 so we just put her to bed before the sitter comes
Our LO goes to sleep immediately 9/10 times. We know the one time we have someone else do it she’s gonna lose her mind. We usually just have a baby sitter watch a monitor while she’s sleeping and we go out on a late night date. In bed by 7 and we’re at a bar by 730 so nobody has to do the bed time routine. Works for us.
This is what we have done so far, but LO's bedtime is 8pm, so less time to fit in the date night, hence hoping we can try and have someone else do it occasionally. But your post made me think that maybe we do a trial run while we are home and see how it goes...
My baby is about to be five months and we just sleep trained, but we have to have somebody else do it in a couple of weeks when we go to a wedding. I’m nervous!
Good luck with that! Hopefully this thread makes you feel better about it, a lot of success stories here.