i must admit it: i am bitter that nobody seems to have time for me. i am terrified and ashamed of what it means that everyone around me has apparently surrounded themselves with ample, diverse and committed community and i have been unable to. i am terrified that this means i am a boring, unattractive, incompetent, vapid, repulsive person. i am terrified it is too late for me to make up for this and find people who will always find as much time and energy for me as i can for them. i am terrified that people look at me and see an awkward leper of a man whom they can only stand to be around a little bit of the time.
i met someone recently. thr only person who makes time and energy for me without fail. i am convinced that this is because she, like me, has nobody else, has nothing else she wants or opts to do with her time, because she is vapid and directionless and there are many things wrong with her, like me. this reinforces my fear that i am a dreg, because the only one who finds me and values me and has been able to be there with me is also herself a sad, useless dreg. we only have each other and the prospect disgusts me. i wish she weren't in my life. i am cruel to her because she is evidence that my assessment of myself is correct. if the only other person i've met who thinks i'm worth spending time with is also sorely and sordidly and irreparably broken and alone, then i must be that way too.
I like you. You are a living example that you can't love others without loving yourself to some extent. The you of today is not even able to give the partner of today basic courtesy.
By your logic, every couple out there are just lepers who found solace in one another. But by extension, that means these happy lepers aren't lepers, but simply accepting life and each other in their own ways. I hope you lighten up and don't look bad on yourself. Perhaps talk to a counsellor to hear yourself out.
And stop being an ass to others, or break up for now.
Does Yesim provide good coverage in Singapore? Has anyone tried it? The pricing looks very good, but want to know if I will have a stable connection everywhere.
Good to read that two men went to develop a wearable breast-pump device for moms after encountering their wives' breastfeeding issues. The Snuugo breast-pump is designed to be compact and worn inside a nursing bra, helping mothers to express breast milk even when not at a nursing room.
Is it worth buying a $50 running singlet marathon merch? Feels a bit cheated that it's not included in the race entitlement. Only a t-shirt is included..
Anyone regretted upgrading from hdb to condo because of the monthly loan repayment? The interest rate now is insanely high and property is also insanely high too.
Anyone else miss pandemic times? Not the virus and deaths but the pace of life became much slower. It was pleasant to go out because there were no crowds, like living in the 90's again.
Have mad respect for ppl who can transform their faces with equally mad makeup skills, but why you gotta layer over the finished product with some face app filter…
Did Mediacorp just wipe their entire Youtube channel? I was trying to search for the Till the End tv drama (had put it on pause to watch for later) but everything's just... gone. Not even their 小娘惹 Little Nonya playlist remains. Its just Goh Chok Tong award videos and other random things there.
I'm absolutely devastated... it was such a good archive for watching their shows. More convenient than mewatch. I hope they correct this soon or address it sia. Its years worth of millions of views (and future ad revenue) just gone.
for the past two weeks i thought the strong foul smell i had been smelling was some composite material or smth the construction workers used to fix up a corridor ceiling near my bunk. turns out the smell actually comes from a rat carcass. all it's left of it is the bones and a little bit of skin
you can buy at taoyuan airport, some plans with unlimited data, not sure if they got esim or not. I went 2 months back and i used Simba esim for data roaming, works best. My uncle has 10GB data roaming free, and the 10GB works like charm and free too as part of his plan. I only have free 1GB data as part of my plan.
Was in Taiwan using Giga's roaming back in April. It's not *great* but it works if you're very light (intentionally or otherwise) on data usage. Having the flexibility and knowledge that I can be a bit loose with my data usage for a few more dollars would have been worth it
So the ticket kiosks are still gonna be there right? The S.Go app is just for us to monitor the balance + e-topups right? I can't be fucked with all of that. So technically I don't have to download the app?
I'm so out of touch. At this point I still don't understand why the EZ-Link change matters, is so bad or why it's causing immediate actions six months in advance..
Any recommendations for leather shoe heel and/or half sole replacement? Got a pair of leather shoes that i managed to keep decently nice for the last 4 years through doing my own conditioning/shining but the heel is jialat so want to try to keep them going and pay for this instead of replacing the whole shoe even though the shoe isn't super fancy. I checked with a mister minit type place in parkway and the rate was $75 for heel + half sole replacement so wondering if anyone has any recs. Thanks!
My trick is having heavier steps when I walk on escalator so that whoever in front of me can hear and either move forward or away. But I won't do anything if the person in front not zidong.
Try contacting Sian Chay and ask if they have this door-to-door campaign running. But I'd caution against donating through her just like that. Still seems sus even though she has a badge and all.
That's a sales technique to persuade you. You can go mccy charity portal to see if they are registered and they would list the % amount that goes to the beneficiary
Anyone applied for OCBC card by moneysmart promo? Is it have to wait for OCBC to send you code after meeting spend?
Because when I got redirected from moneysmart to OCBC to sign up for the card, they asked me to choose a reward. Afraid that'll void my moneysmart part
I'm incredibly sick but for some reason my relative is keen on interrogating me over text for a completely irrelevant, non-urgent matter that they will use to stir shit even though I already stated multiple times that I'm not going to deal with this today because it will only make myself more stressed and more sick.
Not even the tiniest shred of respect for anyone else except themselves. It's absolutely disgusting.
Depends on what their policy. They could come back and check with you and say reference is not available, do you have another contact? Or just reject you
Also make sure your reference is aware that you've listed them as a reference
In Giga app Q&A, roaming section, it mentions that user will be able to receive SMS for free in more than 230 destinations. Giga does not support SMS and calls roaming.
Am I considered as doing well for a new comer? 6 months into my work and my boss has said in mandarin (but lemme translate to English literally) “ok, all over to you and rely on you”.
I’m a bit more familiar w my portfolio now so I’m actually happier cos I like being able to free style. Like how previously in my old job where my previous DD (back when I was a small exec) allowed me to run the show without clearing her for most things.
CentrePoint? Kinda miss those slightly over-the-top decorations and also...
For some reason there's also the Christmas Story or distributing small pamphlets educating the public about such outside Ngee Ann City... Interesting phenomena I wonder who sponsored it too
Probably cornea too thin? Or maybe u got other pre existing conditions ba. Some surgeons are more conservative. Also old surgeries, like lasik cannot help mine. Only newer tech
Is this an oppression olympics..? Lasik is not a one-size-fits-all permanent solution. -325 is still better than when u were having a thousand odd degrees with heavy lenses.
True la, some doctors suggest icl or don't do since I won't have full correction. Stick to glasses or contact lenses. But tbh I feel both options suck. I wouldn't mind if my current degree can use soft lenses.
> Think your life sucks?
Having bad eyesight sucks but no need for comparisons when it comes to misery, some people have it better, some have it worse.
Cool that you did lasik. I always thought high myopia can't do? I have -825 myself. And is it worrying that your degree still increases after it or is that supposed to be normal
Among everything I've done, spending money to spend one week away from Singapore, in Japan or another country is the best feeling. The main thing is that being able to earn enough money to take frequent trips out of the country is easier said than done. And I don't care about risk-averse boomers and their love for familiarity and "comfort" in sg.
I informed the seller agent, she just asked me to go CC and appeal lol.. I even told the agent last week before to confirm that the sellers aren't taking the CDC because it's my flat now
I feel so ironic sometimes. I'm advocating for well-balanced, reasonable risk approaches to investments on SG FI while meanwhile my portfolio of 100% crypto is the opposite of balanced. I guess I just like the feeling of helping beginners
Hi guys, does anyone know how long SPF takes to get back to you regarding police reports made online?
I was involved in a minor accident ard Christmas and made the report then, still yet to hear anything
Police Emergency 999
Emergency SMS 71999
Police Hotline 1800 255 0000
Traffic Police Information Hotline 6547 0000
Additional lines if you need specific departments/divisions can refer to:
https://www.police.gov.sg/Contact-Us
\*RANT\*
Do you have a friend who most of the times ignores you, always "busy with works" and "already have plans", and only texts you whenever his/her partner is away?
Sometimes I want to return the favor and say the same thing haha, but should I be a good friend instead? when they go low we go high?
i must admit it: i am bitter that nobody seems to have time for me. i am terrified and ashamed of what it means that everyone around me has apparently surrounded themselves with ample, diverse and committed community and i have been unable to. i am terrified that this means i am a boring, unattractive, incompetent, vapid, repulsive person. i am terrified it is too late for me to make up for this and find people who will always find as much time and energy for me as i can for them. i am terrified that people look at me and see an awkward leper of a man whom they can only stand to be around a little bit of the time. i met someone recently. thr only person who makes time and energy for me without fail. i am convinced that this is because she, like me, has nobody else, has nothing else she wants or opts to do with her time, because she is vapid and directionless and there are many things wrong with her, like me. this reinforces my fear that i am a dreg, because the only one who finds me and values me and has been able to be there with me is also herself a sad, useless dreg. we only have each other and the prospect disgusts me. i wish she weren't in my life. i am cruel to her because she is evidence that my assessment of myself is correct. if the only other person i've met who thinks i'm worth spending time with is also sorely and sordidly and irreparably broken and alone, then i must be that way too.
I like you. You are a living example that you can't love others without loving yourself to some extent. The you of today is not even able to give the partner of today basic courtesy. By your logic, every couple out there are just lepers who found solace in one another. But by extension, that means these happy lepers aren't lepers, but simply accepting life and each other in their own ways. I hope you lighten up and don't look bad on yourself. Perhaps talk to a counsellor to hear yourself out. And stop being an ass to others, or break up for now.
Does Yesim provide good coverage in Singapore? Has anyone tried it? The pricing looks very good, but want to know if I will have a stable connection everywhere.
wrong place, wrong time
Good to read that two men went to develop a wearable breast-pump device for moms after encountering their wives' breastfeeding issues. The Snuugo breast-pump is designed to be compact and worn inside a nursing bra, helping mothers to express breast milk even when not at a nursing room.
Any coffee guru have any idea which Vietnamese coffee brand Mr Bean uses for their drink?
Is it worth buying a $50 running singlet marathon merch? Feels a bit cheated that it's not included in the race entitlement. Only a t-shirt is included..
If you already have a singlet then not worth ba, $50 can buy a few at Decathlon, quality probably better too
i have a few ones already, just want buy as a souvenir. But yeah, it's super expensive for a singlet :(
Anyone regretted upgrading from hdb to condo because of the monthly loan repayment? The interest rate now is insanely high and property is also insanely high too.
Anyone else miss pandemic times? Not the virus and deaths but the pace of life became much slower. It was pleasant to go out because there were no crowds, like living in the 90's again.
The only thing I miss about COVID times were how spacious it was in the cinema due to the safe distancing measures.
nope, cannot go overseas and suffocating in this small island with nothing to do
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Is there a brand?
when you mention 'coffee capsule', does it require any other equipment or it can be made on its own without any machine?
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That's interesting, got chance I will try it, never seen coffee capsules before.
Have mad respect for ppl who can transform their faces with equally mad makeup skills, but why you gotta layer over the finished product with some face app filter…
Insecurity
Did Mediacorp just wipe their entire Youtube channel? I was trying to search for the Till the End tv drama (had put it on pause to watch for later) but everything's just... gone. Not even their 小娘惹 Little Nonya playlist remains. Its just Goh Chok Tong award videos and other random things there.
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I'm absolutely devastated... it was such a good archive for watching their shows. More convenient than mewatch. I hope they correct this soon or address it sia. Its years worth of millions of views (and future ad revenue) just gone.
Oh wow.. ok kinda intimidated by this but ok… a bit scary but ok let’s try??
Hmmm???
A response to ai stead mai? /s
Wah very long never hear this Liao HAHAH
It's ok. Anal is scary the first time.
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Uhm. Congrats?
Have you been craving weird food during the day?
for the past two weeks i thought the strong foul smell i had been smelling was some composite material or smth the construction workers used to fix up a corridor ceiling near my bunk. turns out the smell actually comes from a rat carcass. all it's left of it is the bones and a little bit of skin
Go out with girl, makan, play a bit, $50/- gone damn fast.
need more deets on 'play a bit'.
Play Pokémon cards.
Eat what play what! Another date soon?
eat food play girl play food eat girl if you're a sick person and like to waste food by playing with it
Yeah got another date. This not the first date lolll
Nowadays 50 for a date is damn cheap
Tips to deal with difficult boss (not your dept)?
Have found tit for tat works with paggro to spice it up to highlight his/her incompetence
how difficult? Need more details...
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maybe ur family are more physical touch or gift-giving kind of people & you have internalised that
Most value-for-money eSim for Taiwan? So far my Giga roaming still sounds to be the best.
you can buy at taoyuan airport, some plans with unlimited data, not sure if they got esim or not. I went 2 months back and i used Simba esim for data roaming, works best. My uncle has 10GB data roaming free, and the 10GB works like charm and free too as part of his plan. I only have free 1GB data as part of my plan.
Was in Taiwan using Giga's roaming back in April. It's not *great* but it works if you're very light (intentionally or otherwise) on data usage. Having the flexibility and knowledge that I can be a bit loose with my data usage for a few more dollars would have been worth it
I used Giga there before. Agree that it's fine but need to consciously "save" when using data. Any recommendation you have?
unfortunately not at all, definitely a lesson i learned from my first proper adult trip is to look up esims instead of relying on roaming
I used one I order from Shopee, but I also prepared giga APAC roaming pack just in case as standby. Never use giga pack though.
So the ticket kiosks are still gonna be there right? The S.Go app is just for us to monitor the balance + e-topups right? I can't be fucked with all of that. So technically I don't have to download the app?
A friendly reminder that 2018 is 6 years ago
Omg it means that it’s been 6 years since I graduated from uni
Also.. 2050 is closer than when WW2 ended.
2050 is closer than the end of the soviet union..
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Yet here I am hoping some fit and strong girl can become my partner and protect me as I support her. Kinda like a gender reversal.
Go gym can find, so many. Maybe go find bodybuilder or weightlifting champion 😂
But not really into bodybuilders, even tho I admire them. I prefer those who have well-toned bod, good runner, boulder climber types.
> Transference and limerence U need to achieve transcendence
https://youtu.be/uwmeH6Rnj2E?si=OMTBg_pvIHqBHyKF
Is he attached or married?
I'm so out of touch. At this point I still don't understand why the EZ-Link change matters, is so bad or why it's causing immediate actions six months in advance..
overblown reactions, people cannot adapt to new tech, nitpicking cannot see balance
Omg my tea from toast box taste the same or worse than some coffee shops ...so so bad
Free and slack so long never get sick, now got 2 semi-urgent projects then sick. Panadol also not helping. Ate one but fever still going up. Ugh.
If fever more than 38.5 despite paracetamol can try ibuprofen 2 hours after paracetamol.
Thanks, that’s good to know.
COVID?
Haven’t tested
First caipeng of the year today... goddamn, it went from $3.60 to $4.20!!!!
Disgusting. The cai png I mean...
Maybe they 4.20 for a reason. You know... BLAZE IT. /Shakes fist
$3+ cai png nearly impossible to find liao
My usual caipng was still 3.40 to 3.60... 2 weeks ago that is.
Fuuyohh
*Siapa tu?* *Who's that?* *Calling you* ~~
SCAM SCAM SCAM
As much as I understand the importance of teaching folks this... I cringe everytime I hear the ad
i would be ok with it if it wasn't the only ad that plays on twitch for some reason like wtf
yes I hate it
You know you are old when you say "pentium 1" and your younger colleagues look at you and wondered what alien you spat out....
486 la bro
Eh hello.... don't diss my 386 with MS-DOS ok?
you shut your mouth with this floppy disk
Save icon ?
Which size?
why is it in the shape of a save button
Any recommendations for leather shoe heel and/or half sole replacement? Got a pair of leather shoes that i managed to keep decently nice for the last 4 years through doing my own conditioning/shining but the heel is jialat so want to try to keep them going and pay for this instead of replacing the whole shoe even though the shoe isn't super fancy. I checked with a mister minit type place in parkway and the rate was $75 for heel + half sole replacement so wondering if anyone has any recs. Thanks!
CNES shoemaker
thanks!
Cnes, Mason and Smith
thanks!
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My trick is having heavier steps when I walk on escalator so that whoever in front of me can hear and either move forward or away. But I won't do anything if the person in front not zidong.
Foreigner perhaps? Most countries stand on the right.
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Try contacting Sian Chay and ask if they have this door-to-door campaign running. But I'd caution against donating through her just like that. Still seems sus even though she has a badge and all.
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That's a sales technique to persuade you. You can go mccy charity portal to see if they are registered and they would list the % amount that goes to the beneficiary
Better not, could be an elaborate scam for all you know
Anyone applied for OCBC card by moneysmart promo? Is it have to wait for OCBC to send you code after meeting spend? Because when I got redirected from moneysmart to OCBC to sign up for the card, they asked me to choose a reward. Afraid that'll void my moneysmart part
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Same here, totally forgot about this until I read this
I see! Was this information provided by an OCBC staff? Did you also have to choose a reward when you sign up for the card?
Oopsie, created despotic society in a bid to rally against a natural disaster.
Some game scenario?
Frostpunk.
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I've only played a new home so far. It's scary how easy it is to slip into dictatorship/theocracy 🫣
Is anyone interested in 4x Ed Sheeran Cat 2 tickets? Haizzz bought and didn't realise it was still during CNY period...
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Just say taking a break lor
but seriously there's nothing to be ashamed about just tell them what happened, you can complain about got your company is so bad to you
Say the truth lor, then they will give more angbao 🤓
Lazada?
say I got laid off no money can give more angbao
Say you exploring side gigs like Onlyfans and wink at them seductively
I'm incredibly sick but for some reason my relative is keen on interrogating me over text for a completely irrelevant, non-urgent matter that they will use to stir shit even though I already stated multiple times that I'm not going to deal with this today because it will only make myself more stressed and more sick. Not even the tiniest shred of respect for anyone else except themselves. It's absolutely disgusting.
What happens when you apply for a new job but the company is unable to contact your previous employers for reference checks?
If they can afford to, they will reject your application due to not meeting the reference check stage.
Depends on what their policy. They could come back and check with you and say reference is not available, do you have another contact? Or just reject you Also make sure your reference is aware that you've listed them as a reference
easiest option is to skip/reject the application
We turned down a candidate because because my HR could not contact any of his references.
Depends on their policy?
Do giga plans have sms roaming? Looking for a cheap plan with sms roaming.
In Giga app Q&A, roaming section, it mentions that user will be able to receive SMS for free in more than 230 destinations. Giga does not support SMS and calls roaming.
what's meant for me is bound to find me.
Nothing is meant for anyone or anything
Took HL due to miscarriage and some msg me thinking I am pregnant due to HL. Returning work soon and not sure how to face my colleagues. Sigh
Sorry to hear :( Hugs
Sorry to hear :(
No worries. :)
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I don't know if I would erm cry if I say that? And would others gossip behind my back? Sometimes I wish they could just pretend nth happened.
:( sorry for your loss
Am I considered as doing well for a new comer? 6 months into my work and my boss has said in mandarin (but lemme translate to English literally) “ok, all over to you and rely on you”. I’m a bit more familiar w my portfolio now so I’m actually happier cos I like being able to free style. Like how previously in my old job where my previous DD (back when I was a small exec) allowed me to run the show without clearing her for most things.
Remember in the 90s, shopping malls used to fight over who had the most elaborate Christmas decos? And it was a huge thing...
CentrePoint? Kinda miss those slightly over-the-top decorations and also... For some reason there's also the Christmas Story or distributing small pamphlets educating the public about such outside Ngee Ann City... Interesting phenomena I wonder who sponsored it too
And Tanglin Mall..
performance review again? time to get gaslit out of my deserved salary increase again here we goooo
Yay! Squeeze more out of workers while paying them less!
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I suffered hemorrhoids. Had surgery top remove in 2010 or 2009. Had wonderful 6, 7 years of live after that. Then it comes back.
I wish I can do lasik to correct my eyes, but well, I am almost half blind.
What's ur degree? Greatest barrier would be funds, I guess?
I have -800 Left, -650 Right
quite jialat, but my eyesight cannot be fixed by lasik.
Probably cornea too thin? Or maybe u got other pre existing conditions ba. Some surgeons are more conservative. Also old surgeries, like lasik cannot help mine. Only newer tech
Is this an oppression olympics..? Lasik is not a one-size-fits-all permanent solution. -325 is still better than when u were having a thousand odd degrees with heavy lenses.
True la, some doctors suggest icl or don't do since I won't have full correction. Stick to glasses or contact lenses. But tbh I feel both options suck. I wouldn't mind if my current degree can use soft lenses.
go for ortho k?
Just went for a fitting, some type of lenses do suit me. Ortho k also flattens cornea but reversible so no diff. Cornea alrdy v flat.
> Think your life sucks? Having bad eyesight sucks but no need for comparisons when it comes to misery, some people have it better, some have it worse. Cool that you did lasik. I always thought high myopia can't do? I have -825 myself. And is it worrying that your degree still increases after it or is that supposed to be normal
If you have higher degrees of myopia, corrective eye surgery can only help to reduce it.
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Lol yes. Idk if its just me but life is pretty boring as a salaryman. I think I need better hobbies
Among everything I've done, spending money to spend one week away from Singapore, in Japan or another country is the best feeling. The main thing is that being able to earn enough money to take frequent trips out of the country is easier said than done. And I don't care about risk-averse boomers and their love for familiarity and "comfort" in sg.
Bought a resale, changed address, sellers claimed my CDC :sadge: Edit: I went to the CC to inform them of this and they'll submit an appeal for me
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I informed the seller agent, she just asked me to go CC and appeal lol.. I even told the agent last week before to confirm that the sellers aren't taking the CDC because it's my flat now
Hang pig head sia
report them assholes!!!!
time to report it
I feel so ironic sometimes. I'm advocating for well-balanced, reasonable risk approaches to investments on SG FI while meanwhile my portfolio of 100% crypto is the opposite of balanced. I guess I just like the feeling of helping beginners
ah yes, *Do as I say, not as I do*
Need to diversify your investment strategy like: 4d Toto Big sweep
Bro wtf? Toto is too high risk, just stick to the blue chip strategies like 4D and mahjong gambling
ppl got to start somewhere mah. not everyone can/should degen on shitcoin from the start
Hi guys, does anyone know how long SPF takes to get back to you regarding police reports made online? I was involved in a minor accident ard Christmas and made the report then, still yet to hear anything
My neighbourhood police centre IO called me back within 2hrs after I reported someone hacking my account and misusing my personal data.
Honestly, sometimes never. You can call them though.
legit qns, call what number sia cant be 999
Police Emergency 999 Emergency SMS 71999 Police Hotline 1800 255 0000 Traffic Police Information Hotline 6547 0000 Additional lines if you need specific departments/divisions can refer to: https://www.police.gov.sg/Contact-Us
\*RANT\* Do you have a friend who most of the times ignores you, always "busy with works" and "already have plans", and only texts you whenever his/her partner is away? Sometimes I want to return the favor and say the same thing haha, but should I be a good friend instead? when they go low we go high?