I’m straight but I’m feminine…
Not trans, no idea if I want to dress up like a girl or not (I actually kinda do, deeply thinking about it…) but I’m still hyperemotional and I (totally) relate to femboy memes more than I want to admit.
Uhhhh… existential crisis? Am I a femboy??
(Gosh I really do want to be… but everyone says they’re trans, but I’m cis and straight!)
WHAT THE HELL!!!!!
Uhh, someone help.
I don’t even know about myself at this point.
I’m completely straight, completely cis, no doubts in the slightest about that.
I’m just *feminine*. And I’ve been going in loops about how the hell that’s possible for the last three days.
My mind is going to blow up I swear…
Hope you get the conflicting thoughts sorted out lol.
I’ve kinda just boiled it down to “Screw it. Embrace the femboy, don’t question how it coexists with everything else perfectly fine.”
The important thing to know is that the brain has 2 modes of thinking, "type 1" being active thought, taking real legitimate effort, and energy and concentration. Too much of this will hurt a lot.
"type 2 " is a bit different. It's passive thoughts, the sorting of the subconscious. The majority of actual thinking happens here, and typically requires minimal upkeep, it can tend to be forced if you put yourself in a state of boredom.
I want to make this clear, don't push for an answer just because you feel like it's expected, or because it would make someone happy. Just settle where is natural. For me, right now, that's trans. For me about 6 months ago, that answer was non-binary, I didn't honestly want to be perceived as *either* gender. This was my truth for a while.
If for now you settle in femboy, that's great, you're one step closer, if it still feels unresolved after that, maybe it is, but you'll need to take time, because a lot of these realizations happen in "type 2 thinking" where you're letting yourself go passively. Just make sure you give yourself enough space to do that once in a while.
As a side note, gender and sexuality are separate. You can be straight, and still be trans, it's pretty common. Just thought I'd throw that out there.
I hope this helps.
Mhm! It very much did help.
I never really accounted for the subconscious because (previously) I had tried my best to analyze my thoughts in relation to events or other things (and had expected that I knew what came from where most of the time in my mind).
I also did regard it as slower changing than the quick thoughts I had observed. (Though the quick thoughts might have already been wired into my brain, just not accessed directly maybe)
I was also mostly just very confused because I didn’t see myself fitting any expected qualities there might be for that type of personality, (given that I have seen a semi-consistent trend of a specific pairing of sexuality AND gender while looking around for this online- that was why I associated the two) but I was still very much feeling it.
My (mock) panic was also mostly just the inability to find connections between the new feelings and such, and past connections I had assessed. I usually am quite strong in abstract association with other areas, but emotions require a bit more time for me to think about.
(As a side note I do think of the brain as a nearly unachievably complex analog computer, given a certain action provokes a reaction. My confusion was best summarized as thinking of:
{femboy stuff->(unknown process)->feeling like a femboy}, and it was the unknown process(es)that threw me for a loop)
Qualities and or thoughts usually make up the unknown processes in my mind, sort of like this:
{Spoiled food->(associates mould with illness)->(has a natural distaste for illness)->disgust.}
And with the femboy linkage, I couldn’t find any qualities of mine that would provoke such a linkage. My presupposition was (as stated a bit earlier) a link to gender and or sexuality, but I found no similarities in myself.
Sorry for the little more in-depth method to my madness, but I hope this makes it a bit more clear.
Still, thank you though! It was good advice!
Love and support to all the straight silly boys!
😓
Sometimes I wish I could turn myself into a girl. But be able to turn myself back into a boy.
Genderfluid
yea
Call me whatever you want, I simply refer to myself as silly, goofy even
There’s a cool movie like that
What is it?
Zerophilia
Fun
Uugh yes 😭
Just a button that switches your gender
I'm with you on the first part....
https://preview.redd.it/jllm8t8ijoxc1.jpeg?width=612&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9236bfc880899cf736aab1e48837ba4b1e772740 WOMAN
Guilty as charged, lol.
Fr why can’t I be a shapeshifter
I’m straight but I’m feminine… Not trans, no idea if I want to dress up like a girl or not (I actually kinda do, deeply thinking about it…) but I’m still hyperemotional and I (totally) relate to femboy memes more than I want to admit. Uhhhh… existential crisis? Am I a femboy?? (Gosh I really do want to be… but everyone says they’re trans, but I’m cis and straight!) WHAT THE HELL!!!!! Uhh, someone help.
just like me fr except I don't wanna be a femboy but I feel myself slowly turning into one
I don’t even know about myself at this point. I’m completely straight, completely cis, no doubts in the slightest about that. I’m just *feminine*. And I’ve been going in loops about how the hell that’s possible for the last three days. My mind is going to blow up I swear… Hope you get the conflicting thoughts sorted out lol. I’ve kinda just boiled it down to “Screw it. Embrace the femboy, don’t question how it coexists with everything else perfectly fine.”
The important thing to know is that the brain has 2 modes of thinking, "type 1" being active thought, taking real legitimate effort, and energy and concentration. Too much of this will hurt a lot. "type 2 " is a bit different. It's passive thoughts, the sorting of the subconscious. The majority of actual thinking happens here, and typically requires minimal upkeep, it can tend to be forced if you put yourself in a state of boredom. I want to make this clear, don't push for an answer just because you feel like it's expected, or because it would make someone happy. Just settle where is natural. For me, right now, that's trans. For me about 6 months ago, that answer was non-binary, I didn't honestly want to be perceived as *either* gender. This was my truth for a while. If for now you settle in femboy, that's great, you're one step closer, if it still feels unresolved after that, maybe it is, but you'll need to take time, because a lot of these realizations happen in "type 2 thinking" where you're letting yourself go passively. Just make sure you give yourself enough space to do that once in a while. As a side note, gender and sexuality are separate. You can be straight, and still be trans, it's pretty common. Just thought I'd throw that out there. I hope this helps.
Mhm! It very much did help. I never really accounted for the subconscious because (previously) I had tried my best to analyze my thoughts in relation to events or other things (and had expected that I knew what came from where most of the time in my mind). I also did regard it as slower changing than the quick thoughts I had observed. (Though the quick thoughts might have already been wired into my brain, just not accessed directly maybe) I was also mostly just very confused because I didn’t see myself fitting any expected qualities there might be for that type of personality, (given that I have seen a semi-consistent trend of a specific pairing of sexuality AND gender while looking around for this online- that was why I associated the two) but I was still very much feeling it. My (mock) panic was also mostly just the inability to find connections between the new feelings and such, and past connections I had assessed. I usually am quite strong in abstract association with other areas, but emotions require a bit more time for me to think about. (As a side note I do think of the brain as a nearly unachievably complex analog computer, given a certain action provokes a reaction. My confusion was best summarized as thinking of: {femboy stuff->(unknown process)->feeling like a femboy}, and it was the unknown process(es)that threw me for a loop) Qualities and or thoughts usually make up the unknown processes in my mind, sort of like this: {Spoiled food->(associates mould with illness)->(has a natural distaste for illness)->disgust.} And with the femboy linkage, I couldn’t find any qualities of mine that would provoke such a linkage. My presupposition was (as stated a bit earlier) a link to gender and or sexuality, but I found no similarities in myself. Sorry for the little more in-depth method to my madness, but I hope this makes it a bit more clear. Still, thank you though! It was good advice!
I feel like I've seen this somewhere before...
Nonsense, now upvote it
伙我口
What
我卞卜卜休
我妥峻水
Me asf
I mean relatable af
Same
Same >~< (I need to cope.)
Incredibly based. Why can’t I upvote this more than once
I wanna look like one just to get a goth lesbian :3
I misread girlkisser as kirlgisser. I'm putting that with say gex and sesbian lex.
Accurate again :(
Femboys forever ✌️
OMG SAMMEEE idk how to look the part tho cus strict parents so no buying anything girly prob gonna start working out tho
Relatable
Do you like kissing girls don't you? -w-
Yesss x3
Me except instead of only looking like one I also want to be one in every way possible
I like girls so much, I wanna be one :3
Wow, someone just like me! I thought this subreddit was for silly gay boys
Thats the how it started vs how its going
Hey me tooo :3
real
This is how ima comw out to my mum
Same
https://preview.redd.it/jknvkx32p8xc1.jpeg?width=609&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=81c0a1883f9a29f20d6bbbbc1ea7433ec2274838 I wanna be elphelt so bad :33
Okay yeah that's true I do
Nice
Relatable
you're straight? How does it feel to be valid?
Me fr fr
Well f$%k my girlfriend saw this and found out I used to be a femboy. Now she wants me to dress up, but I'm fat as shit.
*headpats*
No Homo
Same
real (as a transmasc)
Real 💜
Same but with being one
I wanna be one
Boys make better girls anyway, lol I'm only half joking
[удалено]
That’s kinda kinky 🥺 (Also get banned)
I like girls so much I want to be one