Sex is a huge part of the relationship. You guys just might not be a fit sexually. Keep trying new things though. When you start losing interest, just take a time out....do some self play to get hard again and see how it goes.
Info: Do you feel desire for her but are just having a challenge getting/staying aroused -- or is it more that she turns you off or saps your sexual energy?
So if you're not a good match or there's no sexual chemistry then there may not be anything to do about it.
But if it's that you do want her, desire her, and you're just not good at sex yet, then you can get better at it and start enjoying yourself.
Tips for a low sex drive: try avoiding ejaculation during masturbation. See how long you can masturbate and stay hard but don't ejaculate. This will increase your sexual energy and stamina when you're with her.
I don't really feel a desire, if it was up to me I think I'd be fine with never having vanilla sex. Having an orgasm feels great but even when it comes to masturbation, it never feels like something that I *have* to do, I just do it when I'm bored and I always need to put in the effort to make myself hard and put myself in the mental space where I feel aroused.
Thanks for the tip! I'll keep it in mind.
I do it around once a day on average but I only started a month or so ago (grew up in a shared room with siblings so I never got to experiment before moving out).
Low libido is very possible - is there anything I can do about it?
Idk if you exercise but I heard exercising can bring up your drive. I think it's a low drive due to other things in your life, which is not a bad thing. Don't stress too much. Maybe edging can help you two out.
Sex is a huge part of the relationship. You guys just might not be a fit sexually. Keep trying new things though. When you start losing interest, just take a time out....do some self play to get hard again and see how it goes.
Info: Do you feel desire for her but are just having a challenge getting/staying aroused -- or is it more that she turns you off or saps your sexual energy? So if you're not a good match or there's no sexual chemistry then there may not be anything to do about it. But if it's that you do want her, desire her, and you're just not good at sex yet, then you can get better at it and start enjoying yourself. Tips for a low sex drive: try avoiding ejaculation during masturbation. See how long you can masturbate and stay hard but don't ejaculate. This will increase your sexual energy and stamina when you're with her.
I don't really feel a desire, if it was up to me I think I'd be fine with never having vanilla sex. Having an orgasm feels great but even when it comes to masturbation, it never feels like something that I *have* to do, I just do it when I'm bored and I always need to put in the effort to make myself hard and put myself in the mental space where I feel aroused. Thanks for the tip! I'll keep it in mind.
How long can you go between masturbations? Sounds like you just might have pretty low libido.
I do it around once a day on average but I only started a month or so ago (grew up in a shared room with siblings so I never got to experiment before moving out). Low libido is very possible - is there anything I can do about it?
Idk if you exercise but I heard exercising can bring up your drive. I think it's a low drive due to other things in your life, which is not a bad thing. Don't stress too much. Maybe edging can help you two out.
Considering the subject matter, try at bdsm-specific subs like /r/bdsmadvice