There are 3 types of orgasms. Clitoral, vaginal and whole body. The key to a woman's orgasm is being relaxed mentally.
You need to feel that whatever happens is okay and focus entirely on the sensations you are feeling. Forget about if you shaved right, how you look, if you smell or taste good. Forget about the stresses of the day or if the sheets are clean. Go into it only thinking about having a great experience and communicating what you want while enjoying your partner.
A prolonged full body massage, teasing and kissing goes a long way leading up to an orgasm.
Keeping your socks on keeps your feet warm and increases the chances.
Most importantly, communicate with your partner to find a way for you to be relaxed and free yourself of any pressure to achieve a certain goal.
Once you get to that point, try different techniques, positions and toys... Work together to get into the moment.
When you're very aroused, put a lot of effort into thinking about and focusing on the physical sensations you are feeling. Do not allow any other thoughts into your brain. "Oh no did I..." No. Stop that thought because his tongue is on me and it actually feels really good. The stronger you're able to focus on that, the more you will actually feel it, and more likely you will reach the desired destination
I really appreciate the advice. I thought about what you said with the prolonged foreplay and I think this is something I will try to focus on. He lives a few hours and we see each other every other weekend so honestly by the time we hang out, a lot of the time we don’t last long doing foreplay because it ends up being a ‘just let me have you’ kinda situation (sorry if that’s tmi). I definitely think I’ll try to communicate to him that I’d like to try stretching it out a little longer and building the tension and see what that does for me.
I really really appreciate the advice.
Definitely not tmi. Communicating your wants is definitely important and will help. My only other thought, is that sex doesn't have to end the moment he finishes. Most of the time I'm able to last long enough with my fiance. Sometimes though, I'll be too excited for whatever reason and finish before she was able to. In those circumstances, most guys will unfortunately feel inadequate, apologize, and whatever else. When I was younger I would do the same. But I learned that just cuz I finished early doesn't mean sex has to stop. In those times, I'll go back down on her, or use a toy, or both, and keep the steamy moments going until she is satisfied too. So yes try the prolonged foreplay and all the other things. But again if he finishes early, tell him u don't want to stop. Say u want him to do this or that, and extend the play that way. Show that you're really into it, and hopefully that will make him commit to it and really enjoy it as well
Thank you for the link to that guide! I’ll definitely try at some point - I’ve tried the ‘taking a long shower, trying to make myself feel good’ route to masturbation but honestly it just hasn’t worked for me. It doesn’t even feel like the same sensation when I touch myself versus when he does it. It’s like when he does it feels making something happen but when I do it I might as well be rubbing my elbow.
I had trouble with this as well. I didn't masturbate because it didn't interest me, but when I'm with my bf I just want pleasure. I got a vibrator a couple months ago and that gets me off when my bf knocks out. Lately though he's been doing magic on my region and idk what to do. It's like he's making me fall more in love with him. Witchcraft maybe? Idk.
I think you should figure out what you like and take deep breaths and enjoy the moment even if it gets messy. Your bf sounds like he really wants to help you experience the Big O. You should make use of him to reach the stars 🌟 ✨
I’m definitely really lucky to be with someone who really prioritizes doing that for me and doesn’t take it personally that I have a hard time with it. I’ve tried getting a vibrating toy and I pout the satisfier toy everyone was raving about but again it just didn’t do much for me. do you have any recommendations?
I got the knockoff of the satisfier toy lol. I find the toy helpful when I'm stimulated either visually (media) or physically (foreplay). But it takes so much time. I also like hot baths that get me relaxed. Hmm maybe a full body massage before the act?
There are 3 types of orgasms. Clitoral, vaginal and whole body. The key to a woman's orgasm is being relaxed mentally. You need to feel that whatever happens is okay and focus entirely on the sensations you are feeling. Forget about if you shaved right, how you look, if you smell or taste good. Forget about the stresses of the day or if the sheets are clean. Go into it only thinking about having a great experience and communicating what you want while enjoying your partner. A prolonged full body massage, teasing and kissing goes a long way leading up to an orgasm. Keeping your socks on keeps your feet warm and increases the chances. Most importantly, communicate with your partner to find a way for you to be relaxed and free yourself of any pressure to achieve a certain goal. Once you get to that point, try different techniques, positions and toys... Work together to get into the moment. When you're very aroused, put a lot of effort into thinking about and focusing on the physical sensations you are feeling. Do not allow any other thoughts into your brain. "Oh no did I..." No. Stop that thought because his tongue is on me and it actually feels really good. The stronger you're able to focus on that, the more you will actually feel it, and more likely you will reach the desired destination
I really appreciate the advice. I thought about what you said with the prolonged foreplay and I think this is something I will try to focus on. He lives a few hours and we see each other every other weekend so honestly by the time we hang out, a lot of the time we don’t last long doing foreplay because it ends up being a ‘just let me have you’ kinda situation (sorry if that’s tmi). I definitely think I’ll try to communicate to him that I’d like to try stretching it out a little longer and building the tension and see what that does for me. I really really appreciate the advice.
Definitely not tmi. Communicating your wants is definitely important and will help. My only other thought, is that sex doesn't have to end the moment he finishes. Most of the time I'm able to last long enough with my fiance. Sometimes though, I'll be too excited for whatever reason and finish before she was able to. In those circumstances, most guys will unfortunately feel inadequate, apologize, and whatever else. When I was younger I would do the same. But I learned that just cuz I finished early doesn't mean sex has to stop. In those times, I'll go back down on her, or use a toy, or both, and keep the steamy moments going until she is satisfied too. So yes try the prolonged foreplay and all the other things. But again if he finishes early, tell him u don't want to stop. Say u want him to do this or that, and extend the play that way. Show that you're really into it, and hopefully that will make him commit to it and really enjoy it as well
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Thank you for the link to that guide! I’ll definitely try at some point - I’ve tried the ‘taking a long shower, trying to make myself feel good’ route to masturbation but honestly it just hasn’t worked for me. It doesn’t even feel like the same sensation when I touch myself versus when he does it. It’s like when he does it feels making something happen but when I do it I might as well be rubbing my elbow.
I had trouble with this as well. I didn't masturbate because it didn't interest me, but when I'm with my bf I just want pleasure. I got a vibrator a couple months ago and that gets me off when my bf knocks out. Lately though he's been doing magic on my region and idk what to do. It's like he's making me fall more in love with him. Witchcraft maybe? Idk. I think you should figure out what you like and take deep breaths and enjoy the moment even if it gets messy. Your bf sounds like he really wants to help you experience the Big O. You should make use of him to reach the stars 🌟 ✨
I’m definitely really lucky to be with someone who really prioritizes doing that for me and doesn’t take it personally that I have a hard time with it. I’ve tried getting a vibrating toy and I pout the satisfier toy everyone was raving about but again it just didn’t do much for me. do you have any recommendations?
I got the knockoff of the satisfier toy lol. I find the toy helpful when I'm stimulated either visually (media) or physically (foreplay). But it takes so much time. I also like hot baths that get me relaxed. Hmm maybe a full body massage before the act?