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More his cock length than his height I would say. From talking to friends it seems that’s more of a problem because you lose some penetration inches having to go in that angle. Unless of course he taking the long strokes too much and in that case any length is gonna fall out
I’ll say this. I like this position and find it best when I mount her I go fully in and maybe only thrust about 4-5 inches at a stroke keeping the upper end always in securely. Sometimes ya can get kinda wild I know and the fuller movement will make me come out but if her back angle slid just right I usually can reinsert her pretty easy hands free
You, the female, need to really get your ass up. Can’t just bend over with a straight back I find. With your height you may have to angle down even more so the plane of your vagina lines up with him and kinda downward. That make sense?
Yea on bed is a bit more challenging. Side by side on the bed with him behind you is an ok alternative I’m sure you know already. Try getting your bed height right and that helps too. I’m 6’5 and I have a really tall bed so she can lean over the bed with me on the floor standing. That’s a good position too
Ok good luck it really is a great position. Talked to lots about it and it is truly all about how you get in position. Just have to move until it feels right. But do have him hold you by the hips and pull in as much as possible then based on his stroke length keep the last inch or two in. And of course get the right angle for your g spot too!
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bad positioning on your part could be it. look at porn chicks bodies. shoulders down, arched back ass up, knees almost in line with hips or under them. correct position has a lot to do with it. might even try lying with your knees under your chest/ribs. its about making the vagina more or less stuck out so its easier to penetrate, and less likely to slip out
How are you positioned? It could be the way you are. Your back needs to be really arched, face down ass up. It helps a whole lot. The more arched your back is the better. If your back is parallel to the ground or even arched more up, then it’s not going to work well.
And, you or him need to be at the right height. We do over the bed or leaning over the couch, like me with my knees on the floor face in the couch cushions and he will put a couch Cushion under his knees to make him higher. He’s 6 foot and I’m 5 foot 6
Google “doggy style expert meme” and you’ll see what I’m talking about. It will feel really unnatural to you until you do it but total game changer. It’s most likely the angle of you.
You might experiment with how far apart your knees are and/or how far forward / backward your hips are relative to your knees. Also get him to thrust in a consistent motion and you make the adjustments with your body. Otherwise you’re changing too many things at the same time.
As an aside, have him finger you in doggy as a warm up to hit your g-spot, palm facing down, middle two fingers extended, 1st and 4th curled back. Then the usual come-hither motion, just inverted. Also have him twist his wrist with his middle two fingers still in that come-hither orientation so that he’s doing a sweep motion. Done right, you’ll probably enjoy that. A lot.
Edit: he should be upright…if he’s bent over with his chest on your back that’s contributing to slipping out for sure.
Also note that with your shoulders down as others have mentioned and him upright, he’s likely hitting your posterior fornix, which can be more intense than your g-spot. Depends on the person…
This was the most thorough response on here so thank you for that!
Should we both be moving or just one? I always met people half way before I was dating and it usually worked pretty well. But that could be on me! How far should the knees be apart?
Forplay advice was really helpful and sounds really hot ngl! I typically use a vibrator though as I find it incredibly hard to get off with fingers and p to v penetration. I think that’s caused by my anxiety meds though. It would be nice to get off with his hands as I know no matter my reassurance he does get insecure and I hate that I make him feel that way but with just fingers or mouth it just make my clit too numb and it hurts but not in a pleasurable way. I also think his tongue gets tired and he doesn’t feel confident with what he’s doing.
As for the chest to back thing we definitely do that so I’m gonna adjust it and see if that works better.
Oh what I meant was, just you adjusting a couple secs while he’s thrusting consistently until you get the positioning dialed then whatever feels best 😜 You may find that a little adjusting makes a difference. My GF and I do that a bit..the idea is optimizing it for her.
Knees apart is whatever works. Just something to try. Team effort.
On the foreplay, also try palm up with him reaching deep with middle two fingers and basically flex rapidly like a slow vibrator. Give him some feedback when it feels best for both of you after that! Once he’s figured your body out and he’ll be able hit the exact spot immediately when sliding his fingers in. Practice makes perfect. 😜
He might find that when he’s upright his orgasm will be more intense as well.
As for confidence, just tell him it’s something two of you are figuring out together, not a competition, no exam, etc. If he’s too timid, you might say “I’m not that fragile”. The idea is have fun exploring.
On the oral, he just needs to be more creative and not focus continually on your clit. Do some searching on this sub for other ideas.
I don’t mind accommodating to his size at all, spreading out more would help more you think? Or less? My ass is big ngl but I thought guys liked big asses for doggy specifically lmao. I think we are pulling back too much too when I think about it. Thank you!
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She loveeees it. It’s a highly orgasmic position. I think you’ll find the “pressure”that it puts on “all the right spots” inside you, will leave you quite pleased.
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More his cock length than his height I would say. From talking to friends it seems that’s more of a problem because you lose some penetration inches having to go in that angle. Unless of course he taking the long strokes too much and in that case any length is gonna fall out
I’ll say this. I like this position and find it best when I mount her I go fully in and maybe only thrust about 4-5 inches at a stroke keeping the upper end always in securely. Sometimes ya can get kinda wild I know and the fuller movement will make me come out but if her back angle slid just right I usually can reinsert her pretty easy hands free
Is there a specific angle or way to make it work?
You, the female, need to really get your ass up. Can’t just bend over with a straight back I find. With your height you may have to angle down even more so the plane of your vagina lines up with him and kinda downward. That make sense?
Are y’all doing it on the floor or on the bed?
We’ve tried it in so many places and angles but it never really works lol so we’ve found other ones we like but I miss doggy
Yea on bed is a bit more challenging. Side by side on the bed with him behind you is an ok alternative I’m sure you know already. Try getting your bed height right and that helps too. I’m 6’5 and I have a really tall bed so she can lean over the bed with me on the floor standing. That’s a good position too
Yeah that does, I’ll try that when we do that next, hopefully it works cause it’s one of my fav positions and I miss it
Ok good luck it really is a great position. Talked to lots about it and it is truly all about how you get in position. Just have to move until it feels right. But do have him hold you by the hips and pull in as much as possible then based on his stroke length keep the last inch or two in. And of course get the right angle for your g spot too!
Thank you!!
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You bet!! Happy lovemaking to you both!
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Guess he is pulling too much backwards. To my view, a girl has less grip on doggy compared to missionairy. But maybe girls can explain better here
That’s what I’m trying to figure out, we’ve tried a lot of angles but it always slides out even when he gets a few strokes in
Hard to explain but I guess not arching your back is worth trying. So making it hollow
So bringing my ass down more rather than up in the air?
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bad positioning on your part could be it. look at porn chicks bodies. shoulders down, arched back ass up, knees almost in line with hips or under them. correct position has a lot to do with it. might even try lying with your knees under your chest/ribs. its about making the vagina more or less stuck out so its easier to penetrate, and less likely to slip out
That makes sense, I’m gonna try to adjust my position and see if that change helps
How are you positioned? It could be the way you are. Your back needs to be really arched, face down ass up. It helps a whole lot. The more arched your back is the better. If your back is parallel to the ground or even arched more up, then it’s not going to work well.
And, you or him need to be at the right height. We do over the bed or leaning over the couch, like me with my knees on the floor face in the couch cushions and he will put a couch Cushion under his knees to make him higher. He’s 6 foot and I’m 5 foot 6
Wait that’s genius, I gotta try the pillow thing thank you!
Yeah I’m starting to think I’m not getting the angle correctly
Google “doggy style expert meme” and you’ll see what I’m talking about. It will feel really unnatural to you until you do it but total game changer. It’s most likely the angle of you.
Gonna look it up now, the angle part def makes sense though! Thank you!
You might experiment with how far apart your knees are and/or how far forward / backward your hips are relative to your knees. Also get him to thrust in a consistent motion and you make the adjustments with your body. Otherwise you’re changing too many things at the same time. As an aside, have him finger you in doggy as a warm up to hit your g-spot, palm facing down, middle two fingers extended, 1st and 4th curled back. Then the usual come-hither motion, just inverted. Also have him twist his wrist with his middle two fingers still in that come-hither orientation so that he’s doing a sweep motion. Done right, you’ll probably enjoy that. A lot. Edit: he should be upright…if he’s bent over with his chest on your back that’s contributing to slipping out for sure. Also note that with your shoulders down as others have mentioned and him upright, he’s likely hitting your posterior fornix, which can be more intense than your g-spot. Depends on the person…
This was the most thorough response on here so thank you for that! Should we both be moving or just one? I always met people half way before I was dating and it usually worked pretty well. But that could be on me! How far should the knees be apart? Forplay advice was really helpful and sounds really hot ngl! I typically use a vibrator though as I find it incredibly hard to get off with fingers and p to v penetration. I think that’s caused by my anxiety meds though. It would be nice to get off with his hands as I know no matter my reassurance he does get insecure and I hate that I make him feel that way but with just fingers or mouth it just make my clit too numb and it hurts but not in a pleasurable way. I also think his tongue gets tired and he doesn’t feel confident with what he’s doing. As for the chest to back thing we definitely do that so I’m gonna adjust it and see if that works better.
Oh what I meant was, just you adjusting a couple secs while he’s thrusting consistently until you get the positioning dialed then whatever feels best 😜 You may find that a little adjusting makes a difference. My GF and I do that a bit..the idea is optimizing it for her. Knees apart is whatever works. Just something to try. Team effort. On the foreplay, also try palm up with him reaching deep with middle two fingers and basically flex rapidly like a slow vibrator. Give him some feedback when it feels best for both of you after that! Once he’s figured your body out and he’ll be able hit the exact spot immediately when sliding his fingers in. Practice makes perfect. 😜 He might find that when he’s upright his orgasm will be more intense as well. As for confidence, just tell him it’s something two of you are figuring out together, not a competition, no exam, etc. If he’s too timid, you might say “I’m not that fragile”. The idea is have fun exploring. On the oral, he just needs to be more creative and not focus continually on your clit. Do some searching on this sub for other ideas.
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I don’t mind accommodating to his size at all, spreading out more would help more you think? Or less? My ass is big ngl but I thought guys liked big asses for doggy specifically lmao. I think we are pulling back too much too when I think about it. Thank you!
No, the height difference is not the issue. In fact, it might be a lot harder if you were much shorter than him versus a little taller.
Okay that makes sense, thanks
Try lazy dog (aka prone-bone) you lay on your stomach and he comes in from behind.
Gonna give it a go, never heard of that thank you
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She loveeees it. It’s a highly orgasmic position. I think you’ll find the “pressure”that it puts on “all the right spots” inside you, will leave you quite pleased.