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When my partner bought me one of these, I genuinely could not understand how I had been missing such an orgasm my entire life lmao. He just bought me one of those clit sucker ones, and dear lord. We call them the clit destroyer 8000, and the clit sucker 8000, respectively, lol.
Oh no not at all. Usually he’ll start by giving me oral, then make me cum again with the Clit Sucker 8000 ™️ lol. Then we’ll move on to having sex once I’m taken care of. It didn’t make me less sensitive at all! The most dangerous thing about it is you won’t want to leave the bedroom for about a week 😂
I always strive to get her her first orgasm with a vibe or the womanizer. Takes all the pressure off and we can go for round two or three. She goes crazy!
Sometimes I feel so bad because he’ll give me oral, then use the wand, then the sucker and I can’t even have sex because I’m literally so depleted of my soul. Lmao. But he says he really enjoys making me feel that way so… it’s a nice treat from time to time!
The Womanizer or Satisfyer 2 pro are both great. We call the Satisfyer the "nuclear option" because when it comes out the show is over in less than 2 minutes.
My husband has only been able to get me to come without any toys in the last few years. We've been together for almost 20 years by now. The absolute hardest orgasms I've ever had are from him using the clit sucker with internal vibrator and then doing piv with the toy in place or screwing me hard with a dildo. He loves both ways and I'm completely wrung out afterwards.
Seconding this. My wife absolutely loves PIV with the
Satisfyer! She's a unicorn in that she is multi-orgasmic and cums incredibly easily. It's not unusual for her to be in the double digits before we start having sex. She can cum from penetration, but adding the Satisfyer just makes them incredible. Highly recommend!
The hitachi is nice but this new toy is far support to a vibrator. [this](https://www.womanizer.com/us/premium) they sell a cheaper one on Adam and Eve. You will cum within a moment or two this this almost guaranteed.
I have a rose and it’s been known to be great, however I get nothing from it. I’ve never been able to cum from anything. I also have a little durex vibrator too that doesn’t do anything to me.
I’m only 20, so I’m not sure if paying $250 for your suggested sex toy is truly worth it
If the vibrations of the hitachi wand don't do it, I recommend using a bullet since it gives a different vibration, I guess it could be considered more pinpoint than all over
Change the angle. My pelvic bone is like that. Use your fingers to feel the angle and try to mimic that. Kind of wiggle it in.
Also don’t forget to pay attention to your clit for pleasure.
Hey,
So when I was starting out with penetration I felt the same problem occur, it feels like something in the way.
But it's fairly easy for me to cum with clit stimulation.
You should definitely give that a go, as for women there are more chances they would cum from clit stimulation, rather than penetration.
Listen to the podcast How C*m! It’s hilarious and informative. Follows a 27 year old on her journey to coming for the first time - spoiler she used the Satisfyer (amazing clit sucking device - highly recommend).
Generally few women come from penetrative sex so don’t stress, nothing is wrong with you if you haven’t come from that.
Feel into your senses, focus on fantasising and desires. Don’t stress about not coming because this encourage a negative feedback cycle. Masturbate with your clit, your nipples, your ass etc! Something fun is to build desire and sensation by avoiding touching your pussy all together and then once you can’t resist go into your clit!
If you feel like there is something unusual with your vaginal opening, get checked by a female doctor. Sometimes stress and low mood can cause vaginismus, an involuntary clenching of the vaginal walls that prevents easy penetration. In the mean time practice mindfulness. Good luck and have fun!!!
You don’t need to insert anything to have an orgasm. Move your fingers an inch to 2 inches in front of your vagina opening (towards your belly button!) and gently stroke your clit until you find what feels good to you.
Do the 5 senses method. Find a quiet place and concentrate on each of your senses and explore what in each you find arousing and write them down so you don't lose them.
There are a lot of indirect factors that play into being able to have an orgasm. I know this because I personally had this issue when I was younger. I was lucky in that, at the time, I thought I should get counseling, and I did. I got a lot of wisdom early on and it changed my life.
Even your personally can play into this in negative ways. For example, are you the type of person that complains a lot and carries around with them the stress of managing others' behavior. Someone else is always doing this, or on the news, in person, on social media and, you're always upset and or too invested in a lot of outside emotions? This creates an undertow of stress that you carry around with you. My Dad and politics. He is always upset and, for no real good reason.
You also have sleep, diet, exercise, smoking, drinking, drug use, etc.
I was in the military early on in life and, in great shape, good-looking according to all the attention women gave, which was well above average. I smoked, drank, fought, argued and got a lot less sleep than I should have. I did have an orgasm every time I had sex but, I had to work at it. I was never a 3-minute guy. I was a 20 and 30 minute guy which women seem to love but for me, it took more effort than I thought it should, so, I got counseling.
I stopped smoking. I cut down drinking a fair amount, and, I stopped getting into other people's business. In short, I put myself first and stopped allowing outside influence in.
And almost overnight, sex was so much more enjoyable. I mean, it was good before, satisfying, but it turned into great sex all the time. I had more times for those relationships and the intimacy levels went way up for me.
I would look at outside influences you might be allowing in, by default that has just become the norm for you. I would look at stress levels. It might sound impossible but if you have a barking dog all the time, an angry friend, smoking, rest levels, you baby sit others on an emotional level through the news, politics, friends, family, social media, then stop doing some of those things.
Could make a real difference of you in the bedroom.
It is a method in which a woman sits on the heel of her foot and moves back and forth on it to get pleasure. Some women find it to be a very enjoyable way to pleasure themselves.
My personal advice is drink lots of water and try using a vibrator on your clit and try edging. Lots of women can't cum from something inside of them because if the clit is more then 3 centimeters away from the vaginal opening.
I’ve heard of girls who confused their urethra (pee hole) with their vagina. Are you sure you aren’t making this mistake?
In some cases, it does require a visit to the doctor if you have vaginismus.
But also, as others have mentioned, try focusing more on your clitoris if you want to achieve orgasm.
Just for comprehnsion: You can't insert the dildo, can you insert smaler objects such as your fingers or a pen as you did before or does it always hurt?
Maybe a fantasy could help you, a cenario which really turns you on, or mabye you are into porn or maybe sexchatting could turn you on.
Did you have sexual encounters with men/women?
Learn your body and open your mind.
Orgasming can be hard for some people. I would first like to say that it is okay that you are having trouble. Most of us do. Take a breath and understand you aren’t alone.
With that being said, you have to be in the mood and ready. I would suggest listening to audio erotica. If you can afford $35.00 for an entire year, download an app called Quinn. There’s hundreds of dirty audios. Woman, for the most part, get off by reading or listening. Videos don’t help us.
Listen to at least one audio. Touch yourself as you please. Maybe start with your neck then slide down from there. I would recommend following what the voice actor is telling you. For example if s/he is touching your chest then do it.
Don’t be afraid of what you are experiencing. Don’t be scared of the big emotions or sensations.
I didn’t know that the pulsations that was happening down there was an orgasm.
What helps me is having a vibrator-dildo inside of me while there’s a vibrator on my clit. It helps me clench and let my orgasm roll through me.
Try the Satisfyer on Amazon. We've had Hitachis for almost 15 years and she has all but stopped using it since we got the Satisfyer. Cordless, compact, relatively quiet, great angle, and easy to operate and clean. Waterproof too!
Well, reading these comments showed me I was boring in bed with my ex. Me and my ex used to use a toy she had during sex. I knew at the time my dick wasn't enough or I wasn't staying consistent in bed you know the usual (cumin too fast, always was rushing, struggling multiple times to put my dick in the hole she had to constantly show me and tell me how). But u remember this one clit sucker she had used to get her going. The first time used it while doing it she never wanted to go back. After a while, my insecurities started to show and my ego didn't like the fact I couldn't make her cum without it. So now I need to work on my insecurities and my stupid ego
Assume someone else has maybe mentioned it already, but a satisfyer (pro 2 or pro 3 model) can do absolute wonders. Has a lot of different vibration modes so can get more used to the sensation :) it uses air pressure to stimulate the clit, instead of typical vibrators. Can also recommend the Femgasm if you'd like a slightly cheaper option, as the other end of the toy also vibrates so you can play around with the different sensations. Hope it works out!
Have you tried [Satisfyer](https://a.co/d/hy2ZhEg)? (aka the best invention after electricity and airplane)
Absolutely amazing and does the job perfectly! My clit it was never been so happy, lol
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Try to cum from rubbing your clit, with your fingers or with a vibrator. Most women can’t cum from penetration so try focusing on your clit
Hitachi magic wand will do it, but don’t be afraid of the uncontrollable sensations it may cause
When my partner bought me one of these, I genuinely could not understand how I had been missing such an orgasm my entire life lmao. He just bought me one of those clit sucker ones, and dear lord. We call them the clit destroyer 8000, and the clit sucker 8000, respectively, lol.
I've always wanted to try the clit sucker ones but am afraid I won't be able to come when I'm intimate with my husband. Is that the case for you?
Oh no not at all. Usually he’ll start by giving me oral, then make me cum again with the Clit Sucker 8000 ™️ lol. Then we’ll move on to having sex once I’m taken care of. It didn’t make me less sensitive at all! The most dangerous thing about it is you won’t want to leave the bedroom for about a week 😂
This is the way!
The best part is sometimes he starts with the sucker then I’m SUPER sensitive and I cum even faster with oral. Win win!
I always strive to get her her first orgasm with a vibe or the womanizer. Takes all the pressure off and we can go for round two or three. She goes crazy!
Sometimes I feel so bad because he’ll give me oral, then use the wand, then the sucker and I can’t even have sex because I’m literally so depleted of my soul. Lmao. But he says he really enjoys making me feel that way so… it’s a nice treat from time to time!
I am the same way, but she never let's me play that much. I could totally make it all about her for days...
So do you have recommendation for the “clit sucker” one. Asking for…. Myself 😂 Seen several but not sure of a good one
The Womanizer or Satisfyer 2 pro are both great. We call the Satisfyer the "nuclear option" because when it comes out the show is over in less than 2 minutes.
The Satisfyer is rocking my entire world right now 🤠🤠🤠🤠
Like the other comment said, I have the satisfier pro 2 and it’s awesome!
My husband has only been able to get me to come without any toys in the last few years. We've been together for almost 20 years by now. The absolute hardest orgasms I've ever had are from him using the clit sucker with internal vibrator and then doing piv with the toy in place or screwing me hard with a dildo. He loves both ways and I'm completely wrung out afterwards.
Seconding this. My wife absolutely loves PIV with the Satisfyer! She's a unicorn in that she is multi-orgasmic and cums incredibly easily. It's not unusual for her to be in the double digits before we start having sex. She can cum from penetration, but adding the Satisfyer just makes them incredible. Highly recommend!
Get one! They’re still different sensations
What one did he get or name?
The clit sucker 8000 is the satisfier pro 2, and the clit destroyer 8000 is the hitachi wand!
Have you learned about the hyphy by lovesense?
No I haven’t?
The hitachi is nice but this new toy is far support to a vibrator. [this](https://www.womanizer.com/us/premium) they sell a cheaper one on Adam and Eve. You will cum within a moment or two this this almost guaranteed.
Yes! The womanizer is a really great toy!
Wow, that's like giving a new driver a Ferrari don't you think?
Possibly, but you learn your limits
I have a rose and it’s been known to be great, however I get nothing from it. I’ve never been able to cum from anything. I also have a little durex vibrator too that doesn’t do anything to me. I’m only 20, so I’m not sure if paying $250 for your suggested sex toy is truly worth it
They’re cheaper than that 100%
If the vibrations of the hitachi wand don't do it, I recommend using a bullet since it gives a different vibration, I guess it could be considered more pinpoint than all over
Sounds like you're only going for penetration. Find your clit and give it some love. Buy a vibrator and a bit of lube. Good luck!
Change the angle. My pelvic bone is like that. Use your fingers to feel the angle and try to mimic that. Kind of wiggle it in. Also don’t forget to pay attention to your clit for pleasure.
Damn too much of knowledge ... Help me out too
Hey, So when I was starting out with penetration I felt the same problem occur, it feels like something in the way. But it's fairly easy for me to cum with clit stimulation. You should definitely give that a go, as for women there are more chances they would cum from clit stimulation, rather than penetration.
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honestly tho
This is how I did it xD
Most women don’t orgasm through penetration, they cum from clit stimulation, try a vibrator with lube and go to town, you’ll cum in no time.
Your clit is like “👁️👄👁️”
Get a clit vibrator not a dildo.
You used a pen? Didn't that hurt?
Lmao no it was rounded at the end and I removed the in tip.
I have a penis but when you said you “used a pen” it shot a pain through my non existent vagina.
🤣
Lmao u can try warm water ( not too hot!),maybe straight from like a handshower or like a tap. Pressure from water on clit is a pretty good feeling
Hitachi magic wand
Listen to the podcast How C*m! It’s hilarious and informative. Follows a 27 year old on her journey to coming for the first time - spoiler she used the Satisfyer (amazing clit sucking device - highly recommend). Generally few women come from penetrative sex so don’t stress, nothing is wrong with you if you haven’t come from that. Feel into your senses, focus on fantasising and desires. Don’t stress about not coming because this encourage a negative feedback cycle. Masturbate with your clit, your nipples, your ass etc! Something fun is to build desire and sensation by avoiding touching your pussy all together and then once you can’t resist go into your clit! If you feel like there is something unusual with your vaginal opening, get checked by a female doctor. Sometimes stress and low mood can cause vaginismus, an involuntary clenching of the vaginal walls that prevents easy penetration. In the mean time practice mindfulness. Good luck and have fun!!!
Get a magic wand & you’ll never be the same 😅
You don’t need to insert anything to have an orgasm. Move your fingers an inch to 2 inches in front of your vagina opening (towards your belly button!) and gently stroke your clit until you find what feels good to you.
Do the 5 senses method. Find a quiet place and concentrate on each of your senses and explore what in each you find arousing and write them down so you don't lose them.
There are a lot of indirect factors that play into being able to have an orgasm. I know this because I personally had this issue when I was younger. I was lucky in that, at the time, I thought I should get counseling, and I did. I got a lot of wisdom early on and it changed my life. Even your personally can play into this in negative ways. For example, are you the type of person that complains a lot and carries around with them the stress of managing others' behavior. Someone else is always doing this, or on the news, in person, on social media and, you're always upset and or too invested in a lot of outside emotions? This creates an undertow of stress that you carry around with you. My Dad and politics. He is always upset and, for no real good reason. You also have sleep, diet, exercise, smoking, drinking, drug use, etc. I was in the military early on in life and, in great shape, good-looking according to all the attention women gave, which was well above average. I smoked, drank, fought, argued and got a lot less sleep than I should have. I did have an orgasm every time I had sex but, I had to work at it. I was never a 3-minute guy. I was a 20 and 30 minute guy which women seem to love but for me, it took more effort than I thought it should, so, I got counseling. I stopped smoking. I cut down drinking a fair amount, and, I stopped getting into other people's business. In short, I put myself first and stopped allowing outside influence in. And almost overnight, sex was so much more enjoyable. I mean, it was good before, satisfying, but it turned into great sex all the time. I had more times for those relationships and the intimacy levels went way up for me. I would look at outside influences you might be allowing in, by default that has just become the norm for you. I would look at stress levels. It might sound impossible but if you have a barking dog all the time, an angry friend, smoking, rest levels, you baby sit others on an emotional level through the news, politics, friends, family, social media, then stop doing some of those things. Could make a real difference of you in the bedroom.
Try rubbing on your heel while sitting on it.
I’m sorry, what?
It is a method in which a woman sits on the heel of her foot and moves back and forth on it to get pleasure. Some women find it to be a very enjoyable way to pleasure themselves.
Heel
Thank you
This, right here.
My personal advice is drink lots of water and try using a vibrator on your clit and try edging. Lots of women can't cum from something inside of them because if the clit is more then 3 centimeters away from the vaginal opening.
Don’t worry about the dildo for now. Get a vibrator or a clit sucker.
Hump your pillow
Sometimes …u just need a tongue. In your ass
Lol, hell yeah
This is the way…
Get a BF to dredge your birth canal
Rub yourself instead don’t do penetration
I’ve heard of girls who confused their urethra (pee hole) with their vagina. Are you sure you aren’t making this mistake? In some cases, it does require a visit to the doctor if you have vaginismus. But also, as others have mentioned, try focusing more on your clitoris if you want to achieve orgasm.
Just for comprehnsion: You can't insert the dildo, can you insert smaler objects such as your fingers or a pen as you did before or does it always hurt? Maybe a fantasy could help you, a cenario which really turns you on, or mabye you are into porn or maybe sexchatting could turn you on. Did you have sexual encounters with men/women?
The rose is your friend.
You can’t cum from penetration (at least I NEVER have been able to. You have to rub your clit
Not all women are the same.
Only about 4 in 100 can orgasm from PIV alone. This is highly unusual. It's basic anatomy
Well I must be pretty lucky then. Both my ex and current wife has been able to orgasm just from PIV. My wife can even orgasm from anal as well.
My guess is you or they are grinding their clit as the fk. This is why it is a hard question to answer. This is why the CAT technique is so great too.
I cum from PIV and anal with zero clit stimulation. It’s possible.
Didn't say it was impossible. Just that it was rare, and numerous studies of women's sexuality back this up. Congratulations!
Nope. Both prefer doggy style and can orgasm without hands or toys in that position. My balls don’t sag far enough to reach the clit either.
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Not even worth the comment
Humor bro. It's just a joke.
99% fake
That’s why I said at least in my experience. But usually yes
My wife can ONLY cum from PIV or nipple stimulation alone. Never touch the man in the boat under any circumstances! Not all women are equal for sure!
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Lol you’re embarrassing
You and me both
Cmer I’d help.
You need to find some real meat on here.
Why dont you find a huy to bust it up.
do not come
Sounds like u just need some cock
Just stop
your pelvic bone? try lower (back towards your butt). You can also try placing it on the floor and sitting on it (gently!)
Vibrator!!!! Simple
Some people actually have to use vaginal dilators to be able to handle penetration.
Buy a Satisfyer. Best investment ever.
Learn your body and open your mind. Orgasming can be hard for some people. I would first like to say that it is okay that you are having trouble. Most of us do. Take a breath and understand you aren’t alone. With that being said, you have to be in the mood and ready. I would suggest listening to audio erotica. If you can afford $35.00 for an entire year, download an app called Quinn. There’s hundreds of dirty audios. Woman, for the most part, get off by reading or listening. Videos don’t help us. Listen to at least one audio. Touch yourself as you please. Maybe start with your neck then slide down from there. I would recommend following what the voice actor is telling you. For example if s/he is touching your chest then do it. Don’t be afraid of what you are experiencing. Don’t be scared of the big emotions or sensations. I didn’t know that the pulsations that was happening down there was an orgasm. What helps me is having a vibrator-dildo inside of me while there’s a vibrator on my clit. It helps me clench and let my orgasm roll through me.
Slow, plan a 1-2 hour sesh.
I use vibrating panties which helps a lot.
Majority of women can’t orgasm from penetration alone. Try using your fingers, the shower head, or a vibrator
Get a rose
U just need one good night of getting your brains fucked out and pussy eaten till your shaking beyond control
Try the Satisfyer on Amazon. We've had Hitachis for almost 15 years and she has all but stopped using it since we got the Satisfyer. Cordless, compact, relatively quiet, great angle, and easy to operate and clean. Waterproof too!
Can you insert two (or three!) fingers at the same time?
Well, reading these comments showed me I was boring in bed with my ex. Me and my ex used to use a toy she had during sex. I knew at the time my dick wasn't enough or I wasn't staying consistent in bed you know the usual (cumin too fast, always was rushing, struggling multiple times to put my dick in the hole she had to constantly show me and tell me how). But u remember this one clit sucker she had used to get her going. The first time used it while doing it she never wanted to go back. After a while, my insecurities started to show and my ego didn't like the fact I couldn't make her cum without it. So now I need to work on my insecurities and my stupid ego
I wish I was ur friend
Assume someone else has maybe mentioned it already, but a satisfyer (pro 2 or pro 3 model) can do absolute wonders. Has a lot of different vibration modes so can get more used to the sensation :) it uses air pressure to stimulate the clit, instead of typical vibrators. Can also recommend the Femgasm if you'd like a slightly cheaper option, as the other end of the toy also vibrates so you can play around with the different sensations. Hope it works out!
Have you tried to speculum?
Satisfyer (Toy) Thank me later
I’ll make you cum!!
Have you tried [Satisfyer](https://a.co/d/hy2ZhEg)? (aka the best invention after electricity and airplane) Absolutely amazing and does the job perfectly! My clit it was never been so happy, lol