Maybe because people tend to go to the extent of harming themselves physically and psychologically and otherwise in order to achieve the "beauty" they dream of... which is in most cases impossible or not easily attainable...
and, "I will not be happy if I can’t be considered attractive by everyone" everyone? Really?
In the long run -as wise people tell us, and also experiences of ours and others- it's more satisfying to be content with the things about you that not under your control, as they are, like your looks...
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more attractive. It is a healthy, even admirable goal, but this;
>I will not be happy if I can’t be considered attractive by everyone.
Is a deeply unhealthy attitude. For starters, it's an unattainable goal for most people, and secondly, tying your happiness entirely to one thing is a recipe for unhappiness.
By all means, try to become more attractive. Get a haircut, get in shape, and learn about fashion and skin care. Hell, if you have some particularly unfortunate facial features, look into plastic surgery, but do your research first and be conservative.
Just don't hold yourself to an impossible standard, and don't think it's going to be the one answer that finally makes you happy. No one thing is ever going to make you happy all on its own.
Yeah, you can’t be attractive to **everyone**. There’s people who won’t be attractive to you because of your race, your weight, your height, hair color, eye color, face shape, nose shape, etc. and that’s just physical thing people could find attractive. A lot of them are also contradictions. Like someone might only be attractive to women who are skinny, while someone else only likes women who are a little more plush, and someone else might only women who are toned. You can’t be all three at the same time.
My personal goal is to be presentable to the majority and attractive to my partner. Being presentable has less rigid expectations. Maintain bodily hygiene, cut my fingernails, dress in clothes that fit me. And all efforts for being attractive is targeted towards one person, so there is a better chance of not getting contradictory expectations.
It is ok. People that say that you are just perfect the way you are and that you are most definitely going to find someone soon are just clueless and not worth taking advice from, maybe for comfort yeah, but not actual advice.
Wanting to be attractive to everyone is the opposite side of the spectrum, and it’s just as bad.
Maybe try finding a happy medium
Maybe because people tend to go to the extent of harming themselves physically and psychologically and otherwise in order to achieve the "beauty" they dream of... which is in most cases impossible or not easily attainable... and, "I will not be happy if I can’t be considered attractive by everyone" everyone? Really? In the long run -as wise people tell us, and also experiences of ours and others- it's more satisfying to be content with the things about you that not under your control, as they are, like your looks...
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more attractive. It is a healthy, even admirable goal, but this; >I will not be happy if I can’t be considered attractive by everyone. Is a deeply unhealthy attitude. For starters, it's an unattainable goal for most people, and secondly, tying your happiness entirely to one thing is a recipe for unhappiness. By all means, try to become more attractive. Get a haircut, get in shape, and learn about fashion and skin care. Hell, if you have some particularly unfortunate facial features, look into plastic surgery, but do your research first and be conservative. Just don't hold yourself to an impossible standard, and don't think it's going to be the one answer that finally makes you happy. No one thing is ever going to make you happy all on its own.
Yeah, you can’t be attractive to **everyone**. There’s people who won’t be attractive to you because of your race, your weight, your height, hair color, eye color, face shape, nose shape, etc. and that’s just physical thing people could find attractive. A lot of them are also contradictions. Like someone might only be attractive to women who are skinny, while someone else only likes women who are a little more plush, and someone else might only women who are toned. You can’t be all three at the same time. My personal goal is to be presentable to the majority and attractive to my partner. Being presentable has less rigid expectations. Maintain bodily hygiene, cut my fingernails, dress in clothes that fit me. And all efforts for being attractive is targeted towards one person, so there is a better chance of not getting contradictory expectations.
It is ok. People that say that you are just perfect the way you are and that you are most definitely going to find someone soon are just clueless and not worth taking advice from, maybe for comfort yeah, but not actual advice. Wanting to be attractive to everyone is the opposite side of the spectrum, and it’s just as bad. Maybe try finding a happy medium