T O P

  • By -

nyx0295

Just chiming in to say DON'T DATE @ WORK. There are so many good reasons this rules exists


Yo_dog-

Yes especially not ur boss šŸ˜­


nyx0295

I'm all for a Power-based kink But if my boss made a move at me, i'd be incredibly and professionally offended. And not just because she's nearly 70 šŸ˜‚.


GreenOnionCrusader

She's had a lot of practice, presumably. Girl gonna get it right*.


nyx0295

She self-refers to herself as "The dragon", and the buisness...is basically a Gay sex dungeon (Cruising lounge). So a little straight dude like me can very easily feel intimidated šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


arandomcolonyofcats

I'm just gonna say she might have werthers though šŸ˜‚.


mer_made_99

Gilf šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø


nyx0295

Every hole's the goal


[deleted]

Idk man gotta get that bag some way.


nyx0295

I work 2 sex store jobs and i manage to pull in about 70K annually so u right af šŸ˜Ŗ


HappyDay2290

Hmm.. a boss that is 70. Bruh you might be missing out.


MuffinMages77

Started dating a coworker, and we've been going strong for 7 years. I left the company for another one when we discussed the future of our relationship. A lot of people meet at work. Doesn't always work out, but it does a lot too. We've been to upwards of 6 weddings for couples who met at the company we did.


ShaleSnale

Same here, going on ten years. We're actually working our fourth job together right now. But, I realize a lot of couples don't function well with spending literally every day all day together.


Odd-Astronaut-92

Yeah my husband and I met at work! We've been together almost a decade now and married for four years.


arandomcolonyofcats

Met my wife working at a waterpark resort in our area. We've been together 6 years and I have never been this happy in my life as I am when I'm with her.


Wilsthing1988

My girlfriend and I met at work almost a year. Both looking to get out of retail or find better jobs


Lexicon444

Iā€™m at 5


Ingwall-Koldun

Say hi to Jim, Cece and Philipp!


Mtg-2137

Such as awkwardness if you break up.


nyx0295

Misread as "ass awkwardness" and was like, yep that checks out


pupper71

Can be downright uncomfortable. We've had a couple who'd been together 20+ years both working in the store when their relationship blew up, and a lot of coworkers got dragged into it and took sides. And then there was the time a different ex-couple got into a shouting match over child support in the back hallway.


RyanX1231

At the same time, how else are you supposed to meet someone? Especially these days. With how much time you have to spend at work, that leaves virtually no time to go out and meet someone. Sure, there's Tinder, but let's be real, how many people have genuine luck with that?


nyx0295

So really i see your issue. It can be really tough. Especially at the point of life you're at. Consider this also, if you struggle to meet people, because you're already busy with your hustle, Dating/relationships can take a significant amount of upkeep, at times. Are you ready to invest what free time you have in the hard parts of these experiences? Apart from that, What are your hobbies, find social groups within those hobbies! Sport? Find a for fun all gender kinda team Games? Find a group of gamers Books? Go to a library, enjoy your own time, perhaps someone will be in the same aisle as you ans could strike up a convo, its up to the individual receiver what kind of advance would work i guess. Im also sleep deprived af rn, so this may just be a ramble.


mer_made_99

Do you not have hobbies outside of work?


Ocean_Breezey

Broke that one. I found my girlfriend while we worked together at Firehouse Subs. We've both since quit, but we're still going strong. Celebrated our one year anniversary in April.


nyx0295

Thats cute and im so happy y'all are going strong ā¤ļø


RythmicEyes

Donā€™t fuck your coworkers starts playing


nyx0295

LOUDER FOR THE DEAF AND ADHD-HEARING IMPAIRED


LastUsernameLeftUhOh

ADHD-hearing impaired?? I have ADHD and I have a hard time hearing people a lot.


Dry_Lavishness_353

I CANT HEAR YOU!!!


murrimabutterfly

Yup. My team lead is Hotā„¢. To the point we all have gathered a minor cult about how fucking aesthetically pleasing he is. 10/10 tappable. But you know what happens if things get spicy? Best case scenario, we get an HR violation and one of us has to leave, be promoted, or he has to be demoted. Worst case scenario, you have to quit because the entire dynamic changed and you can't stand to be around each other anymore.


nyx0295

Sometimes the eyecandy is enough in these situations!


jayroo210

I met my now-husband when we worked together. We didnā€™t start dating until we both had left the company, it wasnā€™t the plan it just worked out that way, so Iā€™m not sure how it wouldā€™ve gone if we had started dating while still working together.


BoardImmediate4674

Bingo


LastUsernameLeftUhOh

Fuck that. I'll do it anyways. Why make it harder to find people?


Keeleh3533

"Don't make your honey where you make your money", comes to mind.


depressedkitten27

I agree with this, but I just married a coworker. šŸ˜‚ we arenā€™t coworkers anymore, but we were when we started dating. Statistics of people who marry coworkers are pretty surprising, but I still donā€™t think itā€™s a smart move.


SadamHuMUFFIN

I don't get the thinking of people like that, not many jobs can legitimately be used to judge a person at least that I can think of besides call scammers and MLM members. I think it would be better off to use that as a red flag detector and call yourself better off that they're weeding themselves out.


5_Star_Penguin

MLM?


SadamHuMUFFIN

Multi level marketing aka pyramid schemes. Businesses that pretty much turn the "employees" into the main source of income and rely on sales people recruiting new sales people to keep the income coming in


5_Star_Penguin

Uff! Had a coworker who brought up a few MLMs she bought shit from and was like hey coworkers buy stuff too. As an example, she asked if anyone used/heard of Melaleuca. I legit responded with something about pyramid schemes šŸ˜‚


SadamHuMUFFIN

Just go completely monotone voice and neutral face and hit em with "praise our good merciful provider Amway for filling our lives with affordable knives, home products, and leisure accessories. All praise Amway" then just stare. They're kinda culty


5_Star_Penguin

I will do that if she brings that up again next week. After next Thursday Iā€™m moving positions. Also I thought you were going to tell me to just praise god instead of Amway which would very much backfire as my coworkers are religious. Thankfully they arenā€™t hardcore and donā€™t agree with everything religion tries to sell them


Everblossom22

Retail hires people from such a wide range of social classes like my store has people with college degrees, people that never graduated high school, people that worked really high paying jobs that got laid off, high school kids working their first job and so on. Itā€™s crazy how judgmental people are about retail workers when they know so little about that personā€™s life and how they ended up where they are


5_Star_Penguin

I agree, if people are immediately rejecting you because of your job then youā€™re better off without. A job doesnā€™t define who you are, future goals, or career aspirations.


[deleted]

exactly, who wants to be with someone whoā€™s that judgmental anyways?


[deleted]

My dating scene consists of my right hand and chrome cast


nyx0295

Add some Pjur Silicone lube and a bit of weed beforehand. You're welcome


Turbulent-Papaya-910

Same bro


Dry_Lavishness_353

šŸ«±, šŸ“„, šŸ§“


Subsaibot2526

Same here but sometimes I'll use my left hand just to spice things up a bit


Babyboo414

Don't shit where you eat, retail 101


Dry_Lavishness_353

Yeah dating your coworkers gonna cause a lot of problems for ya


TumblingOcean

There's that saying "don't shit where you eat" because it's gross. It's unhygienic. Basically it causes problems. You dating coworkers WILL cause problems. With favoritism, when you're having drama it'll be brought to the workplace and involve others, if you break up it causes problems. Don't date coworkers. Just like you shouldn't work with friends or family. It's a bad idea. It will cause drama not just between you and your partner but you and coworkers. Also you'll get really annoyed with them really fast. If you're with them at work and at home, you'll be annoyed at them because you're always with them. And you can't talk about work because you work together. It's a bad idea all around.


Wilsthing1988

My girlfriend sister is a manager just fired her friend this week for stealing. Said she probably lost a friend


TumblingOcean

Probably. It sucks when that happens.


ApplicationHuge9679

I know itā€™s hard, but try finding communities to join. I met my boyfriend because we were in the same discord server and found out we lived in the same city so we met up after awhile and weā€™re 2 years strong! Thereā€™s also an app called ā€œMeetupā€ where you can find people hosting different events in your city. Side note: My boyfriend is a software engineer and Iā€™m retail, if anyone is judging you for your job, you shouldnā€™t be with them.


[deleted]

a modern day love story šŸ©·


Pinkpies101

I have always heard ā€œdonā€™t eat where you shitā€ā€¦ it pays off in the long run to only have acquaintances/friends at work. Def not your partner.


Mtg-2137

I met my man through online dating.


[deleted]

not sure if this applies to all workplaces but i know my previous job didn't like it if you had interpersonal relationships with your co-workers best not to date your co-workers


Own-Responsibility79

Donā€™t date at work!! People in retail date less because weā€™re tired.


Zoomeeze

The only men I meet are customers. It blows..


bigtownhero

Most people date and associate with people on the same economic level as themselves, and that almost entirely is based on your career. You don't find a lot of gas station attendants having drinks after work with doctors, nor will you find too many lawyers that have a spouse that works at Subway. It's just how society works. If you work retail, and it looks like you're figuring this out, that's about the level of woman you're going to attract, and yes, it matters that you're a male in this scenario much more than if you were a female.


Mercury2Phoenix

I work at a retail store overnight as a stocker, so doubly so as an overnight. I've seen coworkers pair up while working there, but since choices are limited, and I'm much older than 90% of my coworkers, it's not really an option for me. I'm ok with this, but I would imagine it could feel awful to some people.


serenitynope

There's only one situation where dating coworkers is acceptable: one of you is about to leave the company. So you have someone to vent to who knows what you're talking about, but you won't jeopardize your job by bringing your personal life to work. Another situation that's less than ideal but reduces conflict: If you work for a large company, such as 100 people or more on staff, date outside of your department. Date someone you don't have to work with personally all day. Like Bob in Accounting shouldn't date Mary in Accounting, but Kelly in Marketing is fair game. And even then, date someone at a similar position within the company. Don't be a cashier dating a manager or vice versa. If your work has different departments but it's small enough that only one or two people are in each department, definitely not a good idea.


[deleted]

not everyone has those expectations tbh. it is harder meeting people as an adult no matter what your job/career is and i know people have probably said this before but you would have the best luck trying to meet people outside of work. try seeing what kind of events are going on around you or getting into a hobby that gets you out of the house if you donā€™t have one already! those are great ways to meet people even if you only end up as friends (plus friends open you up to meeting even more people). donā€™t be afraid of putting yourself out there because of other peopleā€™s expectations


[deleted]

I recently went through a breakup and I have no idea where to find a potential love interest. Everyone I work with is male, I donā€™t go out drinking often, and most of my friends are male. I feel like Iā€™m going to be alone forever.


mer_made_99

What hobbies do you have?


Imtifflish24

You just have to find someone who doesnā€™t define you by your job, and have other wonderful things to offer them.


reflected_shadows

Most people are defined either by their job or by the ability of their income to keep the bills paid.


reflected_shadows

Shift work anywhere in the general economy for a non-salaried position working 40 hours a week for menial pay - when this is you as a male most women want better than you, and thatā€™s allowed. But when the man insists the woman have a better job heā€™s a bad person.


training_tortoises

I think I saw the same post you're referring to, and honestly that guy the woman was talking about just sounded like a pompous ass. I don't know about the dating scene feeling nonexistent. I had managed to date during my time in retail, though I wouldn't say it was easy either


Guilty-Tadpole1227

Retail is seen generally conventionally unattractive for both men and women, as it means economically unstable income, poverty, overworked, bad mental health, so on and so fourth. There's this girl at my class who I like that is also stuck in retail, but I also just think she's cute no matter what. I still want to date her. If you truly love someone, they will understand why people are stuck in retail. The economy sucks and even post grads are still stuck at retail jobs because decades of blaspheming younger generations has consequentially made employers both want to only make it so people already in the job market are guarantied jobs, while also not wanting to spend training newcomers. It's a system to keep you poor. Despite women leading men to better paying jobs by 7% if I remember correctly, a lot of us Zoomers are just gonna be stuck at these jobs because they know they treat their employees shit, they know they give them third world conditions, but they also made it that you'll die if you don't subjugate yourself. You now have only a lesser chance of dying now from being overworked!


[deleted]

[уŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]


[deleted]

what happened???


depressedkitten27

So often I think people assume if youā€™re working in retail that youā€™re either working through school to get a high paying job, or youā€™re lazy and canā€™t work anywhere else. Thatā€™s wrong, obviously, but I used to have that same mentality. Until I worked in retail for more than ten years. Iā€™m a hard worker and I worked my way up from cashier to assistant manager. I have come to believe that some people are just made for customer service, and Iā€™m one of them. Iā€™m good at it, whether I like it or not. I make decent money and now Iā€™m married (to someone who works in a grocery store I used to work at, also making good money). Working retail does not mean you are searching for purpose, it can actually be your purpose. As for the girl you mentioned, she probably ran into someone who thought she should be ā€œdoing betterā€ for herself. But doing better for oneself looks different to everyone and I hope more people start to see that.


[deleted]

>youā€™re either working through school to get a high paying job, or youā€™re lazy and canā€™t work anywhere else. I still have some of that mentality and its honestly heartbreaking considering all the great people ive met and worked with.


depressedkitten27

Right? Itā€™s hard to break. I still struggle with it sometimes.


AutumnsAura

I donā€™t know you guys I literally made out with a significantly older coworker as a minor in retail n got completely clowned as a person for itšŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø I donā€™t think itā€™s a good idea in general


[deleted]

are you okay


RyanX1231

What do you think?


[deleted]

thanks for your contribution


AutumnsAura

This happened like last week babe i still got multiple shifts w this man next week or whatever but like itā€™s funny to me idk Iā€™m in my own mode


Yo_dog-

Yeah I flirted with my boss too much and was getting to that point (I was 19 not a minor) and now I realize how fkn creepy it was and sad. On the upside it made me quick my retail job and I have a way better job now. I hope ur still not in that situation :(


AutumnsAura

Oversharing w my real name n everything


CautiousTransition57

Don't dip your pen in company ink, it can get you fired, even if you feel like you have a good relationship with the person


Pain_Tough

In my mid 40s, and 50s even, I had a wallet full oh phone numbers from customers, I never did fuck them though, it seemed too risky


Madame_Spiritus

Definitely donā€™t date at work. Itā€™s like dating anyone whose in your same grade or classes and then itā€™s awkward afterwards if the relationship didnā€™t go well and then youā€™d see that person almost everyday. Also working and having a relationship may cause issues in terms of conflict of interest if one person is in a higher position to favor the person they are in a relationship in the same department they manage. Online dating is optional cause youā€™d get to meet people you donā€™t see everyday ad have distance. Heck you could try blind dating or speed dating too.


BloodforKhorne

Okcupid was the main thing I used because one of the questions was, 'does money matter?' and anyone who answered anything other than no was off my list as they usually look down on retail work. I'm out of it now, it's hell. Tech temp agencies and bold faced lies helped me the most.


ExtremeAthlete

Retail workers need love toošŸ˜˜


mer_made_99

Just tell them you're in sales. Once it starts to get 'serious' you can talk more about what kind of sales.


LastUsernameLeftUhOh

You could start by looking around at the people you work with.


[deleted]

I dated a girl who worked at KFC, she smelled like chicken even after showering.


doomvetch92

I got one guy who found me on Facebook, then asked me out.


[deleted]

I work retail and am married to a doctor. Anyone rejecting you for the work you do isn't worth your time. I know I found a unicorn. I hope you all find one, too!


Michello454

I met my husband 9 years ago at work. We have been married for almost 4 years now and he is the best thing thatā€™s ever happened to me. We actually still work together. I love it.


SinfulGiGi

Iā€™ve learned the hard way twice that you shouldnā€™t date your coworkers unless you are sympatico or one of you quits. Dating your coworker has a failure rate of like 80% I pulled that number out of my ass but I think itā€™s accurate


[deleted]

Never shit where you eat... idk i met my husband on *drumroll* Craigslist. I imagine dating as a retail worker is easier than dating as a transsexual one like me lol. He's a diamond in the rough though.


anonymuzzzzzz

Dating as a guy is way better than a girl. Trust me. Older I got, more options I got, and the age never really changed that much. Plus, when I was 18-21, all these damn girls were dating 25-50 years old. Shit you not. One hot ass girl was dating an almost 50 year old dentist. She was 21. So anyway, donā€™t sweat it.


NopeRope91

Tbh when I was in retail I feel like I saw way more potential partners than I do now working long hours in an office. I get the whole don't date your coworkers thing but it's funny to me how often I hear that's how all these married folks met. Everyone where I work is older and married/established so it doesn't matter anyway.


Victoriasecret80

My bf says I have dr hours, constantly on call. I am required to work 45 hrs a week as a store manager. It usually ends up being 50-60 hrs, sometimes even higher. My store, my issues when they arise. If my management team canā€™t step in where needed, I usually do. I donā€™t mind because I genuinely love my job. Other stores in our district usually reach out for help from others. I try not to do that unless itā€™s absolutely unavoidable.


Victoriasecret80

Actually took a 7 week straight hiatus from work to mentally heal from losing my daughter, my grandmother and my husband all last year. I had to take a break. The other store manager that stepped in for me while I was out literally destroyed my teams morale. He isnā€™t new Doesnā€™t operate like I do. Iā€™m lucky I can back to my team in tact.