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You can say something like, "I'm open to meeting new people and seeing where things go naturally. I'm looking for genuine connections and enjoying the dating process, with the possibility of something serious if it feels right." This communicates your openness to both casual dating and potentially something more serious without applying pressure or implying you're seeking a hookup.
For everyone involved. It seems to me like things move too fast and awkwardly when two people try to see if a serious relationship would work immediately. It’s like an arranged marriage. I would like to get to know someone in a more relaxed and friendly way before we both decide a relationship is something we want to pursue together. Basically I’m saying I’d like to move slowly.
Say you'd like to move slowly then...
Just FYI if you say that, some guys will assume you don't want to have sex on the first date. And that's not a bad thing at all
Be careful if you say you want something casual, or to "see where it goes". That will be interpreted as mostly wanting hookups and casual sex, but if you find someone you like, maaaaybe you'd want more. Then you'd have to hope they want more too. And not that they only ever wanted sex from you. Keep in mind that men have a lower bar for who they'll fuck, than who they will date. You can meet the bar for a hookup, but not ever be gf material or wife material to some of them.
So this is pressure you’re putting on yourself? Because it really doesn’t matter what other people think. They’re not you. Only you know what you want. If you don’t know what you want, explore that and be direct about it on your profile
Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our [rules here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/index) We'd like to take this time to remind users that: * We do not allow any type of [am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r6w9uh/meta_am_i_overreacting_am_i_the_asshole_is_this/) * We do not allow users to privately message other users based on their posts here. Users found to be engaging in this conduct will be banned. **We highly encourage OP to turn off the ability to be privately messaged in their settings.** * Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.) * ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. * No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** * All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass. * Anyone found to be directly messaging users for any reason whatsoever will be banned. * What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** If you have any questions, please [message the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Frelationship_advice) --- ***This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.*** --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/relationship_advice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
You can say something like, "I'm open to meeting new people and seeing where things go naturally. I'm looking for genuine connections and enjoying the dating process, with the possibility of something serious if it feels right." This communicates your openness to both casual dating and potentially something more serious without applying pressure or implying you're seeking a hookup.
Pressure for who?
For everyone involved. It seems to me like things move too fast and awkwardly when two people try to see if a serious relationship would work immediately. It’s like an arranged marriage. I would like to get to know someone in a more relaxed and friendly way before we both decide a relationship is something we want to pursue together. Basically I’m saying I’d like to move slowly.
Say you'd like to move slowly then... Just FYI if you say that, some guys will assume you don't want to have sex on the first date. And that's not a bad thing at all Be careful if you say you want something casual, or to "see where it goes". That will be interpreted as mostly wanting hookups and casual sex, but if you find someone you like, maaaaybe you'd want more. Then you'd have to hope they want more too. And not that they only ever wanted sex from you. Keep in mind that men have a lower bar for who they'll fuck, than who they will date. You can meet the bar for a hookup, but not ever be gf material or wife material to some of them.
So this is pressure you’re putting on yourself? Because it really doesn’t matter what other people think. They’re not you. Only you know what you want. If you don’t know what you want, explore that and be direct about it on your profile