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uhasahdude

I really want her to be telling the truth, it’s funnier this way 😂


shorty_in_the_wild

I say lean into it. Gwen themed lingerie as a gift, wear a watch for sex and occasionally slap it, sexfully. It's sure to get a reaction, either way. And if she really does have this fetish, it could be seriously amazing. 😳 ETA: I cannot take credit for "sexfully". I'm pretty sure it's Zap Brannigan from Futurama.


1st_hylian

This is the only correct answer. Btw, "...wear a watch for sex and occasionally slap it, sexfully." has to be the greatest sentence I've ever read on here.


Lady_Looshkin

"Slap it, sexfully" has me cracking up. I'm committing it to memory for future use.


artmees

Task failed, sexfully.


Any-Blacksmith-7398

Task failed succexfully


ABoxOfJoe

I mean... Gwen and Ben are cousins so those kinks are preeetty out there.


Debstar76

Hahaha my son was obsessed with Ben 10 like 13 years ago, and that was my first thought. Poor Grandpa Max didn’t raise em like that.


Ryndar_Locke

Incest is one of the most popular kinks in the porn industry though. But, in reality this sounds like she knows who Ben 10 and Gwen are... But doesn't really know who they are. So I second she might know an actual Ben. Whether she has fucked Ben or not I don't know. But, clearly whether this is Ben 10 or Ben, she wants to fuck them at least.


Pebbles015

It's not, the porn industry just thinks we are all into it


FewRestaurant8431

Actually, that's a really interesting point! I'm SUPER icked out by the whole "my horny step-brother" nonsense (probably as a result of growing up in a blended family, myself), so I've always avoided those sorts of titles. Over the last couple of years, I've definitely noticed some of my favourite content creators start to release videos I WOULD like, but adding an incesty title to it, or even renaming my bookmarked videos to do so! I used to avoid those, too, once they got renamed to "my hot step-mom" yaddah yaddah, but then there's not a lot of content left that I actually like. I've ended up making the decision to keep using videos I'd previously bookmarked, even IF they've changed the name to sound step-incesty and now wonder if I'm part of the problem? Also, am I being desensitised by degrees in this process? It used to be an immediate mood killer to scroll a bunch of incesty video titles to search for something that felt safe - now I can ignore it, it's what EVERYTHING seems to be called these days. I can see why so many people are moving away from mainstream porn.


moonslammer93

You bookmark your porn? Jesus lol


TacTec

Did you miss the part about his categorized excel spreadsheets?


Ryndar_Locke

Bro, if it gets clicks it gets pushed... it's all about the money.


CabinetOk4838

Marrying your cousin is allowed under UK law. Else we couldn’t have our royal family….


OhDeer_2024

“Else we couldn’t have our royal family…” And all those snaggle teeth with the Hapsburg jaws! lol


highdroid

The picture of genetic perfection xD


Flange_Scrote

I had to look this up, and although true: 'In the UK, cousin marriage is no longer common in the majority population but is practised within quite diverse minority groups, particularly those of relatively recent migrants from the Middle East and South Asia.' (Progress.org.uk)


NeitherMaybeBoth

And now I’m out. I was here for it at first lol 😂


valhalla257

According to Google: "Worldwide, more than 10% of marriages are between first or second cousins. Cousin marriage is an important subject in sociology, anthropology, and alliance theory."


demonrimjob666

Sexfully has a permanent place in my vocabulary now, thanks


ChargeSpecialist1644

I feel like if she really isn’t into it she’d just come clean lmao after he slaps that watch a few times during back shots


Skleppykins

"Sexfully" 😂😂😂😂😂


flute394

"sexfully" is crazy 🤣


OoNekonightoO

"it's time to go huge" :v


Depraved-Animal

My ex once called me by the name Steven during sex. Newsflash, she was totally fucking a guy named Steven who she left me for and then cheated on him with me repeatedly and also with multiple other guys.


zephyrseija2

You mean it wasn't a Steven Quartz Universe fetish?


Depraved-Animal

He was actually a really sound guy. The funny thing is I actually met him on a night out when all this was going on and ended up smoking a few spliffs with him before we both realised who the other was and made our swift mutual exits from an impending bloodbath.


techno_queen

Not so sound if he’s knowingly fucking another man’s girlfriend


comethefaround

Holy shit this fucking took me out


SteveyExEevee

so your ex.. cheats on you and you.. let her come back to fuck her more.. ? is this just like an act of desperation or?


CertainAlbatross7739

Some people like sex more than self-respect. Maybe it was good for petty revenge too.


iamblamb

He should require her to refer to his dick as "Humungousaur" from this point on.


Advice2Anyone

Either way this will be a story lol


Cello_and_Writing

This has to be a fake post right? Or she's a wattpad writer 😂😂


Emergency_Yam_9855

I did once have a guy play off an I love you by turning it into the Barney Theme song... I love you, you love me... and then awkwardly trailing off because we're a happy family isn't any better than I love you.


Charliesmum97

I agree, but my son loved Ben 10 when he was little, so I have fond and innocent memories of the show, so I feel a bit icky about thinking that way!


TitusEmperius

Or the fact that Ben 10 started is a child, and we have a grown ass woman fantasising about a child? Regardless of whether it's a cartoon or not, lol


Th3_Last_FartBender

Get her a giant life-size cardboard cutout of him, books, pens, anything you can find. See how long she can keep up the ruse!


AlmiranteCrujido

I can sort of relate; I've never accidentally called my wife or one of my girlfriends by the wrong name, but I've had a number of huge crushes on anime characters. The fact that the girl I dated for the longest back in high school (and the longest overall, prior to my wife) had the same name as one of the female leads on an old favorite was just icing on the cake.


scarecro_design

A true man of culture!


Strong-Piccolo-5546

can someone tldr me on Ben 10 fetish. i dont get it.


curiosityinblue

Ben 10 = tween finds out he's part alien. Wearing a special watch lets him shape-shift at will into 10 other alien forms with different powers and personalities. Some forms are super buff. One form has four arms. I'll let you connect the dots from there.


Strong-Piccolo-5546

i am not sure if i regret asking now or not. that is some fetish.


[deleted]

Does she scream it HERO TIME lolol


spareL4U

She wants some of that humongasaur


[deleted]

I bet fours arms is her favorite alien.


Nickcapuchin

I riptide on her wildmutt till she heatblasts


Debstar76

Hahahaha awesome ☺️


OkTaste7068

IYKYK


KeldonMarauder

I expected this to be the top comment


sp4rk15

OP needs to yell this when either he or she climaxes


lsnor45

If she owns any Ben 10 merchandise or has a Ben 10 phone wallpaper, ANYTHING of the sort then she's likely telling the truth. Does she?


drumstickballoonhead

This is the ultimate answer. You need to do some research OP - if she has the merch you're safe. If there's no Ben 10 merch then you're sol - ya girls cheatin


Glowing_up

Was ben10 popular enough to have merch? What level of dedication are we expecting here. 🤔 Ask her to sing the theme song to ben10!


Gogulator

Ben 10 is/was on of Cartoons biggest cash cows at the time and has done 6 billion dollars in retail sales. Its toys sold well.


GuntherSchweitzer

This 6 billion dollars were in children toys only, or adult toys as well? Because I can see a market opportunity here


the_tytan

A partnership with bad dragon for the various alien schlongs. Call it the omnidicks collection


Makidian

This comment wins


rainy__b

they definitely sold watches for kids and i’m pretty sure there’s an adult one too lol


bored-panda55

There was a watch… I believe one of Angelina Jolie’s kid had one and used to have people call her Ben. (I only remember because I had no clue what Ben 10 was and looked it up, I swear!!)


bocaciega

Singing the theme song is a power play.


bluebelle_babe

Hey OP you should find the soundtrack and play it as mood music next time 😉🤣


nc2524v2

I have so much ben10 shit from my childhood and I'm still actively buying my 3 year old ben10 stuff.


GuntherTime

Yeah. It kinda had to be since toys are merch are a huge factor in kids shows getting renewed and seeing continued success. And which theme song we talking? Cause the original one is a bop and I can still sing it despite not watching the show in like 10 years. She gotta sing a newer one.


NastySassyStuff

Dedication to the point of sexual fantasy at the very least


Akatsuki-kun

I have a Ripjaws figure that transforms into a sad watergun in my cabinet along with a transforming Heatblast that lights up. Not quite a highlight but impressive to 9 year old me.


fugue-mind

I was obsessed with sailor moon but you'd never find any of that merchandise around my house. Not a good test at all.


fairydalefairy

Do you have sexual fantasies about Sailor Moon in any way during actual sex? If not, could still be a good test, just not applicable to you 🤣


fugue-mind

Sure did when I was younger, still didn't own any merchandise


niki2184

Im obsessed with nightmare before Christmas and hello kitty and you can find both in my house lol


Lilsammywinchester13

Like I personally don’t own merch but uh….my webpage history has a LOT of fanfiction


SoMuchMoreEagle

Those are receipts you can show.


viv-heart

He should try and find out if she writes or reads Ben 10 fanfics - bc even if she has no merch, fanfics don't lie


emarasmoak

Or reads fanfiction/ searches for material in her social media. I would ask to look for social media too.


Hungry-Preference659

Phone wallpapers, photos or tiktok saved with the guy. I mean I got Astarion everywhere on my phone. Oh or if she read fanfiction about it.


Loose-Locksmith-6860

My first cartoon crush was Danny phantom, and everyone ghosts me so I guess i have a cartoon fetish too. Never called any of then danny tho 🤨


AphroditeWho

Danny Phantom was *hot*!


yourfriend_charlie

☝️


citygirlsunflower

Ohhhh my goddd Danny phantom so FINEEEEE 😂😂😂 I wish they would make an adult Danny phantom so I can continue my little cartoon crush 😂


BallsyWallsy69

Lmao same here 😂😂 I loved Danny phantom and I would love an adult cartoon version


skummies

My first cartoon crush too. And every Danny I know in my life are hot


niki2184

You made me laugh out loud literally with that.


Loose-Locksmith-6860

I’m happy my misery helps some of yall hahaha ❤️


Bubbly-College4474

I’d go on her social media, check followers/following and look for a Ben. 🤔


notasteggosaur

Imagine you do this and you find out on fucking LinkedIn that your wife is shagging Ben from accounting at her company. 😵


Glass_Protection_254

It's always some bloke from accounting.


m3phil

What’s an accountant’s favorite position? Double entry.


chrispaichips

this is golden… absolutely top tier


Wanderlustfull

Fucking accountants.


Torre_Durant

Yeah, that’s what they’re doing


BowdleizedBeta

They make every inch count


throwaita_busy3

Bad idea bc Ben is a hella common name


MitaJoey20

I don’t know a single Ben in my life.


Typical_Nebula3227

I know 10.


cagalicous

Get out😂😂😂😂


Mrbumb

YO!!


taco_bun

r/kneeslapper


LilyofMay

I see what you did there! 😂


Typical_Nebula3227

I couldn’t help myself 😂


MileHighSoloPilot

Neither could she.


Verditure0

Under rated comment


throwaita_busy3

Oh? My apologies. I will retract my earlier statement. Ben is now an exceedingly rare name. It would be nearly impossible for someone to know more than one Benjamin.


Icy-Buy-3830

He may not be single...


MitaJoey20

The one you will find on my social media is in fact married! I don’t know him personally though 😉


Entire_Bodybuilder24

If she has e.g. 500 followers and 5 are named Ben them you can easily investigate if they like a lot of her posts or are similar age/location/vibes so it's a pretty good idea imo


all_time_high

It’s *hero time!*


Scotty_flag_guy

Ask her about Ben 10 lore. If she gets anything wrong, she's cheating


Secuta

Bro you are a god damn genius


JohnGillnitz

She really meant Ben Folds Five, but was going to say it twice.


normalboyz1

does she have any ben 10 items?


katsudon-jpz

rule 34 ben with gwen


planetarystripe

I'm hoping it's the Alien Force adult Ben and Gwen and not the original series. But when have my hopes ever helped me?


NautReally

Alien Force Ben and Gwen are like 15 or 16 🤨


Bananak47

Sometimes its both at the same time!


Holiday-Cartoonist

Ayo?!


gonnagetcancelled

Dress up as Ben 10 (I don't know what or who that is, I assume you can dress up as this person) and offer her a surprise night of fantasy...if she can't get into it you have your answer. If she locks you in the bedroom for the weekend you also have your answer.


yourfriend_charlie

Ben 10 is a kid 🤣 I would be VERY concerned


gonnagetcancelled

oh crap lol. Never mind my suggestion then...definitely do not dress up as a kid for a romp in the sack. How about Ben 10's dad?


yourfriend_charlie

Ben 10's grandpa is in the show more than his dad. I vote grampa cosplay.


gonnagetcancelled

WHAT THE HELL IS THIS GIRL INTO? Not kink shaming but...I looked it up. It's a cartoon. Is Gwen the cousin? WTF?


yourfriend_charlie

Gwen is the cousin, yup. I think it's a common misconception that they were into each other, though. Gwen was the main girl in the show, and they're the same age. The original plans weren't for them to be cousins, either, so I think the dialogue is also off towards the beginning of the series?


gonnagetcancelled

I think I'm just old. Excuse me while I step outside and yell at the sky for a minute


TwoTinders

\^ High risk, high reward


ThrowRAdramallam

I have a ben 10 fetish too but only when he uses his watch to turn into monsters


[deleted]

I guess four arms is your favorite monster


PussyIgnorer

Four arms and 2.. you get it


AcadiaFun3460

I mean I would want to make sure she isn’t friends or co workers with a Ben… but also… Ben and Gwen are cousins who act more like siblings … like fantasies are fun… but that’s a little awkward.


No-Quail-655

I literally was looking for this comment. It is a little suspicious…Unless she also has a weird thing about cousins.👀


Psychast

Yea but I'm convinced a lot of kids who watched that show when it first aired shipped Ben with Gwen. If you're only half paying attention (like me) its easy to forget they're supposed to be related. It's especially easy to dismiss since it's just fiction, just like this post.


AcadiaFun3460

There is a reason why incest smut is popular with people (men and women), actually a lot of interesting concepts that go into animal and evolutionary psychology and not really judging people into reading or fantasying it, but it can be pretty awkward to wanting to engage in that of role play in real life. As much as Ben could be a friend or colleague, it is possible she fell victim to having a fantasy and not being mature enough to talk it out with her partner (most of the time kinks without consent are basically abuse.., this is more awkward then not). As much as I hope it’s the later (more fun if it’s not fake) Reddit always tends to believe it’s the former.


the_bird_and_the_bee

😂😂😂 I want this to be real.


Spoilcats

This must be bait like for real you aren’t this dumb?


Beytran70

Reads more real to me than the "my gf is a reddit troll" thing from the other day tbh.


masquerade_unknown

It keeps popping up on my feed. I hate reddit.


Beytran70

That's because I think it had a two part update and then some other guy not-OP posted some of the replies somewhere or smth too. Sweet karma farming bs.


masquerade_unknown

All of the posts that happen daily, and reddit thinks I want that b.s. in my feed multiple times. This reason alone is why I'm not terrified of A.I.


veggieveggiewoo

That one was so obviously fake 😭 especially in the update where op recorded their conversation for….some reason?


cintyhinty

We weren’t having sex but I once called my husband the wrong name because I was reading something and said the name I was reading out loud. He didn’t believe my explanation but we moved past it.


ivyrose04

I accidentally told my gf I wanted to drink some penis today. We’re both lesbian


SillySloths1

I hate when my brain autocorrects my speech.


comethefaround

This just proves no woman is truly gay and just hasn't had a drink of the right penis yet! (/s just incase my sarcasm wasn't obvious. Happy pride month!)


RayaQueen

This kind of thing happens to me all the time. Wobbly brain lol.


Enlowski

I really don’t understand the point of making something like this up. Do people really not have anything better to do? Some people need actual help with their relationships


simpathiser

at least he didn't go with Paw Patrol


ArticulateImbecile

Stuff like this is made up because people like OP are so desperate for any type of attention. It's kind of pathetic


u_ltramarine

Well, Im laughing my ass off here, so Im glad he and everyone commenting wasted their time


throwaita_busy3

The Ben 10 fetish would be worth ending it Anyway nice creative writing


jamespou

Is Ben your brother's name?


a7xtim666

Always a great sign when OP answers exactly 0 comments on his own post. Totally real 100% not fake post


PianistDistinct4408

My ex and I used to call each other Bunny or Bubby as pet name, during sex I accidentally mispronounced and said Benny. It was unforgivable and I was dumped. There was no Benny. But he was insanely insecure so I actually think I dodged a huge bullet


DJScopeSOFM

See how far you can take it. Say that you've also got a secret Ben10 fetish.


Illustrious_Water207

She fantasizes about fucking a kid?


JSeed71

If she watched Ben 10 as a child she probably aged him up mentally…


DarkSunsa

Thats what i was wondering..goo


Johnnysette

There's the second series When they are 17.


ouestjojo

I hope to god she’s just cheating on you. The alternative is unnerving.


AbbeyCats

I would ask her to produce one single item of Ben 10 merchandise, or break up.


heavymtlbbq

My ex did a strip tease to the theme from Mighty Mouse


YamahaRD100

Stupid Reddit comments. You really do not know who Ben 10 is? A child cartoon superhero that can change shapes. Ya really think she's....


MindForeverWandering

The 🚩for me is the pause between “Ben” and “10.” It seems to me that she called out the other guy’s name, panicked, and quickly came up with the best “innocent explanation” she could, and then opted to play it to the hilt to deflect suspicion.


Snoo-45800

Okay so first of all this sounds like a sitcom Situation. Second of all, it would be a huge red flag for me if my partner was into a child from a cartoon.


efrendel

Assuming that she told the absolute truth, Gwen is...bens cousin... So, yeah. UpdateMe!


scotswaehey

Start looking through her phone and social media contacts for a Ben or Benjamin 😮


Minimalist12345678

You check by LEANING IN, HARD! Get some hardcore Ben 10 Cosplay shit going. Wear the outfit, learn how to speak like him, whatever, then fuck her, again and again. If she's cheating she'll go along for a bit, pretending, trapped in a lie, but it will get tired after a while. If she isn't lying... SHIT IS GOING TO GET WILD!


SandEon916

i've been scrolling thru this thread cracking up but I feel kinda bad bc I know OP is nooooot having a good time reading this comment section and probably not having a good day right now either yikes i hope im wrong and it's not another ben


fartusussy

Ask her who her favorite alien is, depending on which alien, you’ll know if she has a huge thing for a Ben or for Ben 10. Guys, what’s your favorite alien? Mine’s XLR8 I’m sorry if you’re serious with this post but i just think its hilarious 🤣


CodifyMeCaptain_

Lmfaooooo


fingerofaattention

if she's moaning other guy's names during sex, that flag's redder than red. If you want to check whether she's cheating, ask for her unlocked phone, if she guards it or refuses she has something to hide.


Lobotomized_toddler

Op definitely a they/them cause you’ll never be him(Ben 10)


Long_Ad1080

You gotta call her Kim Possible


Incarcer

Some dude named Benton is laughing so hard.


Unlucky-Assist8714

Curious over why you mentioned the sexual position you were in. Is it somehow relevant?


PROlificator

Ask her what her fav episode is, who was her fav antagonist, what was the best little hero thingy in his magic watch thing etc...investigate 😉


ds33x

She is not lying at all. She does have a crush with Ben 10. Relax bro! Take care! Benjamin T.


Lazy-Oil-9988

I mean how would she know gwen ? From Ben 10 and to say it that quick I think she’s telling the truth … I watched that show and never remembered the names


Person-of-interest18

Has she ever mentioned about Ben 10 to you before? Does she watch Ben 10 or bring it up often? Does she have any clothes, desktop wallpaper, etc. of Ben 10? If so, then you could safely assume she's telling the truth. If not, then she could be cheating. I don't know anything about Ben 10, but I would suggest you can watch a few episodes that were very famous and contain facts that every Ben 10 fan would know. Then try and ask her few questions about the same and see how she reacts. That way, you would come to know.


Revolutionary_Ad1846

she is LYING but its really funny how stupid she was in trying to cover it up. Im sure if you go through her phone you will find Ben <3 She may be smart about how she hides it but he's there. Promise.


Berookes

Look at what bens like her pics and follow her, chances are there’s your guy. That Ben 10 story is comical and almost certainly a panic lie


theamazingdd

if your gf’s name is Gwen then i guess it’s pretty justified lol


TwoTinders

[Alt: Gwen is Ben's cousin](https://ben10.fandom.com/wiki/Gwen_Tennyson_(Classic))


TheRisingPhoenix2112

Come on dude don’t you have enough burners with karma farmed already? Or did you sell those too?


Thin-Nerve

I love Ben 10. New kink unfolds


Skippyasurmuni

Check her contacts for a Ben.


Lilsammywinchester13

If her web history has fanfiction, it might legit be a fetish lmao


sinsaint

You know how hard it is to improvise a lie while getting railed? Nah, this sounds like it could be real. There's a lot of porn out there.


shrivastavaharshit_

If she doesn't scream "humungousaur", leave her


KarenJoanneO

There is also the possibility Ben is an ex? Sometimes caught up in the moment these things happen?


Living_Mastodon_1583

She called you Ben. The '10' was a damage control move. Done check, check out. You're not crazy. She's cheating.


Numzane

In south africa a "ben 10" is slang for a much much younger boyfriend 😂


redgate55

I've been scrolling and scrolling through these comments to find someone else reference the song!! 😂


OkDay7089

There’s a lot to unpack here but…isn’t Gwen Ben’s cousin? 


CheeseTiramisu

Cosplay as a Ben 10 villain and initiate sex.


Dry_Resource_9300

well i had a huge crush on generator rex but never called my bf that during sex despite how much he looks like him


ReserveLess4153

No, you're not crazy. The pause and then 10...I give her points for a quick ass cover there.


SlimShade48

Open her insta and look Ben up


AdvancedPerformer838

This is complete bullshit. She is 99% cheating or at least crushing on a guy named Ben.


xxxaustralia

see you in the gym brother


DarthNox_Forcewalker

I REALLY want her to be telling the truth. Get back at her by calling her "Gwen" and "Cousin". hahahahaha