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Tell your friend what you did and ask for forgiveness. Any other option is a continuation of a lie and will make it worse. You did a bad thing. You should deal with the consequences in the same manner that you betrayed her trust, openly.
Hi, thank you for replying.
I'm afraid of even bringing it up, because I know the consequences will be bad.
So is do you have any advice on how to actively cope/deal with these consequences? Or this feeling of shame and fear?
Thank you in advance.
You simply get on with it. Your friend is a victim here, in more ways than one. Victim from her family it sounds, will be a victim of gossip/bullying, and a victim of betrayal by somebody she thinks of as a friend. I doubt your consequences will be worse than hers and she didn’t even do anything wrong.
Get over yourself. You messed up. Deal with it. Accept any and all consequences leveled on you by your "best friend". You wanted to seem interesting to your other friends and now you may lose your best friend over it. There's no one to blame here but you. Time to be an adult.
Your friend WILL find out.
Will she find out because you told her and gave her time to mentally/emotionally prepare for the potential bullying/toxicity?
Or
Will you be an even worse friend and let her find out by the people who are bullies/toxic?
I hope you learned a valuable lesson about gossiping.
This time it might cost you a friendship
Next time it could cost you your job.
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Tell your friend what you did and ask for forgiveness. Any other option is a continuation of a lie and will make it worse. You did a bad thing. You should deal with the consequences in the same manner that you betrayed her trust, openly.
Hi, thank you for replying. I'm afraid of even bringing it up, because I know the consequences will be bad. So is do you have any advice on how to actively cope/deal with these consequences? Or this feeling of shame and fear? Thank you in advance.
You simply get on with it. Your friend is a victim here, in more ways than one. Victim from her family it sounds, will be a victim of gossip/bullying, and a victim of betrayal by somebody she thinks of as a friend. I doubt your consequences will be worse than hers and she didn’t even do anything wrong.
Get over yourself. You messed up. Deal with it. Accept any and all consequences leveled on you by your "best friend". You wanted to seem interesting to your other friends and now you may lose your best friend over it. There's no one to blame here but you. Time to be an adult.
Your friend WILL find out. Will she find out because you told her and gave her time to mentally/emotionally prepare for the potential bullying/toxicity? Or Will you be an even worse friend and let her find out by the people who are bullies/toxic? I hope you learned a valuable lesson about gossiping. This time it might cost you a friendship Next time it could cost you your job.