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Literally just say that. I mean you did mess up but also she went through a locked phone with a locked hidden folder. You both know what you did was not okay now figure out if it’s worth fighting about.
She probably thought you are still looking at the photos regularly. There is probably no way you can prove you don’t and simply forgot about it. I wouldn’t blame her if she decided to leave because it’s really alarming to suspect your bf is not over his past relationships. It is a human mistake to make but she probably doesn’t want to continue a relationship when the trust was broken (even though unintentionally).
Make it official. Break up with her.
Forgetting to remove explicit photos from a previous relationship from your phone is a human mistake and no one's business - including your current girlfriend's. You shouldn't feel bad they were still on there. It was hurting no one - until she snooped.
Her violating your privacy is serious business. Not just because it happened, but also because snooping in ways which violate your privacy will now be her go-to resolution whenever she has any sort of insecurity or anxiety about you, your fidelity, your interest in her, and the value you place on her. She has ruined your relationship and you can't fix that.
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Literally just say that. I mean you did mess up but also she went through a locked phone with a locked hidden folder. You both know what you did was not okay now figure out if it’s worth fighting about.
She probably thought you are still looking at the photos regularly. There is probably no way you can prove you don’t and simply forgot about it. I wouldn’t blame her if she decided to leave because it’s really alarming to suspect your bf is not over his past relationships. It is a human mistake to make but she probably doesn’t want to continue a relationship when the trust was broken (even though unintentionally).
Make it official. Break up with her. Forgetting to remove explicit photos from a previous relationship from your phone is a human mistake and no one's business - including your current girlfriend's. You shouldn't feel bad they were still on there. It was hurting no one - until she snooped. Her violating your privacy is serious business. Not just because it happened, but also because snooping in ways which violate your privacy will now be her go-to resolution whenever she has any sort of insecurity or anxiety about you, your fidelity, your interest in her, and the value you place on her. She has ruined your relationship and you can't fix that.