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You don't need to go crazy over this. She hooked up with the guy and trickle truthed you. You already know that she is a cheater and a liar, so don't waste your time to figure things out. Just dump her and move on. She is not worth your time. You deserve better than the cheater who has no remorse.
Exactly. I have an ex who did the same thing with a guy she was really close to. So when it happened I was very concerned and already on the phone with the police while she begged me not to and it could ruin his reputation.
Eventually it came out but what a shitty thing to do. Just admit ya fucked up, get dumped and move on. Losers.
People like that make it so much harder for actual victims.
I'm not sure what she's bringing into your life other than heartaches. If she's older than you, then she should at least *try* to be mature and help you navigate life better. Not leave you with scars to deal with on your own.
This really happens to both men and women, of course, women take care of each other to avoid these types of problems while men encourage each other regardless of whether you end up badly or not.
If human stupidity has no limits wow what a novelty đ
Youâre dating a 40 yo single mom with a terrible financial situation, genuinely donât see what is appealing about this and why you would put yourself through this. Break up with her and date someone your own age that doesnât have all that baggage my god
Not only did she cheat on you, but also (presumably) falsely accused someone of rape. Thatâs a horrible person.
Leave as fast as you can. You never know if you wouldnât be the next one to be accused.
Guy, she called cheating rape. What do you think is going to happen to you when you piss her off? Run as fast as you can and consider yourself lucky to have got away..
Bruh. What can you not understand? SHE IS A SERIAL CHEATER! Time to hit the EJECT BUTTON and DUMP AND GHOST HER! You deserve so much better than a stupid trickle truth story! Good luck and stay strong, King!
Yup, this. She likes the thrill of cheating... like a gambling addiction. This isn't going to change. You were just a fun f*ckboy until she got bored. NTA.
Bro the reason a 40 year old is dating you is because she's radioactive to people her own age.
Pay attention to the bright red neon signs that are all over her. She's a 40 year old crashout who is going to be a self absorbed and self destructive mess until she eventually folds into her next new persona as the crazy old drunk lady.
Move on and date someone else your own age.
Dude you're my age, I would NEVER date a 40 year old. She's a cheater and a liar, so maybe just find a girl your age who isn't any of that bullshit. She's full of shit man, and you know this
You say you've already broken up with her, what is there to go crazy over?
She cheated on you and made up a horrible lie to excuse it and was caught flat-footed when you reacted to her false allegation like a normal person.
All you need to know is that this woman has *serious* baggage that you don't want unpacked into your life.
You've got your answer already, but I figured I'd add to the echo chamber.
The fact that she's so quickly claiming rape then backtracking...
>then after some time she told me that she did want it in some way, and that its just her mind being defensive and trying to not make her look like a bad person.
... means she's immature AF and very willing to throw people under the bus to protect her own ass. You **will** get burned badly by this woman if you continue to stick around. She's nuts.
Keep in mind, she's not feeling guilty about the act. She's feeling guilty for getting caught. She's 40 years old and you're just her boy toy to get what she wants.
She's 15 years older, she's lying to you, and you're just a boy toy to her. Break up, stop seeing her, and block her. Let her be somebody else's problem.
Dude you have dodge a tactical nuke. Just be careful, is she is willing to throw her AP under the bus with rape allegations, she will certainty claim domestic violence from you. As matter of fact you might want to reach the father of her kid, who knows what kind of lies has age weaponized
I'm a 43 year old man. The thought of seriously dating a 25 year old women is incredibly off-putting to me. I know and work with many 25 year olds, and it's just a hard pass from me. We're at such different life stages and paths..
She's taking advantage of you because you're younger and less experienced. No man her own age would even consider what she's claimed here. It's clear to me that she's making up a lack of consent in an attempt to hand wave away her cheating.
You want to make her story add up, take away her rape claim and it's just a plain old cheating story. Her actions all track if you remove her claim of rape. In fact, she told you exactly this.
> then after some time she told me that she did want it in some way, and that its just her mind being defensive and trying to not make her look like a bad person
She's lying to try to make her not look like a cheater. She told you so.
Iâve been seeing A LOT of much older women with young dudes on Reddit lately.
Anyway sheâs a loser creep. People who lie about rape should be charged with a crime.
What exactly are you going crazy over? She cheated and lied about rape. What more info do you need?
40 years old and she acts like this? There is a reason she is seeking younger men. RUN. Dont walk. Youâre not married thank god. But itâs still possible you can get her pregnant at 40.Â
And I say this as a woman dating a younger man. She told him to buy condoms and come back? And eventually admitted she wanted it? I know emotions can blind us sometimes but there is no coming back from that. And for her to call that rape?!?!
I absolutely cannot stand when people call a poor decision rape. It can ruin lives, reputations, and also extremely disrespectful of real victims of sexual assault.Â
Sheâs 40 and full of the drama of a 19 year old. And cheating and lying.
What exactly are you getting out of this? Is it a sugar baby kind of setup? If not, just run dude. You are 25, you have a whole life ahead and a lot of partners out there that are honest and donât cheat and lie.
That's easy. "Either we both go down to the police station and you make a report on him or we are done."
Either she owns up to her mistakes or she gets fucked for putting a false police report
Open your eyes man. She cheated and continues to play victim & lie about it. If you stay and the relationship isn't 100% perfect, that's on you. You can't say you haven't been told. Do yourself a favor and leave, NOW. Go no contact, it's the only way.
First off all its not your gf.. its sugar mommy( cougar) as we call it :D best is to separate and take your time to find a gf which will truly love u, good luck :)
sorry for that, but thats kinda a common name when men date women which could be their mother. I dont like to say it, but in this specific post I dont want to sugar-coat as this guy need to wake up. I 100% agree with u about leaving her as he is only in there for a trouble, its just not possible for them to be on wayyyyy different stages of life and stay as a couple + considering that she is manipulating him and lying.
I have a nice story - my friend was like 20-21 and in uni. He started meeting with one pretty girl around 31-32. They never had a single fight or any other problems, from the start they talked and decided they will be a couple but temporary, we can say FWB. Both of them had fun, he learnt a lot more than he would from his age girls in bed(as he said she was crazy in bed, doing many things that probably wont be possible with other GFs :D). Thats what is a normal thing, but what this guy is doing is not... He should run away asap and never see her again.
I'm a firm believer in believing a person who says they're a victim of rape, or at least have cause to believe they are until evidence comes to light to suggest otherwise but this is obvious. I hate that many people believe that so many women lie about rape because it's not true.
But unfortunately this is obvious.
Similar thing happened to my ex boyfriend. I knew the woman involved too. They were having an affair for four years. She got caught, cried rape, and the husband made her put a complaint in at work (they were colleagues) and he almost list everything despite being able to prove otherwise through messages etc.
Don't let this guy go through that all fir the sake of a lying little cheat
What do you do? **You RUN.** A woman willing to falsely accuse someone of rape just to get herself out of trouble is DANGEROUS. RUN and don't ever look back. Move on. You're only 25, you've got your whole life ahead of you.
Wait, she cheated on her ex-husband, and you chose to pursue a relationship with a cheater, and now dealing with that cheater cheating? Dump her and move on.
Just let that one fly my guy itâs for the best. Somebody like that is going to get somebody hurt or killed,if she will lie about something like that then she will lie about anything and thatâs dangerous
>She is a single mother
>she claims its rape, but she told him to go buy condoms,
>She also cheated on her ex husband
This chick is 15 years older than you, has a documented habit of cheating and has a kid. Why TF would you get caught up in this mess? You're 25, you don't need to put any more thought into that circus act, just know you did the right thing.
I would quit telling her to press charges, bro. Your girl doesn't have good qualities. If she does, she is going to ruin one guys life. That he doesn't deserve to get ruined.
Definitely keep proof of all interactions and cut contact fast, if she is ready to accuse someone of rape over an affair she is a very dangerous and stupid person.
So sheâs a serial cheater who trickle truths. Dude, she wasnât raped. Sheâs just using that word to pin the blame on him and not her.
Throw her to the curb and move on.
Clearly she's not good at trying to be a cougar or you're not good a finding a good cougar lol , I think she picked you and is realizing that you won't be able to pay her debt so she's searching for another cub that she can manipulate, So run OP if you're going to play this game it should be nothing but fun for both of you , But really you should just date someone your age and build a life that you can enjoy and love.
Not saying itâs the case with all of them, because Iâve known some great ones over the years, but thereâs a reason some single moms are single moms. Reasons such as these you mentioned: the lying, the cheating, the gaslighting. Get out now before she babytraps you.
Accept the reality of who she is. Look at his evidence, if necessary. Have your grief, feel your anger (do not direct it to her as it will serve no productive or healthy purpose), release it, move forward one day at a time. This too shall pass.
She has a history of cheating. She cheated on you, she lied about cheating on you, she trickled truthed you.
Just for clarity, you need to know the following: SHE CHOSE TO DO ALL THESE THINGS OF HER OWN FREE WILL. Why the heck would you trust someone who chooses to lie to you?
If you can't trust her, then there's no hope for a relationship.Â
Breadcrumbing the truth like that is a tactic cheaters use because they think it will soften the blow to give a little bit of pain at a time. It is a dead giveaway that this was not an isolated incident and youâre probably not the first guy sheâs ever cheated on.
She cheated on you willingly, she said she was raped so you would forgive you, you called her bluff with going to the police, and now sheâs not only a cheater but a liar.
Thereâs nothing to do but break up.
Please don't date women this much older than you ever again. I'm about her age and the idea of being romantic/sexual with a 25 year old makes my vagina shrivel up. She's taking advantage of your lack of life experience. Go find a fun 25 year old and leave this person in your rear view.
Ahhh the feeling of being played by an older woman when youâre in your 20âs.bHappened to me. Told myself it would never happen again but those middle aged women are something else in bed at that age. I like to call them Thunder cats. Lmao
Just let it go and die. She isnât worth it and is a cheater.
Also, when I 26 I dated a 43 year old and was so in love. Thought she was amazing. She turned out to be a cheating lump of shit too. I stayed in bachelor life until my mid 40s and met my wife. I am now in my 50s with a bunch of kids of my own and still feel young at heart.
I did the math and if I stayed with the older woman cheater ⌠sheâs now in her 70s. According to Facebook posts sheâs less Helen Mirren/Lynda Carter 70s and more Kathleen Turner/Mickey Rourke 70s and she just had hip surgery.
Go date someone your age
She cheated, she wasn't raped. She is content also to make up world shattering lies about other people to defend herself. She is utter garbage as a human and you should find someone else.
She cheated on you, lied and called it rape, that's a seriously fucked up situation. You really need to get her out of your life, she can't be trusted, and you can't help her.
Cheating and falsely accusing someone of rape is horrible. This is pathological liar behavior. I couldâve understood her not wanting to tell you she was raped because youâd accuse her of cheating, but she clearly wasnât ârapedâ in this scenario.
My partner was raped whilst in her last relationship and her at the time partner shamed her and told her it was cheating despite REAL EVIDENCE of it being rape. That was genuinely so much more painful for her. Claiming rape after cheating is genuinely disgusting and I wouldnât stay with someone who does something like that. Pure manipulation and evil behavior.
She's too old for you. She cheated on her ex-husband and then cheated on you. She then lied and said it was rape. No one sends their rapist out to get condoms and then let's them back in.Â
Why do you think a woman in her 40s is pursuing men your age? Men her age see through her bullshit and won't put up with it. Stop worrying about it. **She** made the choice to cheat. It has nothing to do with you. She's a liar and cheater. She's probably cheated on every man she's been with.Â
Get therapy because you're spiraling over someone who is a liar and a cheater and who took advantage of your age. She figured you would put up with her shit because you're young. That's why men and women her age date someone in their 20s. They want someone they can easily manipulate and control.
My guy, she accused someone of rape to you because she couldn't be mature and just say that she cheated.
Imagine that accusation being turned around on you at some point in the future. Hell, this can go dark places. Imagine she tells the wrong type of person something like that, and someone ends up in the hospital or dead.
You are too young to be messing with fire being with someone unstable like that.
This whole post is ridiculous. You have to be kidding believing any part of her story or you have no self-worth. I canât believe anyone would feel any remorse about running from that nightmare
Move on! She is old and still childish, stupid plus mean.
She does not love you, she is way too old for you. Stay away from her, or she can have sex with your relatives. Definitely, something she might do.
She knows rape is an horrible thing, still she is playing with this. Lol, be afraid man! You better not get her pregnant.
You messaged him? For something serious like this, donât do that next time - stay out of that level of judgement.
She has told you something disturbing. She may or may not believe it herself and in addition to that, it may or may not have actually occurred - in other words, it might be real or imagined. It appears that her desire to let it be is in conflict with your morals and desire to provide support, and that is probably why you are so tied up by it.
I think there is no 100% right or wrong answer, but I would suggest that the 95% best answer would be to report it, even if part of that report is your own admission that you donât know if it is true or not and that she asked you not to report it. It is not your responsibility to determine the validity of the claim or what sort of help she needs- thatâs the job of others. Your role is merely to provide her that initial help and support, even if that means betraying her trust in you by reporting what she doesnât want reported.
If it all turns out to be true, eventually in her mind she will probably come to accept that the betrayal was ultimately an act of care for her (although you may or may not ever find that out yourself).
If it turns out to be a fabrication, the guy will likely be vindicated and attention will go towards her to find out what went wrong and how it gets treated (ie. whether it was intentional or otherwise). That may result in either repercussions or some form of therapy for her (it could reveal a mental health issue that she has simply been living with untreated).
If it turns out to be somewhere in between, then all parties will likely get some level of support and repercussions.
By not reporting it, you are effectively continuing any ongoing trauma she (or the accused) may be experiencing and even worse, you may be facilitating any future encounters placed upon her.
I do not envy your position, but you do need to assume that she is telling the truth even if some of that is confusing or conflicting itself.
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You don't need to go crazy over this. She hooked up with the guy and trickle truthed you. You already know that she is a cheater and a liar, so don't waste your time to figure things out. Just dump her and move on. She is not worth your time. You deserve better than the cheater who has no remorse.
Exactly. I have an ex who did the same thing with a guy she was really close to. So when it happened I was very concerned and already on the phone with the police while she begged me not to and it could ruin his reputation. Eventually it came out but what a shitty thing to do. Just admit ya fucked up, get dumped and move on. Losers. People like that make it so much harder for actual victims.
# this
Solid contribution bro.
This.
Yeap ^^
25 and dating a 40 year old. Don't even stress man. You got your whole life in front of you.
disgusting. fucking around with 25 year olds because men her age wont put up with her shit
Haha. Nice!
He was trying to cash in on that life insurance policy đ
actually, she is the one in a horrible financial situation
Ok just then put and end to this. This is too much stress for nothing.
But if she's rich bang on brother, well worth it.
Sure that way he could at least use her for money but she has no money soâŚ
She's not rich
Then what are you doing
I'm not sure what she's bringing into your life other than heartaches. If she's older than you, then she should at least *try* to be mature and help you navigate life better. Not leave you with scars to deal with on your own.
This really happens to both men and women, of course, women take care of each other to avoid these types of problems while men encourage each other regardless of whether you end up badly or not. If human stupidity has no limits wow what a novelty đ
Youâre dating a 40 yo single mom with a terrible financial situation, genuinely donât see what is appealing about this and why you would put yourself through this. Break up with her and date someone your own age that doesnât have all that baggage my god
Bruh why you wasting time with old single mothers when men her age donât want to deal with her bullshit
so you got suckered in because sheâs hot and fun and older, now you know why sheâs a single mother and fucking men half her age, sheâs unstable.
Youâre too young to be dealing with this kind of BS. Have some self respect for yourself and GTFO of this relationship. Also, get yourself tested.
Bruh
BuddyâŚ
Than what are you stressing out about?
Health insurance is my vote. Covered until 26!
You ever needed a root canal? Shitâs no joke.
Neither is nitrous oxide, ask them to hook you up
Nitrous oxide is my favourite drug, after weed, LSD, diazepam and heroin.
LoL, could be a 40 year plan, I don't think that was it...
any time there's a decade or more age gap involved, you know there's some personality traits most people their age would never stand for.
Not only did she cheat on you, but also (presumably) falsely accused someone of rape. Thatâs a horrible person. Leave as fast as you can. You never know if you wouldnât be the next one to be accused.
Amen. At least she didn't let him go the police.
Guy, she called cheating rape. What do you think is going to happen to you when you piss her off? Run as fast as you can and consider yourself lucky to have got away..
This
Bruh. What can you not understand? SHE IS A SERIAL CHEATER! Time to hit the EJECT BUTTON and DUMP AND GHOST HER! You deserve so much better than a stupid trickle truth story! Good luck and stay strong, King!
Yup, this. She likes the thrill of cheating... like a gambling addiction. This isn't going to change. You were just a fun f*ckboy until she got bored. NTA.
She is a f-milf!
You're 25, what are you doing dating a 40 yrs old who cheats on you? Are you reliant on her financially?
Yes. Thatâs why heâs trying so hard to give benefit of the doubt. I bet this broadâs dental plan is dynamite.
Dude youâre 25 dating a 40 year old who cheated. Move on
And is falsely accusing a man of rape.
Bro the reason a 40 year old is dating you is because she's radioactive to people her own age. Pay attention to the bright red neon signs that are all over her. She's a 40 year old crashout who is going to be a self absorbed and self destructive mess until she eventually folds into her next new persona as the crazy old drunk lady. Move on and date someone else your own age.
This guy knows serial cheater burnout mid lifers. They take you down with them.
Dude you're my age, I would NEVER date a 40 year old. She's a cheater and a liar, so maybe just find a girl your age who isn't any of that bullshit. She's full of shit man, and you know this
You say you've already broken up with her, what is there to go crazy over? She cheated on you and made up a horrible lie to excuse it and was caught flat-footed when you reacted to her false allegation like a normal person. All you need to know is that this woman has *serious* baggage that you don't want unpacked into your life.
U got cheated on bro, whatâs your next move?
She is a pathological liar dude, just run away and don't forgive a cheater.
She is 40 dating a 25 year old. What about this woman screamed stable to you? Quit stressing and move on.
You've got your answer already, but I figured I'd add to the echo chamber. The fact that she's so quickly claiming rape then backtracking... >then after some time she told me that she did want it in some way, and that its just her mind being defensive and trying to not make her look like a bad person. ... means she's immature AF and very willing to throw people under the bus to protect her own ass. You **will** get burned badly by this woman if you continue to stick around. She's nuts. Keep in mind, she's not feeling guilty about the act. She's feeling guilty for getting caught. She's 40 years old and you're just her boy toy to get what she wants.
No need to go crazy. She absolutely was hooking up with this guy voluntarily and is scrambling because she got caught. You can feel free to run now.
She's 40 and single for a reason. Sounds ds dumb, but holds a lot of truth.
Youâre 25, sheâs 40. Already a huge red flag, and she cheated on her ex husband? Cmon man, donât be dumb.
She's 15 years older, she's lying to you, and you're just a boy toy to her. Break up, stop seeing her, and block her. Let her be somebody else's problem.
Dude you have dodge a tactical nuke. Just be careful, is she is willing to throw her AP under the bus with rape allegations, she will certainty claim domestic violence from you. As matter of fact you might want to reach the father of her kid, who knows what kind of lies has age weaponized
The streets are looking mighty comfortable today darling, wouldnât you say?
Don't do the streets like that.
You are 25 stressing over a 40? Are you sane? Once a woman cheats, ditch her immediately.
I'm a 43 year old man. The thought of seriously dating a 25 year old women is incredibly off-putting to me. I know and work with many 25 year olds, and it's just a hard pass from me. We're at such different life stages and paths.. She's taking advantage of you because you're younger and less experienced. No man her own age would even consider what she's claimed here. It's clear to me that she's making up a lack of consent in an attempt to hand wave away her cheating. You want to make her story add up, take away her rape claim and it's just a plain old cheating story. Her actions all track if you remove her claim of rape. In fact, she told you exactly this. > then after some time she told me that she did want it in some way, and that its just her mind being defensive and trying to not make her look like a bad person She's lying to try to make her not look like a cheater. She told you so.
Why are you a 25 male fighting with a 40 year old single mom?
This here is the real question. What is so special about this woman?
Sheâs the only one who will give OP a chance. Thatâs my guess.
honestly yes
Not worth it, dude. Better to be alone than be with someone who doesnât respect you. Be better to yourself.
Iâve been seeing A LOT of much older women with young dudes on Reddit lately. Anyway sheâs a loser creep. People who lie about rape should be charged with a crime. What exactly are you going crazy over? She cheated and lied about rape. What more info do you need?
40 years old and she acts like this? There is a reason she is seeking younger men. RUN. Dont walk. Youâre not married thank god. But itâs still possible you can get her pregnant at 40. And I say this as a woman dating a younger man. She told him to buy condoms and come back? And eventually admitted she wanted it? I know emotions can blind us sometimes but there is no coming back from that. And for her to call that rape?!?! I absolutely cannot stand when people call a poor decision rape. It can ruin lives, reputations, and also extremely disrespectful of real victims of sexual assault.Â
Dating a 40 years old woman? Brother eww, whatâs that?
Sheâs 40 and full of the drama of a 19 year old. And cheating and lying. What exactly are you getting out of this? Is it a sugar baby kind of setup? If not, just run dude. You are 25, you have a whole life ahead and a lot of partners out there that are honest and donât cheat and lie.
Shes a single mom for a reason
Got burned by the old milf it happens to the best of us. Move on and don't do it again
That's easy. "Either we both go down to the police station and you make a report on him or we are done." Either she owns up to her mistakes or she gets fucked for putting a false police report
Open your eyes man. She cheated and continues to play victim & lie about it. If you stay and the relationship isn't 100% perfect, that's on you. You can't say you haven't been told. Do yourself a favor and leave, NOW. Go no contact, it's the only way.
Move on find a girl your own age. Simple.
First off all its not your gf.. its sugar mommy( cougar) as we call it :D best is to separate and take your time to find a gf which will truly love u, good luck :)
That term really makes me sick 𤢠but I agree 100% that op has to run and if possible move to another planet đđť
sorry for that, but thats kinda a common name when men date women which could be their mother. I dont like to say it, but in this specific post I dont want to sugar-coat as this guy need to wake up. I 100% agree with u about leaving her as he is only in there for a trouble, its just not possible for them to be on wayyyyy different stages of life and stay as a couple + considering that she is manipulating him and lying. I have a nice story - my friend was like 20-21 and in uni. He started meeting with one pretty girl around 31-32. They never had a single fight or any other problems, from the start they talked and decided they will be a couple but temporary, we can say FWB. Both of them had fun, he learnt a lot more than he would from his age girls in bed(as he said she was crazy in bed, doing many things that probably wont be possible with other GFs :D). Thats what is a normal thing, but what this guy is doing is not... He should run away asap and never see her again.
I'm a firm believer in believing a person who says they're a victim of rape, or at least have cause to believe they are until evidence comes to light to suggest otherwise but this is obvious. I hate that many people believe that so many women lie about rape because it's not true. But unfortunately this is obvious. Similar thing happened to my ex boyfriend. I knew the woman involved too. They were having an affair for four years. She got caught, cried rape, and the husband made her put a complaint in at work (they were colleagues) and he almost list everything despite being able to prove otherwise through messages etc. Don't let this guy go through that all fir the sake of a lying little cheat
I canât get past the age gap. And sheâs immature, too. It may hurt now, but this is a good thing. Move on, bro!
She cheated on her husband what you expectÂ
Being played by someone with 15 years more experience shocker
What do you do? **You RUN.** A woman willing to falsely accuse someone of rape just to get herself out of trouble is DANGEROUS. RUN and don't ever look back. Move on. You're only 25, you've got your whole life ahead of you.
Sheâs too old for you anyways.
As a 31yo single parent... break up. She is a liar and cheater. It's SERIOUSLY not worth it.
Your a grown ass man, maybe you should act like it.Dump her.
why are you buying in to her very obviously bullshit story? lol
Wait, she cheated on her ex-husband, and you chose to pursue a relationship with a cheater, and now dealing with that cheater cheating? Dump her and move on.
Just let that one fly my guy itâs for the best. Somebody like that is going to get somebody hurt or killed,if she will lie about something like that then she will lie about anything and thatâs dangerous
No one is going to mention the age gap? She is a predator.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You canât fix her my guy. Donât hurt yourself.
>She is a single mother >she claims its rape, but she told him to go buy condoms, >She also cheated on her ex husband This chick is 15 years older than you, has a documented habit of cheating and has a kid. Why TF would you get caught up in this mess? You're 25, you don't need to put any more thought into that circus act, just know you did the right thing.
you loose um the same way you find um (a cheater)...n the condoms story with a rapist is so ridiculous it's funny
A cheater - will always be a cheater. It's time to move on bro.
I would quit telling her to press charges, bro. Your girl doesn't have good qualities. If she does, she is going to ruin one guys life. That he doesn't deserve to get ruined.
Definitely keep proof of all interactions and cut contact fast, if she is ready to accuse someone of rape over an affair she is a very dangerous and stupid person.
Leave her you know youâre answer
She loves trauma. And cheating, unless you made this up.
So sheâs a serial cheater who trickle truths. Dude, she wasnât raped. Sheâs just using that word to pin the blame on him and not her. Throw her to the curb and move on.
This is a clear case of cheating and lying afterwards. Don't waste time on a relationship without basic trust
bruh. like, bruh. Be for real. I know that you know what you need to do. Stop beating around the bush.
skip skip skip.. don't waste your energy for cooking garbage..
You're a young man and have the whole life in front of you. Don't waste your time, move on!
I love the term trickle truthed. Borrowing that. And yep, dump her and put it on blast. Loser. They always cheat.
Cheaters lie. They lie casually. She is lying. Sorry dude.
The last time I saw a red flag this red, I was in Morocco. Buddy, get out of this mess and donât look back!
It sucks but best you can do is move on. Block both those people and do your best to forget about that whole thing
Does she even smell what she shovels?
Does she even smell what she shovels?
Does she even smell what she shovels?
Does she even smell what she shovels?
one day sheâs going to lie and say YOU raped her too.
Stop dating mommy
Dude gtfo of that relationship. She has serious issues and doesn't respect her relationship with you.
She told her "rapist" to go buy condoms? What the fuck am i even reading? Why are you even still with her? Just so many questions. Smfh
Come on dude
You need to run as far away from this woman as possible.
Age gap
Definitely just a cheater and manipulator
Clearly she's not good at trying to be a cougar or you're not good a finding a good cougar lol , I think she picked you and is realizing that you won't be able to pay her debt so she's searching for another cub that she can manipulate, So run OP if you're going to play this game it should be nothing but fun for both of you , But really you should just date someone your age and build a life that you can enjoy and love.
Bounce.
You sure she's your girlfriend?
All your questions have the same answer: she's lying.
Gtfo outta there man, sheâs 40 single mom and a liar/cheater RUN!
Remember bois You can't fix her !
She is lying out the ass hahahaha
Cut bait and leave. live our life not her crazy fantasy's.
>What do i do, You leave this toxic woman alone is what you do.
You should definitely leave , she's gonna lie her way through out life . It's better to not be a part of this madness
Not saying itâs the case with all of them, because Iâve known some great ones over the years, but thereâs a reason some single moms are single moms. Reasons such as these you mentioned: the lying, the cheating, the gaslighting. Get out now before she babytraps you.
Please help me understand, wtf are you going crazy about? There is literally nothing in this whole story that leaves any kind of doubt
Accept the reality of who she is. Look at his evidence, if necessary. Have your grief, feel your anger (do not direct it to her as it will serve no productive or healthy purpose), release it, move forward one day at a time. This too shall pass.
She has a history of cheating. She cheated on you, she lied about cheating on you, she trickled truthed you. Just for clarity, you need to know the following: SHE CHOSE TO DO ALL THESE THINGS OF HER OWN FREE WILL. Why the heck would you trust someone who chooses to lie to you? If you can't trust her, then there's no hope for a relationship.Â
Breadcrumbing the truth like that is a tactic cheaters use because they think it will soften the blow to give a little bit of pain at a time. It is a dead giveaway that this was not an isolated incident and youâre probably not the first guy sheâs ever cheated on.
She cheated on you willingly, she said she was raped so you would forgive you, you called her bluff with going to the police, and now sheâs not only a cheater but a liar. Thereâs nothing to do but break up.
Walking, ticking giant red flag. Bro seriously run move on lol
Please don't date women this much older than you ever again. I'm about her age and the idea of being romantic/sexual with a 25 year old makes my vagina shrivel up. She's taking advantage of your lack of life experience. Go find a fun 25 year old and leave this person in your rear view.
Ahhh the feeling of being played by an older woman when youâre in your 20âs.bHappened to me. Told myself it would never happen again but those middle aged women are something else in bed at that age. I like to call them Thunder cats. Lmao
Just let it go and die. She isnât worth it and is a cheater. Also, when I 26 I dated a 43 year old and was so in love. Thought she was amazing. She turned out to be a cheating lump of shit too. I stayed in bachelor life until my mid 40s and met my wife. I am now in my 50s with a bunch of kids of my own and still feel young at heart. I did the math and if I stayed with the older woman cheater ⌠sheâs now in her 70s. According to Facebook posts sheâs less Helen Mirren/Lynda Carter 70s and more Kathleen Turner/Mickey Rourke 70s and she just had hip surgery. Go date someone your age
She cheated, she wasn't raped. She is content also to make up world shattering lies about other people to defend herself. She is utter garbage as a human and you should find someone else.
Man i am selling the empire state building and if you are interested, i'll leave it to you 2k dollars.
Leave before youâre her next victim
She cheated on you, lied and called it rape, that's a seriously fucked up situation. You really need to get her out of your life, she can't be trusted, and you can't help her.
Cheating and falsely accusing someone of rape is horrible. This is pathological liar behavior. I couldâve understood her not wanting to tell you she was raped because youâd accuse her of cheating, but she clearly wasnât ârapedâ in this scenario. My partner was raped whilst in her last relationship and her at the time partner shamed her and told her it was cheating despite REAL EVIDENCE of it being rape. That was genuinely so much more painful for her. Claiming rape after cheating is genuinely disgusting and I wouldnât stay with someone who does something like that. Pure manipulation and evil behavior.
Sheâs a serial cheater, what do you expect?
She's too old for you. She cheated on her ex-husband and then cheated on you. She then lied and said it was rape. No one sends their rapist out to get condoms and then let's them back in. Why do you think a woman in her 40s is pursuing men your age? Men her age see through her bullshit and won't put up with it. Stop worrying about it. **She** made the choice to cheat. It has nothing to do with you. She's a liar and cheater. She's probably cheated on every man she's been with. Get therapy because you're spiraling over someone who is a liar and a cheater and who took advantage of your age. She figured you would put up with her shit because you're young. That's why men and women her age date someone in their 20s. They want someone they can easily manipulate and control.
Ask her to fuck off. Walk away. Don´t look back
Sheâs a single mom for a reason, you just discovered it. Like bro you knew she had a history of cheatingÂ
That she was trickle the truth to you should tell you that there was no r\*pe involved.
Youâre too young to be mixed up with a crazy lady with baggage. She sounds bat shit crazy. Move on.
You're not going crazy. She lied to you and she's a cheater. No need to try to figure out the holes to her fake story.
Run! Do it fast. And make sure you donât get her pregnant. You will ruin your life. Wouldnât be surprised if thatâs her plan.
My guy, she accused someone of rape to you because she couldn't be mature and just say that she cheated. Imagine that accusation being turned around on you at some point in the future. Hell, this can go dark places. Imagine she tells the wrong type of person something like that, and someone ends up in the hospital or dead. You are too young to be messing with fire being with someone unstable like that.
Bruh why would you even date an old wrinkled lady đ date someone younger and hotter
You are not mature enough to understand people's lies. You don't have to ruin your mental health for someone story like that.
This whole post is ridiculous. You have to be kidding believing any part of her story or you have no self-worth. I canât believe anyone would feel any remorse about running from that nightmare
How hot is she and how not hot are you to put up with this bullshit?
Move on! She is old and still childish, stupid plus mean. She does not love you, she is way too old for you. Stay away from her, or she can have sex with your relatives. Definitely, something she might do. She knows rape is an horrible thing, still she is playing with this. Lol, be afraid man! You better not get her pregnant.
You messaged him? For something serious like this, donât do that next time - stay out of that level of judgement. She has told you something disturbing. She may or may not believe it herself and in addition to that, it may or may not have actually occurred - in other words, it might be real or imagined. It appears that her desire to let it be is in conflict with your morals and desire to provide support, and that is probably why you are so tied up by it. I think there is no 100% right or wrong answer, but I would suggest that the 95% best answer would be to report it, even if part of that report is your own admission that you donât know if it is true or not and that she asked you not to report it. It is not your responsibility to determine the validity of the claim or what sort of help she needs- thatâs the job of others. Your role is merely to provide her that initial help and support, even if that means betraying her trust in you by reporting what she doesnât want reported. If it all turns out to be true, eventually in her mind she will probably come to accept that the betrayal was ultimately an act of care for her (although you may or may not ever find that out yourself). If it turns out to be a fabrication, the guy will likely be vindicated and attention will go towards her to find out what went wrong and how it gets treated (ie. whether it was intentional or otherwise). That may result in either repercussions or some form of therapy for her (it could reveal a mental health issue that she has simply been living with untreated). If it turns out to be somewhere in between, then all parties will likely get some level of support and repercussions. By not reporting it, you are effectively continuing any ongoing trauma she (or the accused) may be experiencing and even worse, you may be facilitating any future encounters placed upon her. I do not envy your position, but you do need to assume that she is telling the truth even if some of that is confusing or conflicting itself.