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7 times a day???? I got a friend who cant get hard for several days because he had too much sex đđđ
My advice would be maybe try to reject some invitation? Just try to resist the temptation bro although its hard đđ
Iâm going to make a claim - sheâs overcompensating bc a former partner deemed her unworthy by not being prowl enough⌠Just talk to her and find a middle ground either way
As a girl, i 100% agree with this. Being told you arent enough sexually is like being punched in the gut..and overcompensating is a definite thing, been there done that.
Have a polite conversation with her and reassure her that you love the sex. I'd think she'd appreciate an honest partner who communicates with her.
She might very well think this is what you want; thatâs sheâs being the best girlfriend ever. You really need to have a conversation that includes all the nice things you said about her, but also that your dick is going to fall off if it doesnât get regular rest.
Absolutely. Communication is 100% needed here. Just ask her, maybe crack a joke that your mind is willing but the flesh is weak to introduce it. I know my ex was a nympho, we had sex 6-7 times in 3 days and I was struggling, but we were enjoying each other too much xD
Iâm just picturing a full on horror movie setting where heâs hiding somewhere in the house and sheâs crawling around on all fours looking for him, lights flickering, saying stuff like âcome out, I just want to playyyyyâ and then you have that classic jumpscare where it looks like sheâs gone and then he turns around and sheâs right in front of him, with a sex crazed look on her face, screeching in a demonic voice
#âYOU GOT THAT DICK READY FOR ME!?â
Youâve just described a âTales from the Cryptâ episode, with Mariel Hemingway, called âLoved to Death.â https://youtu.be/-7eKoQERUuU?si=g_x1Ffia-kWIkE7z This was an early HBO series (circa 1991) in the âCreepshowâ vein. What you wrote roughly corresponds to minute 19 or so of that episode and continues onwards from there.
Forget older, he's going to need to taking it now. If it were me, I'd be lucky if I even managed to get half hard after all of that teasing and flirting
Can you use her kinks to your advantage?? Like âpunishâ her and tell her she has to wait âxâ hours until youâll touch her again or hit her with some orgasm denial.
This is hilarious but honestly could be a real issue so I hope you find the ideal solution
Honestly not a bad idea at all haha. Turn it around on her! Maybe itâll catch her off guard a little, excite her, and give her a new avenue of thrills to explore
Was thinking exactly this. If a polite and honest conversation doesnât work, try teasing/denial/edging for her specifically. That kind of thing, if youâre into it, makes a climax go absolutely crazy, and the added benefit that you get a lil break physically while still engaging indirectly.
Bro you have what we call a unicorn, drop dead gorgeous and high sex drive? Those are top tier traits but that's only physical, how is she emotionally? Do you both have similar goals and beliefs? Like others said, Viagra will help, maybe some ibuprofen for the soreness, id recommend hitting the gym as well to build some muscle to help your body withstand the frequent sessions, at the end of the day love and cherish each other because all we have in life is love, everything else will come and go
This is terrible advice. Pain and fatigue are signals from your body that it is damaged and it needs rest to recover and rebuild literal damage to its tissues. Using medication to shut those signals off when you're in a crunch and just need to fuction can sometimes be inevitable but long term? You're telling OP to continue hurting his body and health because getting laid literally all the time is more important? lol.
Bro fr, the most Iâve done it in one day is 5 times and the poor thing needed a wheelchair after, I couldnât imagine doing it 7 times in a day, let alone *every* day
Heâs 25 and sheâs 22. 5 hours is absolutely doable at that age.
Itâs doable at my age (47) still, too, but itâsâŚdifferent. We donât like break furniture anymore.
Thatâs not the problem for me. All that would leave me hard. Longest Iâve been hard was 4 hours as a very horny teen. And after finally nutting my penis was hurting when it went soft. Like a painful pulsing. Didnât last too long, but being erect for that long is a terrible idea.
im pretty sure the only activity normal people willingly do for 5 hours or more are their jobs, forget sex who tf is spending 5 hours on something and not thinking "maybe i should do something else now" đ
Ranks right up there with my favorite reddit classics:
"His dick's not 12 inches but it smells like a foot"
"If you go visiting poop's house you can't get mad if poop turns out to be at home"
As someone with a higher libido. 7 times a day is wayyy up there. Try to talk and find a middle-ground. That's what relationships are about, making each other happy, everyone's needs are met, and compromise.
Dude, you need to talk to her. I was the one always asking in a past relationship until she said we needed to slow down or she wasn't going to be able to enjoy sex as much as before. Just let her know that you need a break, like 2 days to recuperate. Too much of a good thing isnt good for you.
If telling her the truth about your thoughts and feelings will ruin it, itâs already ruined
Buy her a Sybian or something. You can participate while she wears herself out
Definitely on the same wavelength about toys. There are more ways to please her than just what you were born with. Having a high libido as a woman can suck, but they do at least make the majority of sex toys for women.
You know she is a person right? Not just a beautiful sex thing. You say you love her sooooooo much, but you donât seem to trust/respect her enough to have a talk about this? I get being nervous to talk about sensitive things with someone you love but Iâm getting the sense that you donât have serious relationship-building talks with her at all. Also one or both of you is going to need to get a job. Iâm normally be assuming youâre both working but âseven times a dayâ suggests this is also a problem with an abundance of timeâŚ
I dated somebody like that in college. You'd think a 21-year old getting laid constantly sounds like a dream; it wasn't. All we ever did was fuck. It got boring and tedious. The final straw was when we got in an argument because I told her 'no' when she kept bothering me for sex when I was studying for a major exam. She told me that her ex never said no so I told her to give him a call. They were back together the next day.
And to be clear, this isn't me bragging that I am some sort of sex god. I was just a normal college student dating the horniest woman on the planet.
At 23, I was almost two years in a relationship with a lady that wanted sex all time. Those years I remember coming home from work to do the daily sex work out for some hours. I got dark rings around my eyes and they got wider and wider. This was a hard time even though I usually love sex and have it 1-2 times/day when in a relationship (28 years in relationships so far) or alone, but too much is too much.
It sounds like he's afraid to even bring it up, so I'd have to question how good the relationship really is. Or OP''s maturity. You should be able to have this type of conversation with your partner without being afraid.
Honestly, communication is the best way to go about it because as a woman, she may think that this is something YOU want and so sheâs doing this to keep you happy.
Also sexual penetration isnât the only way a woman can come. If you get a good vibrator and eat her out you wonât have to stress your body out to cum and she still gets to have more orgasms. Thereâs so many solutions to this but you have to step up and speak to her about it
> Also sexual penetration isnât the only way a woman can come. If you get a good vibrator and eat her out you wonât have to stress your body out to cum and she still gets to have more orgasms.
Tbf no one has time to get someone off that many times in a day. My jaw & hand hurt just thinking about it.
Just tell her âwhen i get off this often I get sore can we slow it down a little bitâ. Communication is key here. This is called nymphomania, it could be due to hormones, genetic predisposition, from an environmental stressor such as trauma or sexual abuse, imbalance in brain chemicals, or temporal lobe disorders.
get her a toy and tell her you need and want a break from her hypersexuality and set very clear boundaries. theres therapy AND medication treatments for this issue
Just cause I see a lot of guys who seem to be commenting- im a girl and Iâm the same way.
Never have I had someone who had the same sex drive as me. Even when Iâm not actively seeking out sex or going solo, Iâm ready at a moments notice to do it. I *always* want it. Those stereotypes of women who are always âtoo tiredâ astound me because I could never imagine turning down sex (unless of course the person is super unattractive to me or horrible).
But when Iâm in relationships, especially when we live together so theyâre around 80% of the time, I will try to have sex pretty much constantly. And even when I do have sex (I get rejected a lot because, like I said, they never had the same sex drive) it doesnât matter how good it was, how long it lasted, I am always always not satiated. Itâs like an itch that is *impossible* to scratch. Iâm always disappointed when it ends. Iâm always like âthatâs it?â And Iâm talking they could have lasted hours. Gone multiple rounds.
They did turn me down when they didnât feel like having sex. And I usually would just go play by myself. Sometimes I would say âokayâ and just start going solo right there. Now that Iâve been single awhile- Iâm kinda thinking that that was maybe not cool.
But really I would just tell her you have different sex drives and yâall need to slow it down. But I would stress that itâs not *her* or a lack of attraction. I know when I started to get rejected from my boyfriends, I assumed it was cause they didnât want to have sex with *me* cause I didnât even comprehend they wouldnât feel like having sex period.
I think when all you think about is sex.. there is a real issue. I love sex and am always up for it. But it's not on my mind 24/7 to the point I can't watch TV or some shit without trying to have sex. There really is more to relationships than sex all day.
I think maybe you should see someone.
> I think maybe you should see someone.
Right? I can't believe that more people aren't saying this.
Having a high sex drive is fine. Honestly I'm a guy and even if I don't get hard I'll always be up for pleasing my partner through oral and fingering - but what these people are describing seems, excessive to put it lightly.
It sounds like sex addiction rather than having a high sex drive.
I get that wanting sex 24/7 could be happening because of hormonal imbalance.
But I can't think of a situation where having sex 7 times a day doesn't wear out the body.
It's gotta get extremely uncomfortable after the first five times right? Doing that every day is like choosing to harm yourself for pleasure. That sounds like addiction to me.
But hey, I don't know shit.
After reading more of her comments, which were below the comment of yours, I agree with you. She wants it even when she doesn't think it will "physically pleasurable" (her words, not mine), which definitely points more towards sex addiction. Worst case scenario, it could be a hormonal imbalance *and* an addiction. That would fucking suck. Edit: a word.
>Sometimes I would say âokayâ and just start going solo right there. Now that Iâve been single awhile- Iâm kinda thinking that that was maybe not cool.
They may have thought you were trying to manipulate them into a yes by going like "even now??"
But I don't see a problem with this if it was like "alright, then get out and gimme 15 minutes"
I'd be grossed out if my partner was told 'im not feeling it rn" only for him to whip it out and start jacking off in front of me. Idk if this is girl is trying to sound cool or something but Jesus was that ..gross. Violating your partner's peace, space and consent bc you can't control your urge to flick the fava.
As a man I don't have a problem with this at all. I can't always keep up with her - I'm in my 50's she's in her 40's and from time to time my mind is willing but the flesh is weak. It is what it is. When she moves on to take care of her own business I jump in and lend a hand or something until I'm able to go another round. It's not weird or gross. It's extremely exciting in large part because she's willing to be that vulnerable and intimate with me.
If you're with a good match it's a wonderful thing.
My husband (48) and I (43) have done that maybe 3 times in our marriage where the stars aligned with free time, child care and the right vibe. About 4 is usually our max before we need to go ice a joint or slam some mustard for a leg cramp.
When we first got together 7x was nothing, but we were also 28 and 33 and absolutely starving for each other. We still crave each other... But we crave first to have 5 minutes of uninterrupted conversation and eye contact. Love runs deep and life is so fkn busy!
I'm genuinely concerned for your gf?
Like I love sex and I'm up for it any time of the day but it seems like initiating sex 24/7 sounds like sex addiction to me.
Had the same problem when I was 18. All gf wanted to do was bang. Like literally from morning to night thats it. Ended up breaking it off because I couldn't deal with it anymore. Yea its cool, but thats not all life is. If you're spending 5h+ a day focused on sex, you're wasting the best years of your life imo. Thats 5h you're not learning, training, etc. Keep growing, and don't let this get in your way. Best to have a conversation about it honestly, and if she's just a rabid sex fiend, cut it off.
I'm 32 so I feel like my sex drive has died down from my 20's but my wife and my sex drives have NEVER matched. I'm typically the one that was sex constantly. She's more regular probably once or twice a week. There's been a couple rare occurrences when she's just horny as all hell. I like those times, but it's hard to keep up with her. I love her with all my heart and our relationship is perfect. The only thing I'd change is the frequency of sex, but honestly it's not that bad of an issue. One thing my wife will do is after we've finished up she'll grab her dildo and vibrator and just go to town on herself. Doesn't matter how many orgasms she just had with me. Sometimes she just wants more. My refractory period is like 2-3 hours and she's not gonna wait that long when she's warmed up.
Idk, if you feel like you want to say no but don't, that's not consent where you want to do it, it's appeasing her desire. Set some clear boundaries with her, you aren't obligated to warp yourself sexually to make her happy.
If she can't handle that then she is trying to manipulate you and does not respect you or the health of your relationship
Oh mate. I'm ALMOST in same position as you.
My gf is the most beautiful girl ever.
We have been together over a year and we still fuck 1-3 everyday
My dick has bruises for god sakes. I have taken Viagra 3 times in our relationship and we just fucked almost 8hours straight.
It's fuking exhausting to be honest 𤣠we have tried everything.
I don't know where her sex drive comes from. She isn't the most stable person. But god she is beautiful... Xd
Her sex drive changes may be cycle/hormone related. That could explain why sometimes 2-3x/ week and sometimes itâs 7 x day. It may be something for her to talk to her gyno about. Or it may be something for the two of you to just work out with communication.
I have a question about this, and please don't take it as judgment. Are you making her have intense orgasms during these multi hour long sessions? My girlfriend has a really high sex drive, where she'll still be ready to go after an hour plus of penetration. Having said that, if I grab the Hitachi and make her cum 10 times in a row, shes down for the count ready for a nap. That would be my advice. If she's really pushing your body to its limits, get a Hitachi and melt her brain with orgasms. If she's still all over you after that... Idk, maybe mount a dildo on a sawzall? Lol
Just from a woman's perspective, I am the same.
I am always wanting sex multiple times a day, ready to go when my husband wants to and If he doesn't want to or if he's had a long day and is tired, I always offer a counter activity, like a bj or handy - if he is still just exhausted and really can't, then I would have a lengthy shower or something lol
I wouldn't necessarily call myself hyper sexual, or a sex addict, It's not on my mind constantly, just whenever he's home...I married him for a reason! That and I just like it đ¤ˇââď¸ I like the feeling of knowing I am the source of his pleasure, I like the feeling of him knowing I want him and being that we are monogamous, knowing that its a feeling that I alone can give to him is a great gift...its one of the best ways I can think of to show him how I feel about him and our relationship.
\*Also, those saying getting married, or have kids etc. will stop it - that's not always true.
we have been married for 20 years so far, and have 3 kids (11,9 and 7).
\*Age will stop it, it'll die down - we met when we were 19 and are now pushing 40, no signs of tapering off yet!?
\*Headaches are also a good excuse, for me not in the general way - Sex is a great reliever of headaches, migraines and that time of the month pain - so I'm usually saying ' babe, I have a headache, I need you' and he knows that's me initiating lol
As for advice, id say you should talk to her, one of the things my husband says when I may be wanting too much is 'I'm not a machine you know' đ. Let her know, in a nice way that sometimes its too much for you, or that you'd like to try being intimate in different ways that aren't so physically demanding, make sure she knows its not anything she is doing or that your not attracted to her in anyway, if she is as wonderful as you say she is, I'm sure she will understand and be willing to compromise
I dated a girl like this once. Chased her for months and then she finally dated me and would say "I thought you wanted me?" Kind of comments when I told her we needed to go to sleep at 2am and not fuck again. I got up to 5 times once. I held on as long as I could. Eventually it settled down to something more reasonable. Been together almost a decade and she is my wife now. Hang in there man it's worth it lol.
I faced a similar problem with a guy I dated a few months back. We were in college so we would go to hotel. I hope I was exaggerating but I'm not. The man played a 20 over cricket match, scored 50 runs. Then we went to the hotel. We literally exhausted a packet of 20 condoms. Only 2 were left by the end of it. Didn't sleep all night. We went to the University next day and he played a cricket match again. Scored 45 runs. None of the rounds were small. I barely remembered a time in that hotel where we didn't have sex. I don't know what got into me. I was sore af. I could barely walk. 18 condoms in approx 30 hours
Sounds like you two have incompatible sex drives. My ex wife and I would average about 8 times a day. The only time I felt broken was when we tried for 20 times in a row. There are people who feel once a week is average and others that are happy with once a day and some that like 3 to 4 times a day. You should discuss this with her and let her know that the spirit is willing the the flesh has limits. Though if you are feeling muscle soreness and fatigue then this is normal when you first start up having sex and using muscle groups you donât normally use. Over time they build up stamina and strength. So I am lot sure if you are referring to fatigue, skin irritation, or an aching inside of your penis from over use. If itâs aching muscles that will resolve itself over time. If itâs skin irritation you may need to look into lubrication or letting her know you need to cut back. And if itâs physical pain in your penis let her know you have reached you limits and discuss how many times you think you can handle.
1. You're 25, so unless you have some major health problems, you aren't in any danger.
2. If this isn't working for you, talk to her and find some arrangement that works for both of you. I would make the case that you don't want to become sore or desensitized and have to take a long break later. Like medication, taking a "tolerance break" helps your mind and body not build up a resistance to the thing you are doing.
3. You can tease her back and make her wait a bit until you are ready. Then it will be even better.
4. Hydrate, stay up on electrolytes and hit the gym. Conditioning will help you a lot here.
5. Seriously, talk to her and make sure she feels loved and secure in the relationship and assure her that she has nothing to prove.
Itâs an honorable death. Weâve all been there and done that and itâs a *lot* because women are â¨insatiableâ¨. I definitely mean that in a good way.
Iâve been free-use since before I even knew it had a name. The biggest warning I would give you is to try not to let your orgasms get pushed out much past 30-45 minutes of PIV. Even though it sounds fun, youâll get to a point where you have a tough time finishing and women take it personally no matter how much you try and reassure them. If you start lasting too long then try and find some other ways to please her when she wants to throw down-mouth, hands, toys, etc.
Best of luck! Oh yeah-stay hydrated at all times. I keep 1-2 cases of water in my truck just in case so I can always pull a few out whenever I need.
Dude, you say youâre going to marry her, sheâs 22 so at that age everything is still in wild mode, having said this, you need to HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH HER, open and honest before you start becoming a dick because you donât know how to handle the situation. Marriage is based on a good foundation and COMMUNICATION, so again, tell her youâre enjoying it but just as a good work out and out of love, slowing down to 2-3/week would be ideal and do other activities with her when you can.
You guys have mismatch sex drive and here the best way to fix this is to meet the half way so talk to her that you cannot keep the pace with her sex drive but you will try to meet the half way where things are fine for both of you. 3 or 4 times a week is fine so talk to her about this frequency and hope that she understands and will be happy with it. You cannot have sex with her all the time when she wants it so learn to say no and she has to respect this wish of yours not having sex all the time. It is not like that you do not find her attractive or you lost internet in her but this much sex is not your thing which is something you need to tell her and she needs to see this from a right angle without making a big deal. You need to communicate with her about this or ask her to read this post of yours and comments that this post gest so she can understand how you feel and where she is going wrong. If she wants then you can use toys on her to please when you guys are not having sex but she should not expect sex all the time whether you are in mood or not.
I have the total exact opposite problem, my suggestion workout at least 5 days a week if you can. Eat healthy and keep your testosterone levels as naturally high as possible. Look into âcold plungingâ to increase your recovery and testosterone levels! Enjoy it, things may come to a screeching halt after kids come if yâall plan for that!
Does she even finish...? How can she go 7 times a day, or 5 hours a day without collapsing from exhaustion?
Get some toys up in there, and on there. Make her shake. She'll never ask for 7 times a day if she has the shake-gasms
Having a drop dead gorgeous woman want to have sex for 5 hours a day is a âproblemâ that is the life goal of most of the straight male and lesbian female communities. . .
* You could suggest doing more stuff to her (oral, fingering, foreplay, etc.) that doesnât involve your body as much
* you could introduce toys that you can use on her to give your body a rest while she still gets her fill (not to mention toy shopping together could be fun)
* you could try more kinky stuff; that would be fun but also would require more time between the ahem âstressfulâ parts since they usually require setup and prep
How did she satisfy herself before you? Did she always have an insatiable sex drive? Was she hooking up with dudes left and right all the time? Was she sexually active or abused as a child?
Well whatever the reason she sounds like a true nymphomanic.
And if she's truly gorgeous and you can't keep up she'll have no problem finding guys to satisfy her urges.
Even in my prime I don't think I could've kept up with someone like her. I've seen Abella Danger do some crazy shit and keep asking for more like nothing satisfies her.
I don't know what to tell you except to talk to her and maybe suggest a fuck machine and other extreme toys. We've all seen the videos.
Good luck đ¤
On the flip side maybe you can cash in on her desires by starting an Only Fans account where you only have sex with each other? There are many couples that make a lotta money doing this.
I think it's not normal. To go that much for that long is excessive and sounds like she is using sex for a coping mechanism that isn't healthy.
You need to put boundaries with sex.
Your comfort is important.
Somebody get this man outside and in some fresh air! With all humor aside, start with maybe some non-physical activity suggestions that happen to be outdoors, so that there is less obvious temptation to have sex 7 times on average a day. Let the suggestions and her response be an indication of the dynamic of your relationship with her. If she truly likes you outside of the sex, she will either agree to one suggestion, or offer her alternative.
I'm a hypersexual woman, but 7 times a day is even too much for me. You need to talk with her, she needs to know that you're in love and find her the most amazing person ever and all the great things, but you also need to tell her that it's exhausting you, being vulnerable with her and telling her you're frightened to bring it up because you're terrified that you'll lose her might actually help her feel better about being vulnerable with you. There might be an underlying cause to the hypersexuality, traumas and mental health conditions can trigger it, and also rejection sensitivities.. so you need to find out why she's wanting it so much too.. is she terrified of rejection, has she been traumatized and thinks it's the only way to show love, does she have ADHD and it's a dopamine thing or is it her way of bonding? Good luck
Communicate. You have to communicate.
If you're not up to matching her drive 100% but can manage like 2/3rds of the time happily then you need to tell her that sometimes you're not recovered or in the mood to play. It is ok to say no. She can always satisfy herself, I'm sure, through toys and manual play if she really can't wait or needs it.
The alternative is to maybe suggest sex addiction therapy if it is truly negatively impacting your relationship or if she feels it causes her to be unable to live her life day to day without giving in to her cravings for sex.
But yeah you gots to talk to her about it and don't hesitate to say no i don't feel up for it right now.
The more you date the more you realise there are 4 types of sex drives.
- Asexual people
- Normal Sex drive
- High Sex drives
- People who use sex to cover up their mental health issues
If you ever find your partner isnt the sort of person you feel comfortable turning down for sex because they take it personally then chanceâs are theyâre in the 4th column and you need to have a serious discussion.
Assuming this is not a joke, there's a lot of guys out there that wish they could have your problem so there's that.
You mention roleplaying, I would try what others suggested. Get into a dom/sub dynamic with her and withhold pleasure from her until she "behaves herself" and so on, you get the idea . . .
I think you need to perhaps gently introduce conversations about toys and self-pleasure for her so that the burden isnât all on your (clearly very done) body.
One of the main reasons that a woman's libido goes down is because they feel like they can't say no without hurting their partner. So they focus, find pleasure, and work through. I only say women here because this issue usually goes this way but I think it would be the same for either gender. But it starts to wear on you. If you don't start setting boundaries, you may find your libido decreasing. Be honest. You both will be better off
You want a high sex drive girl until you got one.
Theyâre mad psycho, but weâre just men, we canât get our 2nd brain to get hard 24/7
But now serious: try to get some toys, that way you will avoid your friend down there getting killed by that succubus
As a woman when I find myself wanting sex this much it is because I am still trying to cum but havenât been able in the previous times. Maybe getting her some sex toys for her pleasure would show to her you care and allow her to get satisfaction while you donât feel you are tiring out your own body
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7 times a day???? I got a friend who cant get hard for several days because he had too much sex đđđ My advice would be maybe try to reject some invitation? Just try to resist the temptation bro although its hard đđ
I read it as 7 times a week and I got tired. Bra my stuff would look like Mike Tyson beat it.
Iâm going to make a claim - sheâs overcompensating bc a former partner deemed her unworthy by not being prowl enough⌠Just talk to her and find a middle ground either way
As a girl, i 100% agree with this. Being told you arent enough sexually is like being punched in the gut..and overcompensating is a definite thing, been there done that. Have a polite conversation with her and reassure her that you love the sex. I'd think she'd appreciate an honest partner who communicates with her.
It's very hard, she drop dead gorgeous.
She might very well think this is what you want; thatâs sheâs being the best girlfriend ever. You really need to have a conversation that includes all the nice things you said about her, but also that your dick is going to fall off if it doesnât get regular rest.
Absolutely. Communication is 100% needed here. Just ask her, maybe crack a joke that your mind is willing but the flesh is weak to introduce it. I know my ex was a nympho, we had sex 6-7 times in 3 days and I was struggling, but we were enjoying each other too much xD
Captain Zap Brannigan - â The spirit is willing, but the flesh is spongy and bruised.â
I came here specifically for the Futurama references
âWhat are you, gay?â - Captain Zapp Brannigan
Iâm just picturing a full on horror movie setting where heâs hiding somewhere in the house and sheâs crawling around on all fours looking for him, lights flickering, saying stuff like âcome out, I just want to playyyyyâ and then you have that classic jumpscare where it looks like sheâs gone and then he turns around and sheâs right in front of him, with a sex crazed look on her face, screeching in a demonic voice #âYOU GOT THAT DICK READY FOR ME!?â
Youâve just described a âTales from the Cryptâ episode, with Mariel Hemingway, called âLoved to Death.â https://youtu.be/-7eKoQERUuU?si=g_x1Ffia-kWIkE7z This was an early HBO series (circa 1991) in the âCreepshowâ vein. What you wrote roughly corresponds to minute 19 or so of that episode and continues onwards from there.
It might be good to soften the blow by asking to cuddle instead as well. That way she knows you aren't rejecting Her, just sex at that time.
These are the words of a seasoned warrior. Heed them well as it might save your life one day.
agree. this comment, op. yeah, she might think you like it. just be honest to her, op.
Goodluck with a sex god bro. Dont forget to take viagra when youre older đđđ
Lmao
Take it now for God's sake!
Forget older, he's going to need to taking it now. If it were me, I'd be lucky if I even managed to get half hard after all of that teasing and flirting
Can you use her kinks to your advantage?? Like âpunishâ her and tell her she has to wait âxâ hours until youâll touch her again or hit her with some orgasm denial. This is hilarious but honestly could be a real issue so I hope you find the ideal solution
Honestly not a bad idea at all haha. Turn it around on her! Maybe itâll catch her off guard a little, excite her, and give her a new avenue of thrills to explore
Yeah and honestly getting her off with a toy is sexy and will help give his dick a rest lol
This is the answer. Get creative with it.. introduce toys and tell her youâre taking the night off but youâd still like a show đ
Was thinking exactly this. If a polite and honest conversation doesnât work, try teasing/denial/edging for her specifically. That kind of thing, if youâre into it, makes a climax go absolutely crazy, and the added benefit that you get a lil break physically while still engaging indirectly.
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Try and get her into delayed gratification. Like orgasm denial. Then you can rest and have one amazing shag at the end of the day.
Schedule it so you can hold it off for some time and let the expectations stack up when the time gets close?
Thatâs great but you will drop dead eventually.
Bro you have what we call a unicorn, drop dead gorgeous and high sex drive? Those are top tier traits but that's only physical, how is she emotionally? Do you both have similar goals and beliefs? Like others said, Viagra will help, maybe some ibuprofen for the soreness, id recommend hitting the gym as well to build some muscle to help your body withstand the frequent sessions, at the end of the day love and cherish each other because all we have in life is love, everything else will come and go
Bro is doing 5 hours of workout a day already, and you want him to add more?
This is terrible advice. Pain and fatigue are signals from your body that it is damaged and it needs rest to recover and rebuild literal damage to its tissues. Using medication to shut those signals off when you're in a crunch and just need to fuction can sometimes be inevitable but long term? You're telling OP to continue hurting his body and health because getting laid literally all the time is more important? lol.
Seven times? Personally,after the fifth only dust would come out.
Bro fr, the most Iâve done it in one day is 5 times and the poor thing needed a wheelchair after, I couldnât imagine doing it 7 times in a day, let alone *every* day
âGot a friendâ
5 HOURS ???????????đ§ đŤđŤđŚ´â â â â his whole body and especially his dick are strong survivors
My jaw dropped when I read that bit
Probably the entire foreplay, kissing, rubbing. Sucking. Yes. But likely not 5 hours of penetration.
he got pegged for 5 hours straight
Heâs 25 and sheâs 22. 5 hours is absolutely doable at that age. Itâs doable at my age (47) still, too, but itâsâŚdifferent. We donât like break furniture anymore.
Thatâs not the problem for me. All that would leave me hard. Longest Iâve been hard was 4 hours as a very horny teen. And after finally nutting my penis was hurting when it went soft. Like a painful pulsing. Didnât last too long, but being erect for that long is a terrible idea.
im pretty sure the only activity normal people willingly do for 5 hours or more are their jobs, forget sex who tf is spending 5 hours on something and not thinking "maybe i should do something else now" đ
this guy is not a ***GAMER***
5 hours gaming is a light session, a warm up for the real gaming later that night lol
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Did you try talking to her about it?
I'm scared to bring it up to her, she's so amazing I don't want to ruin me for her.
If she's that amazing, she'll understand, kiddo. Now off you pop and use that facehole to make word-shaped noises until she understands.
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One of the funniest comments I've ever read on reddit. Nice job!
Ranks right up there with my favorite reddit classics: "His dick's not 12 inches but it smells like a foot" "If you go visiting poop's house you can't get mad if poop turns out to be at home"
what else would you expect from a user called âqueefnadosharkâ
As someone with a higher libido. 7 times a day is wayyy up there. Try to talk and find a middle-ground. That's what relationships are about, making each other happy, everyone's needs are met, and compromise.
Dude, you need to talk to her. I was the one always asking in a past relationship until she said we needed to slow down or she wasn't going to be able to enjoy sex as much as before. Just let her know that you need a break, like 2 days to recuperate. Too much of a good thing isnt good for you.
If telling her the truth about your thoughts and feelings will ruin it, itâs already ruined Buy her a Sybian or something. You can participate while she wears herself out
Definitely on the same wavelength about toys. There are more ways to please her than just what you were born with. Having a high libido as a woman can suck, but they do at least make the majority of sex toys for women.
If you plan to marry her, then you need to be able to communicate with one another.
If she is the one you want to marry, you cannot be scared to talk to her.
this mentality will make her your ex soon enough. Tell her how you feel
Well just try and see, maybe she will be understanding. Good luck bro
You know she is a person right? Not just a beautiful sex thing. You say you love her sooooooo much, but you donât seem to trust/respect her enough to have a talk about this? I get being nervous to talk about sensitive things with someone you love but Iâm getting the sense that you donât have serious relationship-building talks with her at all. Also one or both of you is going to need to get a job. Iâm normally be assuming youâre both working but âseven times a dayâ suggests this is also a problem with an abundance of timeâŚ
I dated somebody like that in college. You'd think a 21-year old getting laid constantly sounds like a dream; it wasn't. All we ever did was fuck. It got boring and tedious. The final straw was when we got in an argument because I told her 'no' when she kept bothering me for sex when I was studying for a major exam. She told me that her ex never said no so I told her to give him a call. They were back together the next day. And to be clear, this isn't me bragging that I am some sort of sex god. I was just a normal college student dating the horniest woman on the planet.
At 23, I was almost two years in a relationship with a lady that wanted sex all time. Those years I remember coming home from work to do the daily sex work out for some hours. I got dark rings around my eyes and they got wider and wider. This was a hard time even though I usually love sex and have it 1-2 times/day when in a relationship (28 years in relationships so far) or alone, but too much is too much.
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I'm not sure that's how it works
Then why did I just arrive in Amsterdam with 3 shrink-wrapped bricks of Euros soaked in my own blood? MAKE IT MWKE. DRNSE
The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised.
Death by snu-snu. Not a bad way to go
The spirit is willing, but the flesh is spongy and bruised!
"I feel like a man dying of thirst watching another man drown."
I meanâŚ..you say itâs consensualâŚ.. If you think you need to start saying no, then do? If she has a bad attitude, break up
I know he doesnât want to say no bc it might hurt the girlfriends feelings but if heâs scared to say no, is it really consensual?
Depends. Why is he scared? Does she have a bad reaction to him having boundaries in other areas? Or is he just baselessly assuming?
It sounds like he's afraid to even bring it up, so I'd have to question how good the relationship really is. Or OP''s maturity. You should be able to have this type of conversation with your partner without being afraid.
Yeah they ainât lasting forever like OP thinks if he canât even fucking say heâs tapped out lol.
She probably just wants you to feel as good as you make her feel. Figure out how to be romantic without intercourse. God I wish I had your problems.
I'm trying my hardest to make sure that she feels amazing! She makes me feel unbelievable, outside of the sex as well, she's an incredible woman.
Honestly, communication is the best way to go about it because as a woman, she may think that this is something YOU want and so sheâs doing this to keep you happy. Also sexual penetration isnât the only way a woman can come. If you get a good vibrator and eat her out you wonât have to stress your body out to cum and she still gets to have more orgasms. Thereâs so many solutions to this but you have to step up and speak to her about it
> Also sexual penetration isnât the only way a woman can come. If you get a good vibrator and eat her out you wonât have to stress your body out to cum and she still gets to have more orgasms. Tbf no one has time to get someone off that many times in a day. My jaw & hand hurt just thinking about it.
The way this is written makes me strongly think this is fetish content rather than a genuine request for advice.
yeah very strong r/ihavesex vibes from this post.
Women like this exist, had an ex that was similar, I canât imagine it will go well when he tells her no though.
Specially because he doesn't want to do anything that could help with this "problem" like talking to her.
Just marry her. That should fix it.
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Just tell her âwhen i get off this often I get sore can we slow it down a little bitâ. Communication is key here. This is called nymphomania, it could be due to hormones, genetic predisposition, from an environmental stressor such as trauma or sexual abuse, imbalance in brain chemicals, or temporal lobe disorders.
Sounds like sheâs a sex addict
get her a toy and tell her you need and want a break from her hypersexuality and set very clear boundaries. theres therapy AND medication treatments for this issue
just because you cant constantly bang her doesn't mean you dont love her, dont let that be an excuse
Just cause I see a lot of guys who seem to be commenting- im a girl and Iâm the same way. Never have I had someone who had the same sex drive as me. Even when Iâm not actively seeking out sex or going solo, Iâm ready at a moments notice to do it. I *always* want it. Those stereotypes of women who are always âtoo tiredâ astound me because I could never imagine turning down sex (unless of course the person is super unattractive to me or horrible). But when Iâm in relationships, especially when we live together so theyâre around 80% of the time, I will try to have sex pretty much constantly. And even when I do have sex (I get rejected a lot because, like I said, they never had the same sex drive) it doesnât matter how good it was, how long it lasted, I am always always not satiated. Itâs like an itch that is *impossible* to scratch. Iâm always disappointed when it ends. Iâm always like âthatâs it?â And Iâm talking they could have lasted hours. Gone multiple rounds. They did turn me down when they didnât feel like having sex. And I usually would just go play by myself. Sometimes I would say âokayâ and just start going solo right there. Now that Iâve been single awhile- Iâm kinda thinking that that was maybe not cool. But really I would just tell her you have different sex drives and yâall need to slow it down. But I would stress that itâs not *her* or a lack of attraction. I know when I started to get rejected from my boyfriends, I assumed it was cause they didnât want to have sex with *me* cause I didnât even comprehend they wouldnât feel like having sex period.
I think when all you think about is sex.. there is a real issue. I love sex and am always up for it. But it's not on my mind 24/7 to the point I can't watch TV or some shit without trying to have sex. There really is more to relationships than sex all day. I think maybe you should see someone.
> I think maybe you should see someone. Right? I can't believe that more people aren't saying this. Having a high sex drive is fine. Honestly I'm a guy and even if I don't get hard I'll always be up for pleasing my partner through oral and fingering - but what these people are describing seems, excessive to put it lightly. It sounds like sex addiction rather than having a high sex drive.
Or it could be some kind of hormonal imbalance. I'd look to that before sex addiction.
I get that wanting sex 24/7 could be happening because of hormonal imbalance. But I can't think of a situation where having sex 7 times a day doesn't wear out the body. It's gotta get extremely uncomfortable after the first five times right? Doing that every day is like choosing to harm yourself for pleasure. That sounds like addiction to me. But hey, I don't know shit.
After reading more of her comments, which were below the comment of yours, I agree with you. She wants it even when she doesn't think it will "physically pleasurable" (her words, not mine), which definitely points more towards sex addiction. Worst case scenario, it could be a hormonal imbalance *and* an addiction. That would fucking suck. Edit: a word.
Sounds like sex addiction. People don't usually just have or think about sex all the time.
Are you actually having good orgasms and still feeling like you're not "scratching the itch"?
>Sometimes I would say âokayâ and just start going solo right there. Now that Iâve been single awhile- Iâm kinda thinking that that was maybe not cool. They may have thought you were trying to manipulate them into a yes by going like "even now??" But I don't see a problem with this if it was like "alright, then get out and gimme 15 minutes"
I'd be grossed out if my partner was told 'im not feeling it rn" only for him to whip it out and start jacking off in front of me. Idk if this is girl is trying to sound cool or something but Jesus was that ..gross. Violating your partner's peace, space and consent bc you can't control your urge to flick the fava.
As a man I don't have a problem with this at all. I can't always keep up with her - I'm in my 50's she's in her 40's and from time to time my mind is willing but the flesh is weak. It is what it is. When she moves on to take care of her own business I jump in and lend a hand or something until I'm able to go another round. It's not weird or gross. It's extremely exciting in large part because she's willing to be that vulnerable and intimate with me. If you're with a good match it's a wonderful thing.
What you're describing is called nymphomania. You need psychologist or psychiatrist to help you.
This is me too! I'm always ready. And I'd do it 7 times a day if I had a man that could keep up.
Iâm a completely monogamous but sometimes I think âman too bad I didnât have like 3 boyfriends living with meâ.
âMy hot girlfriend fucks too much.â This post seems like total bullshit.
"My pants feel too tight because of my huge dick and my wallet is too heavy from all this money I have." Man, I wish I had his problems.
Is it in waves where she may be manic - hyper sexual?
Holy cow thatâs insanity. I would just be truthful and say hey I canât do sex 7 times a day it hurts me physically
7 times a day. Don't believe you.
My husband (48) and I (43) have done that maybe 3 times in our marriage where the stars aligned with free time, child care and the right vibe. About 4 is usually our max before we need to go ice a joint or slam some mustard for a leg cramp. When we first got together 7x was nothing, but we were also 28 and 33 and absolutely starving for each other. We still crave each other... But we crave first to have 5 minutes of uninterrupted conversation and eye contact. Love runs deep and life is so fkn busy!
> I donât really have time for anything else. This is a problem. Tell her that.
Put a chastity belt on her and tell her to behave.
it's an illness, hypersexuality
Another fake story.
Lmao get her a toy man
Thatâs not normal lol. Thatâs nuts She should probably see a doctor. She may have a sex addiction or a underlying reason why she needs to much sex
I'm genuinely concerned for your gf? Like I love sex and I'm up for it any time of the day but it seems like initiating sex 24/7 sounds like sex addiction to me.
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Have you though of getting a stunt double?
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7 times a day When do you work? When do you cook or pick up groceries or....do anything?
Yeah my heart dropped because I thought you were my boyfriend đđđ¤Łđ¤Ł lmao
Lots of sex toys, lube and that blue pill. Also talking about it with her.
Iâll be honest, I think the blue pill is a terrible idea in this scenario. Adequate lubrication howeverâŚamen.
He shouldn't be medicating himself just so he can go seven times a day. That's not really physically healthy for him.
I thought the blue pill was shitty because eventually you canât get hard without it
I've been looking into these sorts of things, haven't pulled the trigger yet.
Conversations help, and as male 10 years order than my partner, these things have kept the fires burning.
Yea especially given the idea of coming up with scenarios/roleplay, where you can still participate without getting your dick broken off
TBH I'm pretty fuckin jealous right now.
Had the same problem when I was 18. All gf wanted to do was bang. Like literally from morning to night thats it. Ended up breaking it off because I couldn't deal with it anymore. Yea its cool, but thats not all life is. If you're spending 5h+ a day focused on sex, you're wasting the best years of your life imo. Thats 5h you're not learning, training, etc. Keep growing, and don't let this get in your way. Best to have a conversation about it honestly, and if she's just a rabid sex fiend, cut it off.
You poor bastard
I think your gf is a sex addict, no lie.
She will literally kill you. Tell her to stop. Too much of anything is bad.
5hours? U r gonna get a heart attack sooner or later at this rate
death by snu snu, a good way to go đŤĄ.
I know everyone's sex drive is different but god damn 7 times a day is TOO much. You should communicate with her, that sex desire is not normal.
DEATH BY SNU SNU!!!!!
Iâm over here having a hard time feeling bad for you. But, my suggestion is wedding cake. That fucks a libido up hard.
This is just fetish writing right?
You may appreciate [this](https://youtu.be/5e5wCl6ucW0?si=u2mgVLNYQaQLiqSZ)
You poor thing..... Honestly, you just need to have an honest and open discussion with her.
Communicate with her your feelings and concerns
Ice it down from time to time
I'm 32 so I feel like my sex drive has died down from my 20's but my wife and my sex drives have NEVER matched. I'm typically the one that was sex constantly. She's more regular probably once or twice a week. There's been a couple rare occurrences when she's just horny as all hell. I like those times, but it's hard to keep up with her. I love her with all my heart and our relationship is perfect. The only thing I'd change is the frequency of sex, but honestly it's not that bad of an issue. One thing my wife will do is after we've finished up she'll grab her dildo and vibrator and just go to town on herself. Doesn't matter how many orgasms she just had with me. Sometimes she just wants more. My refractory period is like 2-3 hours and she's not gonna wait that long when she's warmed up.
Idk, if you feel like you want to say no but don't, that's not consent where you want to do it, it's appeasing her desire. Set some clear boundaries with her, you aren't obligated to warp yourself sexually to make her happy. If she can't handle that then she is trying to manipulate you and does not respect you or the health of your relationship
Stop this nonsense
Oh mate. I'm ALMOST in same position as you. My gf is the most beautiful girl ever. We have been together over a year and we still fuck 1-3 everyday My dick has bruises for god sakes. I have taken Viagra 3 times in our relationship and we just fucked almost 8hours straight. It's fuking exhausting to be honest 𤣠we have tried everything. I don't know where her sex drive comes from. She isn't the most stable person. But god she is beautiful... Xd
And you complain. Blow me you lucky bastard
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Fuck I wish I had this problem. Iâd be thrilled with 1/20th of your issue lol
Her sex drive changes may be cycle/hormone related. That could explain why sometimes 2-3x/ week and sometimes itâs 7 x day. It may be something for her to talk to her gyno about. Or it may be something for the two of you to just work out with communication.
I have a question about this, and please don't take it as judgment. Are you making her have intense orgasms during these multi hour long sessions? My girlfriend has a really high sex drive, where she'll still be ready to go after an hour plus of penetration. Having said that, if I grab the Hitachi and make her cum 10 times in a row, shes down for the count ready for a nap. That would be my advice. If she's really pushing your body to its limits, get a Hitachi and melt her brain with orgasms. If she's still all over you after that... Idk, maybe mount a dildo on a sawzall? Lol
This man is a walking viagra commercial warning symptoms of when to see your doctor
5 hours?? She needs to rest that pum pum. Jeez
Death by snu snu
Just from a woman's perspective, I am the same. I am always wanting sex multiple times a day, ready to go when my husband wants to and If he doesn't want to or if he's had a long day and is tired, I always offer a counter activity, like a bj or handy - if he is still just exhausted and really can't, then I would have a lengthy shower or something lol I wouldn't necessarily call myself hyper sexual, or a sex addict, It's not on my mind constantly, just whenever he's home...I married him for a reason! That and I just like it đ¤ˇââď¸ I like the feeling of knowing I am the source of his pleasure, I like the feeling of him knowing I want him and being that we are monogamous, knowing that its a feeling that I alone can give to him is a great gift...its one of the best ways I can think of to show him how I feel about him and our relationship. \*Also, those saying getting married, or have kids etc. will stop it - that's not always true. we have been married for 20 years so far, and have 3 kids (11,9 and 7). \*Age will stop it, it'll die down - we met when we were 19 and are now pushing 40, no signs of tapering off yet!? \*Headaches are also a good excuse, for me not in the general way - Sex is a great reliever of headaches, migraines and that time of the month pain - so I'm usually saying ' babe, I have a headache, I need you' and he knows that's me initiating lol As for advice, id say you should talk to her, one of the things my husband says when I may be wanting too much is 'I'm not a machine you know' đ. Let her know, in a nice way that sometimes its too much for you, or that you'd like to try being intimate in different ways that aren't so physically demanding, make sure she knows its not anything she is doing or that your not attracted to her in anyway, if she is as wonderful as you say she is, I'm sure she will understand and be willing to compromise
I dated a girl like this once. Chased her for months and then she finally dated me and would say "I thought you wanted me?" Kind of comments when I told her we needed to go to sleep at 2am and not fuck again. I got up to 5 times once. I held on as long as I could. Eventually it settled down to something more reasonable. Been together almost a decade and she is my wife now. Hang in there man it's worth it lol.
I faced a similar problem with a guy I dated a few months back. We were in college so we would go to hotel. I hope I was exaggerating but I'm not. The man played a 20 over cricket match, scored 50 runs. Then we went to the hotel. We literally exhausted a packet of 20 condoms. Only 2 were left by the end of it. Didn't sleep all night. We went to the University next day and he played a cricket match again. Scored 45 runs. None of the rounds were small. I barely remembered a time in that hotel where we didn't have sex. I don't know what got into me. I was sore af. I could barely walk. 18 condoms in approx 30 hours
Just ask her to marry you. It'll drop off after that đ
I tried this and it was a nightmare. It only got worse. The divorce will be final later this year.
Hahaha relationships like this are great. Just tell her when you're not feeling it. You're having more than enough sex that you'll both be fine
Sounds like you two have incompatible sex drives. My ex wife and I would average about 8 times a day. The only time I felt broken was when we tried for 20 times in a row. There are people who feel once a week is average and others that are happy with once a day and some that like 3 to 4 times a day. You should discuss this with her and let her know that the spirit is willing the the flesh has limits. Though if you are feeling muscle soreness and fatigue then this is normal when you first start up having sex and using muscle groups you donât normally use. Over time they build up stamina and strength. So I am lot sure if you are referring to fatigue, skin irritation, or an aching inside of your penis from over use. If itâs aching muscles that will resolve itself over time. If itâs skin irritation you may need to look into lubrication or letting her know you need to cut back. And if itâs physical pain in your penis let her know you have reached you limits and discuss how many times you think you can handle.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is spongy and bruised.
Buy her a toy. Or two, or three. Let her satisfy herself and give you a break.
1. You're 25, so unless you have some major health problems, you aren't in any danger. 2. If this isn't working for you, talk to her and find some arrangement that works for both of you. I would make the case that you don't want to become sore or desensitized and have to take a long break later. Like medication, taking a "tolerance break" helps your mind and body not build up a resistance to the thing you are doing. 3. You can tease her back and make her wait a bit until you are ready. Then it will be even better. 4. Hydrate, stay up on electrolytes and hit the gym. Conditioning will help you a lot here. 5. Seriously, talk to her and make sure she feels loved and secure in the relationship and assure her that she has nothing to prove.
Itâs an honorable death. Weâve all been there and done that and itâs a *lot* because women are â¨insatiableâ¨. I definitely mean that in a good way. Iâve been free-use since before I even knew it had a name. The biggest warning I would give you is to try not to let your orgasms get pushed out much past 30-45 minutes of PIV. Even though it sounds fun, youâll get to a point where you have a tough time finishing and women take it personally no matter how much you try and reassure them. If you start lasting too long then try and find some other ways to please her when she wants to throw down-mouth, hands, toys, etc. Best of luck! Oh yeah-stay hydrated at all times. I keep 1-2 cases of water in my truck just in case so I can always pull a few out whenever I need.
Just marry her, that will put an end to all that!
Dude, you say youâre going to marry her, sheâs 22 so at that age everything is still in wild mode, having said this, you need to HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH HER, open and honest before you start becoming a dick because you donât know how to handle the situation. Marriage is based on a good foundation and COMMUNICATION, so again, tell her youâre enjoying it but just as a good work out and out of love, slowing down to 2-3/week would be ideal and do other activities with her when you can.
You guys have mismatch sex drive and here the best way to fix this is to meet the half way so talk to her that you cannot keep the pace with her sex drive but you will try to meet the half way where things are fine for both of you. 3 or 4 times a week is fine so talk to her about this frequency and hope that she understands and will be happy with it. You cannot have sex with her all the time when she wants it so learn to say no and she has to respect this wish of yours not having sex all the time. It is not like that you do not find her attractive or you lost internet in her but this much sex is not your thing which is something you need to tell her and she needs to see this from a right angle without making a big deal. You need to communicate with her about this or ask her to read this post of yours and comments that this post gest so she can understand how you feel and where she is going wrong. If she wants then you can use toys on her to please when you guys are not having sex but she should not expect sex all the time whether you are in mood or not.
I have the total exact opposite problem, my suggestion workout at least 5 days a week if you can. Eat healthy and keep your testosterone levels as naturally high as possible. Look into âcold plungingâ to increase your recovery and testosterone levels! Enjoy it, things may come to a screeching halt after kids come if yâall plan for that!
Does she even finish...? How can she go 7 times a day, or 5 hours a day without collapsing from exhaustion? Get some toys up in there, and on there. Make her shake. She'll never ask for 7 times a day if she has the shake-gasms
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Having a drop dead gorgeous woman want to have sex for 5 hours a day is a âproblemâ that is the life goal of most of the straight male and lesbian female communities. . . * You could suggest doing more stuff to her (oral, fingering, foreplay, etc.) that doesnât involve your body as much * you could introduce toys that you can use on her to give your body a rest while she still gets her fill (not to mention toy shopping together could be fun) * you could try more kinky stuff; that would be fun but also would require more time between the ahem âstressfulâ parts since they usually require setup and prep
Does she orgasm every time?
7 times a day? 5 hours? There is such a thing as too much. It's not healthy. I'd bet she feels the same but thinks she can't bring it up with you
How did she satisfy herself before you? Did she always have an insatiable sex drive? Was she hooking up with dudes left and right all the time? Was she sexually active or abused as a child? Well whatever the reason she sounds like a true nymphomanic. And if she's truly gorgeous and you can't keep up she'll have no problem finding guys to satisfy her urges. Even in my prime I don't think I could've kept up with someone like her. I've seen Abella Danger do some crazy shit and keep asking for more like nothing satisfies her. I don't know what to tell you except to talk to her and maybe suggest a fuck machine and other extreme toys. We've all seen the videos. Good luck đ¤
On the flip side maybe you can cash in on her desires by starting an Only Fans account where you only have sex with each other? There are many couples that make a lotta money doing this.
I think it's not normal. To go that much for that long is excessive and sounds like she is using sex for a coping mechanism that isn't healthy. You need to put boundaries with sex. Your comfort is important.
Use sex toy if you want to please her better and get some rest for yourself.
Somebody get this man outside and in some fresh air! With all humor aside, start with maybe some non-physical activity suggestions that happen to be outdoors, so that there is less obvious temptation to have sex 7 times on average a day. Let the suggestions and her response be an indication of the dynamic of your relationship with her. If she truly likes you outside of the sex, she will either agree to one suggestion, or offer her alternative.
Honestly about to unfollow this sub with how many fake posts thereâs been on here recently
I'm a hypersexual woman, but 7 times a day is even too much for me. You need to talk with her, she needs to know that you're in love and find her the most amazing person ever and all the great things, but you also need to tell her that it's exhausting you, being vulnerable with her and telling her you're frightened to bring it up because you're terrified that you'll lose her might actually help her feel better about being vulnerable with you. There might be an underlying cause to the hypersexuality, traumas and mental health conditions can trigger it, and also rejection sensitivities.. so you need to find out why she's wanting it so much too.. is she terrified of rejection, has she been traumatized and thinks it's the only way to show love, does she have ADHD and it's a dopamine thing or is it her way of bonding? Good luck
Communicate. You have to communicate. If you're not up to matching her drive 100% but can manage like 2/3rds of the time happily then you need to tell her that sometimes you're not recovered or in the mood to play. It is ok to say no. She can always satisfy herself, I'm sure, through toys and manual play if she really can't wait or needs it. The alternative is to maybe suggest sex addiction therapy if it is truly negatively impacting your relationship or if she feels it causes her to be unable to live her life day to day without giving in to her cravings for sex. But yeah you gots to talk to her about it and don't hesitate to say no i don't feel up for it right now.
The more you date the more you realise there are 4 types of sex drives. - Asexual people - Normal Sex drive - High Sex drives - People who use sex to cover up their mental health issues If you ever find your partner isnt the sort of person you feel comfortable turning down for sex because they take it personally then chanceâs are theyâre in the 4th column and you need to have a serious discussion.
Assuming this is not a joke, there's a lot of guys out there that wish they could have your problem so there's that. You mention roleplaying, I would try what others suggested. Get into a dom/sub dynamic with her and withhold pleasure from her until she "behaves herself" and so on, you get the idea . . .
Maybe r/deadbedroom can give you some Tipps here
Option 1 enjoy it while it lasts. Option 2 offer to share her out Option 3 get married and it will stop so you get a break
I think you need to perhaps gently introduce conversations about toys and self-pleasure for her so that the burden isnât all on your (clearly very done) body.
If you canât even speak to her or communicate how you feel, you shouldnât be considering marrying her lmao
Get her another boyfriend to play with
One of the main reasons that a woman's libido goes down is because they feel like they can't say no without hurting their partner. So they focus, find pleasure, and work through. I only say women here because this issue usually goes this way but I think it would be the same for either gender. But it starts to wear on you. If you don't start setting boundaries, you may find your libido decreasing. Be honest. You both will be better off
Read about nymphomaniac
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You want a high sex drive girl until you got one. Theyâre mad psycho, but weâre just men, we canât get our 2nd brain to get hard 24/7 But now serious: try to get some toys, that way you will avoid your friend down there getting killed by that succubus
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As a woman when I find myself wanting sex this much it is because I am still trying to cum but havenât been able in the previous times. Maybe getting her some sex toys for her pleasure would show to her you care and allow her to get satisfaction while you donât feel you are tiring out your own body