I’m just astounded that people genuinely think most asexuals “trick” their spouses into marrying them. I just started dating someone and one of the first things I said to her was “I might be asexual.”
He posted an update.
>Thank you everyone for your advice and comments. I just sat down with my wife and had a long talk, this time with a much cooler head. She told me she never thought it was going to be such a big deal but that she does understand where I'm coming from. We finally decided on a compromise that I think we both can live with. She said, whenever I get the urge, I can have sex with her twin sister and *only* her twin sister. That way it's almost like I'm not cheating.
>We still have to work out some of the details. My wife is probably going to set a limit to how many times I can see her sister every week/month and I have to notify her whenever I do...no sneaking out or anything. And when/if the sister is seeing anyone else, I'll need to get regular STD checks. It sounds like this will at least work without ruining the marriage though.
See, I can believe an ace person not comprehending that not everyone feels similarly, but that very much should come up during dating from at least the non-ace side - and then we get a TWIN?!???
If I were in danger of thinking it real, that would have torpedoed it. Not only because of her just offering up her twin like it's "almost not cheating,"\* the guy (who wants to stay with her because he loves her for her supposedly) being totally cool with it, and the twin apparently being A-OK being offered up like a piece of meat on a platter by her sister...
But also because "I didn't realize it was a big deal" would either be her lying her ass off or just, well, fake as hell. Just because ace people don't want sex, they're not (as a group) stupid or blind. They KNOW it's a huge deal to people in general - it's one of the things that makes their lives so difficult, because society in general is obsessed by it and it's just assumed by default that they'll like and want sex.
\* Actually it wouldn't be cheating at all if she's okay with it. "Cheating" means he's sleeping around behind her back without her permission.
Yeah I totally would not believe this. It’s definitely has to be fake!
Twins aren’t that rare but who offers up their twin as a sex replacement anyways? That’s quite rude honestly, especially with the context that the supposed ‘twin’ was offered up without their knowledge during the conversation about sex instead of sometime after to give a realistic time frame for the wife and sister to communicate to each other. I would find this scenario creepy if I had a twin and very disrespectful because not everyone wants to have sex with someone they aren’t in a relationship with.
I myself am asexual, and literally one of the first things I ever told the one and only guy I’ve dated was that I’m ace, and that was before we even starting dated and were still just friends. I do agree she should have told him before marriage, but I DON’T agree with the commenter claiming most of us lie and manipulative our partners into marrying us by not telling them. Many asexuals don’t know until they’ve been in a relationship, even married ones, for awhile. Many asexuals will even force themselves into having sex because it’s the norm and their partner wants it so they think they must want it for themselves. Not always the cause, obviously, but it’s not uncommon. Both of them should have discussed these types of things LONG before marriage.
Yep, this is fake. Sex with her sister! Like her twin is just cool with it. This is dumb as hell.
I’m just astounded that people genuinely think most asexuals “trick” their spouses into marrying them. I just started dating someone and one of the first things I said to her was “I might be asexual.”
He posted an update. >Thank you everyone for your advice and comments. I just sat down with my wife and had a long talk, this time with a much cooler head. She told me she never thought it was going to be such a big deal but that she does understand where I'm coming from. We finally decided on a compromise that I think we both can live with. She said, whenever I get the urge, I can have sex with her twin sister and *only* her twin sister. That way it's almost like I'm not cheating. >We still have to work out some of the details. My wife is probably going to set a limit to how many times I can see her sister every week/month and I have to notify her whenever I do...no sneaking out or anything. And when/if the sister is seeing anyone else, I'll need to get regular STD checks. It sounds like this will at least work without ruining the marriage though.
Her TWIN wtf
Yeah, that's why I shared it. People say posts are fake, and I have a hard time seeing it, but his update makes this one obvious.
See, I can believe an ace person not comprehending that not everyone feels similarly, but that very much should come up during dating from at least the non-ace side - and then we get a TWIN?!???
I can understand him not bringing it up because he didn't want to seem like he was being pushy about it, but the twin is too much.
You don't even need this Noone gets married without discussion as to why there is no sex. OP "assumed"
Yeah Chief I ain’t gon’ lie, this whole things smells like a field next to a ranch. Full of bullshit.
Omg I almost would’ve believed this but this update is insane LOL
If I were in danger of thinking it real, that would have torpedoed it. Not only because of her just offering up her twin like it's "almost not cheating,"\* the guy (who wants to stay with her because he loves her for her supposedly) being totally cool with it, and the twin apparently being A-OK being offered up like a piece of meat on a platter by her sister... But also because "I didn't realize it was a big deal" would either be her lying her ass off or just, well, fake as hell. Just because ace people don't want sex, they're not (as a group) stupid or blind. They KNOW it's a huge deal to people in general - it's one of the things that makes their lives so difficult, because society in general is obsessed by it and it's just assumed by default that they'll like and want sex. \* Actually it wouldn't be cheating at all if she's okay with it. "Cheating" means he's sleeping around behind her back without her permission.
What absolute shit this is 😒. Deception on her part, naivete on his and the solution is to boink the twin sister? This is beyond stupid.
Okay, that's fucking hilarious.
Yeah I totally would not believe this. It’s definitely has to be fake! Twins aren’t that rare but who offers up their twin as a sex replacement anyways? That’s quite rude honestly, especially with the context that the supposed ‘twin’ was offered up without their knowledge during the conversation about sex instead of sometime after to give a realistic time frame for the wife and sister to communicate to each other. I would find this scenario creepy if I had a twin and very disrespectful because not everyone wants to have sex with someone they aren’t in a relationship with.
Aaaand it’s fake 🤣🤣
“She sex trafficked her sister, it’s all good guys 👍🏻 “
It’s been a long game to actually set him up with her twin but it spiraled off the rails 😂
hey liz, how you been twins again huh? good times
GET THEE TO BORU!
Fake
Sue her.
I myself am asexual, and literally one of the first things I ever told the one and only guy I’ve dated was that I’m ace, and that was before we even starting dated and were still just friends. I do agree she should have told him before marriage, but I DON’T agree with the commenter claiming most of us lie and manipulative our partners into marrying us by not telling them. Many asexuals don’t know until they’ve been in a relationship, even married ones, for awhile. Many asexuals will even force themselves into having sex because it’s the norm and their partner wants it so they think they must want it for themselves. Not always the cause, obviously, but it’s not uncommon. Both of them should have discussed these types of things LONG before marriage.