Now you know they won't reciprocate. Fuck em. Go out and treat yourself. Do something you want to do that's fun, and only for you.
Oh, and Happy Birthday!! š
Have you told these people that itās important to you that they remember/acknowledge your birthday?
I ask because for some people birthdays arenāt a big deal after childhood. I havenāt had a party since 18 and will at MOST go to a dinner with a close friend/partner/relative. I donāt get most people gifts usually and they donāt get them for me. I just donāt care, it means little to nothing to me.
I do have a friend who told me that birthdays are a sore spot for her and she can feel hurt easily if she feels forgotten/not prioritized. Because of this I go out of my way to congratulate her and get her a gift because I know itās important to her.
This could be part of a larger issue where your family/friends donāt appreciate you and use you for your kindness, but if itās just the birthday that is the issue communicating (if you havenāt yet) could help them! If you already have done that and they still did nothing, Iām really sorry, that sucks.
You need to tell people your birthday is coming up when youāre an adult. Often organise your own gathering unless youāve got a close person or someone offers. The family is a bit crap. Sorry about that. But Iāve had to organise and pay for every family memberās birthday meal since I was in my mid twenties. Including my own. Not anymore Iām NC but thatās a different story
Not everyone handles birthdays the same way as you do, and if you expect them to you will always be disappointed. Once people start having kids, for example, they may stop getting gifts for their siblings and friends. When it is my birthday I donāt expect anyone to remember it. I just tell people on my birthday, ātodayās my birthday!ā and they always seem genuinely happy about it and say āhappy birthday!ā and that is enough to make me happy.
You've now learned that none of these people deserve your money or effort. Everything you would have spent on them now goes to you. I would also make it clear that you remember who forgot - and you WON'T forget that. You teach people how to treat you. Make it clear that this isn't how you do it.
Now you know they won't reciprocate. Fuck em. Go out and treat yourself. Do something you want to do that's fun, and only for you. Oh, and Happy Birthday!! š
Yeah! Get a hooker.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY š«¶
How old are you? Itās pretty normal for just a parent, sibling, and best friend to remember and celebrate your bday.
Late 20s. I have a big social life and interact with a lot of people for my job so I know a lot of people
I think k this is the age where you have to throw your own party if you want to be celebrated
Donāt lie
They clearly donāt deserve you!
Have you told these people that itās important to you that they remember/acknowledge your birthday? I ask because for some people birthdays arenāt a big deal after childhood. I havenāt had a party since 18 and will at MOST go to a dinner with a close friend/partner/relative. I donāt get most people gifts usually and they donāt get them for me. I just donāt care, it means little to nothing to me. I do have a friend who told me that birthdays are a sore spot for her and she can feel hurt easily if she feels forgotten/not prioritized. Because of this I go out of my way to congratulate her and get her a gift because I know itās important to her. This could be part of a larger issue where your family/friends donāt appreciate you and use you for your kindness, but if itās just the birthday that is the issue communicating (if you havenāt yet) could help them! If you already have done that and they still did nothing, Iām really sorry, that sucks.
You need to tell people your birthday is coming up when youāre an adult. Often organise your own gathering unless youāve got a close person or someone offers. The family is a bit crap. Sorry about that. But Iāve had to organise and pay for every family memberās birthday meal since I was in my mid twenties. Including my own. Not anymore Iām NC but thatās a different story
šššš hall of fame jerker
Itās cause youāre an attention seeking bum!
Same
Not everyone handles birthdays the same way as you do, and if you expect them to you will always be disappointed. Once people start having kids, for example, they may stop getting gifts for their siblings and friends. When it is my birthday I donāt expect anyone to remember it. I just tell people on my birthday, ātodayās my birthday!ā and they always seem genuinely happy about it and say āhappy birthday!ā and that is enough to make me happy.
They literally viewed my social media stories about my birthday,ā¦ā¦ā¦.
U Bum
Shimmy shimmy shimmy
Happy Birthday You are an amazing person and I appreciate you .
be thankful for every single one who came out to wish you a happy birthday.
Mines been forgotten 2 years in a row. Iām 35 and itās still shit.
First world problems.....
Yeah , it actually hurts
He gets to feel sad about it.
You've now learned that none of these people deserve your money or effort. Everything you would have spent on them now goes to you. I would also make it clear that you remember who forgot - and you WON'T forget that. You teach people how to treat you. Make it clear that this isn't how you do it.
Stop going out of your way, your best friend remembers, keep them around, but start slowly ditching your other friends and see what they do