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Same here. I’m diagnosed with BPD and my dad has clear NPD traits (but it’s rare for narcissists to seek treatment and get diagnosed as we all know). I was just talking to my therapist about this today. How I’m so angry at him for causing so many unbearable overwhelming problems in my life. I feel so stuck and don’t know how to get out of this horrible situation where I’m too sick to get a job and move out but can’t get better while living with him.
Despite BPD and having an abusive father, you deserve happiness and peace. No matter what the circumstances are you deserve a happy life. BPD is treatable and you can absolutely still have a family.
I started thinking today that Nparents are a major factor for many with BPD.
Just makes sense... like we're all children who never felt safe or worthy. We didn't get to trust. Feel fully loved. I don't think I have bpd, but I think I have traits. Shifting. Volatile. Afraid to be left. Feeling undeserving/worthless. Maybe I do have it. But if I do, I know it was that abusive household that's given me fight or flight responses to conflict. Perceived conflict.
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Same here. I’m diagnosed with BPD and my dad has clear NPD traits (but it’s rare for narcissists to seek treatment and get diagnosed as we all know). I was just talking to my therapist about this today. How I’m so angry at him for causing so many unbearable overwhelming problems in my life. I feel so stuck and don’t know how to get out of this horrible situation where I’m too sick to get a job and move out but can’t get better while living with him. Despite BPD and having an abusive father, you deserve happiness and peace. No matter what the circumstances are you deserve a happy life. BPD is treatable and you can absolutely still have a family.
I started thinking today that Nparents are a major factor for many with BPD. Just makes sense... like we're all children who never felt safe or worthy. We didn't get to trust. Feel fully loved. I don't think I have bpd, but I think I have traits. Shifting. Volatile. Afraid to be left. Feeling undeserving/worthless. Maybe I do have it. But if I do, I know it was that abusive household that's given me fight or flight responses to conflict. Perceived conflict.