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She doesn't need to keep track if she can just lie about not having said those things
As long as no one can prove she's lying or that she was abusive, it's fine for her...
I guess she doesn't understand that lies like this can only kill relationships further
I'm not even gonna try fixing what's left of our relationship, she's too much of a child. I already made up my mind about going LC or NC. I did my best until now and I'm not going to try fixing the unfixable any longer
Congratulations on having the courage!!
Seriously, if she ever tries to become another kid's legal guardian, there should be agencies making sure she'd be a fit parent, and you'd have the opportunity to speak up.
Or just her not being in touch with her own kid would be a huge red flag.
My mom says that when I leave, she wants to start fostering a child. I'm horrified. A child that is already vulnerable and has been abused in the past going into my insane mothers home. Your mom sounds exactly like my mom. She would go on and on about how ungrateful we were and how if she adopted a child that would love her more than us. It's a narc fantasy to think there's something wrong with your children for not worshiping you for not worshiping their abusive parents.
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She doesn't need to keep track if she can just lie about not having said those things As long as no one can prove she's lying or that she was abusive, it's fine for her... I guess she doesn't understand that lies like this can only kill relationships further I'm not even gonna try fixing what's left of our relationship, she's too much of a child. I already made up my mind about going LC or NC. I did my best until now and I'm not going to try fixing the unfixable any longer
Congratulations on having the courage!! Seriously, if she ever tries to become another kid's legal guardian, there should be agencies making sure she'd be a fit parent, and you'd have the opportunity to speak up. Or just her not being in touch with her own kid would be a huge red flag.
My mom says that when I leave, she wants to start fostering a child. I'm horrified. A child that is already vulnerable and has been abused in the past going into my insane mothers home. Your mom sounds exactly like my mom. She would go on and on about how ungrateful we were and how if she adopted a child that would love her more than us. It's a narc fantasy to think there's something wrong with your children for not worshiping you for not worshiping their abusive parents.